The Problem with the Self-Love Movement
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- Опубліковано 30 чер 2024
- Spilling the tea (with my donut mug) on the self-love movement. Just kidding. There isn't really any tea. Just sharing why I don't necessarily agree that we should all put ourselves first, and why I don't think the answer to life is to "love yourself more."
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Verses this video was founded on:
-Luke 9:23-25
-1 Timothy 6:19
-1 John 4
-Mark 10
-Philippians 2:3
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Song in outro: Touch the Sky by Hillsong
You are so loved. Be so blessed in Jesus,
-Becca
Just for reference - I talk about mental health and people who genuinely hate themselves at 10:00 - please know I take mental health and people's struggles with that very seriously!!
I am always confuse about self-love thingy. Thanks for the video now i am clear now. Can you do a video for those who really always prioritize others and end up neglecting themselves and their own needs? More detailed advice for those who hate themselves?
I enjoyed your passion and perspectives...any thoughts about the idea of forgiving oneself? Is that concept even Biblical??😀
I cried cause you really touched a wound that I’ve been dealing with. Thank you so much for understanding and taking mental health seriously.
Yes I love myself as said because I can't do with you, who use as papet through others and speak wrong without evidence
“...the essence of gospel-humility is not thinking more of myself or thinking less of myself, it is thinking of myself less.”
― Timothy Keller, The Freedom of Self-Forgetfulness
I LOVE Timothy Keller! That’s a wonderful quote!!
I love this quote!
nice! I think he got this from C.S Lewis ;) he First said it
I like this perspective but it’s so important to empathize that there’s a healthy balance. You can’t pour from an empty cup. For a lot of people, we pour everything out to help other people while completely ignoring our own needs and mental health. I’ve gotten to the point of having full blown panic attacks at the expense of being there for others or doing something to make them happy. Taking care of yourself is okay. Loving yourself is okay. Putting your mental health in front of someone else’s wants is okay. You can’t give to others or be there for others if you never take care of yourself. Unfortunately, a lot of Christians take it too far and completely burn out because they’re not engaging in enough self care. Jesus said love your neighbor as yourself, which means taking care of others and yourself. Jesus went out by himself to take time to pray, which is self-care. Don’t feel guilty for taking care of yourself 💜
Mental health is SO important! I talk about this at 10:00. Always love hearing your thoughts girl
Totally agree!
Rebekah Johnson of course yes we should take time to heal ourselves [allowing God to heal us and receiving help from people], especially when dealing with mental illness or when we are going through hard times. healing is important and we shouldn’t just give give give without dealing with things.
But at the same time there is freedom in giving and helping people who are going through rough things, despite if we feel burnt out or not. We find freedom and joy when we lay ourselves down and set aside our feelings. Let’s do what for people what we want others to do for us, which is a part of becoming love and becoming more like Jesus!!
Mia Foster This is awesome Mia! I agree with you :)
Rebekah Johnson I really like your reference to Jesus saying “Love your neighbor as yourself” I agree there has to be a balance. We have to love ourselves because God says to and we are His Children. Crossing that line starts bringing us into pride & jealousy we don’t have what others have and by wanting it we are then coveting, also sin, So again balance is 🔑
I agree that we need to accept and love ourselves but I don’t believe that we should put ourself before others, we should love everyone just as we do ourselves.
Right! Self-hatred isn't okay either!
Idk in some situations I thinks it’s a good choice. My former relationship my boyfriend did not really like that I follow in Jesus because he’s Muslim so in that case I did choose myself first because I knew it was the right choice to do even though it was hard at the time. I do agree that people over do it though.
Aww girl but see in that you were putting God first and following Him! Loving someone doesn't always have to be a romantic relationship. It can be being kind to someone or many other things! I think you made the right choice for sure but ultimately you did that because you were loving GOD!
I disagree, check out my comment and see what you think.
There's a fine line between Self Love and Selfishness. We need to check our thoughts every moment.
“Hate is a distorted form of hurt” wowowoowowoow wowowoowowoow that is profound!
i hate life
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Pɪᴄᴄᴏʟᴏ life is so temporary. Heaven and hell are so eternal...
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Also-I don’t think being selfish is self love. Ultimately, it leads to so much pain! To me, at least, self love is 1) maintaining my faith, 2) spending time with loved ones, 3) not taking too much on in life, and 4) having the occasional treat or doing something special. I don’t think we should paint it with such a broad brush and make it sound like taking care of ourselves is selfish.
Thanks for making this video, like your insights!
That is WISDOM!
Thanks Becca! I love this series about things we say as Christians but really shouldn’t, keep it up❤️
THIS is exactly what I was thinking...I've never seen or heard anyone treat self love as selfishness. I've always seen self love as loving and accepting yourself and others as they are in an age of social media perfection.
I’ve always wondered what other Christians thought about the “self-love” movement, and where we believe that the power is within ourselves. But really, the power is within God. These videos are so amazing, and a lot of these concepts are lining up with things in my life. In my youth group we’ve been talking about God’s love, and how we love because God loved us first! Keep it up with the God-filled videos!❤️
There was no tea
I was clickbaited >:((
But honestly, self love is becoming self worship. It's messed up.
Self love IS self worship. It's not a real thing. Self *respect* is a real thing. Respect yourself, love others.
@@Emper0rH0rde YESS
I agree with you!! My pastor just recently told me that “self-love” before “god love” is totally not the right idea. Through God, He can show us how and why to love ourselves instead of the vain ideas the world may portray. 😊 -that is just the short answer
As long as you love yourself in context of God, it wont become selfish. For instance, instead of doing self love (basically a pat on the back) I do affirmations “I am loved by God” etc. those make me feel loved. Then I tell myself that Ive been made by God so He must want me here for a reason. Ive been suicidal over 12 times and Im a self harmer and have an eating disorder.
True healing ONLY COMES
THROUGH GOD. I am NOT capable of healing myself.
God bless. Subscribed.
You should do a video on the concept that "God helps those who help themselves"!
JRD YES!!
JRD yessss
That is contrary to what the Bible teaches.
@@avahbenjamin9985 100%! It's just far too common a mindset, would love to hear her opinion on it!
@@avahbenjamin9985 Benjamin Franklin is usually credited with the phrase "The Lord helps those who help themselves". Based on what we know about him,he probably said it between mouthfuls of French whore.
Mr. Franklin also said "Lighthouses are more useful than churches".
I feel like a lot of times “ self-love” can be more so arrogance than love for oneself. Self-care is good for health but selfishness is not, too much can destroy good character.
I’ve always viewed self love as a point where we reject the enemy’s lies about us such as “we’re ugly, we’re never good enough etc” but you’re right love truly does come from God. I thought loving oneself is recognizing your worth no? But I do believe there is a point where selfishness does come in the picture. Anyways great video.
CeCe 0 yes God makes us realize our worth through Christ! Loving yourself is also knowing that your identity comes from Christ!!
a good point!
I LOVE this message
FI👏NA👏LLY👏 someone is talking about this!! I have had terrible feelings about all this “self love” stuff for years but no one was saying anything about it so I kept my opinions mostly to myself. No Christians were stepping up and saying how messed up this movement is, so I didn’t know what to do. I didn’t agree, of course, but I didn’t know if it was wrong for me to disagree. Thank you so much for plainly stating what is wrong with all this “self love” stuff and how we as Christians should view it. God bless you!! 💕
I hate when people say you have to love yourself before you can love others. It doesn't make sense in my mind.
This was a very interesting and insightful topic. It’s easy to misinterpret the verse “love others as you love yourself” as it can be perceived as requiring us to have love for ourself first but you’ve taught me so much. Thank you ❤️
Reminds me of the verse “For whosoever will save his life shall lose it: and whosoever will lose his life for my sake shall find it.”Matthew 16:25
Loved this video!! True satisfaction doesn’t lie in selfishness. When we know our identity as children of God and His love for us,we will desire to focus more on others, helping them feel the great love we have felt from God.
Great video! I'm really glad you talked about this! I really like watching your videos I always feel like I learned a lot and it leaves me feeling uplifted! Keep up the great work! I don't know what I would do without your videos
So incredibly true! God's love is all we need to have fullness of joy and we can't do that for ourselves. Only He can fill that void. It's so hard for me to see the brokenness everywhere in my friends and in my school. So many people need to hear this! Thank you so much for putting these messages out there. You're a blessing!
AMEN.
Thank you Becca. I really needed this because I was falling into this mentality a bit but I did feel like it was wrong deep down. Thanks for being that friend that isn't too scared to correct. Love you so much girl ❤❤❤❤
P.s. there are people who are hurt and depressed and they really do need to discover how loved they are in Christ, and they may be on their own journey in that. (Not saying it's ok to only be taking care of yourself, but we don't always know someone's mentality and it's best to comfort someone like that in that situation - who's depressed or going through anything painful).
Anyways God bless 💕
I agree totally with this girl!!
I’ve never looked at it like that before! I’ve always heard people say things like “you are enough” isn’t real self-love because we aren’t enough, and only God can satisfy us. I haven’t taken the time to think about how some of us are already too selfish.
Wow! Literally started watching this channel this time last year. Thanks so much for everything you're doing!
This exact thing has been on my heart so much recently!! Never seen someone do a video on this- thank you! Please keep it up
I understand where you are coming from. I don’t think you should be selfish. I do believe you need to learn to love yourself before you can truly love others otherwise you will eventually drain yourself. I have experienced this and my mother has as well. I put others first for so long that it messed with me. So I think it is important to be kind and loving to others while focusing on your growth. I definitely agree that learning to love yourself looks like going to God, counseling, etc. you do have to confront it and continue to work towards it. I am working on that now. It’s a journey. I think part of the self love movement isn’t coming from a Godly place but a place of showing others what you are doing which may be a form of getting approval or attention. That isn’t a healthy “self love”. It is artificial. But that almost always comes with social media. If that make sense that may have been jibberish. haha love your videos though. I love that you’re not afraid to put your opinion out there. You always give me something to think about.
I’ve always struggled with my own self-esteem, and then how to look at myself in a different (Christian) light-because these little phrases always fell short to me; they were too shallow. And I didn’t realize I was still doing this until one of my church groups recently brought up the topic of self esteem and worth. It was so pivotal because they pointed out, We’re not worthy. That’s quite exactly the point. Christ died and WE WERE UNWORTHY. And there is so much in popular culture and even Christian songs that gets that at least a little wrong. Our group leader mentioned a Keith & Kristen Getty song that says, “Two wonders here that I confess: my worth and my unworthiness. My value fixed, my ransom paid at the cross.” And the point was that we have always been unworthy, and we don’t love ourselves but we love who we are in Christ. And I think in the grand scheme of things, loving ourselves in Christ must be accomplished before we can love others in Christ well bc without it we are ingenuine. But I completely agree with you on this movement that has come about and I’m thankful that you spoke about it to begin a conversation!
I have borderline personality disorder and bipolar Disorder and ever since I was 8 I have hated myself and thought I was supposed to be dead it wasn’t until I stopped focusing on myself and instead focused on others that I finally became okay with myself.
When I first saw the title of this video I was so excited to watch it!!! I think this was something alot of people (including myself) needed to hear Thx so much!
Thank you, I really needed to hear this. Keep praying and keep up the good work.
Thanks for posting this! It's so refreshing to hear this!
Thanks for covering this topic. I had never thought about it until now
This message is so amazing and just what the world needs to hear. Thank you so much for this video! “True joy is in self denial and in losing yourself”👏🏼👏🏼
Great video! Thanks for sharing your thoughts on the truth!
Amen amen ❤. This popular belief of "love yourself first" never resonated with me, it always left me feeling chaotic and empty. I had not been able to pinpoint why I felt that way about it and was praying about it the other day, and you made this video! Wow, praise God. I TOTALLY agree with everything you've shared. Such a profound and crucial topic, keep it up. God bless
Thank you so much!!!💕PTL!
I have been waiting for some one to do a video on this. AMEN TO EVERYTHING YOU SAID! you are truly rooted in Gods truth. So encouraging to see people of my age be so grounded and cold in their faith ❤
Yes! You spoke so much truth here. God bless you.
Amen girl! yess always giving amazing advice and bringing up good points ! God bless you!💓
POWERFUL! Never stop making videos. So many great topics like this for you to cover.
Thank you so much!!
Awesome video, you are able to articulate the problem with this trend better than I can but it's exactly what I've been thinking.
PREACH GIRL!! This has been on my heart for a while too
So true! I’ve seen this trend and had these same thoughts for a long time. Thank you for for making this video and speaking truth 🙌🏻
Thank you for this video!!! Because this is so so talked about even in the church and my friends, and I thought I was crazy for not agreeing.
Thanks sis!
I literally was just thinking about this the other day. I've struggled with a lot of anxiety and depression, and something I kept hearing was to take care of myself. I can't move on until I feel happy... I realized my joy can come from helping others! The more I serve and focus on loving others, the more I have come to appreciate who God made me to be. Thank you for the video!
I admire your boldness in speaking about topics like this. God bless you always. 💚
Love love love you and your videos! 💕
You should make a podcast in the future! I feel like you can talk and talk and talk on things that spark passion for you and ahhh it’s so good to listen to! Your messages are so touching and uplifting.
I love talking haha😂💕I would love to make a podcast one day!!
AMAZING VID 💗🙌🏽
First quote: I agree with you because you won’t be fully by yourself in life and if so it’s practically not healthy for your well-being. Humans are social creatures, some more than others, and we need interactions in order to survive.
Second quote: At first I disagreed with you a bit but now I see what you’re saying. People who have confidence issues or even mental issues have a hard time loving themselves. I’ve had bad self esteem issues and I know what it’s like, but every time I was dealing with something that hurt me I wanted to seek help from someone.
I don’t know if it’s just me because I’m a naturally helpful and humble person, putting others before myself, but I interpret self love and care as taking care of my mental, physical, emotional, and even spiritual health. Sometimes when I’m overwhelmed I want to take a step back from the hustle and bustle and focus on the most important things in life. That’s why I’m taking a gap year because college was really stressful and overwhelmed me. So right now I’m refocusing on myself and what I love to do: getting back to my hobbies, growing in my relationship with God, venturing out to the world at my own pace, making new friends, and spending time with family.
Maybe I’m taking a more Christian-like approach when it comes to self love and care but this is how I see it 🤷🏽♀️
I love your videos so much! I always look forward to your videos! You are a great role model!
Becca, you did an amazing job with this video. You spoke on this so beautifully. You are definitely a light in this dark world. Keep sharing! This was a very good video. I love and agree with everything you said. God bless you sweet sister. 💗💗🙏
I love everything you stand for. God is truly using you Becca. ❤️
I have been having rough evening and I was excited when I saw you had posted!
Aww girl I'm sorry to hear that!!
I really like your overall message, and for the most part I’d agree. I would like to maybe clarify your thoughts on people taking time occasionally for self-care, but more as a way to then be able to serve others. Basically, taking time occasionally to recharge our energy to then be able to give someone everything we can. I personally don’t like the idea of using self-care as an excuse to not serve others. But I do think the once in a while time to process things will allow me the ability to better serve others.
Amen sister! So good! The fastest way to depression is to focus on ourselves. Loved!🥰
I'm so glad you made this video. The self love concept has just always felt wrong to me.
Thanks for your wise insight Becca! Keep on listening to what God puts on your heart and making these videos! :)
Thank you so much, Becca! I've been trying to "make" myself feel better a lot lately after miscellaneous tough things happen in life, but no amount of Netflix or sweet foods ever really sticks. But I know that Jesus has a way of filling us with joy and peace when we stop leaning on ourselves so much. Thanks for the reminder!
You inspire me so much! Thank you for this video
Amen Becca! Thank you for sharing the truth 🙏🏿💖
I’ve been seeing some problems here are there about this topic too!! Thanks Becca!! ☺️☺️
Thank you for acknowledging the importance of this movement for people dealing with severe mental health issues. I'm one of them, and this self love/self care movement really encourages me to actually take care of myself. And the Word does too! That being said, i can see how people can twist the purpose of this movement. So much joy and healing comes from putting others first and being a helping hand as well♡
I love this so much! Thank you!!
Thank you for all of your inspiration! God speaks through you so well, and so relatable!
Yes Becca! Your on fire , keep it up. 💛
I just found this channel, and it is so wholesome and down to Earth.
I think there's a difference between the self love you're describing and self care, self acceptance and self respect. I think the self love movement isn't necessarily bad (it's just sometimes interpreted wrongly) because I don't think it was originally about being selfish. I do think it's incomplete because when people try to do self love without involving God it goes wrong and does become selfish. I think people in certain situations do have to be told to value themselves more (people in abusive relationships, people who over work themselves, people who self harm) and to me that's who the 'self love' movement is about - no I agree it's not about middle class people having more bubble baths. Also the reason for self love, as I understand it, is in order to love others. For example a person who is in an abusive relationship isn't able to show love to others in the same way as if they weren't in that relationship because they being emotionally damaged. They don't have the emotional capacity to show love to others because their energies are going on surviving in the relationship they're in. Another example could be if a person is working all the hours under the sun and neglecting their own health. They would need reminding to care for themselves. The quotes that you read out from the Bible were warning against being prideful and doing things only for your own gain. This, to me, is different to self care.
I think I came across one of your Bible-journaling videos recently? And then this showed up in my feed. You've got yourself a subscriber. Thanks for your work for the King!
Awesome video! I really appreciate your insight!
To me "loving yourself first" is actually not a matter of "selfishness." For me and many people I know it's a statement that unless you are confident in who God created you to be & you fully love who you are it is hard to selflessly love others without having another agenda. If you aren't taking care and loving your own self you will search for validation in others and constantly be feeding off attention from others. Your self esteem will be based on other's opinions and love for you. For me it's always been a statement that it's my job to know that God loves me and to confidently believe I have been chosen and created by him. I have to do this first because otherwise my intention for loving others can be skewed. "Selflessness" can become driven by selfishness when you are doing it because deep down you don't like yourself and are doing it to make yourself feel good. Self love for me is recognizing God's love for me and aligning my self view with how He views me BEFORE I interact with others so I can be confident, not think so much about myself, and fully invest in others. My love for myself must come first or else I cannot love others without subconsciously needing validation and attention. Just a different perspective!
I fully agree!
Ooh I love this! When I saw the title I was a bit skeptical because I was afraid you were going to completely attack the movement and disregard the people who need more self care but you didn’t.
Thank you so much for acknowledging how mental illnesses and traumatic experiences contribute to self-hatred and for giving valuable advice to those who struggle in those areas.
I’m all for learning to take care of your hygiene, watching what you put into your body, doing something for yourself that will actually benefit your health and keep you from feeling ill. This is especially hard for people who might struggle with depression, or anxiety or even exhaustion and burnout. Sometimes you need to take little steps like this to be a functioning person. If you ignore your health, then it’s going to be extremely difficult to carry out God’s plan for your life. You might find yourself stepping down from missions because traveling might be a danger to your health, or you might not be able to serve at your church even because you would easily faint from the heat, or you might not be able to give generously because you have to pay medical bills. That’s not a great place to be. But again, practicing self care is very beneficial and life-enhancing but in itself, it does not heal us.
It always rubbed me the wrong way when people say that you need to love yourself before you can love others. For some people (like myself), we would never be able to love another person if we followed that advice. It’s the same as when people say you need to be confident in yourself before you can start dating. Like hunny, if that’s the case then I guess I’m going to be alone for good! The beautiful thing is that you can love someone and they can love you and through the love you share, you learn to accept yourself. It’s like our relationship with God. I think his love for us and the fact that he has made us righteous and worthy of salvation affects our view of ourselves. And honestly, caring for yourself and caring for others is not mutually exclusive. Some say you have to love yourself before others, but can’t you do both at the same time? How is loving another person a detriment to your self image? I
"LOVE your neighbor AS YOU LOVE YOURSELF"....
THANK YOU!!!😆
Agreeing with the KING the passage assumes we already love ourselves and we do
@FarAwayDistance What about Matthew 22:39 "And a second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself"? I thought that "self-love" infiltrating the church was simply the church realizing that giving in to an overworking and under-loving culture/society is wrong. I thought it was more like remembering to take care of yourself instead of sacrificing your personal health and well being to complete something or empty what is left of yourself into someone else. I saw it as promoting balance. I did not see it as an extreme way to put myself first. I saw it as a reminder that I am also a person who needs to love myself the way I want to love others: abundantly well. I was missing this verse and that reminder of balance in the video. Who knows I may have missed it. I love and respect you and I hope that you continue with these videos on harder topics, life updates, and real talks. I am a fan of the way you choose to love. Keep loving well and answer back if you can.
Godspeed, Kayla
Thank you so much for this video!! Such important words for this generation!
Thank you so much for discussing this topic!! Everything you said was so well articulated, and a good
reminder for us all. I especially loved the end, when you talked about where true joy comes from-it made me think of John Piper, and his ‘Christian hedonism’ ideas...anyways, as always, I loved and really appreciated your video :) Thanks becca!
10:00 really touched me. Thank you for understanding 🤍
Love this video!!! Got me wondering about the second commandment love your neighbor as yourself.
i love you❤️this video is full of wisdom.
I definitely saw it this way for many years, and a lot of people take this too far, and justify selfish actions under "self-care"
But i found myself in a situation where i found myself starting to treat others and think about other very negatively. Even people who really loved me, I didn't want their love.
And one day i sat down and asked myself "why do i act this way?"
I wasnt happy with myself. I definitely did not like a single thing about myself and i had no use or function in life. I spent my days poring over school work and when i wasnt doing that i was laying around depressed.
I didnt see a purpose or use of myself. I definitely hated who i was.
And i didnt want others to love me or see me at all. I think people need to definitely feel some sort of confidence in who they are, and feel worthy- So they can love others well. And how you do that, im not sure but it definitely invoves focusing on yourself for a while and not just other responsibilities
okay so the bible says love your neighbour as you love yourself. the question is how can you give out much of yourself when you have none to give out? should you criticise others as you do to yourself? of course not but sometimes we tend to treat others better than we treat ourselves and thats wrong too. the bible says love others AS you love yourself, its supposed to be a balance. on another point, i have social anxiety and i know how much exhausting and draining it can be for me to go out with friends or get involved. in situations as such, i take time off for myself doing the things i love as a sense of recharge. but i do agree with you that love isnt something we can just dig up, we have to ask God to constantly fill us with his love and give us the strength to be there for others even when we dont feel like it. i hope this didnt sound like some kind attack on you or the video. you talking about this is amazing and i feel like i got to see self love from a different perspective. thanks becca x
🎉🎉🎉 hooray thanks for making this!
Ok, but self care and selfishness are not the same thing. I agree with you that we shouldn’t put ourselves before others, but you just CANNOT always be giving and giving and giving by loving others if you don’t REST and rest in God’s love and take care of yourself. Also “fight or flight” is a physiological response where adrenaline kicks in and you either decide to run away or fight it.
Hello 👋 My Name is Tonya I subscribed to you about a month ago. Along the way somewhere I had gotten interested in meditations & finding your higher self and Vision boards and the whole self love movement. As a Christian I started to feel a conviction like this was maybe prideful and selfishness! I had made a video on making a vision board but now I tore it down my vision board and threw it out in the dumpster!! I cannot believe how easily Satan had deceived me with this by putting spirituality on the title! It showed me to never get comfortable but to always keep our guard up against Satan and his demons!! Thank you for making this video (I believe it was partly just for me-Thank you God for answering my questions) Please heed her advice people.
people are living in this entrepreneurship age. We set goals financially and socially. We hope to have the best in our business and our social relationships. what i see are people constantly pushing themselves to a new level in their social relationships, this could be trying to hang out with new people who you dont identify with or aint comfortable with. the problem they run into is rejection or constantly trying to fit in with in a group. people get to a stage where they feel they are being used or not getting the same effort/ or 'love' they are giving. So they claim that people aren't honest with them or true. and all the energy they have been investing in other people they should invest in themselves hence 'self' love. **** i agree with video self love is such a deceiving concept because it makes people compete with each other. this proclaimed 'self love' is not someone really being happy with themselves but its seems (well to me) that someone is try to prove a point that they dont need anyone to make them happy. people will tend exaggerate that notion by showing off how good their life is and showing people that they are doing well in life
HUGE PROPS TO YOU FOR MAKING THIS VIDEO! I totally agree that we don't need to love ourselves more, but try to love God more, and in doing so we will treat ourselves and others as we ought to, not as we feel. We base too many things on feelings, and that kills people. True love definitely comes from God!
You freaking rock!!!
That's good teaching!
What an amazing video!!
I don't think we need to put ourselves first 100% of the time, but we do need to take care of ourselves. I think it needs to be a balance.
If we love others first, then we will like ourselves. We don't need to love our self, that teeters on pridefulness & arrogance. Remember who fell because of pride.
i ususally don’t comment on videos but i just loved this video God really spoke through you and encouraged me to love Him and others deeper!! so thankful for your videos!
Thank you for this video, it was so helpful for me 😊 Love from France ❤🇫🇷
Thanks for your scripture faithfulness sister. Stay with it.
This is Truth🙌🏼🔥🔥🔥
THANK YOU! 💗
Such a great video. I'm a new subscriber from New Zealand. Love your videos.
Thank you! Love you too!!
preach Becca!!!
Perhaps my perspective comes from age and experience. I was married to a Christian for 30 years. We recently divorced. I felt like I didn't know who or what I was. Over time I realised that I had been under the subtle, insidious influence of someone who had gaslighted and shamed me. A lot of times when I had wanted to do something that pleased me I would be reminded that I should put others before me. What ended up happening was the person that God wanted me to be got sublimated to what someone else thought I should be. The desire on my part to be like Jesus and giving and supportive of my family was exploited.
I had to learn again who God wanted me to be. That some of those desires were designed into me by my creator and they are good. I had to learn to love myself enough to give myself permission to pursue them. Those quotes really strike a chord with me. Yes self-love can be taken in completely the wrong way and used to justify anything. But it is necessary for a healthy mind.
You just completely destroyed the self-love movement. Epic 😁
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