'Healing' Isn't Straight Forward: The Reality of Generational Trauma, Fear, & Battling Cycles

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  • Healing isn't easy. From dealing with generational trauma to the pain we caused ourselves, it seems like the girls are in a season of trying to overcome old wounds that have penetrated deep below the surface. How do we move on in a meaningful way that is authentic and holistic? Prepared for an intense chat on today's episode of TMS!
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    00:00 Welcome to the conversation!
    01:15 What happened to the visuals 👀
    09:25 The tea on our trip to South Africa 🇿🇦
    22:00 Thank you for supporting our paperback 📚💌
    22:48 Some encouragement for the girlies looking to start something new ✨
    24:49 🇺🇸 We're heading to New York City!!!
    26:52 Ding ding dilemma: My partner and I have a very different approach to finances...
    38:24 The non-linear nature of healing is frustrating!
    52:29 Learning to be patient and compassionate towards yourself
    56:52 Reframing how we think about generational trauma
    01:07:07 Cycles are the biggest cause of delay
    01:11:52 Breaking generational curses one generation at a time
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 59

  • @WatchContrary
    @WatchContrary 4 місяці тому +25

    "100% does not look the same every day." A word! 👏

  • @shekinah4651
    @shekinah4651 4 місяці тому +31

    The visuals are back 😆 Courtney your hair is gorgeous!! Edit: I appreciate you putting out all that content in bulk! I really enjoyed it and got amazing insights out of your content even with just the audio :) don’t beat yourselves up too much about the corrupted files!

    • @tomysisters
      @tomysisters  4 місяці тому +1

      Thank you! We need the encouragement 🥹❤️

  • @adepa_00
    @adepa_00 4 місяці тому +5

    This is was so on time! When they say God shows up in perfectly orchestrated aspects of your life, it's so true. Just last week I had two breakdowns, crying because I was asking myself why healing and therapy have to be so hard at times. When I think that I have settled an aspect on which I was healing on, something else comes up, a new version of me is unveiled and more work is required. Healing is not pretty, it can be very hard at times and have you dwelling if you will be able to make it. Thank you for this episode, really encouraging. ❤

  • @alo9_
    @alo9_ 4 місяці тому +13

    Courtney your hair is so beautiful ❤

  • @temabhele
    @temabhele 4 місяці тому +6

    "Sometimes it's as simple as running"❤. I needed this episode.
    Also, that airport and wig situation definitely needed the visuals back😂😂

    • @tomysisters
      @tomysisters  4 місяці тому +2

      You’re welcome! Ahhhh sis, the violation was real 😩😩

  • @tebellomalefane.
    @tebellomalefane. 4 місяці тому +2

    The fact that y'all came and I am in Durban SA and couldn't come to Joburg still hurts😢😢😢 especially when I hear you guys talking like this about the whole experience. Come back please to at least 3 provinces❤❤❤

  • @Dee___..
    @Dee___.. 4 місяці тому +7

    The visuals are back. Yayyyyyyyyy🥰😍 Fine Fine Girliessssss❤❤ The face card💯💯

  • @bryannamoffitt3092
    @bryannamoffitt3092 4 місяці тому +6

    Wow wow wow. I needed this episode. Courtney when you brought up the book of Exodus you preached do you hear me?! Both of you have so much wisdom and I’ve said it before and will say it again, this is one of my favorite podcasts. I am truly grateful that I stumbled across you ladies❤

  • @fdoctor79
    @fdoctor79 4 місяці тому +2

    I can relate that certain people can trigger me and I choose to limit my interaction with them as I continue to heal. Forgiveness does not mean reconciliation for the sake of my peace and sanity. Tfs ladies

  • @Denise_Cocoa
    @Denise_Cocoa 4 місяці тому +2

    Courtney, babe! I’ve been meaning to comment this for a while - do you plan on posting vlogs and GRWM videos on your personal channel? Appreciate you both 💛

  • @KINGDOMDAUGHTER
    @KINGDOMDAUGHTER 4 місяці тому +4

    Pleasant good morning ladies.

  • @allthingswamuyu
    @allthingswamuyu 3 місяці тому +1

    Hey sisters 🤗. Hey Courtney and Renee, y'all are looking lovely 😍. I have so much to say after listening to the episode.
    1. Im so glad that i clicked on this the moment I saw it cause it has given me some level of reassurance. I am working on healing and breaking generational traumas at the same time(its alot 😭) but listening to your episode i now have a clear sense of how i should go about things.
    2. I'm already starting to put away my coins 💅🏾, and join the girlies who are pressing you to come to Nairobi cause gworllll😂😂.

  • @jenniferavila2703
    @jenniferavila2703 4 місяці тому +1

    YOU'RE DOING GREAT!!!! Grateful for our trip to South Africa! Grateful to have met you both. Im going to try commenting more!

  • @boulatekwamboka7011
    @boulatekwamboka7011 4 місяці тому +8

    Come to Kenya!!!

    • @tomysisters
      @tomysisters  4 місяці тому +1

      We are working on it 😩🥰

  • @opotaliciah
    @opotaliciah 3 місяці тому +1

    Sisters. Karibuni Kenya!!!!

  • @SummerTyme2023
    @SummerTyme2023 4 місяці тому +1

    😱 Screaming. I fed up of being on a healing journey😢. This conversation came just on time.
    Sitting in a car eating maryland cookies 🍪.
    Question: How do I keep the momentum and motivation to continue on my healing journey? P

  • @KINGDOMDAUGHTER
    @KINGDOMDAUGHTER 4 місяці тому +6

    Next trip should go to the Caribbean Islands, which one, lets take a vote. What say you both?

    • @tomysisters
      @tomysisters  4 місяці тому

      Love this suggestion! Well put it out to the rest of the sisters 👀

  • @Faith-sr8zw
    @Faith-sr8zw 4 місяці тому +1

    It’s fine girls!! It’s a PODCAST so it’s not the end of the world

    • @Faith-sr8zw
      @Faith-sr8zw 4 місяці тому

      And the visuals would obviously come back

  • @shannonhill6938
    @shannonhill6938 3 місяці тому

    Listened on Spotify but knew I had to come to UA-cam to see the visuals for tech time, France airport adventures and the hyena story time 🤣🤣🤣

  • @lizzysaunders3014
    @lizzysaunders3014 4 місяці тому

    Happy to see you both back!
    Thank you for posting the previous videos despite the technical difficulties. I appreciated listening to them a lot, and would not have accessed your content on other platforms otherwise. so thanks! and keep it up girls!

  • @tosino5320
    @tosino5320 4 місяці тому +1

    Thank you so much ladies. This episode was so needed ❤

  • @RianneF92
    @RianneF92 4 місяці тому

    Thank you, ladies. As always, we appreciate your content, time, intentionality, and effort. As you both reinforced, you are absolutely allowed to give yourselves grace in periods where you require it. Stay blessed ❤

  • @thandokajobe
    @thandokajobe 4 місяці тому

    THE VISUALS! Thank you! ❤🥹

  • @chocolina99
    @chocolina99 4 місяці тому

    I hope we get TMS x Dr.K episode on this topic one day! Great episode

  • @enyoM
    @enyoM 2 місяці тому

    Hey ladies ❤ I love your podcast so much. Is it possible for one to be part of the SA group chat even though they didn’t attend the live show? I’d really love to be part of the TMS SA community 🤍

  • @Gigilovehugs
    @Gigilovehugs 4 місяці тому

    Thanks for posting I needed to hear this

  • @Alex_Tribe
    @Alex_Tribe 3 місяці тому

    Aww ...this is becoming one of my fave podcasts...you girls are awesome. Keep doing you ❤🙏🏾

  • @martinen4017
    @martinen4017 4 місяці тому +1

    So sorry for the experience at CDG Airport, French sisters are welcoming tho 💗 big love from Paris

  • @creatively_abi
    @creatively_abi 4 місяці тому +1

    Really needed this episode, thank you❤

  • @Seraphina1618
    @Seraphina1618 4 місяці тому +2

    Come to Canada!!!🩷🩷🩷

  • @chinonsoangel7154
    @chinonsoangel7154 4 місяці тому +1

    Hello ladies,welcome back Renée and Courtney looking gorgeous as always ❤❤

    • @tomysisters
      @tomysisters  4 місяці тому

      So kind of you! Thank you 🥹❤️

  • @noxible
    @noxible 4 місяці тому

    I'm so used to listening on Spotify. Love seeing your beautiful faces ❤❤

  • @thandokajobe
    @thandokajobe 4 місяці тому +1

    Where are my wheels?😭 How dare you AirFrance!! 😭

  • @zamakhat7602
    @zamakhat7602 4 місяці тому

    This once again was a great listen. As far as topics I haven't heard before but are conversations that need to be had I would suggest an episode that focuses on girlhood I swear nobody ever talks about that awkward phase when you're over being a teenager but you're not ready to be an adult you're just trying to find your place in the world, even when people do decide to have those talks it's about superficial things that don't actually matter. A while back you guys did an episode that focused on the lessons you've learned about love, what are some tips that you guys can share with the younger side of your audience about girlhood, growing and glowing up💗

  • @Kierakirsty
    @Kierakirsty 4 місяці тому

    As soon as you said Charles de Gaulle I KNEW chaos was behind. NOTHING good happens there, I take the Thalys or Eurostar to avoid that airport.

  • @virtuouzgirl8328
    @virtuouzgirl8328 4 місяці тому +1

    Love this episode, not sure if you guys have heard of scapegoating but would love to hear your take on this along the lines of family dynamics.

  • @gatiesgarment
    @gatiesgarment 4 місяці тому +1

    Come to Kenya🇰🇪

  • @Nonamebae14
    @Nonamebae14 4 місяці тому +2

    Hey, when you say that you can be active by being still, could you please elaborate?

  • @book.with.precious
    @book.with.precious 4 місяці тому

    I am so Jealous of the way they spoke so well about South Africa

  • @book.with.precious
    @book.with.precious 4 місяці тому

    Nigeria!!!!

  • @lizzysaunders3014
    @lizzysaunders3014 4 місяці тому +1

    so sorry about the airport experience. thats not right

  • @estheroppong3794
    @estheroppong3794 4 місяці тому +1

    TMS USA tour??👀

  • @thandokajobe
    @thandokajobe 4 місяці тому

    What an offensive sent 😭 no they're vile!

  • @rianekscecilia4259
    @rianekscecilia4259 4 місяці тому

    Not gonna lie, travelling through France is just annoying. I had a similar violating experience.

    • @tomysisters
      @tomysisters  4 місяці тому

      The HEIGHT of disrespect! Sorry you went though trials with them too 😭

  • @BUY_YOUTUB_VIEWS_e0e108
    @BUY_YOUTUB_VIEWS_e0e108 4 місяці тому +2

    The music industry is robbing us of true talent.

  • @ninaasasira5631
    @ninaasasira5631 3 місяці тому

    Come to Uganda 🥹🥹🥹🇺🇬🇺🇬🇺🇬

  • @allthingsmihlali
    @allthingsmihlali 4 місяці тому +3

    This episode came at a very critical time of my life ❤️‍🩹. Thank you ladies

    • @tomysisters
      @tomysisters  4 місяці тому

      You’re so welcome 🥰❤️

  • @fltimaiz
    @fltimaiz 4 місяці тому

    sisters please come to Chicago 🫶🏾 25:54