Ladies, just a reminder, it's okay to voice your concerns. I understand not wanting to be a nag, but please don't push down your concerns, opinions or grievances. Please don't demonize your emotions, including anger. You are worthy to be heard. Marriage is a partnership at the end of the day.
a wife should bring up issues humbly and softly, unless the husband is asking her to break the word of God, she must remember to honour her husband like as unto Jesus
Yes! She’s saying don’t use it as a way to “punish” each other like her example of her husband not taking the trash out and then her withholding. You do not always have to say yes but only saying no because of petty stuff causes resentment towards each other basically
Your comment is against God. Ofc post partum moms should be an exception amongst others like milena mentioned... the verse Milena shared clearly states both husband and wife must abstain together so the devil does not tempt y'all. Don't go against God's word. Therefore submit to God, resist the devil, and he will flee from you. Don't let your disobedience leave an opening to the enemy. The enemy only wants to steal, kill and destroy
Hey sis! I was led by God to comment on this video. I have followed you for not too long but love your content and today's content really edified my faith life. When you spoke about your past failures as a godly wife (not doing husbands laundry, denying sex, being unkind) bcz of your feelings or mood, I sort of told myself, well I wouldn't do that, duh. I know better. I've read all the right books on marriage, heard all the right sermons & podcasts, followed the right influencers on insta, I'm 2 steps ahead, of course I'm gonna treat my man right... But then the Lord gently convicted me. My relationship with God has been strained lately because of my feelings and mood. Feelings of exhaustion, unanswered prayer or the like have quenched my fire for God. I haven't felt motivated lately and it has manifested in how I treat him. I haven't read the word in days, haven't praised him in days, I do pray everyday (due to my commitment to show up in the secret place) but besides that, I have denied him that sweet intimacy, those giggles I share with him, how I bear my soul naked before him, because lately I've felt like he doesn't care (I know he does) but when the answer is slow in coming, your feelings and emotions get the worst out of you. I was greatly convicted. And the Lord asked me, if your mood & feelings have greatly affected your devotion to me, ur prayer life, our intimacy, what makes you think you'll treat your husband any better than you treat me? What makes you think you got it? I'm a perfect God and ur husband will be an imperfect flawed human, what makes you think you're going to submit to him willingly when you almost drag yourself to the prayer closet? You're not going to love & honour him any better than you do me. Come here & let's reason this. And sis, I thanked God for you and using your content to convict me in a way only he could. You probably didn't know how your video would impact the people, but God used it in a specific way to show me my error in my relationship with him. I'm not yet married, but definitely much to glean from this. God bless you & continue to use you as his vessel.
Hey girl. I want to thank you for sharing that. This comparison blows my mind and really humbled me in the best way. Be blessed and keep sharing, your thoughts were so encouraging to me. Be blessed✨
My marriage has crumbled since having my son 2 years ago. I’m pregnant again and terrified. We argue constantly. I’m bitter, burnt out and there really is no joy in my heart. I know I need the lord to help because I can’t turn my life around on my own…. I just feel so intimidated and lost on where to even start in the Bible. I’m on survival mode but man I wish life could be joyful and fruitful. Just so discouraged. Any prayers would be greatly appreciated
What helps me is to set a 10 minute timer, put my phone down, and just pick either the New Testament or old testament to start. Read until the timer goes off and then repeat daily!! And if you’re looking something to help marriage wise the love dare might be a good place to start with healing your side of the marriage. I hope this helps. I’ll be praying for you
Praying for you sister 😭❤️🙏🏼 Father, You alone know every detail and pain and desire of my sister, and I pray that You break down every wall of hostility between her and her husband. I pray you merry every need according to Your riches in glory through Christ Jesus and give my sister just the next thing to do practically. Help her apply Your Word that love keeps no record of wrongs in 1 Corinthians 13! Please bring sisters of Christ around her as a shield and keep her lips from grumbling or complaining or gossiping but also still being able to ask for prayer and help and receiving love. Holy Spirit, gift her with peace and patience and love in her heart to receive Your grace and give it in return where it feels it isn't deserved. I pray this and more in Jesus ' name! Amen 💖💖💖
My heart goes out to you, dear friend! Oh Lord, I thank you for my sister in Christ who is in this season of burnout, dissension and fear. I pray against any attacks of the enemy that are coming against her and her husband's unity. Lord I ask that you would surround her with your peace and that you would help her to find rest in her current situation. Help her to get out of survival mode and find newfound joy through the pain of conflict with her husband. I ask that you would build her up as your sweet Daughter. I ask that you would strengthen their bond through this season and that you would make their marriage more fruitful than ever. Let your Holy Spirit rest in their home and give them a renewed desire to seek out your presence. I am continuing to pray for you, your marriage, and your family!!
I can relate to this feeling! Finding an older woman to disciple me and encourage me was life changing in our marriage. We’ve also been married two years, and what turned our marriage around was reading the Bible every day, praying, and confessing our sins to eachother frequently ❤
I think sex should only happen when both people 100% want to and are enthusiastic about it. I could not imagine ever having sex with someone who also doesn’t 100% want it. THEY should want it too. I wouldn’t want someone to have sex with me just to please me. That would be a huge turn off for me and definitely cross a line. I don’t think it would be enjoyable for either people. I think it could slowly build resentment and you could start to view sex as a chore. Yes, him not taking the trash out seems like a silly reason to decline sex but if it truly made you angry and not want to have sex with your husband, then you probably shouldn’t because it wouldn’t be enjoyable for you and probably not enjoyable for him either.
In many couple's cases then, sex would hardly ever happen! Spouses should sacrifice to love the other in that intimate way, even if one doesn't 100% feel like it. Maybe if you're both super high drive the ideal you laid out works.
Yes!!! Because maybe you need to TALK first about what made you angry or why you don’t feel like having sex. And maybe the talking brings you closer together than sex in that moment.
@@ayla8345I totally agree with you but I think in this context, it might be more about not using sex as a bargaining chip :o like if you do this, we can have sex, if you don't do this, we don't. Like that's also taking away from what intimacy can be. Does that makes sense? But 100% if not taking out the trash is the cherry on the cake of disrespectful behavior from your spouse, it's still a good reason
I totally understand where you’re coming from, I used to think the same thing. I’m not saying that’s wrong or not and I think having sex when you’re both 100% all in is beautiful. Unfortunately, if this were the case for me and my husband, we would barely be intimate. What I would recommend for everyone is to talk about it with your spouse: are there any things you desire before getting intimate? For instance, I (and a lot of other women out there) love being emotionally intimate first, before being physically intimate. I need a longer time to warm up and my husband knows it. And he’s okay with it too! He doesn’t want me to sleep with him against my will, that will lead to resentment and bitterness eventually, seeing it as a chore like you mentioned. But I believe that, like in every area of marriage, it’s about giving & taking, seeking common ground, making compromises. So yes, sometimes I’m sleeping with my husband when I’m not fully feeling it, and my husband knows this and he appreciates it actually! I’m giving him something, even when I’m not fully in the mood. And other days he will go above & beyond to make me feel loved in other ways, connecting with me emotionally, taking things really slow. I do say ‘no’ sometimes (and my husband 100% respects that! He’ll never push or abuse me !!) , but saying ‘yes’ whenever I’m not fully feeling it has changed our connection for the better!!
If you wait till your both 100% and enthusiastic you'll have sex about once a month or less. Good luck with that. What if you only went to work when you're 100% and enthusiastic? What if we only mother our children (well) when we're 100%and enthusiastic.
Milena I've prayed for your change but the degree of your change is much more than I imagined❤ You made me realize that God truly and surely change people ❤🎉😊
Hello Milena, I started following you when I was younger and I just got married 3 weeks ago. Thank you for your content. It is very appointed to my current season❤🙏🏾
I’ve been married a year next week, I do all of these things. I didn’t in the beginning but A LOT has transpired and made me bitter things i never expected to deal with that are intense for most humans. Not justifying myself. But I struggle with operating solely on emotions when I am upset because I feel justified in the reoccurring struggles my husband brings to the marriage. Now i said all that to say this was on time. I want to change and do better. If you would do discipleship training I am 100% all in. Please pray for my strength and pruning in the Lord. I love you all
I fear it is abusive to force someone to have sex with you when they’re clearly not in the mood. That isn’t loving. That’s not how God designed sex and that doesn’t sound like healthy communication happening. Just know you can say no and your partner should respect that if you are truly in a God honoring, loving relationship. ❤ Obviously if it’s an ongoing thing and sex is never happening, that’s different. But always feeling like you have to say yes to sex is not what God intended. Breaks my heart a little to hear you promoting this to young women
If you listen closely she gave a disclaimer about abuse before she touched on this subject. She also mentioned that everyone’s situation is different, so use discernment and prayer. The point she was trying to touch on is that if you are withholding sex from your spouse out of resentment or them not giving you something in return, that’s not okay. She used sex as an example because that’s a situation in her life where she was purposely resenting her husband. She never said that you always have to say yes to sex.
To withhold is to do it to deprive the other, like a punishment. Not the same as not feeling in the "mood" A loving husband will not expect or demand you give your body to him if your tired or not inspired to do so. But it's wrong to withhold if you are doing to get back at them, even if it's a subconscious pattern. That's not right. But God does not expect to give out body every moment our husbands desire us. Point is to desire eachother and to both be enthusiastic to partake.
I think it's not what she meant to say. It's not like If she's sick or feeling bad she must be in bed, it's denying her husband over other silly things, it can be taken out of context really easy but there's two sides of it
I became a wife the day before my 25 birthday. My husband was never a big believer, watching our faith grow together has been so beautiful. I hope God keeps working through us, so we can be the people God always knew we could be.❤
When we stop letting our feelings dictate our actions. This is so true Milena! There is such freedom in not letting our emotions control us and also in knowing our feelings aren’t always truthful.
Milena sister- I need your prayers right now for my sister and her husband. They are falling from their faith. A year ago they had a stillborn baby at 34 weeks. They are suffering so immensely and I want to fix it all, but I know I can’t. Please pray for them for the Holy Spirit to work in their hearts again💔
I’ve been following you for 6 years and seeing how God has worked in your life is beyond encouraging! You’re such an inspiration ❤️ praise God for your life!
been waiting for this type of video…thanks sister 🙏🏼❤️ and please pray for me and my husband that our dear heavenly father blesses us also with a baby ✨✨
Of all your “newer” content, this has been my favorite style of video! Wonderful advice, love how you have your Bible right there and ready to quote scripture to back your claims 🩷
I’m so refreshed and blessed by your content! Thank you for sharing Gods word with us and being an excellent wife so we can learn more of what that looks like ❤
It brings me joy to my soul to see you always holding a Bible in your hands. The Bible is our sword and shield. Our Father in Heaven adores when we cradle His Word.
Loved this. I wake up everyday trying to better myself as a wife and mom. One I’m still struggling with is my tone of voice. I know that I set the tone of my home by my tone. And I can build it or break it down.
you are so anointed and a blessing to all your viewers ! It's so beautiful to witness the transformation God can do in lives 🌷🤍 Bless you and your family Milena !
I love this video so much!!! Please talk more about our role as wives, biblical wives, taming the tongue (which I know you have videos about already) etc. I just love this topic so much as I really crave change in myself, bettering myself, being kinder, less quick to talk and react etc ❤❤❤
I think it’s crazy how bad I wanted to push off watching this video. But after I have, I know I needed this. So thank you, and my husband will thank you as well. ☺️🩷 thankful God put this on your heart to speak about.
This video is such a blessing. I definitely have been guilty of not being intimate because of my feelings over something silly when we had already planned an intimate time together (around babies schedules) I think the key here is if you have a Goldy man who you trust and feel safe with then it is good to not withhold sex from each other. Something Milena said once is so on point: before marriage the devil tries hard to get a couple in bed together and after marriage he tries hard to keep the couple out of bed. Intimacy is something that takes effort, conviction and a bigger desire to be closer to your husband than to be prideful and alone. Thank you Milena for being a Godly woman that gives solid biblical advice. I wish you lived near me and we could be friends 😂
I just want to touch on the sex part, because as you said, to its a heavy topic. I've been with my husband for almost ten years (we're 29). And I do relate to what you say about sex should not be used as a leverage tool with your spouse. It's OK not to want to have sex or be intimate for different reasons (maybe one is sick) but don't use sex as a bargaining chip, it make it very sad and takes away from the beauty of it. I think it's interesting that the Text says that if we both agree, it's okay because it encourages to have these open conversations together :D (sorry this is getting a little long) don't be scared to discuss these matter with the one person you share your life with! I also think that it ties to the first point, about resentment. Like maybe there is some of that that is affecting your view of sex too and it should be resolved before. Maybe it's not about taking the trash, maybe it's about one spouse not honoring the other and it should be a good reason to agree not to have sex until things are better :) (personnaly, we both have anger management issues we have learned to work very well with, and "angry intimacy" is not for us, but once we've worked through our issues, intimacy is full of joy and love again)
This was just... so... amazing and needed... I feel so lost as a wife.. I feel like a failure and I'm only in my second year of marriage. I hope you make more videos about being a wife and how to steward that blessing. It's wonderful to see the fruit of a successful marriage and to get advice, but I want the nitty gritty, hard-conversations, and what-to-do-when-you-don't-want-to-do-it counsel. Accountability, really. Thank you for this! God bless your family
I agree . I’m also in my second year it’s nice to see someone also in their second year ☺️☺️ You got this! ❤ Stay strong and I pray you receive the wisdom you need 🫶🏼
i would encourage you to find an older woman in your local church for discipleship and to be a mentor to you if you're looking for accountability and those kinds of conversations
I think if you and your husband don’t have good trust or there has been betrayal in the relationship it is ok to communicate your need to hold off on sexual intimacy. I was told in the past always have sex no matter how you feel. I have learned that just because you’re in a marriage doesn't mean ignore how you feel. Physical intimacy is a boundary over your own body and it’s ok to say “ I need x, y and z to build trust to feel ready to be intimate” A husband should respect this and a wife should be able to listen to her own needs and put up boundaries as needed. I was betrayed by my husband emotionally with my in-laws and our trust was broken. I expressed that I need trust to be built which for me meant follow-through of promises, and certain things that build a safe emotional connection. My husband respected this and we are working towards health. I always thought I had to ignore my own needs and emotions even if I had been treated badly, for the sake of being married. Thus is not healthy.
Thank you for being honest about where you have fallen short in the past! It’s very relatable and gives a lot of hope to how God can work in us and change us. And to remember no one we see on the internet is perfect. Thank you!
This was super relatable and helpful! Made me feel less alone in the struggle. Thank you for sharing this and for all those passages. I love the way you simply read them out and looked at where in your past you’d been putting on human/sinful nature vs listening to the Holy Spirit. Super helpful!! Thank you for sharing Milena!!
Ahhh this is SO good writting this all down and praying for my future spouse and for God to prepare me to be a wife someday. I want Colossians 3 to be read at my future wedding because of you thank you Milena. ❤
I feel that Milena has good intentions with these ideas about sex. However, Christians are always trying to teach that women should be humble/devoted to their husbands when it comes to intimacy. Let’s be honest. We all have to be in the mood 😅. I couldn’t if I am angry at him. I am sure GOD knows you love your husband but, when need space I am sure God understand that feeling too. 😊
"Secrets of fascinating womanhood" is a great book that shows how a biblical wife should behave in order to get the utmost love from her husband and be the best mother to her children
I have also done the same things. We lift women up, and let's not shame women. I have an idea for you. I was thinking you should start something about leveling up godly habits. ❤❤❤
Milena, I have been SO grateful for your new content. It’s been a wonderful blessing to my heart as I’ve been navigating motherhood and seeking to honor Jesus! Your words on parenting have been like honey to my soul sometimes and I find myself quoting things you’ve said. I’ve been buying new dresses as inspiration from you just because it’s a joy to be feminine and modest! I did want to mention from one sister to another that it’s been hard though to see that there have still been some immodest type tops in your wardrobe, and I feel like if we are encouraging fellow believers in modesty then we truly need to be representatives of that and showing even the upper parts of our breasts is something that I believe we may want to be careful of. Of course I am not your Holy Spirit so this is just a believer making what she believes to be a kind rebuke to a sister but with all my heart I just implore you to go to God with that and I have been so grateful to see modesty be cultivated in you already! I hope this all makes sense. God bless you sister.
One problem is that these square neckline, smocked, stretchy dresses that are so popular are probably good for nursing, but they are low cut and form fitting.
Prayer request : for us to have our 3rd baby .. I feel like my job is getting in the way of us having more kids and it feels bad. I don’t want this I want more kids but we also need money and a second income.. I don’t know how to pray for this, I just want to be a mom of more than 2 kids.. and my partner also wants more kids .. so we are on the same page but sometimes I’m afraid he also lets his job and money get in the way of pursuing our dream of a bigger family
The Catholic Church teaches Christians the importance and beauty of sex within a marriage and human sexuality. All biblical, it’s an important topic because it’s the foundation of human beings & creating the family. Theology of the body is a great book.
I personally think getting intimate when your in an argument isn't nessacarry a good thing I think it's easy to avoid the issue instead of working through it. And if you have kids you can't just do it whenever your arguing 😅 however I totally agree with all the petty things I was so bad woth this and honestly we were on the brink of divorce until the lord helped me change my ways and now my marraige is great !
Mine has been self control and the ability to listen , understand and be patient. It doesn't look like being a doormat. It's about bring kind and being treated how you want to be treated
Hi there! I was wondering how did the Lord change you and your ways to help your marriage? I’ve been dealing with the same exact things and I’ve been praying as well. It seems that I keep falling into the same old habits that I’m praying about and I could really use some encouragement! I’ve been married for about 2 years now and I want to change but when the times arise I go back @@seekingtruthandcompassion1707hi there!
People hate that verse about not withholding what is due to your spouse (sex) without it being a mutual agreement. But it is biblical. Not open for debate. Glad you mentioned it! Our pastor mentioned that during our marriage counseling and it’s so true. I cannot imagine how hurtful it could be to hold a grudge and withhold that from your spouse without them understanding why.
How funny, I clicked on this video to watch while folding clothes. Please pray for me, I am currently 40 weeks and 2 days pregnant. I really thought this baby would come early but my due date has come and gone and I am trying not to get anxious, especially with everyone I know constant asking me when baby is coming. I know God has baby’s birthday planned and I shouldn’t stress but I’m really struggling and in a lot of pain.
Christ centered / Godly marriage>>>>> worldly marriage they are NOT the same ❤️🔥 for anyone confused nor agree with the topic of being intimate with each other, you don’t get to pick and choose what laws to follow. If you follow the Lord follow FULL heartedly.because we don’tWHATTT….lean on our own understanding Proverbs 3:5-6 Leviticus 12:2 + Leviticus 18:19 also give examples of “exceptions” that make obvious sense that I believe most people would follow.
Ladies, just a reminder, it's okay to voice your concerns. I understand not wanting to be a nag, but please don't push down your concerns, opinions or grievances. Please don't demonize your emotions, including anger. You are worthy to be heard. Marriage is a partnership at the end of the day.
a wife should bring up issues humbly and softly, unless the husband is asking her to break the word of God, she must remember to honour her husband like as unto Jesus
Can you and Jordan do a video about things he doesn't do as a husband? This video was very insightful and I'd love to see the other side!
Yes please 🙏🏼 💯
Yesss
i just want to say, if you do not feel like having sex for any reason, your husband/wife should respect that.
Yes! She’s saying don’t use it as a way to “punish” each other like her example of her husband not taking the trash out and then her withholding. You do not always have to say yes but only saying no because of petty stuff causes resentment towards each other basically
Absolutely!
Your comment is against God. Ofc post partum moms should be an exception amongst others like milena mentioned... the verse Milena shared clearly states both husband and wife must abstain together so the devil does not tempt y'all. Don't go against God's word. Therefore submit to God, resist the devil, and he will flee from you. Don't let your disobedience leave an opening to the enemy. The enemy only wants to steal, kill and destroy
Not biblical
Completely agree.
No matter how powerful a gift sex is, ladies, please know it is ALWAYS okay to simply just not be up for it. Protect yourselves ❤
And what if a woman is never up for it or only once a month? I’m sorry but that is not okay or biblical.
where in the bible is that?
Hey sis! I was led by God to comment on this video. I have followed you for not too long but love your content and today's content really edified my faith life. When you spoke about your past failures as a godly wife (not doing husbands laundry, denying sex, being unkind) bcz of your feelings or mood, I sort of told myself, well I wouldn't do that, duh. I know better. I've read all the right books on marriage, heard all the right sermons & podcasts, followed the right influencers on insta, I'm 2 steps ahead, of course I'm gonna treat my man right... But then the Lord gently convicted me. My relationship with God has been strained lately because of my feelings and mood. Feelings of exhaustion, unanswered prayer or the like have quenched my fire for God. I haven't felt motivated lately and it has manifested in how I treat him. I haven't read the word in days, haven't praised him in days, I do pray everyday (due to my commitment to show up in the secret place) but besides that, I have denied him that sweet intimacy, those giggles I share with him, how I bear my soul naked before him, because lately I've felt like he doesn't care (I know he does) but when the answer is slow in coming, your feelings and emotions get the worst out of you. I was greatly convicted. And the Lord asked me, if your mood & feelings have greatly affected your devotion to me, ur prayer life, our intimacy, what makes you think you'll treat your husband any better than you treat me? What makes you think you got it? I'm a perfect God and ur husband will be an imperfect flawed human, what makes you think you're going to submit to him willingly when you almost drag yourself to the prayer closet? You're not going to love & honour him any better than you do me. Come here & let's reason this.
And sis, I thanked God for you and using your content to convict me in a way only he could. You probably didn't know how your video would impact the people, but God used it in a specific way to show me my error in my relationship with him. I'm not yet married, but definitely much to glean from this. God bless you & continue to use you as his vessel.
Wow this was a beautiful comparison
Hey girl. I want to thank you for sharing that. This comparison blows my mind and really humbled me in the best way. Be blessed and keep sharing, your thoughts were so encouraging to me. Be blessed✨
My marriage has crumbled since having my son 2 years ago. I’m pregnant again and terrified. We argue constantly. I’m bitter, burnt out and there really is no joy in my heart. I know I need the lord to help because I can’t turn my life around on my own…. I just feel so intimidated and lost on where to even start in the Bible. I’m on survival mode but man I wish life could be joyful and fruitful. Just so discouraged. Any prayers would be greatly appreciated
Gospel of John is where I would suggest
What helps me is to set a 10 minute timer, put my phone down, and just pick either the New Testament or old testament to start. Read until the timer goes off and then repeat daily!! And if you’re looking something to help marriage wise the love dare might be a good place to start with healing your side of the marriage. I hope this helps. I’ll be praying for you
Praying for you sister 😭❤️🙏🏼 Father, You alone know every detail and pain and desire of my sister, and I pray that You break down every wall of hostility between her and her husband. I pray you merry every need according to Your riches in glory through Christ Jesus and give my sister just the next thing to do practically. Help her apply Your Word that love keeps no record of wrongs in 1 Corinthians 13! Please bring sisters of Christ around her as a shield and keep her lips from grumbling or complaining or gossiping but also still being able to ask for prayer and help and receiving love. Holy Spirit, gift her with peace and patience and love in her heart to receive Your grace and give it in return where it feels it isn't deserved. I pray this and more in Jesus ' name! Amen 💖💖💖
My heart goes out to you, dear friend!
Oh Lord, I thank you for my sister in Christ who is in this season of burnout, dissension and fear. I pray against any attacks of the enemy that are coming against her and her husband's unity. Lord I ask that you would surround her with your peace and that you would help her to find rest in her current situation. Help her to get out of survival mode and find newfound joy through the pain of conflict with her husband. I ask that you would build her up as your sweet Daughter. I ask that you would strengthen their bond through this season and that you would make their marriage more fruitful than ever. Let your Holy Spirit rest in their home and give them a renewed desire to seek out your presence.
I am continuing to pray for you, your marriage, and your family!!
I can relate to this feeling! Finding an older woman to disciple me and encourage me was life changing in our marriage. We’ve also been married two years, and what turned our marriage around was reading the Bible every day, praying, and confessing our sins to eachother frequently ❤
Thank you, Milena, for being the big sister and angel on earth she is for all of us young women out there 🥰
I think sex should only happen when both people 100% want to and are enthusiastic about it. I could not imagine ever having sex with someone who also doesn’t 100% want it. THEY should want it too. I wouldn’t want someone to have sex with me just to please me. That would be a huge turn off for me and definitely cross a line. I don’t think it would be enjoyable for either people. I think it could slowly build resentment and you could start to view sex as a chore.
Yes, him not taking the trash out seems like a silly reason to decline sex but if it truly made you angry and not want to have sex with your husband, then you probably shouldn’t because it wouldn’t be enjoyable for you and probably not enjoyable for him either.
In many couple's cases then, sex would hardly ever happen! Spouses should sacrifice to love the other in that intimate way, even if one doesn't 100% feel like it. Maybe if you're both super high drive the ideal you laid out works.
Yes!!! Because maybe you need to TALK first about what made you angry or why you don’t feel like having sex. And maybe the talking brings you closer together than sex in that moment.
@@ayla8345I totally agree with you but I think in this context, it might be more about not using sex as a bargaining chip :o like if you do this, we can have sex, if you don't do this, we don't. Like that's also taking away from what intimacy can be. Does that makes sense? But 100% if not taking out the trash is the cherry on the cake of disrespectful behavior from your spouse, it's still a good reason
I totally understand where you’re coming from, I used to think the same thing. I’m not saying that’s wrong or not and I think having sex when you’re both 100% all in is beautiful. Unfortunately, if this were the case for me and my husband, we would barely be intimate. What I would recommend for everyone is to talk about it with your spouse: are there any things you desire before getting intimate?
For instance, I (and a lot of other women out there) love being emotionally intimate first, before being physically intimate. I need a longer time to warm up and my husband knows it. And he’s okay with it too! He doesn’t want me to sleep with him against my will, that will lead to resentment and bitterness eventually, seeing it as a chore like you mentioned.
But I believe that, like in every area of marriage, it’s about giving & taking, seeking common ground, making compromises.
So yes, sometimes I’m sleeping with my husband when I’m not fully feeling it, and my husband knows this and he appreciates it actually! I’m giving him something, even when I’m not fully in the mood.
And other days he will go above & beyond to make me feel loved in other ways, connecting with me emotionally, taking things really slow.
I do say ‘no’ sometimes (and my husband 100% respects that! He’ll never push or abuse me !!) , but saying ‘yes’ whenever I’m not fully feeling it has changed our connection for the better!!
If you wait till your both 100% and enthusiastic you'll have sex about once a month or less. Good luck with that.
What if you only went to work when you're 100% and enthusiastic? What if we only mother our children (well) when we're 100%and enthusiastic.
Milena I've prayed for your change but the degree of your change is much more than I imagined❤ You made me realize that God truly and surely change people ❤🎉😊
Your girls are going to have such a fountain of wisdom to draw from in their mother. Well done. 👏
Wow this was just what I needed to hear as a new wife. I hope I am able to one day have as much wisdom and discernment as you. ❤
Thank you for being obedient and posting this. I truly needed to hear this.
Hello Milena, I started following you when I was younger and I just got married 3 weeks ago. Thank you for your content. It is very appointed to my current season❤🙏🏾
I’ve been married a year next week, I do all of these things. I didn’t in the beginning but A LOT has transpired and made me bitter things i never expected to deal with that are intense for most humans. Not justifying myself. But I struggle with operating solely on emotions when I am upset because I feel justified in the reoccurring struggles my husband brings to the marriage. Now i said all that to say this was on time. I want to change and do better. If you would do discipleship training I am 100% all in.
Please pray for my strength and pruning in the Lord.
I love you all
THIS! was so refreshing for my soul
I just wanted to thank you for your vulnerability and honesty. That was really beautiful.
I fear it is abusive to force someone to have sex with you when they’re clearly not in the mood. That isn’t loving. That’s not how God designed sex and that doesn’t sound like healthy communication happening. Just know you can say no and your partner should respect that if you are truly in a God honoring, loving relationship. ❤
Obviously if it’s an ongoing thing and sex is never happening, that’s different.
But always feeling like you have to say yes to sex is not what God intended. Breaks my heart a little to hear you promoting this to young women
Which verses are you speaking about?
She didn't mean it in this context. Totally different.
If you listen closely she gave a disclaimer about abuse before she touched on this subject. She also mentioned that everyone’s situation is different, so use discernment and prayer. The point she was trying to touch on is that if you are withholding sex from your spouse out of resentment or them not giving you something in return, that’s not okay. She used sex as an example because that’s a situation in her life where she was purposely resenting her husband. She never said that you always have to say yes to sex.
To withhold is to do it to deprive the other, like a punishment. Not the same as not feeling in the "mood"
A loving husband will not expect or demand you give your body to him if your tired or not inspired to do so.
But it's wrong to withhold if you are doing to get back at them, even if it's a subconscious pattern. That's not right. But God does not expect to give out body every moment our husbands desire us. Point is to desire eachother and to both be enthusiastic to partake.
I think it's not what she meant to say. It's not like If she's sick or feeling bad she must be in bed, it's denying her husband over other silly things, it can be taken out of context really easy but there's two sides of it
I became a wife the day before my 25 birthday. My husband was never a big believer, watching our faith grow together has been so beautiful. I hope God keeps working through us, so we can be the people God always knew we could be.❤
When we stop letting our feelings dictate our actions. This is so true Milena! There is such freedom in not letting our emotions control us and also in knowing our feelings aren’t always truthful.
Milena sister- I need your prayers right now for my sister and her husband. They are falling from their faith. A year ago they had a stillborn baby at 34 weeks. They are suffering so immensely and I want to fix it all, but I know I can’t. Please pray for them for the Holy Spirit to work in their hearts again💔
I’ve been following you for 6 years and seeing how God has worked in your life is beyond encouraging! You’re such an inspiration ❤️ praise God for your life!
been waiting for this type of video…thanks sister 🙏🏼❤️ and please pray for me and my husband that our dear heavenly father blesses us also with a baby ✨✨
Believing God will bless you with a beautiful healthy baby in His timing sister ❤
The topics in your video are exactly what I’ve been thinking and praying about! ❤thank you for the encouragement
Of all your “newer” content, this has been my favorite style of video! Wonderful advice, love how you have your Bible right there and ready to quote scripture to back your claims 🩷
I’m so refreshed and blessed by your content! Thank you for sharing Gods word with us and being an excellent wife so we can learn more of what that looks like ❤
What perfect timing!!
I really needed this. Thank you 🙏🏽 🤎
I love how you're dressing now. Supercute and not overtly modest but still respectful and modest lol
It brings me joy to my soul to see you always holding a Bible in your hands. The Bible is our sword and shield. Our Father in Heaven adores when we cradle His Word.
Loved this. I wake up everyday trying to better myself as a wife and mom. One I’m still struggling with is my tone of voice. I know that I set the tone of my home by my tone. And I can build it or break it down.
Proverbs 31: 10-31❤
The way you quickly flipped your bible open in 24:06 😅 I’m HERE for it and I strive to be like that 😊
Always and ONLY using scripture for reference 🎉
you are so anointed and a blessing to all your viewers ! It's so beautiful to witness the transformation God can do in lives 🌷🤍 Bless you and your family Milena !
I love this video so much!!! Please talk more about our role as wives, biblical wives, taming the tongue (which I know you have videos about already) etc. I just love this topic so much as I really crave change in myself, bettering myself, being kinder, less quick to talk and react etc ❤❤❤
Thank you milena! You are such a blessing!
I think it’s crazy how bad I wanted to push off watching this video. But after I have, I know I needed this. So thank you, and my husband will thank you as well. ☺️🩷 thankful God put this on your heart to speak about.
This was such a special and necessary video for all women, thank you Milena 🙏🏼🙌🏼
This video is such a blessing. I definitely have been guilty of not being intimate because of my feelings over something silly when we had already planned an intimate time together (around babies schedules)
I think the key here is if you have a Goldy man who you trust and feel safe with then it is good to not withhold sex from each other.
Something Milena said once is so on point: before marriage the devil tries hard to get a couple in bed together and after marriage he tries hard to keep the couple out of bed. Intimacy is something that takes effort, conviction and a bigger desire to be closer to your husband than to be prideful and alone. Thank you Milena for being a Godly woman that gives solid biblical advice. I wish you lived near me and we could be friends 😂
Milena the appreciation part was perfect timing. You are a very humble woman- thanking God for this message 🙏
I just want to touch on the sex part, because as you said, to its a heavy topic. I've been with my husband for almost ten years (we're 29). And I do relate to what you say about sex should not be used as a leverage tool with your spouse. It's OK not to want to have sex or be intimate for different reasons (maybe one is sick) but don't use sex as a bargaining chip, it make it very sad and takes away from the beauty of it. I think it's interesting that the Text says that if we both agree, it's okay because it encourages to have these open conversations together :D (sorry this is getting a little long) don't be scared to discuss these matter with the one person you share your life with! I also think that it ties to the first point, about resentment. Like maybe there is some of that that is affecting your view of sex too and it should be resolved before. Maybe it's not about taking the trash, maybe it's about one spouse not honoring the other and it should be a good reason to agree not to have sex until things are better :) (personnaly, we both have anger management issues we have learned to work very well with, and "angry intimacy" is not for us, but once we've worked through our issues, intimacy is full of joy and love again)
it's saying you can abstain if you both agree regarding fasting...not un scriptual emotions you are describing
This was just... so... amazing and needed... I feel so lost as a wife.. I feel like a failure and I'm only in my second year of marriage. I hope you make more videos about being a wife and how to steward that blessing. It's wonderful to see the fruit of a successful marriage and to get advice, but I want the nitty gritty, hard-conversations, and what-to-do-when-you-don't-want-to-do-it counsel. Accountability, really. Thank you for this! God bless your family
I agree . I’m also in my second year it’s nice to see someone also in their second year ☺️☺️ You got this! ❤ Stay strong and I pray you receive the wisdom you need 🫶🏼
Idk if you’ve watched them but she has several more wifey advice videos on her page. I 100% recommend
i would encourage you to find an older woman in your local church for discipleship and to be a mentor to you if you're looking for accountability and those kinds of conversations
I think if you and your husband don’t have good trust or there has been betrayal in the relationship it is ok to communicate your need to hold off on sexual intimacy. I was told in the past always have sex no matter how you feel. I have learned that just because you’re in a marriage doesn't mean ignore how you feel. Physical intimacy is a boundary over your own body and it’s ok to say “ I need x, y and z to build trust to feel ready to be intimate” A husband should respect this and a wife should be able to listen to her own needs and put up boundaries as needed. I was betrayed by my husband emotionally with my in-laws and our trust was broken. I expressed that I need trust to be built which for me meant follow-through of promises, and certain things that build a safe emotional connection. My husband respected this and we are working towards health. I always thought I had to ignore my own needs and emotions even if I had been treated badly, for the sake of being married. Thus is not healthy.
scripture? with holding sex is a breaking of trust too
Thank you for being so vulnerable and real with us💕
Wow I needed to hear this. Thank you for this word Milena!
You are glowing ✨🫶🏼 Inner beauty is truly shining through, praise the Lord! 🤍🌷🙏🏼🧸🎀
Such a good encouragement! 🤟🏼
Thank you for being honest about where you have fallen short in the past! It’s very relatable and gives a lot of hope to how God can work in us and change us. And to remember no one we see on the internet is perfect. Thank you!
I NEEEEDED THISSSSS❤ this gives me hope
Thanks be to God for all the fruits of your labour Milena. Powerful transformation in you by Gods grace. Keep winning souls for Christ 🙏🏼
This was super relatable and helpful! Made me feel less alone in the struggle. Thank you for sharing this and for all those passages. I love the way you simply read them out and looked at where in your past you’d been putting on human/sinful nature vs listening to the Holy Spirit. Super helpful!! Thank you for sharing Milena!!
This was a word I needed to hear! Thank you for always blessing us with your walk! 🙏🏼💕
dear milena,
thank you very much,
watching from hungary,
my husband is from greece,
please more vids ;
how to be a better wife,
greetings,
blessings
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I love that you mention something and immediately get backed up with the Bible!
I got married a few months ago and videos like these really bless me. ❤️
LOVE that youre so humble and open. Thanks❤
I love how every time you talk about a book in the Bible you say it is your favorite 😂❤
I needed this today. Thank you. ❤
Boy, did I near to hear this thank you for such beautiful kind words you always speak your an inspiration 🩷
Ahhh this is SO good writting this all down and praying for my future spouse and for God to prepare me to be a wife someday. I want Colossians 3 to be read at my future wedding because of you thank you Milena. ❤
Only in 6 minutes and this is so lovely. Preach sister ❤
Thank you for sharing your godly wisdom. i like the way you are teaching. God will bless your family and make his face shine upon your family.Amen
you have spoken SO much encouragement….thank you🤍🤍🤍
I love these more than the voice overs! I feel like we are having a convo! Lol
Sooo good, Milena! Thank you sister
I feel that Milena has good intentions with these ideas about sex. However, Christians are always trying to teach that women should be humble/devoted to their husbands when it comes to intimacy. Let’s be honest. We all have to be in the mood 😅. I couldn’t if I am angry at him. I am sure GOD knows you love your husband but, when need space I am sure God understand that feeling too. 😊
I needed this word! Thank you
The video I needed. Thank you Milena ❤️
Milena you have such a beautiful & gentle soul 🩷
I think that, that scenario about “the meal” is actually very relatable 😂
I wish you had made this video a long time ago! God is using you for sure ❤
You really are just a person who shines
Amen Milena everything you said was on point and understanding. Glory be to God
Milena, could you and your husband make a video on what the Bible teaches about contraception in Christian marriages and how you have navigated that?
This is great!! Thank you for always backing up your words with scripture
Thank u for being transparent. I have the same feeling before and that how we need God more. Praise God. Oowwwee 😮💨
"Secrets of fascinating womanhood" is a great book that shows how a biblical wife should behave in order to get the utmost love from her husband and be the best mother to her children
Thank you for your Godly wisdom. God bless you and your family!!
I love your videos ❤always so encouraging especially for me as a wife. Thank you for your transparency
This blessed me so much!
I have also done the same things. We lift women up, and let's not shame women. I have an idea for you. I was thinking you should start something about leveling up godly habits. ❤❤❤
Another wonderful vlog🙏🏼💖🍂
Thank you for speaking the trust about sex. Let’s not let our feelings dictate our actions. Let’s stop being selfish and GIVE
Needed this!❤️
This is wonderful! Thank your for sharing this Godly wisdom and giving the steps to take to be better in our marriages! ❤️🙏❤️
Milena, I have been SO grateful for your new content. It’s been a wonderful blessing to my heart as I’ve been navigating motherhood and seeking to honor Jesus! Your words on parenting have been like honey to my soul sometimes and I find myself quoting things you’ve said. I’ve been buying new dresses as inspiration from you just because it’s a joy to be feminine and modest! I did want to mention from one sister to another that it’s been hard though to see that there have still been some immodest type tops in your wardrobe, and I feel like if we are encouraging fellow believers in modesty then we truly need to be representatives of that and showing even the upper parts of our breasts is something that I believe we may want to be careful of. Of course I am not your Holy Spirit so this is just a believer making what she believes to be a kind rebuke to a sister but with all my heart I just implore you to go to God with that and I have been so grateful to see modesty be cultivated in you already! I hope this all makes sense. God bless you sister.
One problem is that these square neckline, smocked, stretchy dresses that are so popular are probably good for nursing, but they are low cut and form fitting.
Watching this on Saturday while I fold my clothes from Thursday 😂
Prayer request : for us to have our 3rd baby .. I feel like my job is getting in the way of us having more kids and it feels bad. I don’t want this I want more kids but we also need money and a second income.. I don’t know how to pray for this, I just want to be a mom of more than 2 kids.. and my partner also wants more kids .. so we are on the same page but sometimes I’m afraid he also lets his job and money get in the way of pursuing our dream of a bigger family
This has blessed me!❤
Great video! ❤ You’re very inspiring!
Loved this video and the verses to go along with it! Keep being used by the Lord Milena 🤍
Love your videos! Can I ask where you got your Bible? I'm currently on a search for one🥰
Hosanna Revival
Love you sister Milena 🤍 God bless you for being faithful. It would be a dream to meet you in person one day 🥰
Miss your old videos the vlogs and day in life
This video was so good!
Love! The teachings of the Catholic Church on marriage and sex are beautiful! ❤
Why would you say the Catholic Church and not the Bible? We should only rely on teachings from the Bible.
The Catholic Church teaches Christians the importance and beauty of sex within a marriage and human sexuality. All biblical, it’s an important topic because it’s the foundation of human beings & creating the family.
Theology of the body is a great book.
Do you have a video on Shabbat? We just started our first one yesterday and it was amazing and I want to learn more!
What Bible do you have? Where is it from? I love that there is room in the margin for note taking!
I personally think getting intimate when your in an argument isn't nessacarry a good thing I think it's easy to avoid the issue instead of working through it. And if you have kids you can't just do it whenever your arguing 😅 however I totally agree with all the petty things I was so bad woth this and honestly we were on the brink of divorce until the lord helped me change my ways and now my marraige is great !
Mine has been self control and the ability to listen , understand and be patient. It doesn't look like being a doormat. It's about bring kind and being treated how you want to be treated
Hi there! I was wondering how did the Lord change you and your ways to help your marriage? I’ve been dealing with the same exact things and I’ve been praying as well. It seems that I keep falling into the same old habits that I’m praying about and I could really use some encouragement! I’ve been married for about 2 years now and I want to change but when the times arise I go back @@seekingtruthandcompassion1707hi there!
People hate that verse about not withholding what is due to your spouse (sex) without it being a mutual agreement. But it is biblical. Not open for debate. Glad you mentioned it! Our pastor mentioned that during our marriage counseling and it’s so true. I cannot imagine how hurtful it could be to hold a grudge and withhold that from your spouse without them understanding why.
Totally agree. It’s a pride issue for a lot of people.
After 19 years, I don’t iron his shirts anymore 😂
How funny, I clicked on this video to watch while folding clothes.
Please pray for me, I am currently 40 weeks and 2 days pregnant. I really thought this baby would come early but my due date has come and gone and I am trying not to get anxious, especially with everyone I know constant asking me when baby is coming. I know God has baby’s birthday planned and I shouldn’t stress but I’m really struggling and in a lot of pain.
Obsessed with this outfit! Where is it from?
so good! :)
Christ centered / Godly marriage>>>>> worldly marriage
they are NOT the same ❤️🔥
for anyone confused nor agree with the topic of being intimate with each other, you don’t get to pick and choose what laws to follow. If you follow the Lord follow FULL heartedly.because we don’tWHATTT….lean on our own understanding Proverbs 3:5-6
Leviticus 12:2 + Leviticus 18:19 also give examples of “exceptions” that make obvious sense that I believe most people would follow.