The more of these videos that I watch, the more grateful I am that I had the mother that I did. She taught me right from the start... 1. Love is not just a feeling. It's not something that you fall into. Love is something you DO. 2. My happiness is my own responsibility. No other person can make me happy or unhappy. It is all up to me. It is a decision that you make for yourself. 3. Be grateful for everything. There is ALWAYS a silver lining.
Lucky you! Growing up, I associated happiness with material things. The more video games, toys, and other cool things one had, I thought the happier I’d be. I also learned that love was transactional and that you could buy someones love.
Love is something you DO, I agree. You may not always feel love towards your fellow human being, but you do the right thing, regardless. This has been largely forgotten in our selfish society. People are so busy chasing material gain, and promoting themselves. It's all so empty and boring. But if you step out of yourself and care for your fellow humans, you feel so much better. 😊
I'm with Rich on the whole mother thing. There are a whole lot of mothers who did not and could not love their children because they didn't want them. Just one of the litter quotes from my mother "I never wanted to be a mother". I didn't ask she just wanted to say that to her child. Thanks mom I feel so loved lol.
Always remember you are here for a reason and your mom was just the package, that was used. If you are here it's because GOD has a purpose for you. Sending you positive vibes and God Bless
There are a lot of accidental and unexpected children being born into this world, and it almost seems like the Millennial and gen Zers are willingly not having as many children or simply cannot due to economic reasons.
I agree with Rich about how being extroverted takes a toll on me. I love my family, my friends but I decline most invitations to parties or large gatherings since they exhaust me and the conversation invariably goes into I have a bigger this and a bigger that... She also urges extroversion which is contradictory to her favorites quote by Daniel Kahneman of how happiness means that you want to continue doing what you are doing. I like my solitude and want to continue doing it! This tends to be a problem with a lot of psychology studies - generalization. When will we understand that biologically and psychologically each one of us is wired differently and it is basically different strokes for different folks and not a one size fits all prescription.
Yes. But she also says extroversion doesn't mean it needs to be with humans, that it could be with animals. And that's an archetype that you also see a lot, the old lady with lots of cats or the hermit that befriends a wild animal, and they are "better" for those connections.
Wow, this is so good! Some people want to be happy, and others want to be right! Even if it’s at the cost of happiness! I know quite a few people like that! Nowadays, they call it Conspiracy theories; they prefer to be right about their conspiracy theories. Even if that means the world will end tomorrow, they will celebrate their rightness for a few hours before the end! My advice is to get away from those people and get close to those with whom you have a common goal: a shared future!
Happiness to me is to wake up on a Monday morning feeling completely excited about the week ahead instead of looking for Fridays to feel happy that the week is coming to an end... If you don't have your ideal life yet use the weekends not to escape from the life you have but to build the life you desire ..
The best explanation if heard of extrovert vs introvert is this. An extrovert is someone who is drained by being alone and recharges around other people. An introvert is someone who is drained by being around people and recharges being alone. I think people conflate introvert with social anxiety, which is different.
What a wonderful, meaningful, intelligent conversation. I am grateful to have been a silent observer. Please have this guest on again. We will all be smarter for it. Thank you. 😊
@rich Thank you for sharing what you shared about your mother because I am right there with you. In the last three months, I’ve decided to go “no contact” with my narcissist mother to preserve my mental and emotional health. What you shared was a beautiful response to what I was feeling within.
I did the same with my mom, and the experience humbled her to a large extent that later, when I confronted her about how she hurt me, she was ready to apologize. I never thought she would ever, ever apologise to me. I am sorry you are going through this, and I hope you get the peace you need.
Americans are so focused on happiness because life here isn’t fundamentally happy. Cultural ideals don’t prioritize happiness. People in my country just “are” happy. They don’t have to inquire about whether they can be happier.
There’s no such thing as “happiness”. Humans need purpose to feel whole. Happiness is just another product that makes writers and so-called Gurus lots of money.
1:20:30 Sonja says that men without children are particularly unhappy. I'd like to know where she is getting this. And where the study is that shows that men with children are happier than men without children.
Asked ChatGPT and it seems the evidence is a bit mixed, but yes some studies in some cultures seem to suggest men are slightly happier if they have children. But it might also depend on age. I'm guessing for some young men it might be a cause for stress and concern, but when you are older than you probably would prefer to have children.
You cannot search or aspire for happiness - it just happens - it has nothing to do with past present or future and when life or the moment is never about past present and future - it is happiness
I mean, considering the circumstances he’s endured throughout his entire life and the level of compassion and altruism he still embodies despite all of that, I think that antiquated title is still fitting.
How does a mother find happiness when she sat at the bedside of two of her adult children while they died. Are there circumstances where happiness is not an option. Where does love go when you are the mother and had to witness this? How do I come back from this and believe I could be happy again?
I pray I never experience this to know for sure but I know our children need us to be happy and find our way when they are alive and I can't help but feel that that is what has to still be done. I say explore every piece of your being. Every thought you think, every interst, every bit of what you are left with in this life in honor of your babies who loved you with everything. Where can you serve? What can you create? Our lives are multiple lives in one and this is your life after the loss of your children...I say make it count and gain whatever your spirit needs to gain in this.
No way am I happier when I'm trying to be extroverted. my guess is that most introverts would feel the same. Don't know that I believe she was an introvert and now she's an extrovert. I'm guessing, more likely, that she just became more comfortable with herself. Shout out to Susan Cain for de-pathologizing introversion.
I was in the same camp but then she hit nail in the head "extroversion could be with animals" and then yes, for sure, I was happier when I was with my pets, even though their loss stays with you forever.
we have to stop to make escuses because you are introvert or extrovert. just do what works and will make you happier. in countries with need there are no this questions, this is a western problem!!! do you realise that. thereś no introverts or extroverts when you fighing for life
Do things for others. Literally the oldest message on earth. Its all in the bible and even without that this is really old news. It’s an insult to people to act like we need an “expert” to tell us the obvious
She's way over her head being interviewed by Rich Roll. Body language, nervousness, hair flipping..not as experienced in the topic as she thinks she is and what RR thought.
I give my cat mouth kisses. I have no sexual attraction or inappropriate thoughts about my cat. People like you make uncomfortable to even show affection to the people requesting it.
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The more of these videos that I watch, the more grateful I am that I had the mother that I did. She taught me right from the start...
1. Love is not just a feeling. It's not something that you fall into. Love is something you DO.
2. My happiness is my own responsibility. No other person can make me happy or unhappy. It is all up to me. It is a decision that you make for yourself.
3. Be grateful for everything. There is ALWAYS a silver lining.
Lucky you! Growing up, I associated happiness with material things. The more video games, toys, and other cool things one had, I thought the happier I’d be. I also learned that love was transactional and that you could buy someones love.
Love is something you DO, I agree. You may not always feel love towards your fellow human being, but you do the right thing, regardless. This has been largely forgotten in our selfish society.
People are so busy chasing material gain, and promoting themselves. It's all so empty and boring.
But if you step out of yourself and care for your fellow humans, you feel so much better. 😊
I'm with Rich on the whole mother thing. There are a whole lot of mothers who did not and could not love their children because they didn't want them. Just one of the litter quotes from my mother "I never wanted to be a mother". I didn't ask she just wanted to say that to her child. Thanks mom I feel so loved lol.
Always remember you are here for a reason and your mom was just the package, that was used. If you are here it's because GOD has a purpose for you.
Sending you positive vibes and God Bless
There are a lot of accidental and unexpected children being born into this world, and it almost seems like the Millennial and gen Zers are willingly not having as many children or simply cannot due to economic reasons.
“Some people want to be happy, some people want to be right.” Wow.
Loved this guest and conversation!
I agree with Rich about how being extroverted takes a toll on me. I love my family, my friends but I decline most invitations to parties or large gatherings since they exhaust me and the conversation invariably goes into I have a bigger this and a bigger that... She also urges extroversion which is contradictory to her favorites quote by Daniel Kahneman of how happiness means that you want to continue doing what you are doing. I like my solitude and want to continue doing it! This tends to be a problem with a lot of psychology studies - generalization. When will we understand that biologically and psychologically each one of us is wired differently and it is basically different strokes for different folks and not a one size fits all prescription.
Well said
Yes. But she also says extroversion doesn't mean it needs to be with humans, that it could be with animals. And that's an archetype that you also see a lot, the old lady with lots of cats or the hermit that befriends a wild animal, and they are "better" for those connections.
Wow, this is so good! Some people want to be happy, and others want to be right! Even if it’s at the cost of happiness! I know quite a few people like that! Nowadays, they call it Conspiracy theories; they prefer to be right about their conspiracy theories. Even if that means the world will end tomorrow, they will celebrate their rightness for a few hours before the end! My advice is to get away from those people and get close to those with whom you have a common goal: a shared future!
Happiness to me is to wake up on a Monday morning feeling completely excited about the week ahead instead of looking for Fridays to feel happy that the week is coming to an end... If you don't have your ideal life yet use the weekends not to escape from the life you have but to build the life you desire ..
Morning everyone! Hope you have a great week. ❤
Nothing better to just listen in the middle of Monday :)
Thank you Dr Sonja !! Great podcast Rich. Beautiful
This is one of the most helpful and important conversations I've ever heard. Thank you❤
The best explanation if heard of extrovert vs introvert is this. An extrovert is someone who is drained by being alone and recharges around other people. An introvert is someone who is drained by being around people and recharges being alone. I think people conflate introvert with social anxiety, which is different.
What a wonderful, meaningful, intelligent conversation. I am grateful to have been a silent observer. Please have this guest on again. We will all be smarter for it.
Thank you. 😊
@rich Thank you for sharing what you shared about your mother because I am right there with you. In the last three months, I’ve decided to go “no contact” with my narcissist mother to preserve my mental and emotional health. What you shared was a beautiful response to what I was feeling within.
I did the same with my mom, and the experience humbled her to a large extent that later, when I confronted her about how she hurt me, she was ready to apologize. I never thought she would ever, ever apologise to me.
I am sorry you are going through this, and I hope you get the peace you need.
@@observer5864I appreciate that, thank you. I hope we can get there. But to your point, I’m working on finding my peace without her, for now 🥰
Lots of good questions and wonderful answers
Americans are so focused on happiness because life here isn’t fundamentally happy. Cultural ideals don’t prioritize happiness. People in my country just “are” happy. They don’t have to inquire about whether they can be happier.
What country do you live in?
Absolutely loved this episode! Thanks for consistently delivering such great content!
Best episode yet. Thank you.
Arthur Brooks wrote an article for the Atlantic Monthly titled 'Aristotle's 10 Rules for a Good Life, An Ancient Greek Recipe for Happiness.'
yet another much needed topic of conversation in my life. thanks for this.
I really enjoyed this episode. Love how you put yourself out there, Rich! You're often saying what we listeners are thinking:)
Thank you so much 💓
1:15: No, you don’t devote all your energy towards helping the most depressed, you devote it towards helping 4,000,000,000 women live a woman’s live.
I am going with St. Paul, "Be Joyful Always."
This talk is great
Gretchen Ruben - The Happiness Project. Great book.
1:19 Happiness statistics: This is for humans who live in couples, not for humans who live in tribes.
“I am your mother and you are my mother” seriously!!! The fuck is that! Hilarious
11: Awesome that Sonja called out Arthur Brooks’s religion-infused opining! Greetings from a Harvard Business School MBA.
Thank you!
There’s no such thing as “happiness”. Humans need purpose to feel whole. Happiness is just another product that makes writers and so-called Gurus lots of money.
this video format suits me a lot
1:20:30 Sonja says that men without children are particularly unhappy. I'd like to know where she is getting this. And where the study is that shows that men with children are happier than men without children.
Childless cat ladies are happy?
Asked ChatGPT and it seems the evidence is a bit mixed, but yes some studies in some cultures seem to suggest men are slightly happier if they have children. But it might also depend on age. I'm guessing for some young men it might be a cause for stress and concern, but when you are older than you probably would prefer to have children.
Rich, please interview Esther Perel. It’s going to be epic!
You cannot search or aspire for happiness - it just happens - it has nothing to do with past present or future and when life or the moment is never about past present and future - it is happiness
This is interesting things
“His holiness” is such a weird way to refer to a dude in 2024
Hahaha so true! Like " your royal highness" & those old stuffy conventions! No thanks! 😅
I know, really. Thinking the same thing.
😂
I mean, considering the circumstances he’s endured throughout his entire life and the level of compassion and altruism he still embodies despite all of that, I think that antiquated title is still fitting.
Hidden Manifestation by Oliver Mercer (thank me later)
If I watch this episode will it make me happy?
How does a mother find happiness when she sat at the bedside of two of her adult children while they died. Are there circumstances where happiness is not an option. Where does love go when you are the mother and had to witness this? How do I come back from this and believe I could be happy again?
I pray I never experience this to know for sure but I know our children need us to be happy and find our way when they are alive and I can't help but feel that that is what has to still be done. I say explore every piece of your being. Every thought you think, every interst, every bit of what you are left with in this life in honor of your babies who loved you with everything. Where can you serve? What can you create? Our lives are multiple lives in one and this is your life after the loss of your children...I say make it count and gain whatever your spirit needs to gain in this.
exactly, stop thinking about your selfeves. think about the world
I’m miserable and never been happier!
No way am I happier when I'm trying to be extroverted. my guess is that most introverts would feel the same. Don't know that I believe she was an introvert and now she's an extrovert. I'm guessing, more likely, that she just became more comfortable with herself. Shout out to Susan Cain for de-pathologizing introversion.
I was in the same camp but then she hit nail in the head "extroversion could be with animals" and then yes, for sure, I was happier when I was with my pets, even though their loss stays with you forever.
Money = Happines ❤
full support
finally
What is that orange band that Rich is wearing on his left wrist?
Whoop
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THE HAPPINESS EXPERT SEEMS UNHAPPY?
But conversation between two people who, like essentially everyone of the same generation, think that humans naturally live in pairs.
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Everyone is your Mother…not resonating 🤷🏾♀️
Do you want to be right or happy? Because you cannot be both at the same time.
we have to stop to make escuses because you are introvert or extrovert. just do what works and will make you happier. in countries with need there are no this questions, this is a western problem!!! do you realise that. thereś no introverts or extroverts when you fighing for life
Shall it be happiness or rather pursuit of content ….would love her to comment on that but well not in this podcast 🙂
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its so incredubly boring thids, u i just leave it all fed up with life i guesss
boredom badumbdum-Buzzcocks
maybe you could go to palestine and talk about this
The pursuit of happiness is bullshit.
Do things for others. Literally the oldest message on earth. Its all in the bible and even without that this is really old news. It’s an insult to people to act like we need an “expert” to tell us the obvious
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its disgusting how the worl is going through war and suffering and you arebtalking about your privilege
She's way over her head being interviewed by Rich Roll. Body language, nervousness, hair flipping..not as experienced in the topic as she thinks she is and what RR thought.
dont listen to happiness experts. no such thing
Haha! He probably pulls this crap out of fortune cookies before meeting with his privileged clientele.
The Dalai Lama…… obviously haven’t seen the video with him and the young boy asking him for kisses on the mouth.
I give my cat mouth kisses. I have no sexual attraction or inappropriate thoughts about my cat. People like you make uncomfortable to even show affection to the people requesting it.
Lick my tongue, I believe it was
Dalai tried to say it was cultural
The video is edited by chinese and made it viral
Girl fix your hair and nails
Maybe she has realised that dosent matter so much
awesome
kamilla harris is the happiness expert !!! lol.... how'd ya like the hope and change from obama also !! lol...TRUMP NOW