I used to be really shy years ago, and was like this.. Now? I could care less.. or as they say. "When you truly don’t care what the fuck anyone thinks of you, you’ve reached a dangerously awesome level of freedom!"
This gave me an aha moment. Trying to put myself out there more, saying and career wise, and I keep sabotaging myself because I'm terrified what other people will say or think. But when you said that I'm chasing other people's approval, and I realized that's exactly the problem. I've been burned before by parents and friends and I'm just scared to feel that again. I think managing this point will make a huge difference in my life. Thank you!
We human beings have an ability to get other human beings to judge us for what we judge ourselves for. If we are at all insecure or unsure about anything we do, we have an ability to evoke a reaction in others. It's as if we have a blinking neon sign that says, "Ask me about my business so you can judge me for how weird it is." The moment we stop judging ourselves, most other people will stop judging us. It's really hard for other people to judge you if you are happy. One of the lessons I've learned is what other people say about others, is really saying something about themselves. One of the biggest groups of people that claims to be so highly judged is young people because they are still so insecure about things themselves.
That is some of the reasons why I don't want to go to my class reunion and my family reunions because of this. I know they will judge me and treat me real bad once I go and I know I will be miserable so why go but I thank God for seeing this video and it helped me a whole lot thank you.
This is so great. When you don't like something about another person, or how that person is treating you, that's a big freaking sign to PAY ATTENTION. It's always about us, and never about them. I've had the biggest breakthroughs in my life when I noticed something that PISSED ME OFF about another person, and I asked myself, what can this teach me about MYSELF?
I want to be a singer and actress and people don't get it they say its a dream that will never happen. I'm good at it though and it makes me so happy. More than anything in the world that is what I want. I wont give up just cuzz others don't get it but it does make me sad when they tell to think about life in a real way. I am thinking in a real way my way t be happy not theirs.
I've just started a UA-cam channel about the part of my life I'm most passionate about but most people don't know about me. Today I finally posted my video on Facebook and my fear of judgement from my traditional family and old friends is so real I can barely sit still. I just have to remember to stand by what I do and what's true to my heart regardless of those who don't understand.
The Potentiality Project : Get rid of your old friends/contacts OR make a new fb profile/fan page & work from there, make new friends/following. Don't 'suggest like' any old contacts until you are famous.. saves a lot of 'thinking time'..
Well done. We have to be a little bit courageous. I need to do the same...i am very awkward about sharing my passions. It is scary, but i believe it gets less scary the more you do it
Now I'm not a psychologist, but as a Buddhist practitioner, who learn how the mind works through Buddhist teaching, there's a reason where this emotion fear come from. The moment each one of us is born into this world, there is a sense that "me is special and different from the rest of the world". And as we're grown up, this sense of separateness become bigger and bigger. This sense of separateness come from the Ego that is programmed into your mind the moment you're born. Here is the thing, as we've grown up and if we don't know about spiritual cultivation, then this ego become strengthened, and bigger. The bigger and more strengthened the ego, the more fearful, loneliness one become. Yes, ego can deceive us to feel good when we see that "we are special and very different from the rest". But that is just a deceiving from the ego, and the price to pay for that "feeling good because I'm very special and different from the rest" is the feeling of fearful and loneliness bigger and bigger. So as you see, the feeling of fear and anxiety already there for so long, it didn't have to wait until something "scary" to be fearful. It's just that we haven't noticed about it. Something "scary" is just an event that amplify the magnitude of "fear" so that you notice it more easily. We can NOT "hack, suppress, kill" these negative emotion because the more we try to avoid it by "hack, suppress, kill" then it can only TEMPORARY go away. And where do they go? These negative emotion will stay deep into deeper layer of the mind until something else come up to trigger it again and again. So what is the use of practice Buddhism you may ask? The answer is, as an Enlightened master, the Gautama Buddha know all the tricks of the mind, so only an enlightened master know effective method how to cure completely these diseases. One of such effective method to cure the mind, yes Buddhist teaching is specialization in curing the mind. One of powerful method is mindfulness so that you learn to observe the mind instead of identifying immediately every time an emotion come up. This way, after a serious practice then your ego become weaker and weaker instead of stronger, because your wisdom through the practice arise. You will be able to see the inter-connectedness among all sentient beings. The less you see someone different from you, the less fearful you become. In other words, you don't have a big ego and the reward you get is a sense of peaceful instead of fearful. I hope it helps my friend. Unfortunately, the western world you're living promoting a sense of "i am very special and different from anyone else", "I need to promote my specialness through doing a certain thing". That's why most of you in a state of confusion and not sure which one right. But if you want to know which one is the right way then you can ask yourself this "All the conflicts in the world, the war, jealousy and so on..."where it comes from if not from the ego, the sense of separateness?" That's why in our Oriental culture many thousand years ago, all the Awakening saints and sages never teach us to promote "I am special and different from the rest". Instead, we just promote a sense of community and de-emphazing the importance of individuality.
I will stop judging myself. If I stop judging myself, I'll close the door to invite others from judging me. ❤ I am happy for being who I am. ❤ I do not need others to approve that I am doing the right thing.❤ I know what is best for myself.
I just found your videos last night, and I have been watching them ALL day and LITERALLY LOLing! I LOVE you! You freakin' ROCK!!!!! Thank you for sharing your gift with the world!
Love this! Especially because my name is also Shanon. :) 1. Don't assume someone is being judgemental 2. Stop trying to control what people think or say about me 3. If someone disapproves of me, don't CHASE someone's approval. 4. Be Happy 5. Get a power posse of likeminded individuals.
This is how i feel all the time i get asked 5 times min a day what i do , im an artist/ business student and its annoying how fearful my family is for me but this vid helped!
Quite interesting and true I must say. I have always been shy and insecure about my hobbies, mostly because I don't want to be seen as egotistical or as a show off. It is time to drop that mentality.
That is even common in the workplace. Even though I brought a lot of revenue to the company. Some of them just refused to understand and accept the company is changing and world is changing.
The fear of being judged can be so paralyzing but you just have to go through the motions and do what you want. The judgement may or may not come but it doesn't matter if you are living your truth and enjoying life. Other people have no power over our lives.
This was so helpful. I started my day overcome with self-doubt based on a dream I had last night. Dumb, but true. This video helped put me back on a positive trajectory.
I'm not scared to tell my friends things, but I am horrified telling my parents anything. I just can't trust them enough because I'm afraid they will get made, disapprove, and/or misunderstand. I'm bisexual but I can't tell my mother because I'm scared she's gonna say "your too young to be thinking about that stuff right now!" I want go see a therapist but what if my problem isn't worth it? I've been searching up things, watching videos and everything that COULD help me. But now, I'm just thinking about when I start school going to the counselor :/
You ROCK giiiirl ;) I can totally relate to this situation, I wish I can just chill out and have fun with it all, instead I feel insecure, scared, & judged! I am trying your tips :) Thanks again!
You like awsome!!! So true, the worse judgment of all is the one we have on ourselves. And because we judge ourselves, everyone else jugdges us. Very true, and very self-experienced. Stop judging yourselv, and start loving yourself no matter the circumstances. If you judge a "bad" circumstance, you should surreder to it, and start being greateful for the oppurtinity you are given to grow and have a soul stamina. See everything good you have, and then you are out of it in no minute automatically.
Stop drinking alcohol. That's my solution. I feel that everyone already knows the answers that will solve their problems, but we just resort to the internet for extra support; which is truly unnecessary. The reason why we do this is because we don't believe enough in ourselves to bring about the changes we want and desire.
Many times they jugde you just because you are ahead of them, haha. Then, when time passes by, and you have a huge success ad finally everybody sees that you were right about what you were doing, they like to believe that they always thought as you did! So, not worthwhile bothering about, XOXO
Being judged makes me feel stronger, no matter how I get judged, even If I talk to a parent I am ready because I know and Go knows that I'm not that kind of person. My true friends can make a proof :)
The older i get the more i don't care what anyone believes about me. I don't even know what i believe they believe of me i am not sure they even are sure what they believe of me and even if i know exactly what they think of me it is none of my business. But i am pretty social and i think most people have a good impression of me so if some don't like me i could not care less...
Being a 32 year old person who films himself rapping about falafels does attract raised eyebrows from people. Then I tell them that those "weird" videos attract companies that want me to work with them. At first they don't care much but when they ask if I get paid working for them, their jaws drop when I tell them what they pay me. I WIN!!
Hello , I just started a hobby of collecting insects and I am a college student I want to catch some butterflies in my campus, this is an outdoor activity so after class I can do that I feel insecure anxious about people around me even from my mum and dad, I feel they would say I'm a child. I just want to not feel nervous, anxious when I try this crafty hobby.
How do you get our pic up with your comments? Oh of course LOVED the video! LOVE how you always give clear concise steps to HOW TO's..Not just what to stop doing. Also how did you start internet marketing career and how are you compensated it was always interest of mine.
Hi. I just focus on what I want to do. If people judge, I can explain and help them understand. If people continue to judge, I'll still continue to do what I want to do. I've found my calling to help sick people. Thanks.
You asked at the end of the vid what we think about ur bling. The neckless thingy was the first thing I noticed when the movie started. I thought...hrm..was that cut with a water jet? I think water jets are cool. They are these tables that a computer controls a super high pressure nozzle that blasts through metal. So my answer to your question...yeah I like ur neck bling. :)
Another great video- thanks Marie! Always insightful and motivating. My book, Pawsitive Connection was recently published and while it was super exciting, it was also super terrifying (for fear of being judged). Your words are exactly what I needed to hear- thank you!
You always dress so classy, love it! I also use your creative outfits to judge if I have seen that video yet or not..lol P.S. How do you get a power posse?? I dont have alot of friends and My family is ...well not at the level I am. Thanks ttfn.
I would like to learn about why we dont like to be judged..the fundamental reason behind it like is it related with our survival or any oother reason??? The best way to tackle a problem is go towards its deep understanding.
I have a really strong fear of not being included.. they always say I don’t think in the way they do so most of the time I’m not included in a lot of things. It might be selfish of me to say I do a lot of things (mean or not) becuz I want to be included and talk with my friends, it was the only way to catch their attention.. and I don’t come from a very rich family so it’s always so hard for me to get them gifts, even if I make something for them from heart, they’ll probably just throw it away, but if I don’t buy them a present they’ll say I’m selfish and not a good friend. I feel depressed becuz there’s no one I could 100% trust and talk to, they’ll just spread rumours. Plz hewlp, how should I deal with my pressure?
Why not try new foods on your own home first? If you really don't like it, leave it. But keep an open mind and try them again after sometime. I hated Sushi at first, but I tried it again and now I love it.
I feel like people judging me #1 and #2 4 I try to do feeling like others are trying to think they are better than me and my stepmom mom said for me to tell people that I am sweet and special that’s how god made me people might be hurting me like this because they might be jealous of me is this why I feel upset
These are great recommendations. Thank you. Yet, here is a question: How do I get a power posse locally when my dearest friends are spread out across the whole country?
A great place to start, Eric, is to lean into your interests. There are more than likely amazing people like you hanging out around interests like the ones you have. And the ones all around the country matter to- that's was FaceTime or video conference calls are for! - Team Forleo
Hi there! ... I always have a struggle about my confidence. And this leads me to an unhealthy way of interacting with other people. I feel Awkward in any social gathering even in the classroom and with the Teacher. I just can't help myself because I always think what other people might say about me. I tried to become confident by showing other people what I can do but sometimes it just don't work because I'm conscious with my body, my skin, my hair and everything I do. I'm afraid to ride in the bus and I get to become and introvert. How can I solve these problems? Thank You very much😘😘😘
Well what happend to me is different i was on my way to school and i forfot my e so my dad went and was checking my msg and he saw one from a boy tht i didnt like but he liked me so my dad saw a msg that said why are u always touching my haair and my dad told my mom to be more strict with me and my phone so now im scared because my dad is judging me and i thik hes mad at me
i am a proffesional yoyoyer. yes i love to yoyo. i hope to soon one day own my own yoyo company. i want to start out online by selling my own yoyos. and then create my own factory where i produce my own designs and yoyo strings and all sorts of different things to go along with yoyos. and as im running my business keep doing what i love best.. showing off on stage what awesome new things i came up with.. any advice on how to start this dream? like how to get yoyos to sell? thanks
Ronald, you have this one life, and if you love cheerleading - which is an amazing sport - go for it. Cheerleading guys do not have to wear the same costume as the girls, and they really are in amazing shape. Do you think people will still laugh when you look this fit? Besides, go to other cheerleading boys and men and ask them how they overcame it or if there were any problems. They were in your shoes and can help you.
NiNi Na ty soo much this paragrapgh really brightened my day but my mom told me that i couldnt be one cuz its too "girly" but im gonnna convince her cuz i wanna be one and i could get a scholarship for it..tysm and got bless u😘
As much as I respect parents and bet that she is a loving mom, this is HER opinion and her insecurities, not yours. If you can get a scholarship with it, how can it be a bad thing? You are trying to do a sport that is good for your body, joining your friends or finding new ones, and you have something to do with your time you are passionate about and which isn't self-abusive or non-productive. It may not be the most common passtime for a guy, but if you only do things that please others even though there is no real harm in doing your own thing, you will live a life with a lot of fear and regret. I have been through regret, and it is worse than the fear/worry you feel now.
I feel like id be a good actor because alot of people tell me id be good doing it so I convinced myself thats what I want to do im not sure how to get over my fear of being infront of people or people watching me in general im 15 so I have a little while to practice please help
my dad never like me for being a ballerina. so he ask me to quit every single day when i was 13. and i quit. now he's comparing me with my friends. what should i do
My family judges about what I wear like my brother said stop wearing those T-shirts so why should I give a care I’m 33 almost I am old enough to wear what I want and my dad says you won’t be an artist and my worker you need practice but everyone used to say I was talented I feel like I am losing passion that I had for fun so I feel like I can sale my paintings but now my worker says practice and my dad says that you won’t make it up there no they are stopping from a business I was going to do
I’m an introvert 31-year-old stepmom. I am constantly judged by family. how do I make Conversation without taking criticism and having others respect me despite their opinions?
Hi Melanie, some of what Marie shares here may be helpful for you: www.marieforleo.com/2018/05/family-drama/ Being a stepparent isn't easy - we're rooting for you and sending lots of support ❤️ -Team Forleo
Q: I am a very picky eater and whenever i try a new food i think its like poison and i feel like im going to throw up and i want to impress my parents by trying new foods.what should i do?
I think this is truer than people realize. 1) Stop judging yourself 2a) People will stop judging you 2b) Stop waiting for their approval 3) Be happy!
1#: Don't always ASSUME they're judgemental 1:48
2#: Don't CHASE people's approval 2:00
3#: Be happy 2:12
4#: Get a POWER POSSE 2:36
Eyyy bruddah
I used to be really shy years ago, and was like this.. Now? I could care less.. or as they say.
"When you truly don’t care what the fuck anyone thinks of you, you’ve reached a dangerously awesome level of freedom!"
This gave me an aha moment. Trying to put myself out there more, saying and career wise, and I keep sabotaging myself because I'm terrified what other people will say or think. But when you said that I'm chasing other people's approval, and I realized that's exactly the problem. I've been burned before by parents and friends and I'm just scared to feel that again. I think managing this point will make a huge difference in my life. Thank you!
Stop judging yourself. Very powerful and deep.
We human beings have an ability to get other human beings to judge us for what we judge ourselves for. If we are at all insecure or unsure about anything we do, we have an ability to evoke a reaction in others. It's as if we have a blinking neon sign that says, "Ask me about my business so you can judge me for how weird it is." The moment we stop judging ourselves, most other people will stop judging us. It's really hard for other people to judge you if you are happy. One of the lessons I've learned is what other people say about others, is really saying something about themselves. One of the biggest groups of people that claims to be so highly judged is young people because they are still so insecure about things themselves.
Amen to that!!! So many people act more as victims and blame everyone else rather than looking at the real source of the problem: themselves.
That is some of the reasons why I don't want to go to my class reunion and my family reunions because of this. I know they will judge me and treat me real bad once I go and I know I will be miserable so why go but I thank God for seeing this video and it helped me a whole lot thank you.
This is so great. When you don't like something about another person, or how that person is treating you, that's a big freaking sign to PAY ATTENTION. It's always about us, and never about them.
I've had the biggest breakthroughs in my life when I noticed something that PISSED ME OFF about another person, and I asked myself, what can this teach me about MYSELF?
I want to be a singer and actress and people don't get it they say its a dream that will never happen. I'm good at it though and it makes me so happy. More than anything in the world that is what I want. I wont give up just cuzz others don't get it but it does make me sad when they tell to think about life in a real way. I am thinking in a real way my way t be happy not theirs.
When people say you can't do something try your hardest tell them to shut up and do your best when you achieve your goal tell them I told you so!
Wow same here
StarrySkyDreamer20 do it
Hey same here
StarrySkyDreamer20 where r u from?
I've just started a UA-cam channel about the part of my life I'm most passionate about but most people don't know about me. Today I finally posted my video on Facebook and my fear of judgement from my traditional family and old friends is so real I can barely sit still. I just have to remember to stand by what I do and what's true to my heart regardless of those who don't understand.
The Potentiality Project : Get rid of your old friends/contacts OR make a new fb profile/fan page & work from there, make new friends/following. Don't 'suggest like' any old contacts until you are famous.. saves a lot of 'thinking time'..
Well done. We have to be a little bit courageous. I need to do the same...i am very awkward about sharing my passions. It is scary, but i believe it gets less scary the more you do it
I’ve been going through depression and self harm because of my appearance so I have the fear of other people’s judgement....
Yessss we must stop judging ourselves first and others will slowly but surely (and hopefully) follow suit of non-judgment!
Now I'm not a psychologist, but as a Buddhist practitioner, who learn
how the mind works through Buddhist teaching, there's a reason where
this emotion fear come from. The moment each one of us is born into this
world, there is a sense that "me is special and different from the rest
of the world". And as we're grown up, this sense of separateness become
bigger and bigger. This sense of separateness come from the Ego that is
programmed into your mind the moment you're born. Here is the thing, as
we've grown up and if we don't know about spiritual cultivation, then
this ego become strengthened, and bigger. The bigger and more
strengthened the ego, the more fearful, loneliness one become. Yes, ego
can deceive us to feel good when we see that "we are special and very
different from the rest". But that is just a deceiving from the ego, and
the price to pay for that "feeling good because I'm very special and
different from the rest" is the feeling of fearful and loneliness bigger
and bigger.
So as you see, the feeling of fear and anxiety already there for so
long, it didn't have to wait until something "scary" to be fearful. It's
just that we haven't noticed about it. Something "scary" is just an
event that amplify the magnitude of "fear" so that you notice it more
easily.
We can NOT "hack, suppress, kill" these negative emotion because the more we
try to avoid it by "hack, suppress, kill" then it can only TEMPORARY go away.
And where do they go? These negative emotion will stay deep into deeper layer
of the mind until something else come up to trigger it again and again.
So what is the use of practice Buddhism you may ask? The answer is,
as an Enlightened master, the Gautama Buddha know all the tricks of the
mind, so only an enlightened master know effective method how to cure completely
these diseases. One of such effective method to cure the mind, yes Buddhist
teaching is specialization in curing the mind. One of powerful method is
mindfulness so that you learn to observe the mind instead of
identifying immediately every time an emotion come up. This way, after a
serious practice then your ego become weaker and weaker instead of
stronger, because your wisdom through the practice arise. You will be
able to see the inter-connectedness among all sentient beings. The less
you see someone different from you, the less fearful you become. In
other words, you don't have a big ego and the reward you get is a sense
of peaceful instead of fearful. I hope it helps my friend.
Unfortunately, the western world you're living promoting a sense of
"i am very special and different from anyone else", "I need to promote
my specialness through doing a certain thing". That's why most of you in
a state of confusion and not sure which one right.
But if you want to know which one is the right way then you can ask
yourself this "All the conflicts in the world, the war, jealousy and so
on..."where it comes from if not from the ego, the sense of
separateness?"
That's why in our Oriental culture many thousand years ago, all the
Awakening saints and sages never teach us to promote "I am special and
different from the rest". Instead, we just promote a sense of community
and de-emphazing the importance of individuality.
im so fear of being judge because i think im a highly sensetive person i cant really control my emotions
I've never considered that I'm drawing judgement . . . this completely makes sense to me. Also, finding your 'tribe' is HUGE! Thanks Marie!
I will stop judging myself. If I stop judging myself, I'll close the door to invite others from judging me. ❤
I am happy for being who I am. ❤
I do not need others to approve that I am doing the right thing.❤ I know what is best for myself.
YES, Jihan! We love seeing you share those mantras 💖 We support you and send you tons of positivity your way! - Monauar, Team Forleo
I just found your videos last night, and I have been watching them ALL day and LITERALLY LOLing! I LOVE you! You freakin' ROCK!!!!! Thank you for sharing your gift with the world!
Love this! Especially because my name is also Shanon. :)
1. Don't assume someone is being judgemental
2. Stop trying to control what people think or say about me
3. If someone disapproves of me, don't CHASE someone's approval.
4. Be Happy
5. Get a power posse of likeminded individuals.
This is how i feel all the time i get asked 5 times min a day what i do , im an artist/ business student and its annoying how fearful my family is for me but this vid helped!
Love this quote from Elanor Roosevelt: "what other people think of me is none of my business!"
Quite interesting and true I must say. I have always been shy and insecure about my hobbies, mostly because I don't want to be seen as egotistical or as a show off. It is time to drop that mentality.
People don't realize the goldmine in her teachings...all the answers are in them
That is even common in the workplace. Even though I brought a lot of revenue to the company. Some of them just refused to understand and accept the company is changing and world is changing.
The fear of being judged can be so paralyzing but you just have to go through the motions and do what you want. The judgement may or may not come but it doesn't matter if you are living your truth and enjoying life. Other people have no power over our lives.
You nailed this! Especially that "deep" point. Love it!
This was so helpful. I started my day overcome with self-doubt based on a dream I had last night. Dumb, but true. This video helped put me back on a positive trajectory.
what a shining personality! Thank You for BEing You, Marie :)
i needed this thank :)
I'm not scared to tell my friends things, but I am horrified telling my parents anything. I just can't trust them enough because I'm afraid they will get made, disapprove, and/or misunderstand. I'm bisexual but I can't tell my mother because I'm scared she's gonna say "your too young to be thinking about that stuff right now!" I want go see a therapist but what if my problem isn't worth it? I've been searching up things, watching videos and everything that COULD help me. But now, I'm just thinking about when I start school going to the counselor :/
I don't really care if people judge the way I am it's none of their consern. Besides god is the only who can truly judge.
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Find your iden
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This is really funny and helpful. :D Thanks!
Well this is not completely true because there is people that judge even though you dont give them a reason too!
liveindamoment This. And I wouldn't call it a 'fear' of being judged it's more of an annoyance. And this isn't something you're doing to yourself.
00:36, I officially hate you, lol! I almost fell out of my chair from laughing so hard. Your videos are too awesome for words!
Thank you for your kind video
You ROCK giiiirl ;)
I can totally relate to this situation, I wish I can just chill out and have fun with it all, instead I feel insecure, scared, & judged!
I am trying your tips :)
Thanks again!
You like awsome!!! So true, the worse judgment of all is the one we have on ourselves. And because we judge ourselves, everyone else jugdges us. Very true, and very self-experienced. Stop judging yourselv, and start loving yourself no matter the circumstances. If you judge a "bad" circumstance, you should surreder to it, and start being greateful for the oppurtinity you are given to grow and have a soul stamina. See everything good you have, and then you are out of it in no minute automatically.
Stop drinking alcohol. That's my solution. I feel that everyone already knows the answers that will solve their problems, but we just resort to the internet for extra support; which is truly unnecessary. The reason why we do this is because we don't believe enough in ourselves to bring about the changes we want and desire.
@GenjiZerk appreciate this comment.. this is so true
Many times they jugde you just because you are ahead of them, haha. Then, when time passes by, and you have a huge success ad finally everybody sees that you were right about what you were doing, they like to believe that they always thought as you did! So, not worthwhile bothering about, XOXO
0:37 I Instantly subscribed and liked the moment I've understood what kind of person am I watching.
I don't even have a business(I'm in education), but you're advice works for me anyway! Thanks!
Being judged makes me feel stronger, no matter how I get judged, even If I talk to a parent I am ready because I know and Go knows that I'm not that kind of person. My true friends can make a proof :)
The older i get the more i don't care what anyone believes about me. I don't even know what i believe they believe of me i am not sure they even are sure what they believe of me and even if i know exactly what they think of me it is none of my business. But i am pretty social and i think most people have a good impression of me so if some don't like me i could not care less...
In my old shool- people always used to make jokes abt everything i did. and now i second guess everything about myself
damn who knew i'd need this in the future-
i was 6 yrs old when this was posted omg-
Being a 32 year old person who films himself rapping about falafels does attract raised eyebrows from people.
Then I tell them that those "weird" videos attract companies that want me to work with them. At first they don't care much but when they ask if I get paid working for them, their jaws drop when I tell them what they pay me.
I WIN!!
Hello , I just started a hobby of collecting insects and I am a college student I want to catch some butterflies in my campus, this is an outdoor activity so after class I can do that I feel insecure anxious about people around me even from my mum and dad, I feel they would say I'm a child.
I just want to not feel nervous, anxious when I try this crafty hobby.
Thanks for this video Marie! This is very insightful.
How do you get our pic up with your comments? Oh of course LOVED the video! LOVE how you always give clear concise steps to HOW TO's..Not just what to stop doing.
Also how did you start internet marketing career and how are you compensated it was always interest of mine.
excellent Marie.
I have fear of being judged by Close family and friends.How do I overcome that?
You are doing good work Marie.
We dance together as one. Hahaha
Omg. Made my night lol. Love you Marie. You’re so funny!
Hi. I just focus on what I want to do. If people judge, I can explain and help them understand. If people continue to judge, I'll still continue to do what I want to do. I've found my calling to help sick people. Thanks.
My God! This was in 2011? This is still relevant Marie :)
i'm always being judged by people for not being good enough or being ugly
So helpful!!! Thank you!!!
You asked at the end of the vid what we think about ur bling. The neckless thingy was the first thing I noticed when the movie started. I thought...hrm..was that cut with a water jet? I think water jets are cool. They are these tables that a computer controls a super high pressure nozzle that blasts through metal. So my answer to your question...yeah I like ur neck bling. :)
Another great video- thanks Marie! Always insightful and motivating.
My book, Pawsitive Connection was recently published and while it was super exciting, it was also super terrifying (for fear of being judged). Your words are exactly what I needed to hear- thank you!
Oh I love this channel soooo much...
Wow thank you for this
Love your videos 👍.
You always dress so classy, love it! I also use your creative outfits to judge if I have seen that video yet or not..lol P.S. How do you get a power posse?? I dont have alot of friends and My family is ...well not at the level I am. Thanks ttfn.
I would like to learn about why we dont like to be judged..the fundamental reason behind it like is it related with our survival or any oother reason??? The best way to tackle a problem is go towards its deep understanding.
This is your Best Vid!
Thanks for the help
I have a really strong fear of not being included.. they always say I don’t think in the way they do so most of the time I’m not included in a lot of things. It might be selfish of me to say I do a lot of things (mean or not) becuz I want to be included and talk with my friends, it was the only way to catch their attention.. and I don’t come from a very rich family so it’s always so hard for me to get them gifts, even if I make something for them from heart, they’ll probably just throw it away, but if I don’t buy them a present they’ll say I’m selfish and not a good friend. I feel depressed becuz there’s no one I could 100% trust and talk to, they’ll just spread rumours. Plz hewlp, how should I deal with my pressure?
Damn, this is so right! So what, people can read my mind?
I needed this. Thank you. Could you do a video on assertiveness please?
Thanks for sharing the video.
Hi, you are doing a really a good job.
i like the topics you speak about.
I really love your shirt!! Where can I to find it?
these are really great vids! thanks
Lol your so funny, love this video!
Why not try new foods on your own home first? If you really don't like it, leave it. But keep an open mind and try them again after sometime. I hated Sushi at first, but I tried it again and now I love it.
I feel like people judging me #1 and #2 4 I try to do feeling like others are trying to think they are better than me and my stepmom mom said for me to tell people that I am sweet and special that’s how god made me people might be hurting me like this because they might be jealous of me is this why I feel upset
Now I know I'm not shy in front of people I'm afraid of being judged by what I have to say, that's different.
Hahaha your so cute and FUNNY!! LOL great video.
ThankYOU!
These are great recommendations. Thank you. Yet, here is a question: How do I get a power posse locally when my dearest friends are spread out across the whole country?
A great place to start, Eric, is to lean into your interests. There are more than likely amazing people like you hanging out around interests like the ones you have. And the ones all around the country matter to- that's was FaceTime or video conference calls are for! - Team Forleo
That's superb
Hi there! ... I always have a struggle about my confidence. And this leads me to an unhealthy way of interacting with other people. I feel Awkward in any social gathering even in the classroom and with the Teacher. I just can't help myself because I always think what other people might say about me. I tried to become confident by showing other people what I can do but sometimes it just don't work because I'm conscious with my body, my skin, my hair and everything I do. I'm afraid to ride in the bus and I get to become and introvert. How can I solve these problems? Thank You very much😘😘😘
Well what happend to me is different i was on my way to school and i forfot my e so my dad went and was checking my msg and he saw one from a boy tht i didnt like but he liked me so my dad saw a msg that said why are u always touching my haair and my dad told my mom to be more strict with me and my phone so now im scared because my dad is judging me and i thik hes mad at me
i am a proffesional yoyoyer. yes i love to yoyo. i hope to soon one day own my own yoyo company. i want to start out online by selling my own yoyos. and then create my own factory where i produce my own designs and yoyo strings and all sorts of different things to go along with yoyos. and as im running my business keep doing what i love best.. showing off on stage what awesome new things i came up with.. any advice on how to start this dream? like how to get yoyos to sell? thanks
Thanks
Where do you get your clothes??
How do i overcome the fear of judgement for being a cheerleader..i wanna be one but ill be talked about cuz im a boy
Ronald, you have this one life, and if you love cheerleading - which is an amazing sport - go for it. Cheerleading guys do not have to wear the same costume as the girls, and they really are in amazing shape. Do you think people will still laugh when you look this fit? Besides, go to other cheerleading boys and men and ask them how they overcame it or if there were any problems. They were in your shoes and can help you.
NiNi Na ty soo much this paragrapgh really brightened my day but my mom told me that i couldnt be one cuz its too "girly" but im gonnna convince her cuz i wanna be one and i could get a scholarship for it..tysm and got bless u😘
As much as I respect parents and bet that she is a loving mom, this is HER opinion and her insecurities, not yours. If you can get a scholarship with it, how can it be a bad thing? You are trying to do a sport that is good for your body, joining your friends or finding new ones, and you have something to do with your time you are passionate about and which isn't self-abusive or non-productive. It may not be the most common passtime for a guy, but if you only do things that please others even though there is no real harm in doing your own thing, you will live a life with a lot of fear and regret. I have been through regret, and it is worse than the fear/worry you feel now.
Glad I could brighten your day a bit. :)
NiNi Na ty😘😘
I feel like id be a good actor because alot of people tell me id be good doing it so I convinced myself thats what I want to do im not sure how to get over my fear of being infront of people or people watching me in general im 15 so I have a little while to practice please help
swinging move marvellous. why don't you go head further.
different expression is sooooo lovely
my dad never like me for being a ballerina. so he ask me to quit every single day when i was 13. and i quit. now he's comparing me with my friends. what should i do
My family judges about what I wear like my brother said stop wearing those T-shirts so why should I give a care I’m 33 almost I am old enough to wear what I want and my dad says you won’t be an artist and my worker you need practice but everyone used to say I was talented I feel like I am losing passion that I had for fun so I feel like I can sale my paintings but now my worker says practice and my dad says that you won’t make it up there no they are stopping from a business I was going to do
"Power Posse" ..... easier said than done.
I’m an introvert 31-year-old stepmom. I am constantly judged by family. how do I make Conversation without taking criticism and having others respect me despite their opinions?
Hi Melanie, some of what Marie shares here may be helpful for you: www.marieforleo.com/2018/05/family-drama/
Being a stepparent isn't easy - we're rooting for you and sending lots of support ❤️ -Team Forleo
Mmm a lot of people judge me and they often assume I'm evil
Thank u
i really like this video! Thankyou!
Q: I am a very picky eater and whenever i try a new food i think its like poison and i feel like im going to throw up and i want to impress my parents by trying new foods.what should i do?
late to the party but this girls dope
The Gospel Truth!