Love them either way.. as heartbreaking as it is.. as a father this story Kinda made me sad.. looking at his toddler pictures smiling.. that’s not evil. May all who died in this story rest in peace..
My heart goes out to his parents. I went through similar fears about my son. He’s now living with his dad in another country though it came at a major cost to me. I spent over 130k on therapy, diagnosis etc and nearly lost my job from all these therapy appointments. Sometimes there’s no way out for parents who have kids like this. I consider myself very lucky.
I’ve been spending the past 13 months keeping my 58 year old brother from killing our mom for her estate since the death of my beloved father. Sometimes we do know evil when we see it.
I, 56/f, have been trying to keep my brother, 58, from killing our mother for her sizable estate since our beloved father died. It’s been a nightmare. Sometimes we do know evil is in our midst.
You know if he will get rid of his mother for money, the next step is always siblings so they don’t have to share the ‘prize.’ Seems like you’re a target just as much as your mother, you just haven’t realised this yet.
@DC-bp8sx oh my God, holy. Dude, what's crazy is I literally just put on "Stranger things demogorgon theme" right before I inconveniently read your comment. That's actually horrifying 😲
And you know what's funny is the fact that Aaron had more of a connection with his dad more than most primarily woman since they are the ones who mostly do not as shown in the facts with statistics and evidence speaks volumes. Maybe there's something to learn here especially if his conditions shouldn't allow him to have such connection. This one man was better than most in this society primarily women and had a connection with a dad than them despite his neurological condition
It makes me wonder how his father managed to make such a strong connection, what did he do different? Many times we hear about aspd despise and being violent towards their parents.
As a child I could feel no sympathy or understanding for my father who would often be put in a mental asylum. I only understood the effects it had on my life. Only now, later in life can I feel sympathy and understanding of the torment he must have gone through.
@@jv-ep2tc Unless they remain in a state of arrested development, with appropriate human interaction, most people will grow out of self-centeredness through undergoing the process of cognitive>emotional>compassionate development.
Many people go their whole lives seeing others only in terms of their "effects." When this form of dehumanization is aimed at the disabled, ill, or vulnerable who can't control the disruption they have on the lives of those around them, the additional pain these vulnerable, already-suffering people experience is, I believe, one of closest things to hell a person can experience on earth. It's like a soul murder, like being annihilated over and over yet still locked into existence
It's why I'm here. Grim stories and he shows a balanced truth when telling them. The occasional deadpan asides are killer. I like the cacti collection too.
There was a video he did with his wife. She seems very sweet and I swear they seem perfect together. They have the same delivery. I imagine a family together at a dinner table analyzing the day’s events and punctuating each with a 1 liner without laughing just nodding their heads. I’d love to be included!
Aaron’s self awareness and honesty feels quite rare. I watch a lot of crime stories, and I’ve almost never come across one where the perpetrator has admitted feeling no remorse, not pretended to be crazy, and stated as much in court. Just an unabashed recognition of their psychopathy. Fascinating. 💔💔💔
I agree it is rare and fascinating. I would recommend checking out a video here on youtube by JCS- criminal psychology called "what pretenind to be crazy looks like". A few minutes into the video theres a short segment on a young man who killed a college dorm roommate and was caught an hour or so later and he answered all the investigator's questions honestly and indifferently. Its chilling. He was found legally insane bc of his inability to feel and know right from wrong. He doesnt even try to lie or get out of trouble. He was like you said - unabashedly forthcoming about everything. Its the only interview I've ever seen where someone is like that. Check it out!
@@amandaduerk5866 I'm glad you liked it! It's crazy isn't it? The way he just answers every question without any emotion behind it. And when he's asked if he regrets it he says something like he regrets that he got caught so quickly. And he goes through the crime step by step like he's describing running errands.
Aaron was so self aware. He knew what and who he was and admitted it. Glad he wrote that letter to his father, his dad would at least know he was appreciated
I have autism, I am high functioning, it took a lot of work and determination. One of the symptoms I have is not able to feel loneliness. The description of loneliness does not match what I feel when I’m alone. I understand and there is a feeling associated with being alone, loneliness is something I would love to feel. There are all the things that I do not understand, concepts, outside of my innate intellect, is the concept of time. I understand, I keep time, punctual as possible to appointments and gatherings, so this has been taught to me, and I’ve learned… in my mind, what happened in the past it’s like it happened yesterday. Time seems to fold in on itself and I’ll certainly stop a conversation, only a week or sometimes several months down the road, I’ll pick up the conversation again, as if I had never stopped talking on the subject. It had been pointed out to me when I do this we are usually in the same spot where I stopped talking. I do not notice this myself, but my friends have. I have difficulty remembering what day it is, because I lose track of the time that has passed or has not yet passed. it is very difficult for me to express with words what I’m thinking, so I hope I made at least a little bit of sense.
People of average cognition also feel the passing of time going different ways. When you’re happy it goes faster, when you’re sad it seems to slow down. When you’re bored at work it drags on but when you’re at a concert it’s over quickly. I hope you are able to string together the unfolding of time in your mind. I use pictures to find the pathways that guide me back to my memories. Pictures and videos are the bread crumbs.
@@indescribable3865 : the one thing I can say is, I can never get bored. I have so much to learn at the same time, holding onto what I’ve already learned in an accomplished. Refer to unbending, I find that interesting because that is the word that I would use.
Sometimes I wonder about having kids, not biological obviously that's only for the foolish, but maybe stepkids. I'd love to get my willie wonkas rocks off in the twilight zone, day n nite, 24/7 relieving that over and over again in time. As the wise nature boy once said (and in that one Blur song 2) "woohoo" No dark places here! Just unambiguous true love and happiness. Whatever it takes
Though Faust wasn’t antisocial. He was an accomplished academic who realized that his degrees mocked how little he knew. Faust’s story is quite different.
@socialcommentary1014 okay, how about this then? An antisocial accomplished academic that realized his degrees mocked how little he knew. I don't think it's that much of a twist
I went to school with a boy who looked and acted almost identical. I remember being in first second grade being terrified of him. Something was off even at six/seven years old. I wouldn’t be surprised in the least if I found out he was some kind of psychopath/sociopath.
They say you shouldn't judge a book by it's cover, but sometimes you should. I've known a couple like him, and they had that kind of look and energy that said stay as far away as you can. I think it might even be more obvious in the early grades when they aren't yet very sophisticated at deception, certainly it's usually obvious to other kids.
I had a similar situation in a private school I was in. A boy that was a narcissistic psychopath bully one time on the bus was sitting next to me & he looked at me with a silly grin smile that turned into a angry psychopathic look in a split second & it scared the living daylights out of me. He went on to committing crime stealing cars with a tow truck & eventually raped a little boy & was sent to prison!!
That poem got to me, as does the fact that he understood on a coldly objective level there was something wrong. There was a contract killer who I think was called Iceman - and he had the same lack of remorse or feeling, and he too understood on some level that it wasn't normal.
Why would you fear death? Every person / even every animal has this destination. Like breathing, eating, sleeping its just part of our nature. Maybe you could be afraid of the process of dying like feeling intense pain or being in an situation others see you vulnerable but death itself is just something to not worry about because you can't change that
@@BunnaySango That would have to be the least scary thing. If there is nothing, you will never know it. There will be the same amount of 'you' there was prior to being born to experience it or reflect on it. And, no worrying about whether you picked the right god to worship out of the tens of thousands of gods that've been worshipped by different cultures throughout history.
@@antonbellis2397 I fear death because I absolutely love living. I get so much much satisfaction and joy from raising my kids with my wife, interacting with friends, doing activities on my own, talking to strangers, exploring the Earth, etc. The thought of that ending fills me with dread, even though I accept that once it happens I won't think anything ever again. Add to all that the pain my wife and kids will go through when I die and it all adds up to a pretty big negative from my perspective.
I want to believe his profession of faith was real, but only God really knows for certain. Dark empaths know how to manipulate people because they have cognitive empathy but lack emotional and compassionate empathy.
The fact that Aaraon had more of a connection with his dad more than most primarily woman since they are the ones who mostly do not as shown in the facts with statistics and evidence speaks volumes. Maybe there's something to learn here especially if his conditions shouldn't allow him to have such connection. This one man was better than most in this society primarily women and had a connection with a dad than them despite his neurological condition
It was a sweet poem with a lot of feel. He started off as a cute little boy. It's sad, it's almost as if his brain short circuited in his head causing conflicting emotions and lack of feel.
@@AlternateMichael I have seen this type of connection before because my step-dad was divorced from his first wife. They were long-term high school sweethearts. Once they got their diplomas she said she was pregnant. Even though it was a false claim, they were forced to get married. His father was for it. His mother was against it. This caused a rift between him and his beloved biological father. So, they had to quickly get his new wife pregnant with the first of their three biological children as soon as possible. She became a terrible alcoholic who drank more and more before, during, and after each pregnancy. So, she was a terrible parent. As a single parent who relied on his mother and housekeepers to take care of his boys, he spoiled his kids rotten, long before they got into trouble with the law, to make up for the fact their mother was not a stable part of their lives. In my opinion, the first has Factor 1 ASPD; the second has a Factor 2 ASPD; and the third is Factor 2 ASPD in a folie à trois (i.e., DSM-5 shared psychotic disorder) "honor among thieves"-type of relationship. At my step-dad's death, the last two of his biological sons from his first marriage cried in agony, but his eldest, whom he was closest to, did not/could not. He was noticeably enraged over his brothers' ability to cry along with me as I prayed for my Christian step-dad. His first son's total lack of empathy was disturbing, not unexpected.
Thank you Dr. Grande for outlining what it is like for the families of mentally ill persons. I do not know if a person with severe personality disorders suffers from their affliction, but I know first hand how family suffers from the actions of them.
As a person who dealt with borderline from 15-33 truuuuust me we suffer GREATLY with our affliction. The depths of our own self loathing, constant feelings of complete emptiness, having no sense of who you are or what you stand for.Most of us die from suicide, drug overdose, or get better through treatment, or in my case aged out of it (its a real thing I'm not making it up you can look it up)
@@DonMega888 Thank you for sharing your experience. In no way was I belittling anyone, it's just that those with mental illness who have done me great damage have never expressed any regret or changed in response for all I have done for them. I do know how devastating their actions were on all around them. It may sound cold, but I cannot afford to waste the little time I have left on dealing with anyone who has these disorders. My ex eventually, as you, aged out of her disorders, but not before scaring the family deeply. I am truly glad to hear you have seemed to reach a balance in your life, it must be a relief for you. Maybe, from a distance, you can let anyone you did damage to know you now wish they can find a way to understand and forgive. May you find peace and be able to come to terms with the past and embrace the future.
@@DonMega888 I can't know for sure, but I would presume that someone with ASPD would not suffer as much compared to others, since they lack remorse. I have known people (and even dated one woman) with BPD, and their suffering was indeed immense. I'm so sorry that you are facing this illness. Edit: "Dealt?" That's wonderful that you have found some relief. My ex has as well.
@@DonMega888my therapist just told me I’m either aged out or on the verge. I’m 26 got diagnosed at 17. Honestly i had to isolate myself for a long time. I feel like i can breathe. Hopefully i will be able to have less sessions soon (DBT) that would help with bills 😂
I do not like scents..they make me cough uncontrollably. I do like/love Dr. Grande…if being sponsored by a product I don’t care for and I don’t think aligns with the person Dr Grande seems to be…so be it…it keeps the channel healthy and Dr Grande here for us.
I don’t mind it, he chose his selling points well and it doesn’t seem too forced. I’d say anything less tame than this might be a bit off putting to me, especially during an episode talking about murderers and criminals. But like, he’s gotta pay the bills just like everyone else!
This a textbook case for psychopathic personality disorder. He genuinely did not care about anything; however, he saw his father struggle with him. I find this interesting because it implicates psychopaths are very well aware of sympathy, but they cannot feel it. Kinda like knowing what something is , but never experiencing it. The human mind can be very sad and fascinating
“Psychopathic personality disorder” is not a real diagnosis. Also it’s inappropriate to psychoanalyze people you don’t know or have the authority to scrutinize. Leave it as “he’s a cruel person” without all this armchair psychologist crap. I know true crime audiences like to believe they know everything, but you don’t.😊
@@Sofiaode18 Hi Sofia. I’m in post grad school for psychology. On my way to be a female Dr. Grande. How about you stop judging people you do not know online because you are “triggered.” Have a blessed day. ☺️
@@Sofiaode18 We can tell you are projecting your anger with people who psychoanalyze you. The truth is all psychology is theories and an attempt for people to understand why people act the way they do. So, don't take it personally when people psychoanalyze eachother. Just know in yourself that it's not true, or if many people tell you something, maybe it is true in some way.
I saw the whole interview with the father on the show “Evil Lives Here.” The father was so loving and would do anything to help his son, but nothing worked. His son was just born a psychopath.
I read that he changed right after his mother left. His parents divorced because his mother cheated on his father. I thought it odd that his mother didn't raise him, but perhaps she lost custody due to her infidelity? Obviously he suffered from her loss.
I'm surprised there's such a nuanced comment as yours left on UA-cam. Everyone on UA-cam automatically jumps to the idea that all murderers are raised to be through crappy parenting.
Something about this psychopath is strangely respectable. He actually understood his limitations as someone with ANPD, sounded logical, and of course as others have pointed, surprisingly had a special place in his heart for his father. I wonder how he would have felt if someone had killed his father before he died? Would that have inspired feelings from him?
Not when I was with jail. A lot of wardens seem to think prisoners that are clean-shaven and potentially armed are better than prisoners that are disarmed but have beards. They talk about beards like they're inherently unhygienic. They also allow prisoners to access power tools and knives from the kitchen, it's just silly. Why give them the chance to take one? By the time it is clear that one is missing, someone could already be stabbed. Just seems silly when you consider the cost-benefit analysis.
Only because prisoners are now allowed to steal as many razorblades as they want to outside of prison... no one really goes to prison any more, it seems.
This story was featured on the show " Evil lives here" Aaron's father told the stories how he jad to deal with his son , it's really sad what the dad went through for his kid!
hi Dr. Grande, could you consider doing an analysis of the Jackie Brucia/Debi Stevens case where Debi was fired AFTER giving her boss, Jackie, a kidney to save her life? Thanks!
Excellent analysis, Dr. Grande. My heart goes out to his family who it sounds like tried everything they could. Also, my heart goes out to his victim(s). Thank you, Dr. Grande!
I know a lot (if not most or all) people with ASPD become that way from trauma. That lines up with how his dad described the sudden shift in his behavior. I wonder what happened that made him this way
That’s sociopathy, second degree aspd. Psychopathy, aka first degree aspd, is something that people are born with but traumatic events can potentially worsen it. Sociopathy is developed through traumatic childhood events. So you are partly right, usually we hear more about people with aspd who went through something traumatic. But in this case, I'm predicting that he was simply born that way with first degree aspd Edit: I've gotten a few replies to this comment and they brought up some good points, psychology is super nuanced and only 100% works in theory. So I apologize for acting like what I said was 100% fact when it is impossible to fully determine that in this field of work
I agree. To hear he was normal as a child and then suddenly at 4, everything changed… something happened. Sometimes the event just doesn’t end up on the parent’s radar. Especially at such a young age, it can really alter someone’s developmental trajectory.
@@pipermccool Unfortunately, you are incorrect. According to the National Institutes of Health, "Empathy typically emerges as the child comes to a greater awareness of the experience of others, during the second and third years of life, and arises in the context of a social interaction."
I always see and hear how some people don’t feel feelings but anger is a feeling. It’s one everyone feels but leads to violence for only some situations or some people.
Sounds like his life turned at age 4 when his parents divorced and his dad couldn't be around and left him with a sitter, it didn't seem like his mom was in his life either, some young kids are so angry they grow up hating the world, they become so mean and mad that everyone who meets them ends up just done with them, which in turn doesn't help the situation, they soon grow to be angry adults that do a lot of damage.
I don't think the divorce had much to do with it,maybe made it easier to see,but that's it. Most kids of divorced parents do not end up like this.the kids may have problems, act out, this is different. He was born this way.
No one is born evil. He showed no signs of behavioural problems until they split. Dad remarried almost immediately but no info was given about how the kid reacted to that or why his dad had full custody. I suspect it was not the split that affected him directly but rather he was abused at some point in some way or neglected, for example no info about his life before the split how his mother treated him or what kind of upbringing he experienced with the stepmom. I had a sibling who was a sociopath and another who was a psychopath. The psychopath was exposed to cocaine in utero and both were molested by an older neighbour kid at ages 2-4 . There is always a reason for mental illness or personality disorder.
@@shirleya-z794To be entirely fair, you can’t really show sociopathic/psychopathic tendencies at 4. He was too young when they split to know the true effect it had.
@@shirleya-z794 It's becoming apparent that there is a neurological basis for some aspects of psychopathy, and that there may be genetically heritable factors. Some people, it seems, are just wired differently. Though not all go on to commit heinous crimes, they have a strong predisposition towards traits associated with psychopathy, particularly factor one type. Environmental factors can exacerbate (or potentially mitigate) the severity of these traits, but they don't require environmental triggers to occur.
I watched this story a few years ago. As a father myself, the interviews with Aaron’s father brought tears to my eyes. He honestly tried. On another note, it’s about time some company capitalized on the doc’s natural suave and debonair presence!
Interesting how so many serial killers come from a home where the mother abandoned the family. As is they had a premonition that the kid was not right from the start.
Thank you Dr. Grande for your informed, compassionate and non judgemental commentary on this lost soul. So many lives ruined by mental illness. Thanks to God for all his tender mercy.
I have an aunt who said she really considered killing one of her sons who had behaviors like this when he was a child. He was constantly in trouble and always hurting other children, including his siblings. He would also hurt and torture animals, which is hallmark behavior for a future serial killer. Nothing her and her husband did or said seemed to work. She said the only reason she didn't kill him was she knew family and neighbors would question where he was, and she didn't want to go to prison. He went to church with a friend one day and it was like a switch turned on. He ended up becoming a preacher, working a full-time job, getting married and having children who all loved him dearly. Everyone was shocked that he actually made something of himself other than a prisoner or dead. He passed away from a heart attack before he turned 50 and we miss him very much.
In addition to the soul, there is the "spirit" & this kid his spirit became alive by accepting J.C./Yeshua in his life & he really meant it. There are humans who have a soul but no spirit & these are the ones who cannot be reached!! The spirit connects a human to God!!
Dr. Grande - Just realized that I no longer need to watch Investigations Discovery (ID) because you've got their cases all covered. Thank you, and I sincerely wish you & Amy a very happy & prosperous 2024! 👍💜🌵
Heartbreaking for his parents and what a sad life for Aaron who understood that he was not " normal". Dangerous individual in society, with no way to fix it! Hoping he found what he was looking for....
I learn so much from you I take notes and make my own research Today was a little bit heavy but all new to me (cluster b, histrionic personality disorder) You're an amazing educator/mentor I can't thank you enough, I'm so grateful 💚🌻
Dr. Grande, what can a parent do in a situation like Aaron Foust? I can't help but feeling sorry for a person who has no ability to have love for other people. What a miserable sounding life.
Some kids are more sensitive to divorce. I wonder if that had anything to do with the behavioral issues that began after the separation. It makes sense that an only child would take his parents' separation even harder than a child who had more close family relationships. It would be interesting to learn more about this man's childhood and the relationship he had with his mother after the divorce.
I agree. Not justifying what he did. Probably a Mix of nature/nurture but think when your mother is replaced by a stranger the same year your parents get divorced and you have a brand new mother at that age, that is going to leave some kind of mark...
Nah. Sensitive kids is not the category he would have ever been put in. And even the most sensitive and easily traumatised children tend not to be psychos.
@@It-is-me...Melsie I don't mean sensitive in the sense of empathetic. I mean "sensitive" as in, affected by the environment in ways that others would not be.
He was very handsome as a young lad. I don’t know how kids like this end up this way without serious trauma…Sometimes you can parent very well and they just aren’t right. I’m sad the father had to feel that way about his own son. I have 4 sons with my husband. They’re 31, 20, 16 and 10 years old and I’m never complaining about them again…
Mental Health issues are No joke. If you're poor with NO insurance it's Horrific. It's hard on that person but also every other member of their immediate family . It truly is Heartbreaking all the way around.
The good looking ones are the WORST people allow them to get away with shit, it's a nightmare 😂 I'd be thinking "I'm trying to train him to be better and you're telling him he's so handsome then I have to deal with his inflated ass"
@@CATNAPREAL1188 I had serious mental health issues. Including ptsd from repeated s3xual trauma. I was poor as dirt but my county mental health department was a literal lifesaver. Most places within the United States have county health departments with sliding scale payments. If you need it, please Google your county + mental health services. 💕
People think remorse is tears, crying, feeling emotions of regret. Remorse is in the will. Emotions or tears are not necessary. Remorse...sorrow....regret....is in the WILL. I do hope he had true remorse for all his sins. By the way....my youngest a girl of 25 was just diagnosed with antisocial personality disorder. That diagnosis explains a lot of her actions when younger.
@@kennyg1358 Love for an animal is part of being a sentient creature, we feel empathy, love, and understand right from wrong (on a general basic level)… it manifests in our society groups, families AND our bond with pets. Poor husbandry, unethical care and breeding is the problem.. not love for other creatures.
If you have a kid like this you're basically screwed through your broken heart. There is precious little help for these parents, only blame, even if they have other, well adjusted children, it is their fault. There is little consideration of the impact of any of the multitude of influences. Genetic, medical, social and familial influences and more, can each, or all, be an important factor in the outcome of a child. But the entire burden and blame rests squarely on the exhausted and drained shoulders of whichever parent (s) raise that child.
Thank you Dr Grande, this is a really scary thing to think about as a parent. My heart goes out to his father. I’m glad Aaron realized he was not ever going to improve.
That’s a fascinating case, albeit disturbing. On another note, I do believe his destination was a much warmer place. Thank you for the review, Dr. Grande.❤
It's strange that he believed in a Christian conceptualizion of heaven but didn't appreciate that his actions, even if he wasn't remorseful, would condemn him to hell. Again, it seems he failed to understand the consequences of his actions.
About three and a half minutes in, and the "crime" has not yet been committed. By this point, it was obvious that this is a person who should be locked away from society. How many warning signs does it take before we can act?
well basically at any actual assault yes treatment and decisions such as taking away from society, but before that, of course not. people grow out of stuff, get treated. in America the lack of health care is a real problem. and the love of simplistic prison 'solutions'
Excellent assessment, Dr. Grande! I am writing a parenting book and I have included a couple of essays about the incorrigible and mentally I’ll and substance-addicted child. It was the hardest part of the book to research along with having to lay a child to rest.
My dads friend had a kid. That definitely was like this. We weren't allowed to play with him. The kid overdosed at 21 . Definitely saved the world alot of pain.
I work with people people with brain injury, DD/ID, and people with behavioral health challenges. I had one patient with ASPD. He came to us when he was 21. Not yet diagnosed. We arranged clinical services for him because to be sure we could provide residential services and supports to at least make a plan to help him move through life with as little need for legal intervention as possible. We had to work on support plans for him that emphasized how his behaviors could result in restrictions on his freedoms instead of looking for empathy. He has none what so ever. He still threatens to kill people, is manipulative and completely self centered, likes to steal , and lies in very grandiose ways, but he is in a more controlled, non prison setting than most. It's not a guarantee, though. It was an interesting case to work on, but I often wonder when not if he will wind up in deep legal issues.
Dr grande. Please consider doing an episode on Elijah allman and his mother Cher’s attempt to gain a conservatorship over his finances because of his continued drug abuse. The media attention paid to the conservator abuse in thebritanny spears case is making it difficult for family members who are sincere. Another case that comes to mind is carol burnette.
Amazing that a remorseless psychopath was able to write such a genuinely touching poem to his father. He may have been evil, but at least he was honest about it.
Kids and young Adults Like this DO exist. The medical and mental health systems cannot do much to help- unless and until the individual commits a crime - it’s pathetic. People have no idea what (we) parents go through.
I had a cousin that turned out to be a psychopath. When he was born, they put him in my 91 year old grandmother's arms, she took one look & handed him back. Said he he was evil, it crushed his mother but she was right. He finally killed himself but not before he created compete havoc everywhere he went.
Loved ur Christmas tree video and house tour! Absolutely beautiful!! Regarding this man thinking death would absolve him: Some religions do believe as the Bible says, The wages of sin is death. If you have died, you are eligible for resurrection. So, maybe he was right. Although I believe he is "sleeping", not in heaven.
The wages of sin is death means that because mankind sinned, they earned death and lost connection with God. If they die without accepting salvation, they go to hell. People don't just go to heaven because they die. If first man hadn't sinned, they wouldn't have died, nor brought death into the world. That's according to Christianity as far as most denominations interpretation.
The brain is still massively under explored. Trauma could happen during gestation, birth, infectious diseases. Sadly treatments for mental illness and brain trauma is pretty rudimentary. Perhaps in another two hundred years or so there will be better technology available to really explore and understand the human brain and mind.
WOW! I’ve never heard this before! So heart wrenching 😢 attempting to comfort his father was amazing because he doesn’t have those faculties that cause a person to oh maybe not kill people.😮 I have a fabulous daughter she’s giving me quite a bit of grief not this much but quite a but I wouldn’t trade her for anything! the world 🌻
I'm so ambivalent about this case. Personality disorders are called as such for a reason. They're the person's self, their being, who they really are. You can't fix them with medication and you can't fix them with therapy. Some personality disorders are damaging beyond what is acceptable, thus the high percentage of sociopaths in prisons and mental hospitals. It's hard to know how to feel about these people, who are sometimes beyond redemption (on a human scale) and are sometimes so far gone that they'd be happier victimizing would-be rescuers than accepting any help. This case is especially confusing. This man seemingly had no redeeming qualities, but some of his aggression was particularly aimed at other sociopaths, and that poem to his father was so heartbreaking. Somewhere in there was true love.
You don't watch UFC/MMA or boxing, do you? There's also a thing called CTE. And also, why don't you think this way, when you're so angry and all you do is destroy you're not thinking in the moment and just are filled with rage And plus we're humans so we're just like animals. We are the same way. There's a reason why we have the same on the inside, not sure the exact percentage but we're highly similar to vicious animals. Not to mention there's roid rage and even road rage. It's honestly not that complicated. It's all very simple and makes sense. Not exactly sure where the confusion lies
@@kennyg1358 your comment caught my attention and made me wonder if that’s a fact, because my one dog seems to shows remorse after she squabbles with our other dog. After it’s over she will go over and nuzzle her like making sure she’s ok and saying she’s sorry🤷♀️
Dr Grande, I think that there might be other options for the Father. For example, his father might want to see if the son could use some type of therapy. :)
That poem to his dad made me cry. What can a parent do when their kid is a sociopath?
Tell them they can be anything, even President.
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Aaaand THAT is why I have no kids. D.A. NYC
Love them either way.. as heartbreaking as it is.. as a father this story Kinda made me sad.. looking at his toddler pictures smiling.. that’s not evil. May all who died in this story rest in peace..
Same thing GOD did & do with all of us after turning our backs on HIM.
John 3:16
My heart goes out to his parents. I went through similar fears about my son. He’s now living with his dad in another country though it came at a major cost to me. I spent over 130k on therapy, diagnosis etc and nearly lost my job from all these therapy appointments. Sometimes there’s no way out for parents who have kids like this. I consider myself very lucky.
Sometimes a bad seed is just a bad seed... how they process information and the world is subject to so many things beyond a parents control....
You sound like most the problem, glad he got away.
Your first statement of fact was how much you spent. Cool story bro
@@robbobsjobs8456It was her fourth statement, but don’t let facts get in the way of your feelings.
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Somebody that was the problem would not spend near that amount. They wouldn’t care for therapy at all.
I’ve been spending the past 13 months keeping my 58 year old brother from killing our mom for her estate since the death of my beloved father. Sometimes we do know evil when we see it.
I, 56/f, have been trying to keep my brother, 58, from killing our mother for her sizable estate since our beloved father died. It’s been a nightmare. Sometimes we do know evil is in our midst.
Oh dear... that's quite unsettling.
I'm sorry you are going through this.
You know if he will get rid of his mother for money, the next step is always siblings so they don’t have to share the
‘prize.’
Seems like you’re a target just as much as your mother, you just haven’t realised this yet.
@DC-bp8sx oh my God, holy. Dude, what's crazy is I literally just put on "Stranger things demogorgon theme" right before I inconveniently read your comment. That's actually horrifying 😲
😮 Be safe!!!
A/s/l?
It’s truly touching he tried to console his father. He knew his father would feel bad even though he felt nothing.
And you know what's funny is the fact that Aaron had more of a connection with his dad more than most primarily woman since they are the ones who mostly do not as shown in the facts with statistics and evidence speaks volumes. Maybe there's something to learn here especially if his conditions shouldn't allow him to have such connection. This one man was better than most in this society primarily women and had a connection with a dad than them despite his neurological condition
@@AlternateMichaelhuh?
@@AlternateMichaellol dude what are you saying
It makes me wonder how his father managed to make such a strong connection, what did he do different? Many times we hear about aspd despise and being violent towards their parents.
@@jjun2891 His father carried himself with self respect, he wasn't an abusive moron, he remained a positive force in Aaron's life.
As a child I could feel no sympathy or understanding for my father who would often be put in a mental asylum. I only understood the effects it had on my life. Only now, later in life can I feel sympathy and understanding of the torment he must have gone through.
I hope you still have him in your life 🙏🏼
I get it. As kids, we often don't realize what others are going through. We only know what we are missing. As we get older clarity comes.
All children are self centered.
@@jv-ep2tc Unless they remain in a state of arrested development, with appropriate human interaction, most people will grow out of self-centeredness through undergoing the process of cognitive>emotional>compassionate development.
Many people go their whole lives seeing others only in terms of their "effects." When this form of dehumanization is aimed at the disabled, ill, or vulnerable who can't control the disruption they have on the lives of those around them, the additional pain these vulnerable, already-suffering people experience is, I believe, one of closest things to hell a person can experience on earth. It's like a soul murder, like being annihilated over and over yet still locked into existence
Dr. Todd always has the slickest punchlines slipped in so casually lmao. That deadpan delivery is top tier 💯 😂
not to mention the sponsorship, I usually skip through those but I let it play through with Dr. Grande. Like mmm yes, good advice on those perfumes
It's why I'm here. Grim stories and he shows a balanced truth when telling them. The occasional deadpan asides are killer. I like the cacti collection too.
There was a video he did with his wife. She seems very sweet and I swear they seem perfect together. They have the same delivery. I imagine a family together at a dinner table analyzing the day’s events and punctuating each with a 1 liner without laughing just nodding their heads. I’d love to be included!
They always blindside me lmao
Raise your fist and yell
Lift your leg and fart
Aaron’s self awareness and honesty feels quite rare. I watch a lot of crime stories, and I’ve almost never come across one where the perpetrator has admitted feeling no remorse, not pretended to be crazy, and stated as much in court. Just an unabashed recognition of their psychopathy. Fascinating. 💔💔💔
I agree it is rare and fascinating. I would recommend checking out a video here on youtube by JCS- criminal psychology called "what pretenind to be crazy looks like". A few minutes into the video theres a short segment on a young man who killed a college dorm roommate and was caught an hour or so later and he answered all the investigator's questions honestly and indifferently. Its chilling. He was found legally insane bc of his inability to feel and know right from wrong. He doesnt even try to lie or get out of trouble. He was like you said - unabashedly forthcoming about everything. Its the only interview I've ever seen where someone is like that. Check it out!
@@BohoAstronaut I will most definitely watch that!!
@@BohoAstronaut omg I just watched it…wow, that is just shocking!! That type of mind is incredible in the most deranged way!!
Also, this guy was the opposite of Ted Bundy, most even say that about Jeffrey Dahmer. And I think Jeffrey may be a similar case
@@amandaduerk5866 I'm glad you liked it! It's crazy isn't it? The way he just answers every question without any emotion behind it. And when he's asked if he regrets it he says something like he regrets that he got caught so quickly. And he goes through the crime step by step like he's describing running errands.
Aaron was so self aware. He knew what and who he was and admitted it. Glad he wrote that letter to his father, his dad would at least know he was appreciated
I disagree. He was self medicating with alcohol and drugs
@@georgewagner7787one does not cancel the other.
I have autism, I am high functioning, it took a lot of work and determination. One of the symptoms I have is not able to feel loneliness. The description of loneliness does not match what I feel when I’m alone. I understand and there is a feeling associated with being alone, loneliness is something I would love to feel. There are all the things that I do not understand, concepts, outside of my innate intellect, is the concept of time. I understand, I keep time, punctual as possible to appointments and gatherings, so this has been taught to me, and I’ve learned… in my mind, what happened in the past it’s like it happened yesterday. Time seems to fold in on itself and I’ll certainly stop a conversation, only a week or sometimes several months down the road, I’ll pick up the conversation again, as if I had never stopped talking on the subject. It had been pointed out to me when I do this we are usually in the same spot where I stopped talking. I do not notice this myself, but my friends have. I have difficulty remembering what day it is, because I lose track of the time that has passed or has not yet passed. it is very difficult for me to express with words what I’m thinking, so I hope I made at least a little bit of sense.
People of average cognition also feel the passing of time going different ways. When you’re happy it goes faster, when you’re sad it seems to slow down. When you’re bored at work it drags on but when you’re at a concert it’s over quickly. I hope you are able to string together the unfolding of time in your mind. I use pictures to find the pathways that guide me back to my memories. Pictures and videos are the bread crumbs.
You may also have syneasthesia, with the space - time presentment
I understand
@@indescribable3865 : the one thing I can say is, I can never get bored. I have so much to learn at the same time, holding onto what I’ve already learned in an accomplished. Refer to unbending, I find that interesting because that is the word that I would use.
@@eveapple4928 : never heard of it. I’ll have to look it up. But not be surprised if it’s also one of the symptoms, but with the name.
Thank you for being gracious where the Fathers thoughts were concerned. Being the parent of a very troubled child can take you to some dark places.
I have dogs and I'm surely never in "dark places," quite the opposite.
@@Dr.Pancho.Tortilla ???
@@Dr.Pancho.Tortilla Dogs are not your children.
@@Flamsterette Sure.
Sometimes I wonder about having kids, not biological obviously that's only for the foolish, but maybe stepkids. I'd love to get my willie wonkas rocks off in the twilight zone, day n nite, 24/7 relieving that over and over again in time. As the wise nature boy once said (and in that one Blur song 2) "woohoo"
No dark places here! Just unambiguous true love and happiness. Whatever it takes
What an absolutely heartbreaking story. The man had such astounding insight into himself, yet no ability to change it. Fascinating, but horrific.
The father thinking of killing his son so he wouldn't kill someone else is the exact ending to the original movie The Bad Seed.
Which actually had two endings. Originally it was released with a “happily ever after” ending.
and the little bad azz survived the m/s attempted by the mother! Moms self deletion was successful.
To anyone familiar with classical theatre, the fact that his last name is pronounced 'Faust' is nothing short of foreshadowing.
Although there’s some people with the same last name in Southern Texas, that used to own a successful hotel. I believe.
Though Faust wasn’t antisocial. He was an accomplished academic who realized that his degrees mocked how little he knew. Faust’s story is quite different.
@socialcommentary1014 okay, how about this then? An antisocial accomplished academic that realized his degrees mocked how little he knew. I don't think it's that much of a twist
Simulation.
Right?
Those pictures of him show that a smile can hide a lot. Looking at his cheerful countenance, you'd never guess at the darkness beneath.
I went to school with a boy who looked and acted almost identical. I remember being in first second grade being terrified of him. Something was off even at six/seven years old. I wouldn’t be surprised in the least if I found out he was some kind of psychopath/sociopath.
They say you shouldn't judge a book by it's cover, but sometimes you should. I've known a couple like him, and they had that kind of look and energy that said stay as far away as you can. I think it might even be more obvious in the early grades when they aren't yet very sophisticated at deception, certainly it's usually obvious to other kids.
I had a similar situation in a private school I was in. A boy that was a narcissistic psychopath bully one time on the bus was sitting next to me & he looked at me with a silly grin smile that turned into a angry psychopathic look in a split second & it scared the living daylights out of me. He went on to committing crime stealing cars with a tow truck & eventually raped a little boy & was sent to prison!!
That poem got to me, as does the fact that he understood on a coldly objective level there was something wrong.
There was a contract killer who I think was called Iceman - and he had the same lack of remorse or feeling, and he too understood on some level that it wasn't normal.
I remember the iceman story
My dad was a CO who had Iceman in Graterford prison. He weirded my dad out.
Not only did he lack remorse he also completely lacked fear. Not even death was scary for him.
Psychopaths don’t feel fear. Sociopaths do.
Why would you fear death? Every person / even every animal has this destination. Like breathing, eating, sleeping its just part of our nature. Maybe you could be afraid of the process of dying like feeling intense pain or being in an situation others see you vulnerable but death itself is just something to not worry about because you can't change that
@antonbellis2397 The process, and the eventuality of it, and the fear that there really is nothing.
@@BunnaySango That would have to be the least scary thing. If there is nothing, you will never know it. There will be the same amount of 'you' there was prior to being born to experience it or reflect on it. And, no worrying about whether you picked the right god to worship out of the tens of thousands of gods that've been worshipped by different cultures throughout history.
@@antonbellis2397 I fear death because I absolutely love living. I get so much much satisfaction and joy from raising my kids with my wife, interacting with friends, doing activities on my own, talking to strangers, exploring the Earth, etc. The thought of that ending fills me with dread, even though I accept that once it happens I won't think anything ever again. Add to all that the pain my wife and kids will go through when I die and it all adds up to a pretty big negative from my perspective.
What a heartbreaking and utterly sweet poem for his father to read. So sad. Thank you Dr Grande!
I want to believe his profession of faith was real, but only God really knows for certain. Dark empaths know how to manipulate people because they have cognitive empathy but lack emotional and compassionate empathy.
The fact that Aaraon had more of a connection with his dad more than most primarily woman since they are the ones who mostly do not as shown in the facts with statistics and evidence speaks volumes. Maybe there's something to learn here especially if his conditions shouldn't allow him to have such connection. This one man was better than most in this society primarily women and had a connection with a dad than them despite his neurological condition
It was a sweet poem with a lot of feel. He started off as a cute little boy. It's sad, it's almost as if his brain short circuited in his head causing conflicting emotions and lack of feel.
@@AlternateMichaelyou don’t make much sense
@@AlternateMichael I have seen this type of connection before because my step-dad was divorced from his first wife. They were long-term high school sweethearts. Once they got their diplomas she said she was pregnant. Even though it was a false claim, they were forced to get married. His father was for it. His mother was against it. This caused a rift between him and his beloved biological father. So, they had to quickly get his new wife pregnant with the first of their three biological children as soon as possible. She became a terrible alcoholic who drank more and more before, during, and after each pregnancy. So, she was a terrible parent. As a single parent who relied on his mother and housekeepers to take care of his boys, he spoiled his kids rotten, long before they got into trouble with the law, to make up for the fact their mother was not a stable part of their lives. In my opinion, the first has Factor 1 ASPD; the second has a Factor 2 ASPD; and the third is Factor 2 ASPD in a folie à trois (i.e., DSM-5 shared psychotic disorder) "honor among thieves"-type of relationship. At my step-dad's death, the last two of his biological sons from his first marriage cried in agony, but his eldest, whom he was closest to, did not/could not. He was noticeably enraged over his brothers' ability to cry along with me as I prayed for my Christian step-dad. His first son's total lack of empathy was disturbing, not unexpected.
Thank you Dr. Grande for outlining what it is like for the families of mentally ill persons. I do not know if a person with severe personality disorders suffers from their affliction, but I know first hand how family suffers from the actions of them.
As a person who dealt with borderline from 15-33 truuuuust me we suffer GREATLY with our affliction. The depths of our own self loathing, constant feelings of complete emptiness, having no sense of who you are or what you stand for.Most of us die from suicide, drug overdose, or get better through treatment, or in my case aged out of it (its a real thing I'm not making it up you can look it up)
@@DonMega888 Thank you for sharing your experience. In no way was I belittling anyone, it's just that those with mental illness who have done me great damage have never expressed any regret or changed in response for all I have done for them. I do know how devastating their actions were on all around them. It may sound cold, but I cannot afford to waste the little time I have left on dealing with anyone who has these disorders. My ex eventually, as you, aged out of her disorders, but not before scaring the family deeply. I am truly glad to hear you have seemed to reach a balance in your life, it must be a relief for you. Maybe, from a distance, you can let anyone you did damage to know you now wish they can find a way to understand and forgive. May you find peace and be able to come to terms with the past and embrace the future.
@@justanamerican9024 oh trust me making amends was a huge part of my healing
@@DonMega888 I can't know for sure, but I would presume that someone with ASPD would not suffer as much compared to others, since they lack remorse. I have known people (and even dated one woman) with BPD, and their suffering was indeed immense. I'm so sorry that you are facing this illness.
Edit: "Dealt?" That's wonderful that you have found some relief. My ex has as well.
@@DonMega888my therapist just told me I’m either aged out or on the verge. I’m 26 got diagnosed at 17. Honestly i had to isolate myself for a long time. I feel like i can breathe. Hopefully i will be able to have less sessions soon (DBT) that would help with bills 😂
I had considered the same with my son. At 19n he stabbed a woman at Walmart and now is in prison.
Wishing you and Mrs. Grande a peaceful and happy new year 2024!! Many blessings to you both! 🎉🥳🥳🎉
I never realized how much I don’t want to watch Dr Grande hawk perfume until just now.
I do not like scents..they make me cough uncontrollably. I do like/love Dr. Grande…if being sponsored by a product I don’t care for and I don’t think aligns with the person Dr Grande seems to be…so be it…it keeps the channel healthy and Dr Grande here for us.
😂😂😂
you'll know he's sold out if he ever starts shilling for better help
I don’t mind it, he chose his selling points well and it doesn’t seem too forced. I’d say anything less tame than this might be a bit off putting to me, especially during an episode talking about murderers and criminals. But like, he’s gotta pay the bills just like everyone else!
Unfortunately it comes with the territory on UA-cam. I don’t hold it against content creators.
This a textbook case for psychopathic personality disorder. He genuinely did not care about anything; however, he saw his father struggle with him. I find this interesting because it implicates psychopaths are very well aware of sympathy, but they cannot feel it. Kinda like knowing what something is , but never experiencing it. The human mind can be very sad and fascinating
“Psychopathic personality disorder” is not a real diagnosis. Also it’s inappropriate to psychoanalyze people you don’t know or have the authority to scrutinize. Leave it as “he’s a cruel person” without all this armchair psychologist crap. I know true crime audiences like to believe they know everything, but you don’t.😊
@@Sofiaode18 Hi Sofia. I’m in post grad school for psychology. On my way to be a female Dr. Grande. How about you stop judging people you do not know online because you are “triggered.” Have a blessed day. ☺️
@@Sofiaode18any response? You lookin like a fool
@@Sofiaode18 We can tell you are projecting your anger with people who psychoanalyze you. The truth is all psychology is theories and an attempt for people to understand why people act the way they do. So, don't take it personally when people psychoanalyze eachother. Just know in yourself that it's not true, or if many people tell you something, maybe it is true in some way.
" No common language!" Perfect description of dealing with ASPD.
I haven't heard of this one. I will however, speculate about what might be happening in a case like this. 👍
It’s really very sad because some kids are just born wired “differently.” Heartbreaking.
I saw the whole interview with the father on the show “Evil Lives Here.” The father was so loving and would do anything to help his son, but nothing worked. His son was just born a psychopath.
I tend to think there was a way to reach him, but no one found it.
@@jamese9283
Yeah. They'll even let you think you've reached them. Just to manipulate you.
I read that he changed right after his mother left. His parents divorced because his mother cheated on his father. I thought it odd that his mother didn't raise him, but perhaps she lost custody due to her infidelity? Obviously he suffered from her loss.
I'm surprised there's such a nuanced comment as yours left on UA-cam. Everyone on UA-cam automatically jumps to the idea that all murderers are raised to be through crappy parenting.
@@skycloud4802 what the fuck are you talking about “nuance “ comment? There’s nothing nuance about it!
I watched the episode of evil lives here with his father telling his story. I felt so bad for him.
Something about this psychopath is strangely respectable. He actually understood his limitations as someone with ANPD, sounded logical, and of course as others have pointed, surprisingly had a special place in his heart for his father. I wonder how he would have felt if someone had killed his father before he died? Would that have inspired feelings from him?
From what I understand the frequent razor blade giveaway days have been cancelled in most prisons.
Not when I was with jail. A lot of wardens seem to think prisoners that are clean-shaven and potentially armed are better than prisoners that are disarmed but have beards. They talk about beards like they're inherently unhygienic. They also allow prisoners to access power tools and knives from the kitchen, it's just silly. Why give them the chance to take one? By the time it is clear that one is missing, someone could already be stabbed. Just seems silly when you consider the cost-benefit analysis.
Only because prisoners are now allowed to steal as many razorblades as they want to outside of prison... no one really goes to prison any more, it seems.
This story was featured on the show " Evil lives here" Aaron's father told the stories how he jad to deal with his son , it's really sad what the dad went through for his kid!
This guy's videos are awesome bc the subject matter is often quite mad and the Dr just calmly explains it all.
hi Dr. Grande, could you consider doing an analysis of the Jackie Brucia/Debi Stevens case where Debi was fired AFTER giving her boss, Jackie, a kidney to save her life? Thanks!
Wow. I can see precisely why the father thought what he did.
Apart from the devil bollocks, yes, same.
you explained that so well, and i'm really glad he sent the card to his father it might make a difference over the years .. thanks as always Doc
Excellent analysis, Dr. Grande. My heart goes out to his family who it sounds like tried everything they could. Also, my heart goes out to his victim(s). Thank you, Dr. Grande!
I know a lot (if not most or all) people with ASPD become that way from trauma. That lines up with how his dad described the sudden shift in his behavior. I wonder what happened that made him this way
Birth, apparently.
That’s sociopathy, second degree aspd. Psychopathy, aka first degree aspd, is something that people are born with but traumatic events can potentially worsen it. Sociopathy is developed through traumatic childhood events. So you are partly right, usually we hear more about people with aspd who went through something traumatic. But in this case, I'm predicting that he was simply born that way with first degree aspd
Edit: I've gotten a few replies to this comment and they brought up some good points, psychology is super nuanced and only 100% works in theory. So I apologize for acting like what I said was 100% fact when it is impossible to fully determine that in this field of work
I agree. To hear he was normal as a child and then suddenly at 4, everything changed… something happened. Sometimes the event just doesn’t end up on the parent’s radar. Especially at such a young age, it can really alter someone’s developmental trajectory.
@@stephenie44 A demon. He was possessed.
@@pipermccool Unfortunately, you are incorrect. According to the National Institutes of Health, "Empathy typically emerges as the child comes to a greater awareness of the experience of others, during the second and third years of life, and arises in the context of a social interaction."
I always see and hear how some people don’t feel feelings but anger is a feeling. It’s one everyone feels but leads to violence for only some situations or some people.
Sounds like his life turned at age 4 when his parents divorced and his dad couldn't be around and left him with a sitter, it didn't seem like his mom was in his life either, some young kids are so angry they grow up hating the world, they become so mean and mad that everyone who meets them ends up just done with them, which in turn doesn't help the situation, they soon grow to be angry adults that do a lot of damage.
I don't think the divorce had much to do with it,maybe made it easier to see,but that's it. Most kids of divorced parents do not end up like this.the kids may have problems, act out, this is different. He was born this way.
No one is born evil. He showed no signs of behavioural problems until they split. Dad remarried almost immediately but no info was given about how the kid reacted to that or why his dad had full custody. I suspect it was not the split that affected him directly but rather he was abused at some point in some way or neglected, for example no info about his life before the split how his mother treated him or what kind of upbringing he experienced with the stepmom. I had a sibling who was a sociopath and another who was a psychopath. The psychopath was exposed to cocaine in utero and both were molested by an older neighbour kid at ages 2-4 . There is always a reason for mental illness or personality disorder.
@@shirleya-z794To be entirely fair, you can’t really show sociopathic/psychopathic tendencies at 4. He was too young when they split to know the true effect it had.
@@shirleya-z794 It's becoming apparent that there is a neurological basis for some aspects of psychopathy, and that there may be genetically heritable factors. Some people, it seems, are just wired differently. Though not all go on to commit heinous crimes, they have a strong predisposition towards traits associated with psychopathy, particularly factor one type. Environmental factors can exacerbate (or potentially mitigate) the severity of these traits, but they don't require environmental triggers to occur.
Some people truly are just born evil. Hate to break it to you.
I watched this story a few years ago. As a father myself, the interviews with Aaron’s father brought tears to my eyes. He honestly tried.
On another note, it’s about time some company capitalized on the doc’s natural suave and debonair presence!
Interesting how so many serial killers come from a home where the mother abandoned the family. As is they had a premonition that the kid was not right from the start.
Frequent razorblade give-away days 😂 You crack me up every. single. time. I so appreciate your humour!
So he was a calculating psychopath... But didn't understand consequences and was impulsive.
Thank you Dr. Grande for your informed, compassionate and non judgemental commentary on this lost soul. So many lives ruined by mental illness. Thanks to God for all his tender mercy.
I have an aunt who said she really considered killing one of her sons who had behaviors like this when he was a child. He was constantly in trouble and always hurting other children, including his siblings. He would also hurt and torture animals, which is hallmark behavior for a future serial killer. Nothing her and her husband did or said seemed to work. She said the only reason she didn't kill him was she knew family and neighbors would question where he was, and she didn't want to go to prison. He went to church with a friend one day and it was like a switch turned on. He ended up becoming a preacher, working a full-time job, getting married and having children who all loved him dearly. Everyone was shocked that he actually made something of himself other than a prisoner or dead. He passed away from a heart attack before he turned 50 and we miss him very much.
In addition to the soul, there is the "spirit" & this kid his spirit became alive by accepting J.C./Yeshua in his life & he really meant it. There are humans who have a soul but no spirit & these are the ones who cannot be reached!! The spirit connects a human to God!!
But he hurt animals so I bet he was just narcissistic and got supply from church
God's saving power through Jesus is real. It can change lives.
Dr. Grande - Just realized that I no longer need to watch Investigations Discovery (ID) because you've got their cases all covered. Thank you, and I sincerely wish you & Amy a very happy & prosperous 2024! 👍💜🌵
Heartbreaking for his parents and what a sad life for Aaron who understood that he was not " normal". Dangerous individual in society, with no way to fix it! Hoping he found what he was looking for....
Always love your cacti and analysis. Great video as usual.
I learn so much from you
I take notes and make my own research
Today was a little bit heavy but all new to me (cluster b, histrionic personality disorder)
You're an amazing educator/mentor
I can't thank you enough, I'm so grateful
💚🌻
That's terrible for the parents. I'm sure they tried everything they could.
Dr. Grande, what can a parent do in a situation like Aaron Foust? I can't help but feeling sorry for a person who has no ability to have love for other people. What a miserable sounding life.
Fascinating insight into this man. Sad to know how many people there are like this.
Some kids are more sensitive to divorce. I wonder if that had anything to do with the behavioral issues that began after the separation. It makes sense that an only child would take his parents' separation even harder than a child who had more close family relationships.
It would be interesting to learn more about this man's childhood and the relationship he had with his mother after the divorce.
I agree. Not justifying what he did. Probably a
Mix of nature/nurture but think when your mother is replaced by a stranger the same year your parents get divorced and you have a brand new mother at that age, that is going to leave some kind of mark...
A lot of kids are relieved when their parents divorce.
Nah. Sensitive kids is not the category he would have ever been put in.
And even the most sensitive and easily traumatised children tend not to be psychos.
@@It-is-me...Melsie I don't mean sensitive in the sense of empathetic. I mean "sensitive" as in, affected by the environment in ways that others would not be.
As a father to a young man, i feel so bad for his dad. I hope they both found peace on the situation.
Feel so sad for the father. Hope he's okay and to the victims family. ❤
I believe Aaron was going to take a boat trip across the river Styx to Hades, if my Greek mythology is correct.
I can't imagine being abandoned by his mother helped him much. I kind of wonder what she was like towards him the first four years of his life.
1000 %. Yes!
He was very handsome as a young lad. I don’t know how kids like this end up this way without serious trauma…Sometimes you can parent very well and they just aren’t right. I’m sad the father had to feel that way about his own son. I have 4 sons with my husband. They’re 31, 20, 16 and 10 years old and I’m never complaining about them again…
Sometimes no matter what a parent does, you have this problem.
Mental Health issues are No joke. If you're poor with NO insurance it's Horrific. It's hard on that person but also every other member of their immediate family . It truly is Heartbreaking all the way around.
Its always trauma. Some trauma is never told, they hide it away.
Trust me.
The good looking ones are the WORST people allow them to get away with shit, it's a nightmare 😂 I'd be thinking "I'm trying to train him to be better and you're telling him he's so handsome then I have to deal with his inflated ass"
@@CATNAPREAL1188 I had serious mental health issues. Including ptsd from repeated s3xual trauma. I was poor as dirt but my county mental health department was a literal lifesaver. Most places within the United States have county health departments with sliding scale payments. If you need it, please Google your county + mental health services. 💕
Happy New year, Dr. and Mrs. Grande!
Happy New Year! I think you're absolutely beautiful and I hope you're okay and staying strong doing what you have to do. You're very loved
@@AlternateMichael Thanks. Happy New Year to you, sir.
People think remorse is tears, crying, feeling emotions of regret. Remorse is in the will. Emotions or tears are not necessary. Remorse...sorrow....regret....is in the WILL. I do hope he had true remorse for all his sins. By the way....my youngest a girl of 25 was just diagnosed with antisocial personality disorder. That diagnosis explains a lot of her actions when younger.
Thank you for clarifying that the babysitters cat survived because anytime a pet is mentioned in a video of this nature, my heart jams in my throat.
The world has way too many cats. It's an ecological disaster. Cat lovers have had their infant attachment instinct hijacked.
@@kennyg1358 Love for an animal is part of being a sentient creature, we feel empathy, love, and understand right from wrong (on a general basic level)… it manifests in our society groups, families AND our bond with pets. Poor husbandry, unethical care and breeding is the problem.. not love for other creatures.
@@stephanieparker1250 Agree with everything you said Stephanie. Be kind to the pets, but get them spayed and neutered.
@stephanieparker1250 Mate, the problem here is that Mr. and Mrs. Faust were related, so Aaron being the way he is makes sense.
@@AlternateMichael wait what? How do you know they are related??
Aarons description of his murder victim seems to describe himself as well.
”You Done messed up A-Aron”
Lmao underated comment.
This was extremely interesting and enlightening. Thank you, Dr. Grande!
Very sad story.....
If you have a kid like this you're basically screwed through your broken heart. There is precious little help for these parents, only blame, even if they have other, well adjusted children, it is their fault. There is little consideration of the impact of any of the multitude of influences. Genetic, medical, social and familial influences and more, can each, or all, be an important factor in the outcome of a child. But the entire burden and blame rests squarely on the exhausted and drained shoulders of whichever parent (s) raise that child.
The mind is unbelievable so many suffer with mental health issues. He was suffering he understood he was different and never felt joy or love.
Thank you Dr Grande, this is a really scary thing to think about as a parent. My heart goes out to his father. I’m glad Aaron realized he was not ever going to improve.
The only channel I watch even the ads.... I'd listen to the Doc read the dictionary....🤗🤣👍🤪🙏
The name “Faust” was enough to condemn him.
That’s a fascinating case, albeit disturbing.
On another note, I do believe his destination was a much warmer place.
Thank you for the review, Dr. Grande.❤
It's strange that he believed in a Christian conceptualizion of heaven but didn't appreciate that his actions, even if he wasn't remorseful, would condemn him to hell. Again, it seems he failed to understand the consequences of his actions.
That poem to his father was so sad.
About three and a half minutes in, and the "crime" has not yet been committed. By this point, it was obvious that this is a person who should be locked away from society. How many warning signs does it take before we can act?
well basically at any actual assault yes treatment and decisions such as taking away from society, but before that, of course not. people grow out of stuff, get treated. in America the lack of health care is a real problem. and the love of simplistic prison 'solutions'
Excellent assessment, Dr. Grande! I am writing a parenting book and I have included a couple of essays about the incorrigible and mentally I’ll and substance-addicted child. It was the hardest part of the book to research along with having to lay a child to rest.
In previous centuries, Aaron would be conscripted into an Army and go on to win or die famously on a battlefield.
He would have a field day in the Israeli army at the moment.
LOL. Absolutely-in the Hamas Army. IDF is being cucked of its warriors, much like the US Army already has.@@julietrudgill9887
Hm, based on this. Ted Bundy, Jeffrey Dahmer, Zodiac Killer, etc. on the battlefield? Love is a battlefield, I like this idea
@@julietrudgill9887 Or in Hamas death squads, you know, those perpetrators?
My dads friend had a kid. That definitely was like this. We weren't allowed to play with him. The kid overdosed at 21 . Definitely saved the world alot of pain.
Excellent synopsis. Thank you. (From someone who’s experienced close association with ASPD.)
Sadly, it seems that personality disorders don’t always require a large amount of lurid trauma to formulate. Some minds are just not that resilient.
I work with people people with brain injury, DD/ID, and people with behavioral health challenges. I had one patient with ASPD. He came to us when he was 21. Not yet diagnosed. We arranged clinical services for him because to be sure we could provide residential services and supports to at least make a plan to help him move through life with as little need for legal intervention as possible. We had to work on support plans for him that emphasized how his behaviors could result in restrictions on his freedoms instead of looking for empathy. He has none what so ever. He still threatens to kill people, is manipulative and completely self centered, likes to steal , and lies in very grandiose ways, but he is in a more controlled, non prison setting than most. It's not a guarantee, though. It was an interesting case to work on, but I often wonder when not if he will wind up in deep legal issues.
After your tour of your Christmas decorations , my therapist said i will recover and it was only a small overdose of Christmas . Just Kidding .
"Comatose, I'll never wakeup without it overdosed of you!"
A sponsor! I don't think i have seen one on this channel. Congrats Dr. GRANDE!
Dr grande. Please consider doing an episode on Elijah allman and his mother Cher’s attempt to gain a conservatorship over his finances because of his continued drug abuse. The media attention paid to the conservator abuse in thebritanny spears case is making it difficult for family members who are sincere. Another case that comes to mind is carol burnette.
Amazing that a remorseless psychopath was able to write such a genuinely touching poem to his father.
He may have been evil, but at least he was honest about it.
Kids and young
Adults
Like this DO exist. The medical and mental health systems cannot do much to help- unless and until the individual commits a crime - it’s pathetic. People have no idea what (we) parents go through.
I had a cousin that turned out to be a psychopath. When he was born, they put him in my 91 year old grandmother's arms, she took one look & handed him back. Said he he was evil, it crushed his mother but she was right. He finally killed himself but not before he created compete havoc everywhere he went.
Loved ur Christmas tree video and house tour! Absolutely beautiful!! Regarding this man thinking death would absolve him: Some religions do believe as the Bible says, The wages of sin is death. If you have died, you are eligible for resurrection. So, maybe he was right. Although I believe he is "sleeping", not in heaven.
The wages of sin is death means that because mankind sinned, they earned death and lost connection with God. If they die without accepting salvation, they go to hell. People don't just go to heaven because they die. If first man hadn't sinned, they wouldn't have died, nor brought death into the world. That's according to Christianity as far as most denominations interpretation.
My suggestion to people who have money?
Don’t tell your kids!!!
Don’t flaunt your money!!!
The brain is still massively under explored. Trauma could happen during gestation, birth, infectious diseases. Sadly treatments for mental illness and brain trauma is pretty rudimentary. Perhaps in another two hundred years or so there will be better technology available to really explore and understand the human brain and mind.
Genetic and epigenetics also play a role. I think the future of mental health care is in earlier identification and treatment.
WOW! I’ve never heard this before! So heart wrenching 😢 attempting to comfort his father was amazing because he doesn’t have those faculties that cause a person to oh maybe not kill people.😮 I have a fabulous daughter she’s giving me quite a bit of grief not this much but quite a but I wouldn’t trade her for anything! the world 🌻
" don't try to be someone else, just be yourself " I guess received wisdom isn't always helpful.
How tragic this is. I hope that all concerned will find some sort of peace.
Damn, even his own father knew he was a demon seed.
Aaron would never have existed if not for two horrible breeders bringing him into this cruel world.
@facthunt2facthunt245 someone said the two were actually related and that's why Aaron is the way he is
why are you blaming his parents
It sounds as if both the murder, acomplice and the victim, were dangerous for society.
SCENTBIRD rules. "There's a lot of perfume in there." Priceless.
Heartbreaking for the parents 💔 Imagine having a child who is psychopath.These people are nothing but misery.
I'm so ambivalent about this case. Personality disorders are called as such for a reason. They're the person's self, their being, who they really are. You can't fix them with medication and you can't fix them with therapy. Some personality disorders are damaging beyond what is acceptable, thus the high percentage of sociopaths in prisons and mental hospitals. It's hard to know how to feel about these people, who are sometimes beyond redemption (on a human scale) and are sometimes so far gone that they'd be happier victimizing would-be rescuers than accepting any help. This case is especially confusing. This man seemingly had no redeeming qualities, but some of his aggression was particularly aimed at other sociopaths, and that poem to his father was so heartbreaking. Somewhere in there was true love.
I never knew how much I needed to hear Dr. Grande say, “hint of mandarin.” 😂😂😂
It’s odd how psychopaths don’t feel remorse. Is there a physical defect in their brain?
I believe there is,though science is still exploring this.
Animals don't feel remorse so maybe a relapse to an earlier brain type
You don't watch UFC/MMA or boxing, do you? There's also a thing called CTE. And also, why don't you think this way, when you're so angry and all you do is destroy you're not thinking in the moment and just are filled with rage
And plus we're humans so we're just like animals. We are the same way. There's a reason why we have the same on the inside, not sure the exact percentage but we're highly similar to vicious animals.
Not to mention there's roid rage and even road rage. It's honestly not that complicated. It's all very simple and makes sense. Not exactly sure where the confusion lies
@@AlternateMichaelAbsolutely nothing that you said proves anything. Zero. Nada.
@@kennyg1358 your comment caught my attention and made me wonder if that’s a fact, because my one dog seems to shows remorse after she squabbles with our other dog. After it’s over she will go over and nuzzle her like making sure she’s ok and saying she’s sorry🤷♀️
That poem was actually quite self aware and beautiful..considering
Dr Grande, I think that there might be other options for the Father. For example, his father might want to see if the son could use some type of therapy. :)
He had been in therapy on and off for years, didn’t work obviously.
Wow. I just don't know how someone like this could be helped at all. I feel so badly for his father.