Your Spiritual Sword Against The Narcissist
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- Опубліковано 15 жов 2024
- #narcissist #spiritual #narc con
There comes a time in your life when the truth is revealed to you very clearly in a relationship with a narcissist or as a result of a lifetime encountering them. At this point we all have a choice to make to either draw a spiritual sword and chose our own selves and values over those of the darker aspects of the narcissistic way of life. This is a life transformative crossroads where choosing other than your own values and prioritising those precious beliefs in truth and goodness would most certainly prevent your life’s purpose being enacted. Drawing your own personal Spiritual sword is as beautiful as it’s lifesaving. The initial fallout is not rewarding and a final battle will ensue before the joy of awakening is reached.
Apologies I was unable to attach Remy’s walk due to technical issues will try again next vid.
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This lady needs PROTECTION!!! Please 🙏🏻 everyone pray for her, spiritually protect her!!! I’m healed from a narcissistic Abuse by just listening to her!!! God! !! God!!! 😢❤❤❤ I love her… I’m in tears 😭 please 🙏🏻 thank you 🙏🏻… ahh my God. God bless and protect you!!! Jesus Jesus God! God God!! God… oh God… God…
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My sword against narcissists is to put on the full armour of God and pray for his protection as I walk through the valley of the shadow where narcissists live…which is the world. To not have his protection is like wandering out into utter darkness. To have his light is to find your way out of that darkness. To have his light and a relationship with God is to keep narcissist or demon filled vessels away from me.
I notice the difference when I don’t pray for God’s protection. It says in the Bible that the enemy is like a lion seeking whom he may devour and he comes to kill, steal, and destroy.
There is nothing else that can protect you from these creatures. Resist the devil and he will flee. The name of Jesus, they are afraid of the name alone. ❤
Your low self-esteem is
The narcissist's dream
Excellent comment 🥰
This is soooo true !well said xx
@@victoriajphearts Why, thank you
Exactly!! Thank you!!
YES!!!
You are the only person I have found that connects narcissism to spiritual issues. Thank you!
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Certainly! Hmm, are you suggesting that it's realistically achievable to join? I've often thought it's only accessible to those from specific financial backgrounds.
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That's absolutely amazing ! I deeply appreciate your suggestion. I've just researched RR and swiftly reached out.
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Paula,I simply admire the way you dwell on the spiritual aspect of narcissm,keep it up 👍👍
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You can't learn more about humanity and your intrinsic value until you've been completely shattered and broken whole by someone who separated from humanity.
Truth 💕🧸🤗
Yes, I'm educated now with a great lot of help I was so naive. At 14 years old he was 16. The mask was on from day one. 53: years later I realised there is evil in the world.
@@dianahogg6164 Been trying to wake a friend of mine up for years in that same situation. They met young. Some people just accept that life. They are blinded to their own suffering because it’s all they know.
Well said! 🙌🏻🏆
You put that perfectly. Little did we know when we were children that we would not fully know ourselves until after being exposed to living with a narc. They come in, they destroy, steal, lie, deceive, crush, squash, fake, ruin, and then leave. You're left in ruins and you have to find your way back to life. Thanks to understanding and educated people like Paula, we eventually figure things out and get on with life. Thanks for posting.
I drew my sword after i cried out to God in my bedroom ( we had separate rooms) he was extremely abusive verbally and threatening to ruin my property and take from me everything I worked hard for. I knew I could was dealing with demons through the narc and that I had to stop this. That night i took my freedom and he was arrested and removed. From there im moving fast, no contact and feeling like I got back my life! All the Glory to Jesus ❤️thank you Paula, I have been steady watching your videos and its so good to know how to navigate through the mess they made. But i feel positive and sleep so well. An evil entity (s) have left!
@kathrynhogan3387 I just felt as if the narc had more than one. He even looked like a demon. On the Bible it talks about a man that was possessed by legions of demons. I just know the Holy Spirit gave me the discernment to know that the narc eas demonic
@kathrynhogan3387thank you I'm so happy I made it out
@kathrynhogan3387You could start with Jekyll and Hyde they are both evil one is covert the other overt. 🎭
@kathrynhogan3387 AT LEAST THIS MANY Narcissistic ENTITIES
Vanity
Anger
Jealousy
Envy
Resentment
Infidelity
Pride
Defiance
Argumentative
Showing off, showcasing
Selfishness
Same here ❤
I feel like Remy knows his presence is soothing to some of us. Unconditional love 💕
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Remy is awesome, and letting us know everything will be ok once we follow God
@@kirjoy991 Agreed
I love ❤️ Remy! 😁
I drew my spiritual sword against my malignant narcissist mother 4 years ago, when I was 56. It took me 5 1/2 decades, but I finally reached that point when I'd had enough! She did something so heinous I could no longer make excuses for her behavior. Something deep inside me knew that she would never, ever change. At that moment, I knew I had no other option than to walk away forever.
It's still sad to me, but I am finding my peace!
I’m drawing my sword right now. No more abuse 🙏
@@mariaridler1831 Hugs and prayers for strength sent your way!
That's what happened between my husband and I after close to four decades together. God showed me who this man really is, and he had absolutely no remorse for his heinous behavior. Glad you have found your peace 🤗
Yes, I did the same thing against my fiancé. Each day he was getting more and more abusive. I finally after 14 years had enough when he started having one of his temper tantrums and started destroying my things. This was when I yelled “do not disrespect me!” It was loud and emphatic but I could not sit back quietly and say nothing as I had in the past. l was then met by the shear narcissistic rage and he punched me hard in my face. I thought he may have broken my jaw. He ran out saying he was going to tell everyone he did this in self defense. So wrong! All I did was yell and finally advocate for myself. So I made an emergency call and the police came arrested him and locked him up for 4 days. This gave me time to move out. So hard, so painful, and so disappointing. That day I made a choice and did not let him get away with attacking me.
@@Artistpath Good for you! I'm praying that all is well and that you continue to move forward with your glow-up 🙌💪🤗🙏🙏🙏
I realized I was tortured from a very early age. It has been really difficult to accept. Grieving my life as a scapegoat.
Your talks are excellent
Thankyou 🙏
You’ll be OK
Right there witcha buddy.
Trust me, Satan knows when we are born who we belong to. I also believe this part of the reason they draw so much blood from babies. Gods names is coded into our DNA. And our blood is life and our energy is vitality.
I believe when they speak of vampires in ancient times, they were speaking of narcissists. They drain the energy out of us but only when they have tortured and abused us do they siphon that energy. That’s why the create so much chaos.
Also, if they were to get a taste of your body, they will unalive you. Our energy is what they can get away with without breaking the law. My ex licked my blood when I had a cut. Seriously! He sucked my finger when I accidentally cut myself and he sucked hard that it hurt. I snatched my finger away.
He would so called playfully bite my neck area and I would push him away. And I kid you not, he had to beauty marks that looked like a vampire bite.
I drew my sword after weeks of devaluing behavior. He left the room to check his “Likes” on social media. In those few minutes he was on the computer, an inner voice told me, “Just leave. Just walk out. You don’t even really like him.” I said out loud in a very pleasant voice as I walked down the hall, “I have to get going now”. He followed me out to my car, saying he loved me. I pleasantly said that I loved him too. (I was just trying to pretend all was well) I got in my car, drove home, blocked him. Never saw him again after that day. That was 5 years ago. Of course I experienced Hoovers that I ignored . I didn’t know what he was or what full no contact was at that time but, when I experienced an unexpected Hoover, I blocked that avenue. I have been in full no contact regime since then.
Good for you! My situation was similar except he lived with me. But he knew I was done! He's been blocked in every way for almost 5 yrs! Keep moving forward & don't look back - ever!
Wow ypu had spiritual shield of prorection to leave just like that. Wish I was a fly on the wall to see his reaction when you didn't retirn
Glad to hear it. I think my narc had no idea and my leaving caught him by surprise.
I think he didn’t realize I wasn’t coming back. I think I caught him by surprise.
I truly had an inner voice telling me to “just leave” you don’t need this” you don’t even really like him”
I asked my mom once, “Why do I draw these women to be friends who turn out to be toxic?” She said, “It’s because you are too nice.” I am learning & your channel has helped me much! As a Highly Sensitive Person & an Empath I am a target for these disturbed people. Thank you❤
Read "No More Mr Nice Guy" by Dr Robert Glover
Over time you will learn to put your emotions in check when you’re around people. You will learn this is vital to you & your own healthy existence. If YOU do not learn how to put up emotional boundaries this behavior from other people WILL CONTINUE. Being so nice, open , honest & truthful right from the moment you first meet someone SHOWS people how vulnerable you are & in today’s evil world, that will work against you every time.
Yes me too, my ma would say jealousy also which I never understood as I'm not a jealous person or friend, thanks for the comment it helped, God bless and thanks to Paula for a safe space to share this horrible horrible but life changing experience ❤
I have drawn my sword today ❤
I can relate ❤
Remy’s presence is needed. He knows. Thank you.
I'm 70 now, as quickly as I sort one nasty, theres another waiting in the wings. The teaching i have received from here and others has highlighted it all. I praise God for the internet, for ppl like you who have the courage to call it what it is. Evil. It is darkest before the dawn. Principality and powers. The truth will stand and God will have His Way. The Only Way 😊❤
I drew my sword when the narc said he wanted to see other people. I eventually went out on a date. Out of nowhere, he went berserk. He had some clothes of mine and suddenly dumped them in the city street. He also yelled and screamed and pushed me so hard at the entrance to my apartment building that a neighbor called the police. A female officer showed up and said that I needed to leave him or I’d be dead. She said this in a stern and somewhat aggressive way. I needed to hear it. This was in my early twenties. I went on to help other victims of domestic abuse. I grew up with narcissistic family members. It has taken me a lifetime to realize that. I went to school for psychology. Something was missing in the clinical world of diagnostics. Through you, I realized it was the spiritual element. I’m a practicing Catholic. You have given me hope, healing and strength. The spiritual healing is the last step of healing. I eventually married a good man. I’ve always wanted to better understand the darkness of narcissism. I am truly grateful and healing now. Thank you so very much! God Bless! 🙏🏻💕🙏🏻
Thank you too sounds ike you’re doing some good work 🌹☺️
My ex burnt all my clothes..
Ahhh. You are speaking to my soul. Christ consciousness is insane. I hear the Holy Spirit through you.
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You! Said it!!!! ...."insane" !!!!!!!!! .....all the "god crap is just typed up crap,in a book! ....it's fictitious, it's BULL.
I made a clear decision to escape my narcissist mother. She came to my house and started with her usual aggressive behaviour. I told her straight, she couldn't behave this way in my home, and threw her out of my house. I haven't had any further contact with her since.
I left the Narc 14 years ago. Haven't dated. Was doing quite well until about 6 years ago when extreem fatigue set in. I've been a giver and server all my life and find myself feeling useless and having lost friends because I am not able to do things as I used to. I feel my identity is lost. It's a journey to find my worth when I feel totally unworthy. But, God is good and will bring me through.
I am so sorry for your difficulties with fatigue. Being human is hard, and I am finding that being a giving, empathic, and highly sensitive person contributes to life’s fatigue. I am still pushing through healing after drawing my sword against 3 decades of mistreatment by a covert narcissist. It seems I am feeling better for awhile, then will slide back into something close to despair. I feel very isolated in this journey except for this UA-cam channels fellow survivors. Thank you for your truthful comment, as it’s not all an instant healing once we take our stand for ourselves. Keep moving forward day by day and I pray you will find complete peace and healing in time. Be good to yourself and grant yourself lots of grace, because you ARE worthy! And thanks for your honesty. It helped me today. ❤️
You’re worthy of love & respect!! I pray you see yourself as Christ sees you!! You’re going to make it luv💕
I can truly sympathize! My friendly advice would be to get some general bloodwork done, but especially focus on your thyroid levels. It is VERY common to develop autoimmune disorders after long-term abuse (ask me how I know!!), and that will often show up initially as greatly diminished energy and worsening fatigue. Ideally, look for someone who approaches things like this from a holistic approach, because they are much, much more likely to connect the dots and give you the correct diagnosis and treatment, etc. Wishing you health and healing! ❤️
@@susancrank1587 Thank you so much for your recommendations Susan! I have had blood work done 3 times in the last 3 years. They find nothing. No cancer, autoimmune etc. I went to a naturalpath for a year. He was not able to help. Completely drained my savings. At this point I'm believeing for a miracle and also doing as much natural remedies and eating organic and gmo free foods as far as possible. God bless! I appreciate your kind response and also emphasize with you. ❤️
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He never gave me compliments, but critized. For example, i bought a nice skirt, and he told me, I didnt have nice enough legs! I felt terrible. Iam skinny and cant gain weight as im constantly under stress. I believed him that maybe I did look terrible showing my legs. He never touched me or consoled me when I cried over missing my kids and would blame me for them nit calling me. When the truth is my children hate him and saw his alcoholism and how we fought. Its been a nightmare for over 20 yrs. He's robbed me of a life and wants me to die. I have wished id die. But today its day 5 i got him out of my house due to his alcoholic and narcissistic abuse. I had to call police and i will never let him back! Im getting a Peace Bond and I ve never felt better with him gone. I feel good and haven't cried.
Stay strong. Jesus Christ keeps me doing well ❤
PROTECT YOURSELF AND NEVER LET HIM BACK IN. YOU ARE WORTHY OF PEACE AND RESPECT.
Don't believe it. You probably have very nice legs. Mine used to tell me I had a lousy ass, but I know better because i've been complimented on it. Stay strong sister. People in these comments are the strongest people on the earth!
Victory. I will also add that my faith in Jesus Christ helped in my healing.
Yes!! Trust yourself!!! He will say anything to get you back and destroy you! Trust God and Jesus! He has a plan for you. A better life awaits you! You are finally free! Use what you have learned to discern other narcissists or demons. Satan will come for you. In Matthew 16:23, Jesus says to Peter, "Get behind me, Satan! You are a hindrance to me. For you are not setting your mind on the things of God, but on the things of man".
Yes ! I had a Narcissistic Mom,and finally after 66 yrs. I walked away, now I live in peace, she never changed, I gave her, chances ,that maybe she would change and never did it became worst, so for myself, I had to walk away from her,now I live in peace, she was physically, mentally, abusive to me growing up,after 66yrs. I walked away for good.she was jealous of me ,but never treated my Brother's like just me ,the only Daughter.
@kathrynhogan3387 yes! And free from the toxic person.
Good for you. It's never too late to learn.
Ditto
Same here 🌺 happy you are finally free 💯
Seems like the both of us had to deal with the same, you described my mother, full blown narcissist, I used to wonder if parents can be jealous of me, and actually figure out yes they are 😅 me the only son
Paula,
You are such a beautiful person and I love watching your videos ..
Thank you for all you do
Thank you so much!
It's called The Door Slam. You know the exact minute it happens. They know it too. Maybe not right away like you do but looking back they know.
They know! They hook into your psyche from the 4 th dimension.
We read people for connection. They read ppl for exploitation.
That was a glorious teaching Paula!
I needed that so so so much!
Today was a painful day dealing with the narc; but God turned it for good for me by listening to you today!
This is the beginning of me using the” sword of the spirit” to try again!
I won’t give up!
With God all things are possible!!
Your teaching woke me up today and comforted me!
You bless me a lot!
Remy is so funny& cute!
Keep these necessary teaching coming!
God bless us all!🙏
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Discovered your channel a few days ago. THE MOST helpful channel I've seen on the subject so far. Thank you.
I agree, her channel is the best one for this content
I agree
Its the most accurate information x
Been grateful since finding her channel too. Another good one here. Just sharing one. It’s Narcissist Chronicles with Coach Jesse. I think these content creators went to the same war college.
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Thanks, Paula, after narcissist abuse, we finally know who we are!
About 2 years ago I drew my sword but subconsciously. I see it now very clearly. I had cancer 6 years ago and survived. I know now he would have preferred I died so he would have gotten very rich from my death. I survived and changed as I stripped off the layers of who others wanted me to be. When he left me this year, he said he hasn't been happy since I had cancer. Whoppie do 😂 doing inner child work now to heal ❤❤ love how you provide guidance. Thank you
So many victories in your comment. Love it.
Congratulations on getting rid of the cancer of the narcissist and it sounds like that could be why you got sick in the first place. In my experience once I was away from the narcissist I started to heal from the physical ailments right away. I hope the same for you. It's proven that they cause others illnesses that manifest in the body from the narcissistic abuse. Best to you 🙏
I don’t know how I got the courage to block him and go no contact. He didn’t expect it at all. He pushed me too far and I just snapped and said no more. It’s like someone took over my mind and made me take action. The trauma bond is still present after 14 months. I fight it daily. It’s the worst experience I have ever been through and I’ve been through a lot
I started preparing to leave or heal us two years ago. I drew closer to God and received my prayer tongue last September. Praying in the Spirit is the BEST kept secret in Christianity. Little by little I e gotten stronger. I'm healing. And I drew my spiritual sword Saturday evening (day before yesterday). Things are crazy today, but I feel the power of the Lord raining on me and through me. He does, too. I'm believing for a miracle because I've never experienced anything like this before. May God bless everyone who reads this message. Amen.
Dear Paula, I was done when my enter voice told me not to let him take me to his level. It is a strange time to explain. It is when all red flags are flying, your whole body is on high alert, and you know it is the end, the friendship is non fixable. I believe in angels.
I am constantly being deliberately damaged here by the Narcissist, who is my legal husband of 41 years and father of our five daughters. He harms our family all the time by lying about me to our children and other family members, which is very painful for me and also so harmful to our children, who deserve so much better than this. I have always tried to protect my children from his mental health issues, which are demonic in nature because he lies constantly and slanders and harms people on purpose, which he gets great satisfaction from. To see his joy after knowing he harmed you, is very painful and very hard to recover from. I am trying to be able to afford more trauma counseling. I really need this. Any Women of God reading this. I covet your prayers. God bless you.
God be with you.🌺
Married mine 1983. Many children couldn’t get out. Didn’t realize until2018 who he was. A tragedy. I prayed a lot still do. It is my life line. Let’s pray for each other.
Prayer is a powerful tool. Empower and educate your children on narcissism so they can get out. This a test and you will overcome it. I pray God protects you and helps you get the help you need.🤲♥️
You have my prayer that you succeed in emotionally if not physically detaching from the demonic spirit. You can outwit Satan who is predictable.
You've just described exactly the last year of my life! I drew my sword in November last year and the wrath of the devil itself has been unleashed on me by my ex narcissist partner. I knew something was 'wrong' as she discarded me, so I immediately filed for divorce. Its been 6 months of total hell since. Horrific. But the fact you have described this predictable behaviour so well just goes to show the narc is just a predictable mask of nothingness. You are brilliant.
Your dog always so relax, he knows that he is with the wonderful empathetic person not with any demon.
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I can relate to drawing your spiritual sword...I never saw it as that...but I knew I had had enough after going back time after time...No contact is the only and best way if you can...I am now reaping the rewards..feel me again, authentic and peaceful going forward...
I came to a realization when my ex-narc, once again, talked about his victimhood at work and having a 'terrible boss'. I pondered that with him and said out loud that it's amazing that one person can have a series of bad bosses. Inwardly, I realized that the problem was likely him. I stopped listening to his work stories - he loved telling me these in the early morning over coffee before the children woke up. Instead of participating in this routine, I started going for long walks. I probably caused narcissistic injury. But the sword was truly drawn when he announced his divorce to me a few months later. I really had enough. Regardless of who or what he was - a loving partner does not threaten divorce to gain control. I woke up then and decided I didn't want a mean partner like that.
By FAR hands down one of your BEST videos. Everything you said resonated with my being!!! Thank you!
Our purpose is life is to VIBRATE High and SHINE as much as we can, it is NO accident why we attract so many NARCs into our lives. Narcs are like mosquitos. I've experienced narcs in my life since I was kid at home, friends and work. I walked out in silence from everybody, moved to another State, changed my cell phone number...now I am healing, exercising, loss weight, have a new apartment, became an independent contractor, recovered ALL my confidence in myself again. Things are just going GREAT!
Forgive, Forget and Move-On & NEVER change who you truly are, our real/true nature is to LOVE, GIVE, SHARE, PLAY, HELP unfortunately they are those that ALWAYS take advantage because they are miserable.
You need to move ON
You are beautiful inside and out....love your dog.....fabulous video
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Unfortunately not being aware I was in a narcissistic marriage, I attempted initiating an amicable divorce so he orchestrated my arrest and i left in a paddy wagon. If only i had come across this knowledge sooner. At any rate, I am now free of this demon and truly happier. Just battling a protracted divorce, but that too shall pass
They don't comprehend amicable, compromise or co-operation.
Nobody actually exists outside themselves.
It's a tough pill to swallow. 💊
Best thing to do is no contact and have a lawyer who understands narcissistic abuse on your side.
For me I drew my sword and stepped away after finding that the very things that were bothering me (including the way this person had a very sick hierarchical thing going on with people) others were treated like Kings and Queens by him while I was mistreated which was just sick! What was more sick is the individual tried to triangulate me by throwing it in conversations how he interacted with others which was vastly different to the way he gave me lowly treatment but he is the lowly weirdo.🤣😂
Hope you and Remy are enjoying yourselves but it looks like Remy certainly is! 🥰😍
@kathrynhogan3387 Yes I already did. like I said I stepped away and drew my sword that is my story of how it happened.
Like I said I saw his sick games.
I would buy and read any book authored by the primary supply after escaping and healing.
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For me it was a final rejection of their fake reality and a remembrance of my own truth !! It takes SO much courage , not because you are scared , but because you have SO MUCH investment and trust that you have to let go ! It's akin to becoming an orphan , because you have to RELEARN everything about yourself , and also where your place in the world is going to be as you move on . They were your guru , your belief system , you were convinced they had all the right answers and ultimately had your best interests at heart , DESPITE all the continued abuse ! You have now FINALLY WOKEN ,...and nothing will ever be the same EVER again ! 💪🙏❤️
Thank you Paula for what you do, your words has helped me lots. xoxo
So glad!
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Yes, thank you and thanks to the co-producer (Remy?) also😂
Love it💚
I drew my sword after finding out my ex was having an affair with my friend. That day was the most painful day of my life. I had been with him for two thirds of my life, he was all I knew. He was my everything. I felt like my heart had been ripped out of my chest. I cried for a long time and went into a depressed state for a period of time, I realized I needed to get some counseling to find myself again ( I had totally lost myself). I found the person I had always been, I found an inter strength I never knew existed. I am happy to say that its been many years since I drew my sword and it was sooooo worth it. Life is wonderful 🎉😊 and I know who I am😊 This was an amazing video Paula❤ thank you
I went no contact with my ex narc over 3yrs ago....now I found out that he's dating my sister who looks almost identical to me.
Blessed God for your testimony 🙏🏿
Therefore, take up the whole armor of God, that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand!
I believe you have "The Gift" it's on another galaxy ... 💯
Being with a narc after the euphoria of the love bombing is like a dark cold muddy tunnel with no joy and when you escape its like dancing in a field of flowers on a mountain in sunshine and feeling hapoy and beautiful ❤❤❤❤
Four years of giving the biggest part of my heart, understanding, compassion and patience. Watching it all - seeing eventually the truth, that I was a number, not a person, I was one of many, many women, not the only one. I accepted unexplained and undeserved screaming, rage, high pitched, screaming horrible descriptions of who they saw me as,...but I was never that - never ever was that person. The final and last screaming at me, because I called to see if he was okay, as I could see and felt his health was not good - mentally, food wise, timewise...He ripped my heart and face off for the final time, as I hung up mid conversation and sat numb...for days...in disbelief of his action...in shame that I traded my peace of mind, to care and call him, to be screamed at as if he was on fire with gasoline...I am grateful for this moment.... I never want to hear his name, see his face, know any thing...about this insanely traumatized person, that all they can give to others is ...trauma.
Please everyone, be careful...dont waste this precious life giving to a person, who shows they cant see your beautiful light, cant appreciate you care about them..genuinely...Please people...know the definition of a loving person - they will never scream at you for calling them, they will never mistreat you. period. They will never mistreat you. period...that is the difference...
Life is so incredible..so beautiful and so are humans, souls and loving people....do not attempt to SAVE those who harm you. period. You will wake up with that life spent on them....gone...
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Now, give what you gave to him, to yourself. And, they DO see and know your light, but they want to extinguish it because they can't have it.
The pain is unbelievable, your so right.
❤❤WE WILL GET THROUGH. LEGAL AID 💪⛑️. GOD BLESS YOU 🙏😇
Ive just realized my ex alienated my adult daughter when she was a child. His grandmother alieniated him from his mother. And now im alienated from my grandchildren. Being with a narcissist has consequences
Yep! Me, too!
Narcissism is all about separation. They're playing out separation generationally.
They've separated from humanity; from God.
I'm alienated from our 4 adult children for 13 yrs now.
GBY 🙏
To reproduce with a narcissist is to reproduce with a tare. The Wheat and tare may grow together but aren’t meant to crossbreed. The result it majority of tare offspring and minority wheat offspring that would be tortured just the same as we were. “Should two walk together, unless they’re equally yoked?”
I think it was God’s protection when he took my 2 unborn babies him via miscarriages. They for sure would’ve been empaths those narcissists would’ve hurt them. I would’ve probably unalived the narcissists if I ever witness them harm a child. They are also sex predators that would sexually ruin anything with a pulse. PDFiles if you catch my drift.
The betrayal is a very deep cut. It takes years and years to realize the depth of that betrayal. The real self and the values that are part and parcel of that self needs to triumph over the evil of the devaluation of the narcissist and misogynist. That is the very painful lesson that the empath must learn. It strengthens the self and the soul. Then you step into the light. That is the gift. I have found the pain lessens everyday but it is still there.
Thank you Paula and Remy ! So happy to see you both ! Been 5 years now , thru the pain barrier and yes , life is so different , peaceful , found my purpose , joy . The journey is so painful but so worth it ! A new and shining life ! And I have my life experience , love and wisdom to share with others . I am so delighted to see how many subscribers you have now Paula , I have been following you from the very beginning, you are helping so many of us .
Thankyou I'm 3 and half years out. I'm trying every day to heal it is painful. But I know I'm a strong woman. I will keep going.
Thanks Leslie good to see you 🌹
One day i was just laying on the couch trying to get a grasp of wtf was going on around me. It was like someone or something yelled at me "remember who you are" i wasnt very religious until then i didnt have a specific denomination but i belive in a higher power and just trying to be a good person. It was one of the craziest things ive ever experienced. I wasnt afraid. i felt powerful. The best way to describe it is going into the "avartar state", yes from the cartoon😂. But seriously the amount of power i felt, the warmth , the knowing that everything was going to be okay and that im not crazy. It was something i will never forget and so greatful for. I essentially cut all emotions off and spoke pure unadulterated truths and told her i knew what she was and what she was doing. It was like the scene from the wizzard of oz when they threw the bucket of water on the witch
Was sitting at a stoplight on Forest Hills Avenue when I reached my limit. Let's just say I didn't win the popularity contest , but I gained such peace of mind.Content in my own skin and comfortable with my decisions. Calmer and less anxious.
Thank you to all my teachers in this weird world of narcissism.
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You seem to take excellent care of your inner child, which is so important for any grown person, no matter what the childhood wounds may have been. I think I've seen you making videos on 3 or 4 vacations now. Solo vacations are an ideal way to treat ourselves to our own insistence on self-esteem. For me, taking myself on vacation with nobody but me for company, is like a pure form of self-care and self-respect, even though most everyone might easily prefer, not to go alone. When traveling alone, it's easier for me to reach out for connection. Traveling alone is for most people I think, not even an option.
Paula, what you are saying is right on. Everything you stated I felt. I drew my sword to survive the abuse. I had taken enough & realized that I had to fight for my very being & do the right thing. I rejected his ways. I faced a window of truth and realized that I was good enough. Called survival mode.
As usual Paula your video was so accurate!
Not sure if I drew my sword but I realised that she'd over stepped the mark , and she had overstepped it quite a bit.
I was going to new york with her,
She a few days earlier had told me she didn't love me anymore!
I surprised her and accepted it without any begging and chasing, like I'd did often before!
She then told me she was going to cancel the holiday (as she had her name on the booking)
I accepted this too,stating that was fine also,but I'd like my deposit back that I'd paid out!
I surprised myself how I accepted it without any drama.
Deep down it killed me ,I was hurting so much,
Even when she sent the deposit to my bank account, I thanked her !
She then asked " to be friends"😂
A narcassitic trait, I knew she'd never loved me at this point.
I have a narcassitic mother and middle sister and always was put down,
But I sub consciously knew this wasn't right!
I did hope she would book another holiday, or beg and chase me ,apologising for what she did,
This never happened and I did hope that she would.
I'm not a spiritual person but I do think something in your head just eventually tells you that these behaviours aren't right!
I'll never nw what she wanted from me as I am not well off ,
I'm no Brad Pitt either so haven't a clue !
I still don't nw what my life purpose is,
But I am pleased that I showed her unconditional love,
Unfortunately for me I fell for a narcassist,
Nearly two yrs down the line nw I am so pleased I never wilted and contacted her again...
It's a tough journey,but you do get over it, eventually!.👍👍👍👍
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Hey Paula !!! You are so right when you finally find out the truth about why they’re really there !!! The truth came in the form of recklessly firing a firearm to scare me and after eight years I knew this person hates me wants to destroy me or wants me dead and I drew my sword and was done Completely!! Unfortunately I’ve been harassed and stalked and Hovered like crazy because we have a child so I moved and I’m working on get full custody and erase this person from my life
You are great at explaining things from the point of the victim thank you so much. I've been Narcassistically abused my entire life, and now I'm being gangstalked heavily.
I found the process of separating the wheat from the chaff to be crucial. Outwardly, connecting with people in your life who fully support you, breaking with the rest. If you know me, you know me. If you don't know me, you don't. Let go. The narcissist's smear campaign will help you do this. Hand in hand, look inward and separate your own ego grasping for a solution, relief, salvation. I found that awareness of ego-grasping must give birth by stopping, taking a pause, connecting with my inner natural calm and listening for Truth that I attribute to God's actions in me. As I learn patience, God peels away the veils of ego and light comes in the form of God's actions and actual guidance. God is good all the time. We are not abandoned. Put on the armor of God. This too shall pass. Share with your trusted friends for the benefit of all! Blessings for you always. Thank you! 🙏
When I had a dream where in I was in the narcs home, he had a beautiful tree in his living room, full of large beautiful red apples, he offered me one, and he cut the apple up and placed it on a plate and gave it to me, as i looked at the cut up apple on the plate in front of me it was full of worms and bugs!
Very accurate, with them its all simulation, its all rotten in reality.
Wow
I never had a pleasant dream of the narcissist. Even before I ever met him in person, God gave me a warning and showed me how life would be with the narcissist. I woke up hyperventilating and I told the narcissist about the dream he assured me it was just a dream.
That dream became my reality when I left my country to move with him in his. The every same behaviour. Every dream that I have had since knowing has been full of evil, lies, deception, and even my own mother that passed away weeping for me to leave the narcissist. Dreams of trying to revive dead babies which is symbolic for trying to save a dead relationship.
Dreams about the narcissistic ex being on trial and my dead brother being the judge and my dead mom being my attorney. Dreams of his phone and it being full of porn and nude pics of women. I never got into that home ever again to confirm this, but given the dreams I have had regarding him, I think that’s exactly what that phone was.
Just as it was difficult to explain to others the pain of living with a narcissist it is equally difficult to describe the joy of living without them. It is TRUELY amazing. Every moment of every day is a treasure. Do it! Leave and never look back! It is what I expect it is like to be reborn.
Paula you have a great healing gift. Learning about this subject has deeply changed my life. Many thanks.
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Hi Paula😊
That video you have just done, will go down in spiritual 🙏 folklore.
That was undoubtedly heaven sent and so are you.
I have just sent it too Australia 🇦🇺 it needs to be shared amongst empaths..to gauge how far they have come on their journey.
You Brough tears too my eyes, my heart ❤️ is beating like a drum..and I want the world 🌎 too know what a blessing you are.
You Brought everything back too me that I went through and when you said about the Angels 😇 ✨️ it's true..I have met Angels..spiritual cats..and much more.
Yes we need too raise the vibration of this sick world..and bring it back into Alignment with God and the universe.
I tip my hat too you lady..for you are an Angel 😇 💖.
Peace&Love&Light Namaste 🙏 ♥️
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Thank you Paula.
Oh it is so worthy to finally, really leave the narc. Three months now and it was hard. Still love him. But I love god, my child, myself and my life more. I rediscovered that. You (the narc victim) are worthy and needed in this world, too! And Narc Con, your channel is really the most helpful in my healing journey. Nobody can sum it up so well said as you, and so calm, so lovely. Thank god for you.
They force you to choose because them and your soul
A month and a half ago, I set more boundaries because the narc was so intrusive to my well being and sleep deprivation. When I moved to sleeping in the spare room, i told narc, "When I'm in my bedroom, you cannot come in." I had to reinforce my boundries several times, which always led to anger and argument ----- all because i demanded my privacy, sleep, health and well being. I tnink the narc wanted me to resort to alcohol or suicide. Thats how bad it gets, and one just cannot function...
I pray you will be able to escape safely.
@@user56gghtfI'm working on it! I've been severely damaged, and haven't gone off my property for a year or more, and that's isolatio personified. Thank you for your kind words.
@@grizzleegurr7421 🥺🧸💕You're welcome. yes that is isolation. But you're still alive. You're not done yet. Move in silence and strategically. I pray God protects you.
@@user56gghtf Your words are encouraging and comforting. Thank you for your concern. I know I'm not the only one.
Thank you, I have been very touched by this video and got very emotional hearing your words, you painted the picture of my life in a way I couldn’t! I grew up in a dysfunctional family with narcissists parents and I let go away the good guys to get married instead for two times to narcissists. I wasn’t aware of narcissism.
After the last marriage where I was discarded I went through such a pain acknowledging that I gave away the last part of my life, I gave away my energy, my love, my time, and been left with nothing. I am almost 54 and looking for a job….If I make it I will dedicate my life to help other people as you said!!!! Let’s spread the voice about narcissism because unfortunately today is predominant in this world.
My mother had NPD and I suffered emotional abuse under her for 26 years of my life until I got married to a man who also is a malignant narcissist.. I am 62 years now and have suffered for 35 years in this marriage. From the frying pan to the fire,so to say. Because of societal pressure and 2 adult children I am in a trauma bond. I so long to draw the sword .
Talk with a counselor.
Make a plan.
Leave.
You CAN do it. Draw that sword! It will only destroy you if you stay.
I had a similar situation Marc father then went on to marry one and was I. The marriage for 30 years, I’m out now 7 years, yoga helped me see what was going on and have the spiritual awakening. I felt so spiritually supported during f the whole divorce process and still. Once we start to stand up for ourselves we are spiritually supported,
I’m I’m also 62, you can do it.
You do come out the outside and when you do belive me you will ask yourself 'WHAT THE HELL WAS I DOING WITH SOMEONE WHO IS SOOOO NASTY, speaking to young woman today whom has 2 young girls from an Narrisist, TG she never married him, he putting her through HELL and is TOTALLY TOTALLY heart less when picks up these BEAUTIFUL little girls, youngest just gets hysterical crying and he has NO COMPASSION, EXTREMELY SAD on ALL especially her mother to witness this, we gong to a talk on Narcissism (hope spelt right) which is on in Limerick on the 16th of May in Dolans on Dock Road in Limerick,, HOPEFULLY she will feel better for it, her Mum, my daughter and myself going as a group, ANYONE that going through this might be interested, I saw it on Facebook, THANK YOU SO MUCH Paula for this video and WE ARE ENOUGH 👏👏👏👏👏😊
Ahhh, thank you for the holiday. My sword came out after 25 years...he no longer needed me for money, childcare, housekeeping, affection, but I did the old reverse discard. Not to discourage anyone, but just recently I've completely come through the "pain barrier" due to flying monkey effects. Every day is a triple day of happiness, just like you said, Paula. PS. Couldn't see the Remy beach stroll tho😊
Me, neither 😢❤
Technical problems 🤔
I’ve made up a system to help it worked for me.the “can’t abuse me and expect me to snap up and be ok”I realized I had to fight so I made up this “protocol “
1) acknowledge. We have to acknowledge the fact that we were abused.
2) accept. did we have to accept the fact that it happened this involves deep emotional acceptance.
3)morn. we must mourn about it in order to release it to cry and feel the pain.
4)move on.. we must move on past it. Otherwise we live in that moment always feeling not enough. It’s imperative to the soul to understand that it’s over the only one that can allow it to happen again is one self.
Thank you for your insight! I drew my sword last week when my narcissistic sister made a scene at our mother’s funeral. Mom was an essential source of feed for NS and I am so curious about where she will go for her next source. Over the course of the last two years learning about narcissism has helped me gain a valuable perspective and I’m now able to observe my sister’s performances rather than be an active unknowing participant.
I love your videos and your perspective and personality. Thank you very much, Truly.
Narcissists don't decide to become narcissists; it's not an option. It's a mental disorder. People should try to maintain distance within these individuals, if possible.
If they changed the behavior, the mind would follow, then the brain could heal, then the brain would heal the body.
But to change the behavior that involves changing the character which we all do choose within the same inherent measure of free will.
This is why narcissism is really more rooted in the character/ spirit of the person.
If they didn't know their behavioral choices were harmful then why hide them??
No it’s a CHOICE
Narcissism is a mental disorder. They lack gray matter in the frontal cortex of their brains. There is no possible reconstruction of the brain.
@@queensnonprofitThat's what they'd like you to think but there's no one in there to connect with in reality.
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I, too, share your beliefs in our living many lifetimes. So, wonderful to hear someone else shares this knowing. I also believe that there are more "good people" in this world than "narcissist people," but we are in a "battle." The good people of love wear our invisible swords daily and are prepared to do battle.🤺🪂🚁🎯🎭🎥🏹
God tells us that we have one life ( Bible) and then the judgment . We have to know Him personally and intimately and the sword of His Spirit will cut to the truth of the plan He has ordained for us. There is peace and joy w Him and we will rejoice to see that God has removed the narcissist.
Thank you. You have so wonderfully described the journey through this pain barrier into-what I felt was- a joyful rebirth, that I experienced many years ago. I’m now trying to educate and strengthen myself further for my daughter and granddaughter’s sake as I fear they are in danger now. Thank you for your beautiful, powerful and spiritual wisdom.
I "Drew My Sword" when he physically crossed my boundaries for at least the 3rd time and I was in such panick and fear that I had to eacape him by switching direction and followed another hotel guest down the stairs and to the office, as the narcissist angrily followed me. I asked the hotel employee to protect me. He asked if he could call 911. I said YES! That's when I knew it was over and done. I will never be in anyones presence again who makes me fear for my safety and life. Thank you for this channel and being brave enough to share your research and the truth, in order to help yourselff and us all! May God bless you in great ways you've never even imagined Paula! 🙏
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I find the information shared very insightful. I have finally decided to draw my spiritual sword this morning. I have tried so hard for so long to make the relationship work. Enough torturing is enough. I draw the line without looking back. May the Lord help me on this new road I am about to embark on.
When I said No. The response was complete silence from the Narsisst. As if I said nothing at all. When I left this person, she expressed that I will always be her true love. Love bombing is a form of control in my opinion. "Trust is earned" this is my opinion. Narsissts expect trust right from the very beginning of a connection. I grew up with parents that are Narsissts. After I left the Narsisst I realized that my parents are Narsissts. I'm no longer ignorant .... your content helps me greatly thank you for all that you do. I'm finally starting to feel happiness in my life. I'm discovering who I truly am under all of the past pains from childhood. Why did I draw my sword? I no longer wanted to live a life she created for me. She didn't see me for who I am. I realized she never loved me. She said she loved me over and over again but her actions didn't match her words.
The debating, arguing and dreadful drama was something she believed brought us closer together.
Nothing but lies. That's why I left. I decided to live in the truth.
I got the information during a mediation ( outside) in a sort of download. Then I reviewed the last 9 years, and I was able to come up w/ numerous examples of her ( a friend) words & actions, her psychological manipulations etc. I determined to go no contact IMMEDIATELY. I instantly felt relief. I also got the Universe's confirmation that I was on point, when w/ i minutes, two prayer got answered. Mind blowing stuff! Love your channel, delivery & energy.
THERE WAS NEVER A DISCUSSION ON ANY LEVEL. GOD BLESS. DON'T GIVE UP SISTER. YOU WILL SEE ENOUGH. 😢❤🎉
I seen the black eyes I was a tough woman to break. I'm 3 and half years out now and trying to heal every day. Life and freedom is good ❤😊
Beyond worth it! Sword 🗡️
After 18 years and 6 children, I drew my sword. That was almost 40 years ago. It was a huge struggle, but totally and completely worth it.
This lady is badass!!!
Best I've heard on the struggle with narcissism, thank you
Bonjour, je suis d' accord avec ce que vous dites.
Après la douleur atroce vécue avec ses personnages, le temps, l' apprentissage et les objectifs du cœur nous font arriver à la vraie connaissance de nous-mêmes.
J'ai vécu en tant qu'enfant, aussi avec le père de mes enfants la destruction mais j'ai survécu et je suis très heureuse avec moi même, la vie a du sens.
J'ai compris la guerre spirituelle que nous vivons et j'ai choisis mon camps , je nourris au plus possible mon loup blanc .
Bien à vous et merci pour cette vidéo émouvante
I stumbled on your presentation today as I was looking for strength to continue in my no contact mode with my narcissistic father.
I grew up with him being a successful minister and then I married a narcissistic man who was even more destructive.
After 15 years, I left him.
You are so correct about giving away all your energy to try to help them.
I appreciate your understanding and love you offer us.
Love and Light Paula bless you each day soo soo true each word you speak ❤
I recently had the " omg that's what they're after" monent. I saw the truth in an instant. I knew i was done.
I drew the sword & said No. I didnt need to explain why. I saw what had been the plan all along. These coverts are super manipulative but my No saved me from a huge pit. All he said was "ok. Just forget about it "
The result? Hasnt asked again but punishment in silent treatment every 2-3 days with a "hi, how you doing"
Thank you so much Paula i say that with tears in my eyes i haven't got the energy to say what happened but im on top THANK GOD AND YOU 🎉
This is the most valuable video I've ever watched, and I've watched so many. Perfect timing I just said I want to separate to my H of 28yrs. It has been excruciatingly painful. I have been told by the Lord to leave the darkness I have been blessed in so many ways through this process but still this is so hard! I'm 50 and yes, I agree if i have just 10 years left, I want to spend it moving forward and living a better life if God will allow me I want to help others and have a positive purpose. I can't imagine a good outcome right now but because of the pain' but I will press on!!
Such an amazing release of vital energy mixed with realisation I had been trapped an a tiny tiny box. Freedom at last
One of your best takes yet, Paula and Remy ❤ The turning point, the awakening of the empath into their own power. It's a beautiful thing.
I am turning 36 years in a month. I went through narcissistic abuse for 10 years from my inlaws. I didn't know then what I was going through but now I know. I resonate every single word you say, it's painful but it's worth it. I am very grateful to people like you and the Universe for guiding me throughout my life's journey. I owe my life to God. I want to raise my two kids in healthy environment. I am fortunate enough to have my partner's support. I have to thank him for being patient with me and not pushing me to do things I didn't want to during my awakening process. The initial phase is the hardest but then when your healing journey begins every little thing is appreciated and enjoyed. You will find joy in every small things. I can't express that joy and content through words. Thank you for making videos for people like me. Your are a light in this world ❤️🙏
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I would line to thank you so much for your podcasts ..after going through love bombing grooming then discard .for the past 6 months I have been ill until I finally discarded the narcissists and then was blocked by him ..without your podcast I would not have started to heal .you are angel .thank you .xx
It’s soooo worth it to get to the other side! It’s like coming out of a wormhole in time and space where you feel elevated in spirit and bodily/mental vibrancy/clarity ❤. You appreciate yourself and the energy/ purpose/gifts you carry within. As she said, you are more protective of your gifts and you use them for yourself more readily because you are more aware of them and how you activated them during the narcissistic relationship. You are more attuned to life and you are more sensitive to the energy others carry thereby making healthy assessments as to whether to enter or swiftly exit before any relationship is established ❤🎉🎉🎉Kudos if you have made it HERE 🎉🎉Keep going and Don’t stop until you arrive For those on the way HERE ❤❤❤😊
Thanks, I needed to hear this, got out of a relationship because it was toxic. But through it all I saw things that I needed to change about myself with the Lords help. To make me stronger for a purpose and future. Btw never knew that I had a strong light that attracted the darkness until I went through this!!
I drew my sword when (1) I understood that I was finally really growing and genuinely ‘in recovery’ from my childhood abuse, and (2) I saw that my narc now stepped up his demeaning, disrespectful behaviors toward me. Because he could see I was doing better and it threatened him.
Thank you so much for these teachings. I have been struggling for years w narcissist family members and I finally get it. I've finally been able to stand up for myself and deny their access to me, only took me 58 years, lol
Yes, making boundaries and keeping them are two different things
No coming out the other side! Not allowed to leave!
I love the comments…’I drew my sword when’ - We win by using the most sophisticated machine of all time - the human brain. Finally, enough love! In honor of County Kerry and this coach, let’s agree to name our swords - I choose LightBringer.