A man literally said he can replace one woman with the next, to my face. When I did my do, he wanted to change his tune like he was in pain from me leaving him. Nope, I believed him the first time.
Men don’t care how good you are. They know they can just go get another woman…and they do just that. Please never waste your time thinking he regrets losing you.. he doesn’t. Even if he comes back, he’s only doing that bc he’s in between women, please wake up.
This! Or you're the second, third, or fifth choice cause someone else turned him down. Or he has a health issue and is spinning the block cause you were the dependable one LOL
Every single young woman needs to know this!! If he has regrets, they are not about you. His regrets are not really about you as a person...his regrets are self-centered. He regrets that the break-up made him look bad in front of people. He regrets not baby trapping you. Or he regrets not doing more to burden you after you had his kids. He regrets not having someone to serve him anymore. His regrets are all about him.
I tell any man that I date that I do not go back to exes. The last one didn’t believe me…. Now he knows 😉 and yes he can go get another female but none will replace you but the tea IS you can get a better man as well. Stay focused on you and your spiritual journey then everything will be added.
It’s discipline for real… a lot of men lack discipline in relationships. They might have discipline to keep a job but none (I’ve never met one man that would make me say some men) of them care to treat the relationship like a good job they want to keep because they want to make women prove they are the good job worth keeping when they aren’t interested in proving the same either. They assume when they got you it’s because they deserve you and now it’s your time to continually prove your worth. It’s bullshit. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. Hard pass.
Im a genuine One and Done. They cant handle both my beauty and brains . Already accepted being High maintenance, ambitious, resilient, resourceful etc even if it dosent look like it and i never look + dress like my problems
I fell for him hard, loved him with more than myself. He married the girlfriend he had the whole time. 5 years later she refused to relocate with his job, twice, won’t let him see the kids now after he bought her a house and new car……I chuckled a little bit.
I hate when they peaceful is boring. NO it’s only boring to disordered or toxic people!!! When you are healed and healthy PEACEFUL is exactly the thing you want and are looking for ! Drama turns you OFF. When you aren’t a TOXIC person!!! Anyone who brings drama or risks my safety TO MY LIFE and SANITY can get far away from me! I don’t need games or tests . I’m not an experiment for insecure people. People who need drama are addicts they just want the dopamine and adrenaline not YOU! Those relationships are not LOVE , they are ABUSE! Know the difference ! If someone loves you they aren’t going to keep you on a roller coaster ! That’s a trauma bond ! Love is peaceful love is kind none of those things occur in dramatic engagements . Love doesn’t hurt you and those people are usually hurting each other back and forth 😂 furthest thing from LOVE! Grow up!
Leave the first time and let your yes be yes,no is no.✋️ That regret they carry, unfortunately, can mutate to more low value,dirt rock tendencies, and "fatal attractions."
We need to stop infantising grown men. No, a boy is a child under the age of 18 yrs old or 21 yrs old if you're seasoned, like myself. A grown man does not know how to grow, mature, and find value in himself and others. A grown man!.
This guy told me that I'm so "perfect" and said that I'd make a good girlfriend or wife, but said he wasn't interested in more. I couldn't understand that b/c we had such good chemistry. He did tell me he wasn't looking for a relationship right now, that its not that he doesn't want me but knows he has a lot of deeper issues, and that I'm too good for him. The thing about it is that he has continued to flirt, and call me everyday. One of the last few times we hung out, he told me that he went many dates and that I'm the closest to being the one. When I confronted him about being together, he said we couldn't b/c we work together. I'm trying to heal and move on but apart of me just can't understand why he doesn't want to give "us" a shot, especially since he always comes around, has acted jealous, and obviously is attracted to me but I figure he doesn't want me that much or we he wouldn't be giving excuses. I'm having a hard time not internalizing his rejection, especially since I've had so many other failed romantic situations.
@19:00 He's the only male in this video claiming it's not a lot of good women. 🤔 That is literally one of the reasons they fumble good women tho, it's too easy for them to get another because so many exits. Good men however are almost non-existent 🤷
nope!!!! has nothing to do with an attachment style,! BUT EVERYTHING TO SO WITH WHAT THEY REALLY THINK and who they are as a human being - they do not give fck about us and it is not an attachment issue but an issue of morality! Not everything has to do with attachment theory ...because these players will be the most non avoidant, most wholesome men in the beginning to charm you in order to lure you in and once you are in, they switch up suddenly! so i call it bullst!!!!! They know VERY WELL HOW TO SHOW Up, IS JUST THEY DON'T CARE TO DO IT! - THEY HAVE THEIR AGENDA AND THEY ARE ON IT!!!! IT IS ALL A GAME FOR THEM!
True Story a young man attempted to ask me out and I told him I’m in a relationship with God on a deeper level. He got so intimidated and bothered it was hilarious!! I’ve never seen anything like it.
I LOOOVE being single and in love with God. I’m never alone and never bored nor broke!! After that divorce I realized I was living life on accident and just letting anyone choose me even though hr proposed I should have said no
The answer is they are narcissistic people who love bombed you and once the thrill is gone and the honeymoon phase is over, they want out of the relationship.
The world is not what it is because goodness has universal value. Deceitfulness is seen as power. Youve got to do more observation when you pick a mate. Observe character. It wont lead you astray.
I totally agree that when a person wants to leave, let them go. I want to add ❤ It takes 5 things to have a good strong relationship and not necessarily in the order prescribed and it also always takes the two to make a relationship work. 1. Communication 2. Finance 3. Sex 4. Trust 5. Be equally yoked These are the foundations the pillars for creating good, healthy, sustainable and successful relationships. Whenever anyone of these are weak, neglected or missing or marginalized the relationship becomes weak, challenging and soon to end. They are what we all should have control over and understand before going into a relationship of commitment. Before commenting anything negative I ask that what I have said be given honest thought and ask yourself which of these aforementioned qualities are or were missing in your intimate (committed) relationship? I am confident that you will find one or more of them were weak, lacking or not there. And remember it takes both people to want to have such a connection. The relationship will not be reciprocal without them. Thanks for the share ❤🎉
@@CreativeSoulsVibe yeah, I can’t stand partners that require soooo much public attention to just breathe. It’s just so friggin immature to me. I’m like grow up already!
It just occurred to me. Men love the game of dating. Once you're married, you've won the game. When you finish a game do you keep playing it? No, you go find another game to play. 🤯 What does keep you coming back to games is when there's new skins new upgrades new features new obstacles. I guess that's what they mean when they say keep things exciting.
Lol funny how a certain guy on one of your tik tok commentary is such a relationship expert but he was cheating on his wife last year 👀 anyway stop fumbling good people ❤
@@angellove1012 The separation between “high value” and “good” in the initial comment. I don’t know the criteria for what is “high value” and what it takes to be considered “good” is subjective. But in my opinion, I would always put my version of what being good is, as a priority when finding out the character of a person, otherwise they wouldn’t be “high value” at all to me, no matter what else they have going on. This value system that has been talked about lately seems alittle wonky.
The peace in being single is priceless
MHMM!!
TRUTH
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❤🎉
A man literally said he can replace one woman with the next, to my face.
When I did my do, he wanted to change his tune like he was in pain from me leaving him.
Nope, I believed him the first time.
Good for you ❤
you are a queen, always leave the first time.😌
@@callalilly1988 bravo! He sounds like an arrogant jerk for real.
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They are not WORTH IT!!! The fumble is the PROTECTION!!!!!
Amen
Men don’t care how good you are. They know they can just go get another woman…and they do just that. Please never waste your time thinking he regrets losing you.. he doesn’t. Even if he comes back, he’s only doing that bc he’s in between women, please wake up.
This!
I HAVE
This! Or you're the second, third, or fifth choice cause someone else turned him down. Or he has a health issue and is spinning the block cause you were the dependable one LOL
Every single young woman needs to know this!!
If he has regrets, they are not about you. His regrets are not really about you as a person...his regrets are self-centered. He regrets that the break-up made him look bad in front of people. He regrets not baby trapping you. Or he regrets not doing more to burden you after you had his kids. He regrets not having someone to serve him anymore. His regrets are all about him.
I tell any man that I date that I do not go back to exes. The last one didn’t believe me…. Now he knows 😉 and yes he can go get another female but none will replace you but the tea IS you can get a better man as well. Stay focused on you and your spiritual journey then everything will be added.
It’s discipline for real… a lot of men lack discipline in relationships. They might have discipline to keep a job but none (I’ve never met one man that would make me say some men) of them care to treat the relationship like a good job they want to keep because they want to make women prove they are the good job worth keeping when they aren’t interested in proving the same either. They assume when they got you it’s because they deserve you and now it’s your time to continually prove your worth. It’s bullshit. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. Hard pass.
That’s a smart way to think!
❤ hell yes.. 😅 hard fcuking pass
Im a genuine One and Done. They cant handle both my beauty and brains . Already accepted being High maintenance, ambitious, resilient, resourceful etc even if it dosent look like it and i never look + dress like my problems
👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿🙏🏾⚘️⚘️💜💜🎉one and done
Yes mammm. I say I’m a “One Chance Dance” 💖
I fell for him hard, loved him with more than myself. He married the girlfriend he had the whole time. 5 years later she refused to relocate with his job, twice, won’t let him see the kids now after he bought her a house and new car……I chuckled a little bit.
Great karma example Sis 😂
Never love a man more than yourself
These men are so goofy.
Chuckle a LOT. fuck that guy. Condolences to his kids and I'm sorry you had to go through that.
Serves him right
I hate when they peaceful is boring. NO it’s only boring to disordered or toxic people!!!
When you are healed and healthy PEACEFUL is exactly the thing you want and are looking for ! Drama turns you OFF. When you aren’t a TOXIC person!!! Anyone who brings drama or risks my safety TO MY LIFE and SANITY can get far away from me! I don’t need games or tests . I’m not an experiment for insecure people. People who need drama are addicts they just want the dopamine and adrenaline not YOU! Those relationships are not LOVE , they are ABUSE! Know the difference ! If someone loves you they aren’t going to keep you on a roller coaster ! That’s a trauma bond ! Love is peaceful love is kind none of those things occur in dramatic engagements . Love doesn’t hurt you and those people are usually hurting each other back and forth 😂 furthest thing from LOVE! Grow up!
Preach 🙌👏🫶🏻
Right! Peace is perfect bliss. ❤
NO MORE Dating for me . Too HARD 💔💔💔 I'm at Peace With Myself . I Will REMAIN Single from NOW ON .
Me too 🙋🏾
It’s just such a large trash pool. Yeah, there may be a diamond swimming around the bottom somewhere, but I ain’t looking for it! 💎💎💎
Same!!
Me 2! I been single 3 years and counting. Single is the way to go.
Men DONT CARE. They Never Did. Stop consoling yourself
They like when you tell them to leave. You become interesting.
In my opinion remain mysterious and never give all of you away
Thank goodness someone brought this issue up. I always wondered WTF was their problem!!! 😅😂
Leave the first time and let your yes be yes,no is no.✋️
That regret they carry, unfortunately, can mutate to more low value,dirt rock tendencies, and "fatal attractions."
Yepppppp I should had left when the problems became resentment
This video is amazing. Thank you for taking the time to make it 💖💖💖
You are so welcome. I'm glad you enjoyed it
@@loca420 I swear, next time I see someone purchasing a lion, tiger as a ‘house pet’ I’m gonna scream!
When they fumble make him keep that energy and remember even if it's years later. You don't get two chances to waste my time or hurt me.
It’s not about u. It’s about them. Stop trying to keep wild animals. They can’t be tamed
Perfectly put!
We need to stop infantising grown men. No, a boy is a child under the age of 18 yrs old or 21 yrs old if you're seasoned, like myself. A grown man does not know how to grow, mature, and find value in himself and others. A grown man!.
EXACTLY`
This guy told me that I'm so "perfect" and said that I'd make a good girlfriend or wife, but said he wasn't interested in more. I couldn't understand that b/c we had such good chemistry. He did tell me he wasn't looking for a relationship right now, that its not that he doesn't want me but knows he has a lot of deeper issues, and that I'm too good for him.
The thing about it is that he has continued to flirt, and call me everyday. One of the last few times we hung out, he told me that he went many dates and that I'm the closest to being the one. When I confronted him about being together, he said we couldn't b/c we work together.
I'm trying to heal and move on but apart of me just can't understand why he doesn't want to give "us" a shot, especially since he always comes around, has acted jealous, and obviously is attracted to me but I figure he doesn't want me that much or we he wouldn't be giving excuses. I'm having a hard time not internalizing his rejection, especially since I've had so many other failed romantic situations.
@19:00 He's the only male in this video claiming it's not a lot of good women. 🤔
That is literally one of the reasons they fumble good women tho, it's too easy for them to get another because so many exits. Good men however are almost non-existent 🤷
😢
Good men are definitely none existent 💯
It is called an avoidant attachment style.
Bingo! 🎯🎯🎯
nope!!!! has nothing to do with an attachment style,! BUT EVERYTHING TO SO WITH WHAT THEY REALLY THINK and who they are as a human being - they do not give fck about us and it is not an attachment issue but an issue of morality! Not everything has to do with attachment theory ...because these players will be the most non avoidant, most wholesome men in the beginning to charm you in order to lure you in and once you are in, they switch up suddenly! so i call it bullst!!!!! They know VERY WELL HOW TO SHOW Up, IS JUST THEY DON'T CARE TO DO IT! - THEY HAVE THEIR AGENDA AND THEY ARE ON IT!!!! IT IS ALL A GAME FOR THEM!
True Story a young man attempted to ask me out and I told him I’m in a relationship with God on a deeper level. He got so intimidated and bothered it was hilarious!! I’ve never seen anything like it.
Love that for you🤣🤣 I'm stealing this
I LOOOVE being single and in love with God. I’m never alone and never bored nor broke!! After that divorce I realized I was living life on accident and just letting anyone choose me even though hr proposed I should have said no
Tell him to leave,ha.I disappear like Houdini.
You leave but then, they refuse to leave. He ended up with ahhh not me.
They end up living without me for the rest of his life. Sucks to be him.
The answer is they are narcissistic people who love bombed you and once the thrill is gone and the honeymoon phase is over, they want out of the relationship.
Then the cycle repeats, the thing is you can't make a good life out that. But I guess most people don't want a good life anymore
What’s the time stamp for coach Anwar?
8:02
@@Nikki_yourbroker omg thank you good sis!
@29:40 this guy drops gems 🔥 💎
The world is not what it is because goodness has universal value. Deceitfulness is seen as power. Youve got to do more observation when you pick a mate. Observe character. It wont lead you astray.
The man at 8:00 is so right!
I totally agree that when a person wants to leave, let them go. I want to add ❤
It takes 5 things to have a good strong relationship and not necessarily in the order prescribed and it also always takes the two to make a relationship work.
1. Communication
2. Finance
3. Sex
4. Trust
5. Be equally yoked
These are the foundations the pillars for creating good, healthy, sustainable and successful relationships.
Whenever anyone of these are weak, neglected or missing or marginalized the relationship becomes weak, challenging and soon to end.
They are what we all should have control over and understand before going into a relationship of commitment. Before commenting anything negative I ask that what I have said be given honest thought and ask yourself which of these aforementioned qualities are or were missing in your intimate (committed) relationship? I am confident that you will find one or more of them were weak, lacking or not there.
And remember it takes both people to want to have such a connection. The relationship will not be reciprocal without them.
Thanks for the share ❤🎉
@@CreativeSoulsVibe yeah, I can’t stand partners that require soooo much public attention to just breathe. It’s just so friggin immature to me. I’m like grow up already!
It just occurred to me. Men love the game of dating. Once you're married, you've won the game. When you finish a game do you keep playing it? No, you go find another game to play. 🤯 What does keep you coming back to games is when there's new skins new upgrades new features new obstacles. I guess that's what they mean when they say keep things exciting.
14:37 this guys always has some funny advice. maybe they shouldn’t be making decisions “out of trauma” then lol tf dude
This!!!! Like if you got issues why you hurting me lmao????😢
11:10 I’m screwed🙃🥲
😂
your
not your beautiful ❤
Lol funny how a certain guy on one of your tik tok commentary is such a relationship expert but he was cheating on his wife last year 👀 anyway stop fumbling good people ❤
what does fumble mean? so he switches/starts acting in a sabotaging way?
When he does deliberate things to sabotage the relationship and ends up fumbling the bag with you (losing you) then later realising he lost a good one
@@mskabue thank you
Just because you’re a high value woman does not make you a good woman. Ijs
I totally agree! High Value and bad attitude does not bake a cake!
@@wandak1889facts
Huh? I thought being a good person was part of being “high value”
@@lin-dundunduunnnwho said it’s wasn’t.
@@angellove1012 The separation between “high value” and “good” in the initial comment.
I don’t know the criteria for what is “high value” and what it takes to be considered “good” is subjective.
But in my opinion, I would always put my version of what being good is, as a priority when finding out the character of a person, otherwise they wouldn’t be “high value” at all to me, no matter what else they have going on.
This value system that has been talked about lately seems alittle wonky.
Men self sabatoge just as much as we do. We do it in a different way
Geez wonder what happened to th”good” trained discipline women
Lol
Nobody fumbled you. You look goofy 😂