Aw I enjoy you guys so much, thanks for sharing your experiences and lives with the UA-cam world! And Ade, so great to see you, fellow South African born Yoruba kid here and it's so fun to see someone so relatable!!
I’m Australian and my fiancé is Nigerian and my parents are so opposed. My dad is very racist and won’t even let me tell him that he’s a good guy. My mum won’t even try to get to know him. I’m just so worried that I’ll never get their blessing for the marriage. Our relationship is so strong, our only problem is dealing with ppl against us
Please dont overthrow the power of your parents over your life for the sake of love. Don't marry this guy until one of them saids Yes to your decision. Just keep praying and use every opportunity you get with them to let them see what you see in the guy. But i will never advice you to go against your parent's wishes bcos they brought you into this world.
So glad you didn’t give up & received God’s blessing. Not many men would be brave enough to ask to meet & speak with a parent. That showed how deeply in love he is. Love is patient... I’ve subscribed, and hope someday to see an engagement vlog...then a wedding. But get your education first & complete some of your goals. You both have your best friend with you, so enjoy “the journey.” Savor each & every day! God bless!
I've watched all three of your videos from start to finish. Love how genuine you guys are. All the struggles y'all been through, only going to make your eventual marriage even better. S/O to Ade for escaping the friend zone and Pam for taking him out of it. Keep it up.
Very true. Culture does play a big role. My parents also initially didn't approve of my relationship with my now husband. All I can say is love conqueres all. Love knows no colour! 🙌
@@pamandade Just as a matter of interest my wife and I met at 16 & 19 since then like you both she has been my best friend and still is this year we will be married 56 yrs so it does happen. Good luck to you both but I suspect you won’t need it.
I'm white and my girlfriend is full blooded Mexican, there's nothing wrong with interracial dating or marriage. My family absolutely loves her and welcomes her as part of the family. Just because we look different doesn't mean anything. We're all human and God created us in his image. Our society needs to get out of this mindset that race exists. We're all one race HUMAN, we may be of different culture and ethnicity but race has nothing to do with it. It doesn't matter if you're White, Black, Hispanic, Asian..... who cares, we are all people. You look at animals that have many different breeds like dogs, and you don't see them being hateful to each other. So why should humans? And no I'm not comparing humans to dogs, I'm comparing the situation to dogs. I'm just saying, racism is stupid and it's a completely ridiculous idea if you ask me
It's emotional and animalistic. Too many people succumb to these impulses and dont improve their human capacity it is unacceptable and destructive mindset
I'm very proud of this young man. You are such a solid human, and truly show a character that is graced with values and morals that can be honoured. I am seeing God's love in you and your actions my boet. There is love here.
The right person is worth pushing through all boundaries❤ your love is inspiring, I wish more people remembered that love is universal❤ always good to be remember I'm not alone in interracial relationship struggles❤
Thank you guys so much for sharing your story! I went through the same thing and I know how difficult it can be. I'm so happy you both pushed through! ❤️
I don't know what interracial relationship is. We have really broken humanity. Isn't variety the spice of life? I go after character more than for a colour... I have never dated from my own culture all my life... I just love differences and learning from that to make each other better for us.
I wish knew you guys 5 years ago. In my first year at Varsity, I was very close with this white girl, and I had a crush on her. One of her friends told me that she really liked me. So in 2017 I eventually worked up the courage to ask her out, so we went to Gold Reef. So, we were having lunch and she’d just went to the bathroom, and I was about to tell her how I felt and the waiter (black) uttered these words “are you really going to sellout your own kind? These people don’t care about us, you’re just a fetish she can boast about to her friends “, I then told the guy “relax, we are just friends “ 😔. I’m still seeing other people with no commitment because I’m afraid of putting myself out there.
That's messed up my dude! Don't let people like that fill you with guilt, that guy didn't know you from a bar of soap he has not right to judge you. You have your own agency, so date who you want and keep your head held high!
This really is just touching me on a very deep level...bieng in a interracial relationship for 17 years myself ...married for 10...2 kids later. The persecution you go through is unbelieveable. Not from your emmediate families perse...but from society at large.
Well done guys ! It’s beautiful experience , given the history of our country . Boundaries are history now , it’s like anywhere in the world . Love you both ! - from Perth , Australia , born in Durban , SA
Hi Pam/Ade. I really like your story. It’s truly very inspirational. God bless both of you. Be happy always in all ways. Take care.👍🏿 PS: I just subscribed.
it's unfortunate when people put archaic traditions or norms before character and personality. obviously you shouldn't go out with someone just because of their race or just to prove something to the world, but if you enjoy each other's company, the rest doesn't really matter
Seriously who cares what people think. People who are judgmental are the most Misérables. Don't let people get into your head. It makes you weak. Stay strong and stay together! People want to see ya'll lose. Who cares about what people think. They do not affect your life nor do they know you... and if it's someone in your family, you tell them OFF and stop letting them push you down like some little kid! It is your business and you have your OWN life when you get older! I love you both. Keep living life!
Despite all the Insanity that's going on these days, so long as we don't lose the capacity to Love... Given it's power to destroy all superficial barriers that we've created for ourselves... Then Hope yet remains! And by the way, you two make a cute couple! ❤ I'm Black and the BEST girlfriend I EVER had was Chinese... Five Amazing years... Until I messed it up! ☹️ I cheated! Not my proudest moment! But I was a young man at the time... So Ade!? Don't you dare break her heart!!! 😡
A truly Christian couple wouldn't care about skin color. I personally avoid racial partiality (racial preferences) and which is racist and I'm glad I rejected a dark skinned man whom I love and never will go back to him. The ex is over and I prefer God and seeking God and I would have been happy being single and never marrying. However, God provided me with a new wiser man who is not dark skinned. :)
Aw I enjoy you guys so much, thanks for sharing your experiences and lives with the UA-cam world! And Ade, so great to see you, fellow South African born Yoruba kid here and it's so fun to see someone so relatable!!
I’m Australian and my fiancé is Nigerian and my parents are so opposed. My dad is very racist and won’t even let me tell him that he’s a good guy. My mum won’t even try to get to know him. I’m just so worried that I’ll never get their blessing for the marriage. Our relationship is so strong, our only problem is dealing with ppl against us
No we’re not in school, I’m 37 and he’s 30 years old
I think a very important thing is to focus on loving one another and hoping that one day the people in your life will have a change of heart. ❤.
Thank you! I hope we will get married by the end of this year and they will eventually talk to him
Sometimes the most difficult obstacles make for the greatest reward!
Please dont overthrow the power of your parents over your life for the sake of love. Don't marry this guy until one of them saids Yes to your decision. Just keep praying and use every opportunity you get with them to let them see what you see in the guy. But i will never advice you to go against your parent's wishes bcos they brought you into this world.
So glad you didn’t give up & received God’s blessing. Not many men would be brave enough to ask to meet & speak with a parent. That showed how deeply in love he is. Love is patient... I’ve subscribed, and hope someday to see an engagement vlog...then a wedding. But get your education first & complete some of your goals. You both have your best friend with you, so enjoy “the journey.” Savor each & every day! God bless!
Thank you all so much for the kinds words! You are all amazing!
The guy does give the lady time to talk
You guys are a living testimony that love has no boundaries. Culture, race, tradition don't mean zippty doo dah.
I wish I could like this vid a million times!!! Amazing and touching vid guys👊🏿👊🏿
Pam and Ade you guys are phenomenal
We really appreciate this - thank you!
Love, love, love it all. Your relationship is truly ordained by God. Im addicted to your videos! Cant wait for the next one.
You're the best!
This is really so beautiful. “man are defined by their character” 😱🙆🏾♂️. Thanks for this content guys 😃🔥
Thanks so much you guys!! 🙌🏼🙌🏼
I've watched all three of your videos from start to finish. Love how genuine you guys are. All the struggles y'all been through, only going to make your eventual marriage even better. S/O to Ade for escaping the friend zone and Pam for taking him out of it. Keep it up.
Thanks so much for watching and for your kind words!! 🙌🏼 We really appreciate it!
Awesome guys growing the rainbow nation, be happy and love each other no matter what.
I love the background music to this lovely story! 🙏
Thanks so much!
Hey Homie! Kudos to you for the coffee invite ☕ Love you guys lots 🥰
This made my day ♥️.
Best thing a cup of coffee ever led to! 🙌🏼
This is a true movie love story ... I’m so glad you shared your story with us 🙏👍👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Thank you so much! 😋
Very true. Culture does play a big role. My parents also initially didn't approve of my relationship with my now husband. All I can say is love conqueres all. Love knows no colour! 🙌
It definitely does. Thanks for sharing! We’re glad love conquered all in your story too! ♥️
@@pamandadeLet me be the first to congratulate you on 200 subscribers 🎉👏
It's like watching/listening to the success of what I've previously gone through and been unsuccessful at. Love you guys!!
Broski!! We appreciate you ♥️.
I love the transparency guys. Wish you all the best. Glad I bumped into this channel ❤️
Thank you so much! ♥
After seeing this I had to subscribe 78yr old Grandad. Very inspiring the both of you.
Thank you so much, and welcome to the family. We appreciate your kind words!
@@pamandade Just as a matter of interest my wife and I met at 16 & 19 since then like you both she has been my best friend and still is this year we will be married 56 yrs so it does happen. Good luck to you both but I suspect you won’t need it.
Wow, this is amazing!♥️ And so inspiring! Thank you for sharing your story with us. Congratulations on 56 years! Best friends for the win!
I'm white and my girlfriend is full blooded Mexican, there's nothing wrong with interracial dating or marriage. My family absolutely loves her and welcomes her as part of the family. Just because we look different doesn't mean anything. We're all human and God created us in his image. Our society needs to get out of this mindset that race exists. We're all one race HUMAN, we may be of different culture and ethnicity but race has nothing to do with it. It doesn't matter if you're White, Black, Hispanic, Asian..... who cares, we are all people. You look at animals that have many different breeds like dogs, and you don't see them being hateful to each other. So why should humans? And no I'm not comparing humans to dogs, I'm comparing the situation to dogs. I'm just saying, racism is stupid and it's a completely ridiculous idea if you ask me
It's emotional and animalistic. Too many people succumb to these impulses and dont improve their human capacity it is unacceptable and destructive mindset
I'm very proud of this young man. You are such a solid human, and truly show a character that is graced with values and morals that can be honoured. I am seeing God's love in you and your actions my boet.
There is love here.
My people, I'm South African married to a Nigerian. First time watching you
Welcome to the fam!
The right person is worth pushing through all boundaries❤ your love is inspiring, I wish more people remembered that love is universal❤ always good to be remember I'm not alone in interracial relationship struggles❤
We’re so sorry to hear that you also struggled with this. ♥️ Thank you so much for your kind words and support!
Thank you guys so much for sharing your story! I went through the same thing and I know how difficult it can be. I'm so happy you both pushed through! ❤️
Thanks for sharing this with us. ♥️ We’re sorry to hear that you also had to go through this!
I just started watching you guys channel I really enjoyed hearing your story. I live in Atlanta Ga USA keep sharing your stories. Stay Safe
Thanks for watching! Glad you enjoyed our story! It's lovely to have people watching from other countries as well!
Wait what! You actually met up with her mom to specify your intentions! Amazing 👌
Love does conquer all🤞
May God bless this union
He’s amazing, right? I’m so grateful he did it! Amen, thank you. God bless you too🙏🏽 - Pam
You guys are the change SA needs ..cool 🙂
Seriously Inlove with you two for reals , super proud of you guys ... ❤
Thank you Tyla♥️ We appreciate your support!!
Bro you got some patience. I would've bailed way before you got your PlayStation. Admirable but we are not the same😂
I swear
I would have jump shipped from the first time
word I would've been done
This was SO f'n Beautiful♥️ Thank you for sharing your story.
You guys are cool man I think you guys will do great things in fact your doing a great thing for alotta people right now. Blessings and positivity.
Thank you so much! (:
You two are beautiful! So much admiration for you ❤️
Thank you so much Amy! 🌸
connecting on a deeper level after 2 years is very rare... good story, keep going
The girl she looks so beautiful and good-hearted person
Love the honesty in these videos! So proud of you guys❤
Thanks Megs 🌸. Appreciate it ♥️
I don't know what interracial relationship is. We have really broken humanity. Isn't variety the spice of life?
I go after character more than for a colour... I have never dated from my own culture all my life... I just love differences and learning from that to make each other better for us.
Love you guys, you both make me so proud to be South African🇿🇦. God bless all that you do❤️
Thank you so much! We love you too! Happy new year! ♥️
Honestly you'll look great together and this is the second video I'm watching
This is beautiful
Thanks for sharing Suzanne! Really hoping your parents come around when you bring him home! ♥️
Beautiful message! Miss you guys!
Beautiful story! May He continue to bless you both!
You're story is amazing, especially the meet up at the friend's party. I can soooo relate gosh
We know this too well! Great video. ❤️
Thanks so much you guys! ♥️
Thank you guys for the content really love the vedios can't wait for the next one
Thanks for watching!
I wish knew you guys 5 years ago. In my first year at Varsity, I was very close with this white girl, and I had a crush on her. One of her friends told me that she really liked me. So in 2017 I eventually worked up the courage to ask her out, so we went to Gold Reef.
So, we were having lunch and she’d just went to the bathroom, and I was about to tell her how I felt and the waiter (black) uttered these words “are you really going to sellout your own kind? These people don’t care about us, you’re just a fetish she can boast about to her friends “, I then told the guy “relax, we are just friends “ 😔. I’m still seeing other people with no commitment because I’m afraid of putting myself out there.
Other people can go jump in the lake! The issue is how you feel about each other!
That's messed up my dude! Don't let people like that fill you with guilt, that guy didn't know you from a bar of soap he has not right to judge you. You have your own agency, so date who you want and keep your head held high!
A bit late but you do you my friend, no one lives YOUR life but you.
13:50 very well said, Pam. I love you guys, thank you for your story, it's so inspirational 🙏🏿✝️❤️
GOD Bless your relationship and may it last forever in Jesus name.
Best couple ever! Boss
This really is just touching me on a very deep level...bieng in a interracial relationship for 17 years myself ...married for 10...2 kids later. The persecution you go through is unbelieveable. Not from your emmediate families perse...but from society at large.
It's crazy! Hopefully one day people's hearts will change :)
I hope so too💯
@@pamandade Amen!
Well done guys ! It’s beautiful experience , given the history of our country . Boundaries are history now , it’s like anywhere in the world . Love you both ! - from Perth , Australia , born in Durban , SA
The secret to dating a lady and proving your seriousness with her is to go see her mom and not her dad.
Just found you guys and already loving the content. New sub
Welcome to the fam Max! 🙌🏼
Yes!!! So glad you guys made this video❣
Well done👏🏽
Thank you!!
Hi Pam/Ade. I really like your story. It’s truly very inspirational. God bless both of you.
Be happy always
in all ways.
Take care.👍🏿
PS: I just subscribed.
Thank you so much for your kind words. PS: welcome to the fam!
you guys are so beautiful together!!!!
Thank you so much!
Please tell your story. Yes ,you are different races and cultures. But it makes you both, that is you. Do you. Subscribed
Iam so happy for you two both😍
it's unfortunate when people put archaic traditions or norms before character and personality. obviously you shouldn't go out with someone just because of their race or just to prove something to the world, but if you enjoy each other's company, the rest doesn't really matter
Beautiful couple. God bless your relationships and your future offsprings!!!
No 1 can come between love. U guys r super adorable 😍
Thank you!!♥️
This is wholesome. Wish you guys the best
Awesome guy's I appreciate &❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️it////////continue nd give us more videos
You two are so real and so honest Ade my brother Pam is sweet and beautiful God bless you both.
I enjoy your channel. Thank you. 🤙🏾
Watching this video made me inspired .
True love wins!
what a beautiful couples that i,m seeing here ,, guys you such an amazing couples
Loved this!
Seriously who cares what people think. People who are judgmental are the most Misérables. Don't let people get into your head. It makes you weak. Stay strong and stay together! People want to see ya'll lose. Who cares about what people think. They do not affect your life nor do they know you...
and if it's someone in your family, you tell them OFF and stop letting them push you down like some little kid! It is your business and you have your OWN life when you get older! I love you both. Keep living life!
Motivated I was about to give up on interracial relationship to marriage
What is the song that you are playing in the background? Awesome song!
You guys are cool!
Thanx Pam & Ade it does not matter luv is luv more work need to be done in SA
Pam is beautiful
First time subscree and cannot wait for more videos!!! Enjoy your vibe and personalities so incredible! Wish y'all the best
Welcome to the fam!! ♥️
f-o
Hope I am invited for the wedding... chase after a person's character to be with them...
You’re so cute and very mature at the same time 😊
Thank you so much Marta😄
Wishing you all the best, I can relate
OMG!😌 I subscribed to you guys from the get go!😁☺🙆. I love you guys! Btw: Pam you are so gorgeous, so cute!!!😂😅😊 (I was gushing over you🙈)
Welcome to the fam! 🙌🏽 And thank you so much for the compliment, that’s so sweet! 🥺🌸 - Pam
Stay together! ❤️❤️❤️
Damn thought you guys are from the USA. More love..
god bless u both, awesome couple
I thought yall are american but this is beautiful. i had to break up with my afrikaans gf because of her family
🇿🇦 thank you for watching. We’re sorry to hear that you had to go through that!
@@pamandade this kind of love makes me hopeful of the new SA. Im a fan and Ade has a great heart.
oh shame bro and i,m so sorry that is happened to you
She is a keeper
you guys are beautiful sorry that we have hurt you so much but with love it will get better
I imagine this happen a lot and your one of the few to survive.
It really does. We’re so happy that it all worked out in the end.
Congrats guys! Love 💗, isn’t easy at all... it’s just a matter of fighting for what you feel like it’s your finest., though me heart broken 🤣
Ade, all this background noise!!! Let's stay on point? Can she cook Fufu? Lol.
Love wins!
Sweet couple 💖❤️
Despite all the Insanity that's going on these days, so long as we don't lose the capacity to Love... Given it's power to destroy all superficial barriers that we've created for ourselves... Then Hope yet remains!
And by the way, you two make a cute couple! ❤ I'm Black and the BEST girlfriend I EVER had was Chinese... Five Amazing years... Until I messed it up! ☹️
I cheated! Not my proudest moment! But I was a young man at the time... So Ade!? Don't you dare break her heart!!! 😡
Beautiful couple. 💝
Thank you💕
GOD bless you both
Ethnically Nigerian but nationality South African.
I thought you guys were British, good story.
Too beautiful 😍
Beautiful couple ❤
Cool Story!
Thanks for watching!
A truly Christian couple wouldn't care about skin color. I personally avoid racial partiality (racial preferences) and which is racist and I'm glad I rejected a dark skinned man whom I love and never will go back to him. The ex is over and I prefer God and seeking God and I would have been happy being single and never marrying. However, God provided me with a new wiser man who is not dark skinned. :)
🤣 wow! Cool story!
NG Kerk members could never agree with that.
beautiful.
Damn. Bro, run. God bless.
Her ascent, she sounds Australian. Dope👌