Between both parents I would say 1-5. The largest impact was #1. Growing up was like walking on eggshells through a minefield with no safe place to go.
My dad is the critical type, everything I did was made fun of. My clothes, my music, my makeup was all made fun of. Nothing I do is good enough for him. My job, my bf, my dog, my job, my hobbies my entire life he criticizes. Even my mental health problems and how I deal with them he criticizes. Everything i do is something to scrutinize and make fun of. And I would try so hard for him to like something about me. After a huge blowup this July I am done. It became clear I will never be good enough and he will always hate me. It's just hard feeling unloved and unworthy ur entire life. And finally at 26 I am done and I am realizing nothing would be good enough because he's a child and will never change. He does not believe in growth and mental health and it's not my job to teach him.
Amen. I know my dad loves me but he does not like or respect me. I told him kindly so and have kept a boundary of minimal one on one interaction. I've never felt so peaceful in my whole 48 years. It's never too late to heal 💖
I’m proud of you! You have the courage to face this, not pretend things are okay or hope for something that just can’t be. Now you’re on your way to freedom and so much younger than a lot of us who finally figured it out. You’ll feel better. Sometime you’re going to see how really good you are, how beautiful life is, and all of your possibilities. I’m so excited for you 🩷💪
@@elisabethhughes6005 thank you. Yeah it's still pretty rough right now especially bc of the holidays but I think it's more the mourning of how I wish it could be. It's better than participating and expecting something different though. I know each yr will get easier. 🙂❤️
I'm doing therapy for 4 years now, and got to the point that, what makes the heart pump is love and love is lifengergy (some call it God), that's the only thing I'm having in common with my parents and all living creatures on the planet. (My dad and mum, had and have, that behaviour you described) There is a way (I just had that experience two times now) to "dive" into the heart, and the brain becomes absolutely coloured magic freedom. No physical stuff ever (drugs or medicine) coused me such good experience. I'm love, you are love, and every-body, where is life inside, is love. Everywhere... Since then when I get "away" I think.... pum pumpum, pum pumpum, pum pumpum.... like the hearbeat. No one will ever love you more than your own heart, and that heart is connected to all heats. Even to the ones who only talk shi... 😅😂❤ 0:13
Did you become reactive, too? I struggle a lot with guilt around being an emotional roller-coaster myself. By nature, I'm really chill. But I couldn't get my needs met that way.
For real… There were some parts where when she would go over the next bulletin point, I would think “okay this is my dad, and probably not so much my mom”. THEN, she would describe it and what it looks like, and then I was like “aw hell NO! That is 100% BOTH parents…. On every single one of them.
I’ve experienced all of these and always blamed myself for the inadequacies I’ve experienced in life. I got caught up in the illusion that my parent were perfect because I desperately craved a relationship with them on a more pure and unconditional level. God Bless! Thank you for this information!
These videos have made me realize how important it is to educate myself on being a parent. My parents were a mix of these all. Now as a parent I’m trying to break these generational barriers and become a better parent. I find myself being 2-5 at times and I have to snap out of it and apologize. Please make a video on how to overcome these issues.
My mum is reactive and critical. Anything could set her off and nothing can make her happy. Growing up, it was like walking on eggshells - it all depended on her mood. I didn't hear her once address my dad in a calm voice. She was in a reactive state most of the time. Sadly, it's still the same 40 years later. She creates unnecessary drama and conflict and is impossible to please.
I Literally Checked All Those BOXES ….Without The Inner Work We Would Continue To Believe We Are Wounded Unworthy Beings. Thank You Beautiful For The Gift Of Your Wisdom. You Have Been Instrumental In Helping Me Navigate The Treacherous Waters. It’s Nice To Be Standing On The Other Side ❤.
Both of my parents had emotional struggles. They were divorced by the time I was 10. My father was reactive, but only towards my mother.He had a temper and was abusive verbally and physically to my mom. After they divorced, and we would have visitations with him, I remember him yelling about her as he was driving. It was upsetting. My mother had her own issues. I think she was a disconnected parent. In part because she projected her resentment about my dad onto me. She didn't think he treated me and my younger sister equally. She said when I was little and my dad got home from work he would pick me up and give me attention, but ignore my younger sister. It could be true, but she could have misjudged him. She was always extremely protective of my sister. Almost like an obsession. So it has always felt like there is a wall between me and my mom. I really don't talk a lot to her, especially about anything serious. That's is because she is also critical. I have tried at times, but I feel such disconnect and lack of support from her. It just doesn't work .
I realized in those years that I myself am a reactive parent (my mother was like this too). I am really working on myself to be a different mum for my two little girls! Thank you ❤
My dad was reactive, perfectionist and critical in his style - my mom was approval seeking and coddling. And yes, I ended up with an anxious avoidant attachment style, that I'm working on...
Don't bother working on it. In my experience, with an eerily similar story to yours, all growing a backbone and having standards does is alienate the people who would take advantage of you... and then when you stand up for yourself they react worse than your parents. Find a way to appreciate yourself and value your contributions to the world, but don't seek affection or attachments from potential abusers that will take you right back to square one.
Between my parents, my older sister, and unfortunately my own parenting, I would say we have all five covered. It's hard to hear but thank you for this video, it really nails my family.
In my case, all except for the last one. Key point is what you mentioned about keeping us small and around them through shaming us and making us undervalue ourselves
My mother was a 1&4 combo ( I was reduced to tears during both descriptions). Thank you, Doctor, for all your work! I have your book and I love it - it has helped me SO much!
Mum = reactive. Dad = disconnected. But elememts of critical parent style resonate too. Believe me, its hard to swallow how much of my life as an adult has been impacted. Everything to do with all types of relationships, career choices, how I spend my free time, how I see love, kids, money, timing, fear, food, thoughts. There is zero that has not been touched because of my terrible upbringing. Its hard to know, who is really me, and who is a by-product of my upbringing. Working on healing everyday.
My mother is 1 - 4. I was the only child and my father was away working 2 jobs or out of the country with the military. I spent my childhood in consistent fear, shame, & loneliness. Now in my late 30s I have no relationship with either of them.
My mom is definitely #1 (reactive). In a SECOND, she can completely change her mood, for NO REASON. One day, she will praise you for something, another day she will be mad because you do the exact same thing. BUT: she doesn't rely at all on family's reactions/behaviour. Because there is NOTHING we can do to help to regulate. You just have to stay quiet, retire in another room (when she lets you do so) and wait for a tantrum to stop. She's a bit type #4 (critical), but in a single way: she can be a micro-manager, but is not consistent with that behaviour.
#4 critical patent 😮😢yup I grew up with then criticizing everything and almost like bullying that's why I think I have low self esteem and other issues but now that I live alone I realize I can start over with life 🧬
All 5. In regard to the approval seeking one, when you aren't allowed to speak or reach out for support, unfortunately your child may be the only option. Impact was huge and so detrimental. And then you have to unlearn those same behaviors and patterns to create a healthier life for yourself and your own family. The most rewarding feeling in the world. If my practice and business closed tomorrow Id still have so much peace in my heart knowing I did just that and have helped others do the same. Thank you for your continued work Dr. Nicole. Hope to connect with you. ❤
Both of my parents are types 2, 3, and 4. I'm 38 now and still trying to figure out who I am and what personal value is. I broke down to tears after your description of #3.
Number 1 and 2 , my mother stopped talking to me at age 8 like completely ! As it made my abusive stepfather insecure, then when angry she'd come in punching me in the head for what I'd never actually done.
Ooof I was mostly raised by my older sister who is a 1, and I had one parent as a 2 and one as a 3 so I feel like I’ve got almost the whole enchilada! I have been fighting my whole parenting life to not be a reactive parent (with therapy of course) and it has been a long journey. Thank you for your videos!
Between my parents I encounter all of the behaviours, after 18 years of trying every thing to get well. I have brought books, courses watched and listen to pod cast etc. I still feel worthless and hopeless and that I will never be free.
Man, my mom was a solid #1! We were always walking on egg shells around her. And when she went on a bender, look out! She has blanked out a bunch of these and just says, 'I don't remember that' and thinks it's all right. All of us kids struggled with issues from her Jeckle/Hyde parenting.
You know what's "better" than the "I don't remember that"? The: "I never said that!", getting angry, and another giant tantrum. My brother didn't struggle with her behaviour, but, at 34yo, I'm still impacted by this. When I talk to someone, I still think they'll get mad for nothing out of nowhere.
For my dad it's 2 and 4, we have very little communication but most of the time he's talking to me it's to critic my choices, the way live or i look. It's really hard do things for me without receiving negative comments. But i have my mom and sisters who encouraged me.
😢 My mother was disconnected and perfectionist. As far as reaction is concerned, the only reaction we mostly got was the silent treatment. It would start anytime and extend for any length of time.
I would have classed myself as an emotionally immature parent, until I was diagnosed with hypothyroidism and saw other endocrine disorders, that affected my cognition, psychological and physical development and functioning from my birth defects, childhood symptoms through to adulthood, I wasn’t these labels, that I was educated to believe, it was my body took more time to process logically, and yes my hormones got worse after my children, and that I and getting their father diagnosed with the same diseases as me, as his mother had them, that I passed these behaviours on. It made me understand my parents more, I always thought after my children something wasn’t right and that luckily eventually made sense of me. How does this woman know your parents didn’t have something that effects their behaviour, such as an angry parent, that could be pituitary, thyroid, anemia, vitamin or mineral deficiencies, was their births without stress, trauma, many siblings, all these impact babies. That’s why they’res generational traumas and family disorders.
Thanksgiving went well overall this year, though once again my reactive parents proved they aren't capable of being around other people. I just tried to ignore them and hang out with the other relatives.
Thank you yes D all of the above! On my journey I had an "ah ha moment" my parents were 22 and 24 when I was born and 26 and 28 by the time they had three children. Just that alone explains a lot!! Decades later it has improved but will never be age appropriate!
My dad was 1, 2, and 5, and my mom was 3, and 4 and 5. However, the critical and perfectionistic parent have stuck out most because I still have problems with my weight due to my moms criticism and even at work I struggle putting myself to such a high standard that I can't reach.
Can you have a parent with predominant style with a secondary style? Seems to work better for me. My mom was disconnected most of the time (food and shelter parenting) but she could be reactive and neurotic. She used TV and cigarettes to disconnect from life and ignore issues.
My mother has all of them, unfortunately. Meanwhile my father I would say Disconnected and Critical. And now I realize, although I'm not a parent (yet), I check all of these boxes with all the people around me. Especially in close friendships and romantical relationship. How do you heal from it? 😢
But my parent seems to get along with my siblings. Or maybe they just take it better than I was able to. They are so much like our parent, snicky, deceitful, lying, gossiping, unpredictable actions. I moved away as soon as I could; they say I'm the black sheep.
Ok. Dad: mostly reactive and perfectionist. Mum: mostly critical and approval seeking. Me: I feel quite broken. Have worked on piecing me together over the years and, if you take a cursory glance or look from a distance, I mostly appear whole; but when you get close enough, you can see through the gaps of the bits I haven't managed to find..... Thanks for posting your content Dr Lepera, truely.
my parents are 90% #1 & #2 to a tee and the rest is somewhat #4 & #5. I wish I didnt have to be so terrified of their reactions and constant disdain for me trying to live my life and be myself. id do anything to have an invisible emotional shield so that they can never get in my head.
Myself but ive been to all the therapy and now getting diagnosed with ADHD austism already had PTSD childhood trauma trying not to pass onto my children hateful tbh
Between both parents I would say 1-5. The largest impact was #1. Growing up was like walking on eggshells through a minefield with no safe place to go.
My dad is the critical type, everything I did was made fun of. My clothes, my music, my makeup was all made fun of. Nothing I do is good enough for him. My job, my bf, my dog, my job, my hobbies my entire life he criticizes. Even my mental health problems and how I deal with them he criticizes. Everything i do is something to scrutinize and make fun of. And I would try so hard for him to like something about me. After a huge blowup this July I am done. It became clear I will never be good enough and he will always hate me. It's just hard feeling unloved and unworthy ur entire life. And finally at 26 I am done and I am realizing nothing would be good enough because he's a child and will never change. He does not believe in growth and mental health and it's not my job to teach him.
I really resonate with the last line of your comment❤ I'm 34 now, and last year I had the same realization about my abusive parent.
Amen. I know my dad loves me but he does not like or respect me. I told him kindly so and have kept a boundary of minimal one on one interaction. I've never felt so peaceful in my whole 48 years. It's never too late to heal 💖
I’m proud of you! You have the courage to face this, not pretend things are okay or hope for something that just can’t be. Now you’re on your way to freedom and so much younger than a lot of us who finally figured it out.
You’ll feel better. Sometime you’re going to see how really good you are, how beautiful life is, and all of your possibilities. I’m so excited for you 🩷💪
@@elisabethhughes6005 thank you. Yeah it's still pretty rough right now especially bc of the holidays but I think it's more the mourning of how I wish it could be. It's better than participating and expecting something different though. I know each yr will get easier. 🙂❤️
I'm doing therapy for 4 years now, and got to the point that, what makes the heart pump is love and love is lifengergy (some call it God), that's the only thing I'm having in common with my parents and all living creatures on the planet. (My dad and mum, had and have, that behaviour you described)
There is a way (I just had that experience two times now) to "dive" into the heart, and the brain becomes absolutely coloured magic freedom.
No physical stuff ever (drugs or medicine) coused me such good experience.
I'm love, you are love, and every-body, where is life inside, is love.
Everywhere...
Since then when I get "away" I think.... pum pumpum, pum pumpum, pum pumpum.... like the hearbeat.
No one will ever love you more than your own heart, and that heart is connected to all heats. Even to the ones who only talk shi... 😅😂❤ 0:13
The reactive thing gets me. I hate this so much. I’m 41 years old and I still struggle to cope with how I used to be when I was a child.
Did you become reactive, too? I struggle a lot with guilt around being an emotional roller-coaster myself. By nature, I'm really chill. But I couldn't get my needs met that way.
Read 'the body keeps the score ' h
This says opened my eyes to why I feel 12 years old, in 42 year old body.
That's the most head-nodding I've ever done in 11 minutes.
For real…
There were some parts where when she would go over the next bulletin point, I would think “okay this is my dad, and probably not so much my mom”. THEN, she would describe it and what it looks like, and then I was like “aw hell NO! That is 100% BOTH parents…. On every single one of them.
I’ve experienced all of these and always blamed myself for the inadequacies I’ve experienced in life. I got caught up in the illusion that my parent were perfect because I desperately craved a relationship with them on a more pure and unconditional level. God Bless! Thank you for this information!
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These videos have made me realize how important it is to educate myself on being a parent. My parents were a mix of these all. Now as a parent I’m trying to break these generational barriers and become a better parent. I find myself being 2-5 at times and I have to snap out of it and apologize. Please make a video on how to overcome these issues.
My mum is reactive and critical. Anything could set her off and nothing can make her happy. Growing up, it was like walking on eggshells - it all depended on her mood. I didn't hear her once address my dad in a calm voice. She was in a reactive state most of the time. Sadly, it's still the same 40 years later. She creates unnecessary drama and conflict and is impossible to please.
I Literally Checked All Those BOXES ….Without The Inner Work We Would Continue To Believe We Are Wounded Unworthy Beings.
Thank You Beautiful For The Gift Of Your Wisdom. You Have Been Instrumental In Helping Me Navigate The Treacherous Waters. It’s Nice To Be Standing On The Other Side ❤.
Both of my parents had emotional struggles. They were divorced by the time I was 10. My father was reactive, but only towards my mother.He had a temper and was abusive verbally and physically to my mom. After they divorced, and we would have visitations with him, I remember him yelling about her as he was driving. It was upsetting. My mother had her own issues. I think she was a disconnected parent. In part because she projected her resentment about my dad onto me. She didn't think he treated me and my younger sister equally. She said when I was little and my dad got home from work he would pick me up and give me attention, but ignore my younger sister. It could be true, but she could have misjudged him. She was always extremely protective of my sister. Almost like an obsession. So it has always felt like there is a wall between me and my mom. I really don't talk a lot to her, especially about anything serious. That's is because she is also critical. I have tried at times, but I feel such disconnect and lack of support from her. It just doesn't work .
I realized in those years that I myself am a reactive parent (my mother was like this too). I am really working on myself to be a different mum for my two little girls! Thank you ❤
My dad was reactive, perfectionist and critical in his style - my mom was approval seeking and coddling. And yes, I ended up with an anxious avoidant attachment style, that I'm working on...
Don't bother working on it. In my experience, with an eerily similar story to yours, all growing a backbone and having standards does is alienate the people who would take advantage of you... and then when you stand up for yourself they react worse than your parents. Find a way to appreciate yourself and value your contributions to the world, but don't seek affection or attachments from potential abusers that will take you right back to square one.
My mom is a strong #1 and my dad was #4 using sarcastic jokes all the time. Thank you for this!!
Between my parents, my older sister, and unfortunately my own parenting, I would say we have all five covered. It's hard to hear but thank you for this video, it really nails my family.
@ bless. Your self awareness is where the pattern stops and healing begins 💖. Being a change maker isn't easy, but it's important and rewarding
I’m many as well, my mom was worse; we, at least, are working on it. ❤
In my case, all except for the last one. Key point is what you mentioned about keeping us small and around them through shaming us and making us undervalue ourselves
My mother was a 1&4 combo ( I was reduced to tears during both descriptions). Thank you, Doctor, for all your work! I have your book and I love it - it has helped me SO much!
My mother was all 5 types of emotionally immature
Mum = reactive. Dad = disconnected. But elememts of critical parent style resonate too.
Believe me, its hard to swallow how much of my life as an adult has been impacted. Everything to do with all types of relationships, career choices, how I spend my free time, how I see love, kids, money, timing, fear, food, thoughts. There is zero that has not been touched because of my terrible upbringing.
Its hard to know, who is really me, and who is a by-product of my upbringing.
Working on healing everyday.
My mum #5 💯 I'm still the one that has to step back and set boundaries - and let me tell you she does not take it well when I do.
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My mother is 1 - 4. I was the only child and my father was away working 2 jobs or out of the country with the military. I spent my childhood in consistent fear, shame, & loneliness. Now in my late 30s I have no relationship with either of them.
My mom is definitely #1 (reactive). In a SECOND, she can completely change her mood, for NO REASON. One day, she will praise you for something, another day she will be mad because you do the exact same thing.
BUT: she doesn't rely at all on family's reactions/behaviour. Because there is NOTHING we can do to help to regulate. You just have to stay quiet, retire in another room (when she lets you do so) and wait for a tantrum to stop.
She's a bit type #4 (critical), but in a single way: she can be a micro-manager, but is not consistent with that behaviour.
This is why i dont have kids. Raising my inner child is a lot of work. 😅
#4 critical patent 😮😢yup I grew up with then criticizing everything and almost like bullying that's why I think I have low self esteem and other issues but now that I live alone I realize I can start over with life 🧬
My father is a perfect cocktail of all five!
Oh man I was just thinking the same. I’m sorry. I hope you are free of him and living well. 🧡
All 5. In regard to the approval seeking one, when you aren't allowed to speak or reach out for support, unfortunately your child may be the only option. Impact was huge and so detrimental. And then you have to unlearn those same behaviors and patterns to create a healthier life for yourself and your own family. The most rewarding feeling in the world. If my practice and business closed tomorrow Id still have so much peace in my heart knowing I did just that and have helped others do the same. Thank you for your continued work Dr. Nicole. Hope to connect with you. ❤
My mom was reactive and perfectionist, my dad was disconnected. Thank you for sharing this information, it helps me to better understand myself. 🙏
Oh my goodness, checked all 5. Explains a lot of my adult behaviours
Both of my parents are types 2, 3, and 4. I'm 38 now and still trying to figure out who I am and what personal value is. I broke down to tears after your description of #3.
This explains a lot about my parents and subsequently my parenting 😭
Number 1 and 2 , my mother stopped talking to me at age 8 like completely ! As it made my abusive stepfather insecure, then when angry she'd come in punching me in the head for what I'd never actually done.
Recognised my parents and myself as a parent. Wondering if l emotional mature parents even exist.
Ooof I was mostly raised by my older sister who is a 1, and I had one parent as a 2 and one as a 3 so I feel like I’ve got almost the whole enchilada! I have been fighting my whole parenting life to not be a reactive parent (with therapy of course) and it has been a long journey. Thank you for your videos!
Between my parents I encounter all of the behaviours, after 18 years of trying every thing to get well. I have brought books, courses watched and listen to pod cast etc. I still feel worthless and hopeless and that I will never be free.
Therapy might help. I recently went to therapy, and my therapy already knows a LOT about my mom.
1-3 and 5. I recognize them in the false self beliefs in myself and how I parented until the deep healing work began
While growing up my mom was a strong mix of 1, 2 & 5. Now that I've grown up, she's become just approval-seeking and is holding onto me for dear life.
How is it that I only have 2 biological parents and yet I have four types of emotionally immature parent?
Man, my mom was a solid #1! We were always walking on egg shells around her. And when she went on a bender, look out! She has blanked out a bunch of these and just says, 'I don't remember that' and thinks it's all right. All of us kids struggled with issues from her Jeckle/Hyde parenting.
You know what's "better" than the "I don't remember that"? The: "I never said that!", getting angry, and another giant tantrum.
My brother didn't struggle with her behaviour, but, at 34yo, I'm still impacted by this. When I talk to someone, I still think they'll get mad for nothing out of nowhere.
Mother. Everything on the list. 😢 my father was too. My brother is a narc.
Yes...exactly the same. 😢
For my dad it's 2 and 4, we have very little communication but most of the time he's talking to me it's to critic my choices, the way live or i look. It's really hard do things for me without receiving negative comments. But i have my mom and sisters who encouraged me.
😢 My mother was disconnected and perfectionist. As far as reaction is concerned, the only reaction we mostly got was the silent treatment. It would start anytime and extend for any length of time.
Thank you for sharing this I liked and subscribed.
My Mom Approval Seeking and Perfectionistic. My Dad was the other 3 combined.
Sadly, I was Reactive and Approval seeking. Still healing.
I would have classed myself as an emotionally immature parent, until I was diagnosed with hypothyroidism and saw other endocrine disorders, that affected my cognition, psychological and physical development and functioning from my birth defects, childhood symptoms through to adulthood, I wasn’t these labels, that I was educated to believe, it was my body took more time to process logically, and yes my hormones got worse after my children, and that I and getting their father diagnosed with the same diseases as me, as his mother had them, that I passed these behaviours on. It made me understand my parents more, I always thought after my children something wasn’t right and that luckily eventually made sense of me. How does this woman know your parents didn’t have something that effects their behaviour, such as an angry parent, that could be pituitary, thyroid, anemia, vitamin or mineral deficiencies, was their births without stress, trauma, many siblings, all these impact babies. That’s why they’res generational traumas and family disorders.
Thanksgiving went well overall this year, though once again my reactive parents proved they aren't capable of being around other people. I just tried to ignore them and hang out with the other relatives.
Excellent as always ❤
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I had a mixture of several traits among this with my parents.
Thank you for sharing this, and yes 1-5 for me, too, between both.
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I'm 7 seconds in and I can put a checkmark on all of the above. 😐 Thank you for the information!
Thank you yes D all of the above! On my journey I had an "ah ha moment" my parents were 22 and 24 when I was born and 26 and 28 by the time they had three children. Just that alone explains a lot!! Decades later it has improved but will never be age appropriate!
That is very similar to my parents. They had 3 kids by ages 23 and 27.
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My reflex response is that success doesnt happen. The goalposts just move.
I got all 5! BINGO!
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My dad was 1, 2, and 5, and my mom was 3, and 4 and 5. However, the critical and perfectionistic parent have stuck out most because I still have problems with my weight due to my moms criticism and even at work I struggle putting myself to such a high standard that I can't reach.
Thank you, great video.
Can you have a parent with predominant style with a secondary style? Seems to work better for me. My mom was disconnected most of the time (food and shelter parenting) but she could be reactive and neurotic. She used TV and cigarettes to disconnect from life and ignore issues.
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My mother has all of them, unfortunately. Meanwhile my father I would say Disconnected and Critical. And now I realize, although I'm not a parent (yet), I check all of these boxes with all the people around me. Especially in close friendships and romantical relationship. How do you heal from it? 😢
But my parent seems to get along with my siblings. Or maybe they just take it better than I was able to. They are so much like our parent, snicky, deceitful, lying, gossiping, unpredictable actions.
I moved away as soon as I could; they say I'm the black sheep.
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My parents are both all of the above.
Ok.
Dad: mostly reactive and perfectionist.
Mum: mostly critical and approval seeking.
Me: I feel quite broken. Have worked on piecing me together over the years and, if you take a cursory glance or look from a distance, I mostly appear whole; but when you get close enough, you can see through the gaps of the bits I haven't managed to find.....
Thanks for posting your content Dr Lepera, truely.
My parents got 2, 3, and 4 covered between the two of them. With so many ways to be bad parents I guess they just couldn’t choose. 🤷🏻
Wow, a mix of all of those
I don't want to pass my trauma on. I need to watch this.
Mom: reactive, perfectionistic, critical. Dad: disconnected. What a nightmare.
I experienced all of these 😣
thank u for the work ur doing
My parents are literally all of them😮 9:07
All the above.
Can you have 1 parent that has 2 types? I feel like my mom is perfectionist and critical
my parents are 90% #1 & #2 to a tee and the rest is somewhat #4 & #5. I wish I didnt have to be so terrified of their reactions and constant disdain for me trying to live my life and be myself. id do anything to have an invisible emotional shield so that they can never get in my head.
1-4...yup😭
I think #1 may be the worst. That was my mother.
Can one parent be 2 types of EIP? Combo of 1 and 4?
Dad 1-4. Mum -5.😢
Umm, what if my parent demonstrates all of the types?
Myself but ive been to all the therapy and now getting diagnosed with ADHD austism already had PTSD childhood trauma trying not to pass onto my children hateful tbh
wow. my mom is 1, 3, 4 and 5. My dad is 2.
Can it be all 5??!!
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Parent was catogory #1 not helathey
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My mother scores the 5 , my father scores 3. 🎉
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I like the new background
I think my dad was reactive and disconnected and my mom was disconnected
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