The thing about kids being kids is so true. I am a trans-woman with a unicorn hoodie, and a rainbow wig (male pattern baldness sadly). I was on a train and there were two boys roughly 5 and 7. They just said "whoaaa coool" and started stroking my hair and glitter nail polish. They said I look pretty like a princess. They asked me a million questions, but none about being different/bad/wrong, and then showed me their toys and told me stories for about an hour. They got off earlier than me, and stood at my window waving and saying goodbye. Their mum was embarrassed about them invading my space otherwise just stayed quiet and let them learn/explore. It made me really understand, that kids will only believe dumb shit, if you tell them dumb shit or behave in a bigoted way. Bigotry is not a natural way to think.
Hi Ben great video. My nephew has told his friends he comes from a modern family. Massive step for him. None of our family knew he kept it quiet. Guess what? His friends didn’t even bat an eye. All that anxiety for nothing. Big weight off his shoulders.
Ben (if I may call you Ben), I am 68 years old and in Belgium, my parents never supported me. Being a lawyer, it was a struggle of everyday to try to be myself. I could'nt even if I was part of LGBT movments. I had no other choice than to escape to the South of France (where it was a little bit more openminded) ans even theire I was obliged to face hate and sometimes violence. The things you inform the "kids" (as you call them) are the good ones. But tell them as well that nothing is granted : Josephine said : "I am so happy that nowadays I can live in a world where I can have multiple dads or mums". It isn't true in general and that's the reason why you should tell the kids GAY OR NOT and who are able to do it, to help inform people (by example threw the different active movements) that equality is a battle of every future day. As I said it before : NOTHING IS GRANTED. The very conservative movements are still very powerfull. Sorry to have been so long and it was not my intention to give you any lesson. I wish you the best.
Hey Marc! Thanks so much for watching and for the thoughtful response. I definitely agree that the world still has a long way to go to make sure the LGBTQ community and families are safe. You're right, knowing that we live in an inequitable world means that we also have responsibility to enact change. Really appreciate you watching.
Το ζαρκάδι της Κω Thanks so much for watching! I’m actually in the process of making a video about how my modern family has transformed over the years. I had father, mother and other figures in my life. None were what I’d typically call “traditional”. I try to describe this at 7:30. There are plenty of articles online that say children need a married Mother and Father to develop. They say this to oppose the validity of lgbtq families, adoption, and more. My goal with this video is to hopefully break down those barriers. Family is family through love and support, not through who can teach you how to throw a baseball, cook, drink beer, etc. stereo typical roles... even writing that seems weird hahaha. Thanks for your support!
@@BecomingBenSmith We agree, Ben. I am a bi guy in a gay relationship and we do want to have a big family eventually. Neither Josephine nor you, though, grew up in a same-sex family. You both had father and mother figures. It's still an LGBT family, but not a same-sex one.
Yes, I agree! I think LGBTQ family is the best description. Though labels can sometimes be limiting and can change with time. For many years growing up, through middle school, I lived with only my dads. My family transformed over the years, as is common for families. Especially in the US with a divorce rate of 50%. But change can be beautiful! Also, thanks for sharing your story! It’s great to see that society is more comfortable talking about non-traditional families today, even if we still have a long way to go. Stay strong!
This inspired my new video 💕 love your channel 🥰
Wow, that's awesome Ella! We'll have to make a video together sometime!
The thing about kids being kids is so true. I am a trans-woman with a unicorn hoodie, and a rainbow wig (male pattern baldness sadly). I was on a train and there were two boys roughly 5 and 7. They just said "whoaaa coool" and started stroking my hair and glitter nail polish. They said I look pretty like a princess. They asked me a million questions, but none about being different/bad/wrong, and then showed me their toys and told me stories for about an hour. They got off earlier than me, and stood at my window waving and saying goodbye. Their mum was embarrassed about them invading my space otherwise just stayed quiet and let them learn/explore. It made me really understand, that kids will only believe dumb shit, if you tell them dumb shit or behave in a bigoted way. Bigotry is not a natural way to think.
Hi Ben great video. My nephew has told his friends he comes from a modern family. Massive step for him. None of our family knew he kept it quiet. Guess what? His friends didn’t even bat an eye. All that anxiety for nothing. Big weight off his shoulders.
Hey JC, thanks so much for sharing! What a special thing to hear, to feel truly accepted by his friends for exactly who he is.
Ben (if I may call you Ben), I am 68 years old and in Belgium, my parents never supported me. Being a lawyer,
it was a struggle of everyday to try to be myself. I could'nt even if I was part of LGBT movments. I had no
other choice than to escape to the South of France (where it was a little bit more openminded) ans even theire
I was obliged to face hate and sometimes violence. The things you inform the "kids" (as you call them)
are the good ones. But tell them as well that nothing is granted : Josephine said : "I am so happy that
nowadays I can live in a world where I can have multiple dads or mums". It isn't true in general and that's
the reason why you should tell the kids GAY OR NOT and who are able to do it, to help inform people (by example threw
the different active movements) that equality is a battle of every future day. As I said it before : NOTHING IS
GRANTED. The very conservative movements are still very powerfull.
Sorry to have been so long and it was not my intention to give you any lesson. I wish you the best.
Hey Marc! Thanks so much for watching and for the thoughtful response. I definitely agree that the world still has a long way to go to make sure the LGBTQ community and families are safe. You're right, knowing that we live in an inequitable world means that we also have responsibility to enact change. Really appreciate you watching.
@@BecomingBenSmith Thank you for your kind answer
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This is such an important discussion to have ❤️👏👏
I’m gay and wish I had the money to adopt a kid
This guy lies.
@ I’m lying that I want to be rich ?
@@Dhhtyu4566 Not you.
Thank you for covering this!
Let me know if you have any ideas for for future videos!
Ben, whatever you do, it will be awesome. Your editing is great and the way you tell the stories is just, Genius!
I really don't have an idea ):
Could you explain your family constellation along with the mayor events? Love! You are awesome !
Hello Ben, when do we get a new video? I hope you are safe.
Hey Marc! I've been working on a few different ones. New video coming tomorrow! Will be a different style.
I wanna have a child like you, u are adorable!
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So do you have a gf or bf ?
But your parents separated and you did grow up with a mother figure eventually, didn't you?
Το ζαρκάδι της Κω
Thanks so much for watching! I’m actually in the process of making a video about how my modern family has transformed over the years. I had father, mother and other figures in my life. None were what I’d typically call “traditional”. I try to describe this at 7:30. There are plenty of articles online that say children need a married Mother and Father to develop. They say this to oppose the validity of lgbtq families, adoption, and more. My goal with this video is to hopefully break down those barriers. Family is family through love and support, not through who can teach you how to throw a baseball, cook, drink beer, etc. stereo typical roles... even writing that seems weird hahaha. Thanks for your support!
@@BecomingBenSmith
We agree, Ben.
I am a bi guy in a gay relationship and we do want to have a big family eventually.
Neither Josephine nor you, though, grew up in a same-sex family.
You both had father and mother figures.
It's still an LGBT family, but not a same-sex one.
Yes, I agree! I think LGBTQ family is the best description. Though labels can sometimes be limiting and can change with time.
For many years growing up, through middle school, I lived with only my dads. My family transformed over the years, as is common for families. Especially in the US with a divorce rate of 50%. But change can be beautiful! Also, thanks for sharing your story! It’s great to see that society is more comfortable talking about non-traditional families today, even if we still have a long way to go. Stay strong!