I agree with TalesChamber that 4:48 is where you should start if you came from the short, but keep in mind that they always word it differently in the shorts so if you want a little bit of different context for the start, then just start from the beginning, but this is only a suggestion. Don't pay it any mind.
She was scared to lose the marriage, not her husband. She flat said it, that she didn't want to get a divorce because nobody in her family had gotten divorced. Maybe I missed it, but umm maybe he should have asked if there was other guys seeing how she only told him about this one because she knew she was about to get outed 😅
If she made mistake before,she should not flaunt that guy infront of you,she just scared that she would lost you if you didn't react the way you did she would have done more than that without a guilt,
You got tricked into marrying her, remember Once a cheater Always a cheater 💯 She knew what she was doing and lied and manipulated you. Pfft in what world does marriage wipe the slate clean, even the sister knows better. 5 years in only and cheated before 2yrs. Gross. I hope you like being a clown because she’ll make you the fool again, guaranteed.
That's like saying if you stole something in a moment of anger you are a stealer and stealer never change Tbh I fully believe he should divorce her but what ur saying is just wrong
Even though her mother told it was okay she still shouldn't of don't that and apologising doesn't fix what was done she's an adult and she should know better! I think you should leave her
Honestly? I just feel sorry for him. This isn't even about him not "being a man" or some sh*t but him being fine being an emotional doormat for her. Listen, in the end he has to be fine with it and live with his decisions but personally I could never move past this nagging feeling of doubt and mistrust and it baffles me people are able to do that. i mean in the end it's her word for this. Her word that she has been faithful since and her word that she never did that again during the marriage but honestly? Would you believe someone who lied that easily to you? And would've continued to do so without a second thought unless she was directly confronted with it and was FORCED to be honest because too many people knew? It doesn't matter if what she said was true but simply the fact it came to her so easily to lie about it and and not be honest on her own until she had no other choice and even then was more dismissive of you than anything else. Speaking just from my feelings personally here but man I could never. This would've been over the second this came to light because no flipping way I would've been able to see her as anything else than a lying cheater. I could not live with the doubt for the rest of my life. The paranoia that sets in every time she leaves the house, says she is with person X and is there and there. It would kill me emotionally to always feel like I can't trust my partner and second guess if what they said was true because well they lied before and there are no other evidence than their word for it not happen during the marriage. I admit I think his timing with the papers was off and he should've done that right at the start but honestly her timing of confessing wasn't exactly tactful or mindful either and he had the right to protect himself with these papers. Honestly, I wish them the best and hope he can live with that decision he made but I can't help but feel that this will play into her messed up view of relationships a bit. I think he essentially showed her that when she makes a mistake and just cries and begs hard enough, he will forgive her. Maybe I am just a very cynical and pessimistic person who first and foremost sees the bad things, which ok is a me problem I accept, but unfortunately these feelings often don't let me down. So take that as you will
Honestly I wouldn’t have stayed. Cheating is the biggest no no in my relationship book. I can handle a lot but knowing that someone else got into my gf’s pants is worse than just being told to die outright.
Compassion for someone you love when they have hurt you, and they are trying to be honest when they've made terrible mistakes. Its not a weakness, to show compassion, and showing your own feelings is also not weakness. It takes courage to be vulnerable.
I see absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to start new with the woman you love after she told the truth and confronted her guilt. If starting over really works than I even encourage it
Cheating is the worst thing you can do in a relationship. If your partner loves you and has build a life with you doing this destroys all of that. You're not the person they thought. The relationship is not what they thought. The whole life feels like a mistake. It honestly sucks because if you love them then you dont want to hurt them in return. You don't want to embarrass them but then you feel like youre living a lie because you know the truth and no one else does. Everyone thinks they are perfect all while you know this fact about your relationship. You may stay but things will never be the same.
She betrayed him, it doesn't really matter when it happened. Now he knows that when they go through a rough patch he needs to be worried about her cheating. If she's remorseful and ashamed of her behavior then maybe they could work through forgiveness and change. I would be asking, what happens next time we aren't in the best place and need to work on our marriage? Will she cheat again?
She is not upset about losing him; she doesn't care; she is upset about getting divorced. She does not regret cheating, just a change of strategy after dismissing his feelings, calling him immature and gaslighting him didn't work. She got thrapist on boad to manupilate him. But it's his choice to fall for it or not, which he decided to do
If she didn't think it was not cheating anymore bcs they were married, why didn't she tell him right before the wedding or right after? :) that's bs to me, honestly, and even tho her mindset might have changed, a cheater is always a cheater. If the fact that they're not married is not a valid reason anymore, she still can find another reasoning that would justify the cheating part, Christian or not. I hope they're happy though ❤
OP you've been sensitive to her feelings through all her efforts of trying to reconcile. However, she and ex on day wedding were just disrespectful and rude. She thought she had you where she wanted you. Her actions were not synonymous with love or respect. Only after she could no longer control you did she become contrite. Good luck dude bcuz you need it.
A year into the relationship is not "at the beginning" 😂 a month in, sure, but a year in? No, that's more than enough time to figure out if you want to be in the relationship and to form a real connection.
What she did while you were dating but before you proposed isn’t really your business. You could have seen someone else in that time and she wouldn’t have known either. She was stupid to tell you anything about it. But she was afraid you would become violent. And you admit to being a violent drunk. She thought she had to protect the peace of the wedding over something she shouldn’t have felt guilty about because you are immature and you have a history of being violent. Makes me think the panic attacks are because she is afraid of you. Now you are holding this over her head so you can feel in control. I wish you had divorced her because it would have been better for her to get away from you and find someone who loves her rather than making her feel afraid. The marriage vows say forsaking all others. That means what happens before the engagement doesn’t get brought up during the marriage. You are supposed to be making a new start together. So you have broken your marriage vows by doing this. You are the one who owes her an apology and she should be divorcing you.
If this happened before they decided to be exclusive, sure I'd agree. But you cant tell me that you'd be ok finding out somebody you'd been dating for a year had went out several times and screwed someone else. That you'd just be "oh that's fine baby, it's none of my business. Go do you, have fun" and not end the relationship.
@ Dating is dating. Being engaged is exclusive. She didn’t see anyone else once he put a ring on it. That’s what betrothed is. It’s biblical. But this apparently isn’t enough for him since he has had jealousy problems. It isn’t her fault that he can’t take yes for an answer. He is raking her over the coals because he is a controlling ahole. She needs to get away from this man since he is never going to change. Look at how delighted he is that he can twist the knife over this. He thinks he has an excuse for his abuse that puts her in the hospital.
I’ve never read something so ridiculous. If they’re in a committed relationship then sleeping with someone else is cheating. I don’t know about you but I’ve never heard of someone proposing to the person they’re casually dating 😂😂
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4:48 If came from short
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I agree with TalesChamber that 4:48 is where you should start if you came from the short, but keep in mind that they always word it differently in the shorts so if you want a little bit of different context for the start, then just start from the beginning, but this is only a suggestion. Don't pay it any mind.
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She was scared to lose the marriage, not her husband. She flat said it, that she didn't want to get a divorce because nobody in her family had gotten divorced. Maybe I missed it, but umm maybe he should have asked if there was other guys seeing how she only told him about this one because she knew she was about to get outed 😅
I hope they're happy, but I COULD NEVEER!
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Frr❤❤ I agree
She is usung anxiety as a reason to keep him bounds. He should have divorced her. Once a cheater always a cheater@@Versuzautosports
She should have told them before they were married.
Or just not have cheated.
If she made mistake before,she should not flaunt that guy infront of you,she just scared that she would lost you if you didn't react the way you did she would have done more than that without a guilt,
You got tricked into marrying her, remember Once a cheater Always a cheater 💯
She knew what she was doing and lied and manipulated you. Pfft in what world does marriage wipe the slate clean, even the sister knows better. 5 years in only and cheated before 2yrs. Gross. I hope you like being a clown because she’ll make you the fool again, guaranteed.
21:08 you’d be happy with someone who cheated once mate a cheater never change there a high chance she’d do it again the moment you forgive her
That's like saying if you stole something in a moment of anger you are a stealer and stealer never change
Tbh I fully believe he should divorce her but what ur saying is just wrong
SHE IS A RED FLAG please move on if she is not sorry for being with him
It’s okay next time she does this you’ll be stronger.
he should have told you before you married. I'd recommend divorce
I could NEVER :/
Even though her mother told it was okay she still shouldn't of don't that and apologising doesn't fix what was done she's an adult and she should know better! I think you should leave her
Honestly? I just feel sorry for him. This isn't even about him not "being a man" or some sh*t but him being fine being an emotional doormat for her. Listen, in the end he has to be fine with it and live with his decisions but personally I could never move past this nagging feeling of doubt and mistrust and it baffles me people are able to do that. i mean in the end it's her word for this. Her word that she has been faithful since and her word that she never did that again during the marriage but honestly? Would you believe someone who lied that easily to you? And would've continued to do so without a second thought unless she was directly confronted with it and was FORCED to be honest because too many people knew? It doesn't matter if what she said was true but simply the fact it came to her so easily to lie about it and and not be honest on her own until she had no other choice and even then was more dismissive of you than anything else. Speaking just from my feelings personally here but man I could never. This would've been over the second this came to light because no flipping way I would've been able to see her as anything else than a lying cheater. I could not live with the doubt for the rest of my life. The paranoia that sets in every time she leaves the house, says she is with person X and is there and there. It would kill me emotionally to always feel like I can't trust my partner and second guess if what they said was true because well they lied before and there are no other evidence than their word for it not happen during the marriage. I admit I think his timing with the papers was off and he should've done that right at the start but honestly her timing of confessing wasn't exactly tactful or mindful either and he had the right to protect himself with these papers. Honestly, I wish them the best and hope he can live with that decision he made but I can't help but feel that this will play into her messed up view of relationships a bit. I think he essentially showed her that when she makes a mistake and just cries and begs hard enough, he will forgive her. Maybe I am just a very cynical and pessimistic person who first and foremost sees the bad things, which ok is a me problem I accept, but unfortunately these feelings often don't let me down. So take that as you will
Honestly I wouldn’t have stayed. Cheating is the biggest no no in my relationship book. I can handle a lot but knowing that someone else got into my gf’s pants is worse than just being told to die outright.
Tbh I think they should’ve talked about the mil actions in this
At the end of the day, it’s what you can live with.
It doesn’t matter if it’s before marriage. It’s still during the relationship
Keep up the great work! I love watching your vids❤
Compassion for someone you love when they have hurt you, and they are trying to be honest when they've made terrible mistakes. Its not a weakness, to show compassion, and showing your own feelings is also not weakness. It takes courage to be vulnerable.
21:53 I poo poo you not
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Was cursing all in these posts but doesn’t say “shit” lol
I see absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to start new with the woman you love after she told the truth and confronted her guilt. If starting over really works than I even encourage it
Cheating is the worst thing you can do in a relationship. If your partner loves you and has build a life with you doing this destroys all of that. You're not the person they thought. The relationship is not what they thought. The whole life feels like a mistake. It honestly sucks because if you love them then you dont want to hurt them in return. You don't want to embarrass them but then you feel like youre living a lie because you know the truth and no one else does. Everyone thinks they are perfect all while you know this fact about your relationship. You may stay but things will never be the same.
Once a cheater, always a cheater
She betrayed him, it doesn't really matter when it happened. Now he knows that when they go through a rough patch he needs to be worried about her cheating. If she's remorseful and ashamed of her behavior then maybe they could work through forgiveness and change. I would be asking, what happens next time we aren't in the best place and need to work on our marriage? Will she cheat again?
She is not upset about losing him; she doesn't care; she is upset about getting divorced.
She does not regret cheating, just a change of strategy after dismissing his feelings, calling him immature and gaslighting him didn't work. She got thrapist on boad to manupilate him.
But it's his choice to fall for it or not, which he decided to do
If she didn't think it was not cheating anymore bcs they were married, why didn't she tell him right before the wedding or right after? :) that's bs to me, honestly, and even tho her mindset might have changed, a cheater is always a cheater. If the fact that they're not married is not a valid reason anymore, she still can find another reasoning that would justify the cheating part, Christian or not.
I hope they're happy though ❤
OP you've been sensitive to her feelings through all her efforts of trying to reconcile. However, she and ex on day wedding were just disrespectful and rude. She thought she had you where she wanted you. Her actions were not synonymous with love or respect. Only after she could no longer control you did she become contrite. Good luck dude bcuz you need it.
Real men cry
This happened at the begining of the relationship and u have a good married life for a long time. So I think it is good that they could reconsile
A year into the relationship is not "at the beginning" 😂 a month in, sure, but a year in? No, that's more than enough time to figure out if you want to be in the relationship and to form a real connection.
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I guess we don't have to ask if you want a medal
Delusional!divorce that cheater
@Evelyn-g4y agreed
What she did while you were dating but before you proposed isn’t really your business. You could have seen someone else in that time and she wouldn’t have known either.
She was stupid to tell you anything about it. But she was afraid you would become violent. And you admit to being a violent drunk. She thought she had to protect the peace of the wedding over something she shouldn’t have felt guilty about because you are immature and you have a history of being violent.
Makes me think the panic attacks are because she is afraid of you. Now you are holding this over her head so you can feel in control. I wish you had divorced her because it would have been better for her to get away from you and find someone who loves her rather than making her feel afraid.
The marriage vows say forsaking all others. That means what happens before the engagement doesn’t get brought up during the marriage. You are supposed to be making a new start together. So you have broken your marriage vows by doing this. You are the one who owes her an apology and she should be divorcing you.
If this happened before they decided to be exclusive, sure I'd agree. But you cant tell me that you'd be ok finding out somebody you'd been dating for a year had went out several times and screwed someone else. That you'd just be "oh that's fine baby, it's none of my business. Go do you, have fun" and not end the relationship.
@ Dating is dating. Being engaged is exclusive. She didn’t see anyone else once he put a ring on it. That’s what betrothed is. It’s biblical. But this apparently isn’t enough for him since he has had jealousy problems. It isn’t her fault that he can’t take yes for an answer. He is raking her over the coals because he is a controlling ahole. She needs to get away from this man since he is never going to change. Look at how delighted he is that he can twist the knife over this. He thinks he has an excuse for his abuse that puts her in the hospital.
And you have no concept of cheating
I’ve never read something so ridiculous. If they’re in a committed relationship then sleeping with someone else is cheating. I don’t know about you but I’ve never heard of someone proposing to the person they’re casually dating 😂😂
Did you pull a muscle, reaching that far to make OP the bad guy here? I don't think we heard the same story