desi men follow hindu culture... caste hierarchy exists and women and animals lie outside the caste hierarchies... by desi I mean Indian (Indian here), pakis, banglas, nepalis, Sri Lankans, afghanis etc. in fact desi fathers may also be emotionally abusive towards their daughters and granddaughters, may Allah protect the women inA ameen
I believe this is the result of culture more than religion. I have read countless books written by Muslim women who escaped bad marriages, and how much they suffered at the hands of their husbands and in-laws. People that mistreat or abuse women often have double standards.
@Annie Aso I think, sister, just please respect Prophet Muhammad(S.A.W)(PBUH) as I saw another comment of yours in this video and please write the Quran not Quoran and yes I do believe that Hadiths were written 200-250 years after the Prophet's(PBUH) Death and the Hadiths contain some narrations that contradict the Quran as well as the Prophet's(PBUH) character, if you read the Prophet's Character and Conduct according to the Quran Perspective, you will find him as the Greatest Man to Ever born on Earth and even his Sunnah which is also being a caring, honest, loyal, loving, romantic husband to the wife rather than being a Dominant Master upon the wife. Last but not least, sister, the hadith which says that majority of women are in Hell, did you ever read the context of that Hadith, I am not justifying the Hadith but if you understand the Hadith clearly, the Prophet is addressing some women at the time of Eid who were ungrateful to their Husbands and He advised them don't be grateful to your husband if he cares for you, loves you and gives you importance but now my opinion, I am not targeting or saying every woman is like that, if a woman is evil, she can destroy an entire family just by her words, backbiting. This happened in my family where a woman of our family manipulated the people's minds in our family which lead to breaking of the family forever and let me tell you that woman also practices black magic but our family members found out that later. Some other cases like of women which have been false accusations of marital rape, dowry, oppression in household, etc and then filing for divorce without any valid reason also happen. So these are the kinds of women, sister whom the Prophet used to fear for his Ummah. May Allah(S.W.T) bless you and keep you steadfast, sister. Ameen.
Not culture but people around who just kept their mouth shut. We don't need equality what we need is morality and people standing with each other for the sake of destroying evil.
Prophet Muhammad ﷺ once made the following du'a:"May Allah brighten the face of a person who hears a hadith from us and conveys it (to others), for perhaps the one to whom it is conveyed understands it better than the one who (first) heard it."[Sunan Ibn majah]
Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has given the one more (strength) than the other, and because they support them from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient, and guard in (the husband's) absence what Allah would have them guard. As to those women on whose part ye fear disloyalty and ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (Next), refuse to share their beds, (And last) beat them (lightly); but if they return to obedience, seek not against them Means (of annoyance): For Allah is Most High, great (above you all). Quran 4:34
I really feel sad about this reality as I've known people who basically believe that once you are married to our son you obey and do everything we ask you to do. Endless household chores,not being able to express your thoughts on certain issues,not having anyone to take your side,so many emotional and spiritual abuses as mentioned. And we are being reminded that this is the purpose of marriage,to serve the family and always nod to there commands. I am 18 and I wish to learn as much as I could and remind other vulnerable girls of their rights. Lack of knowledge is hindering our welfare. I am grateful for coming across this♥️
The Prophet said, "Isn't the witness of a women equal to half that of a man?" The women said "yes". He said "This is because of the deficiency of the women's mind." Sahih Bukhari 3:48:826
A manly man holds his balance and doesn’t allow disputes with spouse and parents honor and respect each other a man who is articulate and stands his ground knows how to keep peace in the family
Narrated Sahl bin Sad Saidi: "Allah's Apostle said "If there is any evil omen in anything, then it is in the woman, the horse and the house." Sahih Bukhari 4:52:111
@@hirunichamathka5635 Oh, come on sister, do you believe Hadiths like this, these kinds of Hadiths totally contradict the Prophet's Character and Conduct described in the Quran as well as in the Sunnah which is that His way of talking was the best of the best and He never talked to anyone in a bad and ill-manner, not even to his enemies who hated him the most, so how can you expect him to say such things. I advise you that the Hadiths are compilation of narrations from the Sahabas of the Prophet(PBUH) to A to B to C to D to E(examples) and E are Imam Al-Bukhari and Imam Muslim. Now there would have been mistakes in hearing some narrations by Imam Bukhari or these weird Hadiths are just merely Iblees whispers to misguide Muslims from Islam or it might be there was someone in between the narrators who preferred male dominance in Islam so they narrated such Hadiths to certain Muslims that the Prophet(PBUH) said such things but actually He didn't, this can be true, right? So always analyze the Hadith before believing it and compare it to the Quran as the Quran was written in the Prophet's(PBUH) presence, not the Hadiths.
Hi. This happens to woman and men from all cultures and nations. Sometimes we need to put our faith or principles into action and put ourselves first. It's so easy to feel trapped because of loyalty and love. Women are softer and more vulnerable than men. We have that nurturing nature. But sometimes us women have to stand up for ourselves and find the strength we never knew we had. We need to learn it's not a sin to take care of ourselves it's not insult to have personal healthy boundaries even to those we love and commit to. Alas this is not easy to do.
The reason muslim women get "hurt" inside(and outside) is because muhamad prescribed to muslim men the right to b€at them, so the muslima better learn her place in the marriage, keep her opinions to herself, do as she's told and maybe? just maybe she wont need any disciplining(b€atings).. but if youre lucky and find a good husband maybe he'll just send you back to Pakistan where they can indoctrinate you into being a good muslim b@by breeding factory for al-islam.. Inshallah
Yeah, a husband must protect his wife and keep her safe and for women, their husbands safe from similar abuse too. People need to stop quoting out of context or finding excuses. Thank you for the video.
Being abused and put down all the time from the first day of my marriage by my mother-in-law, I've learned how to put down her. Now she can't even utter a word towards me.
You know what my mother did on some family.member who treat us a little bit bad. Treat them better and live with integrity and pray. And now after seeing how loyal my mom is and having a backbone they are now now on her. Because her Faithe and action speak louder than words.
Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) said, "And whoever covers (the faults of) a Muslim, Allah will cover (his faults) for him in the world and the Hereafter." Tirmidhi
@Annie Aso Sunan Ibn Majah 1977 It was narrated from Ibn 'Abbas that: the Prophet said: "The best of you is the one who is best to his wife, and I am the best of you to my wives."
We need to seperate our homes from our parents. But we always stay close to them. What I mean is: the front doors must be seperated. When visiting each other you do this in weekends or in cuma evening once a week. NOT EVERY DAY AND ALL DAY LONG. What I try to say is we need to respect each other's privacy. And not ring the doorbell making surprises, NO first you call and make an appointment to visit each other. (May Allah (Cellecelaluhu) bless all my Muslim brothers and sisters)
Yani you suggest that old parents should be left alone at themselves, whilst they need company they should have an appointment, whilst when you needed them you barge in to their privacy, Masha Allah. Definitely even you don't need your husband everyday, the same woman don't allow polygamy, those who can't share a husband want a son to themselves and husband for 24/7, sorry with the generalisation but that's the usual truth. Majority
@MaddeeOO1 that isn't what she said, she said to have a "separate door" which is true. The wife has the right to live separately from her in-laws. This is Allah's command. Your opinion is overdramatic. You are responsible for your parents and your wife's is responsible for hers. You dont burden your wife with your own Islamic duties for your own parents. Top following culture and follow Allah's orders. They are there for good reasons.
The Prophet Muhammad ( s.a.w ) said : " Look to one who is lower than you , and do not look to one who is above you . For indeed that is more worthy ( so that you will ) not belittle Allah's favors upon you . " Jami ' at - Tirmidhi 2513 &
I was too much in the Dunya and I fucked up my life with my wife and her family....I'm changing my ways now (I wasn't a Muslim back then)....this video puts things in perspective
May Allah make it easy on you my sister. Tell your husband, give him some chances to talk to his parents, but if he lets them treat you that way, it’s better for you to leave. I’m not encouraging divorce here, but if it reaches an extent where the husband and in laws just treat you like a slave girl and when you make 2 tiny mistake, it’s all over the internet, it’s better for you to leave. Even Islamicly, if there’s nothing left to salvage the marriage, leaving is better for you. Especially if you have kids. Once they reach a certain age, then the husbands parents will start treating them the same way. But first, try to salvage it, try talk to them RESPECTFULLY, (key word: RESPECTFULLY) because if you are not, it will be considered haram. What you can do is speak to them humbly and say “you are my in laws and I love how you let me into this family, but you’re wrong” and you can kiss there head out if respect. Just try hard ti avoid a fight. May Allah reward you for your patience my sister ❤.
Assalaamualaykum (peace be upon you). Alhamdulillâhi Rabbil âlamiin. Allâhumma Salli alâ Seyyidinâ Mawlâna Muhammadin Wa Sallim. Thank you for sharing this with us. May Allah reward you. May ALLÂH SWT Make it Easy for all and Guide, Protect, Bless, Help us and Grant all of us Jannah. Ameen Ameen Ameen Ameen Ameen Ameen…
If you men don't want the wrath of الله to come down on y'all, treat s'الله female servants with respect (within reason) according to Quran and Sunnah! May الله help the men of the ummah to be the best husbands ever to their wife/wives! امين 💛🥰❤️
Wives also have the obligation to be deserving of the respect. Tell women not to do something that compels husbands to be disrespectful towards them. Respect is earned. Not claimed. Be the best wife to your husband, he will be the best husband to you.
My husband mother treated me hurrible over 20 years of my 37 years of marriage I never disrespected her and treated the 3 other daughters in-law the same but they disrespected her when she was sick I was her caregiver and nobody wanted to help her not even her sons my husband verbally has abused me for 35 years of our 37 years and now has dementia and still abuses me and I’m stressed out all the time.I’m a new Muslim and Allah has taught me to forgive him and care for him and that he will make up for all the years of pain and suffering.
I'm sorry to hear that. I know what it's like to be a carer with no one helping. I'm a carer for my parents since I was a teen. Most of my siblings have married and moved out and barely any of them offered to help even when I asked for help. My dad had dementia and it was very hard for me. Sis, I think you should speak out or try to get some online counselling. Please don't think u need to do this all alone. Because people can be very frustrating and it's unfair that u have to do all this. Your mental health matters too.
“The heart gets sick as the body does and its cure is in asking for forgiveness and protection. It also becomes rusty like a mirror does and it is polished by remembering Allah. The heart can also be naked like the body and can lose its dress and decoration, which is piety.. And it can feel hunger and thirst like the body does, and its nourishment is knowledge, love, trust, and offering service to Allah.”
Abusive parents come from abusive environments. This is most probably how they were treated and what they witnessed so continue the vicious cycle of behaviour. It is dysfunctional. Someone has to break it. If you recognise it in yourself, then seek Allah's help and make the effort to break it. It isn't easy but it is definitely possible. It requires a different thinking process and as it took years to wire your thoughts in your present way, it may take months and maybe even some years to change those negative thoughts. May Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala help us all become the best versions of ourselves. Ameen
Just remember this: if you are the source of someone else's suffering and distress, you will be answerable for it. No human being belongs tou you. Not even your children. First and foremost, we all belong to Allah. How are you behaving towards the slave of Allah? There are all sorts of tyrants.
My life time I have seen my mom crying and suffering bc of my father bc of him I stopped trusting any man all my goal right now is to provide my mother financial support her give her the life she missed in her teenager I don't care if I spend my life time on that I don't care if I don't get married at least I did what my father couldn't do for my mother I am not close to my father but I love my mother more than anything in this world and bc of my father she's suffering then how can I trust any other man when I cannot trust my father
Prophet Muhammad (Pubh)said all the A man asked the Messenger of Allah : " Which act in Islam is the best ? " He ( ) replied , " To give food , and to greet everyone , whether you know or you do not . " [ Al - Bukhari and Muslim ]
THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH SAID : " THE LORD'S PLEASURE IS IN THE PARENT'S PLEASURE , AND THE LORD'S ANGER IS IN THE PARENT'S ANGER . " JAMI AT - TIRMIDHI 1899
Narrated Abu Huraira : I heard Allah's Messenger Muhammad(pubh ) saying , " If there was a river at the door of anyone of you and he took a bath in it five times a day would you notice any dirt on him ? " They said , " Not a trace of dirt would be left . " The Prophet ( ) added , " That is the example of the five prayers with which ALLAH INVALIDATE ( WIPE OUT ) EVIL DEEDS . " Sahih al - Bukhari 528
I'm so confused about some of these comments. Accounting an abuser is not going against hiding the sins of someone. If people are IGNORANT about the context of islamic texts, then they really shouldn't be applying to the wrong situation. Islam never allows abuse!
Abu Darda ' heard the Prophet Muhammad(Pubh) say that " The father is the middle door of Paradise ( i.e. the best way to Paradise ) , so it is up to you whether you take advantage of it or not . " Sunan Ibn Majah 3663
Narrated Abu Sa'id Al Khudri ( RA ) : Allah's Messenger Muhammad( peace be upon him ) said , " If a person embraces Islam sincerely , then Allah shall forgive all his past sins , and after that starts the settlement of accounts , the reward of his good deeds will be ten times to seven hundred times for each good deed and one evil deed will be recorded as it is unless Allah forgives it . " ( Sahih al - Bukhari 41 , Book 2 , Hadith 34 )
It's one thing to accept a difficulty for the sake of Allah and another to normalise wrong behaviour. She can be endure the tortures as Sabr is highly respected and rewarded. But that does not mean torturing your daughter in law should be normalised you know. Allah says to have Sabr but He swt does not say that it should be done to an extent where there is clear injustice happening to you. That is literally just being a pushover. You know what I mean?
she will be rewarded for it and your parents might end up in jahannum [hell].... I hate to say but you do love your wife more than your parents as you making her suffer and not correcting your parent's behavior....
and it's not even in the name of Allah SWT it's legit letting yourself put down....these people don't own you ALLAH DOES and since many people can't seem to acknowledge that....nevertheless....you should never let someone disrespect you cuz you're one of his creation and there's a diff between insult and suggestion.
And We will surely test you with something of fear and hunger and a loss of wealth and lives and fruits, but give good tidings to the patient," (Quran. Al-Baqara: Verse 155) Who, when disaster strikes them, say, Indeed we belong to Allah, and indeed to Him we will return." (Quran. Al-Baqara: Verse 156) Those are the ones upon whom are blessings from their Lord and mercy. And it is those who are the [rightly] guided." (Quran. Al-Baqara: Verse 157)
This makes me sad. I know what my rights are as a Muslim woman. I am a convert to Islam. My husband does not treat me well. He was born as a Muslim and I converted when I was 20 years old.. I have Autism and therefore I am more vunerable. My husband hits me, beats me, curses at me, screams at me and calls me names. He even pulled my hair. He says I am a stupid cow, a whore and a trash woman. It makes me sad. I do not deserve this. Sadly I am alone. I do not have any support from my family. There are non Muslims. They are Christians. And they blame Islam instead of my husband. And that makes me very very sad. What should I do?
You should look for divorcing him. What he's doing is criminal. My sister used to be abused like this badly for many years and then he started abusing her kids and he went to jail and they're divorced.
Sister please find counselling or go to a imams in a different town. Explain your situation, even with kids! He is not worth living with... Allah swt is the best of planners and will have something or someone better for you! Please 🙏 message me if you wish to talk further. Jazakallah M
Assalamu alaikum wr wb.......this is very important topic.....many men not physically but mentally torture their in such a extent that life become hell for those women....my husband when marry me was economically ,educationally n from every point of view lesser than me ....bt as he earn money more hebecome more n more tilt towards duniya,doing extra marital affair with his PA,he fully hidden his relation ...suddenly inform me that he married with his PA....now how can I live with such man.....I can't live with him......
In Islam a man can marry a second wife without the permission of the first wife. In Islam a man doesn't even have to tell his first wife that he married a second wife.
@@Nope991 u r rt....he can't say anything to his first wife bt is islam say that firstly dating with namahram PA, wondering n hoteling with her,then after doing all these things married with her. Is the Sharia allow to do all these heinous act,in the name of sharia
@@Nope991 I say only one thing that sharia remember for four married only,n in other aspect of life u men live like a Christian r yahoodi?????why do men not follow islam in all aspect of life.....?why??????fisrt men shóuld be like our prophet pbuh ,our sahaba ra then say about Sharia......
Selam walaikom my brother i hope youre good. But my wife makes me sometimes craizy en she always remember the bad things happend to her by me. Instead of the miljons good things. I dont know what to do.
Any man who doesn't defend his wife is not a man in the first place. He's still a child mentally. And clearly hasn't read the scriptures. Even the mother of your child, where you must protector. Men always waste time attacking women over the Hijab but men can't even handle the household, scared of his parents when his wife is important. He has yo be independent and living with inlaws is a no go. That would make any womans problems severe when they get involved. And wives are. Ot your servant, she is not there to look after your parents, that is the man job, and this us clearly in the Quran. But when do men listen to scripture?
We aren't "wasting time" when we advice wmn about the hijab. And for a mn, he should obey his mother over his wife. And are all wmn following the scripture according to you?
The sad reality is that ppl are worshiping culture more and not following the teachings of islam.ummah wants islamic kalifat but they have to bring that kalifat in their own houses first before in their countries.
I wasn’t fair skin light enough . Stop this brothers and sisters you all do it stop it breaks me your hurting me and it doesn’t stop .. I didn’t want to live because of this please I beg you stop this with skin tone please 😢😢😢
There is nothing more beautiful than a kind heart and praiseworthy character. An intelligent mind is also beautiful if turned toward goodness. These two things are eternal and therefore have eternity to seek goodness and reflect the beauty of God in your life. A beautiful body is a healthy body whose very vitality is like taking joy from the gift of life from God, and being helpful to humanity and other living things, but the physical body is temporary and doesn't last. Skin color is arbitrary except as a protection from sun damage or not and of no importance besides except to the prejudiced that do not delight in the eternal nature of the soul, nor do they even fully appreciate the natural beauty of health as a means to do something of good (of God) in the world. Be kind and patient and I assure you that you are beautiful. Be kind remembering God's love and mercy, and be patient trusting God's providence and ultimate justice in time. The tenderhearted are like beautiful pearls, of pure light and living waters covered by the earth of this world. So uncover your beauty with God's aid and do not retaliate in a way that would hurt yourself or your love - God does not love the reduplication of an injustice. Remember kind words and God often as these will shield you from the sting of insults and criticisms and press on for the sake of God, yourself and others who do no injustice. That is my opinion on the matter and I believe it agrees with faith and scriptures. May god bring peace to your heart and ultimately joy through patience and gratitude in the remembrance of God, Who brings love through both trials and blessing.
Prophet musa saw was said to have extremely dark skin according to Hadith (“jet-black” according to prophet Muhammad saw) , and he is one of the most highly regarded prophets in Islam, may peace be upon him and his family. Allah doesn’t see us by our skin tone, nor should you. Please don’t ever feel bad about your skin tone, you should know that whoever judges you for it sees the world in a very delusional satanic way. Feel pity upon them and move along in your day inshallah.
You need to confront muslim women too, This is real but when the muslim women are wearing make up with hijab and perfume and posting with music on, shouldn't they be called out so they can fix their problem? Ofc, And men also shouldn't make muslim women suffer for pathetic reasons
brother the topic is about men this time, there are many videos in the internet confronting and talking about these women who do all these stuff, i don't understand why your upset, is it because you feel shame and guilt and you feel confronted why to feel this way when you haven't done something wrong or is it becuase something else
@@michelleyamazaki7118 no,lmao I am not even married,just to raise attention that both sides have issues and the worst of them is when women's faults are being shown than all women get blamed and when it is for men then all men get blamed
But why? We women look so beautiful and cut in the eyes men and men so hard work want get she/ girl but after the both married have child start bad in character out, i have near neighbour like this, and am read little articelly if mayority in hell fire is women😢😢😢
If abuse and beating done by wife and bad words with husband what husband shoul do and the son and daughter is also beaten. The wife is bad temper what should husband do?
Salam guys I have a question why are men constantly told to respect women, but not the other way around? Why are men being demonized for insulting women, but women can not be demonized for insulting men? Can somebody please answer me. What is the logic why can't it be both men and women respect one another? Why is it only on the man who needs to respect woman but the woman should be entitled and disrespectful? Please answer me don't ignore.
A lot of hadist literally told woman to respect and obey their husband repeatedly, otherwise they're going to hell if they dont. Alot of syekh, ulama and islamic speaker repeteadly talking about that already. Its very rare issues about woman being abuse by their husband brought up actually, even though its happens alot!
@@nadmahri Oh I understand personally as a liberal who believes in equality I'm protective against Muslim women per se because majority of them are modest and I would defend any Muslim woman against a man who tries to take advantage of her. But when it comes to non believing women who yell "My Body, My Choice" then I like to fight them if they mess with me because I don't see the logic for me to protect them. In this scenario I'd rather be a coward. I guess I forgot that the video was discussing about Muslim women and not those entitled and narcissistic Karens.
@@therebelliousprince0073 Bro I agree I believe it is "My Body, My Choice" agenda behind this. Personally I never found the idea of protecting women and giving haq mehr to be logical. More than I'd say humanity is logical because of the concept of haq mehr I've refused to get married because I don't find it fair that the man has to do everything yet the woman doesn't get to do anything. I don't know perhaps Quran has been rewritten especially the chapter of Surah An Nisa. Only Allah SWT knows best because instinctively it is unfair that only the man has to give haq mehr but the woman doesn't give anything. It is also unfair and beyond stupid that the man is obliged to protect a violent and aggressive woman.
Mardon p lazim h wo apne parents ki khidmat kren Orton p lazim h wo apne... cultural thing ko practice k chakkar me mard ort p ma ko musallat kr deta h...fr yaha se jo fitna shuru hota h... endless...Deen ko side krenge khwahish ko follow krenge to us kam me asani door ki bat zehni mareeza bn jati hen orten.... isliye apne mateht hone ka matlab ye na nikalen k jo khidmat ap khud nhi kr skte wo kr legi ya kr b le to apse ya usse koi acha mahol peda hoga, hargiz nhi...dono hi allah ki hadon ko tod bethte hen,or Jin k lye toda jata h wo to wese b khush hone ki nhi...... allah pak khushnudi kubul krta h bnde hargiz nhi...jo bnde allah ki Haden tode na shukre hon unpe lazim h har rishte ki boundarie smj Ani chahiye ap samne Wale ko isse zyada ka paband nhi kr skte...apna haq sbko chahiye samne wale k huquq den ya na den.... allah apse sawal krega....
The results of all What you talking shehe is for some of us hating being married... Sheikh I see marriage as a big trial that Allah has creat.. I thank Allah to make marriage Sunna so I won't need to do it if I could with hold myself from commiting Zina.. to me marriage is too expensive that I have to compromise even my humanity to it I really can't take it anymore... I tried twice and failed but I am sure Allah didn't create marriage to be this much disappointment is the Way we passive and implement it.... I believe there are NT good men except for rasulallah saw and sahababa so I decide to be alone until death and am only 43... This is the fruit of being abused in marriage by men... Iam sure i am not alone in this
@@therebelliousprince0073 I indeed happily am my friend nevertheless I wish things would change to be as instructed because of some women because of different reasons can never stay single and suffer alot
@@humayrahhassan-tx5pr Then make dua to Allah for a good Husband. We are made in pairs. There is a good mn out there for every good wmn and vice versa...
You had a thumbs up but I turned it down when you said invoke Muhammad and then you said no one is naturally evil. Ok then. F- I will crap on the Hadiths and still the Djinn won’t grant me any wishes because they’re counterfeit
Soft generation with soft words, how then you want to make it to the Janna just by smoothy and cuddles!! Go back to history pages, see what great woman was walking through. I don't believe in a man who is half of a man who let his wife complain to other people. And I don't believe at all in such a woman who has a heart to go complain to a shiekh or a dude or even her friends. Hard times create great people and great people create soft people and soft people create this topic:). Might Allah forgive us
So if I was raped, should I rejoice? If someone in my family were to be murdered, should I rejoice? Allah has given us humans a free will to do anything we want to, and if we commit a sin, we will be held accountable for our actions. And just because we are chosen to suffer, that does not mean we have to feel joyful. It's completely normal to feel sad and depressed in such situations. Feeling sad, depressed, or even suicidal does not mean you don't deserve Islam. Sadness is part of what makes us human. No living soul is unfamiliar with it.
@@tubafatima8722 when my brother was murdered I was missing him but also understood that he was with Allah and it gave me peace. When I was raped, I called out to Allah and he brought me peace. So....
@@tubafatima8722 it is true about pain being part of Life, But suffering is a Choice. If these women are suffering because of pain, then perhaps death will be the mercy they seek. In fact I believe suicide appropriate for such a situation if you cannot find dignity after the rape. Does that make sense? I considered it and decided against it because I had people counting on me to take care of them. If it were just me with no one needing me, I would have been happy to send myself to Allah
"PAIN MUSLIM WOMAN GO THROUGH BECAUSE OF MEN" Could've added MEN OF LITTLE ISLAMIC KNOWLEDGE. This splash screen/thumbnail maybe created for clicks, however will be used by the non-Muslims and my Muslim men to further build stereotypes without even listening to the video.
Unsubscribed, nonsense feminist propaganda, Muslim women should thank Allah everyday that he has created men to take care of them IN EXCHANGE for their obedience.
@@muhammadrayyanjaved381 "..and therefore the good wife is obedient.." - 4:34 - Noble Quran Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes.” Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Ibn Ḥibbān 4252 Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Al-Albani Please learn your religion. Obedience to the husband in reasonable matters and that which does not disobey Allah is an obligation on all wives and an act of worship to Allah.
I'm not sure which statement you're implying this to, but the lecture was generally about women putting up with abuse by their in-laws and husbands. If you're saying that you want women to be obedient even when getting abused, then may Allah give you hidayat, firstly siding with your parents, even when your wife is being abused is wrong in so many ways, you're basically a bystander to the abuse and you're doing her no justice. But if you're the abuser, then that's worse. She left her family and started a new life to be with you; her father gave her to you not because you could make her life a living hell; you should respect her and provide everything to her that includes comfort; and this isn't "nonsense feminist propaganda"; this is what a normal human being should do, and this is what we as Muslims should do if someone says, "I'm providing for you; you should be obedient and put up with the abuse." Do you know how absurd that sounds? And I highly doubt you'd be silent if the roles were reversed and you had to put up with the abuse, and just because women should be obedient, that doesn't apply to her putting up with abuse. Yes, a wife should be obedient, loving, and caring toward her husband, but that does not apply to everything. A woman does not have to be obedient if the man is telling her to do something that goes against Islam. A woman does not have to sit silently in an act of "obedience" if she's being abused. This is basic stuff. Even I, a 16-year-old, knows this. Prophet Mohammed (PBUH) said: "The believers who show the most perfect faith are those who have the best behavior, and the best among you are those who treat their wives well."
Whats the right of husband over his wife? If husbands right is to be obeyed by his wife then what happens if the husband commands the wife to take care of his parents?
brother in islam respectfully that's not her job, she's your wife and she has other responsibility and she has parents to take care of just like you do, it wouldn't be nice if your wife told you to take care of her parents, same thing goes to you
Yes I agree that husbands right is to be obeyed by his wife but iff his commands are according to the Quran and Sunnah. You should take care of your parents as this is the sunnah of Sahaba.
Bro, according to a hadith the husband's right over a wife is such that if she was to lick his receding wound even that won't fulfil his right. However it's your right and fardh rather to be best to your parents, she's moreover have no obligations towards her parents once she's at her husband's disposal, so maintenance of parents are man's duty not woman's be it your sister or the sister of your brother in law.
@@muhammadrayyanjaved381 i know its sunnah to take care of my own parents but if its mandatory for wife to obey his husband, then whre in quran says wife can't take care of husband's parents? So if husband commands ger to do so, doesn't it mean it will be fard for the wife to obey the command?
Narrated Abu Huraira : I heard Allah's Messenger Muhammad(pubh ) saying , " If there was a river at the door of anyone of you and he took a bath in it five times a day would you notice any dirt on him ? " They said , " Not a trace of dirt would be left . " The Prophet ( ) added , " That is the example of the five prayers with which ALLAH INVALIDATE ( WIPE OUT ) EVIL DEEDS . " Sahih al - Bukhari 528
Narrated Abu Huraira : I heard Allah's Messenger Muhammad(pubh ) saying , " If there was a river at the door of anyone of you and he took a bath in it five times a day would you notice any dirt on him ? " They said , " Not a trace of dirt would be left . " The Prophet ( ) added , " That is the example of the five prayers with which ALLAH INVALIDATE ( WIPE OUT ) EVIL DEEDS . " Sahih al - Bukhari 528
desi men really need to see this!
hmm ... I am desi BTW
desi men follow hindu culture... caste hierarchy exists and women and animals lie outside the caste hierarchies... by desi I mean Indian (Indian here), pakis, banglas, nepalis, Sri Lankans, afghanis etc. in fact desi fathers may also be emotionally abusive towards their daughters and granddaughters, may Allah protect the women inA ameen
Trueee
Lol good one
Mote like the Freshie men
I believe this is the result of culture more than religion. I have read countless books written by Muslim women who escaped bad marriages, and how much they suffered at the hands of their husbands and in-laws. People that mistreat or abuse women often have double standards.
@Annie Aso I think, sister, just please respect Prophet Muhammad(S.A.W)(PBUH) as I saw another comment of yours in this video and please write the Quran not Quoran and yes I do believe that Hadiths were written 200-250 years after the Prophet's(PBUH) Death and the Hadiths contain some narrations that contradict the Quran as well as the Prophet's(PBUH) character, if you read the Prophet's Character and Conduct according to the Quran Perspective, you will find him as the Greatest Man to Ever born on Earth and even his Sunnah which is also being a caring, honest, loyal, loving, romantic husband to the wife rather than being a Dominant Master upon the wife.
Last but not least, sister, the hadith which says that majority of women are in Hell, did you ever read the context of that Hadith, I am not justifying the Hadith but if you understand the Hadith clearly, the Prophet is addressing some women at the time of Eid who were ungrateful to their Husbands and He advised them don't be grateful to your husband if he cares for you, loves you and gives you importance but now my opinion, I am not targeting or saying every woman is like that, if a woman is evil, she can destroy an entire family just by her words, backbiting. This happened in my family where a woman of our family manipulated the people's minds in our family which lead to breaking of the family forever and let me tell you that woman also practices black magic but our family members found out that later. Some other cases like of women which have been false accusations of marital rape, dowry, oppression in household, etc and then filing for divorce without any valid reason also happen.
So these are the kinds of women, sister whom the Prophet used to fear for his Ummah.
May Allah(S.W.T) bless you and keep you steadfast, sister.
Ameen.
Not culture but people around who just kept their mouth shut. We don't need equality what we need is morality and people standing with each other for the sake of destroying evil.
Prophet Muhammad ﷺ once made the following du'a:"May Allah brighten the face of a person who hears a hadith from us and conveys it (to others), for perhaps the one to whom it is conveyed understands it better than the one who (first) heard it."[Sunan Ibn majah]
AMEEN IN'SHAALLAH 🤲🤲🤲👍
The word "perhaps" there doesn't bring me much hope 😢
Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has given the one more (strength) than the other, and because they support them from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient, and guard in (the husband's) absence what Allah would have them guard. As to those women on whose part ye fear disloyalty and ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (Next), refuse to share their beds, (And last) beat them (lightly); but if they return to obedience, seek not against them Means (of annoyance): For Allah is Most High, great (above you all). Quran 4:34
You followed this hadith
I really feel sad about this reality as I've known people who basically believe that once you are married to our son you obey and do everything we ask you to do. Endless household chores,not being able to express your thoughts on certain issues,not having anyone to take your side,so many emotional and spiritual abuses as mentioned.
And we are being reminded that this is the purpose of marriage,to serve the family and always nod to there commands. I am 18 and I wish to learn as much as I could and remind other vulnerable girls of their rights.
Lack of knowledge is hindering our welfare.
I am grateful for coming across this♥️
Alhamdullillah! Allah blessed me with good in laws. My mother in law does treat me like her daughter ❤️
Amin yarabbülalemin🕋🇷🇺
The Prophet said, "Isn't the witness of a women equal to half that of a man?" The women said "yes". He said "This is because of the deficiency of the women's mind." Sahih Bukhari 3:48:826
@@moholah3745 sorry but this doesn’t mean that they have suffer because of men
Aaaw good for you x
Allahumma barik
A manly man holds his balance and doesn’t allow disputes with spouse and parents honor and respect each other a man who is articulate and stands his ground knows how to keep peace in the family
Narrated Sahl bin Sad Saidi: "Allah's Apostle said "If there is any evil omen in anything, then it is in the woman, the horse and the house." Sahih Bukhari 4:52:111
@@moholah3745 That is why you have to keep her calm treat her like a queen. Otherwise you'll see the evil
@@hirunichamathka5635 See the evil?
@@hirunichamathka5635 Oh, come on sister, do you believe Hadiths like this, these kinds of Hadiths totally contradict the Prophet's Character and Conduct described in the Quran as well as in the Sunnah which is that His way of talking was the best of the best and He never talked to anyone in a bad and ill-manner, not even to his enemies who hated him the most, so how can you expect him to say such things. I advise you that the Hadiths are compilation of narrations from the Sahabas of the Prophet(PBUH) to A to B to C to D to E(examples) and E are Imam Al-Bukhari and Imam Muslim. Now there would have been mistakes in hearing some narrations by Imam Bukhari or these weird Hadiths are just merely Iblees whispers to misguide Muslims from Islam or it might be there was someone in between the narrators who preferred male dominance in Islam so they narrated such Hadiths to certain Muslims that the Prophet(PBUH) said such things but actually He didn't, this can be true, right? So always analyze the Hadith before believing it and compare it to the Quran as the Quran was written in the Prophet's(PBUH) presence, not the Hadiths.
Hi. This happens to woman and men from all cultures and nations. Sometimes we need to put our faith or principles into action and put ourselves first. It's so easy to feel trapped because of loyalty and love. Women are softer and more vulnerable than men. We have that nurturing nature. But sometimes us women have to stand up for ourselves and find the strength we never knew we had. We need to learn it's not a sin to take care of ourselves it's not insult to have personal healthy boundaries even to those we love and commit to. Alas this is not easy to do.
I’m not even married but I can’t stop my tears 😭 Ya Allah 🤲🏻
Laa ilaha illallah Muhammadur Rasool'ullah
(Sallallahu Alaihe wasallam)
AMEEN IN'SHAALLAH 🤲🤲👍❤
The reason muslim women get "hurt" inside(and outside) is because muhamad prescribed to muslim men the right to b€at them, so the muslima better learn her place in the marriage, keep her opinions to herself, do as she's told and maybe? just maybe she wont need any disciplining(b€atings).. but if youre lucky and find a good husband maybe he'll just send you back to Pakistan where they can indoctrinate you into being a good muslim b@by breeding factory for al-islam.. Inshallah
Yeah, a husband must protect his wife and keep her safe and for women, their husbands safe from similar abuse too. People need to stop quoting out of context or finding excuses. Thank you for the video.
Being abused and put down all the time from the first day of my marriage by my mother-in-law, I've learned how to put down her. Now she can't even utter a word towards me.
Wow, sister, May Allah(S.W.T) give you more courage to fight and bless you and keep you steadfast.
Ameen.
You know what my mother did on some family.member who treat us a little bit bad. Treat them better and live with integrity and pray. And now after seeing how loyal my mom is and having a backbone they are now now on her. Because her Faithe and action speak louder than words.
I personally don't feel Husbands and wives should live with their parents IMO. This almost NEVER works.
Marriage in US is easy. Marriage in foreign countries are hard because of culture.
@@yeeshatraveller when they are in need in their old age then we must look after them but living with inlaws is dangerous.
Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) said,
"And whoever covers (the faults of) a Muslim, Allah will cover (his faults) for him in the world and the Hereafter."
Tirmidhi
AMEEN IN'SHAALLAH 🤲🤲👍😥
@Annie Aso Sunan Ibn Majah 1977
It was narrated from Ibn 'Abbas that:
the Prophet said: "The best of you is the one who is best to his wife, and I am the best of you to my wives."
May Allah keep us steadfast in the deen.
" And We have already created man and know what his soul whispers to him , and We are closer to him than [ his ] jugular vein . " Surah Qaf 50:16
We need to seperate our homes from our parents. But we always stay close to them. What I mean is: the front doors must be seperated. When visiting each other you do this in weekends or in cuma evening once a week. NOT EVERY DAY AND ALL DAY LONG.
What I try to say is we need to respect each other's privacy. And not ring the doorbell making surprises, NO first you call and make an appointment to visit each other.
(May Allah (Cellecelaluhu) bless all my Muslim brothers and sisters)
I agree with you on this. privacy is important and it should be respected.
Yani you suggest that old parents should be left alone at themselves, whilst they need company they should have an appointment, whilst when you needed them you barge in to their privacy, Masha Allah. Definitely even you don't need your husband everyday, the same woman don't allow polygamy, those who can't share a husband want a son to themselves and husband for 24/7, sorry with the generalisation but that's the usual truth. Majority
@Orsino presumptuous. Not everyone marries at same age, not everyone has same health conditions.
That's your opinion. Doesn't necessarily mean it has to be like that.
@MaddeeOO1 that isn't what she said, she said to have a "separate door" which is true. The wife has the right to live separately from her in-laws. This is Allah's command. Your opinion is overdramatic. You are responsible for your parents and your wife's is responsible for hers. You dont burden your wife with your own Islamic duties for your own parents. Top following culture and follow Allah's orders. They are there for good reasons.
This is, thank you. The bitter truth. Many men use religion (nauzubillah) to validate their twisted views.
Like you wmn don't do the same?
What led you into Hell Fire?
They will say: 'We were not of those who prayed.'” (Qur'an 74:42-43)
🌹Don't forget your five daily prayers 🌹
Always respect women guys because you come into this world by her stomach. Thumbs up 👍 if you know what I mean.
Please rephrase that .. 👍🏻
Do wmn respect mn?
Yeah they do
Moral of the story: DO NOT live with your inlaws! PERIOD!
Just follow the sunnah of Sahaba ...Man should take care of his parents not his wife/wives.
@@muhammadrayyanjaved381 he should take care of both of them
Ustad nauman ali khan raised a good voice on this topic.
Completely unbiased and liberal ..Amazing!
The Prophet Muhammad ( s.a.w ) said : " Look to one who is lower than you , and do not look to one who is above you . For indeed that is more worthy ( so that you will ) not belittle Allah's favors upon you . " Jami ' at - Tirmidhi 2513 &
Thank you for this!
Excellent reminder
I was too much in the Dunya and I fucked up my life with my wife and her family....I'm changing my ways now (I wasn't a Muslim back then)....this video puts things in perspective
Allah Akba
This is exactly what i am going through.. now m done with this
May Allah make it easy on you my sister. Tell your husband, give him some chances to talk to his parents, but if he lets them treat you that way, it’s better for you to leave. I’m not encouraging divorce here, but if it reaches an extent where the husband and in laws just treat you like a slave girl and when you make 2 tiny mistake, it’s all over the internet, it’s better for you to leave. Even Islamicly, if there’s nothing left to salvage the marriage, leaving is better for you. Especially if you have kids. Once they reach a certain age, then the husbands parents will start treating them the same way. But first, try to salvage it, try talk to them RESPECTFULLY, (key word: RESPECTFULLY) because if you are not, it will be considered haram. What you can do is speak to them humbly and say “you are my in laws and I love how you let me into this family, but you’re wrong” and you can kiss there head out if respect. Just try hard ti avoid a fight. May Allah reward you for your patience my sister ❤.
Assalaamualaykum (peace be upon you). Alhamdulillâhi Rabbil âlamiin. Allâhumma Salli alâ Seyyidinâ Mawlâna Muhammadin Wa Sallim. Thank you for sharing this with us. May Allah reward you. May ALLÂH SWT Make it Easy for all and Guide, Protect, Bless, Help us and Grant all of us Jannah. Ameen Ameen Ameen Ameen Ameen Ameen…
I MADE IT SHUKER ALHAMDULILAH
MshAllah...Jazaka Allahu qeyran.
Very very Nice Clip
ALLAH n PBUH BLESS Muslim ummah AMEEN
This rocks brother Masha'Allah 🕊️🌉🥕🧬 🕯️ Takbir 🙌🏼🫶🙌🏼 👐🏼✊🏼🌱🪨🌩️⛈️🌨️☁️🌽☝🏼💫🌞🔆
We all belong to the Allah Almighty, the Creator of all creations! As Prophet Muhammad PBUH called "slaves of Allah" 💚
If you men don't want the wrath of الله to come down on y'all, treat s'الله female servants with respect (within reason) according to Quran and Sunnah! May الله help the men of the ummah to be the best husbands ever to their wife/wives! امين 💛🥰❤️
amin
Ameen well said
Ameen 🤲
Wives also have the obligation to be deserving of the respect. Tell women not to do something that compels husbands to be disrespectful towards them. Respect is earned. Not claimed. Be the best wife to your husband, he will be the best husband to you.
May Allah give the men of the Ummah wives that are even worthy of a good man in the first place.
My husband mother treated me hurrible over 20 years of my 37 years of marriage I never disrespected her and treated the 3 other daughters in-law the same but they disrespected her when she was sick I was her caregiver and nobody wanted to help her not even her sons my husband verbally has abused me for 35 years of our 37 years and now has dementia and still abuses me and I’m stressed out all the time.I’m a new Muslim and Allah has taught me to forgive him and care for him and that he will make up for all the years of pain and suffering.
I'm sorry to hear that. I know what it's like to be a carer with no one helping. I'm a carer for my parents since I was a teen. Most of my siblings have married and moved out and barely any of them offered to help even when I asked for help. My dad had dementia and it was very hard for me. Sis, I think you should speak out or try to get some online counselling. Please don't think u need to do this all alone. Because people can be very frustrating and it's unfair that u have to do all this. Your mental health matters too.
“The heart gets sick as the body does and its cure is in asking for forgiveness and protection.
It also becomes rusty like a mirror does and it is polished by remembering Allah.
The heart can also be naked like the body and can lose its dress and decoration, which is piety..
And it can feel hunger and thirst like the body does, and its nourishment is knowledge, love, trust, and offering service to Allah.”
AMEEN IN'SHAALLAH 🤲🤲🤲👍❤
U re right 😊
Abusive parents come from abusive environments. This is most probably how they were treated and what they witnessed so continue the vicious cycle of behaviour. It is dysfunctional. Someone has to break it. If you recognise it in yourself, then seek Allah's help and make the effort to break it. It isn't easy but it is definitely possible. It requires a different thinking process and as it took years to wire your thoughts in your present way, it may take months and maybe even some years to change those negative thoughts. May Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala help us all become the best versions of ourselves. Ameen
Just remember this: if you are the source of someone else's suffering and distress, you will be answerable for it. No human being belongs tou you. Not even your children. First and foremost, we all belong to Allah. How are you behaving towards the slave of Allah? There are all sorts of tyrants.
Beautiful video💖💖
Well said
My life time I have seen my mom crying and suffering bc of my father bc of him I stopped trusting any man all my goal right now is to provide my mother financial support her give her the life she missed in her teenager I don't care if I spend my life time on that I don't care if I don't get married at least I did what my father couldn't do for my mother I am not close to my father but I love my mother more than anything in this world and bc of my father she's suffering then how can I trust any other man when I cannot trust my father
I can understand your point
@@alisaahmed9969 thanks for understand me
Do you trust wmn?
😢 i feel bad for the sisters and a lot of us men are idiots and im 17 and i grew up seeing this as a child in a way sorry sisters
Unfortunate fact
May Allah swt make you a.good husband
thats why you dont understand anything kiddo. most woman nowdays are the idiot one believe it or not.
Brother, don't let these simping daees delude you.
Prophet Muhammad (Pubh)said all the A man asked the Messenger of Allah : " Which act in Islam is the best ? " He ( ) replied , " To give food , and to greet everyone , whether you know or you do not . " [ Al - Bukhari and Muslim ]
So true
Sheikh Uthman? Wow! Hello!
How am I blessing to my family
THE MESSENGER OF ALLAH SAID : " THE LORD'S PLEASURE IS IN THE PARENT'S PLEASURE , AND THE LORD'S ANGER IS IN THE PARENT'S ANGER . " JAMI AT - TIRMIDHI 1899
Narrated Abu Huraira : I heard Allah's Messenger Muhammad(pubh ) saying , " If there was a river at the door of anyone of you and he took a bath in it five times a day would you notice any dirt on him ? " They said , " Not a trace of dirt would be left . " The Prophet ( ) added , " That is the example of the five prayers with which ALLAH INVALIDATE ( WIPE OUT ) EVIL DEEDS . " Sahih al - Bukhari 528
Eventho it’s halal , my biggest fear is my future husband marrying again. The idea of polygyny HURTS
Just marry a monogamous guy. Problem solved.
Also try to be a good wife to him then he won't even think of getting another..
Why didn't you talk about it with your husband before marriage? It's halal but it's not fard
Allah ho Akber
I always say that if you don't have trust you have nothing?!
I'm so confused about some of these comments. Accounting an abuser is not going against hiding the sins of someone. If people are IGNORANT about the context of islamic texts, then they really shouldn't be applying to the wrong situation. Islam never allows abuse!
Abu Darda ' heard the Prophet Muhammad(Pubh) say that " The father is the middle door of Paradise ( i.e. the best way to Paradise ) , so it is up to you whether you take advantage of it or not . " Sunan Ibn Majah 3663
what are you trying to say, brother? that men should choose parents when need be? TAKE ALLAH'S WORD AND NOT HIS SERVANTS.
Narrated Abu Sa'id Al Khudri ( RA ) : Allah's Messenger Muhammad( peace be upon him ) said , " If a person embraces Islam sincerely , then Allah shall forgive all his past sins , and after that starts the settlement of accounts , the reward of his good deeds will be ten times to seven hundred times for each good deed and one evil deed will be recorded as it is unless Allah forgives it . " ( Sahih al - Bukhari 41 , Book 2 , Hadith 34 )
That's great. Now we'll see if it's true
Subhanallah
SUBHAAALLAH JAJAK ALLAH KHAIRAN SHAIKH AMEEN IN'SHAALLAH 🤲🤲🤲👍😭😥😟😡🤢😥
Even if they endure tortures daily, they should feel honored to do so I'm the name of and for Allah. It is a gift and a blessing to suffer for Allah.
It's one thing to accept a difficulty for the sake of Allah and another to normalise wrong behaviour.
She can be endure the tortures as Sabr is highly respected and rewarded.
But that does not mean torturing your daughter in law should be normalised you know.
Allah says to have Sabr but He swt does not say that it should be done to an extent where there is clear injustice happening to you. That is literally just being a pushover. You know what I mean?
@@mazn714 ha....I do know what you mean...nevertheless...
she will be rewarded for it and your parents might end up in jahannum [hell].... I hate to say but you do love your wife more than your parents as you making her suffer and not correcting your parent's behavior....
and it's not even in the name of Allah SWT it's legit letting yourself put down....these people don't own you ALLAH DOES and since many people can't seem to acknowledge that....nevertheless....you should never let someone disrespect you cuz you're one of his creation and there's a diff between insult and suggestion.
@@Xoyaaaaaa But when we are in a Powerless position is the best thing not to submit yourself to the Will and protection of Allah?
And We will surely test you with something of fear and hunger and a loss of wealth and lives and fruits, but give good tidings to the patient,"
(Quran. Al-Baqara: Verse 155)
Who, when disaster strikes them, say, Indeed we belong to Allah, and indeed to Him we will return."
(Quran. Al-Baqara: Verse 156)
Those are the ones upon whom are blessings from their Lord and mercy. And it is those who are the [rightly] guided."
(Quran. Al-Baqara: Verse 157)
And InshaAllah a video of pain men go through because of women!
Oh no! The modern "Muslim" f'em'i'n'ist wmn online wouldn't allow that!
One islamic has a problem in android phones when you download it is okey but the problem is when you watching it throw out by itself
This makes me sad. I know what my rights are as a Muslim woman. I am a convert to Islam. My husband does not treat me well. He was born as a Muslim and I converted when I was 20 years old..
I have Autism and therefore I am more vunerable. My husband hits me, beats me, curses at me, screams at me and calls me names. He even pulled my hair. He says I am a stupid cow, a whore and a trash woman. It makes me sad. I do not deserve this. Sadly I am alone. I do not have any support from my family. There are non Muslims. They are Christians. And they blame Islam instead of my husband. And that makes me very very sad.
What should I do?
I'm so sorry. Try to divorce him
That is not permissible in islam at all
You should look for divorcing him. What he's doing is criminal. My sister used to be abused like this badly for many years and then he started abusing her kids and he went to jail and they're divorced.
Sister please find counselling or go to a imams in a different town. Explain your situation, even with kids! He is not worth living with...
Allah swt is the best of planners and will have something or someone better for you! Please 🙏 message me if you wish to talk further. Jazakallah M
Muslim women
Assalamu alaikum wr wb.......this is very important topic.....many men not physically but mentally torture their in such a extent that life become hell for those women....my husband when marry me was economically ,educationally n from every point of view lesser than me ....bt as he earn money more hebecome more n more tilt towards duniya,doing extra marital affair with his PA,he fully hidden his relation ...suddenly inform me that he married with his PA....now how can I live with such man.....I can't live with him......
May Allah help you.
In Islam a man can marry a second wife without the permission of the first wife. In Islam a man doesn't even have to tell his first wife that he married a second wife.
How is marrying a second wife extramarital affair? Astaghfir Allah
@@Nope991 u r rt....he can't say anything to his first wife bt is islam say that firstly dating with namahram PA, wondering n hoteling with her,then after doing all these things married with her. Is the Sharia allow to do all these heinous act,in the name of sharia
@@Nope991 I say only one thing that sharia remember for four married only,n in other aspect of life u men live like a Christian r yahoodi?????why do men not follow islam in all aspect of life.....?why??????fisrt men shóuld be like our prophet pbuh ,our sahaba ra then say about Sharia......
Selam walaikom my brother i hope youre good. But my wife makes me sometimes craizy en she always remember the bad things happend to her by me. Instead of the miljons good things. I dont know what to do.
Any man who doesn't defend his wife is not a man in the first place. He's still a child mentally. And clearly hasn't read the scriptures. Even the mother of your child, where you must protector. Men always waste time attacking women over the Hijab but men can't even handle the household, scared of his parents when his wife is important. He has yo be independent and living with inlaws is a no go. That would make any womans problems severe when they get involved.
And wives are. Ot your servant, she is not there to look after your parents, that is the man job, and this us clearly in the Quran. But when do men listen to scripture?
Well men are worse than women.
We aren't "wasting time" when we advice wmn about the hijab.
And for a mn, he should obey his mother over his wife.
And are all wmn following the scripture according to you?
🤲🏻
Servant is a more accurate translation that slave.
The sad reality is that ppl are worshiping culture more and not following the teachings of islam.ummah wants islamic kalifat but they have to bring that kalifat in their own houses first before in their countries.
I wasn’t fair skin light enough . Stop this brothers and sisters you all do it stop it breaks me your hurting me and it doesn’t stop .. I didn’t want to live because of this please I beg you stop this with skin tone please 😢😢😢
There is nothing more beautiful than a kind heart and praiseworthy character. An intelligent mind is also beautiful if turned toward goodness. These two things are eternal and therefore have eternity to seek goodness and reflect the beauty of God in your life.
A beautiful body is a healthy body whose very vitality is like taking joy from the gift of life from God, and being helpful to humanity and other living things, but the physical body is temporary and doesn't last. Skin color is arbitrary except as a protection from sun damage or not and of no importance besides except to the prejudiced that do not delight in the eternal nature of the soul, nor do they even fully appreciate the natural beauty of health as a means to do something of good (of God) in the world.
Be kind and patient and I assure you that you are beautiful. Be kind remembering God's love and mercy, and be patient trusting God's providence and ultimate justice in time.
The tenderhearted are like beautiful pearls, of pure light and living waters covered by the earth of this world. So uncover your beauty with God's aid and do not retaliate in a way that would hurt yourself or your love - God does not love the reduplication of an injustice. Remember kind words and God often as these will shield you from the sting of insults and criticisms and press on for the sake of God, yourself and others who do no injustice.
That is my opinion on the matter and I believe it agrees with faith and scriptures. May god bring peace to your heart and ultimately joy through patience and gratitude in the remembrance of God, Who brings love through both trials and blessing.
Prophet musa saw was said to have extremely dark skin according to Hadith (“jet-black” according to prophet Muhammad saw) , and he is one of the most highly regarded prophets in Islam, may peace be upon him and his family. Allah doesn’t see us by our skin tone, nor should you. Please don’t ever feel bad about your skin tone, you should know that whoever judges you for it sees the world in a very delusional satanic way. Feel pity upon them and move along in your day inshallah.
Marriage...ufff...these things provokes zina
What do you mean?
You need to confront muslim women too, This is real but when the muslim women are wearing make up with hijab and perfume and posting with music on, shouldn't they be called out so they can fix their problem? Ofc, And men also shouldn't make muslim women suffer for pathetic reasons
This topic is about men this time, not women! May الله help us all امين
brother the topic is about men this time, there are many videos in the internet confronting and talking about these women who do all these stuff, i don't understand why your upset, is it because you feel shame and guilt and you feel confronted why to feel this way when you haven't done something wrong or is it becuase something else
Yeah you are right but don't you think Muslim brothers are also lacking in deen?
@@aisham1057 yes
@@michelleyamazaki7118 no,lmao I am not even married,just to raise attention that both sides have issues and the worst of them is when women's faults are being shown than all women get blamed and when it is for men then all men get blamed
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But why? We women look so beautiful and cut in the eyes men and men so hard work want get she/ girl but after the both married have child start bad in character out, i have near neighbour like this, and am read little articelly if mayority in hell fire is women😢😢😢
There is no Sabr with abusive in laws....That's damn cultural practices and not Islamic values...know the difference
If abuse and beating done by wife and bad words with husband what husband shoul do and the son and daughter is also beaten. The wife is bad temper what should husband do?
Salam guys I have a question why are men constantly told to respect women, but not the other way around? Why are men being demonized for insulting women, but women can not be demonized for insulting men? Can somebody please answer me. What is the logic why can't it be both men and women respect one another? Why is it only on the man who needs to respect woman but the woman should be entitled and disrespectful? Please answer me don't ignore.
A lot of hadist literally told woman to respect and obey their husband repeatedly, otherwise they're going to hell if they dont. Alot of syekh, ulama and islamic speaker repeteadly talking about that already. Its very rare issues about woman being abuse by their husband brought up actually, even though its happens alot!
@@nadmahri Oh I understand personally as a liberal who believes in equality I'm protective against Muslim women per se because majority of them are modest and I would defend any Muslim woman against a man who tries to take advantage of her. But when it comes to non believing women who yell "My Body, My Choice" then I like to fight them if they mess with me because I don't see the logic for me to protect them. In this scenario I'd rather be a coward. I guess I forgot that the video was discussing about Muslim women and not those entitled and narcissistic Karens.
@@nadmahri Just a sincere question with no malicious ulterior motive: do you resent muslim men and shaykhs and ulamas?
Because f'em'i'n'ism has infiltrated the ummah and corrupted the world.
@@therebelliousprince0073 Bro I agree I believe it is "My Body, My Choice" agenda behind this. Personally I never found the idea of protecting women and giving haq mehr to be logical.
More than I'd say humanity is logical because of the concept of haq mehr I've refused to get married because I don't find it fair that the man has to do everything yet the woman doesn't get to do anything.
I don't know perhaps Quran has been rewritten especially the chapter of Surah An Nisa. Only Allah SWT knows best because instinctively it is unfair that only the man has to give haq mehr but the woman doesn't give anything. It is also unfair and beyond stupid that the man is obliged to protect a violent and aggressive woman.
The luckiest women in the whole world and.... complaining. How ungrateful and dishonorable!
Mardon p lazim h wo apne parents ki khidmat kren Orton p lazim h wo apne... cultural thing ko practice k chakkar me mard ort p ma ko musallat kr deta h...fr yaha se jo fitna shuru hota h... endless...Deen ko side krenge khwahish ko follow krenge to us kam me asani door ki bat zehni mareeza bn jati hen orten.... isliye apne mateht hone ka matlab ye na nikalen k jo khidmat ap khud nhi kr skte wo kr legi ya kr b le to apse ya usse koi acha mahol peda hoga, hargiz nhi...dono hi allah ki hadon ko tod bethte hen,or Jin k lye toda jata h wo to wese b khush hone ki nhi...... allah pak khushnudi kubul krta h bnde hargiz nhi...jo bnde allah ki Haden tode na shukre hon unpe lazim h har rishte ki boundarie smj Ani chahiye ap samne Wale ko isse zyada ka paband nhi kr skte...apna haq sbko chahiye samne wale k huquq den ya na den.... allah apse sawal krega....
Y DONT U CHAT ABOUT THE pain that men go through AZ WEL r men Not human!!
The results of all What you talking shehe is for some of us hating being married... Sheikh I see marriage as a big trial that Allah has creat.. I thank Allah to make marriage Sunna so I won't need to do it if I could with hold myself from commiting Zina.. to me marriage is too expensive that I have to compromise even my humanity to it I really can't take it anymore... I tried twice and failed but I am sure Allah didn't create marriage to be this much disappointment is the Way we passive and implement it.... I believe there are NT good men except for rasulallah saw and sahababa so I decide to be alone until death and am only 43... This is the fruit of being abused in marriage by men... Iam sure i am not alone in this
Stay single then
@@therebelliousprince0073 I indeed happily am my friend nevertheless I wish things would change to be as instructed because of some women because of different reasons can never stay single and suffer alot
@@humayrahhassan-tx5pr Then make dua to Allah for a good Husband.
We are made in pairs.
There is a good mn out there for every good wmn and vice versa...
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As I expected noma Ali khan the simp 😂
So but l try to talk nice. But she follows at me how be. Come crazy
You had a thumbs up but I turned it down when you said invoke Muhammad and then you said no one is naturally evil. Ok then. F-
I will crap on the Hadiths and still the Djinn won’t grant me any wishes because they’re counterfeit
How dark she is? Really
Soft generation with soft words, how then you want to make it to the Janna just by smoothy and cuddles!! Go back to history pages, see what great woman was walking through.
I don't believe in a man who is half of a man who let his wife complain to other people.
And I don't believe at all in such a woman who has a heart to go complain to a shiekh or a dude or even her friends.
Hard times create great people and great people create soft people and soft people create this topic:).
Might Allah forgive us
These women, no matter how mistreated or abused should rejoice that they have been chosen by Allah to suffer so, otherwise they do not deserve Islam.
So if I was raped, should I rejoice? If someone in my family were to be murdered, should I rejoice? Allah has given us humans a free will to do anything we want to, and if we commit a sin, we will be held accountable for our actions. And just because we are chosen to suffer, that does not mean we have to feel joyful. It's completely normal to feel sad and depressed in such situations. Feeling sad, depressed, or even suicidal does not mean you don't deserve Islam. Sadness is part of what makes us human. No living soul is unfamiliar with it.
@@tubafatima8722 acceptance with Grace means you don't rejoice, nor suffer. You just accept and thank Allah for giving you Life
@@tubafatima8722 when my brother was murdered I was missing him but also understood that he was with Allah and it gave me peace. When I was raped, I called out to Allah and he brought me peace. So....
@@tubafatima8722 It sounds as though ego may still be a bit of a confusion for you..may Allah bring you more understanding and peace on your journey.
@@tubafatima8722 it is true about pain being part of Life, But suffering is a Choice. If these women are suffering because of pain, then perhaps death will be the mercy they seek. In fact I believe suicide appropriate for such a situation if you cannot find dignity after the rape. Does that make sense? I considered it and decided against it because I had people counting on me to take care of them. If it were just me with no one needing me, I would have been happy to send myself to Allah
"PAIN MUSLIM WOMAN GO THROUGH BECAUSE OF MEN"
Could've added MEN OF LITTLE ISLAMIC KNOWLEDGE. This splash screen/thumbnail maybe created for clicks, however will be used by the non-Muslims and my Muslim men to further build stereotypes without even listening to the video.
You can’t invoke Muhammad peace be upon him…. That is shirk. And the hadeeths are BS….
Unsubscribed, nonsense feminist propaganda, Muslim women should thank Allah everyday that he has created men to take care of them IN EXCHANGE for their obedience.
Shut up what obedience Follow Islam not your desires .. You cannot put responsibilities on her shoulders that Allah has not placed on her.
@@muhammadrayyanjaved381 "..and therefore the good wife is obedient.." - 4:34 - Noble Quran
Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes.”
Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Ibn Ḥibbān 4252
Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Al-Albani
Please learn your religion. Obedience to the husband in reasonable matters and that which does not disobey Allah is an obligation on all wives and an act of worship to Allah.
I'm not sure which statement you're implying this to, but the lecture was generally about women putting up with abuse by their in-laws and husbands. If you're saying that you want women to be obedient even when getting abused, then may Allah give you hidayat, firstly siding with your parents, even when your wife is being abused is wrong in so many ways, you're basically a bystander to the abuse and you're doing her no justice. But if you're the abuser, then that's worse. She left her family and started a new life to be with you; her father gave her to you not because you could make her life a living hell; you should respect her and provide everything to her that includes comfort; and this isn't "nonsense feminist propaganda"; this is what a normal human being should do, and this is what we as Muslims should do if someone says, "I'm providing for you; you should be obedient and put up with the abuse." Do you know how absurd that sounds? And I highly doubt you'd be silent if the roles were reversed and you had to put up with the abuse, and just because women should be obedient, that doesn't apply to her putting up with abuse. Yes, a wife should be obedient, loving, and caring toward her husband, but that does not apply to everything. A woman does not have to be obedient if the man is telling her to do something that goes against Islam. A woman does not have to sit silently in an act of "obedience" if she's being abused. This is basic stuff. Even I, a 16-year-old, knows this.
Prophet Mohammed (PBUH) said:
"The believers who show the most perfect faith are those who have the best behavior, and the best among you are those who treat their wives well."
Exactly. And this clip was by NAK who is a simp.
@@muhammadrayyanjaved381 Simp. Can you prove that it is haram for a husband to ask his wife to do chores for his parents?
Whats the right of husband over his wife?
If husbands right is to be obeyed by his wife then what happens if the husband commands the wife to take care of his parents?
brother in islam respectfully that's not her job, she's your wife and she has other responsibility and she has parents to take care of just like you do, it wouldn't be nice if your wife told you to take care of her parents, same thing goes to you
Yes I agree that husbands right is to be obeyed by his wife but iff his commands are according to the Quran and Sunnah. You should take care of your parents as this is the sunnah of Sahaba.
Bro, according to a hadith the husband's right over a wife is such that if she was to lick his receding wound even that won't fulfil his right.
However it's your right and fardh rather to be best to your parents, she's moreover have no obligations towards her parents once she's at her husband's disposal, so maintenance of parents are man's duty not woman's be it your sister or the sister of your brother in law.
@@michelleyamazaki7118 what mandatory responsibilities a wife has towards her husband?
@@muhammadrayyanjaved381 i know its sunnah to take care of my own parents but if its mandatory for wife to obey his husband, then whre in quran says wife can't take care of husband's parents? So if husband commands ger to do so, doesn't it mean it will be fard for the wife to obey the command?
He is teaching you to be a weak man
Narrated Abu Huraira : I heard Allah's Messenger Muhammad(pubh ) saying , " If there was a river at the door of anyone of you and he took a bath in it five times a day would you notice any dirt on him ? " They said , " Not a trace of dirt would be left . " The Prophet ( ) added , " That is the example of the five prayers with which ALLAH INVALIDATE ( WIPE OUT ) EVIL DEEDS . " Sahih al - Bukhari 528
Narrated Abu Huraira : I heard Allah's Messenger Muhammad(pubh ) saying , " If there was a river at the door of anyone of you and he took a bath in it five times a day would you notice any dirt on him ? " They said , " Not a trace of dirt would be left . " The Prophet ( ) added , " That is the example of the five prayers with which ALLAH INVALIDATE ( WIPE OUT ) EVIL DEEDS . " Sahih al - Bukhari 528