Her mom was wrong but I don’t think she deserves the hate she’s getting. She didn’t want her daughters only focus to be on her weight since it can be easy to become obsessed with weight again when recovering from an ED. Her daughter was proud of having overcome such a time and wanted to show it, her mom just didn’t know how to handle it and was too worried to see it was that and not her slipping back into those times.
Yeah ! She just wanted her daughter to focus on something else than showing off her weight. The bride was proud of herself i’m sure the mom was too I think her mom is just worried about a relapse or some unhealthy behaviours
I'm sure mom is worried the dress that makes her look smaller will trigger her daughter's ED. We don't have a clue what all mom went through while worried to death about her daughter. She's just scared and doesn't want anything to happen that could send her child back in a tail spin. If you're not a mother with a child who has this, then you don't have a clue!
I agree. I once starved myself for a smaller size of a bridesmaid dress. I was so proud of my skinny self, but now when I see pictures, even though I was 30 years younger, I look pale and exhausted. Being fit and healthy is more important to me now than just a number on a tag.
The poor mum she has obviously taken on a lot of the pain from her daughter's eating disorders. I can't imagine how much she worried for her daughter. Glad they did this together.
I understand--due to similar issues of a family member--the mom doesn't want the daughter to continue to place a placebo on her recovery. So many comments have stated the daughter has moved on and not the mom. We don't know that. Mom is there; we are not. There are plenty of people with eating disorders who have "the highs" where they temporarily feel good about themselves. Mom wants her to be okay ALL the time and make healthy decisions for herself. She may not be communicating it well, but it is VERY clear that is her wish for her daughter.
It sounds like mom has been so used to trying to convince her daughter is beautiful her whole life and just wants her daughter to be happy and now worrying about her body. She wants her to know she’s beautiful no matter what and wants her to find something that she loves, not just something that makes her look skinny. Mamas never stop being mamas
All I see is a mother who loves her daughter. Is she handling it the best way? No of course not but I truly believe her fear for her daughter is out of love. So proud of this bride
This is what I understood her mom to say: The daughter has been laser focused on losing weight. That kind of focus was necessary for successfully losing 75 pounds. When you choose your wedding dress, however, there is a different purpose at hand. Don't use the "weight loss focus" to choose a dress for the "biggest day of your life." Use the "biggest day of your life focus" to choose a dress for the "biggest day of your life."
I kind of understand the mother's concern... I had an eating disorder and still struggle because I tend to pick out clothes that make me look smaller. My mom keeps me accountable
What's wrong with buying clothes that make a lady look smaller? That's what most women do. My mean mother used to say that I had to buy my clothes at the tent and awning place. She hated me especially for my weight.
Her mum is just trying to say that she looks beautiful with or without the weight. She isn't saying that she shouldn't try a dress just to show that she is slim now
Yes, but in the process, she poops on the bride's appointment. Just look at her and how she looks on the dresses and don't make suppositions. It is stupid to project your feelings on someone else.
The mom is assuming the bride is being self conscious to begin with thinking she’ll only choose a dress based on how skinny she’ll look (even though the whole point of clothing is to show off your body) rather than the bride wanting to show off her new body which in turn will make the bride self conscious. If the mom can’t see past the ED the bride won’t be able to either her hearts in the right place but needs a better execution
@@jamievandenbussche8406 the whole point of the clothing is to show off your body? No this is absolutely so wrong.It Is a different thing, some people do wanna show off their body yes. But this isn't the case for everyone. Its about many things, style, personality or how comfortable you wanna be....
@@25nikolet it could’ve been worded better yes the general sentiment is that clothes are designed to compliment your body and yes that includes things like style and self expression and sometimes your mood I.e. wanting to be comfortable or cute or sexy. And if she wants a dress that shows off the weight she lost what’s wrong with that? Do ppl not realize that telling someone “you looked beautiful before” isn’t helpful you can say you look beautiful no matter your size or you were beautiful then too but now you’re beautiful and happy with things like that dwelling on just the past isn’t good
Moms carry a lot of pain for what their kids go through too. She just wanted her daughter to know she was beautiful no matter what. Glad they went with that pretty dress in the end.
I'll bet the younger sister isn't aware of the seriousness of an eating disorder and what their Mother went through worrying if her beloved daughter would survive at times. Eating disorders do impact the family who have to put their fears aside and be there to support, often the fear impacts much later.
i've said it before, people need to learn the compliment sandwich. it's fine to say so when a bride doesn't look good in a dress, lord knows there's no shortage of tacky ill-fitting wedding dresses, but you have to do it in a way that doesn't make the bride feel personally attacked. say something you like about it, then express your concerns, then pull it back with the silver lining. that way the bride hears where it falls short but has plenty to lean on if the positives outweigh the negatives for her.
Exactly. My best got engaged recently and I'm the maid of honour and will be with her dress shopping. We already talked a lot about what she wants and it's not something I would ever wear (she wants tattoo lace and most likely sleeves). But I can imagine her looking great in it, because it fits her romantic, creative personality. I will tell her nicely but honestly if I think a dress she tries on doesn't suit her, but I would never discourage her from a dress because it's not what I would have picked.
But they bring them for their opinions!!! They usually say " and what do you think!?" Once they ask for your opinion, I don't really see as need to lie and say "oh yes it's beautiful..." If you don't like it! That could make the bride choose something thinking " well, everyone liked it so I'll get it!!"
Her mom like truly cares though, she does care so much about the bride like she truly under stand her daughter struggle. I feel like the mom is happy as long as the daughter is happy. Once she is jacked up it does being the vision to life and her mom is on board right away. The bride is so lucky to have a very supportive mom and a supportive fiance who went through her journey with her.
idk whats with the comments about the mother being horrible, she had good intentions, she was just scared that the daughter would only be picking dresses to show "look, im not fat anymore" instead of "this is my dress because i feel the most beautiful or bride - like." yes her comments were a little out of place but i can understand her, i think it was coming from a place of concern.
While her heart may be in the right place her attitude wasn’t okay the bride has every right to show off a body she is proud of but constantly reminding someone that they had an ED and telling them not to focus on weight can be very harmful while the moms intentions were good she was more focused on her daughters past issues than her daughters happiness
An eating disorder is a life long battle, and a mom who truly cares about her daughter is never gonna stop worrying. I think she has every right to feel the way she feels and doesn’t deserve the hate. I think she just wanted to make it clear that weight doesn’t matter to her no matter what.
There is a terror having a child with an eating disorder, it can leave a panic that is hard to ignore and it easily slips into being overly controlling. It carries a guilt and that is also a source of needing to have everything under control around your child, no matter how old your child is. It really can be completely enveloping.
My mother seemed to have experienced that. She cared and meant well but she found it hard to understand how micromanaging everything was counterproductive to my recovery. I remember she would make comments on my portion size, concerned I would gain weight by having too much fruit sorbet and that I would slip back in to disordered habits as a result of weight gain. It took her a while to comprehend how her comments were more detrimental to my mental health than any amount of weight gain itself. She was perpetuating my problems in a desperate and misguided attempt to prevent them. I hope parents with kids with eating disorders take care in how they approach these topics.
Well this mother I think Is just concerned her daughter wouldn’t choose a dress she loves and just a dress that made her look skinny so she just needed the daughters assurance that she did love the dress she had on
The mom has had dealt with so much going through this issue/illness with her daughter, she's exhausted with reacting how she thinks she should and looking out for her. She's so schooled being on guard that she doesn't see that she is not supporting current happiness. Of course she does in the end, but meanwhile her reactions hurt.
It's important to remember that the bride didn't just have body hang ups. She has an eating disorder. Yes she has done really well to fight it and is healthier now but stressful life events, such as a wedding, can trigger old unhealthy habits or develop new ones. I.e. she may have over ate before and then she starts starving herself to look the best she can in her dress. My auntie was anorexic and she lost her fight to it and I have seen the devastation that her passing has caused but it wasn't just a sudden thing. It was a constant battle over years and years. We do not know what this family has been through, we do not know if advice has been sought/given on how to handle the situation. I don't think the mom had bad intentions, I think she genuinely cares about her daughter. She also has two other daughters that she will want to protect. Eating disorders ruin lives, unless you have been in this situation yourself you cannot say how you would act
There was no need for the mother to bring back her daughter's weight past! She made her cry just when she was wearing the dress she liked! How good that the bride finally chose it.
This mom wanted her daughter to actually love the dress, and not just to pick one that made her look small. I think her heart was absolutely in the right place.
Before you hate on the mom just remember, you don't know what they went through together in the past. You don't know all the times mom stayed up worrying at night over the years or all the talks they had. The mom appears to have bottled up all her own worries about her daughter, and now that everything is ok, it's probably just emotional habit for her to say things her daughter needed to hear during recovery.
Being someone that has struggled with the same situations, I recognize the side looks that feel almost compulsive to do. I'm so happy she has overcome so much and proud of herself :)
I was 230 lbs & am slowly progressing to get back to 160 lbs, & this bride has just inspired me to step it up a bit! This mother can’t seem to get out of the past. My mom supports me trying to lose weight & get out of my comfort zone, so why is it so hard for this mom to do the same?!
She wants her daughter to know that she is loved and supported no matter her weight. She is being supportive and wants her daughter to know she's beautiful no matter what.
Mom is special and so is daughter. Where are all these hateful commenters coming from? Mom was neither rude nor abusive, just expressed her motherly concern a little bit. And this ignited such destructive criticism? She just wanted to make sure her daughter loves herself at least the way she loved her. I feel happy for the bride that showed patience and respect for her mom and picked not just a right dress but a right man as well who loved her the way she was. Good for her. How many men dump their wives because of the weight gain due to pregnancy and breastfeeding?
@@barbarayoung203 no YOU don’t under the issue. the mother just wanted to make sure that her daughter knew how beautiful she was than and now. her mother was never rude or acted in a disgusted manner she just wanted to best of the best for her daughter.
@@pluto5486 she didnt need to constantly bring up her past issues, or assume that that was the reason behind her picking certain dresses. and even if her daughter did want to show off her body, she can because shes proud of how far she come and how she was able to move on from her disorder
@@abiolaolayemi6196 Yeah but youre not putting yourself into the moms shoes. What I see is that the mother has been there through it all with her daughters ED and the kids are too young to understand. I noticed how concerned the mother was and I agree that it was a bit too much. But, it came from a place of concern and not of malice like you claim she did. Honestly I was expecting the mother to be way worse but her wording is blunt and I see how she sometimes tries to place tact but its not her strong suit. Youre acting like the mother is going to force the daughter back into the ED that she had when clearly, the daughter has a healthy mindset and is just trying to say to her mum that she is past her ED and that she is doing it for herself and not to be or look thinner.
I get it. Lately I had been less on appetite for my depression and anxieties but my mother is right on my neck to make me eat something or the other. Moms do be amazing
This is what I understood her to say: The daughter has been laser focused on losing weight. That kind of focus was necessary for successfully losing 75 pounds. When you choose your wedding dress, however, there is a larger purpose at hand. Don't use the "weight loss focus" to choose a dress for the "biggest day of your life." Use the "biggest day of your life focus" to choose a dress for the "biggest day of your life."
A lot of people with ED aren’t losing weight in a healthy way. I feel her mother was concerned that her daughter would lapse back into dangerous weight loss methods. I especially thought this when the daughter mentioned she was finally losing weight in a healthy way
First bride ready to embrace her new body shape... and looked amazing... Mum maybe just a bit afraid of her daughter,s new found confidence... it,s been a journey.. Second bride also gorgeous!!! Love her hair!! Those twisty bits were amazing!!! Wishing them both long and happy marriages!!!!💖💖
The first bride is so beautiful and that dress is stunning!! I myself and am very overweight and have binge eating disorder. So to see someone else have the same issue is encouraging that it can be defeated. Accompany anxiety, depression, and PTSD, those four things can kick you in the face and it's only by the grace of God that I'm still going. I started EMDR therapy about a month ago and can feel like there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Let this bride be an inspiration to others that eating does NOT have to consume and control your life! I'm so happy for her that she was able to meet a man to love her at her heaviest and still love her smaller self. I can only dream of the day when I find my prince 🤴
i swear to god lori has the BEST veils. every time they knock it out of the park with the veil! and that dress really was perfect for lindsay, she said she liked lace, there's TONS of lace but it's not obnoxious, the color palette compliments her just perfectly and it's fitted without being TOO figure-hugging. she can see her waist and how much smaller she is without that being the SOLE focus of the dress which is what mom was worried about.
I see a lot of my mum in her mum. I lost a lot of weight too and this mum and my mum have good intentions, just the wrong execution. It's hard for the person to lose weight to adjust, but also all those around that person to adjust to new thinking patterns, image, and behaviours. I hope they're able to work through it together and continuously learn just like my mum and I 😄
Mom may be thinking she has good intentions, but sadly, she not seeing the "today's" woman. This young woman is living in today's world, in today's body shape. Show off what you have every right to be proud of.
@@tinyy_songs I assume she's saying that the bride is living in the moment and enjoying her current body shape while mom is hung up on the events of the past.
My two oldest daughter's are married. Neither one of them asked me to come with to pick out their dress. I have never even hinted in word or action let them see how much they broke my heart. I know from top of my head to the tips of my toes I would've thought they were beautiful in every dress they put on. I would also know when they found the one and be crying with them. Seeing these Mom's act like they do makes me want to reach into the screen and yank a knot in to them.
I had one daughter and she said, from a very young age, that I was going to make her wedding dress. When that time came, I did, along with her bridesmaids' dresses. That was one of the happiest times and neither she nor I would have been ugly to each other. I do not understand any mother who would ridicule her daughter over a wedding dress. That poor girl. I hope she got the dress of her dreams.
The mother wanted to make sure her daughter's pick was out of the right motive. The moment she realized her daughter loved the dress not a smaller looking body in a dress she was more than happy. She kept repeating how beautiful her daughter was before and after she lost weight. And the bride was so happy to see her mom happy that it made me happy for both of them and for the rest of the family. They cared more for each other than for the dress. Parents are called to parent their children - to help them make right choices in life not just merely make them feel good.
My mom is like this with my 6 severe mental illnesses. I’ve fought past so much and I’m in a better place now, but she doesn’t trust my decisions and judgements in regard to my illnesses completely. She doesn’t want me to go back to college this semester but I want to, for example. I know it’s out of love, but I know my mental state more than anyone else does
I always wish that when someone says ,”it’s not her,” then the consultant could gently draw that person out so there’s a helpful notion of what that means to the speaker.
Deciding to get married, choosing your dress etc are emotion charged moments. Everyone's feelings here are valid. In a way I think it's good that her mum acted like this, it forced the bride to honour her truth, and make sure she was making the right decision for the new version of herself They're lucky they have each other happy wedding day x
Both brides are gorgeous in their dresses. The first bride , when she put the decided upon dress on, was so beautiful. That dress is a classic, with the satin ribbon waist and all the lace. And the veil was perfect, with the edging. Remarkable.
Who agrees it’s the MOTHER with the issues of letting go of the past ?? She’s the one with the problem. Not the bride 👰🏻♀️ But in the end the brides happiness is what wins all!
The Mother is wrong to be making those remarks, she's making it about her. If the daughter wants a dress that shows off her body then let her celebrate!!
She looks beautiful. Sometimes, a mom has a harder time letting go of the past than the daughter. Years ago, I had surgery to remove a brain tumor and I have a scar on the top of my head where the hair hasn’t grown in. It’s just a strip and doesn’t bother me at all, but she doesn’t like it when I do my hair in a way that the scar shows. I see it as a battle scar to be proud of, but I think it reminds her of when we were all scared and shocked at my diagnosis.
As someone that still struggles with weight issues I can say that my mom makes it so much worse and so hard. She thinks she is doing the right thing but it's not. This mom reminds me of my mom in that sense...
I come from Sweden, and I can’t recall that any of my married friends was so hung up on the mother to accept the dress. My mother had no idea what my wedding dress looked like until my wedding day 😅 is it just over represented in this show, or is it more common in the US and UK to want the mother’s approval?
I think it depends on the family because I just want to make sure that my daughter is happy because at the end of the day it's her life to live not mine
It's kind of a misrepresentation to be honest, it just depends on the family. I wouldn't be crushed if my mom hated the dress I liked, she and I have different tastes. I'd bring her along, but she wouldn't be the deciding factor.
It can be a wonderful mother and daughter experience and bonding moment..but once it becomes this struggle, it's now a bad thing. Having my mom ( and only my mom ) there for me was really great
She looks beautiful in her choice! I liked that mom said she was beautiful before and after they weight loss. She has always been beautiful in mom's eyes.
Not necessarily she did say something about the waist first but she also talks about the layering and fabrics of the first one while the mom just says the most open ended line of it's not her and talks about her past. Like the mom just wouldn't what "wasn't her" about the dress. It made it seem like the mom wanted her to pick a dress that made her look unflattering or something.
I watch this program to live vicariosly through others. My daughter got married at the magistrates and told me 3 months later after going g on a wild goose chase for a venue...blessi gs to all the brides to be and their families
The mom isn’t handling it the best way, but you can tell she’s just frustrated and wants the daughter to love herself in the unconditional way SHE loves her. It’s hard to watch because I’ve been in the position of the daughter. much love to this family
Nathen is adorable. He looks at his bride with such Love. The bride is very pretty, and they seem to know each other very well, like they are best friends, which is perfect. Bride #1 is beautiful, too, and beams about her husband-to-be. She looked amazing in her dress choice with her hair up. I'm sure the mom adjusted to the choice because her daughter Loved it so much. May both weddings and marriages be beyond each family's best expectations.
The daughter was unhealthy when she weighed that much. She's at a healthy weight now.. why does that make her mom upset? I don't understand.. Edit to add, her being at a healthier weight and the fact that she said her eating disorder is better is what I'm meaning. Not simply that she got to her lower weight. Sorry for the miscommunication because now people seem to think I'm supporting unhealthy ways to lose weight when that's not the case at all. I'll be more specific next time I comment. I just think these are things her family should be proud of and if she's wanting to show off her figure because that's the physical evidence of her healing, I don't see a problem with that. That's what I mean.
you're right, you don't understand. you don't understand that "iT's UnHeAlThY!" is not the be-all end-all of weight management OR self-esteem. she was unhealthy when she had AN EATING DISORDER. that is what the mom is worried about coming back when she obsesses over being smaller now. you'd have people sticking their fingers down their throats all the time because "AT LEAST YOU'RE NOT FAT THIS WAY."
@@dietotaku Well you just made alot of assumptions there. I actually am also very passionate about mental health as well and I never said that her eating disorder wasn't important. But the fact that she's now at a healthier weight and says she has overcome her eating disorder are good things. Things that she's proud of and now that she's at a healthy weight, she wants to show it off. I never said that binging is better than being overweight. That's disgusting for you to have assumed.
@@celli3000 I think that the problem is you focusing on her weight when what we're trying for here was her mental state. It's not good because she's at a "healthier weight", its good because she's stopped focusing on trying to lose the weight in an unhealthy way and recognized that she needed help with her mental state.
@@mikayladouglas2503 next time I'll be more specific in my comment then. Because I do think both are important. I only mentioned her weight because her eating disorder was the kind to cause you to gain weight, so her being able to lose that and as she said herself, recover and get to a healthy weight means the weight she's at is healthier in more ways than one. Her losing that weight shows her recovery. Not only that but shes been verbalizing that she recovered and likes to show off how small she is now because she worked hard to get where she is. I didn't think I had to get that specific in my wording. My bad.
I can see how the mom feels it's scary when you have someone you love with an eating disorder. We almost lost my older cousin to an eating disorder. I also struggled with an eating disorder for awhile. My cousin ended up in the hospital because of it. Sadly in my cousins case it was her mother's fault. She was in gymnastics so she had muscle and muscle weights more then fat so pound wise is all my aunt saw she toldher to lose weight. Thankfully my cousin is happy and healthy now. Her and her mother are on good terms now.
I don’t think the mother was being nasty or hung up on anything I think she just wasn’t over keen on the dress she adored her daughter but not the dress.
Eating disorders are no joke and any remission can lead to some very permanent and scary health concerns. That mom is totally within her rights to be careful about her daughter’s psychological state at all times. I hope she continues to live and stay close to her mom after she gets married too, because she’s going to need that. Good to see Lori and Robin be more guarded about what they say too. These ladies know!
It’s very easy for those with ED to slide back (I’ve seen it with people I know). We don’t know what the family went through during the struggle and shouldn’t really judge the mom’s fears.
Her mom was wrong but I don’t think she deserves the hate she’s getting. She didn’t want her daughters only focus to be on her weight since it can be easy to become obsessed with weight again when recovering from an ED. Her daughter was proud of having overcome such a time and wanted to show it, her mom just didn’t know how to handle it and was too worried to see it was that and not her slipping back into those times.
I agree, the mom is wrong, but she shouldn’t get the hate for.
Yeah ! She just wanted her daughter to focus on something else than showing off her weight. The bride was proud of herself i’m sure the mom was too I think her mom is just worried about a relapse or some unhealthy behaviours
I'm sure mom is worried the dress that makes her look smaller will trigger her daughter's ED. We don't have a clue what all mom went through while worried to death about her daughter. She's just scared and doesn't want anything to happen that could send her child back in a tail spin.
If you're not a mother with a child who has this, then you don't have a clue!
Tbh all the comments I’m seeing are sympathetic towards the mum, I don’t see any hate towards her
I agree. I once starved myself for a smaller size of a bridesmaid dress. I was so proud of my skinny self, but now when I see pictures, even though I was 30 years younger, I look pale and exhausted. Being fit and healthy is more important to me now than just a number on a tag.
The poor mum she has obviously taken on a lot of the pain from her daughter's eating disorders. I can't imagine how much she worried for her daughter. Glad they did this together.
You can see in her face how worried she's been for her daughter.
I understand--due to similar issues of a family member--the mom doesn't want the daughter to continue to place a placebo on her recovery. So many comments have stated the daughter has moved on and not the mom. We don't know that. Mom is there; we are not. There are plenty of people with eating disorders who have "the highs" where they temporarily feel good about themselves. Mom wants her to be okay ALL the time and make healthy decisions for herself. She may not be communicating it well, but it is VERY clear that is her wish for her daughter.
I don’t think so. I think her worries we’re in the wrong place, not helping at all and maybe she was one of the reason causing it in the past
It sounds like mom has been so used to trying to convince her daughter is beautiful her whole life and just wants her daughter to be happy and now worrying about her body. She wants her to know she’s beautiful no matter what and wants her to find something that she loves, not just something that makes her look skinny. Mamas never stop being mamas
No I think the mother is putting her fears unto her daughter it seems the mother is using an eating disorder to get what she wants
All I see is a mother who loves her daughter. Is she handling it the best way? No of course not but I truly believe her fear for her daughter is out of love. So proud of this bride
Yes
Trauma/struggle that a family member has impacts the whole family in different ways, and this case proved that
The mother had a harder time dealing with the smaller sized daughter. The daughter was so proud of her weightloss. The 2 little sisters were so sweet
First bride looks beautiful
Two little sisters were the best 🙂
This is what I understood her mom to say: The daughter has been laser focused on losing weight. That kind of focus was necessary for successfully losing 75 pounds. When you choose your wedding dress, however, there is a different purpose at hand. Don't use the "weight loss focus" to choose a dress for the "biggest day of your life." Use the "biggest day of your life focus" to choose a dress for the "biggest day of your life."
I disagree, she was concerned that her daughter was only focusing on how slim she looked
Yeah, she has to dress the body she has now. Of course the style and fit will change. She has a different body.
I kind of understand the mother's concern... I had an eating disorder and still struggle because I tend to pick out clothes that make me look smaller. My mom keeps me accountable
I hope you get though the tough times! I’m sorry life has been tough for you! Good luck on everything 💛🤗
@@Drama4Dolls wanted you to know your comment made me happy. Thanks for being such a kind person to a stranger,.
What's wrong with buying clothes that make a lady look smaller? That's what most women do. My mean mother used to say that I had to buy my clothes at the tent and awning place. She hated me especially for my weight.
Whats the problem with clothes that make you look smaller ?
@@margarettickle9659 i know right? Every woman does it thin or thick
Her mum is just trying to say that she looks beautiful with or without the weight. She isn't saying that she shouldn't try a dress just to show that she is slim now
Yes, but in the process, she poops on the bride's appointment. Just look at her and how she looks on the dresses and don't make suppositions. It is stupid to project your feelings on someone else.
Mom is a hater.
The mom is assuming the bride is being self conscious to begin with thinking she’ll only choose a dress based on how skinny she’ll look (even though the whole point of clothing is to show off your body) rather than the bride wanting to show off her new body which in turn will make the bride self conscious. If the mom can’t see past the ED the bride won’t be able to either her hearts in the right place but needs a better execution
@@jamievandenbussche8406 the whole point of the clothing is to show off your body? No this is absolutely so wrong.It Is a different thing, some people do wanna show off their body yes. But this isn't the case for everyone. Its about many things, style, personality or how comfortable you wanna be....
@@25nikolet it could’ve been worded better yes the general sentiment is that clothes are designed to compliment your body and yes that includes things like style and self expression and sometimes your mood I.e. wanting to be comfortable or cute or sexy. And if she wants a dress that shows off the weight she lost what’s wrong with that? Do ppl not realize that telling someone “you looked beautiful before” isn’t helpful you can say you look beautiful no matter your size or you were beautiful then too but now you’re beautiful and happy with things like that dwelling on just the past isn’t good
I love kids. She was like, “Well if you aren’t just a downer today.”😂😂😂 That dress was beautiful and romantic 10/10
Exactly her sisters are the greatest.
Once I saw the second dress I knew for a *FACT* that it was *THE* dress for her.
Congratulations to her, and I wish her a happy life.
She looked good in it but it definitely showed how old these episodes are, the lace and belt are dated.
@@sarasamaletdin4574 gladly wear that dress today.
Moms carry a lot of pain for what their kids go through too. She just wanted her daughter to know she was beautiful no matter what. Glad they went with that pretty dress in the end.
She sure went about it the wrong way
The younger sister, "Oh, you're just the downer today!" 🔥🤣
Savage!!
Mom remembered all those emotions when her daughter was fighting her ED. Shes worried that smaller look will trigger her daughter's ED again.
Yes, but that girl looked Stunning in the dress she picked.
I'll bet the younger sister isn't aware of the seriousness of an eating disorder and what their Mother went through worrying if her beloved daughter would survive at times. Eating disorders do impact the family who have to put their fears aside and be there to support, often the fear impacts much later.
Why can't brides entourages just say "You look beautiful, what do YOU like about the dress?" "It's YOUR day, you need to love the dress not us."
If somebody says “you have to like it” then that sounds like “I don’t like it, but if you want it, I can’t help it”
i've said it before, people need to learn the compliment sandwich. it's fine to say so when a bride doesn't look good in a dress, lord knows there's no shortage of tacky ill-fitting wedding dresses, but you have to do it in a way that doesn't make the bride feel personally attacked. say something you like about it, then express your concerns, then pull it back with the silver lining. that way the bride hears where it falls short but has plenty to lean on if the positives outweigh the negatives for her.
Exactly. My best got engaged recently and I'm the maid of honour and will be with her dress shopping. We already talked a lot about what she wants and it's not something I would ever wear (she wants tattoo lace and most likely sleeves). But I can imagine her looking great in it, because it fits her romantic, creative personality. I will tell her nicely but honestly if I think a dress she tries on doesn't suit her, but I would never discourage her from a dress because it's not what I would have picked.
They do happen, they just don't make for good tv.
But they bring them for their opinions!!! They usually say " and what do you think!?" Once they ask for your opinion, I don't really see as need to lie and say "oh yes it's beautiful..." If you don't like it! That could make the bride choose something thinking " well, everyone liked it so I'll get it!!"
Her mom like truly cares though, she does care so much about the bride like she truly under stand her daughter struggle. I feel like the mom is happy as long as the daughter is happy. Once she is jacked up it does being the vision to life and her mom is on board right away. The bride is so lucky to have a very supportive mom and a supportive fiance who went through her journey with her.
@Kim Smith my mother is screwed then 😂
idk whats with the comments about the mother being horrible, she had good intentions, she was just scared that the daughter would only be picking dresses to show "look, im not fat anymore" instead of "this is my dress because i feel the most beautiful or bride - like." yes her comments were a little out of place but i can understand her, i think it was coming from a place of concern.
While her heart may be in the right place her attitude wasn’t okay the bride has every right to show off a body she is proud of but constantly reminding someone that they had an ED and telling them not to focus on weight can be very harmful while the moms intentions were good she was more focused on her daughters past issues than her daughters happiness
Yes
An eating disorder is a life long battle, and a mom who truly cares about her daughter is never gonna stop worrying. I think she has every right to feel the way she feels and doesn’t deserve the hate. I think she just wanted to make it clear that weight doesn’t matter to her no matter what.
There is a terror having a child with an eating disorder, it can leave a panic that is hard to ignore and it easily slips into being overly controlling.
It carries a guilt and that is also a source of needing to have everything under control around your child, no matter how old your child is.
It really can be completely enveloping.
My mother seemed to have experienced that. She cared and meant well but she found it hard to understand how micromanaging everything was counterproductive to my recovery. I remember she would make comments on my portion size, concerned I would gain weight by having too much fruit sorbet and that I would slip back in to disordered habits as a result of weight gain. It took her a while to comprehend how her comments were more detrimental to my mental health than any amount of weight gain itself. She was perpetuating my problems in a desperate and misguided attempt to prevent them. I hope parents with kids with eating disorders take care in how they approach these topics.
Yeah since parents always think that it’s somehow their fault for their child having and Ed even if it is or not.
Well this mother I think Is just concerned her daughter wouldn’t choose a dress she loves and just a dress that made her look skinny so she just needed the daughters assurance that she did love the dress she had on
@@imaloose thank you, most welcome.
As an anorexia survivor, let me say that being overly controlling is what gives rise to such an eating disorder.
The mom has had dealt with so much going through this issue/illness with her daughter, she's exhausted with reacting how she thinks she should and looking out for her. She's so schooled being on guard that she doesn't see that she is not supporting current happiness. Of course she does in the end, but meanwhile her reactions hurt.
It's important to remember that the bride didn't just have body hang ups. She has an eating disorder. Yes she has done really well to fight it and is healthier now but stressful life events, such as a wedding, can trigger old unhealthy habits or develop new ones. I.e. she may have over ate before and then she starts starving herself to look the best she can in her dress.
My auntie was anorexic and she lost her fight to it and I have seen the devastation that her passing has caused but it wasn't just a sudden thing. It was a constant battle over years and years.
We do not know what this family has been through, we do not know if advice has been sought/given on how to handle the situation. I don't think the mom had bad intentions, I think she genuinely cares about her daughter. She also has two other daughters that she will want to protect. Eating disorders ruin lives, unless you have been in this situation yourself you cannot say how you would act
Lindsay, the dress you chose is stunning on you! Congrats on the weight loss, the marriage, and here’s to many many more happy and healthy years.
I love that mom. I’m glad she was willing to be outspoken for her daughter’s mental health.
Too bad she can't listen
“You’re just the downer today” yaassss gurl! Thank you! I love how the sisters were so supportive!
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There was no need for the mother to bring back her daughter's weight past! She made her cry just when she was wearing the dress she liked! How good that the bride finally chose it.
I know she is a horrible mother for doing that
Love their "love story" ❤ and the dress she chose! So glad Robin & Lori understood their client (as always) ❤
That is one of the most flattering veil I’ve seen matched with a dress. And, Lindsay looks spectacular!
This mom wanted her daughter to actually love the dress, and not just to pick one that made her look small. I think her heart was absolutely in the right place.
Before you hate on the mom just remember, you don't know what they went through together in the past. You don't know all the times mom stayed up worrying at night over the years or all the talks they had. The mom appears to have bottled up all her own worries about her daughter, and now that everything is ok, it's probably just emotional habit for her to say things her daughter needed to hear during recovery.
im still gonna hate on her
@@abiolaolayemi6196 its your choice. You can be a immature child if you choose too.
Being someone that has struggled with the same situations, I recognize the side looks that feel almost compulsive to do. I'm so happy she has overcome so much and proud of herself :)
I was 230 lbs & am slowly progressing to get back to 160 lbs, & this bride has just inspired me to step it up a bit! This mother can’t seem to get out of the past. My mom supports me trying to lose weight & get out of my comfort zone, so why is it so hard for this mom to do the same?!
She wants her daughter to know that she is loved and supported no matter her weight. She is being supportive and wants her daughter to know she's beautiful no matter what.
That dress was beautiful --- and so was the veil.
5:19 Can we just appreciate how sweet Lori is! She was so invested in this and did her best to make sure the mom liked the bride’s dream dress.
Mom is special and so is daughter. Where are all these hateful commenters coming from? Mom was neither rude nor abusive, just expressed her motherly concern a little bit. And this ignited such destructive criticism? She just wanted to make sure her daughter loves herself at least the way she loved her. I feel happy for the bride that showed patience and respect for her mom and picked not just a right dress but a right man as well who loved her the way she was. Good for her. How many men dump their wives because of the weight gain due to pregnancy and breastfeeding?
You just do not understand the issue at all.
@@barbarayoung203 no YOU don’t under the issue. the mother just wanted to make sure that her daughter knew how beautiful she was than and now. her mother was never rude or acted in a disgusted manner she just wanted to best of the best for her daughter.
@@pluto5486 she didnt need to constantly bring up her past issues, or assume that that was the reason behind her picking certain dresses. and even if her daughter did want to show off her body, she can because shes proud of how far she come and how she was able to move on from her disorder
@@abiolaolayemi6196 Yeah but youre not putting yourself into the moms shoes. What I see is that the mother has been there through it all with her daughters ED and the kids are too young to understand. I noticed how concerned the mother was and I agree that it was a bit too much. But, it came from a place of concern and not of malice like you claim she did. Honestly I was expecting the mother to be way worse but her wording is blunt and I see how she sometimes tries to place tact but its not her strong suit. Youre acting like the mother is going to force the daughter back into the ED that she had when clearly, the daughter has a healthy mindset and is just trying to say to her mum that she is past her ED and that she is doing it for herself and not to be or look thinner.
I get it. Lately I had been less on appetite for my depression and anxieties but my mother is right on my neck to make me eat something or the other.
Moms do be amazing
Her mom can't move on from her daughter's body issue?!? Is it normal? I just don't get it...
It seems like the mom is having trouble accepting her daughter’s weight loss.
I understand where her mom was coming from. She seemed to have a hard time articulating her concerns.
This is what I understood her to say: The daughter has been laser focused on losing weight. That kind of focus was necessary for successfully losing 75 pounds. When you choose your wedding dress, however, there is a larger purpose at hand. Don't use the "weight loss focus" to choose a dress for the "biggest day of your life." Use the "biggest day of your life focus" to choose a dress for the "biggest day of your life."
A lot of people with ED aren’t losing weight in a healthy way. I feel her mother was concerned that her daughter would lapse back into dangerous weight loss methods. I especially thought this when the daughter mentioned she was finally losing weight in a healthy way
I took she was more concerned about her eating disorder being triggered, but she was expressing it badly.
Or she’s concerned that her daughter wouldn’t pick a dress she would actually love
First bride ready to embrace her new body shape... and looked amazing... Mum maybe just a bit afraid of her daughter,s new found confidence... it,s been a journey..
Second bride also gorgeous!!! Love her hair!! Those twisty bits were amazing!!! Wishing them both long and happy marriages!!!!💖💖
The mom loves her daughter that's clear to see, the bride looked gorgeous ❤️
The mother is the person with an issue. The bride is the one who is beautiful and a new person.
The first bride is so beautiful and that dress is stunning!! I myself and am very overweight and have binge eating disorder. So to see someone else have the same issue is encouraging that it can be defeated. Accompany anxiety, depression, and PTSD, those four things can kick you in the face and it's only by the grace of God that I'm still going. I started EMDR therapy about a month ago and can feel like there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Let this bride be an inspiration to others that eating does NOT have to consume and control your life! I'm so happy for her that she was able to meet a man to love her at her heaviest and still love her smaller self. I can only dream of the day when I find my prince 🤴
i swear to god lori has the BEST veils. every time they knock it out of the park with the veil! and that dress really was perfect for lindsay, she said she liked lace, there's TONS of lace but it's not obnoxious, the color palette compliments her just perfectly and it's fitted without being TOO figure-hugging. she can see her waist and how much smaller she is without that being the SOLE focus of the dress which is what mom was worried about.
I see a lot of my mum in her mum. I lost a lot of weight too and this mum and my mum have good intentions, just the wrong execution. It's hard for the person to lose weight to adjust, but also all those around that person to adjust to new thinking patterns, image, and behaviours. I hope they're able to work through it together and continuously learn just like my mum and I 😄
Mom may be thinking she has good intentions, but sadly, she not seeing the "today's" woman. This young woman is living in today's world, in today's body shape. Show off what you have every right to be proud of.
Impact matters more than intentions
what do you mean "today's body shape" that's rude
@@tinyy_songs I assume she's saying that the bride is living in the moment and enjoying her current body shape while mom is hung up on the events of the past.
My two oldest daughter's are married. Neither one of them asked me to come with to pick out their dress. I have never even hinted in word or action let them see how much they broke my heart. I know from top of my head to the tips of my toes I would've thought they were beautiful in every dress they put on. I would also know when they found the one and be crying with them. Seeing these Mom's act like they do makes me want to reach into the screen and yank a knot in to them.
I’m sorry 🤗🤗🤗
@@KJ-ut4rw Thank you. 💞
Sorry to hear your story mama. But your daughters may regret their actions one day, not in a mean way, but just because it never occurred to them.
I had one daughter and she said, from a very young age, that I was going to make her wedding dress. When that time came, I did, along with her bridesmaids' dresses. That was one of the happiest times and neither she nor I would have been ugly to each other. I do not understand any mother who would ridicule her daughter over a wedding dress. That poor girl. I hope she got the dress of her dreams.
That totally sucks, blessings to you 🙏
This mom needs to get ahold of herself! If she wants a dress that makes her look slim- more power to her!
The mother should only be concerned about her daughter's happiness and accept her choices!
yea!
The mother wanted to make sure her daughter's pick was out of the right motive. The moment she realized her daughter loved the dress not a smaller looking body in a dress she was more than happy. She kept repeating how beautiful her daughter was before and after she lost weight. And the bride was so happy to see her mom happy that it made me happy for both of them and for the rest of the family. They cared more for each other than for the dress. Parents are called to parent their children - to help them make right choices in life not just merely make them feel good.
@@smilejoy7904 Yeah..but in the meantime she stressed her out for nothing.. it was all about pleasing the mother not the bride to be!
@@user-us6ce7me8k The motherhood isn't very appreciated in your culture, isn't it? Huge respect to this young lady who is respectful of her mother.
@@smilejoy7904 🤨
I’m glad mom was able to heal and move on with her daughter.💕
My mom is like this with my 6 severe mental illnesses. I’ve fought past so much and I’m in a better place now, but she doesn’t trust my decisions and judgements in regard to my illnesses completely. She doesn’t want me to go back to college this semester but I want to, for example. I know it’s out of love, but I know my mental state more than anyone else does
You go! I hear the truth in your writing. Best wishes and go live your life ❤️
Whew! I’m sure glad she got that gorgeous lace dress! It was perfect and she looked absolutely gorgeous in it!
That veil is gorgeous and is perfect for that dress She looks beautiful. Glad the mom finally saw it ❤
I always wish that when someone says ,”it’s not her,” then the consultant could gently draw that person out so there’s a helpful notion of what that means to the speaker.
I can't stand it when people say, "I don't think it's you," like I didn't pick it out for myself!
The 2nd bride needs to go to the shop/designer who does the " My big fat gypsy wedding" dress.
Deciding to get married, choosing your dress etc are emotion charged moments. Everyone's feelings here are valid. In a way I think it's good that her mum acted like this, it forced the bride to honour her truth, and make sure she was making the right decision for the new version of herself
They're lucky they have each other happy wedding day x
Her Mom is afraid her daughter will slip back down the eating disorder rabbit hole.
Im currently struggling with an eating disorder and itsnot going good but seeing this gives me hope
The dress she chose is just stunning. BEAUTIFUL💗💗💗💗💗
She feels better about herself her mom needs to be supportive instead of putting her down
The fit n flare dresses rewarded her for all the hard work of losing weight.
Both brides are gorgeous in their dresses. The first bride , when she put the decided upon dress on, was so beautiful. That dress is a classic, with the satin ribbon waist and all the lace. And the veil was perfect, with the edging. Remarkable.
Who agrees it’s the MOTHER with the issues of letting go of the past ??
She’s the one with the problem. Not the bride 👰🏻♀️
But in the end the brides happiness is what wins all!
Thats what am saying the mom keeps going back into the pass about her weight .
Let her be happy and enjoy her new shape and fresh start ...
The dress that the first bride chose is one of the best dresses I've seen on this show. She looked amazing.
Weight loss is a major accomplishment! She should embrace that
First dress was stunning and the veil was perfect
The mom should just love her for who she is
Omg that's a beautiful dress. She's a beautiful girl. I actually got goosebumps when they "jacked her up" that veil is gorgeous
Having a mom like that would drive me to eat. The lace dress was the best.
that lace dress was doing all the right things for she looked sooo stunning
The Mother is wrong to be making those remarks, she's making it about her. If the daughter wants a dress that shows off her body then let her celebrate!!
The mom never commented on how beautiful she looks in the dresses. She looks beautiful and healthy.
Yes she did, she just wanted the girl to love the dress not just buy a tight one. Everyone loved the dress and it was lovely.
@3:31 when the music plays and Lindsay comes out, I literally started tearing up. She's so pretty in that dress.
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Love how robyn understands how sensitive she needs to be to body issues.
That must be one of the prettiest lace dresses I've seen on this show
The second bride was the epitome of southern. As a fellow southerner I love it!
The lace dress was beautiful and timeless.
7:10 Second mom basically saying "she ain't no virgin" without saying it 😂
She looks beautiful. Sometimes, a mom has a harder time letting go of the past than the daughter. Years ago, I had surgery to remove a brain tumor and I have a scar on the top of my head where the hair hasn’t grown in. It’s just a strip and doesn’t bother me at all, but she doesn’t like it when I do my hair in a way that the scar shows. I see it as a battle scar to be proud of, but I think it reminds her of when we were all scared and shocked at my diagnosis.
The mom is stuck in the past,she lost the weight and wants to show off how beautiful she looks. That dress is gorgeous on her
As someone that still struggles with weight issues I can say that my mom makes it so much worse and so hard. She thinks she is doing the right thing but it's not. This mom reminds me of my mom in that sense...
I come from Sweden, and I can’t recall that any of my married friends was so hung up on the mother to accept the dress. My mother had no idea what my wedding dress looked like until my wedding day 😅 is it just over represented in this show, or is it more common in the US and UK to want the mother’s approval?
I think it depends on the family because I just want to make sure that my daughter is happy because at the end of the day it's her life to live not mine
It's kind of a misrepresentation to be honest, it just depends on the family. I wouldn't be crushed if my mom hated the dress I liked, she and I have different tastes. I'd bring her along, but she wouldn't be the deciding factor.
I don't understand it either. I really hope they just play it up for the show
It can be a wonderful mother and daughter experience and bonding moment..but once it becomes this struggle, it's now a bad thing. Having my mom ( and only my mom ) there for me was really great
Lindsay is beautiful Mother’s must support the beauty in their daughters💐
she looks beautiful in that dress and that's amazing she worked hard to lose that weight
I’m so so sorry for what the bride goes trough Wao just caos
She looks beautiful in her choice! I liked that mom said she was beautiful before and after they weight loss. She has always been beautiful in mom's eyes.
2:32 Momma is right, the bride was focused on how the dress made her body look, rather than focusing on the dress.
Surely that is what every bride does!!
What??? What bride doesn't focus on how they look in their wedding dress this must be your 1st time watching these uploads lol
@@MrsSlocombesPuddyCat EXACTLY
Not necessarily she did say something about the waist first but she also talks about the layering and fabrics of the first one while the mom just says the most open ended line of it's not her and talks about her past. Like the mom just wouldn't what "wasn't her" about the dress. It made it seem like the mom wanted her to pick a dress that made her look unflattering or something.
Correct me if I'm wrong but I think she does it again at 6:21
I watch this program to live vicariosly through others. My daughter got married at the magistrates and told me 3 months later after going g on a wild goose chase for a venue...blessi gs to all the brides to be and their families
The mom isn’t handling it the best way, but you can tell she’s just frustrated and wants the daughter to love herself in the unconditional way SHE loves her. It’s hard to watch because I’ve been in the position of the daughter. much love to this family
Nathen is adorable. He looks at his bride with such Love. The bride is very pretty, and they seem to know each other very well, like they are best friends, which is perfect. Bride #1 is beautiful, too, and beams about her husband-to-be. She looked amazing in her dress choice with her hair up. I'm sure the mom adjusted to the choice because her daughter Loved it so much. May both weddings and marriages be beyond each family's best expectations.
The daughter was unhealthy when she weighed that much. She's at a healthy weight now.. why does that make her mom upset? I don't understand..
Edit to add, her being at a healthier weight and the fact that she said her eating disorder is better is what I'm meaning. Not simply that she got to her lower weight. Sorry for the miscommunication because now people seem to think I'm supporting unhealthy ways to lose weight when that's not the case at all. I'll be more specific next time I comment. I just think these are things her family should be proud of and if she's wanting to show off her figure because that's the physical evidence of her healing, I don't see a problem with that. That's what I mean.
you're right, you don't understand. you don't understand that "iT's UnHeAlThY!" is not the be-all end-all of weight management OR self-esteem. she was unhealthy when she had AN EATING DISORDER. that is what the mom is worried about coming back when she obsesses over being smaller now. you'd have people sticking their fingers down their throats all the time because "AT LEAST YOU'RE NOT FAT THIS WAY."
@@dietotaku Well you just made alot of assumptions there. I actually am also very passionate about mental health as well and I never said that her eating disorder wasn't important. But the fact that she's now at a healthier weight and says she has overcome her eating disorder are good things. Things that she's proud of and now that she's at a healthy weight, she wants to show it off. I never said that binging is better than being overweight. That's disgusting for you to have assumed.
I think she was just worried her daughter became obsessed with looking slim again, as she had struggled against an eating disorder.
@@celli3000 I think that the problem is you focusing on her weight when what we're trying for here was her mental state. It's not good because she's at a "healthier weight", its good because she's stopped focusing on trying to lose the weight in an unhealthy way and recognized that she needed help with her mental state.
@@mikayladouglas2503 next time I'll be more specific in my comment then. Because I do think both are important. I only mentioned her weight because her eating disorder was the kind to cause you to gain weight, so her being able to lose that and as she said herself, recover and get to a healthy weight means the weight she's at is healthier in more ways than one. Her losing that weight shows her recovery. Not only that but shes been verbalizing that she recovered and likes to show off how small she is now because she worked hard to get where she is. I didn't think I had to get that specific in my wording. My bad.
She’s so beautiful and I’m glad it worked out.
I can see how the mom feels it's scary when you have someone you love with an eating disorder. We almost lost my older cousin to an eating disorder. I also struggled with an eating disorder for awhile. My cousin ended up in the hospital because of it. Sadly in my cousins case it was her mother's fault. She was in gymnastics so she had muscle and muscle weights more then fat so pound wise is all my aunt saw she toldher to lose weight. Thankfully my cousin is happy and healthy now. Her and her mother are on good terms now.
Why am I binge-watching these; I plan to rent mine haha. I just can't get enough of this show.
I don’t think the mother was being nasty or hung up on anything I think she just wasn’t over keen on the dress she adored her daughter but not the dress.
Those sisters were too precious
Her figure is fantastic & I'm sure it was prior but she did this to make herself healthier & that's the best way to do it.
That dress looks absolutely gorgeous on her!
That veil was PERFECT with that dress!!!!
Little sister saying to Mom, "You're just the downer today"--nice to see somebody calling out the negative nellies in the entourage!
Eating disorders are no joke and any remission can lead to some very permanent and scary health concerns. That mom is totally within her rights to be careful about her daughter’s psychological state at all times. I hope she continues to live and stay close to her mom after she gets married too, because she’s going to need that. Good to see Lori and Robin be more guarded about what they say too. These ladies know!
I’m glad the first bride stuck to her guns.💚💚
It’s very easy for those with ED to slide back (I’ve seen it with people I know). We don’t know what the family went through during the struggle and shouldn’t really judge the mom’s fears.
That mom is a enabler