If you, or someone you know, have been affected by mental health issues, help and support is available: www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/articles/1NGvFrTqWChr03LrYlw2Hkk/information-and-support-mental-health
Ain’t it crazy how a discussion talking about men’s issues have so few comments and views..but a video talking about women’s hardships got a ton of support and encouraging comments...shout-out to the brave brothers in this video... y’all G’s💚💚
We need to stop looking at this as a fight between men vs women; we all are struggling in a different way. If you feel this issue doesn't have enough light shed, then do something to encourage it!
My goodness this deserves more exposure. Having dealt with depression and anxiety, as a man I can relate to each and every word said in each of the 3 parts of this. Inspires me to keep being honest with myself and also be a sounding board for others also battling with their minds.
Aren’t they human, don’t they have feelings. Men should always seek help it’s not a sign of weakness or failure. Takes a strong man to ask for guidance, help or advice.👍
Im a man, and I still battle body image issues. It started when I was 11, and then when I was 15 I started sticking my toothbrush down my throat and stopped eating regular size meals. Eventually I passed out and had to go to the hospital. Then my hair started falling out due to malnutrition and avitaminosis. So I had to cut all my hair off because it left bald patches on my head. Thankfully my hair grew back BUT it’s texture and richness isn’t the same as it use to be. It also doesn’t grow as fast as it use to. Now at age 27 I no longer do that stuff (partially because if I miss a meal the stomach pain is unbearable). And my whole metabolism is still effected by it, and I get tired easily as a result. I can even exercise very well because my bones are still brittle from the abuse I put my body through. All I can say, if you’re doing it now...PLEASE DON’T DO IT! Please Don’t starve yourself, and please don’t make yourself throw up. It’ll just make everything your feeling worse.
I am seeing this with my fiancé these past few weeks. He is very average in his clothing size/body. He is not overweight, he is not underweight. He is healthy but not "muscular", he doesn't have a 6 pack and i noticed recently he is talking a lot about "how not muscular I am" or "why can't I get a 6 pack like this guy on Instagram" and it just breaks my heart. He is perfect to me! I love him SO much , he's a kind, caring, sweet and talented man and I just want to take his phone from him and delete Instagram for him, not everybody looks like an athlete!!!!
I don't understand, Isn't it good that he is working out and eating right to get a healthier body? It would be another story if he was starving himself, but thats unlikely. Personaly when I see a fit dude I just dismiss it the moment after and when walking down the streets and I see a hot chick I think "I should start going to the gym" But I'm not your nice husband soo. Wish u the best
@@maidaabdiasis385 It's not doing it if it's coming from a place of feeling like your not worth as much as other people because you don't look like them. A guy who tracks food all the time and works out all the time can be in just as unhealthy of a place as a guy who is overeating or starving himself. Same goes for women. This lady isn't worried about what her man looks like. She seems to like him the way he is. What she's expressing concern with is that it seems like her guy is talking down on himself.
I think a lot of men's body image issues comes from not being given a lot of attention and interest from women in their formative years, this isn't talked about but lets be honest, most women find most men unnattractive and the ideal body type for men, which is lean and muscular as well as being tall is far harder to acheive as a man.
i've had conversations like this with my friends most of the time. it feels good to be honest about how you feel. good or bad i know we will take time to hear eachother out.
I just realize that im too strict to myself like i need to workout everyday and strict diet so i change my mindset that i need at least a day to enjoy my teenage days.
This program is amazing and has taught me sp much, plus opening my mind to so many issues faced by the men on our planet! I must say that I now have the UTMOST and highest respect for EVERY man who shared here with us, thank you so very much!
who ever is thinking of making fun of this on the comments, don't! this is real and I support my brothers... women don't attack men, men don't attack men! keep it up guys... we need this
2021 was the hardest, darkest time of my life. I was physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually BROKEN. But now I feel genuinely GRATEFUL and BLESSED that I had to go through that phase because GOD has graciously REVEALED Himself to me in miraculous ways. I am fortunate that He allowed me to know Him at a very young age, but this year is SPECIAL because of what WE (yes, GOD and me) have been through last year. He showed me how POWERFUL prayers truly are when I started to focus on WHO HE IS rather than who I am, on WHAT HE CAN DO rather than what I deserve. The experience was MAGICAL. He showed up BIG TIME and assured me that HE is indeed a LISTENING and RESPONDING GOD. Oh how my faith has skyrocketed as a result! Now more than ever, I have very bright HOPE for my future because I personally experienced how RELIABLE God is. And for that I will forever be grateful. GLORY BE TO GOD, MY EVER FAITHFUL FATHER. ♥️♥️♥️ To everyone who's struggling right now, please know that GOD LOVES YOU. He wants to help you and give you peace. Please surrender your burdens to Him and allow Him to move in your life. "Because he loves Me,” says the Lord, “I will rescue him; I will protect him, for he acknowledges My Name. He will call on Me, and I will answer him; I will be with him in trouble, I will deliver him and honor him." (Psalm 91:14-15) Please hold on to this bible verse because WHATEVER GOD SAYS, HE FULFILLS. 🙏
@@aidan9656 how is that true? Maybe there should be a men's movement which addresses men's issues, just like feminism which only focuses on women/women's issues.
@@DavidW-ng5zv There are men’s movements - the problem is, these guys want to scapegoat women and feminism as the result of the problems when in fact it’s men’s notions of masculinity that convinces men that being a man means being emotionally disconnected and alone, not needing to depend on others. Men’s standards are the result of men’s issues but until men face that and do work to acknowledge and undo that, people are just running in circles. If men want spaces to address these issues, we have to create them.
I suffered a lot from body image issue. I went from bodybuilding to just running, yoga and still a bit of musculation. I even was a fitness and musculation teacher for many years. My point is : so many men suffer from body image issue. This is mostly because this stereotypical strong and muscled male body comes from Hollywood movies industries (particulary since the begining of the 21st century). My journey into this is very long and since I stopped going into gyms, fitness centers and stopped watching social medias and mainstream actions movies with stereotypical "strong" men, I feel much more free. Please people, cut off those toxic things because trying to fullfill this "ideal" physic is a myth and leads to nowhere except frustration, anxiety and suffering. And please stop looking at the next muscled guy, thinking "oh he is happier than me because he looks more muscular". That' s not true. Go beyond appearences and let it go about those toxic glorified behviors and standards. Even if the guy is not really unhappy, he is dependant of his muscles. So he depends a lot on those standards and on what society think about his body. That's not freedom, it's prison. Beyond this "need" to look more like this or more like this, there are unresolved things to solve. Finding soulmate, fullfilling dreams, spirituality, personnal projects, connecting with something that make sense to us... Everyone has his own journey to explore. So let's put down the weights and let's try to feel better from within first.
I wish that I could take your advice. I'm so hung up on changing the way I look that it's become an obsession. The worst is that because of physical limitations and my age I don't think I'll even get close to the "ideal"--yet I still hold myself up to that standard.
@@frankwelsch4044 What I did personnaly is that I started to ask questions to myself about my environment. Social and cultural. By introspecting, by examining, I could see that there was a direct link between my job (Fitness Coach), the reasons that led me to choose this job and keep it, my social environment and finally , the cultural media that I consumed (films, series...). I realized that, like many other children of my generation, I had been cradled in a media and video game universe where all the male characters are very muscular. Or at least, a little muscular, as if it was forbidden not to be muscular. As if a man had to have such and such a body. And that it was no coincidence that I did a lot of bodybuilding and that I had oriented my career choice towards a fitness coach. And, above all, I realized that behind this so-called "good for health", the fitness and weight rooms were a very toxic place, because it's a bit like being in a hospital with people who are suffering all of the same thing as you, but without being aware of it. Impossible to progress, to detoxify myself from all these diktats, from this dismorphobic disorder without leaving this environment. That's what I did. I stopped my career and chose another job, and I started to watch something else than all these mainstream things where all the men are muscular (toxic video games, toxic movies and so on...). Today, I still practice a little bit of musculation, but in a middle way approach. Only twice a week, not more, just enough to feel good in my body, but with much more distance. I hope it can help maybe. Today, when I see a very muscular man, I don't feel the same thing than before. To me, a lot of muscles are associated with inner insecurity and too much "ego" (too much attachment, too much identification to society toxic codes and too much identification to the self.).
If you, or someone you know, have been affected by mental health issues, help and support is available: www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/articles/1NGvFrTqWChr03LrYlw2Hkk/information-and-support-mental-health
Ain’t it crazy how a discussion talking about men’s issues have so few comments and views..but a video talking about women’s hardships got a ton of support and encouraging comments...shout-out to the brave brothers in this video... y’all G’s💚💚
idk why 'stereotypical manefestations of masculinity' are considered wrong to something
@@haroonq2456 there's nothing wrong with not crying being a tough alpha male but it shouldn't be expected
@@babytinkerz3088 can you stop using the term alpha male I bet no one here is alpha!
@Evidence Based Health high IQ comment
We need to stop looking at this as a fight between men vs women; we all are struggling in a different way. If you feel this issue doesn't have enough light shed, then do something to encourage it!
My goodness this deserves more exposure. Having dealt with depression and anxiety, as a man I can relate to each and every word said in each of the 3 parts of this. Inspires me to keep being honest with myself and also be a sounding board for others also battling with their minds.
This series deserves so many more views
It's crazy how i was so selfish and just didn't realize that men actually suffer with this stuff. These videos have really opened my eyes 😕
They suffer with it more than women, imho.
Aren’t they human, don’t they have feelings. Men should always seek help it’s not a sign of weakness or failure. Takes a strong man to ask for guidance, help or advice.👍
It’s because confidence is seen as an attractive trait so men fake it til they make it
It's hard when we don't have makeup to cover things up
@@brendanhigginson7996 you don’t need makeup, you need counselling.
Im a man, and I still battle body image issues. It started when I was 11, and then when I was 15 I started sticking my toothbrush down my throat and stopped eating regular size meals. Eventually I passed out and had to go to the hospital. Then my hair started falling out due to malnutrition and avitaminosis. So I had to cut all my hair off because it left bald patches on my head. Thankfully my hair grew back BUT it’s texture and richness isn’t the same as it use to be. It also doesn’t grow as fast as it use to.
Now at age 27 I no longer do that stuff (partially because if I miss a meal the stomach pain is unbearable). And my whole metabolism is still effected by it, and I get tired easily as a result. I can even exercise very well because my bones are still brittle from the abuse I put my body through.
All I can say, if you’re doing it now...PLEASE DON’T DO IT! Please Don’t starve yourself, and please don’t make yourself throw up. It’ll just make everything your feeling worse.
This needs to be made into a weekly episode. Such great discussions. This will genuinely save lives. Thank you BBC
I am seeing this with my fiancé these past few weeks. He is very average in his clothing size/body. He is not overweight, he is not underweight. He is healthy but not "muscular", he doesn't have a 6 pack and i noticed recently he is talking a lot about "how not muscular I am" or "why can't I get a 6 pack like this guy on Instagram" and it just breaks my heart. He is perfect to me! I love him SO much , he's a kind, caring, sweet and talented man and I just want to take his phone from him and delete Instagram for him, not everybody looks like an athlete!!!!
I don't understand, Isn't it good that he is working out and eating right to get a healthier body?
It would be another story if he was starving himself, but thats unlikely.
Personaly when I see a fit dude I just dismiss it the moment after and when walking down the streets and I see a hot chick I think "I should start going to the gym"
But I'm not your nice husband soo.
Wish u the best
He’s blessed to have you next to him!! Your words touched me. X
@@maidaabdiasis385 It's not doing it if it's coming from a place of feeling like your not worth as much as other people because you don't look like them.
A guy who tracks food all the time and works out all the time can be in just as unhealthy of a place as a guy who is overeating or starving himself. Same goes for women.
This lady isn't worried about what her man looks like. She seems to like him the way he is. What she's expressing concern with is that it seems like her guy is talking down on himself.
@@thegnome73 her boyfriend seems like a bit of a string in fairness. The fact that he is upset over "body image" is pathetic.
I think a lot of men's body image issues comes from not being given a lot of attention and interest from women in their formative years, this isn't talked about but lets be honest, most women find most men unnattractive and the ideal body type for men, which is lean and muscular as well as being tall is far harder to acheive as a man.
This is very good BBC! Keep this up for men to have a place to speak freely.
i've had conversations like this with my friends most of the time. it feels good to be honest about how you feel. good or bad i know we will take time to hear eachother out.
Man up podcast is great because five men opened up their hearts about what happened to them personally.
I just realize that im too strict to myself like i need to workout everyday and strict diet so i change my mindset that i need at least a day to enjoy my teenage days.
This program is amazing and has taught me sp much, plus opening my mind to so many issues faced by the men on our planet! I must say that I now have the UTMOST and highest respect for EVERY man who shared here with us, thank you so very much!
who ever is thinking of making fun of this on the comments, don't! this is real and I support my brothers... women don't attack men, men don't attack men! keep it up guys... we need this
2021 was the hardest, darkest time of my life. I was physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually BROKEN. But now I feel genuinely GRATEFUL and BLESSED that I had to go through that phase because GOD has graciously REVEALED Himself to me in miraculous ways. I am fortunate that He allowed me to know Him at a very young age, but this year is SPECIAL because of what WE (yes, GOD and me) have been through last year. He showed me how POWERFUL prayers truly are when I started to focus on WHO HE IS rather than who I am, on WHAT HE CAN DO rather than what I deserve. The experience was MAGICAL. He showed up BIG TIME and assured me that HE is indeed a LISTENING and RESPONDING GOD. Oh how my faith has skyrocketed as a result! Now more than ever, I have very bright HOPE for my future because I personally experienced how RELIABLE God is. And for that I will forever be grateful. GLORY BE TO GOD, MY EVER FAITHFUL FATHER. ♥️♥️♥️
To everyone who's struggling right now, please know that GOD LOVES YOU. He wants to help you and give you peace. Please surrender your burdens to Him and allow Him to move in your life.
"Because he loves Me,” says the Lord, “I will rescue him; I will protect him, for he acknowledges My Name. He will call on Me, and I will answer him; I will be with him in trouble, I will deliver him and honor him." (Psalm 91:14-15)
Please hold on to this bible verse because WHATEVER GOD SAYS, HE FULFILLS. 🙏
How does this video have so little views? Looks like we don't care how men feel, but when a women feels something, we all turn up.
Who’s we? Men are the reason why men don’t have support for these issues.
@@aidan9656 how is that true? Maybe there should be a men's movement which addresses men's issues, just like feminism which only focuses on women/women's issues.
@@DavidW-ng5zv There are men’s movements - the problem is, these guys want to scapegoat women and feminism as the result of the problems when in fact it’s men’s notions of masculinity that convinces men that being a man means being emotionally disconnected and alone, not needing to depend on others. Men’s standards are the result of men’s issues but until men face that and do work to acknowledge and undo that, people are just running in circles. If men want spaces to address these issues, we have to create them.
@@aidan9656 it's largely a result of what women find attractive, men just respond to that.
Being dependent on others is weak...
@@aidan9656 men talk to each other (close male friends) regarding their issues. They don't do it around women because women might use it against them.
But why did they bring handsome fit men
This channel is “BBC sport”. Also, it highlights that even “handsome fit men” face these issues.
True
Great conversation from great men!
I suffered a lot from body image issue. I went from bodybuilding to just running, yoga and still a bit of musculation. I even was a fitness and musculation teacher for many years. My point is : so many men suffer from body image issue. This is mostly because this stereotypical strong and muscled male body comes from Hollywood movies industries (particulary since the begining of the 21st century). My journey into this is very long and since I stopped going into gyms, fitness centers and stopped watching social medias and mainstream actions movies with stereotypical "strong" men, I feel much more free. Please people, cut off those toxic things because trying to fullfill this "ideal" physic is a myth and leads to nowhere except frustration, anxiety and suffering. And please stop looking at the next muscled guy, thinking "oh he is happier than me because he looks more muscular". That' s not true. Go beyond appearences and let it go about those toxic glorified behviors and standards. Even if the guy is not really unhappy, he is dependant of his muscles. So he depends a lot on those standards and on what society think about his body. That's not freedom, it's prison. Beyond this "need" to look more like this or more like this, there are unresolved things to solve. Finding soulmate, fullfilling dreams, spirituality, personnal projects, connecting with something that make sense to us... Everyone has his own journey to explore. So let's put down the weights and let's try to feel better from within first.
I wish that I could take your advice. I'm so hung up on changing the way I look that it's become an obsession. The worst is that because of physical limitations and my age I don't think I'll even get close to the "ideal"--yet I still hold myself up to that standard.
@@frankwelsch4044 What I did personnaly is that I started to ask questions to myself about my environment. Social and cultural.
By introspecting, by examining, I could see that there was a direct link between my job (Fitness Coach), the reasons that led me to choose this job and keep it, my social environment and finally , the cultural media that I consumed (films, series...). I realized that, like many other children of my generation, I had been cradled in a media and video game universe where all the male characters are very muscular. Or at least, a little muscular, as if it was forbidden not to be muscular. As if a man had to have such and such a body.
And that it was no coincidence that I did a lot of bodybuilding and that I had oriented my career choice towards a fitness coach. And, above all, I realized that behind this so-called "good for health", the fitness and weight rooms were a very toxic place, because it's a bit like being in a hospital with people who are suffering all of the same thing as you, but without being aware of it. Impossible to progress, to detoxify myself from all these diktats, from this dismorphobic disorder without leaving this environment. That's what I did.
I stopped my career and chose another job, and I started to watch something else than all these mainstream things where all the men are muscular (toxic video games, toxic movies and so on...).
Today, I still practice a little bit of musculation, but in a middle way approach. Only twice a week, not more, just enough to feel good in my body, but with much more distance. I hope it can help maybe.
Today, when I see a very muscular man, I don't feel the same thing than before. To me, a lot of muscles are associated with inner insecurity and too much "ego" (too much attachment, too much identification to society toxic codes and too much identification to the self.).
“As a man, I can’t show any fragility.”
where's the subtitles?
Very different according to race
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