You literally just described everything in my relationship. I feel completely broken watching my best friend turn into a complete stranger. I don’t really have immediate family in life. Feels like i lost my rock in life. Walking away is the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do.
I just sent her a long message because she hadn’t been returning my calls, and then I stumbled upon this video. I have a natural ability to read people, so I felt I needed to watch it to confirm what I’d been sensing-that she wasn’t in love with me anymore. More than anything, I could feel she was waiting for me to end things, and I couldn’t keep it bottled up any longer. Even though I’m hurting deeply right now, I can understand her perspective. It took me a while to let go, mainly because it was hard to accept that it was really over. Thanks Jess
once u start having gut feelings dat ur partner is falling out of luv with u.. trust me, he or she is indeed falling out of luv with u.. just walk away quietly
Thank you Jessica for helping me make my decision, it's time to walk away there is nothing to salvage. You hit the nail on the head. I thought maybe it's just me overthinking. I know now that I'm not.
As men and women don't wanna hear this. Understand that sometimes you're building someone for someone else. That's the reality for at least most or majority of people
I agree with you on this. In a better world the person you go through hardships with and almost misery would be the person you end up with once they got their act together but in a lot of cases one partner(Mainly women) decides to leave and that other partner(Men) goes on to make changes and becomes a better version of themselves for the next person
🙈🙈🙈i feel like dying, my partner for 7 years has been doing all 9 of these things over the last 6 months and i've done my best not to see it. This video is very helpful, thank you Jessica.😊🙏
Jessica, I was married for nearly 6 years, but I recently divorced last year August. I didn’t file - she did. There was no abuse or infidelity on my part either. She just wasn’t happy (frankly she was having negative feelings about herself), which is not a reason to divorce (since feelings are fleeting), but whatever. This was a woman I never thought would divorce me, but the divorce changed my entire perspective on women and who they truly are. I didn’t notice some of the red flags you mentioned that was present in my marriage until it was over. Clearly you know what you’re talking about. Salute.
Sometimes, love clouds our better logical judgement. Confiding in a trusted friend or relative just to get a 3rd person perspective, really helps a lot.
Suddenly a woman not feeling good about herself in a marriage and files for devource sound like she guilt ridden by some secret action she did and its eating her up inside and she probly 2 shame to confess to u so to save face bails.
My guy you caused her to leave whether you saw it or not. Women don't leave men they are are madly in love with. Remember when it comes to women it's all about emotions. And what she felt last month doesn't apply to this month, her emotions are only applied to Right Now not yesterday. A man literally has to keep her attracted, if he stops she'll start to look at you different. Other factors come in to play that cause her to move on but usually her man stops courting & that starts the process. She must 100% feel Loved, heard, & understood at all times, get lax & she moves On
Let's not generalize a whole gender based on your ex wife. Also it's weird that you think "abuse" is the only reason to leave a relationship. Being happy in a relationship is important, the fact that you try to devalue her unhappiness shows she was unhappy and you did not care. Not trying to blame you but seems like you don't reflect on your parts. Just some advice so you see your shortcomings too. Trying to denying them is a problem. Wishing you the best
You're only going to stay and accept the shyte sandwich and crumbs you're getting from her. Don't be a simp man. You can always arrange co-parenting legally.Right now now you dying by a thousand cuts.
Wow 😮 is all I can say for now. I had a girl who used to cry when she doesn't talk to me within an hour. But everything you have mentioned here she started applying them all to me. Jessica, you are very much educative about RELATIONSHIPS. I have experienced the above-mentioned and I have learned 📕 as, well. Thank you, I love ❤️ you from the U.S.
I'm experiencing the same. I willing to bet that there is someone else or multiple people occupying their interest. I noticed that I no longer receive evening texts, only the morning texts. But I've been the cheater before so karma has to play its part. 😒
All of these are happening to my relationship right now. I won't go trying to change things but I will do move on while I'm still with her. So that when she finally says the words "I don't feel you anymore" I won't hurt.
Why? You ought to be brave enough to address it and to be prepared to walk away. Toughen up bro. All that you said is cold comfort to yourself. You know her behaviour is that of not loving you. Confront her but not aggressively. She probably will then tell you. Unless you want to continue living a half life. You should be strong enough to demonstrate you're prepared to walk away and be serious about it.
I felt compelled to add an additional reply but not update the original one. What's with the ambiguity man: "...but I'll do move on while I'm still with her". What does that mean? You're smart enough to know how the mind works. You can't reprogram your mind while her presence is still in your orbital path. Why continue carrying the albatross when you have the power to take it off and throw it in the sea? How do you know it won't hurt? And what's the purpose of her presence right now? Maybe I'm too hawkish but you got to be resolute man.
I think the word "Love Shouldn't be Used in this Case"! Or, please define feelings in this scenario. Soulmates stay through thick and thin. Thanks for the insight from a beautiful queen understanding. Showers of blessings!!!💯🙏💞🌹
Once she's fallen out of love with you , that's when you'll realise that chasing a women is not an option to make . Men please focus on your visions , goals and ambitions and let them women chase you while you focused on your big dreams .
Right-on-point....Bro! "LIFE IS SHORT" who has time to waste on foolishness if the relationship isn't healthy just move on. My honest opinion on relationships today in year 2022' nobody wants to fully commit
Listen, if you notice that she is going cold, GO COLD YOURSELF. Nothing will drive her further away if you continue to chase her and you keep questioning her. If she has fallen out of love, Just let her go.
This applies to marriages too. Yes, it’s more complex or difficult to walk away compared to dating but when it’s over it’s over you can try all known remedies. Thank you for the advice.
It's even more pertinent in marriage where vows were exchanged. A spouse cannot be reckless to the point of telling you they don't love you. That's a serious thing. Your spouse has checked out and the rug had just been pulled from under your feet. Bootstrap, pray for courage and have the gumption to walk away from this. You cannot be with someone who has openly told you they don't love you anymore. Staying will damage you more and more. No need for drama and all. Just ACCEPTANCE is what you need to communicate then give your spouse what they've asked for. You're human and have friends, family, etc who love you, It's hard but there isn't much you can do about it. It took your spouse tine ti reach the point of dumping you like that So please, take this seriously.
@@trapped-ion I agree with this. My wife told her friend that she’s not in love with me and I didn’t noticed that at all . Cos all day around we laughing and doing stuff together. That really broke my heart
I found myself flirting and it must be because I had fallen out of love. I never flirt if i am in love or committed to relationship even if the woman is very beautiful. That is a clear sign you are not in love. She had many of these signs but I am the one who flirted because I couldn't get Respect or goodness from her. Lack of Respect and Good will is a big killer of relationships. !!
I flirt because I need to feel desirable and I get zero compliments or feedback from my husband. Unless he wants sex, then he will grab my boob. But without the every day courtship, his breadcrumbs don’t do it for me. So I thrive on getting feedback from others and I hate sex now.
Thank you Jessica. My problem mostly is with the lies. I can never truly tell if she’s lying or telling the truth coz she’s lied so many times. Even after breaking up, it’s hard to know what was real and what was a lie.
Same thing 11 years and 2 kids later. Took a break at her request and she met a guy who’s now her bf. Bf tells me I can’t come over to see my kids. We still go out I still make out with her and she tells me she’s confused and don’t know what she want to do but still tells me she loves me. She hid the bf for three months after I asked her what’s going on she told me it was one of her staff members but my kids spilled the beans when they said mommy is always talking to some guy with a deep voice but it’s not you dad. She told me that I needed to work on myself and we would hangout and work things out meanwhile she was going to the hotel in her lunch breaks. Every time I ask her what’s up “I’m so confused, I can give you my time to see where it goes” for some reason I can’t seem to walk away
@@montigo0000 she’s going to keep that confusion on you bru💯 I’ve been through dang near the same thing. Tbh. She’ll never (most likely) just commit to you💯 she needs attention from too many people… and harsh reality you’re just another tool for her to use when needed. You need to get the thought in your head bru that if a person is really for you, really loves you, REALLY RESPECTS YOU.. would they be doing the things that their doing…think about it. !Show yourself some respect bru!💯. All of that confusion is not healthy on you bru I’m telling you✅ Do what you gotta do. Stay safe bru💯 Stay strong💪🏾
Oh Wonderful Jess, you are so good. You are the only person who are able to help we the men, know one help the men like you do, even our pastors could not do what you are doing for us. God bless you
Exactly. It drags out a situation that could lead to hatred and anger when it could just end in peace. Yeah it may sting but it would trump living in deceit.
This is very important video that commonly most people don't talk about, and not welling to see their future odds. Thank you so much for this video. This helps me to stay alert, pace and love ✌🏾🤟🏾
I recently stumbled upon your videos, and I must say that they're quite spot on. They trigger a lot of thought process. Now what if a woman refuses to engage in "sensitive and or hot button" topics and will not communicate?
And very sound advice indeed. My dad did not have time to explain any of it to me as he was always working. Bless my mom, she was amazing but could not replace time with my old man.
Jess made all the salient points, they are so valid. But this is it, why give back energy when you don’t receive same energy back? Love goes where love is directly translated in our local palance. We are in a generation where most women ain’t traditional and vice versa the men too, the reason relationships are not solid compared to our older folks. Never force a relationship if she or he declines communication and you both don’t catch the same rhythm best is let each other go. A genuine relationship needs balance not for him or her to try and salvage a farce all in the name of courtship. Just look at what Will Smith is just going through. He’s been literally begging his wife Jada to even look at him like the way she use to look at 2pac. At the end of the day Jada was allowed to cultivate what they refer to as entanglement. Fellas why beg or simp for a woman’s affection and vice versa. Why?
Jessica, l commend your analysis which is down to earth on this topic. I'm very sure Partners/Couples that watch this episode will definitely benefit from your counsel. I did! Keep doing the good works to save relationships globally. I pray for more wisdom and courage as you talk about these issues.
You know I've been watching your videos for quite some time now and I must say, you the strongest and resilient woman I've ever met so far. I love you for that. If I was your age I'm sure you wouldn't be a challenge for me
My best friend told me about the gut feeling. Thats where it started for me. My wife of 10 years quite suddenly stopped wanting to take showers with me, make out randomly, revealed she actually doesn't care for what we called lazy kisses. This all really made my heart sink and sent me on a downward spiral but I started working out and feel good about myself. I am on the fence about the relationship but am okay for now to keep the kids from going through a separation for the time being. I can't afford to leave her, literally.
Be resolute and get off that fence before she shakes it and force you to fall. Each day given to us to live is precious. Dig deep and ask for the strength to be decisive. You must remove your self from the situation, regain your composure and ratchet up a notch with the self improvement. Life is precious and staying in a limbo state is no way to live.
I thought that too with my ex-wife but sticking it out for the children sake only made it harder for them then just cutting the toxic relationship loose. To do it all over again, I would have left when I realized these points were more frequent and normal. There is no good time for the children in this situation but if you talk to them regularly and let them know that nothing is their fault or responsibility will help in the long run
Cut the toxic relationship now before she takes too much Make sure to get a good defense divorce lawyer and make it all about the children after all that is said and done 💯💯💯 P.S. got to Go in smelling like a little bit of shít to come out on the other side looking like a daisy 💯👌👊😈
Everything you mentioned in this video is the truth my ex did everything but I didn’t see these red flags 🚩 then I found out she was having an affair long story short now I’m living my best life without her while she’s miserable 😆😆😆
1. Ignore her words focus on her actions 2. Don’t chase women become the man that women will pursue 3. Women you previously pursued and got rejected by Will later be interested when they see you have a different woman 4. Women think about marriage as a wedding day and not a lifetime supporting and respecting their man 5. Embrace rejection it will make you stronger 6. Disdain women who rejected you, ignoring them is the best revenge 7. The more attractive she is the harder you have to be, DONT SIMP 8. Stay away from single mothers 9. Prioritise your appearance no matter what’s 10. Never fully commit 11. Don’t share your weaknesses with a woman, seek professional help in a serious rut 12. Women cheat more than men, don’t let her accusations blind you 13. Be low tolerance, be ready to walk away at any given moment 14. Don’t be bitter, accept female nature and adjust 15. Keep playing the game and make it difficult. People come back to difficult games to try and beat it, easy games get played once and put on the shelf
I am a single mother now due to domestic violence and abuse and that was his fault not mine. I want to find that loving man and have that loving healthy relationship and have more children. I am seeing a psychologist to better myself for me and my daughter and my future husband and future marriage.
I believe men, and speaking from personal experience too, in situations like these, we often tend to try and resort to mentally ''rationalizing'' the situation. Men comparred to women are pretty straight forward and practical thinking creatures, so unless the problem or issue is IN OUR FACE so to speak, we tend to find excuses to rationalize the situation, even if we feel there might be ''something wrong'', I think we can easily fall into the tracks of downplaying it for ourselves and believe ''it will pass''.
Thank you so much your advice an tips are great I feel like I have talk to you in person you have not only my feelings but my life too I'll stop chasing women I'll rather chase my dream
Constructive criticisms are usually healthy, for as long as, they are not connected with any negative statements. I am learning a lot from you. Keep it up. 👍
Number 2 TO THE TEE!!!!!!! Yeah she’ll answer me if I ask her something in person but over that phone I can barely get a response let alone a text or a call from her FIRST. I realize that it’s over. I realize she’s done. And has completely moved on. One thing about it she not loud/disrespectful nor or criticizing. Which I appreciate lol cause she could be all in my face with it but she tries to keep her doing her out my sight as much as possible. I just don’t get how when I was cheating I was still communicating w her but now that she has started being involved w this new dude, it’s like I don’t even exist and I never thought she would be like this towards me. It’s a complete unexpected 360. I can’t even be mad at her..number 4 is another one that’s spot on every word you said…it’s like she knows I know but she could care less that I know at the same time.
4 years, 4 years of me telling him to change and he would apologise and just still stay the same. The past few months I reached a point where I started crying like it’s the end of the world whenever he makes the slightest mistake and I related to everything you said in this video. I feel terrible because I feel like I wasted time and effort trying to fix this relationship, and I am struggling with to accept that these 4 years were for nothing. Is it even worth it?
@@saraemorow6959 no it's not worth it he doesn't have time by himself to realize who you really were to him.. take 1 month away and stay quiet. But don't just waste this time doing nothing. Do things independently and the most important thing is to learn from everything that has happened the person you are and how your past has made you the way you are and think about them n who they are. Listen to him. Let him plead but make sure he e realize and figures out what has to be done what has to permanently change to fix things and then slowly take them back paying attention to the actions of change
I believe that relationship slowly ends on different matters and when both sexes find interest in others or it could be a situation on where they need to discover more interest within themselves it's simple and complicated it's just life
I remember i used to laugh a lot around him watching comedy; to the extent he would would get pissed sometimes. I stopped all of a sudden before checking out physically & emotionally! He was shocked seeing me so cold!!...this was 7yrs ago & I never look back!
I still hadn’t learned the lesson of just letting people go if they don’t want to be in your life up until literally last weekend. You notice instantly when things changes try to talk about it if you can if not let them walk away I know it’s hard if you live with the person which was my situation. Try to work something out
I saw all these with my ex. Not that I didn't know. Just wanted to see how she would end it. Then when she did, I told her all she did that I saw that she was out of it and we broke up in peace though I'm sure she was puzzled for days. Thanks Jess. Guess I know how to read break all the more now.
You literally just described everything in my relationship. I feel completely broken watching my best friend turn into a complete stranger. I don’t really have immediate family in life. Feels like i lost my rock in life. Walking away is the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do.
Sorry bro, I`m also going through that. I just hope we ace through this together
it is same here... this world, this life. Lord help us
Same here bro...
Damn I’m in the boat
Same for me.. It’s hard to let go
U know it's a wrap when u come home from work, and the dogs are more excited 2 c u than she is ....
True!!!
Yup
Been there brother
@@moeseck7792
Yep!
She had probably been telling you the issues for month or years and finally gave up.
I just sent her a long message because she hadn’t been returning my calls, and then I stumbled upon this video. I have a natural ability to read people, so I felt I needed to watch it to confirm what I’d been sensing-that she wasn’t in love with me anymore. More than anything, I could feel she was waiting for me to end things, and I couldn’t keep it bottled up any longer. Even though I’m hurting deeply right now, I can understand her perspective. It took me a while to let go, mainly because it was hard to accept that it was really over. Thanks Jess
once u start having gut feelings dat ur partner is falling out of luv with u.. trust me, he or she is indeed falling out of luv with u.. just walk away quietly
What if you feel that she has still the feelings sometimes and it gives you mixed signals
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@@darking-rayleigh trust me on this, after u walk away, u will then realize that she wasn't worth it after all
@@tony-techsolutions2743 But she was ready to unfriend me anytime.
@@darking-rayleighlet me know how it went
Thank you Jessica for helping me make my decision, it's time to walk away there is nothing to salvage. You hit the nail on the head. I thought maybe it's just me overthinking. I know now that I'm not.
As men and women don't wanna hear this. Understand that sometimes you're building someone for someone else. That's the reality for at least most or majority of people
Yea, a Beautiful woman is another Man's slay queen...
I agree with you on this. In a better world the person you go through hardships with and almost misery would be the person you end up with once they got their act together but in a lot of cases one partner(Mainly women) decides to leave and that other partner(Men) goes on to make changes and becomes a better version of themselves for the next person
That is so true Kevin Smith
cold better truth
🙈🙈🙈i feel like dying, my partner for 7 years has been doing all 9 of these things over the last 6 months and i've done my best not to see it. This video is very helpful, thank you Jessica.😊🙏
Represent 🇿🇦
Sorry to use derogatory terms for whom you may have feelings for but don't let a hoe win and outlive you. The best revenge is to live well. 🍻
1 yr later
Jessica, I was married for nearly 6 years, but I recently divorced last year August. I didn’t file - she did. There was no abuse or infidelity on my part either. She just wasn’t happy (frankly she was having negative feelings about herself), which is not a reason to divorce (since feelings are fleeting), but whatever. This was a woman I never thought would divorce me, but the divorce changed my entire perspective on women and who they truly are. I didn’t notice some of the red flags you mentioned that was present in my marriage until it was over. Clearly you know what you’re talking about. Salute.
Sometimes, love clouds our better logical judgement. Confiding in a trusted friend or relative just to get a 3rd person perspective, really helps a lot.
Was she a narcissist ?
Suddenly a woman not feeling good about herself in a marriage and files for devource sound like she guilt ridden by some secret action she did and its eating her up inside and she probly 2 shame to confess to u so to save face bails.
My guy you caused her to leave whether you saw it or not. Women don't leave men they are are madly in love with. Remember when it comes to women it's all about emotions. And what she felt last month doesn't apply to this month, her emotions are only applied to Right Now not yesterday. A man literally has to keep her attracted, if he stops she'll start to look at you different. Other factors come in to play that cause her to move on but usually her man stops courting & that starts the process. She must 100% feel Loved, heard, & understood at all times, get lax & she moves On
Let's not generalize a whole gender based on your ex wife. Also it's weird that you think "abuse" is the only reason to leave a relationship. Being happy in a relationship is important, the fact that you try to devalue her unhappiness shows she was unhappy and you did not care. Not trying to blame you but seems like you don't reflect on your parts. Just some advice so you see your shortcomings too. Trying to denying them is a problem. Wishing you the best
People do have time, it's all about priorities. Once they fall in love, they certainly create time for that person.
On point ,exactly what i'm going through with the lady am sharing a child with .This is really guiding me so much
Did you get DNA 🧬 for the child mate?
Just leave bro save yourself the invested time. Stop prolonging the inevitable.
You're only going to stay and accept the shyte sandwich and crumbs you're getting from her. Don't be a simp man. You can always arrange co-parenting legally.Right now now you dying by a thousand cuts.
Well done Jessica. U are awesome. Full of experience and very romantic. Are u married. You are changing the world with your motivation
Wow 😮 is all I can say for now. I had a girl who used to cry when she doesn't talk to me within an hour. But everything you have mentioned here she started applying them all to me. Jessica, you are very much educative about RELATIONSHIPS. I have experienced the above-mentioned and I have learned 📕 as, well. Thank you, I love ❤️ you from the U.S.
I'm experiencing the same. I willing to bet that there is someone else or multiple people occupying their interest. I noticed that I no longer receive evening texts, only the morning texts. But I've been the cheater before so karma has to play its part. 😒
You have neglect her need for attention. Men should know women need their men attention and care than anything else.
All of these are happening to my relationship right now. I won't go trying to change things but I will do move on while I'm still with her. So that when she finally says the words "I don't feel you anymore" I won't hurt.
Why? You ought to be brave enough to address it and to be prepared to walk away. Toughen up bro. All that you said is cold comfort to yourself. You know her behaviour is that of not loving you. Confront her but not aggressively. She probably will then tell you. Unless you want to continue living a half life. You should be strong enough to demonstrate you're prepared to walk away and be serious about it.
I felt compelled to add an additional reply but not update the original one. What's with the ambiguity man: "...but I'll do move on while I'm still with her". What does that mean? You're smart enough to know how the mind works. You can't reprogram your mind while her presence is still in your orbital path. Why continue carrying the albatross when you have the power to take it off and throw it in the sea? How do you know it won't hurt? And what's the purpose of her presence right now? Maybe I'm too hawkish but you got to be resolute man.
Communication for sure. Real communication, direct communication
I think the word "Love Shouldn't be Used in this Case"! Or, please define feelings in this scenario. Soulmates stay through thick and thin. Thanks for the insight from a beautiful queen understanding. Showers of blessings!!!💯🙏💞🌹
Once she's fallen out of love with you , that's when you'll realise that chasing a women is not an option to make . Men please focus on your visions , goals and ambitions and let them women chase you while you focused on your big dreams .
I agree! And once your goals are reached, look for the right woman to share your life with
Right-on-point....Bro! "LIFE IS SHORT" who has time to waste on foolishness if the relationship isn't healthy just move on. My honest opinion on relationships today in year 2022' nobody wants to fully commit
I'm trying, it's been a constant struggle of depression, just for a relationship that only lasted a month, but you can't really rush recovery
Very true man
I agree 💯%!!!
Very true Jessica. Your platform is educational and helpful to many relationships.
She has become more independent...in terms of her getting stuff for herself, I welcome that!
Why would i try to fix a relationship with someone who's disrespecting me?
I had to come to that realization. You must respect yourself to walk away and move on
If you cheat or disrespect me and then I’m gone…. But I hate they paint me as the bad guy everytime 😔
@@moneyman1002 No getting around that. U will be judged by everyone around her whether you right or wrong. Lose lose situation
It only gets better and better on this channel. I love it here ❤️‼️
@@effiya_ephya hey
This is a very well produced and informative channel. I'm glad to have stumbled upon it. 😃
Jessica thank you so much for these wonderful tips. Now you have mistakenly opened my eyes and my intuition is now acting more than ever before.
Listen, if you notice that she is going cold, GO COLD YOURSELF. Nothing will drive her further away if you continue to chase her and you keep questioning her.
If she has fallen out of love, Just let her go.
You are so right
U right!!
Thanks so much ur right
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This applies to marriages too. Yes, it’s more complex or difficult to walk away compared to dating but when it’s over it’s over you can try all known remedies. Thank you for the advice.
It's even more pertinent in marriage where vows were exchanged. A spouse cannot be reckless to the point of telling you they don't love you. That's a serious thing. Your spouse has checked out and the rug had just been pulled from under your feet. Bootstrap, pray for courage and have the gumption to walk away from this. You cannot be with someone who has openly told you they don't love you anymore. Staying will damage you more and more. No need for drama and all. Just ACCEPTANCE is what you need to communicate then give your spouse what they've asked for. You're human and have friends, family, etc who love you, It's hard but there isn't much you can do about it. It took your spouse tine ti reach the point of dumping you like that So please, take this seriously.
@@trapped-ion what if you don't have any family to run to just a couple friends MAYBE!..?
@@trapped-ion I agree with this. My wife told her friend that she’s not in love with me and I didn’t noticed that at all . Cos all day around we laughing and doing stuff together. That really broke my heart
Hey Jessica I’m watching you from Haiti, you are so Right my dear ... it’s like you are talking about my last relationship ... 🙏
Great video me and my wife havent been doing well for awhile and what makes it worse is we live as roommates.
Same here my brother .but I'm going to sell the house .I'm over it .I know it though but we gotta move on bro.
How fortunate are the men who have your heart. you are amazing
U just described me when I fall out of love💯
I found myself flirting and it must be because I had fallen out of love. I never flirt if i am in love or committed to relationship even if the woman is very beautiful. That is a clear sign you are not in love. She had many of these signs but I am the one who flirted because I couldn't get Respect or goodness from her. Lack of Respect and Good will is a big killer of relationships. !!
I flirt because I need to feel desirable and I get zero compliments or feedback from my husband. Unless he wants sex, then he will grab my boob. But without the every day courtship, his breadcrumbs don’t do it for me. So I thrive on getting feedback from others and I hate sex now.
Thank you Jessica. My problem mostly is with the lies. I can never truly tell if she’s lying or telling the truth coz she’s lied so many times. Even after breaking up, it’s hard to know what was real and what was a lie.
Yeah going through that now. I just can’t believe how dishonest this girl could be
Same thing 11 years and 2 kids later. Took a break at her request and she met a guy who’s now her bf. Bf tells me I can’t come over to see my kids. We still go out I still make out with her and she tells me she’s confused and don’t know what she want to do but still tells me she loves me. She hid the bf for three months after I asked her what’s going on she told me it was one of her staff members but my kids spilled the beans when they said mommy is always talking to some guy with a deep voice but it’s not you dad. She told me that I needed to work on myself and we would hangout and work things out meanwhile she was going to the hotel in her lunch breaks. Every time I ask her what’s up “I’m so confused, I can give you my time to see where it goes” for some reason I can’t seem to walk away
@@montigo0000 she’s going to keep that confusion on you bru💯 I’ve been through dang near the same thing. Tbh. She’ll never (most likely) just commit to you💯 she needs attention from too many people… and harsh reality you’re just another tool for her to use when needed. You need to get the thought in your head bru that if a person is really for you, really loves you, REALLY RESPECTS YOU.. would they be doing the things that their doing…think about it. !Show yourself some respect bru!💯. All of that confusion is not healthy on you bru I’m telling you✅ Do what you gotta do. Stay safe bru💯 Stay strong💪🏾
Oh Wonderful Jess, you are so good. You are the only person who are able to help we the men, know one help the men like you do, even our pastors could not do what you are doing for us. God bless you
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I have been subscribed to this lady but I just decided to listen to her today…Great mind and very accurate
Each of us clearly sees these signs, but prefers to ignore them…until the moment we realize we are watering a dead flower.
Yea ..me right now
Everything you pointed out happened to me and later own I found out she was seeing someone else ,and moved away
Thanks mum for todays message and God bless you.
Am going through this situation right now !
The sad thing is having to look for signs instead of just keeping it real
Exactly. It drags out a situation that could lead to hatred and anger when it could just end in peace. Yeah it may sting but it would trump living in deceit.
@@Richard-hx6mi bingo thank youuuuu like I really don’t understand but I think people try keeping their options open
Life isn't easy
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Facts!
This is very important video that commonly most people don't talk about, and not welling to see their future odds.
Thank you so much for this video. This helps me to stay alert, pace and love ✌🏾🤟🏾
I hate to admit, but she's so right.
The gut feeling is really all you need to know. Everything else just confirms it.
I can't even disagree to even one of the points. Very true
Kind of got some closure from this. Answered questions for me that have been driving me nuts.
I recently stumbled upon your videos, and I must say that they're quite spot on. They trigger a lot of thought process. Now what if a woman refuses to engage in "sensitive and or hot button" topics and will not communicate?
please i really need an answer to this. thanks
A woman is falling out of love with you? fall out of love with her first! BEST ADVICE I GOT!!!
Savage 🤣🤣🤣🤣
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No cap. Dont be a simp my gee 😎
And very sound advice indeed. My dad did not have time to explain any of it to me as he was always working. Bless my mom, she was amazing but could not replace time with my old man.
It's always the inevitable demystification. The moment you realise that she's not special, it goes away, and only love stays.
Thanks, Jessica your platform is one of the best,God bless you.
Thanks Jessica.
You are SPOT ON!
My ex checked almost everything.
You’re professional relationships coach love 💕 you from Kenya
When you get to be my age you really don't care who loves you, I love me and that's all that matters lmfao
That's the best approach ever..
Agreed lol
Trying to get there. Hopefully I learn this time
I wanna be like this. But I need my kids mother but she’s done with me by the looks of things
@@sylviemorgan9770 l agree with u👌🏼 U come first and just do you!💃❤
You’re too good. Everything you’ve said, are absolutely correct. Thanks for the explanations stay blessed.
When you explain a negative situation,you give off that vibe that says... 'its okay for things to be like this,things will get better.'
Voice ambassador for MTN 😅 😍.... “ You have no call credit in your MTN account, please recharge “ 😂😂 ....I love you dear ❤️
Jess made all the salient points, they are so valid. But this is it, why give back energy when you don’t receive same energy back? Love goes where love is directly translated in our local palance. We are in a generation where most women ain’t traditional and vice versa the men too, the reason relationships are not solid compared to our older folks. Never force a relationship if she or he declines communication and you both don’t catch the same rhythm best is let each other go. A genuine relationship needs balance not for him or her to try and salvage a farce all in the name of courtship. Just look at what Will Smith is just going through. He’s been literally begging his wife Jada to even look at him like the way she use to look at 2pac. At the end of the day Jada was allowed to cultivate what they refer to as entanglement. Fellas why beg or simp for a woman’s affection and vice versa. Why?
Waoh, always on point I love your videos , they are very educative
You're moverous, great work Jessica thx
You opened my eyes…THANK YOU SO MUCH!
Jessica,! Jessica! Jessica!! what can we do with you? your wealth of knowledge and experience makes me speechless 💔
Jessica, l commend your analysis which is down to earth on this topic. I'm very sure Partners/Couples that watch this episode will definitely benefit from your counsel. I did! Keep doing the good works to save relationships globally. I pray for more wisdom and courage as you talk about these issues.
Thanks a lot for this piece of information..
GREAT you are! thousands of tks.
Glad it helped!
So love u jessicca, honestly speaking the trueth and its really simple and obvious when all these things come into the relationship ☺️🤞😘
You know I've been watching your videos for quite some time now and I must say, you the strongest and resilient woman I've ever met so far. I love you for that. If I was your age I'm sure you wouldn't be a challenge for me
Shoot your shot bro🤣
My best friend told me about the gut feeling. Thats where it started for me. My wife of 10 years quite suddenly stopped wanting to take showers with me, make out randomly, revealed she actually doesn't care for what we called lazy kisses. This all really made my heart sink and sent me on a downward spiral but I started working out and feel good about myself. I am on the fence about the relationship but am okay for now to keep the kids from going through a separation for the time being. I can't afford to leave her, literally.
So u're still living together as a husband & wife??
Her withdrawing or avoided u means that she used to have an affair with someone...
Be resolute and get off that fence before she shakes it and force you to fall. Each day given to us to live is precious. Dig deep and ask for the strength to be decisive. You must remove your self from the situation, regain your composure and ratchet up a notch with the self improvement. Life is precious and staying in a limbo state is no way to live.
Who is your best friend and what did they tell you
I thought that too with my ex-wife but sticking it out for the children sake only made it harder for them then just cutting the toxic relationship loose. To do it all over again, I would have left when I realized these points were more frequent and normal. There is no good time for the children in this situation but if you talk to them regularly and let them know that nothing is their fault or responsibility will help in the long run
Cut the toxic relationship now before she takes too much Make sure to get a good defense divorce lawyer and make it all about the children after all that is said and done 💯💯💯
P.S. got to Go in smelling like a little bit of shít to come out on the other side looking like a daisy 💯👌👊😈
Very solid…all the points are legit and neatly explained
Everything you mentioned in this video is the truth my ex did everything but I didn’t see these red flags 🚩 then I found out she was having an affair long story short now I’m living my best life without her while she’s miserable 😆😆😆
Lol.. just because someone fell out of love doesn’t mean she’s got to be miserable 🌚.
@@amahxx4415 karma is a bitch when you do someone wrong when it’s your turn to face the consequences don’t be mad 😆
@@amahxx4415 lol why so bitter🤣🤣🤣
This makes it better to just be single
Win Win on both sides.. One gor rid of the headache, The other gave someone's headache to someone else 🤝🏽
You are Amazing woman thank you for thé video
Nailed a lot of them. I love you 🫵
You have a very soothing and calming voice
Ur so correct about these hints and have a blessed day
Jessica is the big sister u didn't know u needed
1. Ignore her words focus on her actions
2. Don’t chase women become the man that women will pursue
3. Women you previously pursued and got rejected by Will later be interested when they see you have a different woman
4. Women think about marriage as a wedding day and not a lifetime supporting and respecting their man
5. Embrace rejection it will make you stronger
6. Disdain women who rejected you, ignoring them is the best revenge
7. The more attractive she is the harder you have to be, DONT SIMP
8. Stay away from single mothers
9. Prioritise your appearance no matter what’s
10. Never fully commit
11. Don’t share your weaknesses with a woman, seek professional help in a serious rut
12. Women cheat more than men, don’t let her accusations blind you
13. Be low tolerance, be ready to walk away at any given moment
14. Don’t be bitter, accept female nature and adjust
15. Keep playing the game and make it difficult. People come back to difficult games to try and beat it, easy games get played once and put on the shelf
I am a single mother now due to domestic violence and abuse and that was his fault not mine. I want to find that loving man and have that loving healthy relationship and have more children. I am seeing a psychologist to better myself for me and my daughter and my future husband and future marriage.
Great...
@@christinamitrovich7554 not like you would say it’s you anyway.
👌thank you
Tell me you've never been in a relationship without telling me that you've never been in a relationship lol
Great social work Jess❤️
I believe men, and speaking from personal experience too, in situations like these, we often tend to try and resort to mentally ''rationalizing'' the situation. Men comparred to women are pretty straight forward and practical thinking creatures, so unless the problem or issue is IN OUR FACE so to speak, we tend to find excuses to rationalize the situation, even if we feel there might be ''something wrong'', I think we can easily fall into the tracks of downplaying it for ourselves and believe ''it will pass''.
Thank you Jess!
Girl you are a smart lady like your emotions
Such a great tips you've given to us all Jesi thank you 😊
Thank you so much your advice an tips are great I feel like I have talk to you in person you have not only my feelings but my life too I'll stop chasing women I'll rather chase my dream
Thank you Jessica ❤️
You said it all, Jessica...the obvious truth!
You're speaking from the depth of my heart. Thank you for giving us ladies a voice when we can't (or won't) do it ourselves 🌹
My heart is broken today by the one I disvirgin , it's like a dream, am dying slowly
You are always on point mum,👍
Kudos my dearest MENTOR***💖
In this day and age nothing surprises no more. You want to leave, leave.
Constructive criticisms are usually healthy, for as long as, they are not connected with any negative statements.
I am learning a lot from you. Keep it up. 👍
Whatttttt!!!! I've been struck by lightning 🌩 oh Jessss!!! Thanks a billion...
U spoke right Jessica
Thank You for great advice again and again .Much respect!!
I was once in this situation: THE KISSING PART WAS MY EXPERIENCE.
THERE FOR Jessica you are always on point 👉.
Love you my African Sister ❤
Thank you sister J
Number 2 TO THE TEE!!!!!!! Yeah she’ll answer me if I ask her something in person but over that phone I can barely get a response let alone a text or a call from her FIRST. I realize that it’s over. I realize she’s done. And has completely moved on. One thing about it she not loud/disrespectful nor or criticizing. Which I appreciate lol cause she could be all in my face with it but she tries to keep her doing her out my sight as much as possible. I just don’t get how when I was cheating I was still communicating w her but now that she has started being involved w this new dude, it’s like I don’t even exist and I never thought she would be like this towards me. It’s a complete unexpected 360. I can’t even be mad at her..number 4 is another one that’s spot on every word you said…it’s like she knows I know but she could care less that I know at the same time.
4 years, 4 years of me telling him to change and he would apologise and just still stay the same. The past few months I reached a point where I started crying like it’s the end of the world whenever he makes the slightest mistake and I related to everything you said in this video. I feel terrible because I feel like I wasted time and effort trying to fix this relationship, and I am struggling with to accept that these 4 years were for nothing. Is it even worth it?
@@saraemorow6959 no it's not worth it he doesn't have time by himself to realize who you really were to him.. take 1 month away and stay quiet. But don't just waste this time doing nothing. Do things independently and the most important thing is to learn from everything that has happened the person you are and how your past has made you the way you are and think about them n who they are. Listen to him. Let him plead but make sure he e realize and figures out what has to be done what has to permanently change to fix things and then slowly take them back paying attention to the actions of change
Very sensible, thank you.
Wonderful advise
I believe that relationship slowly ends on different matters and when both sexes find interest in others or it could be a situation on where they need to discover more interest within themselves it's simple and complicated it's just life
Thank you Jessica...
Much love from Nairobi 🇰🇪.
Hamites😒
I just love this channel
The human Brian is not designed to always feel high emotions, love is not always feeling high, is unsustainable for the brain in the long run
I remember i used to laugh a lot around him watching comedy; to the extent he would would get pissed sometimes. I stopped all of a sudden before checking out physically & emotionally! He was shocked seeing me so cold!!...this was 7yrs ago & I never look back!
And he is still in your mind after 7 years
I can listen to Jessica all day :-)
thanks it nice information according to me i will continue to do good think to her.
I still hadn’t learned the lesson of just letting people go if they don’t want to be in your life up until literally last weekend. You notice instantly when things changes try to talk about it if you can if not let them walk away I know it’s hard if you live with the person which was my situation. Try to work something out
I saw all these with my ex. Not that I didn't know. Just wanted to see how she would end it. Then when she did, I told her all she did that I saw that she was out of it and we broke up in peace though I'm sure she was puzzled for days. Thanks Jess. Guess I know how to read break all the more now.