I have those thoughts myself in the past, it’s called passive suicidal ideation. Even if we think that we’re not gonna act on it, it is so important to reach out and let people know we’re struggling. I wish you peace and happiness, I hope we can all conquer those demons.
How many of us have opted to "stay" because we couldn't stomach how that would impact the people we'd leave behind? Yet I've spent years feeling dead inside
For me it's my grandma. The only person whom I've had a connection in person that I know I'd impact like a meteor. She dotes on me, without spoiling me. She almost "went" when she got cancer, but she won.
Listen I am going through it...35...single...virgin...caretaker for my mother who has dementia and depression...no help...cant afford the proper care she needs but make enough where the state wont help...working from home...but i still keep moving forward. This video is helping me get through another day...thank you
Brother. Be proud of how strong you are. You’re taking care of your mum regardless of the circumstances. You’re a warrior for that. Keep your head up, I’m proud of what you do and who you are.
It sounds like you're one to always put others in front of yourself. You're selfless, and that's a dang good quality trait 🌞 Don't forget to show some love to yourself. Do things you want to do because you want to do them. Try new things, things you've always wanted to try. Do it without feeling guilty, because you are incredibly deserving 🤍
I want to assure you there's nothing wrong with the things you mentioned because they do not define you nor your worth, you're way more than that. I admire your resilience and the care you put into your mother's well-being. I think it shows where your heart really is and that's beautiful. Give you some time to take care of yourself too because you matter.
@@angelmendoza2040then find them! Put yourself out there. Ask a guy for advice at a gym, ask a coworker to go eat after work, strike up a conversation with a neighbor, climb to the top of mountain and shout "I LOVE/HATE MARVEL MOVIES"
@@angelmendoza2040 call the resource in the description. call 911 if youre worried for your safety or someone elses. go to a clinic/doctor/nurse. they can give you community/social resources. theres always something you can try.
@redellanotte7215 honestly I agree just life's been rough these past months. Having a wife, kids and still feeling alone cause most of the time your alone or just working is rough. but 100% agree just sucks not being able to reach to someone not biased
Hi that’s me at 4:15 ! Just wanted to say how crucial it is to recognize when you are struggling and articulate it in some way. I neglected my suffering for way to long and isolated myself for no good reasons.
Out of everyone that spoke yours was the one I felt the most connected to. I’m going through a similar situation with my business. It really helps to hear people say it does get better because being in it definitely skews my perspective
Thank you for sharing your story it means a lot, one of my frends had a similar story to you and it was surprising to see someone that had a similar struggle.And i also feel like as soon as someone enters adulthood it can be hard for some.
as a teenager born with a medical condition and a fucked up face and voice, this really helps me a lot, along with music, Korn and other bands helps me to control my anger and depression
You’ve got great taste man, Korn is definitely an awesome Nu-Metal band. Music is personally for me, my only honest release and emotional outlet that is healthy. I don’t articulate or explain those emotions, for many hidden and repressed reasons like many people. I think you probably understand and comprehend the importance of this topic: No matter your condition, your mental illness, familial, religious, or any other aspect of your background you are NOT worthless, you are valuable, and you’ll within time have thousands of grand and bright opportunities in your future. I cannot say things will get permanently better, but your circumstances definitely will. I believe you will even if you possess those doubts about your qualities and abilities. Our minds can be the worst formation of weapons against us. There could be nothing to live for: Be stubborn, fight through that exhaustion, and wait it out. It’s far easier said than done I know, more than I’d ever want to. Building a future and new foundational chapter of your life will arrive accordingly, it’s just a matter of when it does. Anyways I’ll cease with the annoying summarization; I may not know who you are, but I love you bro. You are worth the world, even if you don’t think so. Don’t let ANYONE tell you different okay? 🖤❤️
I was about to take my life when I saw this. I am in debt of $6000 and have no job. Constant calls by people demanding their money. I had decided to just end it all until I saw this. I will keep pushing. And for everyone going through something, stay hard!! The world needs you
The money is nothing making money and archiving is also nothing just know that you have so many years ahead if not today definitely there tomorrow as long as your alive don’t stop trying and know having money in life is not what live is for as long as you got life live if what ever you need to do there is tomorrow try and try again but in the min time being happy should be first find it first either family friends or anything just find your joy that’s the key, then you keep trying
I don't know if it helps, but a lot of factories, janitorial services and security companies aren't picky. I know those aren't ideal jobs, but it's something to give you an income, at least
Really glad a video about mental health of men by CUT was made. Currently in my last year of Nursing School I'm not doing so well. Stay strong brothers.
Physiotherapist here, if you want to help other help yourself first. To carry a team in a dungeon you need to be over leveled. I hope you will be okay Healthcare can be tough 🫶
As a mental health crisis responder and someone who asks these questions on a daily basis, I just want to say kudos to the person who was conducting this video. Asking about suicide can be difficult and uncomfortable and you did a great job holding space for the vulnerability of these people. I hope you got to do something for yourself after this and THANK YOU for making a perfect example of how to open these types of conversations. Makes me feel extra proud to go into work today.
@ because I’m a crisis responder, it’s less about long term treatment and more about immediate safety assessment. So the big topics discussed are suicidality/homicidality, hallucinations, substance use, and affecting trauma. And based on the assessment we (myself/patient) can find the best method of immediate treatment or outcome. Do they need respite or in-patient hospitalization? Or can we create a safety plan together so that they can stay in the community. I don’t really consider advice to be apart of the conversation unless it’s requested by the patient since it should be a 2-way conversation, but if I give any it’s usually centered around acceptance of one’s struggles and that every journey looks different. Asking for help is often the first step in a life long journey and to never STOP asking for help. It’s always there somewhere and it’s great to be an option for many folks. Thanks for asking!
2:15 my dad committed suicide when i was 12. affected my mental health and my family tremendously. But I value it as a lesson. I loved my dad and he loved me very much he left a note telling me he was sorry. His death could've been prevented and I encourage everybody even an uncomfortable situations to check in on all family members and show love when possible. Substance abuse and alcoholism pushed him to the edge over his whole life and encourage everybody to be strong and dedicated to your health so that you can become the best version of yourself for your family and your future. Thanks for reading🙏
My mom passed away August of 2023 and at the time, my baby boy was only 6 months old. Late spring of 2024, I got offered a job a thousand miles away in another state and my wife and son moved with me to start a new life. But it's a bittersweet feeling watching my boy grow and experience the world and my mother isn't here to enjoy it with us. And in days when I'm feeling overwhelmed (I'm the breadwinner and sole provider) I feel like giving up but I know that's not what my mom would've wanted. I try to remind myself that this financial struggle is only temporary and my son needs me. And I pray that the universe gives us all strength to keep going. Stay strong, brothers. 🙏🏼❤️
I offer my condolences man. When you are feeling overwhelmed and defeated, just take a deep breath and remind yourself that you are doing the BEST you can for your family. I don't want to minimize your situation at all. Try to focus on things you have control over and find positive outlets
You’re doing everything right man! I don’t even know you yet your story makes me really happy. I’m really sorry about your mother, but it sounds like she would know that you can do it and are doing great man. It’s sounds like your mom did a great job raising you, and your wife and child sound like they’re extremely lucky to have you in their lives. They must be very proud of you and I know your mom would be proud of you too man! Sending all good vibes and best wishes from one trying man to another! 🙏
Guys!!! You are not weak! Not a loser! And definitely not less than a man. I have so many things i want to say but i have limited English words. Go stand up! Not for anyone else but for yourself and for tour principles in life. I miss my dad. He has passed away now.
I love what you had to say. Just wanted to say my condolences and to encourage you to express yourself as fully as possible, in your language. We've got auto-translate features on our programs and apps now.
Love what you said that’s how I think after a almost three years of social anxiety and depression now that am confident and strong than a mf that’s how I feel
I hope you’re doing ok:( though that hold may never be filled with her physical presence, she can still live on through you. Doing activities she did or appreciating the things she had. Sending love your way❤️
How *other men handle* men’s emotions / feelings. This has always been a toxic masculinity thing; men not being able to show emotions. Half of the population (women) in society, have welcomed men to be more open and vulnerable for decades.
@@travelpro23but when we show weakness and cry in front of our girlfriend, we get shunned and they see us in a different light. That's why men need to have guy friends.
@ this is not true across the board. It sounds like you’ve had too much exposure to social media, as you’re just regurgitating what you’ve seen other men try to say is true regarding this topic. If someone makes fun of you or thinks less of you for having a human emotion, then that’s a case by case basis thing, not a gender thing - women have been begging men to open up for centuries and to use “women seeing you differently” as an excuse, is just another excuse, to stay closed off and not experience true emotional intimacy with a woman. Sounds like you have some maturing to do.
As a man, I think mental health needs to be spoken about even more as males. It's very hard to process emotions when we've always been told to "tough it out" "be a man", but honestly I am glad I was able to talk to someone about my mental health. Talking with friends, texting a homie and saying, "hey! Shit is not good." "Life sucks!" Having some homies that can listen to you and not bullshit on you can really help a man through some rough patches in their lives. Men's mental health doesn't get talked about as much as it should and I am glad this channel is tackling this topic.
Until you reach a point with your girlfriend where she keeps nagging about whats going on with you, find the courage to speak out about your struggles and imminently seeing change in the relationship until it falls apart
I really wish I could have been part of the production of this. (Hug Coordinator) I just wanna be that person who gives every single one of these strong individuals a giant hug and just give them that moment to embrace a complete stranger and allow them to cry a bit and let them know they’re not alone. This is really important. Thank you CUT for this upload.
Am between thinking of it daily and being so scared of the pain for and the people around me. It sucks. Now am just existing while thinking about it daily
Brother I am praying for you so hard. I promise you will make it through to the other side. I been through it. Please keep holding on. God will catch you. Keep enduring.
Life does get better. It’s not a sprint, it’s a marathon. Been over a year now that I’ve been going to therapy, to work on my trauma not just for myself, but also my kids because we all deserve the best version of me. Continuing to grow and work towards the best me has been very eye opening for me because I get to be the best father for my kids that I wish I had when I was growing up. Healing that inner child is what I’ve always needed and didn’t realize that until recent. It’s never an easy journey, but it sure as hell is worth it.
As someone who thinks about it many times everyday, I couldn't even imagine how someone could say theyve never thought about it. They have to be lying.
I think there's a difference between seriously thinking about it and pondering it or just having a quick flash due to sadness or frustration. The saying goes "suicide is a very permanent solution to a very temporary problem." The people who seriously consider it are the ones who's temporary problems aren't so temporary, or at least don't seem temporary to those enduring them.
@@Didymus-vz6uy exactly. People use that as an answer and justification but some situations aren't temporary. I would never suggest someone commit suicide, but I certainly don't blame people for expressing those thoughts and if they do end their lives, this was a last resort
I have never, even at my lowest, considered suicide. Not one time has it seemed like an answer. Not judging, just saying that not everyone is wired the same.
@@64scoundrel agreed. One thing I'd be curious to ask people who have tried it or thought about it is if they just got tired of trying to succeed in life. I honestly don't think a lot of them view it as a solution, but rather a way to "stop playing the 'game'."
People don't understand the strength it takes to think about it every day and not do it because you are sticking around for others. I understand the struggle and I admire you for not acting. The world is better with you in it.
Mental health is incredibly important. I'm a life long sufferer of anxiety and ADD. Life has thrown me a curve ball in the last year, and it triggered some of the worst anxiety I have ever had. Insomnia, heart palpitations, just to name a few. I finally got to a point where I said I need help, I can't suffer like this anymore. I reached out and found a therapist and have been going for the last 6 months. I was also put on medication to further assist me and to feel that sense of normalcy again. I feel like a totally different person. To anyone out there that is struggling, please reach out and ask for help. It is never too late to get help.
Yes but we should also try to find solutions for ourselves. We can’t constantly be in depression mode sometimes I’ve felt like ending things many times and when I talked about it I found solutions
To all men, I seriously hope you guys are okay, physically and mentally. And I hope you are able to talk to someone about this shit. I know how much mental health sucks. It will bet better though, you can do this. I love you all 🤍
It's not even sadness most of the time, but the feeling that whatever you are going through right now? Will continue to happen again and again with no idea of when it will stop.
@@jialian93 GEEEEEEZ. I hope it came from a place of love, of not wanting to see your child suffer any longer. But gosh .. that’s definitely NOT the response to give.
It came to mind twice at the beginning of my military career. I left my home, left my friends and family for a woman who I really loved at the time to do me wrong… I was living in an aircraft carrier in really crappy conditions such as no hot water or light sometimes in the restroom, mold, and a small bed… I was GOING through it… not to mention the pressure coming from her.. I’m still here and alive because god came into my life. I remember crying and weeping in my car entire weekends. I had to tell my friends and family how great my life was in the military just cover my own sadness.
@ and that’s okay man we all have a different path in life, so no judgement here that’s up to our Heavenly Father. I’m glad you’re okay that’s all that matters brother. I decided to stay in because I made E-5 in 3 years.
@@ElMarcoHoJI’m in your place too man. Gotta take it one day at a time. I know that message gets annoying especially if each day feels so hard. I dont know a better solution myself but we gotta have at least a drop of hope, if not for us then other people struggling like us
@@zackery5678 Appreciate it brother. I've been up and down lately, some days are better than others. I'm out a walk right now and it feels great haha, you hang in there yourself.
Men friendships need to check in on each other. Ask the real questions. Be transparent in the ones that will keep your confessions to the heart and won’t gossip
Im so glad this video came about. I thought about ending things when i was 9 or 10 years old mainly due to some mistakes i made at that time that got my mother upset and disappointed in me, and i thought i would me things easier by leaving. However when the school contacted my mom about it she cried and cried knowing how much it would devastate her if i did that. Also having to fit certain criterias to having friends while constantly getting bullied for most of my life was making it worse. The pain subsided for a while but here i am at the age of 28 and these thoughts crept up in my mind every day. I cant tell you how much it hurts and how agonize on that every day. However along the way i was able to meet new friends that i felt more comfortable in talking to and be myself with them and accepted me for who i am. And the fact that i still have a parent that still cares for me deeply means everything in the world to me. So im doing the best i can to fight this thing and sooner rather than later I'll strive to be the best version of myself and one that will be filled with a lifetime full of happiness. Thank you all for hearing me out.
2:25 wow it's so strange to hear your own thoughts but from another person. I have/had this "rule" too because my mom already committed suicide. I know tbh that was maybe not the healthiest way to deal with it but it helped me. I'm better now :)
Male and female socialization is very different. Women evolved to commune around other women to survive. Men don’t so it can affect our lifespan and health. Because men must compete directly to procreate we make friends who we do constructive things with.
Its courage to even broach this subject on such a big public platform. Kudos to everyone for sharing 🙌🏾 Its really tough out here, if you're reading this.. i hope you find a way to live thru the dark moments.. come on, you got this! ✌🏾
I almost clicked off of the video a few minutes in due to shame and a weird feeling of betrayal. I’m so glad I finished watching. Thank you. You’re giving hope to every man who watches this. Talk to someone I promise it gets better!
I truly appreciate CUT for opening up their platform to create the space for men to speak on mental health and be open and vulnerable about their lives.
My grandma is 87 years old and she has been through many ups and downs and whenever I'm in stress I like to talk to her but I never tell her what I'm going through or what my problems are I just sit beside her and just listen to her life. In these 87 years of her life she has seen many ups and downs she saw her whole birth family dead, her children death and her grandchildren death, she's a strong person and she always inspires me. One time I asked her for one life advice that she'd give to me she said "time never stays the same". This is what she said after my cousin committed suicide she said "time will change son, never lose hope" and I live by her words. Whenever I'm stressed i talk with old people. I don't tell my problems but I just listen to them the problems they have been through and still survive this always help me and I feel grateful for what I have and remind me "it'll be over". I hope my little story will help u. Just let me know if I was any help to u
This is one of the best, if not THE best, video you guys have done (obv from a man's perspective) in years. Thanks to all the men who agreed to be in this video. Obviously all the women that came before (in many other vids) bearing their souls are also massively appreciated. This one just hits home for me. Especially in the new era of the orange asshat... it's important to understand that some guys have feelings.
Just taking a moment to thank all of these wonderful people who expressed their relation with such emotions. Currently 2 years sober from self harm...damn I am grateful to be here. Bless all yall xoxo You are loved, for you are love
Thank guys for opening up. Learning your struggles a bit & how you feel is what’s helping me personally, to better understand what it’s like on the other side.
Besides the shillish betterhelp ad break (Cut, y'all have more than enough money to skip a sponsorship once in a while, ESPECIALLY for content that features such heavy subject matter) this a great video for anyone who has had these same thoughts. There is a comfort and validation, at least for myself, when hearing other people describe having literally the same thoughts as I have. It really helps knowing we're not alone with our feelings.
No, it’s a good thing they posted better help in this video as their ad. It’s a perfect way to get the help you need, because I can guarantee you that some people watching this video or the ones who participated don’t even know the first step to getting help. Help is not talked about enough in men’s mental health but it needs to be and we are starting to see that. It’s a really great way to guide people.
You know what amazes me? The fact that every sector on the internet which teaches about depression and its consequences has the most wholesome comment section. I struggled a lot in my life and next year im gonna start a yt channel about my experience and my appeoach on gaining happiness again.
Hello Cut! Just wanted to send out my appreciation for your videos! Been a subscriber for quite some time, and working at a number of inpatient psychiatric facilities for a total of 6 years now. So being able to display videos that are this real and genuine really help to normalize to men/ women/ or any other gender identities the topics of mental health. SO HUGE THANK YOU. I did want to make a request on a video topic that I've noticed is not talked about enough... And imagining its presented in this way... I'd hope would bring about awareness.. "100 Men Get Honest About Porn Addiction." Just a suggestion! Hope someday to see this on Cut's page!
Weird that when you said "normalize talking about mental health" it's for men/women/ any identity but when it came to porn addiction you only want 100 "men" to get honest..
I'm very happy to see this discussion being had. I think about suicide every single day. With my depression and whatever else that may be fueling it, suicidal thoughts cross my mind at least once or twice a day, if not a lot more on bad days. Although I've attempted in the past, I've found mechanisms to where I don't consider myself at risk in any way today. Yet, it is still important to talk about the daily struggle of mental health in me and other men. I would not be where I am today if I did not reach out, rely on the people I trusted the least, and got the community and help I needed. This isn't a unique experience, I am a financially well-off man in my late 20s, I have a great community, a wonderful list of hobbies and passions, a good job, I am decently good looking, happy with myself and my life, but my depression still exists. I hope people can understand that it's okay to bring these things up, recognize for some with depression/ptsd/or whatever else that it is an eternal battle, and that it is completely normal to live a fulfilling life alongside these thoughts.
I hope you start to feel better and count your blessings. Things can always always always always be a lot worse. I'm 39, wasted 10 years after my dad died on drugs and depression, no career, savings, overweight. I'm working on myself now.
Me im 21, planning and promised to myself to end it at 30. I've opened up to my friends and parents, i learned that they only really care about it at first but after an hour or so it's out of their minds. So i never opened up about my experiences and shit. Knowing that nobody will actually care about it and actually do something to help makes it worse. So im here just isolating and shit. So far im doing good. But still im doing it at 30 no matter what. It's a promise to myself
Sending love and letting you know you are brave enough to open up. There are people that care (including me) and that you are so important to this world. Hope you change your mind in the future. Much love.❤❤
I have when I was younger because of feeling like I was never enough for my parents and meeting their expectations of being the A grade student all through elementary and ever since I've made myself a promise to myself to never let that kid ever let him go down that deep hole of sadness no matter what life may through at him and I'm glad because even now as an adult and a breakup that was very dear to me, I allowed myself to cry and the works but never considered that option ever again.
I’m constantly working on myself. I’ve had suicidal thoughts since I was 8 years old. Hell, I still do. It’s such an uphill battle. The only thing that keeps me here is the uncertain transition after death’s door, and the fact that it would cripple my mother.
My suicidal ideation started for me at 9 years old, ive suffered with it more than 16 years. Ive spent more of my life hoping something will end than not. Knowing how it would destroy my mom as a person us all that keeps me going. I cant make her burry her firstborn
I’ve been going through a rough patch in life, but never have considered it. My father recently passed away. It’s been though art and music how I’ve been dealing this with; my catharsis. I uploaded something to my channel as a way to show my love to my OG. I’ve cried a lot these days, but I’ve been staying strong for my son.
When I went to therapy for the first time and filled out forms and took the questionnaire about my mental health, I was mind blown . He told me that I scored high for anxiety and depression. For years I just thought I had days where I was just sad here and there and wished I could disappear.
I am so glad that each one of these brave men we’re selfless enough to share their stories and experiences. Know that you are loved. sending healing, love and positivity to each one of them and each one of you that reads this.
Me right now. Embarrassed myself a few days back, lied to my closest people, drank to feel better, made things worse. Haven't been able to face life. Not planning on giving up right now but i for sure am fighting the thoughts BAD. Pray for me please.
This is a very important topic for men. Share this on your social media channels please. The world needs to see more men openly talking about these feelings
This is what I needed to hear ! I’ve really been struggling for the past year, I’m 24 and going back to my mom’s house saved my life. WE are not alone in this fight brothers WE got this 💪🏾❤️
WHY are you still doing BetterHelp sponsored ADs? They have a ton of scummy practices and controversy where they take advantage of mentally unwell people.
@@zackery5678mostly the therapist on there are very jumpy a lot of times they don't respond and then you end up paying money and not getting anything for it on top of that they've been shown to recommend advice that's bad for you and generally not accepted in the mental health community
Not giving them any passes because I'm not sure what people mean when they say this, but they've offered me free care for the rest of the year after my area was devastated by Helene and I love my therapist. I'm grateful for them.
I wish I could hug all the people in this video. They are strong for being honest with themselves and us. And they deserve to be happy and live a beautiful life
I’m female but I’m pretty masculine, I like girls and I relate to the isolation and alienation that a lot of men have. I never reached out for help and when I did, it always backfired. Last year at this time, I took a bunch of pills, hoping I wouldn’t wake up the next morning. While I was OD’ing my parents luckily found me in the bathroom. Everything that followed after that was pure hell and I ended up having to get admitted and I’m living with this stigma for the rest of my life. I’ll never allow myself to be out into that situation again. My reason to keep going on now is because I’ve made my life purpose to take revenge on existence by making this world my b***. And I think all those that suffered should too. Life has changed SO MUCH since last year. I still live with the scars but I see a light at the end of tunnel. I still look forward to death but I feel I’d be doing myself and those that know me or could know a disservice because I’m not fully experiencing life to the best of my ability while I’m still here. It’s important that you find your purpose. I realized for myself that there is no inherent purpose and that’s why it’s so important to create your own. I find meaning in punk rock and shout out to the guy in the vid wearing the NOFX shirt. If you’re seeing this, sorry for your losses!! To all the machos who want to get out some aggression and angst in a healthy way, definitely look up the band called “Hatebreed”. It’s metal but full of positive messages. Keep on keeping on ppl, don’t bottle it all up. That’s cowardice, not masculine. True masculinity is whatever you want it to be but stay healthy.
As a man myself, I hate being a man. I hate being in my own skin because of all the expectations being placed on me by the people who "Claim" to care about me. "Suck it up" "There are people in worse positions than you" "The world doesn't revolve around you" "Be a man" "Grow up" these words are forever glued into my skull and I hate being in my own skin because I feel like I'm worthless because I can never live up to anybody's expectations not even my own. Depression and Mental Health is a killer, and people don't wanna acknowledge it, because the only thing people want to do is judge. Judge first and ask questions never. Mental Health and Depression are monsters. Monsters no one wants to live with.
Guy at 2:25 makes such an important point, suicide is already viewed as “the most selfish act” (I do not personally believe this), and yet if someone close to you already has, that guilt and pressure is compounded even more by the previous person. Even though you have the same feelings as the first person, you’re viewed so differently for some reason. Really liked hearing this perspective, thanks everyone for sharing and de-stigmatizing 🙏🏼
I'm 18 yrs old. When I feel that life challenges me gives me tribulations, adversities, anything that is bad going on in my life; I take it as an opportunity to grow and learn. I hit rock bottom moment last month, almost got lost in the thought that why is this happening to me? But then suddenly I remember that this thing happens for a reason.
The only thing a scarrier than death is the thought of spending 80 years in this insipid, joyless, distopia. Just because youre alive doesnt mean youre living.
Hate that I’m late to this video but this depicts exactly why mental health is important. It’s always been a topic I wish I could just sit down with someone and discuss this with and then there’s that part that doesn’t want to open up and express on an emotional level. This video hit really hard and it hurt to watch and hear what these guys are going through . It’s healthy to let it out but when you actually realize so many guys go through this shit and hide it all down it just hits a certain spot seeing the expressions on their face as they come clean about their attempts or the truth about wanting to act on it really just digs deep. Loneliness is a perfect example of this and I can say I’ve had a lot of experience with that and so many people feel that but you just won’t know who it is, a lot of the times I just genuinely feel burned out and so tired of a lot of things but I know I got to keep the fuel going and gotta keep it together. One of the parts I liked from the video is when one of the guys said “it doesn’t make me a bad guy or a sad guy just means I’ve gone through shit” . I’ve found reading about mental health and looking more into it to understand helps alot for the most part, hope that anyone reading this whatever your going through either depression, loneliness, severe anxiety etc hope things turn out the best for you nobody deserves to feel that it’s definitely the worst.
Congratulations on making the hardest step! I hope you will find the right therapist. Remember if this one won't feel right you can always find someone different. Their approach to things vary.
This a nice video. It reminds me that im not alone. I'll never meet these men, they'll never know me, but i know I'm not alone because these guys are me. We all have brothers in spirit and soul going through the same struggles as us, and that's kind of comforting in a macabre way. Keep Swimming, brothers.
Trans woman here. I figured things out in 2019, I believe. Partly, at least. I tried in 2020. Now, in 2024, I am waiting for my appointment on November 26th for my first estrogen appointment. Things can and WILL get better. Just wait one more day. Hell, even if just out of spite. That's what got me going until now that I can do what I need to do. "If I'm going, I'm going my damn way and not because you pushed me out, world" was my mantra during those times. It really does help. And remember, someone smiled because they saw you today. And you smiled for that same reason. Keep smiling and talk. You'll do wonders, I know
@@Anisse_N_Spices You've had to wait a long damned time to begin your journey, so you've every right to feel that way. What you wrote could very well help another trans person to carry on. If it wouldn't cause you any discomfort, you're welcome to share more of your plans. You're fascinating and I'm interested in knowing what it's like to walk a mile in your shoes. You'll receive nothing but respect from me if you decide to divulge more or not.
I’m a father and husband who is stuck in a job that is really affecting my mental health issues I’ve always struggled with (depression and anxiety). I find myself wondering again on the difficult days whether or not it’s worth staying, but I love my family so so much and I want to continue to fight through everything for them. I’ve gotten through valleys before, I just need to continue to recognize that what I’m feeling isn’t going to last forever
Whenever I start worrying about the future, I just remind myself: If things go to hell, I could always just off myself. This actually makes me feel better.
I truly feel horrible for everyone who goes through this. I truly do. I had cancer, and thought I was going to die in 6 months. Sometimes, your thoughts can be like quicksand. ... The more you think about something, the more you're going to think about it. It can be a nasty cycle. Just think, you made it this far. I believe that there is a higher being somewhere out there, not sure where.... but there is something out there for sure.... But just when you least expect it, you'll hear or see something, and it will trigger a new thought in a positive way, and things will change for you! All you need to do is pay attention and listen. Just listen! Stay well everyone!
This video hit right at home because I just can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel right now. It feels like I’m drowning and I’m just getting tired of swimming and having to weather storm after storm...
You know, idk if this is unhealthy but there’s been MULTIPLE times in my life where my life seemed so perfect at that moment that I would think “This would be the perfect time to die” but I’ve been using that as a way to live. To hold out and wait for another time that I think would be good to do it.
My father is 70. In an only child… he feels I don’t need him anymore and that he is a burden on me since he was forced into early retirement with no $ to support that. I sold my house and moved with my father to support him. He has COPD and isn’t doing well.He is so suicidal and I don’t know how 3”/3 to show him that I’m here for him regardless of anything. He is my dad, my best friend and my hero. I don’t know what else to do
Sorry to hear that. Maybe you can start a YTube channel and make money from it so many people are doing that. Your town/city should also have social days out for carers and you can take your dad out to these too. It may make him feel better. Your local Dr surgery should have information on carer clubs (social days out) Does he stay home all the time or go out? Maybe he needs some new hobbies or a routine where he goes into the garden too, maybe he can do some gardening if he’s well enough. Or you can buy things like jigsaw puzzle and both do it together. Or watch old movies. Maybe your Dr surgery can offer him some mental health therapy if he feels like that too. Always good to mention it to them. Best of luck, I hope things get better
I had a spot picked out where I was going to drive my car off of. One of the few things that held me back was the fear I might hurt someone in my attempt. Which made me feel like a weak coward, and compounded my depression. What pulled me back was actually finding a therapist that was a great fit for me. There is hope that exists, I really hope you find it if these feelings are in your life.
The problem about the “I don’t want to hurt your family” argument is that you want to end it because you feel like a burden but can’t because you’ll cause more pain in doing so. So life just becomes a never ending hell where it feels like you are constantly drowning with no way to breathe. sometimes light enters your darkness, brightening your miserable life just enough for you to glimpse the exit, but just as quick as it enters, it leaves. You watch as people come and go, leaving you behind in your hole. You sometimes feel sorry for yourself, but more than anything, you are angry. You don’t hate others, only yourself. Every stumble, every problem, every time you made a mistake, you make sure to remember it. You try to do better, but you will never be enough. You just wallow in pain in your bed, isolating yourself from the reality you so desperately want to escape from. You can’t sleep as that’s where your thoughts are, so you mindlessly scroll or watch something to try and ignore your existence for at least one moment. When you finally sleep, you hope never to wake up. However, you do, and the nightmare continues.
Hard agree. It sucks because ultimately most suicide prevention essentially boils down to "Don't do this to the people close to you". Then you distill this sentiment down to the base truth which is "what you're going through doesn't matter to me/us, don't do it to *us*". Ultimately societal suicide prevention completely screwed as there's never gonna be any genuine care towards what individual is going through, only how he or she ends up benefiting or affecting society as a whole.
If I was given a diagnosis for stage 4 cancer I would feel so much relief I think I would cry. I could finally let go and nobody would judge me or be hurt from my passing in comparison to the pain I would cause from taking my own life.
it’s so exhausting whenever people say that men should open up about their feelings but the times we do, it’s “you’re a grown man.” or “man up.” what do you want?
@@The73rdSecret We have to be there for each other. Lend support. This is a cruel world and it's only going to get worse. We don't have to face our issues alone but if you don't have anyone in that moment, remember that you have yourself to depend on.
Sorry about that and I think you deserve better. Things will get better. Coming from a total stranger, this may be unwelcome but if you need help I am willing to help.
This makes me grateful for my dad. He would let me cry and get stuff off my chest. Then he would give the best sound advice. Id walk away stronger than before. Dont know what I'm going to do when he passes.
Admitting that you are struggling is apparently a sign of strength, but unfortunately society will call you weak for it. It’s like a double bind, where damned if you do and damned if you don’t.
I'd want a video about "Anything to share about your mental health ?" to be done as well, not just suicide. I think it might put a thousands lights on the subject rather than a laser focus on this very specific question and lead to interesting discussions and thoughts
“I’m not going to jump in front of a bus, but I also don’t care if one hits me” is how I feel sometimes.
REAL
I have those thoughts myself in the past, it’s called passive suicidal ideation. Even if we think that we’re not gonna act on it, it is so important to reach out and let people know we’re struggling. I wish you peace and happiness, I hope we can all conquer those demons.
Same here I feel this way to
Fr chain
What would mike perry do in your shoes. Do that. Thats a mindset you could have
How many of us have opted to "stay" because we couldn't stomach how that would impact the people we'd leave behind? Yet I've spent years feeling dead inside
Not me I wouldn't care
@jaysouthmusic8230 Why would you?
sometimes, even to live is an act of courage
That’s the only reason I haven’t
For me it's my grandma. The only person whom I've had a connection in person that I know I'd impact like a meteor. She dotes on me, without spoiling me. She almost "went" when she got cancer, but she won.
Listen I am going through it...35...single...virgin...caretaker for my mother who has dementia and depression...no help...cant afford the proper care she needs but make enough where the state wont help...working from home...but i still keep moving forward.
This video is helping me get through another day...thank you
Please hang on! Help is available! You matter!!
You're doing AMAZING 🩶🫂
Brother. Be proud of how strong you are. You’re taking care of your mum regardless of the circumstances. You’re a warrior for that. Keep your head up, I’m proud of what you do and who you are.
It sounds like you're one to always put others in front of yourself. You're selfless, and that's a dang good quality trait 🌞 Don't forget to show some love to yourself. Do things you want to do because you want to do them. Try new things, things you've always wanted to try. Do it without feeling guilty, because you are incredibly deserving 🤍
I want to assure you there's nothing wrong with the things you mentioned because they do not define you nor your worth, you're way more than that. I admire your resilience and the care you put into your mother's well-being. I think it shows where your heart really is and that's beautiful. Give you some time to take care of yourself too because you matter.
Bros, talk to your boys. Talk to someone.
You are not alone.
What if you don't have someone ? No friends or family that care?
@@angelmendoza2040then find them! Put yourself out there. Ask a guy for advice at a gym, ask a coworker to go eat after work, strike up a conversation with a neighbor, climb to the top of mountain and shout "I LOVE/HATE MARVEL MOVIES"
@@angelmendoza2040 call the resource in the description. call 911 if youre worried for your safety or someone elses. go to a clinic/doctor/nurse. they can give you community/social resources. theres always something you can try.
@@angelmendoza2040well, you have to do it on your own, find something that you like and keeps you mentally busy, it could be a simple sport or a hobby
@redellanotte7215 honestly I agree just life's been rough these past months. Having a wife, kids and still feeling alone cause most of the time your alone or just working is rough. but 100% agree just sucks not being able to reach to someone not biased
Hi that’s me at 4:15 ! Just wanted to say how crucial it is to recognize when you are struggling and articulate it in some way. I neglected my suffering for way to long and isolated myself for no good reasons.
Men should never share their pain with any women but only other men.
Big hugs J! Thank you for sharing your story.
Thank you for opening up on this topic, it’s very brave of you to stand there and talk about it! I hope you are doing well and keep doing well!
Out of everyone that spoke yours was the one I felt the most connected to. I’m going through a similar situation with my business. It really helps to hear people say it does get better because being in it definitely skews my perspective
Thank you for sharing your story it means a lot, one of my frends had a similar story to you and it was surprising to see someone that had a similar struggle.And i also feel like as soon as someone enters adulthood it can be hard for some.
as a teenager born with a medical condition and a fucked up face and voice, this really helps me a lot, along with music, Korn and other bands helps me to control my anger and depression
Keep on marching on brother! Korn rules!
You just gotta use your pain to fuel you to achieve greatness, that’s how I cope whether I become great or not ❤
You’ve got great taste man, Korn is definitely an awesome Nu-Metal band. Music is personally for me, my only honest release and emotional outlet that is healthy. I don’t articulate or explain those emotions, for many hidden and repressed reasons like many people. I think you probably understand and comprehend the importance of this topic: No matter your condition, your mental illness, familial, religious, or any other aspect of your background you are NOT worthless, you are valuable, and you’ll within time have thousands of grand and bright opportunities in your future. I cannot say things will get permanently better, but your circumstances definitely will. I believe you will even if you possess those doubts about your qualities and abilities. Our minds can be the worst formation of weapons against us. There could be nothing to live for: Be stubborn, fight through that exhaustion, and wait it out. It’s far easier said than done I know, more than I’d ever want to. Building a future and new foundational chapter of your life will arrive accordingly, it’s just a matter of when it does. Anyways I’ll cease with the annoying summarization; I may not know who you are, but I love you bro. You are worth the world, even if you don’t think so. Don’t let ANYONE tell you different okay? 🖤❤️
Bring me the Horizon was that band that’s helped me with my depression
Heavy music can be therapeutic, I know it's saved me more than a few times
I was about to take my life when I saw this. I am in debt of $6000 and have no job. Constant calls by people demanding their money. I had decided to just end it all until I saw this. I will keep pushing. And for everyone going through something, stay hard!! The world needs you
Keep going dude!! You matter!
I am so happy you are here. You are by default more valuable than any amount of money. ❤
I really hope someone can guide you through debt management.
You’re more valuable than any amount of money.
The money is nothing making money and archiving is also nothing just know that you have so many years ahead if not today definitely there tomorrow as long as your alive don’t stop trying and know having money in life is not what live is for as long as you got life live if what ever you need to do there is tomorrow try and try again but in the min time being happy should be first find it first either family friends or anything just find your joy that’s the key, then you keep trying
I don't know if it helps, but a lot of factories, janitorial services and security companies aren't picky.
I know those aren't ideal jobs, but it's something to give you an income, at least
Really glad a video about mental health of men by CUT was made. Currently in my last year of Nursing School I'm not doing so well. Stay strong brothers.
Hope things get better for you
Just know you’re going through it for a reason! Don’t be afraid of therapy, you got it man💪
Nursing school can be brutal, you are not alone and things will get better. You'll get through this 💪
Hey! I’m going through my prereqs rn and some things are incredibly hard but you are smart and can get through it I believe in you
Physiotherapist here, if you want to help other help yourself first. To carry a team in a dungeon you need to be over leveled. I hope you will be okay Healthcare can be tough 🫶
As a mental health crisis responder and someone who asks these questions on a daily basis, I just want to say kudos to the person who was conducting this video. Asking about suicide can be difficult and uncomfortable and you did a great job holding space for the vulnerability of these people. I hope you got to do something for yourself after this and THANK YOU for making a perfect example of how to open these types of conversations. Makes me feel extra proud to go into work today.
What are the conversations you typically have on the job? What advice do you give people?
@ because I’m a crisis responder, it’s less about long term treatment and more about immediate safety assessment. So the big topics discussed are suicidality/homicidality, hallucinations, substance use, and affecting trauma. And based on the assessment we (myself/patient) can find the best method of immediate treatment or outcome. Do they need respite or in-patient hospitalization? Or can we create a safety plan together so that they can stay in the community.
I don’t really consider advice to be apart of the conversation unless it’s requested by the patient since it should be a 2-way conversation, but if I give any it’s usually centered around acceptance of one’s struggles and that every journey looks different. Asking for help is often the first step in a life long journey and to never STOP asking for help. It’s always there somewhere and it’s great to be an option for many folks.
Thanks for asking!
Conversation is important but the phrase ‘committing suicide’ still has negative connotations and shouldn’t be used.
@@AitchC It shouldn't. Commit is a valid term. Commit means to do or carry out an action in that context.
2:15 my dad committed suicide when i was 12. affected my mental health and my family tremendously. But I value it as a lesson. I loved my dad and he loved me very much he left a note telling me he was sorry. His death could've been prevented and I encourage everybody even an uncomfortable situations to check in on all family members and show love when possible. Substance abuse and alcoholism pushed him to the edge over his whole life and encourage everybody to be strong and dedicated to your health so that you can become the best version of yourself for your family and your future. Thanks for reading🙏
I’m sorry you went through that. I’m glad he was able to leave something behind to tell you that he still loved you. Hope things are better.
My mom passed away August of 2023 and at the time, my baby boy was only 6 months old. Late spring of 2024, I got offered a job a thousand miles away in another state and my wife and son moved with me to start a new life. But it's a bittersweet feeling watching my boy grow and experience the world and my mother isn't here to enjoy it with us. And in days when I'm feeling overwhelmed (I'm the breadwinner and sole provider) I feel like giving up but I know that's not what my mom would've wanted. I try to remind myself that this financial struggle is only temporary and my son needs me. And I pray that the universe gives us all strength to keep going. Stay strong, brothers. 🙏🏼❤️
Your mother maybe gone, but you didn't lose her. Remember the good times, PEACE AND BLESSINGS ☮️🙏🏿
I’m sure part of her lives within your son ! I honestly believe no one’s ever truly gone !
I offer my condolences man. When you are feeling overwhelmed and defeated, just take a deep breath and remind yourself that you are doing the BEST you can for your family. I don't want to minimize your situation at all. Try to focus on things you have control over and find positive outlets
You’re doing everything right man! I don’t even know you yet your story makes me really happy. I’m really sorry about your mother, but it sounds like she would know that you can do it and are doing great man. It’s sounds like your mom did a great job raising you, and your wife and child sound like they’re extremely lucky to have you in their lives. They must be very proud of you and I know your mom would be proud of you too man!
Sending all good vibes and best wishes from one trying man to another! 🙏
Stay strong, brother! Much live and respect from one brother to another!!
Guys!!! You are not weak! Not a loser! And definitely not less than a man. I have so many things i want to say but i have limited English words. Go stand up! Not for anyone else but for yourself and for tour principles in life.
I miss my dad. He has passed away now.
@Derek-0777 then that is your decision stranger. Congratulations on deciding that your fight is over.
@@Myothers1992 damn
I love what you had to say. Just wanted to say my condolences and to encourage you to express yourself as fully as possible, in your language. We've got auto-translate features on our programs and apps now.
Love what you said that’s how I think after a almost three years of social anxiety and depression now that am confident and strong than a mf that’s how I feel
Men that cry or complain are WEAK, shut up and work😂
Losing my mother is probably one of the toughest things I ever had to deal with. And today it isn’t any easier.
I am so scared of the day my mum dies. My heart goes out to you!❤
I hope you’re doing ok:( though that hold may never be filled with her physical presence, she can still live on through you. Doing activities she did or appreciating the things she had. Sending love your way❤️
🙏🏾❤️
RIP MAN 🙏🏽🖤
May she rest in peace
Title alone got my like. As a male I’ve become more and more aware of my mental state and how society handles men’s emotions/feelings.
How *other men handle* men’s emotions / feelings. This has always been a toxic masculinity thing; men not being able to show emotions. Half of the population (women) in society, have welcomed men to be more open and vulnerable for decades.
@@travelpro23but when we show weakness and cry in front of our girlfriend, we get shunned and they see us in a different light. That's why men need to have guy friends.
@ this is not true across the board. It sounds like you’ve had too much exposure to social media, as you’re just regurgitating what you’ve seen other men try to say is true regarding this topic. If someone makes fun of you or thinks less of you for having a human emotion, then that’s a case by case basis thing, not a gender thing - women have been begging men to open up for centuries and to use “women seeing you differently” as an excuse, is just another excuse, to stay closed off and not experience true emotional intimacy with a woman.
Sounds like you have some maturing to do.
@@travelpro23not online at all though, male stats about ending it are used as jokes by women on here.
As a man, I think mental health needs to be spoken about even more as males. It's very hard to process emotions when we've always been told to "tough it out" "be a man", but honestly I am glad I was able to talk to someone about my mental health.
Talking with friends, texting a homie and saying, "hey! Shit is not good." "Life sucks!" Having some homies that can listen to you and not bullshit on you can really help a man through some rough patches in their lives.
Men's mental health doesn't get talked about as much as it should and I am glad this channel is tackling this topic.
Until you reach a point with your girlfriend where she keeps nagging about whats going on with you, find the courage to speak out about your struggles and imminently seeing change in the relationship until it falls apart
The guy talking about getting tired of swimming... I feel that.
Smoke a cig, do some pushups
I hope you’re doing okay brother!
I really wish I could have been part of the production of this. (Hug Coordinator)
I just wanna be that person who gives every single one of these strong individuals a giant hug and just give them that moment to embrace a complete stranger and allow them to cry a bit and let them know they’re not alone.
This is really important. Thank you CUT for this upload.
Am between thinking of it daily and being so scared of the pain for and the people around me.
It sucks. Now am just existing while thinking about it daily
Youre not alone, im from Holland and i feel exactly the same every day for 11 years straight.
❤ for you
Brother I am praying for you so hard. I promise you will make it through to the other side. I been through it. Please keep holding on. God will catch you. Keep enduring.
Keep going bro. Put your faith in Jesus Christ. Helped me a lot with the same kind of thoughts
❤❤❤❤
Life does get better. It’s not a sprint, it’s a marathon.
Been over a year now that I’ve been going to therapy, to work on my trauma not just for myself, but also my kids because we all deserve the best version of me. Continuing to grow and work towards the best me has been very eye opening for me because I get to be the best father for my kids that I wish I had when I was growing up. Healing that inner child is what I’ve always needed and didn’t realize that until recent. It’s never an easy journey, but it sure as hell is worth it.
I'm bad at marathons
As someone who thinks about it many times everyday, I couldn't even imagine how someone could say theyve never thought about it. They have to be lying.
I think there's a difference between seriously thinking about it and pondering it or just having a quick flash due to sadness or frustration. The saying goes "suicide is a very permanent solution to a very temporary problem." The people who seriously consider it are the ones who's temporary problems aren't so temporary, or at least don't seem temporary to those enduring them.
@@Didymus-vz6uy exactly. People use that as an answer and justification but some situations aren't temporary. I would never suggest someone commit suicide, but I certainly don't blame people for expressing those thoughts and if they do end their lives, this was a last resort
I have never, even at my lowest, considered suicide. Not one time has it seemed like an answer. Not judging, just saying that not everyone is wired the same.
@@64scoundrel agreed. One thing I'd be curious to ask people who have tried it or thought about it is if they just got tired of trying to succeed in life. I honestly don't think a lot of them view it as a solution, but rather a way to "stop playing the 'game'."
People don't understand the strength it takes to think about it every day and not do it because you are sticking around for others. I understand the struggle and I admire you for not acting. The world is better with you in it.
Mental health is incredibly important. I'm a life long sufferer of anxiety and ADD. Life has thrown me a curve ball in the last year, and it triggered some of the worst anxiety I have ever had. Insomnia, heart palpitations, just to name a few. I finally got to a point where I said I need help, I can't suffer like this anymore. I reached out and found a therapist and have been going for the last 6 months. I was also put on medication to further assist me and to feel that sense of normalcy again. I feel like a totally different person. To anyone out there that is struggling, please reach out and ask for help. It is never too late to get help.
U mind talking on instagram?
I’m 17 and this started happening in June mane..
@@GAD-EMANIcan we same probelm
@@mohamedshakir1642 Yh bro sure u can talk to me
@@mohamedshakir1642 hey I can talk to you about this
So happy men are talking about mental health. ITS OK TO NOT BE OK MEN🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Glad to see it too❤️💪🏼
Yes but we should also try to find solutions for ourselves. We can’t constantly be in depression mode sometimes
I’ve felt like ending things many times and when I talked about it I found solutions
Don’t lie no one cares about men, only women and children get true care.
I feel this too will be exploited by manipulative people specifically Woman.
@@TheSmilodon85 how🤔
To all men, I seriously hope you guys are okay, physically and mentally. And I hope you are able to talk to someone about this shit. I know how much mental health sucks. It will bet better though, you can do this. I love you all 🤍
It's not even sadness most of the time, but the feeling that whatever you are going through right now? Will continue to happen again and again with no idea of when it will stop.
I notice they took out one of the most vulnerable stories for this reload
What was it?
they reloaded this? maybe, whoever it was asked them to remove their scene, after the fact.
@@IntenseCircumstances a guy had a suicidal attempt story where his mom told him to just do it
@@jialian93 GEEEEEEZ. I hope it came from a place of love, of not wanting to see your child suffer any longer. But gosh .. that’s definitely NOT the response to give.
It came to mind twice at the beginning of my military career. I left my home, left my friends and family for a woman who I really loved at the time to do me wrong… I was living in an aircraft carrier in really crappy conditions such as no hot water or light sometimes in the restroom, mold, and a small bed… I was GOING through it… not to mention the pressure coming from her.. I’m still here and alive because god came into my life. I remember crying and weeping in my car entire weekends. I had to tell my friends and family how great my life was in the military just cover my own sadness.
Same bro got out a couple months ago after 4 years just couldn’t do it anymore
@ and that’s okay man we all have a different path in life, so no judgement here that’s up to our Heavenly Father. I’m glad you’re okay that’s all that matters brother. I decided to stay in because I made E-5 in 3 years.
Dawg I just re-enlisted because I had to since everywhere and everything is so expensive. Sometimes you gotta sacrifice
What a time for this to drop when I've been crying my eyes out almost all day lmao
Crying is healing. It gets better. All feelings are temporary. This too shall pass. 🩶
@@sassysunflower Thank you for your words but sadly, I don't believe any of them anymore. I'm tired.
Omg same, breakup+ failed college year+ dying family member
@@ElMarcoHoJI’m in your place too man. Gotta take it one day at a time. I know that message gets annoying especially if each day feels so hard. I dont know a better solution myself but we gotta have at least a drop of hope, if not for us then other people struggling like us
@@zackery5678 Appreciate it brother. I've been up and down lately, some days are better than others. I'm out a walk right now and it feels great haha, you hang in there yourself.
1:06 berserk tattoo man i care about you so much
I noticed that too I got it on my neck
😂 I was gonna say that😅
Men friendships need to check in on each other. Ask the real questions. Be transparent in the ones that will keep your confessions to the heart and won’t gossip
Absolutely love the way Mr. 4:28 articulated how his thoughts and struggles don't define him. I completely agree!
We need more talks like this! Happy you are here! Love you all!!
Im so glad this video came about. I thought about ending things when i was 9 or 10 years old mainly due to some mistakes i made at that time that got my mother upset and disappointed in me, and i thought i would me things easier by leaving. However when the school contacted my mom about it she cried and cried knowing how much it would devastate her if i did that. Also having to fit certain criterias to having friends while constantly getting bullied for most of my life was making it worse. The pain subsided for a while but here i am at the age of 28 and these thoughts crept up in my mind every day. I cant tell you how much it hurts and how agonize on that every day. However along the way i was able to meet new friends that i felt more comfortable in talking to and be myself with them and accepted me for who i am. And the fact that i still have a parent that still cares for me deeply means everything in the world to me. So im doing the best i can to fight this thing and sooner rather than later I'll strive to be the best version of myself and one that will be filled with a lifetime full of happiness. Thank you all for hearing me out.
I’m glad you’re still here 🙃
2:25 wow it's so strange to hear your own thoughts but from another person. I have/had this "rule" too because my mom already committed suicide. I know tbh that was maybe not the healthiest way to deal with it but it helped me. I'm better now :)
Glad you’re better. And thanks for sharing this. Made me realise I’m not alone.
Wild how it works. I can't allow it now. Earlier I saw that as a viable option, but now it's an impossibility.
@@RicoTrapp you're never alone!
Opening up to someone you trust is so important. I always let my friends know I'm always open to talk about anything ❣️
Male and female socialization is very different. Women evolved to commune around other women to survive. Men don’t so it can affect our lifespan and health. Because men must compete directly to procreate we make friends who we do constructive things with.
Its courage to even broach this subject on such a big public platform. Kudos to everyone for sharing 🙌🏾 Its really tough out here, if you're reading this.. i hope you find a way to live thru the dark moments.. come on, you got this! ✌🏾
I almost clicked off of the video a few minutes in due to shame and a weird feeling of betrayal. I’m so glad I finished watching. Thank you. You’re giving hope to every man who watches this. Talk to someone I promise it gets better!
I truly appreciate CUT for opening up their platform to create the space for men to speak on mental health and be open and vulnerable about their lives.
That's step one. Now what's the next step?
My grandma is 87 years old and she has been through many ups and downs and whenever I'm in stress I like to talk to her but I never tell her what I'm going through or what my problems are I just sit beside her and just listen to her life. In these 87 years of her life she has seen many ups and downs she saw her whole birth family dead, her children death and her grandchildren death, she's a strong person and she always inspires me. One time I asked her for one life advice that she'd give to me she said "time never stays the same". This is what she said after my cousin committed suicide she said "time will change son, never lose hope" and I live by her words. Whenever I'm stressed i talk with old people. I don't tell my problems but I just listen to them the problems they have been through and still survive this always help me and I feel grateful for what I have and remind me "it'll be over". I hope my little story will help u. Just let me know if I was any help to u
This is one of the best, if not THE best, video you guys have done (obv from a man's perspective) in years. Thanks to all the men who agreed to be in this video. Obviously all the women that came before (in many other vids) bearing their souls are also massively appreciated. This one just hits home for me. Especially in the new era of the orange asshat... it's important to understand that some guys have feelings.
Just taking a moment to thank all of these wonderful people who expressed their relation with such emotions. Currently 2 years sober from self harm...damn I am grateful to be here. Bless all yall xoxo You are loved, for you are love
Thank guys for opening up. Learning your struggles a bit & how you feel is what’s helping me personally, to better understand what it’s like on the other side.
Besides the shillish betterhelp ad break (Cut, y'all have more than enough money to skip a sponsorship once in a while, ESPECIALLY for content that features such heavy subject matter) this a great video for anyone who has had these same thoughts. There is a comfort and validation, at least for myself, when hearing other people describe having literally the same thoughts as I have. It really helps knowing we're not alone with our feelings.
I will say that signing up to better help is one of the best things I’ve ever done, so I can see why they chose to put it in this video
No, it’s a good thing they posted better help in this video as their ad. It’s a perfect way to get the help you need, because I can guarantee you that some people watching this video or the ones who participated don’t even know the first step to getting help. Help is not talked about enough in men’s mental health but it needs to be and we are starting to see that. It’s a really great way to guide people.
You know what amazes me? The fact that every sector on the internet which teaches about depression and its consequences has the most wholesome comment section. I struggled a lot in my life and next year im gonna start a yt channel about my experience and my appeoach on gaining happiness again.
Hello Cut! Just wanted to send out my appreciation for your videos! Been a subscriber for quite some time, and working at a number of inpatient psychiatric facilities for a total of 6 years now. So being able to display videos that are this real and genuine really help to normalize to men/ women/ or any other gender identities the topics of mental health. SO HUGE THANK YOU.
I did want to make a request on a video topic that I've noticed is not talked about enough... And imagining its presented in this way... I'd hope would bring about awareness.. "100 Men Get Honest About Porn Addiction."
Just a suggestion! Hope someday to see this on Cut's page!
Weird that when you said "normalize talking about mental health" it's for men/women/ any identity but when it came to porn addiction you only want 100 "men" to get honest..
I'm very happy to see this discussion being had. I think about suicide every single day. With my depression and whatever else that may be fueling it, suicidal thoughts cross my mind at least once or twice a day, if not a lot more on bad days. Although I've attempted in the past, I've found mechanisms to where I don't consider myself at risk in any way today. Yet, it is still important to talk about the daily struggle of mental health in me and other men. I would not be where I am today if I did not reach out, rely on the people I trusted the least, and got the community and help I needed.
This isn't a unique experience, I am a financially well-off man in my late 20s, I have a great community, a wonderful list of hobbies and passions, a good job, I am decently good looking, happy with myself and my life, but my depression still exists. I hope people can understand that it's okay to bring these things up, recognize for some with depression/ptsd/or whatever else that it is an eternal battle, and that it is completely normal to live a fulfilling life alongside these thoughts.
I hope you start to feel better and count your blessings. Things can always always always always be a lot worse. I'm 39, wasted 10 years after my dad died on drugs and depression, no career, savings, overweight. I'm working on myself now.
4:38 is what got me.
This is really heartwarming men deserve to talk about mental health free of judgement ❤️
@Derek-0777 who's trying to be you or insulting you 😭you talking out your ass right now being negative for what
@@2Leena444for real like tf
Me im 21, planning and promised to myself to end it at 30. I've opened up to my friends and parents, i learned that they only really care about it at first but after an hour or so it's out of their minds. So i never opened up about my experiences and shit. Knowing that nobody will actually care about it and actually do something to help makes it worse. So im here just isolating and shit. So far im doing good. But still im doing it at 30 no matter what. It's a promise to myself
Sending love and letting you know you are brave enough to open up. There are people that care (including me) and that you are so important to this world. Hope you change your mind in the future. Much love.❤❤
You can get out of this, please dont end it
I have when I was younger because of feeling like I was never enough for my parents and meeting their expectations of being the A grade student all through elementary and ever since I've made myself a promise to myself to never let that kid ever let him go down that deep hole of sadness no matter what life may through at him and I'm glad because even now as an adult and a breakup that was very dear to me, I allowed myself to cry and the works but never considered that option ever again.
I’m constantly working on myself. I’ve had suicidal thoughts since I was 8 years old. Hell, I still do. It’s such an uphill battle. The only thing that keeps me here is the uncertain transition after death’s door, and the fact that it would cripple my mother.
My suicidal ideation started for me at 9 years old, ive suffered with it more than 16 years. Ive spent more of my life hoping something will end than not. Knowing how it would destroy my mom as a person us all that keeps me going. I cant make her burry her firstborn
I’ve been going through a rough patch in life, but never have considered it. My father recently passed away. It’s been though art and music how I’ve been dealing this with; my catharsis. I uploaded something to my channel as a way to show my love to my OG. I’ve cried a lot these days, but I’ve been staying strong for my son.
When I went to therapy for the first time and filled out forms and took the questionnaire about my mental health, I was mind blown . He told me that I scored high for anxiety and depression. For years I just thought I had days where I was just sad here and there and wished I could disappear.
stay strong❤
I am so glad that each one of these brave men we’re selfless enough to share their stories and experiences. Know that you are loved. sending healing, love and positivity to each one of them and each one of you that reads this.
Me right now. Embarrassed myself a few days back, lied to my closest people, drank to feel better, made things worse. Haven't been able to face life.
Not planning on giving up right now but i for sure am fighting the thoughts BAD. Pray for me please.
The timing of these videos be on point, it's a Big festive season but all i wanna do is lock myself ina room , listen to Music snd cry so bad
This is a very important topic for men. Share this on your social media channels please. The world needs to see more men openly talking about these feelings
This is what I needed to hear ! I’ve really been struggling for the past year, I’m 24 and going back to my mom’s house saved my life.
WE are not alone in this fight brothers WE got this 💪🏾❤️
WHY are you still doing BetterHelp sponsored ADs? They have a ton of scummy practices and controversy where they take advantage of mentally unwell people.
Can you explain what it is they do? Asking out of genuine curiosity
@@zackery5678mostly the therapist on there are very jumpy a lot of times they don't respond and then you end up paying money and not getting anything for it on top of that they've been shown to recommend advice that's bad for you and generally not accepted in the mental health community
@@zackery5678seconded
@@zackery5678 Google is your friend
Not giving them any passes because I'm not sure what people mean when they say this, but they've offered me free care for the rest of the year after my area was devastated by Helene and I love my therapist. I'm grateful for them.
I wish I could hug all the people in this video. They are strong for being honest with themselves and us. And they deserve to be happy and live a beautiful life
I’m female but I’m pretty masculine, I like girls and I relate to the isolation and alienation that a lot of men have. I never reached out for help and when I did, it always backfired.
Last year at this time, I took a bunch of pills, hoping I wouldn’t wake up the next morning. While I was OD’ing my parents luckily found me in the bathroom. Everything that followed after that was pure hell and I ended up having to get admitted and I’m living with this stigma for the rest of my life. I’ll never allow myself to be out into that situation again.
My reason to keep going on now is because I’ve made my life purpose to take revenge on existence by making this world my b***. And I think all those that suffered should too. Life has changed SO MUCH since last year. I still live with the scars but I see a light at the end of tunnel. I still look forward to death but I feel I’d be doing myself and those that know me or could know a disservice because I’m not fully experiencing life to the best of my ability while I’m still here. It’s important that you find your purpose. I realized for myself that there is no inherent purpose and that’s why it’s so important to create your own. I find meaning in punk rock and shout out to the guy in the vid wearing the NOFX shirt. If you’re seeing this, sorry for your losses!!
To all the machos who want to get out some aggression and angst in a healthy way, definitely look up the band called “Hatebreed”. It’s metal but full of positive messages. Keep on keeping on ppl, don’t bottle it all up. That’s cowardice, not masculine. True masculinity is whatever you want it to be but stay healthy.
0:29 yes,but i made a promise to myself that i wouldn't even try or think about it
As a man myself, I hate being a man. I hate being in my own skin because of all the expectations being placed on me by the people who "Claim" to care about me. "Suck it up" "There are people in worse positions than you" "The world doesn't revolve around you" "Be a man" "Grow up" these words are forever glued into my skull and I hate being in my own skin because I feel like I'm worthless because I can never live up to anybody's expectations not even my own. Depression and Mental Health is a killer, and people don't wanna acknowledge it, because the only thing people want to do is judge. Judge first and ask questions never. Mental Health and Depression are monsters. Monsters no one wants to live with.
My prayers are out to you. I hope you receive more kindness and understanding from people.
Guy at 2:25 makes such an important point, suicide is already viewed as “the most selfish act” (I do not personally believe this), and yet if someone close to you already has, that guilt and pressure is compounded even more by the previous person. Even though you have the same feelings as the first person, you’re viewed so differently for some reason. Really liked hearing this perspective, thanks everyone for sharing and de-stigmatizing 🙏🏼
"There are no problems, just weakness" is something I've told myself many times. I'm 17
This is a very good and important video.
This is so wholesome to see men open up about their mental health
I'm 18 yrs old. When I feel that life challenges me gives me tribulations, adversities, anything that is bad going on in my life; I take it as an opportunity to grow and learn. I hit rock bottom moment last month, almost got lost in the thought that why is this happening to me? But then suddenly I remember that this thing happens for a reason.
Good mentality bro
The only thing a scarrier than death is the thought of spending 80 years in this insipid, joyless, distopia. Just because youre alive doesnt mean youre living.
Hate that I’m late to this video but this depicts exactly why mental health is important. It’s always been a topic I wish I could just sit down with someone and discuss this with and then there’s that part that doesn’t want to open up and express on an emotional level. This video hit really hard and it hurt to watch and hear what these guys are going through . It’s healthy to let it out but when you actually realize so many guys go through this shit and hide it all down it just hits a certain spot seeing the expressions on their face as they come clean about their attempts or the truth about wanting to act on it really just digs deep. Loneliness is a perfect example of this and I can say I’ve had a lot of experience with that and so many people feel that but you just won’t know who it is, a lot of the times I just genuinely feel burned out and so tired of a lot of things but I know I got to keep the fuel going and gotta keep it together. One of the parts I liked from the video is when one of the guys said “it doesn’t make me a bad guy or a sad guy just means I’ve gone through shit” . I’ve found reading about mental health and looking more into it to understand helps alot for the most part, hope that anyone reading this whatever your going through either depression, loneliness, severe anxiety etc hope things turn out the best for you nobody deserves to feel that it’s definitely the worst.
I start my therapy this week. 🤞
Best of luck ❤
@@db5627 congratulations on taking that step, wish you nothing but success brother
@@LimboVi i appreciate you my brother and wish you the best as well.
Well done on starting your journey brother. Best of luck to you.
Congratulations on making the hardest step! I hope you will find the right therapist. Remember if this one won't feel right you can always find someone different. Their approach to things vary.
This a nice video. It reminds me that im not alone. I'll never meet these men, they'll never know me, but i know I'm not alone because these guys are me. We all have brothers in spirit and soul going through the same struggles as us, and that's kind of comforting in a macabre way. Keep Swimming, brothers.
Trans woman here. I figured things out in 2019, I believe. Partly, at least. I tried in 2020. Now, in 2024, I am waiting for my appointment on November 26th for my first estrogen appointment. Things can and WILL get better. Just wait one more day. Hell, even if just out of spite. That's what got me going until now that I can do what I need to do.
"If I'm going, I'm going my damn way and not because you pushed me out, world" was my mantra during those times. It really does help.
And remember, someone smiled because they saw you today. And you smiled for that same reason. Keep smiling and talk. You'll do wonders, I know
I bet you're so excited for your first treatment.❤️
@Lilly_1972 you have no clue cccccccc::::::::: I almost can't wait at all! But I have to be patient so, sucks to suck :3c
@@Anisse_N_Spices
You've had to wait a long damned time to begin your journey, so you've every right to feel that way. What you wrote could very well help another trans person to carry on. If it wouldn't cause you any discomfort, you're welcome to share more of your plans. You're fascinating and I'm interested in knowing what it's like to walk a mile in your shoes. You'll receive nothing but respect from me if you decide to divulge more or not.
I’m a father and husband who is stuck in a job that is really affecting my mental health issues I’ve always struggled with (depression and anxiety). I find myself wondering again on the difficult days whether or not it’s worth staying, but I love my family so so much and I want to continue to fight through everything for them. I’ve gotten through valleys before, I just need to continue to recognize that what I’m feeling isn’t going to last forever
This is so important!!
Whenever I start worrying about the future, I just remind myself: If things go to hell, I could always just off myself.
This actually makes me feel better.
I truly feel horrible for everyone who goes through this. I truly do. I had cancer, and thought I was going to die in 6 months. Sometimes, your thoughts can be like quicksand. ... The more you think about something, the more you're going to think about it. It can be a nasty cycle.
Just think, you made it this far. I believe that there is a higher being somewhere out there, not sure where.... but there is something out there for sure.... But just when you least expect it, you'll hear or see something, and it will trigger a new thought in a positive way, and things will change for you! All you need to do is pay attention and listen. Just listen! Stay well everyone!
Amen . I hope that those that are going thru a hard time can get passed it and know that there’s is better out there for them 🙏🏾
This video hit right at home because I just can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel right now. It feels like I’m drowning and I’m just getting tired of swimming and having to weather storm after storm...
Everything will be okay.. trouble doesn’t last always… you are loved and the world needs you
This is so touching. Thank you so much for opening up and creating the space for men. I cried because I am proud of all of you.
You know, idk if this is unhealthy but there’s been MULTIPLE times in my life where my life seemed so perfect at that moment that I would think “This would be the perfect time to die” but I’ve been using that as a way to live. To hold out and wait for another time that I think would be good to do it.
My father is 70. In an only child… he feels I don’t need him anymore and that he is a burden on me since he was forced into early retirement with no $ to support that. I sold my house and moved with my father to support him. He has COPD and isn’t doing well.He is so suicidal and I don’t know how 3”/3 to show him that I’m here for him regardless of anything. He is my dad, my best friend and my hero. I don’t know what else to do
Sorry to hear that. Maybe you can start a YTube channel and make money from it so many people are doing that.
Your town/city should also have social days out for carers and you can take your dad out to these too.
It may make him feel better.
Your local Dr surgery should have information on carer clubs (social days out)
Does he stay home all the time or go out?
Maybe he needs some new hobbies or a routine where he goes into the garden too, maybe he can do some gardening if he’s well enough.
Or you can buy things like jigsaw puzzle and both do it together. Or watch old movies.
Maybe your Dr surgery can offer him some mental health therapy if he feels like that too. Always good to mention it to them.
Best of luck, I hope things get better
I wish men were allowed to express their emotions instead of keeping them bottled up all the time, in fear that they’ll be seen as weak.
I had a spot picked out where I was going to drive my car off of. One of the few things that held me back was the fear I might hurt someone in my attempt. Which made me feel like a weak coward, and compounded my depression.
What pulled me back was actually finding a therapist that was a great fit for me.
There is hope that exists, I really hope you find it if these feelings are in your life.
The problem about the “I don’t want to hurt your family” argument is that you want to end it because you feel like a burden but can’t because you’ll cause more pain in doing so. So life just becomes a never ending hell where it feels like you are constantly drowning with no way to breathe.
sometimes light enters your darkness, brightening your miserable life just enough for you to glimpse the exit, but just as quick as it enters, it leaves. You watch as people come and go, leaving you behind in your hole. You sometimes feel sorry for yourself, but more than anything, you are angry. You don’t hate others, only yourself. Every stumble, every problem, every time you made a mistake, you make sure to remember it. You try to do better, but you will never be enough. You just wallow in pain in your bed, isolating yourself from the reality you so desperately want to escape from. You can’t sleep as that’s where your thoughts are, so you mindlessly scroll or watch something to try and ignore your existence for at least one moment. When you finally sleep, you hope never to wake up. However, you do, and the nightmare continues.
Hard agree. It sucks because ultimately most suicide prevention essentially boils down to "Don't do this to the people close to you". Then you distill this sentiment down to the base truth which is "what you're going through doesn't matter to me/us, don't do it to *us*".
Ultimately societal suicide prevention completely screwed as there's never gonna be any genuine care towards what individual is going through, only how he or she ends up benefiting or affecting society as a whole.
You just put it into words perfectly. It feels like torture everyday man.
I love this bro. Mental health needs to be talked about more with men
I hate it when people use commit or commiting for suicide. It’s not a crime. Theres so many other words to choose from
I agree. It's stigmatizing language. I wish Cut had researched this and rephrased their questions!
@@thatsawsembabe agreed!
Commit literally means to carry out on an action. It’s not villainizing anything.
@@thedarkside826 commit… according to google it is either a mistake, crime or immoral act
@@DreamNLego.Commit is a word that can change it's meaning with context, committing suicide is not incriminating the victim.
If I was given a diagnosis for stage 4 cancer I would feel so much relief I think I would cry. I could finally let go and nobody would judge me or be hurt from my passing in comparison to the pain I would cause from taking my own life.
It’s rough out there
It’s tough out there
9:05 I wish I could give him a hug if he wanted one. I would. You're not alone, brother. Hope you're doing ok.
it’s so exhausting whenever people say that men should open up about their feelings but the times we do, it’s “you’re a grown man.” or “man up.”
what do you want?
To ignore their ignorance.
You ARE strong! But your tears… your vulnerability placed in the right hands is your super power. Embrace it 🌹
Exactly. Actually nobody cares.... No matter how many people we try to talk to or how many times we were desperate asking for help, nobody cares.....
@@en0mad777 I have been preaching this for years. I hate the phrase 'man up' it invalidates our feelings and disregards our humanity as people
@@The73rdSecret We have to be there for each other. Lend support. This is a cruel world and it's only going to get worse. We don't have to face our issues alone but if you don't have anyone in that moment, remember that you have yourself to depend on.
We are told this, or it gets just ignored. Or, most likely the worst - it gets weaponized against us
Thanks for this video, I needed it. I’m going to get help.
Mr 9:06 you are amazing. This will not be your story. ❤❤❤❤to you! You can find a way. I believe in you!
Great video. Very important discussion to be had.
7:56 already did. multiple times. people know they just don’t care. and that’s the sad reality.
you will find people who do care tho, if you search you can find friends who value u right
@@nathanielalemu1980i hope so thank you
same everyone found out but still treating me like crap
Sorry about that and I think you deserve better. Things will get better. Coming from a total stranger, this may be unwelcome but if you need help I am willing to help.
@@dmlx4209 i’m so sorry no one deserves that i absolutely know how you feel
Talk to anyone idc if it's yourself and check on your people
This makes me grateful for my dad. He would let me cry and get stuff off my chest. Then he would give the best sound advice. Id walk away stronger than before. Dont know what I'm going to do when he passes.
You had a dad?
@@Matt28373 he is still around...going strong.
I wish I had a father like yours mine was the total opposite
Admitting that you are struggling is apparently a sign of strength, but unfortunately society will call you weak for it. It’s like a double bind, where damned if you do and damned if you don’t.
Mike Tyson said “impossible means nothing to someone who tries” keep going kings
I'd want a video about "Anything to share about your mental health ?" to be done as well, not just suicide. I think it might put a thousands lights on the subject rather than a laser focus on this very specific question and lead to interesting discussions and thoughts
Thank you to the Cut for talking about something important like this. For Real.