Daryl Your story echoes memories of younger brother Neil, split up from his girlfriend, lost his living, seriously indebt with the taxman.... he was living on my couch for 6 months and then he moved on to my sister couch, where she gave him a job in her village shop..... We "thought" he was back on his feet ( Foolishly), he was happy working again, and seemed to be up beat, making new friends with in the village, and started to pay the Tax debt off..... But we seriously wasnt aware of his mental health at the time, he never spoke about being down, kept his feelings and worries to hemself. As well about his secret drinking... Where he would take bottles of Vodka from the shop and pay for it, so things would tally up on my sisters end ( but she was unaware it was him buying it, or evening drinking it ! )....On the 27th October 2005 he committed suicide aged 27. No good bye note or any type of explanation " Nothing " .We only found out about his depression, at his death inquest due to the GP notes.... But never once ! Did he spoke to me or my sister about it, nor show any indication of "Depression" . If I had only knew at the time about the implications of Depression..... Thank you for sharing your story and the awareness of Depression. Very brave of you mate 👌👍 All the best bud 🙂.....
Thankyou Mark. I'm so sorry to hear about your brother. Sadly, like alcoholics, some depressive are good at hiding their true feelings. Combine the two and it's a recipe for disaster. I was very worried about doing this video, I thought that I would get a lot of negative comments. So far I haven't. I just hope that it can help someone. Please share it, it might reach someone who is struggling and encourage them to seek help
@@CampervanTales No you certainly did a good job in getting the message across mate 😉👍, your one of the lucky ones to be able to share your story.... Alcoholism and depression certainly doesn't mix, to be honest if your in a deep depression state, that alone will (I'd imagine) would cloud one's judgement😔👍, I certainly don't think it would be fair for someone whom never been in yours shoes, to judge you in a bad light. And most certainly a brave and positive act in sharing your story matey 😎👍👍👍
Oh Darryl, I was in tears watching this - you are a very brave and wonderful man. It really does take a special kind of person to sit in front of a camera and broadcast your worst moments. I just know already that it will help people whose first way to find help is looking toward the anonymity of the internet. I've suffered myself, firstly with post natal depression when I cried and cried and cried and we eventually found that my "treatment" was company. Then after my mum died I looked to the bottom of a bottle for my answers too - I can thank the heavens on both occasions that I had John. Realising you need help is the most difficult I think, asking for it is the next hardest but it is so much better once you do.. Big hugs to both of you brave men.. xx
Mandy thankyou. It took years to find the source of my depression, it was a mixture of grief for my Mum who died three months before we got married and then work stress and looking after the kids who were all under three on my own every night as my wife worked nights, so I wasn't getting much sleep on top of everything else. I just hope that putting this out there helps someone who is struggling. Take care and see you soon xx
Well done, mate. 😔 I often wonder how common mental health problems are amongst vanners. Starting in 2010, I followed up my GP referral, tried counseling, tried a different counsellor, tried another counsellor and another. Tried all the meds. Finally, saw a therapist who helped me on track to recovery. Whatever service you are referred to, whatever meds they put you on, if it doesn't feel like it's working... Say so. Try something else.
Thanks Mevi. I really struggled about whether to publish this video. I thought I might get a load of negative backlash. I tried counselling but I trained as a counsellor and went in knowing the right things to say so it didn't work for me. I got there in the end though. Like you, I wonder about vanners and mental health, it does seem to have some correlation. I'm asking people to share this video, not to get extra subs or anything like that, but in the hope that it reaches someone who is struggling and encourages them to ask for help. Take care.
Mental health is a topic I covered a few times and it was the comments from others in the van community that had me wondering if there is a greater percentage of people experiencing mental health issues than the general public. Personally, I think the "1 in 4" figure that the DofH publish is underestimating the numbers......
depression.org.nz - worth a look - lots of good info and resources - High profile campaign here due to the numbers of (young men in particular) who suffer in silence for fear of being told to 'harden up'
That takes allot of balls to do this video. And shows that men are soft inside, BUT Yes, men do keep it to our selves until its too late, and we shouldn't.. That's what friends and family are for..? This video WILL help others come to terms with their selves and seek help... I did a video on carbon monoxide poison a long time ago and people still contact me now.. This was a biggest thing that broke marriage and that should have been the time she should have stood by and helped me.. I think you are more MAN by talking about it.. I hope this touches peoples harts.. Thanks mate...
Thanks Kev. I was really worried about putting this out there but Keith, Jacob and Pippa Worms Eye encouraged me to do it. If it helps one person then it will have been worth it. Please share it. The more people who see it then the more chance it will help someone. X
Brave. All down to the awful way people are forced to live & most people dont even know it. I am not going in to it here too much, but people are conditioned to put up with too much & then all it takes is the slightest little thing and it can tip you over the edge, hence why your case & similar cases are pretty common. I didn't derail as such, but the doctor put me on Sertraline for 6 months & have now taken myself off it. Made a big difference but it doesn't fix your basic problems. That is a another story.👍
Slowly but surely the stigma of mental health problems is being broken down. People like yourself sharing their stories helps other people realise they are not alone. Thank you and be good to yourself and everyone else. I’m also wishing for all of your family to forgive you and include you in their lives. You are not a bad person. Best of luck.
Thankyou George. That's very kind of you. I just hope that somewhere along the way this video will help someone. If you can, then please share it as the more who see it the more chance there is that someone will feel able to ask for help. Thanks again and take care.
Thanks for sharing this really important message. I worked in mental Health for many years and have seen the effects of not asking for help as early as possible. Best wishes my friend.
Thankyou so much for saying that. I was worried about doing it, but it was my way of giving something back and hoping that it might help someone else who is struggling and encourage them to ask for help
incredibly powerful, thank-you for sharing. Too many videos are caught up in the social media world of everyone always happy and smiling when actually the real world isn't like that. Well done.
The hardest part is seeing you need help and then knowing where to get it and you’ve explained both really well Daryl. I’m glad your life is now turned around, but I also wish your children would let go of the past and see the person you are now and let you into their lives and their children’s lives too. You’re very brave for making this video, thank you for sharing this and I sincerely hope this does help others before things get too bad for them. ❤️
Thankyou John. It wasn't the easiest video to publish but I hope that it reaches someone who needs support. I'm asking people to share it, not for subs, but I do want it to reach out and help someone who is struggling and encourage them to ask for help. Someone made a good suggestion this morning about me making a separate channel just where I can post little videos for my other two and my grandson in the hope that one day they will see them.
I shared it earlier on my community tab page. I think your camping videos show you as the person you are and would be a good way for your family to see what a great person you are now.
@@h.bsfaithfulservant4136 thanks for watching. I did the video in the hope that it might help someone else who is struggling and encourage them to ask for help.
This is the most important video you've ever uploaded, I agree 100% with what you say, my personal advice to anyone feeling down/depressed/stressed etc would be speak to your GP. Thanks for Sharing your story.
Thankyou. I'm lucky to have come out of the other side with my health intact. I'm just hoping that by asking people to share this video that it will be seen by someone who is struggling and that it will encourage them to ask for help. Thanks for watching.
Just read the stories of other people's replies on here my heart goes out to all of you with stories of your own I feel your sadness try to stay positive keep grounded and help anyone you can so anyone else doesn't have to suffer the same 🙏💙♥️🙏
Thanks Gary. I wanted to do this to help people who are struggling, so please share it. I'm lucky that I am through the other end of what was a very dark tunnel and I couldn't be happier. But if people watch this who are just beginning to struggle, then hopefully it will encourage them to ask for help.
I'm really glad you decided to make this video Daryl. It will resonate with people of there who are suffering. It will show how quickly life can turn around and how you can love but all. I'm glad you and Keith met. Like I said to you the other day..... he saved you! And you have worked dam hard to get your life back on track! Love you buddy ❤🧡💛💙💚💜
A remarkably frank video. It must have taken a lot of courage to make. Well done on rebuilding and reaching the point where you feel you can help others. I imagine it's a long way down and a long way back up. You have my utmost respect. We only have one life - whatever has happened in the past can't be changed, so look forwards. I wish you and Keith every strength and happiness. Thank you for making this and being brave enough to make it public.
Thankyou so much for watching the video. I was worried about doing it. If it helps anyone who is struggling then it will have been worth it. Please share it with family and friends, you never know if one of them is hiding their depression. It is often hidden in plain sight. Take care.
So very brave of you to open up this way..You are so right..help is out there..If this video only helps one person they will have been blessed..will share, thank you✌💜😊
Brave. Thankfully there's been a lot of vlogs on men's mental health on UA-cam. Not least, Haze Outdoors 'Show us your steak' challenge which went viral and got loads of rufty tufty wild campers and bushcrafters talking about the subject.
I have just watched your video and I have so much respect for you I also have been in a bad place your so true life is so cruel on your own I am in process of saving for our first camper van yes it will be hard but not half as difficult has what you have been through the van life community is what keeps me believing there is hope for everything if you keep speaking to people / ps your vids are great 👍
Thankyou Peter. That's great to hear that you like our videos. It is sad just how many people are or have struggled. I just hope that this video reaches anyone who is struggling and encourages them to ask for help. Thankyou for your kind words and for watching.
That was very admirable and brave of you Darryl. The road to healing is through acknowledging your past and facing your fears. By doing this vlog you should be proud of yourself for the milestone you have achieved
Thanks guys. We hope that by everyone sharing it or mentioning it to people that it will reach people who are struggling and perhaps help them to ask for help
Thank you for having the courage and generosity to make this video. Even for someone who thinks they are fine now, I think it's important to recognise that it might not take much for their world to change beyond recogniton. I was very moved by your openness.
Thankyou. I was worried about how this video would be greeted, but there have been some lovely comments. Life can flip in the blink of an eye. I'm just hoping that this video helps anyone struggling who watches it, to seek help. Take care
daryl, what can i say used to drink myself ! and one of my children does not speak. depression and drink are a cocktail to destruction. and i used to be a samaritan for a number of years ...and so its honest of you to tell your story . i am glad you found happiness with keith , so be well and thanks from me ..x
Thankyou Colin. Alcohol is the devil in disguise. Your friend socially, but your enemy alone. I was very worried about this video, I filmed it and then kept it back. Worried that I might get some negative comments, but so far not. Please share it, because I hope that it will find it's way to just one person who is struggling and that it will encourage them to ask for help. Thankyou, and take care.
Some people may not want to hear this but it does need to be said X Well done for feeling that you could express everything so eloquently X You have learnt some painful lessons along the way that have made you the wonderful person you are today X I for one am Very Proud of you and pleased you have such a great man in your life as Keith X Take Care and Keep Safe X I think I got it right....'Happy Birthday' for tomorrow X
An Interesting and brave video, you obviously felt now was the right time to share your experiences so I applaud you for that...even if you change or help one person who watches this, then you have succeeded and made a difference. Kind regards, Simon👍
Thankyou Simon. It really seems to have struck a chord with many people. It wasn't easy to do for me but it needed telling. I did it with my eldest son's approval. All I ask is that everyone shares the video in any way that they can, because, as you say, if it helps just one person then something good will have come out of it.
Daryl thank you so much for sharing this mate. it takes so much to share what you have gone through. Your a brave Dude. I have so much respect for your sharing your story. Love and light to you guys. :-)
Well done for doing that I have great respect for you I know what it feels like to be a that situation where you feel so numb hopelessly lost when you've lost everything I went through a similar thing 25 years ago breakups divorce kids lost home lost job lost then drink drink and more drink until one-day I snapped I didn't get arested but did have a breakdown. Won't go into detail but well done for saying about it thank you.
Very powerful vlog ❤ It's hard I work with homeless with my charity work and 90% are on the streets homeless from devorce drink or drugs it's so popular and happen to anyone. It's hard for men as most are too pig headed I know I got devorced 8 months ago and 1st month I hit the drink a good bit but luckily got my head together and now loving life and been with my kids as much as possible. You may see them at lots of camper meets in future as they are camper mad perfer to camp than go to my narrow boat lol.
I'm glad that you managed to get your head together and come out the other side. We are looking forward to meeting you at the camps. If someone had told me that I would end up like I did I would never have believed them. I just hope that this video reaches anyone who is struggling and encourages them to ask for help
My heart goes out to you. 14 years ago, life as I knew it ended. I lost everything. house. job. Family. Made a few bad choices got arrested and almost sectioned blah blah blah. 14 years on I'm still not in a good place. Still have issues. First time I've admitted it. Glad I'm not alone. Cheers pal.
We are here, if you ever need to talk just contact us. Life certainly throws some curve balls at people. Hope you can make some of the camps this year. Take care and please don't forget, we are here.
Thanks John. That's kind of you to say. We try our best. It's been a video I have been thinking about doing for some time, I just hope that if it gets shared enough that someone will see it who it will encourage to ask for help.
What an incredibly brave Survivor you are ! Such a shame the establishment didn't recognise that you needed help and just locked you up, so pointless and damaging. Just destroyed you even more ! I'm at a loss at how little compassion and common sense the police showed, they could have made you get help. Glad you're doing well now, hopefully your twins will understand a little more as they mature and can learn to forgive and trust again. Thank you for sharing this x
Thankyou Pebbles. It wasnt a good time in my life but thankfully I survived and came out the other side stronger. I can only hope that Cam and Ruby want to sort things out one day. Sadly the establishment still don't help. There is lots of talk about mental health these days but still not a really good infrastructure to help people. I was just told to pull myself together and go to AA.
💓 thanks for sharing your troubled past and directing me to view this vlog 💓 I am sure it helps folks who are struggling including myself to go talk :) thanks for listening to me rant on earlier too :)
WOW, hats off to you mate, if your twins watched this they would be fools not to contact you, we are not here on this earth for long. I think its something they would regret years and years later. Ive been through a breakup with 2 young kids 15 years ago, the one thing Ive noticed talking to other single parents is that some parents really can brain wash children...they probably don't even remember your dark days..
Thankyou. One day hopefully. The main reason I wanted to do this was to get it out there and shared, in the hope that it reaches as many as possible and that it touches someone struggling and they seek help before they go too far.
Thankyou, that really means so much. I took a lot of time to decide whether to do this video and I was worried about the reaction it would get. People have been very kind with their comments. It has been shared so many times too, so hopefully it is reaching some people who are at rock bottom, and will help them to see that they can beat addiction and move on to a full and happy life.
So many people have similar stories but few have the strength to publicly share them. The past cannot change but the future can. I am so pleased you have found help and happiness. Long may it continue. Best wishes, Trev ♥️
Thankyou Trev. If it helps one person and encourages them to say they need help then it will have been worth it. Please share the video so that it can reach people who may be where I was. Thankyou, and take care.
Thanks for uploading. It takes a lot to speak out like that. I can relate to this because I was in the same boat a few years ago and vodka was my ultimate downfall.You really have to hit rock bottom before you realise and rebuild. Luckily I didn’t loose my job but they did help me get through it.Glad you came through and good luck in the future.
Hi Daryl, such a great video, thanks for sharing, it was so brave of you to do this video, I hope your 2 other children will forgive you in the future, it shows how the preasures of life can turn you down the slippery slope to depression & drink
Thankyou. It can happen in the blink of an eye. I wasn't sure about doing it, but if it helps just one person to seek help then it will have been worth it. Please share it as then it has more chance of helping someone. Take care
Daryl, thank you so much for having the guts to upload this very personal video. You are probably helping more people than you know. I think it is lovely that you make these films so your grandson can see what his grandad is all about. He will be very proud when he sees them. I am the child of 2 alcoholics and the only bit of advice I can give is to be patient with your two children. 5 years down the line is still early days, believe it or not. My father and brothers didnt speak for about 10 years before they finally met and talked. It was never easy for any of them, dad felt awkward and embarrassed and my brothers found him difficult at times, despite the fact he hadnt touched alcohol in years. Fact remains, they did get in touch with each other and spent the last few years of my Dad's life as friends. My dad lived to see his grandchildren grow up and to be told he was about to become a great grandfather. I miss him very much, he was such fun, loved singing, acting and travelling. Don't lose hope with your two. You are in a good place now. You look great and you have the most fantastic partner in Keith, your enjoyment of life shines out through your films. It is great that you have contact with Jacob. Take care you two camper-vanners and keep your wonderful films coming xxx from H
Thankyou so much. We both hope that one day things will improve with Cameron and Ruby. I did worry when I made the video. I thought that I would get a lot of negative reactions. I am very lucky, I got through the other side without damaging my health. I'm so glad that your Dad got to see his family reunited, it must have been wonderful for him. Alcohol is so easy to turn to, as I said in the video, that first drink can soon turn in to more. Please share the video, because, I hope that in some small way, it might just encourage someone to make that first step and ask for help. If I had then things could have been very different. I'm very lucky that I am in such a good place now and couldn't be happier. Take care.
Very brave. Look forward.not back your not going that way. Good on you. I have struggled with depression for a long time. I have help now. I understand where your coming from.
Excellent Vlog , took some Gonads to do it , to a degree the System let you down, wasnt all down to yourself , the Police, Magistrates, Prison Service should have Recognised your Issues, even the Person Supervising your Childrens Visit, its Changed since then identifying Vulnerable People and yet Still some still go unnoticed , Well done You, realising and Acting on it , Regards and 73s
Thankyou. It wasn't a good period in my life and still has knock on effects because I only see one of my now grown up children and have a grandson whom I haven't met. I felt it important though to encourage people to ask for help if they were struggling. Thankyou for your kind words, you are right about the system but at the end of the day, until I really realised I needed help they weren't going to do much good. I'm lucky in the fact that Keith was there for me and helped me through some very dark times to get me back to being me.👌
Darryl what a brave man putting this out there. We have only just started following you over the last year. And seeing how happy you are now proves that whenever people think there is no way out. Just seek help ❤❤
Thanks Billy. Hopefully it will reach somebody who needs support and encourage them to ask for help. Then I know it will have been worth making. I just want people to share it to get it to anyone it might help
Well done in speaking out, this looked hard for you to do but honestly will help people in more ways than you think. Life sucks sometimes for all of us but people shouldn't be alone. You are a hero in my eyes, all be it passing on a terrible story. Head up high and be you now and not then. All the best.
Thankyou. I thought long and hard about doing it, but I wanted to put it out in the hope that it will be seen by someone who is struggling and perhaps encourage them to ask for help.
Thankyou Kathy. I hope that the video reaches someone who is struggling and encourages them to ask for help. Please share it, as that way the video may help someone. Take care and look after yourself x
You have a great channel and make great videos You'll probably never made a better video than this one Back in the day I used like a drink but was working full time and was having a great time in life generally But then I started playing the fruit machines too as well as enjoying a drink but with mates etc But I was happy and loving life Today I haven't played the fruits for 20 years or so and don't miss them one bit after having won the jackpot going to the bar to collect the jug to fill it up with £1 coins etc and then changing motes back in to coins to put it back in Etc I don't drink now apart from the odd pint of Guinness as I drive for a living for an agency I never know when the phone is going to ring with work which involves driving so u need to be sober etc so that I can enjoy the flexibility that agency work gives etc But I have always been able to amuse myself I never get bored as I like driving and I like the countryside and the scenery in the uk so being paid to drive through beautiful countryside is my ideal job But more and more people are struggling with money and not having enough to get by to the end of the week etc which is why foodbanks are everywhere etc Gambling is a huge problem in the uk at moment and as I buy Website addresses etc I see what website addresses are being bought etc and there are so many gaming and casino and betting website addresses being nought almost daily which means that even more betting websites will start to appear etc which doesn't bode well for those that already have a gambling problem But too many people fall of the financial ladder that are heavily in debt and can't borrow and can't save and don't know how to get out of such a situation Too many people are so stressed due to being in debt and people trying to get them to pay back money they simply don't have and will never have With the likes of UA-cam and Facebook twitter and instagram etc These websites make it easier for the public to help the public without the need for charities etc The PayPal link in most people's socialmedia profiles will get some many people out of a financial mess The state is broken because if a person is in debt especially long term debt they have no way of getting out of debt and can't see past a mountain of debt they will never be able to pay off etc Their should be Debt dragons Like dragons den but instead of investing in a person's idea etc Looking at a person's debt situation and paying one of their bills for them Unless people have been heavily in debt they won't realise just what a relief having a debt they can't afford to pay being paid for them does for them it's like a massive weight off their mind Because if the public don't help the public get out of debt such a situation will cause a recession before long Great video
Thankyou. That resonates so well with us. We both have debts from our previous marriages that ended years ago and just the other day had bailiffs at the door. Debt is another worry that exasabates depression. I'm lucky that I am through the other side and, despite the money worries I am with a good person, happy and lucky to have the campervan for us to escape for a while. I just hope that the video encourages someone who is beginning to struggle to ask for help. Please share it, we aren't after the views, but the more it is shared, the more chance of it resonating with someone, who will then feel able to seek help.
Love watching your videos and it’s nice you could share your past and I’m sure things will change over time and yes us men should grow some and talk please keep up the great videos and can’t wait for the next one 👍😊
Thanks Justin. That's kind of you to say. I hope that this video reaches anyone who is struggling and encourages them to ask for help. Normal service resumes soon.
You are a very brave man. I’m going through everything you have described so fully understand the impact of what you experienced. Thank for your thought provoking video. Nick
Thanks Nick. I hope that you manage to come out the other side. It isn't easy but if I can do it then anyone can. It took a long time and a lot of false starts to start getting the old me back and it will for you, but you can do it. If I can be of any help just let me know
Thankyou for watching. Not our usual video but one that I hope will help anyone who is struggling. Please share it, as the more people who see it then the more chance of it helping someone. Thankyou again and take care. xx
Thank you for sharing. A brave video to make and publish. Good to know you have found the help you need. I watched this out of order as I knew from the title it needed watching now. Thank you.
Thankyou. I wasn't sure about publishing it, but Keith Jacob and Pippa Worms Eye encouraged me. If it reaches one person who is struggling and encourage them to ask for help them to ask for help then it will have been worth it. Take care both of you.
Thanks for sharing, I'm glad one of your children has made contact, the others will eventually given time. It took one of my nephews over 10 years to contact my brother after his separation, but he did eventually, and now my brother and my (new) sister-in-law are a big part of his family, hopefully this will happen for you in time. There is a very good website here in New Zealand which is worth looking through for anyone who thinks they might need some help, or knows someone who they think needs a little bit of guidance or more information etc depression.org.nz - its high profile here and has former All Black Sir John Kirwan as the main front man.
Thanks Linzi. Yes we have to live in hope that contact will happen. I hope the video can help others, the more it is shared the more chance that someone who is struggling will see it and then make the first step. Thankyou for watching.
You're right people need to tell someone, find the person you feel most comfortable with and tell them, don't think they don't know about this sort of thing together they will help you find the help you need, people care even if you can't see it through your depression x
Thanks Jane. Making this video has been on my mind for some time. If it just encourages one person to ask for help then if will know that it has been worth it. Please share the video, the more people who see it then the more chance it will reach somebody who needs help
I hope you have or can forgive yourself for what you did. We do what we can when we can. You stopped drinking when you were able to stop drinking. It hurts us to know we have hurt the ones we love but we were hurting too. Hurt people hurt people- as the saying goes. All the best chuck 😊
Thankyou. It wasn't an easy video to make, and I'm sure not an easy one to watch. Please share it, it might just reach someone who is struggling and encourage them to seek help. Take care
Thanks Colin. It has been a hell of a journey the last twenty years. I'm 55 tomorrow so it's fifteen years this week since I got sent to prison. I just hope that this video reaches anyone who is struggling and encourage them to ask for help. Please share it if you can.
Call or text that friend and ask them how they are, I do it all the time. Big respect for making such a raw video mate. We all see the good in peoples lives in the world of yt so it’s nice to know a little bit about yourself. It would of been good to hear the story’s from further back of why you started to feel the way you did and what made you turn to the drink. I found the video very interesting and thank you for reaching out there to other people that may feel like you once did. ❤️
Thanks Steve. It took years to find out what caused it but in the end it was a build up of grief and work stress that did it. My Mum died three months before we got married and I didn't have time to grieve, then the pressure of my work caseload. I was a social worker making life changing decisions about people and having to take work home with me, plus three children under the age of three, sleepless nights because my wife worked nights and the kids would be waking up. All that didn't help. Please share the video because I want it to reach people in the hope that it might help someone else who is struggling and encourage them to ask for help.
Campervan Tales how did Keith come about in all this?, he sounds like a good guy 👍 strange but nobody knows what people are like just from watching yours or anybody else’s videos do they! Well done Keith! Someone that cares that’s all it takes really. Cheers
We met at a campsite. After prison a friend loaned me a tent, I went camping and bumped in to Keith. He had also taken himself off after his marriage broke up. We just hit it off and kept in touch. Whenever I had too much to drink after that I would call him and he would come running. He is one in a million and I'm very lucky that he believed in me. Without him, I think I wouldn't be here now. Things developed and we realised how we felt about each other.
Brave man. It sucks. Part of the reason I haven’t been uploading. I’m still out and about in the van,just back from wales in fact but,just not been in the mood to vlog.. Keep fighting 👍 Yeah used crutches myself ... Don’t help,in long term.as you well know.
Yes it can be a difficult and lonely place, even when you are surrounded by people who don't understand, or even if they do. You take care of yourself and if you ever need to chat get in touch. We have a van meet in Derbyshire in May. If you are up to it come along.
Campervan Tales Bless ya. I’ll keep an eye out for the meet, though these things often fall when when I have my son home ( I’m a single parent) but will see. Thanks again ❤️
Daryl you are so brave for telling your story to others, but by doing so you may have helped save a life before it got too far down the line for them, I'm so glad you had the strength to come through this awful experience and find yourself much more well and happier with your life now, so happy you have Keith to be with now, best wishes to you both.
Thankyou Georgina. I hope that it does reach someone who is struggling and encourage them to ask for help. It wasn't the easiest video to publish and I did worry about it. Please share it as that way it might just help someone. Thankyou again and take care.
Thankyou for watching. I hope that if it helps even one person then it will have been worth it. Please share the video if you can as the more people see it then the more chance that it grabs that one person and helps them to ask for help. Take care.
I know what you went through and I know how it is almost impossible to stop drinking. I had a partner, an absolutely fantastic girl. When I first met her I didn't realize she was an alcoholic, it took quite some time in fact as I only visited her, never actually lived with her at first. She was aggraphobic so hardly went out, she had the man from the off license deliver cheap wine to her house. Anyway to cut a long story short, we bought a house together, she still drank wine or anything else if there was no wine. We had a great business going where she worked from home and I was out on the road,. Then - 2 years after we moved in, I noticed her eyes looked a bit jaundiced, she also had another problem like a period that wouldn't stop. I took her to the doctor who arranged for an immediate scan at the hospital the same evening. Next day her doctor phoned and said get to the hospital immediately. She was admitted straight away with liver disease - cirrhosis. Death came slowly as toxins were not filtered out of her body, instead they poisoned her brain and she swelled up as fluids were not dispersed. She discharged herself after 2 weeks and her sister arranged for her to have a bed in her house that looked out onto the summer garden. She was only there for 3 days. I was with her alone as she took her last breath. I'm in tears now as I recall this. If you drink and read this , think of the grief your loved ones may have to go through, think of the horrendous way you will die, the pipes inserted into your body to drain off fluids you can no longer expel, the blood vessels that grow so thin that they rupture causing the bleeding I mentioned earlier, not just in women but similar in men. Three weeks to go from a happy 45 year old to death.
I wanted to like your comment but that would be inappropriate. I'm so sorry for what happened to you and your partner. I am so thankful that I came out of the other side with my health intact. I shouldn't have done because at one point I was getting through 10 litres of vodka in a week. I wanted to share my story because in my own small way I wanted to give something back. If the video encourages just one person to ask for help then I'm happy. Please share the video so that it does reach people who are in need of support. Thankyou for sharing your story with me. Take care and look after yourself.
Thankyou. That's very kind of you to say. I hope that somewhere along the way this video will help someone who is struggling and encourage them to ask for help.
Hello from Montana, USA. I'm a new subscriber, really enjoy your videos. This video was very powerful. Thank you for sharing. I've suffered from depression since early childhood. But back in those days (early 1960's), depression wasn't talked about. If one was struggling, you were told to toughen up and stop moping about. Later, in my adult life, I lost my job, home and relationship all in one fell swoop because I couldn't ask for help. Shame is an insidiously strong energy. It grabbed me by my slumping shoulders and jerked me down an ever darkening path that I did not wish to go down. But I hadn't the strength to navigate towards the light. I believe that it isn't so much "cowardice", as you put it, preventing us from asking for help. But rather, this terrible life destroying SHAME! You, in my view, were not and are not a coward! You were in the throes of an ever downward spiral of depression and in the painful clutches of addiction. The sense of shame you must have been feeling as your beautiful life began to unwind had to have been palpable. Like you, I have risen from the ashes of despair. I am in a beautiful, loving and supportive relationship. It is an unconventional relationship, as I am 59 and she is 30. But it works because she is the mature one in the relationship! ;) I'm finding new paths to wander with my Luv. As you are with Keith. Sharing with one's partner. Asking for help, offering unsolicited support/help, holding hands, giving foot rubs, being brave enough to be the best human I can be and giving absolute unconditional love is the greatest gift we can give ourselves, our partners and our community of family and friends. I look forward to watching more of your beautiful life unfold with Keith. Many Blessings!
Thankyou for subscribing Mike. So good to hear that you beat it too. Dark times , but at least we have both found someone to enjoy being with now. The video has certainly helped a few people to seek help. I've had a few contact us by email saying that it has prompted them to ask for help. That's the reason I did the video. I hope you and your lovely lady enjoy our upcoming videos, and some of the past ones as well. Take care x
Campervan Tales I think your video has helped more than you know. Your honesty and grace shine through. Honestly, I've not ever responded to any UA-cam videos before yours. But your story touched me deeply. I had to share an abbreviated story of my life, to show that your story shares a similar energy across the globe. And there are many others who struggle or have struggled in life. Our spark touches those around us and ignites healing energy. Thanks again for sharing and for being a beacon of healing light!!!
My husband was dead, I had 7 son's, house mortgage, 2 car payments and over a million dollars in medical bills, I laid on the bathroom tile with a bottle of vodka. I met my WOOKIE in grief counseling, he'd lost his wife to cancer. WOOKIE saved me. Oh my brave friend TY 🤗🤗 EXTRA thank you to Keith 🌹 I'm so blessed and so grateful to you sharing this out 💖💖💖💖💖💖
Thankyou Joy. I was so worried about putting this video out. It was only with lots of chats to Keith, my son Jacob and Pippa Worms Eye that it went ahead. Alcohol is the devil in disguise, your friend socially, but your enemy alone. If you are able, then please share my video, because if it encourages one person to ask for help, then I know that it was worth doing x❤
Hi hun, thanks for sharing your story, if it helps just one person it's worth it, well done mate and all the best for the future xxx I did give you a shout out in my last vid, Hope it helped a little ❤
Thank you for being brave enough to do this video xxx Can I please mention another way depression can get you. I was doing a fantastic job, tons of money, I went in work early, left late, not under orders but because I loved what I was doing. Then at home I studied, to do this job better, there was nothing else and I didn't need anything else. This was for about ten years, then one day I was in my lab, got up, nothing in my head that I was aware of, went to the nurse's office about a mile walk, sat there until she came out and she said something like "What are you here for?". I burst out crying, not quiet, but loud and out of control. People kept saying "What is wrong?", and I just could not talk, but inside I was thinking "I have no idea", outside I was doing this out of control crying with no idea where it came from. Because of what I was working on (top secret) the camp CO was called he came in the nurses office took one look at me and seemed to work it all out in an instant. He called a plane and sent me up to an MOD camp up in Scotland with orders "Do not leave the camp, do not work and do not talk to any one". When I got there I had nothing to do, so I walked round and round the perimeter of that camp, Many times every day for a couple of weeks. A bit like Forest Grump across America, I was doing that round the perimeter of the camp. I can not say I 'thought things out' because as far as I remember I wasn't thinking anything at all. After the two weeks the plane came back for me, I went back to Farnborough and I was cured. No really, I was, What had happened was that I was doing this wonderful job that I loved, that consumed every moment of every day, but for those ten years I had absolutely no social life or relationships. I had isolated myself in this tiny world. I had had no idea I was in depression. So that is something to watch for, all of us, how ever independent we feel we all need interaction with others. Family, friends, relationship/s. Mine did not involve drink or drugs at all. And the cure for mine was all around me every day, I just did not know I needed curing of anything. Just think of where we came from, still apes in the end, social creatures, if you are not getting social interaction, change something, make it now and do the most magic thing any one can do, Draw a line very blackly between work life and home life, since that time I never let the two cross. We monkeys, we need to be interacting with other monkeys. Very Blackly? Christopher Robin, he talked a lot of sense.
Thanks Rob. That is so true. Work takes over sometimes. We have since got to the bottom of my depression. My Mum died three months before I got married, my wife got pregnant a couple of months after we got married. When Jacob was 15 months old we had twins. I was a social worker and my wife was a night worker in a care home. We were ships in the night. I got home from work, she left an hour later. The same in the mornings. So we had no time. I was having sleepless nights with three pre school kids, going to work making life changing decisions for my clients then home again. I had that stress, had no time to grieve for my Mum properly and my head whirring at a million miles per hour, having to do paperwork at home to keep on top of my caseload. Had to be the man and not admit I was in a mess. Please will you share my video, because it might just reach someone who is struggling and it might encourage them to ask for help. Take care
I will watch the vlog tomorrow. Anita will be in hospital for a procedure so I will have time. I have read ALL the comments. My opinion of you was influenced by all those uplifting responses. I am proud of my brother. Much to catch up on Daryl.
I commend you for this video, thankyou it must have took a lot of courage. You dont need to say sorry for this video it is real. I asked this question to my friend the other day as i am going to be doing a van conversion and living full time in it. Thankyou because you answered it.I dont have a drink problem but i do like a bottle of wine with friends. lots of love xxx
Thankyou Sarah. Yep, just be wary of where your ignition key is. If you are able then please share the video as it might just reach someone who is struggling and encourage them to ask for help. Take care
First of all, well done Daryle for turning things around in your life and secondly having the courage to tell us your story and finally to Keith for being such a great Friend. I do hope through time other wounds will heal and there's every chance they will! Daryle I've been asked this and never been able to answer properly but is it even legal to drink in a campervan on a camping site and should the magnetic safe still be implemented? If asked by Police where the key is, does one tell them? I'm asking so others who read don't have to. I've watched so many youtube videos and people drinking in their vans, I wonder do they have a breathalyzer for checking the morning after and are they even safe to drive when they do. Some years ago I had some alcoholic friends and found myself picking up on the habbit myself, another friend spotted this and had a good talk with me, I needed it, I thought I was fine but this played on my mind. Now I very rarely touch it with many months to years between a drink, I've seen the mess and destruction it can cause and waste of people's lives, it's very sad indeed. Unfortunately it's a big social part of people's lives that can easily lead to antisocial behaviour. Definitely a lot of folks need to watch this for many reasons, i'll point them to this video if or when I can! Really glad you decided to upload this Daryle!
Thankyou pa maj. It was a worry as to how the video would be received, I thought I might get a lot of negativity. The policeman we know said that it's okay to drink in a campervan on a site but he wouldn't recommend it if parked in a layby or similar. As long as the key isn't in the vehicle he said that it is okay because you don't have access to your key. He doesn't want to do it but he is going to ask a colleague to talk to us on camera to clarify, so there will be a video in the future. Alcohol can be your best friend when you use it socially, but alone it is your worst enemy. Thankyou for sharing the video when you can, if it reaches just one person who is struggling and encourage them to ask for help, then I will feel that I've given something back. Take care.
@@CampervanTalesDaryle as you said when some people need help they don't ask. I've a friend that suffers from depression, he says when he's bad, the last thing he wants to do is talk to anyone. He's on antidepressants so obviously he's seen his doctor, lately he's been having a drink every night ( vodka ) he said. I don't see him often, he works a lot can be stubborn, still talking but split from his wife and sees his children. Your story reminds me of him though I feel there's little I can do. I also don't want him to lead me down a drinking path if you know what I mean although I am there for him if he asks, he knows this much.
Is there any way that you can show him my video? It probably won't do anything to help but might just make him think. Unfortunately, as I found out the hard way, until he admits that he needs help, it can be difficult to intervene. I have had someone contact me today who is desperate for help. I have suggested he contacts an organisation called CALM which can signpost men who are struggling with mental health issues and also addictions to other organisations that can help and advise. Their number is 0800 58 58 58. CALM stands for campaign against living miserably Their helpline is open daily 5.00pm til midnight
@@CampervanTales I will definitely try and that number may also help. It's not easy on the outside looking in plus trying not to cross boundaries that can't be seen but I will try.
Helen, thankyou. I hope that one day your Dad can see that he is wasting precious time that he could spend with you. Please share the video, because I hope that, in my own small way, I can encourage someone who is struggling to seek help. Thankyou again, and take care.
Powerful video. Were you depressed because you were gay in a straight relationship? Its not really clear if you and Keith are a romantic couple or close friends.
Thanks. Nope. After a lot of working through stuff later it was a combination of my Mum dying three months before I got married, then having three children under the age of 3 and looking after them all night so sleepless nights while my wife worked night shifts and then going straight to work and having to make life changing decisions for my clients as I was a social worker. So on top of all that I didn't get a chance to grieve for my Mum.
Campervan Tales yes, that would do it, I can't imagine not having the chance to griev my parents when they pop off from planet earth. Again great video, thank you for sharing. Your twins will come around!
Daryl Your story echoes memories of younger brother Neil, split up from his girlfriend, lost his living, seriously indebt with the taxman.... he was living on my couch for 6 months and then he moved on to my sister couch, where she gave him a job in her village shop..... We "thought" he was back on his feet ( Foolishly), he was happy working again, and seemed to be up beat, making new friends with in the village, and started to pay the Tax debt off..... But we seriously wasnt aware of his mental health at the time, he never spoke about being down, kept his feelings and worries to hemself. As well about his secret drinking... Where he would take bottles of Vodka from the shop and pay for it, so things would tally up on my sisters end ( but she was unaware it was him buying it, or evening drinking it ! )....On the 27th October 2005 he committed suicide aged 27. No good bye note or any type of explanation " Nothing " .We only found out about his depression, at his death inquest due to the GP notes.... But never once ! Did he spoke to me or my sister about it, nor show any indication of "Depression" . If I had only knew at the time about the implications of Depression..... Thank you for sharing your story and the awareness of Depression. Very brave of you mate 👌👍 All the best bud 🙂.....
Thankyou Mark. I'm so sorry to hear about your brother. Sadly, like alcoholics, some depressive are good at hiding their true feelings. Combine the two and it's a recipe for disaster.
I was very worried about doing this video, I thought that I would get a lot of negative comments. So far I haven't.
I just hope that it can help someone. Please share it, it might reach someone who is struggling and encourage them to seek help
@@CampervanTales No you certainly did a good job in getting the message across mate 😉👍, your one of the lucky ones to be able to share your story.... Alcoholism and depression certainly doesn't mix, to be honest if your in a deep depression state, that alone will (I'd imagine) would cloud one's judgement😔👍, I certainly don't think it would be fair for someone whom never been in yours shoes, to judge you in a bad light. And most certainly a brave and positive act in sharing your story matey 😎👍👍👍
Thanks Mark.
Oh Darryl, I was in tears watching this - you are a very brave and wonderful man. It really does take a special kind of person to sit in front of a camera and broadcast your worst moments. I just know already that it will help people whose first way to find help is looking toward the anonymity of the internet. I've suffered myself, firstly with post natal depression when I cried and cried and cried and we eventually found that my "treatment" was company. Then after my mum died I looked to the bottom of a bottle for my answers too - I can thank the heavens on both occasions that I had John. Realising you need help is the most difficult I think, asking for it is the next hardest but it is so much better once you do.. Big hugs to both of you brave men.. xx
Mandy thankyou. It took years to find the source of my depression, it was a mixture of grief for my Mum who died three months before we got married and then work stress and looking after the kids who were all under three on my own every night as my wife worked nights, so I wasn't getting much sleep on top of everything else.
I just hope that putting this out there helps someone who is struggling.
Take care and see you soon xx
Well done, mate. 😔
I often wonder how common mental health problems are amongst vanners.
Starting in 2010, I followed up my GP referral, tried counseling, tried a different counsellor, tried another counsellor and another. Tried all the meds. Finally, saw a therapist who helped me on track to recovery.
Whatever service you are referred to, whatever meds they put you on, if it doesn't feel like it's working... Say so. Try something else.
Thanks Mevi.
I really struggled about whether to publish this video. I thought I might get a load of negative backlash.
I tried counselling but I trained as a counsellor and went in knowing the right things to say so it didn't work for me. I got there in the end though.
Like you, I wonder about vanners and mental health, it does seem to have some correlation.
I'm asking people to share this video, not to get extra subs or anything like that, but in the hope that it reaches someone who is struggling and encourages them to ask for help. Take care.
I had a nervous breakdown in 2000, they do say "your vibe attracts your tribe" so why are so many of us into vans x
Mental health is a topic I covered a few times and it was the comments from others in the van community that had me wondering if there is a greater percentage of people experiencing mental health issues than the general public.
Personally, I think the "1 in 4" figure that the DofH publish is underestimating the numbers......
I think you are right there. You only have to walk down a street these days and it is clear in various ways when someone is having problems.
depression.org.nz - worth a look - lots of good info and resources - High profile campaign here due to the numbers of (young men in particular) who suffer in silence for fear of being told to 'harden up'
Well done Daryl very nicely done
We will use this at CatZero ❤️
Thanks mate best regards us 3 👍😀🐾🍺🍟
Thanks Dave. Please do use it. I put it out there in the hope that it will help someone
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That takes allot of balls to do this video. And shows that men are soft inside, BUT Yes, men do keep it to our selves until its too late, and we shouldn't.. That's what friends and family are for..? This video WILL help others come to terms with their selves and seek help... I did a video on carbon monoxide poison a long time ago and people still contact me now.. This was a biggest thing that broke marriage and that should have been the time she should have stood by and helped me.. I think you are more MAN by talking about it.. I hope this touches peoples harts.. Thanks mate...
Thanks Kev. I was really worried about putting this out there but Keith, Jacob and Pippa Worms Eye encouraged me to do it. If it helps one person then it will have been worth it. Please share it. The more people who see it then the more chance it will help someone. X
Good and frank story. Good on you for facing your issues so honesty. 👍
Thankyou. I hope the video helps people to ask for help if they are struggling
Brave. All down to the awful way people are forced to live & most people dont even know it. I am not going in to it here too much, but people are conditioned to put up with too much & then all it takes is the slightest little thing and it can tip you over the edge, hence why your case & similar cases are pretty common. I didn't derail as such, but the doctor put me on Sertraline for 6 months & have now taken myself off it. Made a big difference but it doesn't fix your basic problems. That is a another story.👍
Thanks Carl. Yes it's a sad fact that so many, too many are tipping over the edge these days. I hope that you are in a good place now. Take care
Slowly but surely the stigma of mental health problems is being broken down. People like yourself sharing their stories helps other people realise they are not alone. Thank you and be good to yourself and everyone else. I’m also wishing for all of your family to forgive you and include you in their lives. You are not a bad person. Best of luck.
Thankyou. I hope that this video is seen by someone who is struggling and that it will encourage them to ask for help
Takes some balls to do this vlog about mental health and your live story mate 👍😎
Thankyou. I hope that it reaches someone who is struggling and encourages them to ask for help. Take care
Much love x
Thankyou Rupert x
Love watch your Vlogs and i think you have been very brave telling your story and I have the greatest respect for you.
Thankyou George. That's very kind of you. I just hope that somewhere along the way this video will help someone. If you can, then please share it as the more who see it the more chance there is that someone will feel able to ask for help.
Thanks again and take care.
Thanks for sharing this really important message. I worked in mental Health for many years and have seen the effects of not asking for help as early as possible. Best wishes my friend.
Thankyou. I hope that in some small way, that this video might encourage someone who is struggling to ask for help.
Kudos to you for making this video. You've got some real guts!
Thankyou so much for saying that. I was worried about doing it, but it was my way of giving something back and hoping that it might help someone else who is struggling and encourage them to ask for help
incredibly powerful, thank-you for sharing. Too many videos are caught up in the social media world of everyone always happy and smiling when actually the real world isn't like that. Well done.
Thankyou. We thought it was important to tell. If it reaches one person who it might help then it will have been worth it. Take care
The hardest part is seeing you need help and then knowing where to get it and you’ve explained both really well Daryl. I’m glad your life is now turned around, but I also wish your children would let go of the past and see the person you are now and let you into their lives and their children’s lives too.
You’re very brave for making this video, thank you for sharing this and I sincerely hope this does help others before things get too bad for them. ❤️
Thankyou John.
It wasn't the easiest video to publish but I hope that it reaches someone who needs support. I'm asking people to share it, not for subs, but I do want it to reach out and help someone who is struggling and encourage them to ask for help.
Someone made a good suggestion this morning about me making a separate channel just where I can post little videos for my other two and my grandson in the hope that one day they will see them.
I shared it earlier on my community tab page. I think your camping videos show you as the person you are and would be a good way for your family to see what a great person you are now.
Thanks John.
Yep that's true, they can see what a wonderful cook I am and regret all the tasty meals they are missing out on. 😀🍕🌭🥘🥗🌯
Thanks for suggesting I watch this vlog John. I'm glad he's in a better place now with his life and moving forward :-)
@@h.bsfaithfulservant4136 thanks for watching. I did the video in the hope that it might help someone else who is struggling and encourage them to ask for help.
This is the most important video you've ever uploaded, I agree 100% with what you say, my personal advice to anyone feeling down/depressed/stressed etc would be speak to your GP. Thanks for Sharing your story.
Thankyou. I'm lucky to have come out of the other side with my health intact. I'm just hoping that by asking people to share this video that it will be seen by someone who is struggling and that it will encourage them to ask for help. Thanks for watching.
Just read the stories of other people's replies on here my heart goes out to all of you with stories of your own I feel your sadness try to stay positive keep grounded and help anyone you can so anyone else doesn't have to suffer the same 🙏💙♥️🙏
I am glad that people are able to share their stories too
Very brave vlog matey and probably helps to clear your mind. Hope your kids come round, chin up bud x
Thanks Gary. I wanted to do this to help people who are struggling, so please share it.
I'm lucky that I am through the other end of what was a very dark tunnel and I couldn't be happier. But if people watch this who are just beginning to struggle, then hopefully it will encourage them to ask for help.
dont know what it takes,but u certainly have lots of it, hope your children c this soon and rally to you with love that you deserve,
Thankyou. I hope so too. I just wanted to do the video in the hope that it reaches people who are struggling and encourage them to ask for help
I'm really glad you decided to make this video Daryl. It will resonate with people of there who are suffering. It will show how quickly life can turn around and how you can love but all.
I'm glad you and Keith met. Like I said to you the other day..... he saved you! And you have worked dam hard to get your life back on track! Love you buddy ❤🧡💛💙💚💜
Thankyou Pippa, and thankyou for being my sounding board. X
RESPECT!!!!!
Thankyou Glenn
Well done Daryl - very brave and honest. Delighted you’ve found happiness now, you deserve it.
Thankyou Stephen. I hope that it encourages others to ask for help. Take care
A remarkably frank video. It must have taken a lot of courage to make. Well done on rebuilding and reaching the point where you feel you can help others. I imagine it's a long way down and a long way back up. You have my utmost respect. We only have one life - whatever has happened in the past can't be changed, so look forwards. I wish you and Keith every strength and happiness. Thank you for making this and being brave enough to make it public.
Thankyou so much for watching the video. I was worried about doing it.
If it helps anyone who is struggling then it will have been worth it. Please share it with family and friends, you never know if one of them is hiding their depression. It is often hidden in plain sight. Take care.
So very brave of you to open up this way..You are so right..help is out there..If this video only helps one person they will have been blessed..will share, thank you✌💜😊
Thankyou CherBear. All the positive comments on this video, including yours let's me know that we were right to publish it. Take care
Campervan Tales ❤
Brave. Thankfully there's been a lot of vlogs on men's mental health on UA-cam. Not least, Haze Outdoors 'Show us your steak' challenge which went viral and got loads of rufty tufty wild campers and bushcrafters talking about the subject.
Thanks for watching. Every little helps to get people opening up.
I have just watched your video and I have so much respect for you I also have been in a bad place your so true life is so cruel on your own I am in process of saving for our first camper van yes it will be hard but not half as difficult has what you have been through the van life community is what keeps me believing there is hope for everything if you keep speaking to people / ps your vids are great 👍
Thankyou Peter. That's great to hear that you like our videos. It is sad just how many people are or have struggled.
I just hope that this video reaches anyone who is struggling and encourages them to ask for help.
Thankyou for your kind words and for watching.
That was very admirable and brave of you Darryl. The road to healing is through acknowledging your past and facing your fears. By doing this vlog you should be proud of yourself for the milestone you have achieved
Thanks guys. We hope that by everyone sharing it or mentioning it to people that it will reach people who are struggling and perhaps help them to ask for help
Thank you for having the courage and generosity to make this video. Even for someone who thinks they are fine now, I think it's important to recognise that it might not take much for their world to change beyond recogniton. I was very moved by your openness.
Thankyou. I was worried about how this video would be greeted, but there have been some lovely comments. Life can flip in the blink of an eye.
I'm just hoping that this video helps anyone struggling who watches it, to seek help. Take care
daryl, what can i say used to drink myself ! and one of my children does not speak. depression and drink are a cocktail to destruction. and i used to be a samaritan for a number of years ...and so its honest of you to tell your story . i am glad you found happiness with keith , so be well and thanks from me ..x
Thankyou Colin. Alcohol is the devil in disguise. Your friend socially, but your enemy alone.
I was very worried about this video, I filmed it and then kept it back. Worried that I might get some negative comments, but so far not.
Please share it, because I hope that it will find it's way to just one person who is struggling and that it will encourage them to ask for help.
Thankyou, and take care.
Some people may not want to hear this but it does need to be said X Well done for feeling that you could express everything so eloquently X You have learnt some painful lessons along the way that have made you the wonderful person you are today X I for one am Very Proud of you and pleased you have such a great man in your life as Keith X Take Care and Keep Safe X I think I got it right....'Happy Birthday' for tomorrow X
Thankyou Jennifer, that is very kind of you xx
An Interesting and brave video, you obviously felt now was the right time to share your experiences so I applaud you for that...even if you change or help one person who watches this, then you have succeeded and made a difference. Kind regards, Simon👍
Thankyou Simon. It really seems to have struck a chord with many people.
It wasn't easy to do for me but it needed telling.
I did it with my eldest son's approval. All I ask is that everyone shares the video in any way that they can, because, as you say, if it helps just one person then something good will have come out of it.
Courageous. Well done. And you have probably helped someone by sharing this. I hope so. 👍
Thankyou Michael. I hope it reaches someone who it helps.
Daryl thank you so much for sharing this mate. it takes so much to share what you have gone through. Your a brave Dude. I have so much respect for your sharing your story. Love and light to you guys. :-)
Thankyou Austin. If it helps one person to ask for help then it has been worth doing. 👍
Well done for doing that I have great respect for you I know what it feels like to be a that situation where you feel so numb hopelessly lost when you've lost everything I went through a similar thing 25 years ago breakups divorce kids lost home lost job lost then drink drink and more drink until one-day I snapped I didn't get arested but did have a breakdown.
Won't go into detail but well done for saying about it thank you.
Thankyou Kirston. My hope is that the video is seen by someone who is struggling and encourage them to ask for help
@@CampervanTales indeed yes hopefully it will encourage people to come forward to seek the help they desperately need to get well thank you Daryl 🙏
Very powerful vlog ❤
It's hard I work with homeless with my charity work and 90% are on the streets homeless from devorce drink or drugs it's so popular and happen to anyone. It's hard for men as most are too pig headed I know I got devorced 8 months ago and 1st month I hit the drink a good bit but luckily got my head together and now loving life and been with my kids as much as possible. You may see them at lots of camper meets in future as they are camper mad perfer to camp than go to my narrow boat lol.
I'm glad that you managed to get your head together and come out the other side. We are looking forward to meeting you at the camps.
If someone had told me that I would end up like I did I would never have believed them.
I just hope that this video reaches anyone who is struggling and encourages them to ask for help
My heart goes out to you. 14 years ago, life as I knew it ended. I lost everything. house. job. Family. Made a few bad choices got arrested and almost sectioned blah blah blah. 14 years on I'm still not in a good place. Still have issues. First time I've admitted it. Glad I'm not alone. Cheers pal.
We are here, if you ever need to talk just contact us. Life certainly throws some curve balls at people. Hope you can make some of the camps this year. Take care and please don't forget, we are here.
I'm good I'll never change now. Though I find being in the great outdoors helps centre the mind. That and keeping busy. Cheers.
That's the best tonic. Take care
Good video Daryl and very brave of you. Thank you for sharing your story . You and Keith seem like top. Blokes. . Thank you
Thanks John. That's kind of you to say. We try our best. It's been a video I have been thinking about doing for some time, I just hope that if it gets shared enough that someone will see it who it will encourage to ask for help.
What an incredibly brave Survivor you are ! Such a shame the establishment didn't recognise that you needed help and just locked you up, so pointless and damaging. Just destroyed you even more ! I'm at a loss at how little compassion and common sense the police showed, they could have made you get help. Glad you're doing well now, hopefully your twins will understand a little more as they mature and can learn to forgive and trust again. Thank you for sharing this x
Thankyou Pebbles. It wasnt a good time in my life but thankfully I survived and came out the other side stronger. I can only hope that Cam and Ruby want to sort things out one day.
Sadly the establishment still don't help. There is lots of talk about mental health these days but still not a really good infrastructure to help people. I was just told to pull myself together and go to AA.
💓 thanks for sharing your troubled past and directing me to view this vlog 💓 I am sure it helps folks who are struggling including myself to go talk :) thanks for listening to me rant on earlier too :)
Never a problem Jackie. It does help to talk and don't be afraid to ask for help
WOW, hats off to you mate, if your twins watched this they would be fools not to contact you, we are not here on this earth for long. I think its something they would regret years and years later. Ive been through a breakup with 2 young kids 15 years ago, the one thing Ive noticed talking to other single parents is that some parents really can brain wash children...they probably don't even remember your dark days..
Thankyou. One day hopefully. The main reason I wanted to do this was to get it out there and shared, in the hope that it reaches as many as possible and that it touches someone struggling and they seek help before they go too far.
Your courage to come through to reach out and help others is inspirational. Thank you xx
Thankyou, that really means so much. I took a lot of time to decide whether to do this video and I was worried about the reaction it would get. People have been very kind with their comments. It has been shared so many times too, so hopefully it is reaching some people who are at rock bottom, and will help them to see that they can beat addiction and move on to a full and happy life.
Thanks fella for making me look at myself and the road I do not want be heading down.!! Thanks for the sobering words mate.
It's an easy road to get lost on Kevin. Hope you keep well and safe
So many people have similar stories but few have the strength to publicly share them. The past cannot change but the future can. I am so pleased you have found help and happiness. Long may it continue. Best wishes, Trev ♥️
Thankyou Trev.
If it helps one person and encourages them to say they need help then it will have been worth it.
Please share the video so that it can reach people who may be where I was. Thankyou, and take care.
very brave to do the vid but respect to you been close meself
Thanks Tim. If it helps one person, then I'm glad I did it
Thanks for uploading. It takes a lot to speak out like that. I can relate to this because I was in the same boat a few years ago and vodka was my ultimate downfall.You really have to hit rock bottom before you realise and rebuild. Luckily I didn’t loose my job but they did help me get through it.Glad you came through and good luck in the future.
Thankyou Leigh. Glad that you got through the other side too. Sadly so many people don't.
Hi Daryl, such a great video, thanks for sharing, it was so brave of you to do this video, I hope your 2 other children will forgive you in the future, it shows how the preasures of life can turn you down the slippery slope to depression & drink
Thankyou. It can happen in the blink of an eye. I wasn't sure about doing it, but if it helps just one person to seek help then it will have been worth it. Please share it as then it has more chance of helping someone. Take care
Well done you are very brave. Please keep the videos coming. All the very best to you both.
Thankyou Doug. That's kind of you. Hopefully the video will resonate with somebody who is struggling and encourage them to ask for help
Daryl, thank you so much for having the guts to upload this very personal video. You are probably helping more people than you know. I think it is lovely that you make these films so your grandson can see what his grandad is all about. He will be very proud when he sees them. I am the child of 2 alcoholics and the only bit of advice I can give is to be patient with your two children. 5 years down the line is still early days, believe it or not. My father and brothers didnt speak for about 10 years before they finally met and talked. It was never easy for any of them, dad felt awkward and embarrassed and my brothers found him difficult at times, despite the fact he hadnt touched alcohol in years. Fact remains, they did get in touch with each other and spent the last few years of my Dad's life as friends. My dad lived to see his grandchildren grow up and to be told he was about to become a great grandfather. I miss him very much, he was such fun, loved singing, acting and travelling. Don't lose hope with your two.
You are in a good place now. You look great and you have the most fantastic partner in Keith, your enjoyment of life shines out through your films. It is great that you have contact with Jacob. Take care you two camper-vanners and keep your wonderful films coming xxx from H
Thankyou so much. We both hope that one day things will improve with Cameron and Ruby.
I did worry when I made the video. I thought that I would get a lot of negative reactions.
I am very lucky, I got through the other side without damaging my health.
I'm so glad that your Dad got to see his family reunited, it must have been wonderful for him. Alcohol is so easy to turn to, as I said in the video, that first drink can soon turn in to more.
Please share the video, because, I hope that in some small way, it might just encourage someone to make that first step and ask for help. If I had then things could have been very different. I'm very lucky that I am in such a good place now and couldn't be happier. Take care.
Very brave. Look forward.not back your not going that way. Good on you. I have struggled with depression for a long time. I have help now. I understand where your coming from.
Thankyou. The journey can be long but the final destination is reachable with help.
Crikey, sounds like you've been through the mill, brave chap for putting this out there. Best wishes 👍
Thankyou. Hopefully it will help someone else who is struggling and encourage them to ask for help
Excellent Vlog , took some Gonads to do it , to a degree the System let you down, wasnt all down to yourself , the Police, Magistrates, Prison Service should have Recognised your Issues, even the Person Supervising your Childrens Visit, its Changed since then identifying Vulnerable People and yet Still some still go unnoticed , Well done You, realising and Acting on it , Regards and 73s
Thankyou. It wasn't a good period in my life and still has knock on effects because I only see one of my now grown up children and have a grandson whom I haven't met. I felt it important though to encourage people to ask for help if they were struggling. Thankyou for your kind words, you are right about the system but at the end of the day, until I really realised I needed help they weren't going to do much good. I'm lucky in the fact that Keith was there for me and helped me through some very dark times to get me back to being me.👌
Darryl what a brave man putting this out there. We have only just started following you over the last year. And seeing how happy you are now proves that whenever people think there is no way out. Just seek help ❤❤
Thankyou both. I always make sure to tell people about my past if they are in a bad place. Hopefully it helps. xx
Excellent video! Brave man! 👍
Thankyou Geoff. That is very kind of you👍😀
Excellent word of advice Daryl. See you both soon ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thanks Billy. Hopefully it will reach somebody who needs support and encourage them to ask for help. Then I know it will have been worth making. I just want people to share it to get it to anyone it might help
@@CampervanTales shared on fb mate x
Thanks Billy xx
Sad about your children. I think they forget that parents are people too which problems and issues. Hope they can forgive you at some point. 🙏
My eldest, who has started his own UA-cam channel now has, and we see him a lot. The other two, hopefully one day they will. Thankyou for watching❤
@@CampervanTales 😊
Well done in speaking out, this looked hard for you to do but honestly will help people in more ways than you think. Life sucks sometimes for all of us but people shouldn't be alone. You are a hero in my eyes, all be it passing on a terrible story. Head up high and be you now and not then. All the best.
Thankyou. I thought long and hard about doing it, but I wanted to put it out in the hope that it will be seen by someone who is struggling and perhaps encourage them to ask for help.
Thank you so much for sharing! I have so much respect for your sharing your story. What a brave man you are! Blessings to you my friend!❤️
Thankyou Kathy.
I hope that the video reaches someone who is struggling and encourages them to ask for help.
Please share it, as that way the video may help someone. Take care and look after yourself x
You have a great channel and make great videos
You'll probably never made a better video than this one
Back in the day I used like a drink but was working full time and was having a great time in life generally
But then I started playing the fruit machines too as well as enjoying a drink but with mates etc
But I was happy and loving life
Today I haven't played the fruits for 20 years or so and don't miss them one bit after having won the jackpot going to the bar to collect the jug to fill it up with £1 coins etc and then changing motes back in to coins to put it back in Etc
I don't drink now apart from the odd pint of Guinness as I drive for a living for an agency I never know when the phone is going to ring with work which involves driving so u need to be sober etc so that I can enjoy the flexibility that agency work gives etc
But I have always been able to amuse myself
I never get bored as I like driving and I like the countryside and the scenery in the uk so being paid to drive through beautiful countryside is my ideal job
But more and more people are struggling with money and not having enough to get by to the end of the week etc which is why foodbanks are everywhere etc
Gambling is a huge problem in the uk at moment and as I buy Website addresses etc I see what website addresses are being bought etc and there are so many gaming and casino and betting website addresses being nought almost daily which means that even more betting websites will start to appear etc which doesn't bode well for those that already have a gambling problem
But too many people fall of the financial ladder that are heavily in debt and can't borrow and can't save and don't know how to get out of such a situation
Too many people are so stressed due to being in debt and people trying to get them to pay back money they simply don't have and will never have
With the likes of UA-cam and Facebook twitter and instagram etc These websites make it easier for the public to help the public without the need for charities etc
The PayPal link in most people's socialmedia profiles will get some many people out of a financial mess
The state is broken because if a person is in debt especially long term debt they have no way of getting out of debt and can't see past a mountain of debt they will never be able to pay off etc
Their should be
Debt dragons
Like dragons den but instead of investing in a person's idea etc
Looking at a person's debt situation and paying one of their bills for them
Unless people have been heavily in debt they won't realise just what a relief having a debt they can't afford to pay being paid for them does for them it's like a massive weight off their mind
Because if the public don't help the public get out of debt such a situation will cause a recession before long
Great video
Thankyou. That resonates so well with us. We both have debts from our previous marriages that ended years ago and just the other day had bailiffs at the door. Debt is another worry that exasabates depression. I'm lucky that I am through the other side and, despite the money worries I am with a good person, happy and lucky to have the campervan for us to escape for a while.
I just hope that the video encourages someone who is beginning to struggle to ask for help. Please share it, we aren't after the views, but the more it is shared, the more chance of it resonating with someone, who will then feel able to seek help.
Love watching your videos and it’s nice you could share your past and I’m sure things will change over time and yes us men should grow some and talk please keep up the great videos and can’t wait for the next one 👍😊
Thanks Justin. That's kind of you to say. I hope that this video reaches anyone who is struggling and encourages them to ask for help.
Normal service resumes soon.
Campervan Tales I suffer from depression a lot and it’s so hard to talk thxs again for sharing
Take care and look after yourself. Put yourself first, it's not being selfish, it is the opposite. If we can help in any way just ask.
Campervan Tales thxs so much 👍
thanks for sharing mate not sure my last comment came through for some reason. I put a link in one of my other vlogs. onwards and upwards mate. 😉😉
Thanks Austin. If it helps one person then it will have been worth doing 👍
@@CampervanTales definitely mate. 😊
You are a very brave man. I’m going through everything you have described so fully understand the impact of what you experienced. Thank for your thought provoking video. Nick
Thanks Nick. I hope that you manage to come out the other side. It isn't easy but if I can do it then anyone can. It took a long time and a lot of false starts to start getting the old me back and it will for you, but you can do it. If I can be of any help just let me know
Thank you Darryl, very much appreciated, Nick
Cracking video,Very brave of you to come on camera and share your personal life story.
Thankyou. I hope that it helps someone and encourage them to ask for help
Hi matey, thank you so much for opening up and sharing with us. Xx
Thankyou for watching. Not our usual video but one that I hope will help anyone who is struggling. Please share it, as the more people who see it then the more chance of it helping someone. Thankyou again and take care. xx
Thank you for sharing. A brave video to make and publish. Good to know you have found the help you need. I watched this out of order as I knew from the title it needed watching now. Thank you.
Thankyou. I wasn't sure about publishing it, but Keith Jacob and Pippa Worms Eye encouraged me.
If it reaches one person who is struggling and encourage them to ask for help them to ask for help then it will have been worth it. Take care both of you.
Thanks for sharing, I'm glad one of your children has made contact, the others will eventually given time. It took one of my nephews over 10 years to contact my brother after his separation, but he did eventually, and now my brother and my (new) sister-in-law are a big part of his family, hopefully this will happen for you in time. There is a very good website here in New Zealand which is worth looking through for anyone who thinks they might need some help, or knows someone who they think needs a little bit of guidance or more information etc depression.org.nz - its high profile here and has former All Black Sir John Kirwan as the main front man.
Thanks Linzi. Yes we have to live in hope that contact will happen.
I hope the video can help others, the more it is shared the more chance that someone who is struggling will see it and then make the first step.
Thankyou for watching.
You're right people need to tell someone, find the person you feel most comfortable with and tell them, don't think they don't know about this sort of thing together they will help you find the help you need, people care even if you can't see it through your depression x
Thanks Jane. Making this video has been on my mind for some time. If it just encourages one person to ask for help then if will know that it has been worth it. Please share the video, the more people who see it then the more chance it will reach somebody who needs help
Already shared xxx
Thankyou xx
I hope you have or can forgive yourself for what you did. We do what we can when we can. You stopped drinking when you were able to stop drinking. It hurts us to know we have hurt the ones we love but we were hurting too. Hurt people hurt people- as the saying goes. All the best chuck 😊
Aww thankyou. It's good to be in a better place and happy, rather than living a lie and punishing myself and everyone I cared about for it
@@CampervanTales Absolutely 😊
Brave message. Hugs.
Thankyou. I hope that it helps some people and they can see that things can, and do get better.
Very brave of you to share your story ❤️
Thankyou Karen. I just hope the video helps to encourage people to ask for help.
Full respect for opening up. Keep strong and keep the video coming 👍🏻
Thankyou. Take care
Evening buddy 😁. Well done mate. Time to hold your head up. New mind new life. Thanks for sharing mate. ATVB Andy 🇬🇧
Thankyou Andy. That's very kind of you to watch and say some kind words. Take care 👍❤
@@CampervanTales we can all learn from are past, even though we have to live with it. I wish you a long an easy life.
Thank you for being so brave.
I know your pain and I know your children's pain.
Where you lead, others will follow. And many will find healing
Thankyou. It wasn't an easy video to make, and I'm sure not an easy one to watch. Please share it, it might just reach someone who is struggling and encourage them to seek help. Take care
just pure love and respect to you .our hearts go out to you
Thanks Colin. It has been a hell of a journey the last twenty years. I'm 55 tomorrow so it's fifteen years this week since I got sent to prison.
I just hope that this video reaches anyone who is struggling and encourage them to ask for help.
Please share it if you can.
Call or text that friend and ask them how they are, I do it all the time. Big respect for making such a raw video mate. We all see the good in peoples lives in the world of yt so it’s nice to know a little bit about yourself. It would of been good to hear the story’s from further back of why you started to feel the way you did and what made you turn to the drink. I found the video very interesting and thank you for reaching out there to other people that may feel like you once did. ❤️
Thanks Steve. It took years to find out what caused it but in the end it was a build up of grief and work stress that did it.
My Mum died three months before we got married and I didn't have time to grieve, then the pressure of my work caseload. I was a social worker making life changing decisions about people and having to take work home with me, plus three children under the age of three, sleepless nights because my wife worked nights and the kids would be waking up. All that didn't help.
Please share the video because I want it to reach people in the hope that it might help someone else who is struggling and encourage them to ask for help.
Campervan Tales how did Keith come about in all this?, he sounds like a good guy 👍 strange but nobody knows what people are like just from watching yours or anybody else’s videos do they! Well done Keith! Someone that cares that’s all it takes really. Cheers
We met at a campsite. After prison a friend loaned me a tent, I went camping and bumped in to Keith. He had also taken himself off after his marriage broke up. We just hit it off and kept in touch. Whenever I had too much to drink after that I would call him and he would come running. He is one in a million and I'm very lucky that he believed in me. Without him, I think I wouldn't be here now. Things developed and we realised how we felt about each other.
Campervan Tales cool story, shit happenings!, put this in your vides!, pleased for you both 😀
Thankyou
Brave man.
It sucks.
Part of the reason I haven’t been uploading.
I’m still out and about in the van,just back from wales in fact but,just not been in the mood to vlog..
Keep fighting 👍
Yeah used crutches myself ...
Don’t help,in long term.as you well know.
Yes it can be a difficult and lonely place, even when you are surrounded by people who don't understand, or even if they do. You take care of yourself and if you ever need to chat get in touch. We have a van meet in Derbyshire in May. If you are up to it come along.
Campervan Tales Bless ya.
I’ll keep an eye out for the meet, though these things often fall when when I have my son home ( I’m a single parent) but will see.
Thanks again ❤️
Daryl you are so brave for telling your story to others, but by doing so you may have helped save a life before it got too far down the line for them, I'm so glad you had the strength to come through this awful experience and find yourself much more well and happier with your life now, so happy you have Keith to be with now, best wishes to you both.
Thankyou Georgina. I hope that it does reach someone who is struggling and encourage them to ask for help.
It wasn't the easiest video to publish and I did worry about it.
Please share it as that way it might just help someone. Thankyou again and take care.
Thank you for sharing your story. I'm sure it will help many people out.
Thankyou for watching. I hope that if it helps even one person then it will have been worth it. Please share the video if you can as the more people see it then the more chance that it grabs that one person and helps them to ask for help. Take care.
I know what you went through and I know how it is almost impossible to stop drinking. I had a partner, an absolutely fantastic girl. When I first met her I didn't realize she was an alcoholic, it took quite some time in fact as I only visited her, never actually lived with her at first. She was aggraphobic so hardly went out, she had the man from the off license deliver cheap wine to her house. Anyway to cut a long story short, we bought a house together, she still drank wine or anything else if there was no wine. We had a great business going where she worked from home and I was out on the road,. Then - 2 years after we moved in, I noticed her eyes looked a bit jaundiced, she also had another problem like a period that wouldn't stop. I took her to the doctor who arranged for an immediate scan at the hospital the same evening. Next day her doctor phoned and said get to the hospital immediately. She was admitted straight away with liver disease - cirrhosis. Death came slowly as toxins were not filtered out of her body, instead they poisoned her brain and she swelled up as fluids were not dispersed. She discharged herself after 2 weeks and her sister arranged for her to have a bed in her house that looked out onto the summer garden. She was only there for 3 days. I was with her alone as she took her last breath. I'm in tears now as I recall this. If you drink and read this , think of the grief your loved ones may have to go through, think of the horrendous way you will die, the pipes inserted into your body to drain off fluids you can no longer expel, the blood vessels that grow so thin that they rupture causing the bleeding I mentioned earlier, not just in women but similar in men. Three weeks to go from a happy 45 year old to death.
I wanted to like your comment but that would be inappropriate.
I'm so sorry for what happened to you and your partner.
I am so thankful that I came out of the other side with my health intact. I shouldn't have done because at one point I was getting through 10 litres of vodka in a week.
I wanted to share my story because in my own small way I wanted to give something back. If the video encourages just one person to ask for help then I'm happy.
Please share the video so that it does reach people who are in need of support. Thankyou for sharing your story with me. Take care and look after yourself.
good video takes a lot of courage to do this, hope the family comes round at some point
Thankyou. That's very kind of you to say. I hope that somewhere along the way this video will help someone who is struggling and encourage them to ask for help.
Hello from Montana, USA. I'm a new subscriber, really enjoy your videos. This video was very powerful. Thank you for sharing.
I've suffered from depression since early childhood. But back in those days (early 1960's), depression wasn't talked about. If one was struggling, you were told to toughen up and stop moping about.
Later, in my adult life, I lost my job, home and relationship all in one fell swoop because I couldn't ask for help. Shame is an insidiously strong energy. It grabbed me by my slumping shoulders and jerked me down an ever darkening path that I did not wish to go down. But I hadn't the strength to navigate towards the light.
I believe that it isn't so much "cowardice", as you put it, preventing us from asking for help. But rather, this terrible life destroying SHAME! You, in my view, were not and are not a coward! You were in the throes of an ever downward spiral of depression and in the painful clutches of addiction.
The sense of shame you must have been feeling as your beautiful life began to unwind had to have been palpable.
Like you, I have risen from the ashes of despair. I am in a beautiful, loving and supportive relationship. It is an unconventional relationship, as I am 59 and she is 30. But it works because she is the mature one in the relationship! ;)
I'm finding new paths to wander with my Luv. As you are with Keith. Sharing with one's partner. Asking for help, offering unsolicited support/help, holding hands, giving foot rubs, being brave enough to be the best human I can be and giving absolute unconditional love is the greatest gift we can give ourselves, our partners and our community of family and friends.
I look forward to watching more of your beautiful life unfold with Keith. Many Blessings!
Thankyou for subscribing Mike. So good to hear that you beat it too. Dark times , but at least we have both found someone to enjoy being with now. The video has certainly helped a few people to seek help. I've had a few contact us by email saying that it has prompted them to ask for help. That's the reason I did the video.
I hope you and your lovely lady enjoy our upcoming videos, and some of the past ones as well. Take care x
Campervan Tales I think your video has helped more than you know. Your honesty and grace shine through. Honestly, I've not ever responded to any UA-cam videos before yours. But your story touched me deeply. I had to share an abbreviated story of my life, to show that your story shares a similar energy across the globe. And there are many others who struggle or have struggled in life. Our spark touches those around us and ignites healing energy. Thanks again for sharing and for being a beacon of healing light!!!
Thankyou Mike ❤
My husband was dead, I had 7 son's, house mortgage, 2 car payments and over a million dollars in medical bills, I laid on the bathroom tile with a bottle of vodka. I met my WOOKIE in grief counseling, he'd lost his wife to cancer. WOOKIE saved me. Oh my brave friend TY 🤗🤗 EXTRA thank you to Keith 🌹 I'm so blessed and so grateful to you sharing this out 💖💖💖💖💖💖
Thankyou Joy. I was so worried about putting this video out. It was only with lots of chats to Keith, my son Jacob and Pippa Worms Eye that it went ahead.
Alcohol is the devil in disguise, your friend socially, but your enemy alone.
If you are able, then please share my video, because if it encourages one person to ask for help, then I know that it was worth doing x❤
Joy Steward ❤️
What is a wookie?
My new husband I met in grief counseling, he lost his wife to cancer.
@@joysteward8785 Wish you both well
Hi hun, thanks for sharing your story, if it helps just one person it's worth it, well done mate and all the best for the future xxx I did give you a shout out in my last vid, Hope it helped a little ❤
Thanks Angela. I saw the shout out thankyou. Keep up the videos. Cuddle to Foxy x
Thank you for being brave enough to do this video xxx
Can I please mention another way depression can get you.
I was doing a fantastic job, tons of money, I went in work early, left late, not under orders but because I loved what I was doing. Then at home I studied, to do this job better, there was nothing else and I didn't need anything else.
This was for about ten years, then one day I was in my lab, got up, nothing in my head that I was aware of, went to the nurse's office about a mile walk, sat there until she came out and she said something like "What are you here for?".
I burst out crying, not quiet, but loud and out of control. People kept saying "What is wrong?", and I just could not talk, but inside I was thinking "I have no idea", outside I was doing this out of control crying with no idea where it came from.
Because of what I was working on (top secret) the camp CO was called he came in the nurses office took one look at me and seemed to work it all out in an instant. He called a plane and sent me up to an MOD camp up in Scotland with orders "Do not leave the camp, do not work and do not talk to any one".
When I got there I had nothing to do, so I walked round and round the perimeter of that camp, Many times every day for a couple of weeks. A bit like Forest Grump across America, I was doing that round the perimeter of the camp. I can not say I 'thought things out' because as far as I remember I wasn't thinking anything at all.
After the two weeks the plane came back for me, I went back to Farnborough and I was cured. No really, I was, What had happened was that I was doing this wonderful job that I loved, that consumed every moment of every day, but for those ten years I had absolutely no social life or relationships. I had isolated myself in this tiny world. I had had no idea I was in depression.
So that is something to watch for, all of us, how ever independent we feel we all need interaction with others. Family, friends, relationship/s. Mine did not involve drink or drugs at all. And the cure for mine was all around me every day, I just did not know I needed curing of anything.
Just think of where we came from, still apes in the end, social creatures, if you are not getting social interaction, change something, make it now and do the most magic thing any one can do, Draw a line very blackly between work life and home life, since that time I never let the two cross. We monkeys, we need to be interacting with other monkeys.
Very Blackly? Christopher Robin, he talked a lot of sense.
Thanks Rob.
That is so true. Work takes over sometimes. We have since got to the bottom of my depression.
My Mum died three months before I got married, my wife got pregnant a couple of months after we got married. When Jacob was 15 months old we had twins. I was a social worker and my wife was a night worker in a care home. We were ships in the night. I got home from work, she left an hour later. The same in the mornings. So we had no time. I was having sleepless nights with three pre school kids, going to work making life changing decisions for my clients then home again.
I had that stress, had no time to grieve for my Mum properly and my head whirring at a million miles per hour, having to do paperwork at home to keep on top of my caseload.
Had to be the man and not admit I was in a mess.
Please will you share my video, because it might just reach someone who is struggling and it might encourage them to ask for help. Take care
Wow, I don't think there's anything cowardly about you, extremely brave, stay strong, stay safe. Best wishes.
Thankyou Michael.
I will watch the vlog tomorrow. Anita will be in hospital for a procedure so I will have time. I have read ALL the comments. My opinion of you was influenced by all those uplifting responses.
I am proud of my brother.
Much to catch up on Daryl.
Thankyou
Good man, well done and thank you for sharing :)
Thankyou for watching. Not our usual jolly journey
@@CampervanTales it just shows we are all human.
Hopefully it will encourage others who are struggling to ask for help.
I commend you for this video, thankyou it must have took a lot of courage. You dont need to say sorry for this video it is real. I asked this question to my friend the other day as i am going to be doing a van conversion and living full time in it. Thankyou because you answered it.I dont have a drink problem but i do like a bottle of wine with friends. lots of love xxx
Thankyou Sarah.
Yep, just be wary of where your ignition key is.
If you are able then please share the video as it might just reach someone who is struggling and encourage them to ask for help.
Take care
@@CampervanTales most definitely will share it you take care too love your videos xxx
Thankyou Sarah. That's good the know that you enjoy what we do. X
First of all, well done Daryle for turning things around in your life and secondly having the courage to tell us your story and finally to Keith for being such a great Friend.
I do hope through time other wounds will heal and there's every chance they will!
Daryle I've been asked this and never been able to answer properly but is it even legal to drink in a campervan on a camping site and should the magnetic safe still be implemented?
If asked by Police where the key is, does one tell them? I'm asking so others who read don't have to.
I've watched so many youtube videos and people drinking in their vans, I wonder do they have a breathalyzer for checking the morning after and are they even safe to drive when they do.
Some years ago I had some alcoholic friends and found myself picking up on the habbit myself, another friend spotted this and had a good talk with me, I needed it, I thought I was fine but this played on my mind. Now I very rarely touch it with many months to years between a drink, I've seen the mess and destruction it can cause and waste of people's lives, it's very sad indeed. Unfortunately it's a big social part of people's lives that can easily lead to antisocial behaviour.
Definitely a lot of folks need to watch this for many reasons, i'll point them to this video if or when I can!
Really glad you decided to upload this Daryle!
Thankyou pa maj.
It was a worry as to how the video would be received, I thought I might get a lot of negativity.
The policeman we know said that it's okay to drink in a campervan on a site but he wouldn't recommend it if parked in a layby or similar. As long as the key isn't in the vehicle he said that it is okay because you don't have access to your key.
He doesn't want to do it but he is going to ask a colleague to talk to us on camera to clarify, so there will be a video in the future.
Alcohol can be your best friend when you use it socially, but alone it is your worst enemy. Thankyou for sharing the video when you can, if it reaches just one person who is struggling and encourage them to ask for help, then I will feel that I've given something back. Take care.
@@CampervanTalesDaryle as you said when some people need help they don't ask. I've a friend that suffers from depression, he says when he's bad, the last thing he wants to do is talk to anyone. He's on antidepressants so obviously he's seen his doctor, lately he's been having a drink every night ( vodka ) he said. I don't see him often, he works a lot can be stubborn, still talking but split from his wife and sees his children.
Your story reminds me of him though I feel there's little I can do. I also don't want him to lead me down a drinking path if you know what I mean although I am there for him if he asks, he knows this much.
Is there any way that you can show him my video? It probably won't do anything to help but might just make him think. Unfortunately, as I found out the hard way, until he admits that he needs help, it can be difficult to intervene. I have had someone contact me today who is desperate for help. I have suggested he contacts an organisation called CALM which can signpost men who are struggling with mental health issues and also addictions to other organisations that can help and advise.
Their number is 0800 58 58 58.
CALM stands for campaign against living miserably
Their helpline is open daily 5.00pm til midnight
@@CampervanTales I will definitely try and that number may also help. It's not easy on the outside looking in plus trying not to cross boundaries that can't be seen but I will try.
That's all you can do, but at least he knows that you are there for him
I wish my dad give a shit about me, yeah you fucked up but you've come through it. I'd be chuffed to have had a dad like you.
Helen, thankyou. I hope that one day your Dad can see that he is wasting precious time that he could spend with you.
Please share the video, because I hope that, in my own small way, I can encourage someone who is struggling to seek help. Thankyou again, and take care.
Will do
Powerful video. Were you depressed because you were gay in a straight relationship? Its not really clear if you and Keith are a romantic couple or close friends.
Thanks. Nope. After a lot of working through stuff later it was a combination of my Mum dying three months before I got married, then having three children under the age of 3 and looking after them all night so sleepless nights while my wife worked night shifts and then going straight to work and having to make life changing decisions for my clients as I was a social worker. So on top of all that I didn't get a chance to grieve for my Mum.
Campervan Tales yes, that would do it, I can't imagine not having the chance to griev my parents when they pop off from planet earth. Again great video, thank you for sharing. Your twins will come around!
Thankyou.