I really enjoy your podcast and mini vlogs, but what really touches me are videos like these. You’re very eloquent and in touch with your emotions. Hearing you work through them out loud is very cathartic for me! I struggle with being in touch with my own emotions and vocalizing them and watching you do it is extremely helpful, particularly because it seems we have similar struggles. You probably won’t see this, but you radiate a lot of love and even though I don’t know you personally, I am proud of you for the way you juggle motherhood, your career, and how much importance you place on being a good human all around. And most of all for being so open about your vulnerabilities. Sometimes we all forget we’re just human.
I will say as a sahm, I am in flight or fight nearly everyday, I am past the point of stressed out, nearly passing out, it is SO stressful not having a community, village, nothing but my husband who of course works full time. He does everything he can, he's incredible, but it's not enough. I am drowning daily lol
I love you this opened my eyes and made me really start to think of how I can be more selfless. I can’t believe the people that hate on you or don’t understand you. You are full of love don’t stop doing what you’re doing
Omfg. Thank you for being so real and vulnerable. None of it’s stupid. Most of us have those types of thoughts and we just need to normalize it. The only way to do that is by talking about it just like you did here! Also, glad Alfie is ok! Almost identical sitch happened to my now almost 9 year old when he was 3, but it snapped his front left tooth in half and it was loose and turned grey. It eventually fell out. 🤦♀️🤷♀️😂🤍
This was truly one of favorite podcast episode. Thank you for sharing. These conversations and topics, your views, revelations and thoughts resonate with me so much. Thank you and please never stop doing these types of videos! You are helping so many people and being of service by doing this alone ❤
Research once suggested that thalidomide was safe and that cigarettes were part of a healthy lifestyle. I've seen research that says that spankings are an important part of cognitive/behavioral development. If you read that, would you start spanking your kids? See, the research will always change and be confusing, and a lot of the time it's done by people who don't even have kids. You need to trust your instincts when it comes to raising your family. God made you their mother. You have the authority and understanding to give them everything they need. ❤
All the topics you are taking about are truly resonating with me. I send you so much love and thanks for sharing your very human storys ❤ you doing great Laura 🎉
Your videos are awsome, Laura, you don't need anyone's validation!! If you like what you do that's more than enough! Just keep going and do what you love to do and what makes you happy 🩵
I was an ER nurse as a single mother of two with master degree study. Depends on individual tolerance. It was the most memorable and best time of my life. ❤
For someone who claims to have a successful coparenting relationship with their ex you sure seem to take on the lions share of the actual daily grind of parenting and all the stresses that go with that. It doesn’t appear to be a very even split.
And the the fact that he doesn't liked the videos: there could be 1000 reasons why he didn't liked it. But the less we know about a reason, the more we asume it must be becauseuf us/our character. The more we know, the more we learn that it has nothing to do with us but within the other person. So digging and talking about it will bring relive, for sure ❤
That’s why I kinda stopped stressing about what people/“experts” say regarding raising children. Now the thought of sleep training a baby sounds like torture and back when I did it 4.5 years ago (taking Cara babies program, ‘gentle’ training!) it was what everyone did! Things change so fast and what’s “right” or “wrong” does as well. Obvi there’s exceptions to this but for things like sleeping arrangements etc, I’m really gonna lean into my mother’s intuition the third time around!
It's also important to acknowledge those feelings and where they come from and how they are trying to serve you. You mentioned starting therapy. You may want to look into Peter Levine and his techniques. Yes there are bigger things but you almost seem to be dismissing your feelings and they are just going to keep showing up until you get to the root of them and learn what they need and what they're trying to teach you.
I loved this, thank u for sharing what you feel, I've been feeling some similar things and it makes me feel better when I listen to you openly talking about it❤
I bed shared until he was age 8. In Asian countries it is common until age 10. Normal in fact. He is the most sociable boy with no sleep issues, now age 12. I was there sleeping next to him from birth and it was the least disruptive way for us to sleep.
I co-sleep with my son and I love it. It started once he turned 1 yo, because I was just too anxious to cosleep when he was really tiny. Before he turned one, he slept in a bassinet and then crib right next to me.
My son had 2 sets of stitches and a broken arm before he was Two. Oh, did I mention that he was born 3 months premature as well. Yeah, this is my life! He is now 33 years old and still challenges me daily.😵💫😂
Yes! Even if just taking subs to the park and having a picnic and letting them run around before bath and bed. The more outside time to get all the extra energy out the better. And it’s a very happy time of life … playing with your kids at the park or at the playground or at the local pool (I realize they have their own pool) or the library … little field trips to break up the day and the monotony. Behavior issues improve and they get energy out, have exercise and fresh air. You feel less like you’re trapped in the house with everyone needing you all the time. They learn to play independently and to make new friends.
Agree for sure I am a single mom and from birth to prob 3rd grade he’s been crazy! Now that he’s 12 he had chilled out some but still he’s so impulsive! I believe all of my grey hairs are definitely from when he was smaller!!!😹
Do you ever think that you are still very much in a codependent relationship with Stephen? Perhaps even more so now then when you were together. I know you are co-parenting but I feel like you need to put some distance between you and him. Seeing him every day, working together, the jealousy, obsession, the mindgames he plays. I honestly don’t see how you can have a positive relationship with someone new, whilst you’re basically still married to Stephen. Setting some very firm boundaries with Stephen would be a good start.
She still doesn't get it. Sad for her. She thus far keeps doing the same stuff she has been doing with him for years as he continues to be the real idiot in this horror story. Not every likes what she calls comedy. She has the potential to much more than slapstick videos, dumb skits, weird faces etc. She has a much better calling then hanging with her ex who continuously demeans her. I wish she would indeed love herself more and let that j.a. Stephen go. And she needs to stop asking about his girlfriends and he needs to do the same. She keeps her entanglement with him and thus making little to no healing and good mental capacity walking on egg shells around him. She falls for every trap he sets up. He will continue to drag her into his he'll hole. He diminishes her way too often. Keep hoping for her to shift gears and get down to the root of this and move on. Get a nanny, do not produce a damn thing with him and start really living her life. He doesn't get to he in her life anymore. His horrific actions just tear her into pieces. Plus, most think he is gay, which is his business, but she closes an eye to that too. Anyone would be a mess living with him all those years. Her 'boyfriend' doesn't like her 'work', which he doesn't have to. It really is different and he may just find it stupid. That doesn't mean he doesn't like or love her.
Yeah, but that is easier said than done. When a guy or a girl are together for a long time they will always be "together". It's the real reason guys avoid single moms, not the kids, but the ex.
I dont share too much of my personal story online anymore, but I am diagnosed with multiple mental health issues, many that align with Laura's. I am also a single mother lacking any reliable support or network. I am triggered THE MOST from my children. The opening of this podcast helped me so much to see that for what it is. I thought I was just failing for not being able to access the coping skills that I LITERALLY TEACH to other people. This is so helpful. Thank you. *edited for typos and grammar
Do what makes you happy and your children happy. No matter what subject you research there’s going to be differing opinions so do what is best for you guys. And for your relationship, this is why I am taking a long time before getting with someone after my marriage because you need time to work on you so you don’t bring those same issues into the next relationship. If your relationship failing was mostly because of your partner, you still have fault in it as well that needs a dress before entering another relationship. You need to give yourself time to know and learn who you are and what you need to change because any toxic relationship you’re going to have toxic traits from it
Maybe youre not in a secure place in this new relationship yet, so those old "anxiously attached" things playing up, because its the phase of the relationship where old wounds, are easily visable and more easily triggered into feeling needing activation stratigies(things one does to feel closer and safer) in the new(not secure) relationship.♡
I have been a single mom since 1993 I had 1 five years old and one newborn. Since then I adopted a 13 year old and a newborn in 2003. It is the hardest job…
@@cryptic6917she didn’t say it wasn’t what she wanted or that it wasn’t worth it (hence the adoptions) she’s just acknowledging that it’s hard. Some things are just hard and that’s okay.
I’ve been both and both have their own problems. Personally I do think it’s best for the parent to raise the child, vs a non-parent. You are doing a wonderful job! They won’t co-sleep forever and I truly enjoyed those years! My kids turned out very well, IMO. You succeed at making me laugh! And cry, when you are being real. And I appreciate both. Ignore the trolls! Focus on family. I know you aren’t a believer in Jesus like I am, but my faith has gotten me though all the phases of parenthood and marriage. It’s never all roses, but I can always pray and feel peace in the storm. Stay you, Laura! Prayers for Alfie and your whole family! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Any time I see “off” behavior I go to the cabinet for TRS flavorless mouth sprays. Also, I double to double check everything for dye. That’s a big one for my 9 year old son. Air vents changed recently? I don’t use melatonin but there is a reputable brand on Amazon that’s a basic blend of herbs for sleep, and they come in these little flavorless tear off bottles with clear liquid. My kids say they are sweet.
100% wrong. Wait until you have to care for a loved one with Dementia or Alzheimer's... I raised two girls, not nearly as difficult as caring for two loved ones with Dementia.. Once you have to care for individuals with Dementia or Alzheimer's, then we will talk.
I did that at 4. Face planted on unpaved road from my wagon. Knocked out so many teeth and didn't have front teeth for a long time. Caps. I was a mess. My dad took me. My mom partied and got high in some field.
I’m also cripplingly codependent (and working on it in therapy) so I totally get feeling crushed by our partners not reacting the way we want them too. But, in this case you were a successful comedian before, during your marriage and parenthood and you’re still that now. I say, if you’re making your kids proud (you are) and you’re making yourself laugh, that’s all that matters. ❤ I used to be really down about my partner not liking my stuff too bc he’s also not on socials much, but he said something to me that may help someone else here. He said, “do you want me to like it so others think things about us, or do you want me to tell you you’re gorgeous in person every day, without the world knowing?” And it hit me like a TON of bricks. I don’t do this for a job but thought I’d share to encourage anyone else like us 😂❤
THIS!!! So many worry about what others think and what others are going to see, more than they worry about what THEY'RE seeing and feeling every day in their own relationship
My son fell up the stairs once. Yes he tripped while going up and loosened his front tooth, so I can absolutely relate to this. It was truly okay but in the moment it was scary. I'm a STHM who homeschools (social life? What's that? Lol)
Hmmm. I feel like these mothers today seem to overthink things which causes them to be overwhelmed. Also, honestly you are not a single mother. Try going to meet a real single mother with no support from the father of the child or family. Speak to these women who do not have the resources. I am not saying your job is not hard, but you still have significant support.
Is it really about being relatable? Just be honest. She's not a single mother. Daddys in the picture literally. Glad someone else noticed that's she's NOT A SINGLE MOTHER! Sigh, motherhood is hard though. Single maybe because she's divorced but she has plenty of support with her children.
@@shirleysilver3040 Stephen lives down the street. He is there everyday. They coparent daily. So no she is not a single mother. Her job as a mom is tough I agree, but again she has support and the father is in the picture.
My son was allowed to crawl into bed with us freely from like 3-7, now that he’s almost 8 it’s not such a common occurrence. We found a good middle ground where he was able to sleep alone until about 2 or 3 am, he’s a tall kid though and a kicker so it had to come to an end at some point 😢
There is a saying in my country: Only speaking people can be helped. I can totally understand your frustration about the lack of likes. But I don't understand not talking about it. I wouldn't go into a conversation with him with telling him that your feelings are hurt, but just listen with genuine interest. You can say that you noticed that he didn't like your videos, but others do, and ask if there's a specific reason for that. You can also say that if it's because he doesn't like them, that would be very sad for you, but of course you would accept that. But honestly - I don't think he doesn't like your videos. It could be that he doesn't like one or the other, which would be completely fine, but all of them??? I can not believe that. I would just speak with him... And by the way, everyone always wants the things they do to be liked by their partner. This is completely normal! 😘
People don't seem to realise how rare it is to see such an unpretentious and vulnerable content creator. And you knowingly open yourself up to criticism, and the people take their shots. You're the bigger person for continuing to be vulnerable. Some people cannot self reflect at all. Some people aren't interested in growth. You self reflect and look for growth all the time, and publicly to inspire others! (Don't beat yourself up about feeling sad about not getting the likes, that would be me 100%, and millions of others! Everyone wants their person to like their stuff.)
"Research suggests" is just another way to "women you should feel inadequate for not being able to do everything the way we think you should to rear your children." Don't feed into the hype. Do things as you need to do them, the kids are going to be fine.
I had 2 sons 18 months apart. Both are neurospicy, my eldest had behavioural issues following the separation of their father & I. Your Alfie is amazeballs, you & Stephen are navigating through this phase in THE most phenomenal way. If i had my time again, i would do it your way. Our kids suffered because of our resentment towards one another. Keep winning you guys, youre an inspiration to all parents!
@LauraClery when is your son's next dental cleaning? I'd call and let your dentist know (to make sure that his adult tooth is still okay (though in hiding yet).
BS...I worked in Labor and Delivery for almost 42 while I raised 4 children born in 7 years. There were many 12 hour shifts I didn't get anything to eat, barely got water to drink, and peed my pants! Motherhood is hard, period.
My daughter was playing with her cousins and younger brother(she was 4 he was 3)and she accidentally fell into the back of her brothers head knocked out three of her front teeth...very bruised her 3 year old brothers head unscathed.....tough as rocks 😂..
No no no... f*ck that guy who's not liking your videos. The fact that he does like other people's content and shares it with you? That's really bizarre and unsupportive of someone you're dating... a weird move to make you feel insecure. Please catch this red flag.
Unfortunately Laura I think you’re right - if he didn’t like you videos - he literally doesn’t “like” your art , your work, and ultimately than means not liking you . He is a walking , non-liking red flag . Dump him. Truly .
How miserable you must be, to even think this way, let alone put it out there for people to see. I bet you talk sh*t about everyone in your life, because it’s the only thing that helps you cope with your constant misery.
Co-sleeping is the best. I have co-slept with my boys from age zero till now (they are 7 and 9 now). We have a king bed. No plans to stop until they decide they want their own bed! And they will. Also, I lay down with them at 7:30 till they pass out, but then I get up and do stuff while they sleep. Then I crawl back in bed in the middle of them around midnight ♥️. It’s the best! I just follow their cues and ignore the noise of judgmental society. You’re on the right track 👌
Do you ever think that you are still very much in a codependent relationship with Stephen? Perhaps even more so now then when you were together. I know you are co-parenting but I feel like you need to put some distance between you and him. Seeing him every day, working together, the jealousy, obsession, the mindgames he plays. I honestly don’t see how you can have a positive relationship with someone new, whilst you’re basically still married to Stephen. Setting some very firm boundaries with Stephen would be a good start.
It seems so clearly unhealthy to still be working with him like she is given her issues with codependency. I feel bad because she seems miserable, but she’s also continually making really bad choices.
@@shellydaybutch2230 I don’t mean to critizise her; I’m just genuinely concerned for her and the children. I worry that she can not see how unhealthy or even abusive her relationship with Stephen is. And I know it can seem impossible for someone in her position (someone in an abusive relationship) to take action, but I just hoped that my little message might reach her and make her think a little about how dysfunctional her relationship with Stephen is.
I really enjoy your podcast and mini vlogs, but what really touches me are videos like these. You’re very eloquent and in touch with your emotions. Hearing you work through them out loud is very cathartic for me! I struggle with being in touch with my own emotions and vocalizing them and watching you do it is extremely helpful, particularly because it seems we have similar struggles. You probably won’t see this, but you radiate a lot of love and even though I don’t know you personally, I am proud of you for the way you juggle motherhood, your career, and how much importance you place on being a good human all around. And most of all for being so open about your vulnerabilities. Sometimes we all forget we’re just human.
I will say as a sahm, I am in flight or fight nearly everyday, I am past the point of stressed out, nearly passing out, it is SO stressful not having a community, village, nothing but my husband who of course works full time. He does everything he can, he's incredible, but it's not enough. I am drowning daily lol
I think we need a tribe, but it’s so hard finding women you really want to spend time with like that. 😩For me, anyways.
@@kirstenglae ua-cam.com/video/8LV9oYFJ2YI/v-deo.htmlsi=SDU31IYIFqg8xpAL
That can be your tribal song
I love you this opened my eyes and made me really start to think of how I can be more selfless. I can’t believe the people that hate on you or don’t understand you. You are full of love don’t stop doing what you’re doing
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Omfg. Thank you for being so real and vulnerable. None of it’s stupid. Most of us have those types of thoughts and we just need to normalize it. The only way to do that is by talking about it just like you did here! Also, glad Alfie is ok! Almost identical sitch happened to my now almost 9 year old when he was 3, but it snapped his front left tooth in half and it was loose and turned grey. It eventually fell out. 🤦♀️🤷♀️😂🤍
Ohh that sounds painful! Kids are so resilient!
This was truly one of favorite podcast episode. Thank you for sharing. These conversations and topics, your views, revelations and thoughts resonate with me so much. Thank you and please never stop doing these types of videos! You are helping so many people and being of service by doing this alone ❤
Research once suggested that thalidomide was safe and that cigarettes were part of a healthy lifestyle. I've seen research that says that spankings are an important part of cognitive/behavioral development. If you read that, would you start spanking your kids? See, the research will always change and be confusing, and a lot of the time it's done by people who don't even have kids. You need to trust your instincts when it comes to raising your family. God made you their mother. You have the authority and understanding to give them everything they need. ❤
God's not real, and it's childish to still believe in it
Why couldn’t Stephen deal with it?
Probably cause he got tired of his wife playing the "poor me" card, while sitting on her ass making tiktok videos. 🙄
All the topics you are taking about are truly resonating with me. I send you so much love and thanks for sharing your very human storys ❤ you doing great Laura 🎉
Your videos are awsome, Laura, you don't need anyone's validation!! If you like what you do that's more than enough! Just keep going and do what you love to do and what makes you happy 🩵
I was an ER nurse as a single mother of two with master degree study. Depends on individual tolerance. It was the most memorable and best time of my life. ❤
For someone who claims to have a successful coparenting relationship with their ex you sure seem to take on the lions share of the actual daily grind of parenting and all the stresses that go with that. It doesn’t appear to be a very even split.
And you know that from her just playing victim? Or you're just assuming? 😐
And the the fact that he doesn't liked the videos: there could be 1000 reasons why he didn't liked it.
But the less we know about a reason, the more we asume it must be becauseuf us/our character. The more we know, the more we learn that it has nothing to do with us but within the other person. So digging and talking about it will bring relive, for sure ❤
LAURA CLERY, This made me laugh so much! Thanks for sharing!
Homeschooling stay at home momma here 🤟It can be stressful but I take it one moment at a time ❤
Single mum?
That I am not.
@@Jeannie3Wishesit's stressful 😫 Even with a supportive husband. There are zero breaks.
Yes my son he on the spectrum and now he is so calm and he used to scream all the time and hypper now he 14 and he so calm and mellow 😊
That’s why I kinda stopped stressing about what people/“experts” say regarding raising children. Now the thought of sleep training a baby sounds like torture and back when I did it 4.5 years ago (taking Cara babies program, ‘gentle’ training!) it was what everyone did! Things change so fast and what’s “right” or “wrong” does as well. Obvi there’s exceptions to this but for things like sleeping arrangements etc, I’m really gonna lean into my mother’s intuition the third time around!
It's also important to acknowledge those feelings and where they come from and how they are trying to serve you. You mentioned starting therapy. You may want to look into Peter Levine and his techniques. Yes there are bigger things but you almost seem to be dismissing your feelings and they are just going to keep showing up until you get to the root of them and learn what they need and what they're trying to teach you.
I loved this, thank u for sharing what you feel, I've been feeling some similar things and it makes me feel better when I listen to you openly talking about it❤
I bed shared until he was age 8. In Asian countries it is common until age 10. Normal in fact. He is the most sociable boy with no sleep issues, now age 12. I was there sleeping next to him from birth and it was the least disruptive way for us to sleep.
I co-sleep with my son and I love it. It started once he turned 1 yo, because I was just too anxious to cosleep when he was really tiny. Before he turned one, he slept in a bassinet and then crib right next to me.
My son had 2 sets of stitches and a broken arm before he was Two. Oh, did I mention that he was born 3 months premature as well. Yeah, this is my life! He is now 33 years old and still challenges me daily.😵💫😂
I take the kids out a lot. 🥰 At home it was harder
Yes! Even if just taking subs to the park and having a picnic and letting them run around before bath and bed. The more outside time to get all the extra energy out the better. And it’s a very happy time of life … playing with your kids at the park or at the playground or at the local pool (I realize they have their own pool) or the library … little field trips to break up the day and the monotony. Behavior issues improve and they get energy out, have exercise and fresh air. You feel less like you’re trapped in the house with everyone needing you all the time. They learn to play independently and to make new friends.
Agree for sure I am a single mom and from birth to prob 3rd grade he’s been crazy! Now that he’s 12 he had chilled out some but still he’s so impulsive! I believe all of my grey hairs are definitely from when he was smaller!!!😹
Do you ever think that you are still very much in a codependent relationship with Stephen? Perhaps even more so now then when you were together. I know you are co-parenting but I feel like you need to put some distance between you and him. Seeing him every day, working together, the jealousy, obsession, the mindgames he plays. I honestly don’t see how you can have a positive relationship with someone new, whilst you’re basically still married to Stephen. Setting some very firm boundaries with Stephen would be a good start.
She still doesn't get it. Sad for her. She thus far keeps doing the same stuff she has been doing with him for years as he continues to be the real idiot in this horror story. Not every likes what she calls comedy. She has the potential to much more than slapstick videos, dumb skits, weird faces etc. She has a much better calling then hanging with her ex who continuously demeans her. I wish she would indeed love herself more and let that j.a. Stephen go. And she needs to stop asking about his girlfriends and he needs to do the same. She keeps her entanglement with him and thus making little to no healing and good mental capacity walking on egg shells around him. She falls for every trap he sets up. He will continue to drag her into his he'll hole. He diminishes her way too often. Keep hoping for her to shift gears and get down to the root of this and move on. Get a nanny, do not produce a damn thing with him and start really living her life. He doesn't get to he in her life anymore. His horrific actions just tear her into pieces. Plus, most think he is gay, which is his business, but she closes an eye to that too. Anyone would be a mess living with him all those years. Her 'boyfriend' doesn't like her 'work', which he doesn't have to. It really is different and he may just find it stupid. That doesn't mean he doesn't like or love her.
100% with your post @emilypink09
Yeah, but that is easier said than done. When a guy or a girl are together for a long time they will always be "together". It's the real reason guys avoid single moms, not the kids, but the ex.
I dont share too much of my personal story online anymore, but I am diagnosed with multiple mental health issues, many that align with Laura's. I am also a single mother lacking any reliable support or network.
I am triggered THE MOST from my children. The opening of this podcast helped me so much to see that for what it is. I thought I was just failing for not being able to access the coping skills that I LITERALLY TEACH to other people.
This is so helpful. Thank you.
*edited for typos and grammar
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I always believe Laura has the most beautiful eyes!
Do what makes you happy and your children happy. No matter what subject you research there’s going to be differing opinions so do what is best for you guys.
And for your relationship, this is why I am taking a long time before getting with someone after my marriage because you need time to work on you so you don’t bring those same issues into the next relationship. If your relationship failing was mostly because of your partner, you still have fault in it as well that needs a dress before entering another relationship. You need to give yourself time to know and learn who you are and what you need to change because any toxic relationship you’re going to have toxic traits from it
This was amazing, I needed the reminder, ❤❤
Gratitude! ❤❤❤❤
❤ reminds me to get out of self and be more present for my kids etc
But you're not a Single Mom, Laura. Yes, motherhood is hard, but you're not a Single Mother. Daddy's very much in the picture. #peace
luv your hair! 😇
Maybe youre not in a secure place in this new relationship yet, so those old "anxiously attached" things playing up, because its the phase of the relationship where old wounds, are easily visable and more easily triggered into feeling needing activation stratigies(things one does to feel closer and safer) in the new(not secure) relationship.♡
I have been a single mom since 1993 I had 1 five years old and one newborn. Since then I adopted a 13 year old and a newborn in 2003. It is the hardest job…
You kinda made it hard on yourself
@@cryptic6917she didn’t say it wasn’t what she wanted or that it wasn’t worth it (hence the adoptions) she’s just acknowledging that it’s hard. Some things are just hard and that’s okay.
I’ve been both and both have their own problems. Personally I do think it’s best for the parent to raise the child, vs a non-parent. You are doing a wonderful job! They won’t co-sleep forever and I truly enjoyed those years! My kids turned out very well, IMO. You succeed at making me laugh! And cry, when you are being real. And I appreciate both. Ignore the trolls! Focus on family. I know you aren’t a believer in Jesus like I am, but my faith has gotten me though all the phases of parenthood and marriage. It’s never all roses, but I can always pray and feel peace in the storm. Stay you, Laura! Prayers for Alfie and your whole family! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Any time I see “off” behavior I go to the cabinet for TRS flavorless mouth sprays. Also, I double to double check everything for dye. That’s a big one for my 9 year old son. Air vents changed recently? I don’t use melatonin but there is a reputable brand on Amazon that’s a basic blend of herbs for sleep, and they come in these little flavorless tear off bottles with clear liquid. My kids say they are sweet.
proud of you Laura,,,❤❤❤❤
Thanks 🥹♥️
I rather do ANY physical labor than not sleep because of the stress of waking up to the sound of vomiting in the middle of the night.
100% wrong. Wait until you have to care for a loved one with Dementia or Alzheimer's...
I raised two girls, not nearly as difficult as caring for two loved ones with Dementia..
Once you have to care for individuals with Dementia or Alzheimer's, then we will talk.
I did that at 4. Face planted on unpaved road from my wagon. Knocked out so many teeth and didn't have front teeth for a long time. Caps. I was a mess. My dad took me. My mom partied and got high in some field.
I’m also cripplingly codependent (and working on it in therapy) so I totally get feeling crushed by our partners not reacting the way we want them too. But, in this case you were a successful comedian before, during your marriage and parenthood and you’re still that now. I say, if you’re making your kids proud (you are) and you’re making yourself laugh, that’s all that matters. ❤ I used to be really down about my partner not liking my stuff too bc he’s also not on socials much, but he said something to me that may help someone else here. He said, “do you want me to like it so others think things about us, or do you want me to tell you you’re gorgeous in person every day, without the world knowing?” And it hit me like a TON of bricks. I don’t do this for a job but thought I’d share to encourage anyone else like us 😂❤
THIS!!! So many worry about what others think and what others are going to see, more than they worry about what THEY'RE seeing and feeling every day in their own relationship
My son fell up the stairs once. Yes he tripped while going up and loosened his front tooth, so I can absolutely relate to this. It was truly okay but in the moment it was scary. I'm a STHM who homeschools (social life? What's that? Lol)
Hmmm. I feel like these mothers today seem to overthink things which causes them to be overwhelmed. Also, honestly you are not a single mother. Try going to meet a real single mother with no support from the father of the child or family. Speak to these women who do not have the resources. I am not saying your job is not hard, but you still have significant support.
and she has a nanny....not relatable
Is it really about being relatable? Just be honest. She's not a single mother. Daddys in the picture literally. Glad someone else noticed that's she's NOT A SINGLE MOTHER! Sigh, motherhood is hard though. Single maybe because she's divorced but she has plenty of support with her children.
Yes she is a single mother. I don't get why you say she isn't. She lives separately with her kids. A nanny would be the same as daycare.
That is day care
@@shirleysilver3040 Stephen lives down the street. He is there everyday. They coparent daily. So no she is not a single mother. Her job as a mom is tough I agree, but again she has support and the father is in the picture.
My son was allowed to crawl into bed with us freely from like 3-7, now that he’s almost 8 it’s not such a common occurrence. We found a good middle ground where he was able to sleep alone until about 2 or 3 am, he’s a tall kid though and a kicker so it had to come to an end at some point 😢
There is a saying in my country: Only speaking people can be helped.
I can totally understand your frustration about the lack of likes. But I don't understand not talking about it. I wouldn't go into a conversation with him with telling him that your feelings are hurt, but just listen with genuine interest. You can say that you noticed that he didn't like your videos, but others do, and ask if there's a specific reason for that. You can also say that if it's because he doesn't like them, that would be very sad for you, but of course you would accept that.
But honestly - I don't think he doesn't like your videos. It could be that he doesn't like one or the other, which would be completely fine, but all of them??? I can not believe that. I would just speak with him...
And by the way, everyone always wants the things they do to be liked by their partner. This is completely normal!
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I am same way,the need to feel validated,if not I feel down,,my esteem gets lower..I hate being this way,,,,,,
I have a question. How did you get comfortable in front of the camera?
Idk, looking at suicide rates for single moms vs. other professions make me wonder whether or not that's true.
u should do what feels right for you and kids ,Laura
Does vanity come intoʻ this
Proud of you
12:25 please take SSRIs or get your serotonin levels checked.
That seems random to me? What are you alluding to? I’m confused.
Please don't give unsolicited medical advice on the internet.
People don't seem to realise how rare it is to see such an unpretentious and vulnerable content creator. And you knowingly open yourself up to criticism, and the people take their shots. You're the bigger person for continuing to be vulnerable. Some people cannot self reflect at all. Some people aren't interested in growth. You self reflect and look for growth all the time, and publicly to inspire others! (Don't beat yourself up about feeling sad about not getting the likes, that would be me 100%, and millions of others! Everyone wants their person to like their stuff.)
Where can I find your merch?
That exact thing happened to my son at 3 years old...his adult tooth came in partially black. :(
I understand the co dependency
"Research suggests" is just another way to "women you should feel inadequate for not being able to do everything the way we think you should to rear your children." Don't feed into the hype. Do things as you need to do them, the kids are going to be fine.
I had 2 sons 18 months apart. Both are neurospicy, my eldest had behavioural issues following the separation of their father & I. Your Alfie is amazeballs, you & Stephen are navigating through this phase in THE most phenomenal way. If i had my time again, i would do it your way. Our kids suffered because of our resentment towards one another. Keep winning you guys, youre an inspiration to all parents!
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So what would it mean if you work full time job outside of the home plus a mom ?
It’d make her be like heaps of single mums out there who work and be a mum 😂
I call bullshit my little brother slept with my parents till he was 7 and acting like a temper tantrum baby till he was at least 35.
Idiot tank for the season would be one point 😊❤
@LauraClery when is your son's next dental cleaning? I'd call and let your dentist know (to make sure that his adult tooth is still okay (though in hiding yet).
3 is difficult!
BS...I worked in Labor and Delivery for almost 42 while I raised 4 children born in 7 years. There were many 12 hour shifts I didn't get anything to eat, barely got water to drink, and peed my pants! Motherhood is hard, period.
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Overthinking is a bitch...
The whole sleep training thing is just a farce and really bad for kids. And it's mean
My daughter was playing with her cousins and younger brother(she was 4 he was 3)and she accidentally fell into the back of her brothers head knocked out three of her front teeth...very bruised her 3 year old brothers head unscathed.....tough as rocks 😂..
Hi Laura!!
when was the divorce finalized?
Why is that an appropriate question you think you're entitled to?
@@corablah9809 Its literally public record.... and absolutely not inappropriate. How can a married woman talk about being a single mother?
Co sleeping is not a bad thing!! When ur child is ready to be in their own bed they will!
Hey beautiful lady
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Let’s go!!!
Over analyzing is not your friend.
No no no... f*ck that guy who's not liking your videos. The fact that he does like other people's content and shares it with you? That's really bizarre and unsupportive of someone you're dating... a weird move to make you feel insecure. Please catch this red flag.
#Brandon #nowyourasinglemom
Hy mom
Just a whiner
i have to ask my husband to like my videos every day lol
Unfortunately Laura I think you’re right - if he didn’t like you videos - he literally doesn’t “like” your art , your work, and ultimately than means not liking you . He is a walking , non-liking red flag . Dump him. Truly .
I’m first !❤
But you are not a good mother. The household is so dysfunctional no wonder they keep ending up in hospital
Have you ever heard of a child, they hurt themselves constantly
Who you to judge?!?!? Whatever you see it’s just a tiny piece of her life
How is this comment helpful to her? Move along. You must be a child yourself. Just gross.
How miserable you must be, to even think this way, let alone put it out there for people to see. I bet you talk sh*t about everyone in your life, because it’s the only thing that helps you cope with your constant misery.
Tell me you never met a child without telling me you never met a child 😂
They are chaos goblins! (in the best way)
I recommend this book to you:
Unf#ck Your Brain by Faith G Harper
Co-sleeping is the best. I have co-slept with my boys from age zero till now (they are 7 and 9 now). We have a king bed. No plans to stop until they decide they want their own bed! And they will. Also, I lay down with them at 7:30 till they pass out, but then I get up and do stuff while they sleep. Then I crawl back in bed in the middle of them around midnight ♥️. It’s the best! I just follow their cues and ignore the noise of judgmental society. You’re on the right track 👌
Do you ever think that you are still very much in a codependent relationship with Stephen? Perhaps even more so now then when you were together. I know you are co-parenting but I feel like you need to put some distance between you and him. Seeing him every day, working together, the jealousy, obsession, the mindgames he plays. I honestly don’t see how you can have a positive relationship with someone new, whilst you’re basically still married to Stephen. Setting some very firm boundaries with Stephen would be a good start.
It seems so clearly unhealthy to still be working with him like she is given her issues with codependency. I feel bad because she seems miserable, but she’s also continually making really bad choices.
No body is perfect. She is doing what works and saving her sanity. Parenting looks different for the majority of us.❤️
@@shellydaybutch2230 I don’t mean to critizise her; I’m just genuinely concerned for her and the children. I worry that she can not see how unhealthy or even abusive her relationship with Stephen is. And I know it can seem impossible for someone in her position (someone in an abusive relationship) to take action, but I just hoped that my little message might reach her and make her think a little about how dysfunctional her relationship with Stephen is.
@@emilypink09I’m curious why you think the relationship is abusive with him now? Truly not being rude I’m just curious.