Looking back - self censorship was the most devastating "error" I done - which actually was not mistake nor error at all - since being silent to abusers is conditioning and mixture or personality. Agreeableness and Openness - are personality traits which will make us to lean on Negative Politeness (not to hurt someone's feelings by being blunt). With conditioning we are repeatedly programmed to believe that being honest and speaking facts and being objective is being arrogant and rude and aggressive. Then toxic people will project their mental illness onto us and we will believe them - again due to conditioning (ACE) and personality (toxic empathy) - where we will have understanding for someone who is actually psychopath and unable to feel emotions and is devoted solely to harm and hurt other people around.
Looking back - self censorship was the most devastating "error" I done - which actually was not mistake nor error at all - since being silent to abusers is conditioning and mixture or personality. Agreeableness and Openness - are personality traits which will make us to lean on Negative Politeness (not to hurt someone's feelings by being blunt). With conditioning we are repeatedly programmed to believe that being honest and speaking facts and being objective is being arrogant and rude and aggressive.
Then toxic people will project their mental illness onto us and we will believe them - again due to conditioning (ACE) and personality (toxic empathy) - where we will have understanding for someone who is actually psychopath and unable to feel emotions and is devoted solely to harm and hurt other people around.