I am caring for my 89 year old father. I'm 52 years old. He has dementia and prostate cancer. Growing up, we didn't get along too well, but now, his illness has given me the second chance at having a better relationship. I help bathe him, dress him, etc. I can honestly say, this has allowed me to see a gentler side of my Dad. It's very healing.
I was a caregiver to my mother before she passed. The doctors gave her 6 months and when I took her in, She stayed with me for almost 2 years. I was grateful. ( I kept hearing your planting seeds) She never remembered anyone else but she always remembered me. She always would tell me to take care of myself because she needed me. I felt when I prayed about her. God spoke through my mother to message me. ( confirm he heard me) It was always encouraging. She always encouraged me to pray and to be watchful of the words I spoke. (Your prayers hit the ceilings of heaven). I guess that's why the enemy fought me hard in that area. But, I got a lot of answers and closure. ( Generational curse breaker) Her last words are on repeat in my mind. I miss my parents. I know I was loved. They did their best.❤💜🙏🏼 Thank you, Laterras
Being a caregiver will challenge you more as a person than it will the person that you are caring for. Caregiving is a mirror that God places directly in front of your face. It's a journey, not for the faint of heart.
I'm a caregiver my grandma is 94 she still Pastor's, preaches, etc... my mom and I care for her primarily. My mom has had 2 knee surgeries and breast cancer twice I've also been her caregiver through all of that. I'm currently 37 was married and my ex literally was upset because I didn't stop caring for my family but I DID balance them as much as possible. Needless to say we are no longer married (for other reasons as well). This show was a blessing. I'm praying that if God allows me to remarry that the next individual will understand my role in the family as well.
"We dont seem to want to protect creation" Powerful! My husband and I are caregivers for his 94 year old dad, who is also a double amputee. It is not easy, there are many sacrifices, but it is a blessing to be able to care for someone who cared for you in their season of need.
12 minutes in and Im in tears 😢 knowing that you aired this episode just for ME, Laterras‼️🙏🏽🥀 Thank you for obeying GOD our Father in this moment. 💜 100% Caregiver for 12 years for my aging mother who is now 84y 100% Entreprenuer 100% Empty Nester of two adult sons (31y) & (26y) 100% Woman of GOD 100% Mentally drained 100% Validated as I continue to listen....
I am so thankful for the wisdom and knowledge shared today by Care Giver Coach Pat Bailey. I am the last living child of my parents. Me and my mom are finally in a reconciliation after almost 4 long years of separation. For the first time, we spent Thanksgiving together with no arguing and just having a good time. It is also the day that I saw my parents aging, 71 and 66, and they need help. I love how God was so intentional with my family. I struggled with my brother’s passing, 4 years ago Christmas, because he was the favorite child and handled things better than I did. I thought God chose to leave behind the wrong child. Until now. As their last living child, I am a nurse. I was trained to care for the elderly very early in my career. To this day, the elderly hold a very special place in my heart, and always will. I take classes on the side to be better prepared for help my parents, aunts, uncles, church members, and neighbors to help them as they continue to age. This conversation helped me to see that there is so much more to learn. And I have committed in my heart to follow the precepts of God to care for the aging. It will be my honor to be there for them despite what happened in the past. I will be reaching out to get more information as I prepare to meet the needs of my parents. Thank you, Laterras and Pat.💜
It is an an uncomfortable conversation to have with parents about their wishes or power of attorney or a will. However, you have to have it. When my mother passed almost 7 years ago, my siblings and I were able to get together and honor our mother as she asked. Paperwork on Power of Attorney were done before hand. We had a few hiccups but, stayed close and prayerful.
I agree with every word she said as a caregiver for many years and still have both parents and step parents. I'll take care of them, and no questions asked.
This was extremely timely. My baby sister unexpectedly passed away a few years ago and my mom sustained a stroke shortly after. It has been solely on me to provide care for my mom. Her cognitive has consistently been declining and I have been struggling. The scriptures provided were extremely helpful ❤
This was right on time! I moved my mother to Texas and served her while she battled pancreatic cancer. God blessed her to be with us for almost 2 years before her transitioning. Now, I have moved to assist in caring for my father who has dementia. Coach Bailey brought a lot to the light that I will discuss with my children. Thank you for your obedience and being a continuous Blessing to so many. 💕
Beautiful!! Knowledge is Power! My people parish because lack of Knowledge. Learn for you can teach your children and grandchildren and so on.... Be blessed everyone!
Thank you for this episode, I was the caregiver for my mother before she passed away. It was hard at times because out of five children I took the initiative to make sure my mother was alright. There were times I sat in the waiting room by myself when my mother had to go through treatments (due to cancer) only to have my siblings call to ask me how my mother was doing when I called everyone to let them know when she had appointments. Those were lonely times in the waiting room because as I would look around there would be families or at least one or two other people together in the waiting rooms in support of each other. This was really good information that she gave especially what she spoke about regarding the preparation because when my mother tried to tell us (me and my sibling) where her information was we did not want to hear her…. Well luckily there was a nurse who did listen to my mom and I hate to say we had to then depend on her for the information we needed.
Thank you King Laterra for introducing Queen Pat Bailey to us!! I never heard of a coach caregiver before now. My own caregivers story breaks my heart.
This was good! I moved closer to my mom to help her more. I even eliminated stairs so she could be comfortable when she visits and ultimately move in. I'm a natural caregiver. It's an honor. But it's hard. I have to manage my life as a single woman and I have to mange hers too. Plus I have to deal with how she treated me as a child (very bad) and even now (she is so mean to me). But I digress. She is my responsibility. It's hard.😞😞
I was the caregiver for my mom and will participate as a caregiver for my brother, due to Huntington's Disease. I have also been in the medical field for over 30 years, and thought I was prepared for the role of caregiver. As I'm currently creating a group coaching program for caregivers. I completely feel and resonate with everything in this story and conversation. With deep gratitude I appreciate this episode.
Thank you for this podcast. I have taken care of my parents, aunt and husband's family as well as son. I need to get my papers in order and thank God for this. Pat Bailey is a blessing! Thank you Laterras. ❤
Thank you so much Dear Future Wifey Podcast! Thank you Laterras for bringing on Coach Pat Bailey. I literally was asking the Lord today for strength and help and the Lord sent this podcast. Helping my parent through this time . I know my Lord is the Source and He will send the resources (Coach Pat Bailey.) Very Informative Information! Thank you so much!!! ❤❤❤
As a nurse, single mother of 3, CDP, “certified dementia practitioner”, and caring for my mom the last 3 years with early dementia…. UA-cam will not allow me to share y life in characters. 😢 my sanity is on the line EVERYDAY! 🙏🏾
Thank you so much for this episode. 2 days back my grandma fell down and got her injured a lot, seeing all that evidently giving her firstaid, taking her to hospital and taking care of her, i thought God has a plan for that. And we should take care of our parents, grand parents. And not leaving them saying they are toxic, praying and with the wisdom of God, we can do it
This was balm for my weary soul. The only thing I have to say is that I wish it was longer and I wanted to hear more of her story. This is a topic that is near and dear to my heart as a caregiver. Please do more episodes like this. 😊❤
......of all the the tough topics I feel like this has been the toughest....in this time where people are on the run, this is not easy for anyone.... but honestly though it is the responsibility of children to take care of their parents in old age..p.s...the Lady looks so good 🔥🔥🔥
This was too short but I really wanna thank you, Latteras and Coach Pat for this episode. I can 100% relate with everything that was shared. May the LORD satify Coach Pat with long life, in good health, and make her receive a bountiful reward for the sacrifices made to care for both of her parents. What she has done for her parents is no joke and I am thankful that she has even taken it upon herself to be an advocate for caregiving and also sharing helpful information.
I was a caregiver to my mom for 9 years... I wouldn't have it any other way. I went thru so much my daughter died in the process, take on raising my grandson and still care for mom... whew it was a journey but it's over.. She has been gone 8 months and I miss her so much!
Hey Queen Pat! Thank you for sharing! I totally understand your perspective however some people do not have the capacity to see their loved ones in those spaces, they don't understand dementia, they don't comprehend that their loved one has transitioned into a new person, and they want to hold on to the mindset that person used to have. Have you ever seen a person say to an elderly person "you know what you are doing" or "they are doing that on purpose"? Some will even get upset when a dementia patient cusses them out! Again, I understand your perspective because you would never do your loved one like that however, it takes a special individual to be a caregiver. Not everyone can perform those duties! Some are even embarrassed to clean the genitals of their loved ones! When I became a caregiver 23 years ago I felt the same way. I could not wrap my head around people not wanting to care for their loved ones; it even made me angry! VERY ANGRY!!!! However, after spending more time in this space I seen what I previously mentioned! Thank you Mrs. Bailey for sharing and all that you do! CONTINUE TO BE GREAT AND HAVE A BLESSED DAY!!!
God does not put more on us than we can bear. If it is your cross to bear, He will help you to bear it or direct you to a place designed to meet that specific need. God has a solution for every need. Love is real but triggers are real too and the need for everyone to be safe is necessary! I do appreciate the information presented here. Someone will be greatly blessed by it! I had to learn much of it on my own! I think sometimes that God sent me to school just for my family! Dealing with the afflictions of trauma, dysfunction, illnesses, etc has been a common thread throughout much of my life. I am an adjusting caregiver for my elderly mother and her brother. It is my assignment. It is not easiest task but I trust God for my all of my instructions. Again, God does not put no more on us than we are able to handle. My assignment is necessary. In listening to Ms. Bailey, I appreciate her sincere optimism and dedication to the cause. I get it and understand where she is coming from. I could also greatly understand those who may remain to be silent in their response to this episode as well. ;-) More or less, thanks for sharing this much needed information. It's greatly needed and very helpful!
I think that its how people were treated. It is personal for each person and you hope for the best. If one has been emotionally, physically, and many times verbally abused. Yes you forgive people even those that hate you
Bless you Coach Pat and Thank You Latteras for this enlightening episode. I was the caregiver to my late-husband and my mother simultaneously. Although they were both at different stages of their health, it was extremely challenging and exhausting. (No Dementia) I’m so grateful for the trials of life which I had gone through to prepare me spiritually and physically, but with God’s grace and all of the love I had received from both of them, I shared and cared for them over a 14 yr period. I know that they knew I Loved Them. 🕊♥️🕊
Great topic as always King Laterras!! I am a caregiver for my now 91 years old daddy. Its been a journey filled with ups and downs. My daddy also have early dementia and congestive heart failure. Daddy has improved while in my custody. My husband and I have the love of God inside of us in order to share our lives caring for my daddy.🙏🏽🫂💕💯
I took the CDP course and it's a awesome course to take. I hate I didn't keep it up bc I was in caregiver for about 20 years. During the pandemic I was able to host workshops with caregivers in my community and church about these different stages one may go through. One thing I'm noticing is that now at 45 yrs old my grandmother is getting up in age and all this time I have spent caring for other people family members and learning about these different diseases about dementia and Altheimer's I still don't feel prepared for my own when time comes because all I've been hearing about from family is that "Oh she'll be taken care of real good because this granddaughter been working with people mostly all her life and honestly I don't know how to take that. It doesn't feel like a compliment. It's feeling like the other family members are starting to due the bare minimum at times and think I got it.
Great topic. I cared for my mom who transitioned in 2021. I felt like I was doing God's work she did not suffer from dementia but was total bedridden. Caring for my mom brought me closer to God and even eased my grief from her death. It helped me heal from a lot of childhood wounds 🙏🏾 I would love for you to do an episode on Grief I don't think we talk about it enough. Stay blessed
This is good! I wish this was around when I was caring for my mother. Being a caregiver for her and my father was the most challenging time of my life. It made me lend into God more.
Whatever you do, don't give up! It took me talking to my mom for 5 years and her to become a stroke victim before she would sign the Power of Attorney papers. Even though I was handling all of her financial affairs.
I was a caregiver to my grandmother for 5 years it was challenging at times. I would do anything to have her back. People don't understand what it is like to be a caregiver until they are one themselves and it's life changing yep. My grandma passed away sept 2022.
I would love to connect with her. I have been a caregiver for over 10 years. Certified dementia practitioner. I love to help and advocate for the vulnerable
I moved to America to take care of my dad l spent 26 years then l moved back to England to take care of my mother before she passed this year! We laid Mummy to rest 31st 2024 It was hard 😢many many nights of crying out to God
These are the very things I'm writing about to address our people's mindset, so they'll deal with the wisdom and benefits of honoring your parents by caring for them.
This is a really good video. In my opinion, taking care of others with dementia comes from staying indoors, lack of eating healthy, no exposure to sun, very low vitamin d, c, and b. When these things are extremely low the brain shutdowns it's memory. A little about me, I was abused physically by my parents almost to death. Molested by a neighbor. Sexually by two sisters and cousins. Sexually abused by two best friends, and other older family members. I always tried to have a relationship with my family and would be there to help them, my mom and dad back to health after surgeries, etc. I never understood until last year when GOD showed me who they really were, that my mom and oldest sister are narcissistic witches and my alcoholic dad has never had no say. I am the middle child of five girls who would come in town to clean for my parents, wash cloths, mow the grass, clean refrigerators, organize, give money to, buy them groceries, clean pools, clean vehicles, etc. I could go on and on. Yet my parent used me for somethings so precious to my heart and took them from me. They know the life GOD has for me and yet their jealousy eats at them because of their evildoing, wickedness. I always prayed they change but GOD told me evil don't change. My four sisters had better lives and they don't think to help our parents like that. They had better lives. It's in my blood, GOD created me, to be a caregiver for others, blood or not. I know I'm different. Recently what GOD did for me was save my life. I was eating and got choked. I live alone. I ran to the bathroom, a fear I told GOD in the past to please do not let me die and be found, called on JESUS in spirit and HE SAVED ME FROM DEATH. GOD is my family and no matter how my family feels about me when I did nothing to them, I'd still help care for them if they needed me, if GOD tells me. This life is not about us and when people start to truly understand that then life will give life more abundantly. This life given to us is because of JESUS CHRIST, GOD ALMIGHTY caring about us. THANK THE LORD JESUS CHRIST! PRAISE THE LORD GOD ALMIGHTY.🙏🏽🙌🏽❤️
A kind hearted friend of mine who was 5 feet tall and weighed 115 pounds injured her back trying to help her mom who weighed 150 pounds. She had no choice but to find an assisted living facility for her mom in order to recover from the back injury
So what happens when your parent/s were abusive, manipulate , and stole ( not just monetarily ) from you ? Do we then need to just of course “ forgive “ and then take care of them ? We didn’t ask to be here . I’m not going to have kids, and others constantly look at me like I’m crazy, and call me selfish. What’s selfish is having kids when you know you don’t want to be a parent . I’m glad my generation is waking up, and is noticing just because someone is your “ parent “ does not mean you need to be responsible for them especially ; when nothing but grief has been caused by them . I really wish that anyone who decides to have or take care of a child , needs thorough training and some some sort of approval process. I probably will get ripped in the comments, but I wish you all the best … truly.
Remember, if we can't forgive, the Lord will not forgive us. My parents fell off, and I ended up in foster care. However, when it was time for me to be there for my parents to me, it was an honor 🎖.
But what if you have a loving, caring mom ? Do you walk away? I’m not judging you, because you had a bad experience. Have you ever considered because of your experience you would be a great mother. I’m just saying. My mother had an awful mother when she was a child, but you could never ask for a more loving, caring, understanding mother.
Joyce Myers father molested her as a child and the Lord still made her honor 🎖 her father and because of her obedience he got saved before he passed ♥️. I suggest you pray and seek the Lord. According to the word of God, we are to honor 🎖 our parents, more so in the stage they can no longer do for themselves.
I was close to my mother so I never believed her illness of an act of repentance. I admit to selfishness because I questioned God due to many of my friends still enjoying their motherrs. My mother hid the signs so they aren't always visible in the first stages. She was diagnosed after years of untreated stress. No one discusses mental health or genetic makeup that can constitute to this terrible disease.
It was typical for them to wonder from room to room. If you treat patients right you become a threat to others who dont take their job serious . Pat Bailey, IVE been there, but not with my own mother, she had 4 daughters. But in nursing homes. Its scary what goes on now. Horror stories.
caregiving is not easy But it is amazing and Fearful All in one Life Altering- It is the one Job that you want to do perfectly❤ praying for myself and all other caregivers rather by profession or just love ones that Holy spirit will lead guide direct and comfort through it All In Jesus Name Amen
The problem is a lot of people taking care of their loved ones think that it’s about them. If they stop making it about themselves and making about honoring God, then it will be easier to get through.
How can you implement a village When parents are getting older and they are still able to take care of themselves fully. But it's no longer driving. I need to have that village of friendship with their friends. And they have children with limitations with. Cognitive movement or Needing assistance to do the feed work for their parents of the things that they be. That is my question.
Depending on your parent’s insurance there may be medical transportation available for free. Their provider would be able to let them know. Depending on the need, they may qualify for a waiver program. It’s a program where direct care workers can come in and handle lite house duties if the clients live independently
It seems like some parents can do anything to their children and still get sympathy and have the expectation of their child to be their lifetime slave. People are waking up. I expect the older generation to think like that. But I’m glad the younger generations are waking up. I’m not going to subject myself to all kinds of stress and illness because of an abusive is a parent.
What does honor look like? The Bible tells us to honor one another in this case our parents, but not how.. I believe it’s not a monolithic way that works for every child. I think God that the next verse that the guest quoted puts the responsibility of honor also on parents to children..
@Yakhanna When you put your assets into an irrevocable trust, they no longer belong to you, the taxpayer. This means that generally, the IRS cannot touch your assets in an irrevocable trust. It’s always a good idea to consult with an estate planning attorney to ensure you’re making the right decision when setting up your trust. Depending on the state you're in, there is what is called inherent tax and / or probate taxes. Look more into it. It gets really expensive for the beneficiaries.
I truly appreciate and thank you both for this content of helpful information when it comes to caregiving. I am 53 and have been a caregiver since 2014. I have had the pleasure of caring for my Father, Brother and now my mom. My father passed away in 2014 my brother in 2021 and now caring for my 80 year young mom. I will be logged on Sunday thank you so much @caregivercoachpatbailey and @laterraswhitfield
I am caring for my 89 year old father. I'm 52 years old. He has dementia and prostate cancer. Growing up, we didn't get along too well, but now, his illness has given me the second chance at having a better relationship. I help bathe him, dress him, etc. I can honestly say, this has allowed me to see a gentler side of my Dad. It's very healing.
Blessings to you 🙏🏾♥️
@@Francie315 thank you, I really appreciate that. ❤
As a caregiver, I enjoy loving ❤️ on one's who can't care for themselves. It's truly an honor 🎖.
I was a caregiver to my mother before she passed. The doctors gave her 6 months and when I took her in, She stayed with me for almost 2 years. I was grateful. ( I kept hearing your planting seeds) She never remembered anyone else but she always remembered me. She always would tell me to take care of myself because she needed me. I felt when I prayed about her. God spoke through my mother to message me. ( confirm he heard me) It was always encouraging. She always encouraged me to pray and to be watchful of the words I spoke. (Your prayers hit the ceilings of heaven). I guess that's why the enemy fought me hard in that area. But, I got a lot of answers and closure. ( Generational curse breaker) Her last words are on repeat in my mind. I miss my parents. I know I was loved. They did their best.❤💜🙏🏼 Thank you, Laterras
Being a caregiver will challenge you more as a person than it will the person that you are caring for. Caregiving is a mirror that God places directly in front of your face. It's a journey, not for the faint of heart.
I'm a caregiver my grandma is 94 she still Pastor's, preaches, etc... my mom and I care for her primarily. My mom has had 2 knee surgeries and breast cancer twice I've also been her caregiver through all of that.
I'm currently 37 was married and my ex literally was upset because I didn't stop caring for my family but I DID balance them as much as possible. Needless to say we are no longer married (for other reasons as well). This show was a blessing. I'm praying that if God allows me to remarry that the next individual will understand my role in the family as well.
"We dont seem to want to protect creation" Powerful!
My husband and I are caregivers for his 94 year old dad, who is also a double amputee. It is not easy, there are many sacrifices, but it is a blessing to be able to care for someone who cared for you in their season of need.
12 minutes in and Im in tears 😢 knowing that you aired this episode just for ME, Laterras‼️🙏🏽🥀 Thank you for obeying GOD our Father in this moment. 💜
100% Caregiver for 12 years for my aging mother who is now 84y
100% Entreprenuer
100% Empty Nester of two adult sons (31y) & (26y)
100% Woman of GOD
100% Mentally drained
100% Validated as I continue to listen....
Nicki, I pray the Lord replenishes your soul in Jesus' Name.
@@DearFutureWifey AMEN‼️🎁🥰
I am so thankful for the wisdom and knowledge shared today by Care Giver Coach Pat Bailey. I am the last living child of my parents. Me and my mom are finally in a reconciliation after almost 4 long years of separation. For the first time, we spent Thanksgiving together with no arguing and just having a good time. It is also the day that I saw my parents aging, 71 and 66, and they need help.
I love how God was so intentional with my family. I struggled with my brother’s passing, 4 years ago Christmas, because he was the favorite child and handled things better than I did. I thought God chose to leave behind the wrong child. Until now. As their last living child, I am a nurse. I was trained to care for the elderly very early in my career. To this day, the elderly hold a very special place in my heart, and always will. I take classes on the side to be better prepared for help my parents, aunts, uncles, church members, and neighbors to help them as they continue to age. This conversation helped me to see that there is so much more to learn. And I have committed in my heart to follow the precepts of God to care for the aging. It will be my honor to be there for them despite what happened in the past.
I will be reaching out to get more information as I prepare to meet the needs of my parents. Thank you, Laterras and Pat.💜
It is an an uncomfortable conversation to have with parents about their wishes or power of attorney or a will. However, you have to have it. When my mother passed almost 7 years ago, my siblings and I were able to get together and honor our mother as she asked. Paperwork on Power of Attorney were done before hand. We had a few hiccups but, stayed close and prayerful.
I agree with every word she said as a caregiver for many years and still have both parents and step parents. I'll take care of them, and no questions asked.
This was extremely timely. My baby sister unexpectedly passed away a few years ago and my mom sustained a stroke shortly after. It has been solely on me to provide care for my mom. Her cognitive has consistently been declining and I have been struggling. The scriptures provided were extremely helpful ❤
This was right on time! I moved my mother to Texas and served her while she battled pancreatic cancer. God blessed her to be with us for almost 2 years before her transitioning. Now, I have moved to assist in caring for my father who has dementia. Coach Bailey brought a lot to the light that I will discuss with my children. Thank you for your obedience and being a continuous Blessing to so many. 💕
Beautiful!! Knowledge is Power! My people parish because lack of Knowledge. Learn for you can teach your children and grandchildren and so on.... Be blessed everyone!
"I had to black-a-nize it" ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you for this episode, I was the caregiver for my mother before she passed away. It was hard at times because out of five children I took the initiative to make sure my mother was alright. There were times I sat in the waiting room by myself when my mother had to go through treatments (due to cancer) only to have my siblings call to ask me how my mother was doing when I called everyone to let them know when she had appointments. Those were lonely times in the waiting room because as I would look around there would be families or at least one or two other people together in the waiting rooms in support of each other. This was really good information that she gave especially what she spoke about regarding the preparation because when my mother tried to tell us (me and my sibling) where her information was we did not want to hear her…. Well luckily there was a nurse who did listen to my mom and I hate to say we had to then depend on her for the information we needed.
Thank you King Laterra for introducing Queen Pat Bailey to us!! I never heard of a coach caregiver before now. My own caregivers story breaks my heart.
THANK YOU SO MUCH. My mom has renal failure and had a minor stroke and i am her care giver. THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU!❤❤❤
This was good! I moved closer to my mom to help her more. I even eliminated stairs so she could be comfortable when she visits and ultimately move in. I'm a natural caregiver. It's an honor.
But it's hard. I have to manage my life as a single woman and I have to mange hers too. Plus I have to deal with how she treated me as a child (very bad) and even now (she is so mean to me). But I digress. She is my responsibility. It's hard.😞😞
You are an AMAZING GIFT to your mom. 🎁 We must remember to continue to replinish ourSELVES First, why? Because we can not pour from an empty vessel. 💜
I am here right with you - with my dad. I am married with two small kids and work full time. Its tough!
I was the caregiver for my mom and will participate as a caregiver for my brother, due to Huntington's Disease. I have also been in the medical field for over 30 years, and thought I was prepared for the role of caregiver. As I'm currently creating a group coaching program for caregivers. I completely feel and resonate with everything in this story and conversation. With deep gratitude I appreciate this episode.
She looks fabulous ❤. Loving the boots and dress. 😊
Very insightful!! It was a honor to love and take care of my mother. I miss her dearly...❤❤❤❤
There is Hope in Knowledge
Thank you for this podcast. I have taken care of my parents, aunt and husband's family as well as son. I need to get my papers in order and thank God for this. Pat Bailey is a blessing! Thank you Laterras. ❤
Thank you so much Dear Future Wifey Podcast! Thank you Laterras for bringing on Coach Pat Bailey. I literally was asking the Lord today for strength and help and the Lord sent this podcast. Helping my parent through this time . I know my Lord is the Source and He will send the resources (Coach Pat Bailey.) Very Informative Information! Thank you so much!!! ❤❤❤
Our pleasure!
thank you for your ministry and information; bless you!
This topic was very helpful and needed. Thank you!
As a nurse, single mother of 3, CDP, “certified dementia practitioner”, and caring for my mom the last 3 years with early dementia…. UA-cam will not allow me to share y life in characters. 😢 my sanity is on the line EVERYDAY! 🙏🏾
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Thank you so much for this episode. 2 days back my grandma fell down and got her injured a lot, seeing all that evidently giving her firstaid, taking her to hospital and taking care of her, i thought God has a plan for that. And we should take care of our parents, grand parents. And not leaving them saying they are toxic, praying and with the wisdom of God, we can do it
This is a tough topic. Glad we're talking about this.
This was balm for my weary soul. The only thing I have to say is that I wish it was longer and I wanted to hear more of her story. This is a topic that is near and dear to my heart as a caregiver. Please do more episodes like this. 😊❤
......of all the the tough topics I feel like this has been the toughest....in this time where people are on the run, this is not easy for anyone.... but honestly though it is the responsibility of children to take care of their parents in old age..p.s...the Lady looks so good 🔥🔥🔥
This is a blessing. Knowledge is power. It’s always better to be prepared. I’m so glad to see you promoting these conversations. ❤
Right on time. Thank you🙏🏼
Coach Pat, I got my MPOA and SDPOA and will done. I just had to tell you that you came on the show dressed to the 9's!!!!
This was too short but I really wanna thank you, Latteras and Coach Pat for this episode. I can 100% relate with everything that was shared. May the LORD satify Coach Pat with long life, in good health, and make her receive a bountiful reward for the sacrifices made to care for both of her parents. What she has done for her parents is no joke and I am thankful that she has even taken it upon herself to be an advocate for caregiving and also sharing helpful information.
I’m a home hospice nurse and I really appreciate you doing this, WE really need to normalize discussing End of Life care.
Please and thank you, because I needed this so badly as a caretaker.😢
This episode really has me thinking. Thank you for the information.
I was a caregiver to my mom for 9 years... I wouldn't have it any other way. I went thru so much my daughter died in the process, take on raising my grandson and still care for mom... whew it was a journey but it's over.. She has been gone 8 months and I miss her so much!
My heart goes out to you. Sorry to hear about your loss.
Hey Queen Pat! Thank you for sharing! I totally understand your perspective however some people do not have the capacity to see their loved ones in those spaces, they don't understand dementia, they don't comprehend that their loved one has transitioned into a new person, and they want to hold on to the mindset that person used to have. Have you ever seen a person say to an elderly person "you know what you are doing" or "they are doing that on purpose"? Some will even get upset when a dementia patient cusses them out! Again, I understand your perspective because you would never do your loved one like that however, it takes a special individual to be a caregiver. Not everyone can perform those duties! Some are even embarrassed to clean the genitals of their loved ones! When I became a caregiver 23 years ago I felt the same way. I could not wrap my head around people not wanting to care for their loved ones; it even made me angry! VERY ANGRY!!!! However, after spending more time in this space I seen what I previously mentioned! Thank you Mrs. Bailey for sharing and all that you do! CONTINUE TO BE GREAT AND HAVE A BLESSED DAY!!!
God does not put more on us than we can bear. If it is your cross to bear, He will help you to bear it or direct you to a place designed to meet that specific need. God has a solution for every need. Love is real but triggers are real too and the need for everyone to be safe is necessary! I do appreciate the information presented here. Someone will be greatly blessed by it! I had to learn much of it on my own! I think sometimes that God sent me to school just for my family! Dealing with the afflictions of trauma, dysfunction, illnesses, etc has been a common thread throughout much of my life. I am an adjusting caregiver for my elderly mother and her brother. It is my assignment. It is not easiest task but I trust God for my all of my instructions. Again, God does not put no more on us than we are able to handle. My assignment is necessary. In listening to Ms. Bailey, I appreciate her sincere optimism and dedication to the cause. I get it and understand where she is coming from. I could also greatly understand those who may remain to be silent in their response to this episode as well. ;-) More or less, thanks for sharing this much needed information. It's greatly needed and very helpful!
I think that its how people were treated. It is personal for each person and you hope for the best. If one has been emotionally, physically, and many times verbally abused. Yes you forgive people even those that hate you
Bless you Coach Pat and Thank You Latteras for this enlightening episode. I was the caregiver to my late-husband and my mother simultaneously. Although they were both at different stages of their health, it was extremely challenging and exhausting. (No Dementia) I’m so grateful for the trials of life which I had gone through to prepare me spiritually and physically, but with God’s grace and all of the love I had received from both of them, I shared and cared for them over a 14 yr period. I know that they knew I Loved Them. 🕊♥️🕊
Great topic as always King Laterras!! I am a caregiver for my now 91 years old daddy. Its been a journey filled with ups and downs. My daddy also have early dementia and congestive heart failure. Daddy has improved while in my custody. My husband and I have the love of God inside of us in order to share our lives caring for my daddy.🙏🏽🫂💕💯
I took the CDP course and it's a awesome course to take. I hate I didn't keep it up bc I was in caregiver for about 20 years. During the pandemic I was able to host workshops with caregivers in my community and church about these different stages one may go through. One thing I'm noticing is that now at 45 yrs old my grandmother is getting up in age and all this time I have spent caring for other people family members and learning about these different diseases about dementia and Altheimer's I still don't feel prepared for my own when time comes because all I've been hearing about from family is that "Oh she'll be taken care of real good because this granddaughter been working with people mostly all her life and honestly I don't know how to take that. It doesn't feel like a compliment. It's feeling like the other family members are starting to due the bare minimum at times and think I got it.
Great topic. I cared for my mom who transitioned in 2021. I felt like I was doing God's work she did not suffer from dementia but was total bedridden. Caring for my mom brought me closer to God and even eased my grief from her death. It helped me heal from a lot of childhood wounds 🙏🏾 I would love for you to do an episode on Grief I don't think we talk about it enough. Stay blessed
This is really good Coach Pat Bailey. We must do better in this area of our lives weather we won't to or not.
This is such a great interview as a caregiver myself.
This is good! I wish this was around when I was caring for my mother. Being a caregiver for her and my father was the most challenging time of my life. It made me lend into God more.
I think many “assisted suicides” are caused by this fear of being mishandled when helpless
I’m so glad that I was my dad POA……Laterras when she started talking about the 💩 You said we in this thing now 😂🤣🤭
This is a good topic because it ties into the divorce rates. Can't wait to hear what she has to say.
If parents want their children to take care of them when they're old, parents need to take care of their children in their youth.
Whatever you do, don't give up! It took me talking to my mom for 5 years and her to become a stroke victim before she would sign the Power of Attorney papers. Even though I was handling all of her financial affairs.
I was a caregiver to my grandmother for 5 years it was challenging at times. I would do anything to have her back. People don't understand what it is like to be a caregiver until they are one themselves and it's life changing yep. My grandma passed away sept 2022.
I would love to connect with her. I have been a caregiver for over 10 years. Certified dementia practitioner. I love to help and advocate for the vulnerable
I love your podcast,I work that time,yes,I'm a Pct in the hospital,but I would love love love,more information on everything you talked about.
Ima tune in.....Nov 26th
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caregiving= draining work yet fulfilling
I moved to America to take care of my dad l spent 26 years then l moved back to England to take care of my mother before she passed this year!
We laid Mummy to rest 31st 2024
It was hard 😢many many nights of crying out to God
These are the very things I'm writing about to address our people's mindset, so they'll deal with the wisdom and benefits of honoring your parents by caring for them.
This is a really good video. In my opinion, taking care of others with dementia comes from staying indoors, lack of eating healthy, no exposure to sun, very low vitamin d, c, and b. When these things are extremely low the brain shutdowns it's memory.
A little about me, I was abused physically by my parents almost to death. Molested by a neighbor. Sexually by two sisters and cousins. Sexually abused by two best friends, and other older family members. I always tried to have a relationship with my family and would be there to help them, my mom and dad back to health after surgeries, etc. I never understood until last year when GOD showed me who they really were, that my mom and oldest sister are narcissistic witches and my alcoholic dad has never had no say. I am the middle child of five girls who would come in town to clean for my parents, wash cloths, mow the grass, clean refrigerators, organize, give money to, buy them groceries, clean pools, clean vehicles, etc. I could go on and on. Yet my parent used me for somethings so precious to my heart and took them from me. They know the life GOD has for me and yet their jealousy eats at them because of their evildoing, wickedness. I always prayed they change but GOD told me evil don't change.
My four sisters had better lives and they don't think to help our parents like that. They had better lives.
It's in my blood, GOD created me, to be a caregiver for others, blood or not. I know I'm different.
Recently what GOD did for me was save my life. I was eating and got choked. I live alone. I ran to the bathroom, a fear I told GOD in the past to please do not let me die and be found, called on JESUS in spirit and HE SAVED ME FROM DEATH. GOD is my family and no matter how my family feels about me when I did nothing to them, I'd still help care for them if they needed me, if GOD tells me.
This life is not about us and when people start to truly understand that then life will give life more abundantly. This life given to us is because of JESUS CHRIST, GOD ALMIGHTY caring about us. THANK THE LORD JESUS CHRIST! PRAISE THE LORD GOD ALMIGHTY.🙏🏽🙌🏽❤️
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A kind hearted friend of mine who was 5 feet tall and weighed 115 pounds injured her back trying to help her mom who weighed 150 pounds. She had no choice but to find an assisted living facility for her mom in order to recover from the back injury
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What about inlaws that don't like the wife or want to be around them... At what point does leave after cleave apply?
So what happens when your parent/s were abusive, manipulate , and stole ( not just monetarily ) from you ? Do we then need to just of course “ forgive “ and then take care of them ? We didn’t ask to be here . I’m not going to have kids, and others constantly look at me like I’m crazy, and call me selfish. What’s selfish is having kids when you know you don’t want to be a parent . I’m glad my generation is waking up, and is noticing just because someone is your “ parent “ does not mean you need to be responsible for them especially ; when nothing but grief has been caused by them . I really wish that anyone who decides to have or take care of a child , needs thorough training and some some sort of approval process.
I probably will get ripped in the comments, but I wish you all the best … truly.
Remember, if we can't forgive, the Lord will not forgive us. My parents fell off, and I ended up in foster care. However, when it was time for me to be there for my parents to me, it was an honor 🎖.
@@tayansmith116Yes forgiveness has been made. But that does not mean I need to be apart of your life, right ?
But what if you have a loving, caring mom ? Do you walk away? I’m not judging you, because you had a bad experience. Have you ever considered because of your experience you would be a great mother. I’m just saying. My mother had an awful mother when she was a child, but you could never ask for a more loving, caring, understanding mother.
Wow! That's amazing.
Joyce Myers father molested her as a child and the Lord still made her honor 🎖 her father and because of her obedience he got saved before he passed ♥️. I suggest you pray and seek the Lord. According to the word of God, we are to honor 🎖 our parents, more so in the stage they can no longer do for themselves.
Just here putting time-stamps that spoke to me so I can re-visit:
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I was close to my mother so I never believed her illness of an act of repentance. I admit to selfishness because I questioned God due to many of my friends still enjoying their motherrs.
My mother hid the signs so they aren't always visible in the first stages. She was diagnosed after years of untreated stress. No one discusses mental health or genetic makeup that can constitute to this terrible disease.
My mom too! Diagnosis was followed by due to "...years of unprocessed trauma"🥺
I really need to connect with her
It was typical for them to wonder from room to room.
If you treat patients right you become a threat to others who dont take their job serious .
Pat Bailey, IVE been there, but not with my own mother, she had 4 daughters. But in nursing homes. Its scary what goes on now. Horror stories.
caregiving is not easy But it is amazing and Fearful All in one Life Altering- It is the one Job that you want to do perfectly❤ praying for myself and all other caregivers rather by profession or just love ones that Holy spirit will lead guide direct and comfort through it All In Jesus Name Amen
"How do we want to be treated when we find our selves in the same position"?
Where is the place of mercy?.
Great
How do you get intouch with Pat Bailey??
Link in bio
The problem is a lot of people taking care of their loved ones think that it’s about them. If they stop making it about themselves and making about honoring God, then it will be easier to get through.
Does anyone know what the UA-cam channel is for tomorrow’s program from 7 to 11?
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How can you implement a village When parents are getting older and they are still able to take care of themselves fully. But it's no longer driving. I need to have that village of friendship with their friends. And they have children with limitations with. Cognitive movement or Needing assistance to do the feed work for their parents of the things that they be. That is my question.
Depending on your parent’s insurance there may be medical transportation available for free. Their provider would be able to let them know.
Depending on the need, they may qualify for a waiver program. It’s a program where direct care workers can come in and handle lite house duties if the clients live independently
@@moniquepalmer6796 Thank you for the information God bless you.
It seems like some parents can do anything to their children and still get sympathy and have the expectation of their child to be their lifetime slave. People are waking up. I expect the older generation to think like that. But I’m glad the younger generations are waking up. I’m not going to subject myself to all kinds of stress and illness because of an abusive is a parent.
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IKR? Don't mention the D word.
What does honor look like? The Bible tells us to honor one another in this case our parents, but not how.. I believe it’s not a monolithic way that works for every child. I think God that the next verse that the guest quoted puts the responsibility of honor also on parents to children..
Secondly, real estate should be placed in a trust and not into a will. She means well, but is not knowledgeable.
How is the trust more beneficial? Please share your knowledge, I'm interested
@Yakhanna When you put your assets into an irrevocable trust, they no longer belong to you, the taxpayer. This means that generally, the IRS cannot touch your assets in an irrevocable trust. It’s always a good idea to consult with an estate planning attorney to ensure you’re making the right decision when setting up your trust. Depending on the state you're in, there is what is called inherent tax and / or probate taxes. Look more into it. It gets really expensive for the beneficiaries.
I truly appreciate and thank you both for this content of helpful information when it comes to caregiving. I am 53 and have been a caregiver since 2014. I have had the pleasure of caring for my Father, Brother and now my mom. My father passed away in 2014 my brother in 2021 and now caring for my 80 year young mom. I will be logged on Sunday thank you so much @caregivercoachpatbailey and @laterraswhitfield
Thank you for this Awesome Segment 🤎🙌🏽🙏🏽