Are We Stuck With Our Insecurities Forever?
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- Опубліковано 9 лют 2025
- A recent Medium article has us talking about insecurities and whether they ever truly go away. From body type and education level to where you’re from and how you speak, we open up about our insecurities and reveal their current status.
How do you get over insecurities?
Go to therapy, people. Age doesn't fix anything if you're not actively working on yourself. Ignoring, repressing, acting like you don't care about something that was important to you only creates dysfunctional patterns of behavior that are harder to change later.
Love your self and inbrace them
Yes just like Adrienne said growing up is one part of involvement but it's hard to get over your insecurities course i tried okay guys i tried hart to but never goes off my mind. Maybe i need therapy for that
I’m still learning everyday, but for me it helps to just accept them, bc that’s who I am and also not comparing myself to others.
I’m still a work in progress I am 34 and went through a divorce so that has brought on other insecurities !!!!!’
Adrienne’s insecurity is more common than she thinks. And it’s on a global scale. I get it 🤷🏻♀️
Facts i can super relate to her, even as a black girl in canada
Maybe for English or commonwealth countries.
I used to feel the same way Adrienne felt around white folks too as I entered into the corporate workplace
@@erikjj235 francophone countries are worse when it comes to white worship lets be honesy
For sure
Only Adrienne was being vulnerable, deep and genuine in this conversation. Thanks Ade♥️♥️♥️
Right! She's awesome. Like we need to dig deeper into that topic!
Agreed! 👏🏽
I agree!
Believe me I grew up with nothing but white ppl and being friends with white women is nothing but problems. I understand when she said she only interacted with authority figures. I wish growing up all the way to high school there was more black and brown ppl. It really messes you up when you’re the minority of a majority
This 💯 made me think
Adrienne I think you hit it on the spot for many of us Latinas/Hispanics. It’s a weird insecurity but it does exist
Yess
she looks so skinny- postmaster must not deliver to her building.
@@newtempphone-ash9507 What? She looks healthy. Stop it.
@@newtempphone-ash9507 I didn't understand what you are saying?
Adrienne's insecurity is quite common I think a lot of us are just afraid to say it.
Really appreciated Adrienne's vulnerability here. Everyone else was pretending to be above insecurities, especially Jeannie trying to play therapist and I wish they had related and shared a bit more.
Agree 110%
Right lmaoo on the jeanie part I was just about to say that she trying to play the therapist now😊🥴
Loni is looking better than ever! She is slayingggg
She looks gorgeous today
Yessss she has been looking amazing
It's all the love she's getting!
@@eccentricityxoxo5378
...and giving
I wanna hear more of what Adrienne was talking about
Yes, I think she should take some social psychology courses and perhaps some history, postcolonial, and political science courses to learn about cross culture psychology, minorities in America, and multicultural psychology. I hope she reads some books.
"The projects don't define me. I'm actually defining the projects." What a profound, impactful, philosophical statement that was Loni. Can't say enough 👏👏👏👏
It let's people like me, who is from the projects, to redefine myself ❤❤❤
Right loni was preaching here I was like ok get it loni😊😊👏👏😅👍👍
I know exactly what Adrienne is talking about I wish the other girls wouldn’t interrupt Her
They tryna stop her from getting fired.
Nobody was really interupting her but Jeannie🥴 but you know Adrienne she seems to be louder than everyone else there😅 well except for loni well..... here she wasn't tho😊🥴 love her tho❤
I wish the other hosts were more open like Adrienne. I understand that Jeannie can push past her insecurities, but she still has them.
She may not
@@greatgull6931 Everyone does.
She basically changed her whole look since she has started datign a black man. Ass work and everything.
@@valeriewilliams5078 Stop spreading lies. Jeannie started working out and gained some weight, which is exactly what she wanted.
@@gaila.9852 She wanted it when she got with a black man. Ass shots and everything. She is insecure because she is trying hard to fit the world she knows most black men love.
Damn, Adrienne got real af. I use to feel the same way because my school and neighborhood only had black and hispanic kids. I can't imagine how it feels for kids who were one of the few minorities at their school.
Right!! I felt like a foreign alien growing up. I was the only Asian household in a predominantly Black neighborhood but then my school was predominantly White. It was odd and segregated!
@@jyn88 Where did you grow up???
@@asante291 Arlington, Virginia
Jeannie “I remember Loni talking about her elbows and how her elbows helped her thru life”
Loni: 🙆🏾♀️
😭😭😭😭😭😭
Haha
The ladies sometimes don’t answer the topic. They always go off topic. Only Adrienne mentioned her insecurities 😂😂.
Loni mentioned hers too which was growing up in the projects. Did we watch the same segment ???
Loni did
Adrienne really brought up a good topic here and I'd love to hear how much deeper her thoughts go because insecurities like that are SO valid and I don't know if I hear people talk about this all that much.
I think Loni has been looking her best since quarantine, the head wraps and braids really suit her❤️❤️😍💯
Lmaoo😅😅👍👍 Right😄
I’ve been loving Adrienne’s input lately. She adds both light and depth to the show.
I definitely felt that awareness and insecurity due white people's presence . Even though I'm college educated, there's definitely been times where I felt I had to tone down my emotions, language, and behavior because I didn't want to be looked at as ghetto. But no longer. But that never really stopped me from having white friends though, but they were also my "equals"
It may not be the insecurities that lasts, it’s the trauma.
Amen!!!!! This comment needs to be highlighted.
Well said.
yessssssss! spot on!
It is possible to overcome them, you need to first acknowledge them, own and accept them.
We evolve and insecurities changes over time, for example especially in grade school I was so insecure about how dark my skin was because it wasn't seen as beautiful. Now, it's one of my best features. I love and appreciate my complexion.
Can we hear more about Adrienne's insecurity. Please post the longer video.
Nope the other ladies cut her off and did not let her get deeper
They're scared to go deep now
@@lucky4evr1 why?
@@wiena3352 People were saying the topics were too serious when Amanda Seales was on it. .. Like that was her fault. But they complained. And now all they show is duplicated bubble gum and sex topics .. like we want to hear them talk about sex all the time😒
@@josephlovely7759 no they didnt
Love what Adrienne was trying to say. My girl tried to take this back to the days when our ladies used to put their feelings out there, get deep, and relatable to their audience.
Jeannie seems to be in a different headspace now so she's just happy happy, lol but she could have mentioned just a few months back that she felt insecure about her body weight due to DWTS and then getting sick.
Adrienne, I appreciate your transparency and you actually being relatable with answering the question. We ALL have or had insecurities no matter how old we are. Thank you for being REAL with us about yours! ♥️
Adrienne thank you for being real and going there. That's something alot of people would never day out loud
I love honest they all are especially Adrienne!
I really appreciate Adrienne being so real and sharing that
What Adrienne said about college is one of those grass is always greener on the other side things. As someone who went to college to do engineering, I always think about what if I went down the entertainment/social media route instead and got clout/money that way. My insecurity is that I won't have an impact on the world, but if I was an "influencer" maybe I could have
Rae Jae you could do both.
I fully understand what Adrienne is saying and it makes a lot of sense.
I luv how honest Adrienne and loni was I’m 34 and went through a divorce which has brought out some insecurities that I may have had before and some I didn’t have till now so I am a work in progress and learning each day !!!!
Thank you A for being vulnerable, and saying what we are thinking at home!
WOw, Loni you look wonderfull!
Loni looks like a queen during this season 🤩🔥
The moment you realize that there are people living with diseases, cancer, diabetes, disabilities, & so much more then you’ll realize that your insecurities are so small & stupid. Love yourself💕
Still valid.
Ade, THANK YOU for being so real, so vulnerable, so you. I love that about you 😘 God bless you.
Jeannie, we are not going to wait until we are 40 for our insecurities to go away.
That’s not what she’s saying. She’s speaking from her personal experience.
@@iacobus4227 I know that. This is my response.
@@gaila.9852 oh ok cause you said it like waiting that long is bad thing or something. Insecurities don’t simply go away, and it doesn’t happen by the snap of your fingers. For you it might not take that long. And if u don’t have any insecurities, that’s good, I’m happy for u. 👏 👏 👏 But for others it may not happen until they’re 40, 50, 60, 100. Some will never get over them. The point is people come from all walks of life, and different circumstances that made them who they are. I don’t care how old you are, I just want people to be happy whether they have insecurities or not, and to not let it stifle or take control of their lives.
@@iacobus4227 Jeannie responded as if insecurities magically go away once you hit 40. We wanted to know how.
Say it again for the people in the back!
I think sometimes I know this sounds cliche... but sometimes what we see as flaws , or insecurities... i would say it’s good for them to stay with us... it’s the perspective that needs to change... I notice that a lot of times we become insecure based on what society tells us is not considered “ beautiful “ so when you don’t have that slender nose... or that perfect six pack or that curly hair or those big lips you feel the need to conform and make others comfortable when you should truly appreciate what makes you happy and everything about you should be secure and confident... even little quirks that one has... it adds to what makes you YOU ! ♥️🙏🏾
I love this!!!
Thank you Adrienne. This is the video I needed today. Thank you for being both honest and vulnerable.
I want to applaud Loni for saying that the project don't defined her, that she defines the projects by coming out of that and being who she is today . I think too many people allow their past to define who they are today rather than letting themselves now define who they are today.
Right I was like yessssss👍👍👏👏😁 you betta tell them loni
Wow Loni looks absolutely breathtaking! 😍 Purple looks great on her.
I appreciate Adrienne being real in this segment
Omg Adrienne just kept things a whole stack! I love how vulnerable she is, esspecially at her class of fame...just because it helps me to see that my thought and insecurities are not mine alone and are not because I'm not at a certain Financial class. I totally get everything thing she said. May soind weird but... I purposely sought ojt friends of different races just because I saw this flaw in myself ans no matter how much I knew it wasn't right I couldn't shake it. I learned that we are all very different but from a human level very much the same. I also learned that there are definitely white ppl who seek out black friends just to rid themselves of their generational superiority mentality and I do not fault them one bit. Its funny to see but I respect it!
Thank you Adrienne for being so honest this hits deep for so many of us. Your so inspirational. God bless ❤️🙏
That’s so true! Life is way too short to be worried about our insecurities. 🤔 It’s time to LIVE LIFE UNBOTHERED. It’s time to celebrate ourselves instead of being focused on the negatives. Cheers to embracing our insecurities and being the amazing women we were created to be! 🎉🔥
Love Adrienne for keeping it real. I have felt Similar insecurity as well in the past.
I really appreciate you all on TV every day
Loni has been serving us flawless looks back to back! Looking like an African Queen 🤩🥰
😊😊😁😅👍👍👏👏
I totally relate to Adrienne. I myself don’t really have white friends for the same reason. It’s part of growing and believing that not all non people of color have white savor complex or want to be our friend to check the ethnicity box!
Really loved Adrienne’s story
"but jesus can help you!!11!1!"
It was really nice getting all the girls' perspectives especially Adrienne's. I liked Jeannie's take too.
This caption is my life . I read this book and she said you have to feel worthy
Yes Adrianne I have a bit of an insecurity when I have to help white men or established white ppl at work. I was worried that they wouldn’t think I knew what I was doing
I’m a teacher and majority of us are white, there’s not a lot of Hispanic/Latinos so I always felt like I could easily be judged on my mistakes and I would become their generalization of Hispanics/Latinos. I feel the pressure
No Jeannie, a lot of people well above 40 have insecurities. I share Adrienne's insecurity as well as many others. Whether it's our body, our background, our education, our finances, etc.. We may become more comfortable with who we are or in our skin, yes, but we still have insecurities over 40 Jeannie. Adrienne always keeping it 100!
Adrienne!! SO. FREAKING. TRUE!! That is a huge insecurity 👏👏👏
Even with my White friends, I feel this insecurity. I feel slighted or less than. Maybe by conversations or by this history between Whites and Blacks. That was deep Ade, and I wish this point of yours would have been discussed a lot further
I loooove adriennes honesty,
I've totally been in Adrienne shoes and I bet so many have been in the same situation glad she brought it up
Loni looks amazing 😍
Adrienne meant it when she said she was going real deep deep. I was thinking get to the point A, you're taking too long, but I see why it could quickly go wrong and offend some people. She had to be careful with her words. I 100% understand. Thanks for being so honest because I know many actually relate with you such as I !!! This was actually an insecurity I forgotten about and haven't thought about since childhood.
That was really brave of Adrienne to admit. A lot of people could take that the wrong way, but it’s a legitimate insecurity as a minority person in this Eurocentric world.
Jeanie was so annoying this segment did she smoke before hand.
Yeah she definitely dismissed Adrienne and the entire age aspect. Because Garcelle is older than all the women in the panel and doesn’t throw her age in everything.
I feel you. Jeanie tends to go on and on and on and on .....🙄
@@lilian7864 she a Capricorn. We long winded af when we are passionate abt something lol.
@@Jasminemarie94 lmaooo 😂😂😂😂
Lmfaoo
Sometimes insecurities are purely caused by other people. Kids in middle school made me insecure about my skin tone and having parents from Africa, but I am proud of both these things today.
What country in Africa...?
@@beebee__ They are from Cameroon. I get what you are implying, but the specific country was irrelevant to my comment.
i agree with Jeannie ...at a certain point you just stop caring. Especially when you know Who created you and your purpose in life eventually you wont care for the insecurities , they may pop up and discourage you from time to time but gotta remind yourself “i am loved i am beautiful i am handsome” and keep it moving
I do think it's possible to overcome insecurities but I do also believe that insecurity and confidence is a facet of personality and so, there are some people who are literally born more confident and some people who are born more insecure. You can always improve these things based on environment and effort but there will be some people who have to work harder at overcoming their insecurities than others will.
Same Loni. I would hate to say the “projects”
Same.
Adrienne, thanks for keeping it real!
Dang! Adrienne be hitting deep! I too share her insecurities. I think its more common than she thinks. You can tell the rest of the girls probably shared a similar experience with white people. When you're a minority, its not always a comfortable feeling. The college thing is also a huge insecurity of mine too 😞
Jeannie is right it's all in your mindset! Which to me is the best comment! Bc nothing changes if nothing changes, so its changing our way of thinking ,it makes a big difference
I use to feel like Adrianne but having white co workers who are so Amazing, Welcoming, Respectful and just plain Wonderful have helped heal that for me. Not 100% but close.
That's a lie! There are plenty of people over 40 that still have insecurities. They act like 40 is so old🤦
🙏🏾🙏🏾for us that are still battling insecurities🤍‼️
Ahhhhhh I love this episode!! Yes, we love going deep! & I honestly thought i was the only person who can honestly say I’ve never really had any white friends...and it wasn’t always by choice, it just never really happened - thank you Ade🙏🏾❤️
I felt the same way Adrienne !!! Thx for sharing and being vulnerable ❤️
Love this look and the head wrap on Lonnie! 😍
This is so real Adrienne.
Wow. I’m Asian from NYC and have the same insecurity as Adrienne. I’m 41 and still don’t have a white friend till this day.
Jeannie is just rambling
Right. And she's full out it. Because on her channel she's always talking about her insecurities now she trying to act like there's none
That’s a good one, A! Very vulnerable and true to share
Because alot of latinas hispanics look white to me, I did not know they felt a difference between them and white people. Or that they care. Interesting to know. As a black woman I don't even think about that, I just think they don't like my race because we look different and because of history..but never been insecure with them...The subject was quite interesting today
It's a weird relationship with Latinos and white Americans. Within Latino culture we like lighter skin and colored eyes, there's lots of colorism issues. But there still is a difference between white Americans and Latinos. For instance Latinos get along better with Italian Americans versus evangelical whites.
@@erikjj235 Interesting
As a Latina/Hispanic, I never ever considered white people as MY people. We are completely different and treated differently. I have heard of Hispanics/Latinos forgetting their roots and wanting to be white. They think being white is the way to live. I relate more with my native side. I am proud of who I am, I don’t want to be them. I’m not good with words so sorry if this makes no sense.
@@littlebean2494 👍👏👏👏 yas Ruby!
@@littlebean2494 Understood very well! You know your history that's why...
Love Adrienne and Loni input 💗💗
I have the exact same issues as Aderienne. White girls have always been weird and awkward with me. I don't know what it is, I have dark hair and eyebrows and a tan colour skin but I honestly could not point it out. Middle to high school I couldn't befriend them then college I had so many classes randomly with the same white girls over and over but could not even work in a group without the awkwardness. Then in my night school when I thought I had one white friend, she turned out to be greek LOL. Then in University when at this point I really know who I was and was sure it is not me that's the problem (which the naiive and younger me would think it is), turns out this girl in my group just decided not to like me from day one and was super rude to me. I remember my first covo with her was that she just went to florida and I said same I just returned a week ago, and throught we were going somewhere with the convo, turns out she just ignored me and continued the rest of the term with her snarky comments and ignoring. Oh well. It is what it is.
they jealous cos you cute, tf
@## it's a summary of my life experiences not just high school. You clearly did not read the whole thing. Lol . Oh well
Its not the white its that you feel inferior around them...
I've always liked Jeannie but it's seriously so annoying that she never lets anybody talk.
I’ve been feeling the same. It’s incredibly immature
Or just accepting other people's experiences, we're not all the same lol...
She still in her honeymoon phase she will calm down eventually lol
@@JeremiahWalton that has nothing to Dow it’s this stfu
@@JeremiahWalton Lmaoo
Garcelle’s box always looking like a magazine cover 🥰🥰😝📸
Yes Ade, I can definitely relate.
As you get older you tend to live for yourself and not the opinion of others.
Facts A! I don't think I have many insecurities either but not having a degree is my only regret in life so I do think in certain rooms, around certain ppl I feel less than. Sheesh!
Listening to Adrienne speak about her experience with white people, I'm curious to what she would categorize her relationship with Rob Kardashian as, since he is white. Maybe she's just not thinking about him when she says that since it was a romantic relationship, but I'm curious to know if she felt the same way around him and his family. Or if perhaps she looked at them as not white since they are Armenian and many people try to claim they are not white?
Yeah, I think cause they're just not WASP white
I am so sad hearing about Adriennes insecurity. I am white but born in the Balkans (Southeast Europe) where people are in general more chill and also have endured alot in the past. We are also louder when we speak our languages, love drum music and spice our meals as much as possible lol! Our history has made us more resilient but also more emotional (Albanian people lol :D). Therefore, I feel most comfortable with modest/ non stuck up white people and with most people from all over the world. So to Adrienne: If some people make you feel insecure, maybe it is just your body telling you that they do not have the right vibe for you. And there are white people out there who love Hip Hop, are chill and love to learn about other cultures. I hope you ll make friends with those kinds of people so that that particular insecurity will ultimately fade away :D Greets from Germany :*
Love this.
Loni is looking AMAZING!!!!!! 😍
Jeannie lowkey gives me narcissistic vibes , I don’t believe one bit that she doesn’t have any insecurities . Every single human has insecurities. She was annoying in this segment. Tamar was lowkey right about her , she doesn’t let people see her true self
Jeanne has mentioned hers on her Hello Hunnay youtube channel.
ALOT of people see that. Including myself
In previous videos, she said she was always insecure about her small cup size and chicken legs. She's not lying that the older you get, the less you Insicure you become.
Because older people figure that they're closer to death, so they automatically just live life. Plus you look at how much you've overcome and feel strong regarding that.
The key to letting go of insecurities, is seeking therapy and staying in the present and looking at how much you've overcome 💁♀️. No matter how many people treated you like trash, you didn't treat yourself like trash by looking after your appearance, going to therapy and not self harming no matter how many people have harmed you. Hope I'm making sense. 😹
@@NicieWilliams so? That’s not the real
@@misbahailia3345 she should have said some here tho
It's definitely possible to overcome your insecurities. The word says we are overcomers we can go to God for EVERYTHING. I say this because some people don't just come from a toxic environment they are literally still in a toxic environment so it has to BECOME mind over matter.
Loni’s head wrap is to die for😍😍😍
Some people carry their insecurities to their grave....most people are not able to overcome ALL their insecurities, If someone is able to overcome ALL their insecurities that's amazing and wonderful......
I definitely agree and understand Adrienne!
okay ive seriously have been considering therapy and now auntie Loni is telling me so I GOTTA
I would like to say I turned 30 in October of 2020 and have been married this year in March for 8 years to my beloved husband we have a 30 year age difference and it took me up until the past 2 years for the calmness in my marriage of being complacent in a good way kicked in however I have aways been family oriented. I just have to say tho since I have turned 30 it was something different and I am now I can confidently say agreeing with how Jeannie feels at 40's butt with that being said I wasn't partying or doing any of that sort before.I have been a homebody my whole marriage but if you all would like my husband and I to come on the show we would love to he is 61 getting ready to turn 62 on April 26th of this year and I am 30. We have been thru the ups and downs but love each other to the fullest and are currently trying for a baby! Thank you real fam for keeping it real!
Love,
Ed and Kelli Payton from Jacksonville, Fl. and btw my husband is black and I am white :) I swear we would make a great segment
I can sort of relate to Loni. I don't think I lived in the projects... but it was part of low income housing (Section 8). I wasn't insecure about that though since I wasn't even aware until I was older. What I was insecure about was when someone asked me where I am from because it made me feel like a foreigner or alien. I wanted to blend in with everyone but obviously I stood out being the only SE Asian in school and neighborhood. I remember replying out of spite "I am from here like you!" although I knew they were asking about my ethnicity. They would then ask "I mean your parents, where are they from?" I was a very young child. I definitely grew out of that insecurity a long long time ago. People are just curious. It's not a big deal to me anymore.
Thanks Adrienne for sharing
Adrienne, I totally have the same deep insecurity. My life experience has been different from yours, in the sense that I’ve had a bunch of white friends & I even now date a white man; but in public-I ALWAYS feel judged & either looked down upon by white people or sexualized around specifically white men. All that to say, I hate both feelings of inferiority. It effects where I choose to hang out, the town I live in, so much.
Anyway girl, you’re not alone! We are all HUMAN & that’s what I remind myself in those insecure moments
We can do all things through Christ who strengthen us