I am ftm and currently am in the early stages of transitioning, I’ve cut my hair not to long ago and I am completely male and stealth online and have been for a few years. I know that at some point I’m going to have to socially transition so I can medically transition but for some reason I’m nervous about it. I’m nervous for my family and friends to use a completely different name and pronouns even tho I know that’s what I want. I do have a few friends irl that use my name and pronouns and It was weird at first because I wasn’t used to actually hearing that. I’m very nervous for my family to use my name and pronouns because it’s a new thing and I’m not sure if it’s normal to feel that way at first or if I’m doing something wrong. To me I feel like socially transitioning feels more scary than medically transitioning but I do know that I will have to get through it at some point and get used to it.
Hi, I would like to add a comment; I am MTF, while still living my life deeply stealth, even after starting HRT, I was very concerned with what I wore. In my case, I wanted to wear feminine or at least gender neutral clothes, but it always turned to be a difficult experience, even when I got my ears pierced, my friends (now former friends) made my life impossible. My point is; if you are trying to start bonding with a male group, should you not try to look as male as possible?
Hi and thanks for commenting. I am sorry to hear your friends were hard on you. I would think that mindful friends would want to be supportive no matter how you present.
Ugh I'd love for Edna to be my gender therapist. "No ace bandages!" "No capes!"
Thank you! And NO capes!
I am ftm and currently am in the early stages of transitioning, I’ve cut my hair not to long ago and I am completely male and stealth online and have been for a few years. I know that at some point I’m going to have to socially transition so I can medically transition but for some reason I’m nervous about it. I’m nervous for my family and friends to use a completely different name and pronouns even tho I know that’s what I want. I do have a few friends irl that use my name and pronouns and It was weird at first because I wasn’t used to actually hearing that. I’m very nervous for my family to use my name and pronouns because it’s a new thing and I’m not sure if it’s normal to feel that way at first or if I’m doing something wrong. To me I feel like socially transitioning feels more scary than medically transitioning but I do know that I will have to get through it at some point and get used to it.
Yes, social transition is oftentimes harder than surgical or medical.
Hi, I would like to add a comment; I am MTF, while still living my life deeply stealth, even after starting HRT, I was very concerned with what I wore. In my case, I wanted to wear feminine or at least gender neutral clothes, but it always turned to be a difficult experience, even when I got my ears pierced, my friends (now former friends) made my life impossible. My point is; if you are trying to start bonding with a male group, should you not try to look as male as possible?
Hi and thanks for commenting. I am sorry to hear your friends were hard on you. I would think that mindful friends would want to be supportive no matter how you present.