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It's so weird a lot of people don't understand that crying doesn't necessarily mean you're upset or sad, it's just an overflow of feelings, something that touches your heart
I loved how her answer was something simple and for herself and without an audience. Very solo activities. She’s a woman who wants to exist in the world and be comfortable existing. That’s half the battle. Very smart woman. I teared up a few times.
@@ren.8137 this might be true for us that are watching, might be false for her… emotions are a internal thing, and don’t forget, we play in first person, not third… so she’s not looking at her image 24/7. She’s FEELING things 24/7. She has the same physical vision and perspective as us. The body is just a vehicle… a car doesn’t define the quality of the fuel. Is quite the opposite… a bad fuel can actually decrease a car’s lifetime/ performance, therefore, defining the quality of the vehicle. The essence it’s what’s really matters, it’s a universal law.
This has to be one of the most personal interviews from a celebrity I think I’ve ever seen. She is so vulnerable here and she’s allowing us see it. She is so endearing, I want to give her the biggest hug
I love the symbolism of her taking off an item every time she goes into a deeper topic. It’s almost like a way to show us as viewers that she’s peeling always the layers of complexity in her life to be more open and vulnerable.
"I wonder how many times when I was a kid I was the only one expressing how I was feeling", she just summed up growing up as a sensitive child so, so well.
This means: she did not sense anything in anyone so she grew up believing she was the only one having feelings. Borderliners lack empathy, and they just don't know that. So they live to accuse everyone of their own insensitivity. If we can't cure this disease, humanity is truly lost.
“I feel a lot. Sometimes it’s horrible, and sometimes it’s awesome.” Is one of the most relatable things I’ve ever heard. To the point I cried. I just deeply appreciate people who will be this vulnerable.
Hearing her saying this made something to me. because I was… I am always so angry at myself, that I’m such a sensitive person.. realising this made me feel weak cause then I’m feeling like an open book everybody can read. That’s what a teacher once said to me. He said “you know you are a really open minded person. I have to take one look at you and I now how you feel” and I feel a lot. Often I’m angry and five minutes later I’m sad, I wanna cry but I can’t cause I don’t really get that I’m sad. for fucks sake😂
I feel so much too and sometimes I feel like I am simply not created for this world. I feel like I don’t belong. sometimes I just can’t take it… to feel everything and be aware at all times is exhausting.
“I feel a lot, and sometimes it’s horrible, but sometimes it’s awesome.” I couldn’t have said it any better. I’m so thankful I watched this entire interview.
That's right! It makes me feel she is the sort of person who would carefully put back a stone to its original place after holding it to look at it, when she walks in Nature.🌿
She’s one of those people I just want to have a long conversation with in front of a fire. And cry. And hug. And rinse and repeat. She seems so genuine and so actually grounded. Love her
It is quite right what they say: the three most beautiful sights in the world are a ship in full sail, a galloping horse, and a woman dancing. - Honore de Balzac
This is honestly one of the best celebrity interviews I've seen in a while. Especially after watching her PHENOMENAL performance of season 3 and now this, I fucking love her.
100% obsessed with her. What an actor and she seems like a brilliantly unique women who I hope the industry looks after!! She’s special in so many ways
This is one of the rawest depictions of a human being I've ever seen. I can't remember the last time I was this vulnerable with someone or someone was with me... Thank you Victoria, I can't imagine the courage it takes to do something like this as someone in your line of work. This was art.
she's such a normal person. i've never seen any celebrity this open about their feelings on camera. she's normal in a way that she isn't living in a bubble where celebrities live she just didn't lose herself going into fame
I love that she is highly sensitive. I know how deeply she feels: It’s an intense way of being in the world. You feel all the joy but also all the cruelty. Blessing and a curse. The only way to get through is intense vulnerability and honesty, humor.
Definitely. Being a sensitive person also means that you are very in tune with your emotions. Whether they are happy, mad or sad ones, a sensitive person is able to hone in on those emotions necessary in order to make the role feel more authentic. As well as being able to actually feel the emotions that the character might be feeling because of their situation which makes it a lot easier to cry on demand.
@@alondralopez4853 You're right, i think this is the reason why crying seem to come so naturally to her on screen. She had teary eyes a LOT in You season 3 and i feel her sensitivity played a big role in that (outside of the script obviously). Especially as i feel her and Love share some emotional issues.
I keep coming back to this interview, I just love hearing her talk and how she manages to express herself, I was never able to put my feelings into words and after watching I feel like I do. It soothes my soul.
I do relate with the soul crushing moment when you realize that you were in an abusive household but that you can't even really hate your parents because they genuinely did the best they could.
I relate heavily to this and what’s really helped is not being silent, I try to communicate how much certain things hurt me growing up and soemtimes, a lot of the times it turns into a fight or argument. But I know she’s listening, she’s yelling because she mad at herself and can’t except that maybe she did things that fucked me up like her mom did to her. But then one day we talked and she admitted she was really hard on me, and that she put me through a lot. And in that moment I’ve never felt more free, for the first time I felt validated and heard by her. I know this is just my story and it probably means nothing, but keep talking to them they will understand eventually. I know my mom loves me with everything but she unfortunately just was never taught the tools to show it, but with communication things will get better.
@@jordanbodkin3517 Your story does mean something. It is really helpful to here the experiences of people that have had similar experiences and I appreciate you taking the time to share this with me. I tried to talk to me mother a few times but she gets really defensive and self depreciative really quickly and talking was just really hurtful (I'm also conditioned to avoid conflicts and submit pretty quickly), so I kind of just gave up. But maybe I should keep trying, maybe like you said, she can hear me despites her reactions. Anyway, thank you for sharing.
@@whocareswhoiam6637 I totally understand it’s really hard because the reactions can be so hurtful. My mom does the same thing, the whole “well imagine growing up in my household” “ you’ve never had it as bad as I had” it’s really difficult because I feel for her situation too. If you could get her to do family therapy that could help a lot! I really hope you find peace my love you deserve it!
As someone who grew up in a house with not obvious but totally devastating emotional abuse. I related to this so much. I’m on a similar journey. I appreciate you Victoria.
yes exactly this!! i was so shocked when she brought up her experience with having that enlightening moment on her abusive childhood because i went through the same thing in silence thinking everyone else didn’t care as much as i did or didn’t need figuring out and that i was overreacting. to hear her depict this situation in the midst of all the other deep-to-the-core statements, i felt so seen. i hope she knows how much impact her openness has on us
I don't think she is perfect. And that's the beauty. That's why she was perfect for that role. There's something dark but bright about her and I like that.
She's a phenomenal actress. Whenever I need a good cry I watch her monologue at the end of Hill House. Such fucking visceral ability to express emotion.
when she started talking about how her partner helped her realize she was lovable I started sobbing cause my current boyfriend is doing the exact same thing. it’s crazy how a person can just enter your life out of nowhere and impact your life so much.
Symora :( I struggle with dependency too. It helps that my partner is there along the way to remind me that I’m worthy but ultimately we need to give that to ourselves but it’s a journey and I’m still on it :/ but I have other friends too and try to enjoy my own company.
Symora having anxiety about someone leaving is a whole other issue I have too that for me stems from childhood trauma and what not and the fear of being abandoned. I hope you’re getting the help you need for it cause it’s a terrible feeling and one you shouldn’t be having while with someone because we’re all good enough to be with someone who wants to stay with us and if they don’t and we didn’t do anything wrong that’s their problem.
After watching this interview, it feels like almost every character that Pedretti has yet played contains a huge part of herself, and maybe that's why she even picked those roles. I would die a million deaths to just sit and talk with a person like her, who could actually comprehend the depths of sensitivity with such awareness.
As a highly sensitive person I feel really honored and loved for someone to say that you really would like to talk to someone like that. Because a lot of the time „we“ or I feel like I am too much for people or people might think I’m a little bit crazy, so I usually put my „socially acceptable“ mask on to get along with them. But in the end nearly nobody gets to know the real me bc I never share it, so I disconnect and feel lonely. The end 😂
That’s actually a thing in acting, sometimes we feel drawn to characters that share stuff with us, even stuff we’re yet to discover about ourselves. It’s fun
when she said “maybe when i’m dancing” i don’t know why but that was the most heartfelt but beautiful thing i’ve heard in awhile. i just broke into tears. it’s beautiful but also a curse to see your idols and the people you look up to have a life that you don’t know much about and once you find out truly about that person it all makes everything so much more clear about them.
It definitely left an impact. I feel like maybe I was taking in my own beauty so blind-sided, and I think I'll be replaying that sentence in my head for a while. A reminder to see more aspects of myself as beautiful- outside of physicality.
This interview helped me realize how traumatized I was. I had a complete breakdown. And I'm so grateful because that helped me reach out to a therapist and work through some of my issues and start the journey of self-love. These interviews are so important and truly help people. Thank you to Victoria for opening up and being vulnerable. A real inspiration.
i felt so bad when she started crying. i think some of us really are sensetive. it sucks, it really does. i struggle with really bad anxiety and sensetiveness and some people think that its overrated. im glad victoria got to share her feelings with these women and she let out what she felt. when the women asked “when do you feel most beautiful?” i thought to myself “never, i never do.” but when she said she feels beautiful doing what she loves, that made me feel so proud of her. she is definitely going places and deserves the world. she is so incredibly specieal.
Honestly same and I get made fun of when I cry at school, which is why I try not to, if I know I’ll cry I try concentrating on a spot on the wall until my eyes stop watering, and now because of that one incident where I did cry people just keep bringing it up and making fun of me, making it sound like crying should be embarrassing
@@mikewheeler9681 i totally understand that, it has happened to me plenty times. sorry that happened to you! everything will get better soon and if it doesnt come soon it will definitely come later in life.🙂
Seeing someone be this pure, yanking their heart out on camera for no egotistical goal or selfish gain...it's almost scary. Because it reminds you of how much people hide online. Celebrities - you can feel them glittering, trying to look authentic and humble because it's trendy to be that way, not because it's really them. And we copy them, we envy that sugar glazed ease, when it's not us either, not human. But this isn't a vanity fair cover. This is just a video of a girl who lets the sky of emotion move across her, storm and light, without trying to be polished, or relatable. Just being herself, with that bittersweet sensitivity that she can't hide, that she embraces. There's something yearning about her that makes you remember the core of you, that makes you want to hold and soothe yourself until you come back to yourself - the signature of you, that you know even when you're blind. And it's like a hand waving at you as you're coming home. Thank you for just being yourself, Victoria, fracturing, glowing, rebuilding.
“I thought that I was really just a burden to everybody and they were just having a hard time tolerating me” “I feel a lot. Sometimes it’s horrible, sometimes it’s awesome” Those 2 sentences are too relatable. I couldnt even explain it any better. Thank you so much Victoria and this interview.
When she said ‘cooking’ I felt that. I love how feel when I’m in the zone, listening to my music and cooking for my family. That’s when I’m completely in my element and realm.
i literally want nothing more than to be her friend. i feel like she’s a friend and piece of stability that i need. she’s such an intricate, complex, and sensitive human being. I love her personality, the way that she’s allowed us to see her.
You guys are such sheep to celebrity culture…I love her acting too, but she’s just another person, just as intricate and complex as anyone else on this planet
I keep coming back to this interview because in my 35 years I couldn't figure out why was I so damn sensitive and I could cry easily "for nothing". Before I haven't cry in front of anyone but know I'm really close to cry almost anywhere without minding my surroundings. I knew there was something special in her since I saw her on two Netflix series ❤️ She is truly a gift to this world!
"I've just always wanted friends" I have never heard another say these words with the same conviction I have always thought I was expressing out loud to others. I really just want friends, a friend, someone who can help me to experience part of what I offer others.
@@nowayjose2082 i think people make friends with people that have common experiences or goals as them. Also, it helps if someone can relay their thoughts and emotions clearly and quickly. this is just based on my experience tho
I relate to not being ugly, but not “typically the beauty standard” or hot and never being seen romantically but the opposite sex. As much as I know I deserve that one day, it’s been 23 years and it starts to really take a toll. Sometimes I feel really unwanted and unappreciated. So many women have experienced love, affection and attention all their lives, which is fantastic for them! However, I’ve had countless friends, throughout my entire life take that for granted because of how common it is for them. Sometimes I just get to a point where I’m like “gosh when is my turn?” and think when it comes, how much I’m going to appreciate the feeling of being loved and desired romantically. If you’d had the chance to be with someone who loves you to bits or something as simple as receiving wanted complements from someone, you are so lucky. Feeling undesirable and unwanted is a feeling that I hope my future children never feel.
Probably one of the best interviews I've ever seen. She's so real, I had no idea. I admire her for showing her vulnerability. MAD RESPECT for this woman, cause that ain't easy.
wow. you can just tell by the way she speaks that she is truly the epitome of an empath. so intelligent, sophisticated and passionate. really admire her work and talent, what an inspiration. love victoria 💗
Having feelings should be a normal, human thing, and seeking to be in touch with them in your learning and growing should be considered normal. Empathy should be a considered a normal everyday quality that the Lord has put in us; some having that more as a strength than others. Obviously there are some cases where people’s levels of empathy are little to none, but to use a label like ‘empath’ is lacking perspective. Hang around some genuine Christians and you’ll see that this quality of empathy and even having feelings is normal, in Christ, and in the image of God.
You don't have to be an 'empath' to just be a vulnerable human being who's learning to embrace being connected to the rest of the world in a visceral way. Stop creating weird hierarchies of people. We're all vulnerable deep down. We're the same.
As a highly sensitive person, I have never felt so seen or understood. Thank you so much Victoria for your honesty and bravery sharing these thoughts and feelings with the world. Thank you StylelikeU for creating the space in which these beautiful people can be held. Sensitivity can be a horrible or beautiful thing depending on your perspective, and you have brought me one step closer to accepting it 💗 Thank you soul sister xxx
It is such a good feeling to see there are other people out there like me, like us. Yes, one often feels so different and misunderstood. We are part of a spiritual tribe, empaths and highly sensitive people.
when victoria was asked “when do you feel most like yourself” … it made me wonder the same for myself… and in this time in my life right now, i don’t even know, and that kind of hurt. it really made me realize that so many people in this world don’t even know themselves, and we walk around meeting new people, and try to understand people and love others when most of us don’t even know who WE are.
While reading your comment I asked myself the same question and I instantly was like, "when I'm doing yoga" because I just enjoy practicing so much. But it also felt like it was an ego driven answer. It felt like a lie. I think I like the idea of being that person that does yoga and all that. I just realized that I don't even know myself that much.
@@federica4829 that’s exactly what i felt and what i meant when listening and reading your comment because i have the same feeling. it has to do with who we are not what we like to do, we might want to be a certain type of person because of stereotypes and trends, but do we like the idea or do we actually like it?
I asked myself that question. And I was surprised by the answer. I'm most myself when I'm alone. I feel like I have a particular mask for every person I interact with depending on their disposition. And it's exhausting. I hate myself. But when I'm alone, I'm free.
“it showed me that i was lovable. in a way that i had conceived loved but had never experienced throughout my life.” …wow. this. exactly this holy wow. this hit deep. i cant wait to feel that
"i can't wait to feel that", wow, y e s. my feeling arrive with such delay or an intermission of compartmentalisation that it's often disorienting and gives me the impression of being out of place; until now, I never saw the possibility that I could look forward to feeling something later. Thank you for that gift!
I would really love to hear more about this relationship. It was clearly filled with a lot of love and joy but also heartbreak. I want to know all the details, but especially why it didn't work out. :'(
@@hellomoto1337 i don't think the relationship has a lot to do with how she feels but rather how the relationship helped her realize that she can heal and she needed to do more of that to move forward and truly accept herself
@@PeachPlastic that gift is within all of us! she says she's learning that there a a beauty within all of us. A feeling you feel through all grief and pain. and I agree with her that beauty is the most expressive expression of satisfaction which is love and peace and kindness and confidence and joy. all things that belong and are created and maintained by believing in the most holy entity, god. we can feel loved and seen and heard at all times by maintaining a relationship with this higher being. through talking to him in prayer and having faith in hopeful and living spirits. we can do that and so much more with his grace and power and honor. in his name I pray for the sake of humanity amen.
I can relate to her feelings when she talks about being sensitive and feeling rejected emotionally or looked at as a mess. She expresses it in such a beautiful way that I couldn’t put into words. I could listen to her speak all day!
@@gloriadestiny Her vocabulary is much better than mine 😅She expresses the emotions I was unable to convey and that’s what people need in this world. She gives others a voice who aren’t quite there yet. She is an amazing role model for this generation!!!
What she said about emotional abandonment and fearing that ppl won’t “hold” the more intense parts of yourself…I don’t think I’ve ever been able to articulate my feelings this well, but this is exactly it
"in order to survive that space, I was a completely different person than I am now" I related so much to this line in particular. I became a people pleaser after I graduated from high school because it was the only way I knew to interact with other people. I've since dropped those behaviors and now I'm not afraid to say, "i didn't like this movie at all" or "sorry, I'm busy right now. But I'm free on xyz day".
I’m so happy for you! I’m currently a people pleaser and I don’t have many boundaries so I’m working on it. And I have finally come to terms that I’m a sensitive person. I dunno I just get in my head a lot and if someone does something small like look annoyed or something I feel extremely bad. I hope there is a cure for sensitivity because it has made me a people pleaser and shy. I get bullied and picked on. I’m starting school and having an anxiety attack cause I’m scared I will feel miserable and be picked on. My feelings are so strong, like when I’m happy, I feel so happy. When I’m sad, I feel extremely sad. I don’t know what to do with myself aha.
@@strawberrydaurto3366 dont worry, you can't change yourself. One day you'll be mighty glad you kept on with it. I think, for the most part, becoming comfortable as a sensitive person is about understanding that others are really unlike you. No matter how much good you see in them, no matter how much you think they could "change". Trying to change people is never the answer, otherwise it's called help when the person asks for it. Some will be mean, manipulative, take up a lot of space, blunt, agressive, selfish, arrogant... You don't have to be like them and never will be. Embrace your gift. People pleasing and low self esteem are only a defense mechanisms for something you werent ready to go through once you came into life. Its about pushing through. One day, you'll be able to have healthy boundaries while being yourself. You will be able to stand up and be a little of all the negative things i've said before. It won't make you a bad person, its about learning how to handle people so you dont get constantly hurt. It's a healthy defense some call natural! For you it would be learnt. Remember this, your journey is your own, and looks nothing like everyone besides you. Also know that other people are sensitive, lots. Find your people.
Every time she gets to the part of finding out she was in an abusive household makes me cry, it’s very similar to my story. It’s so hard being emotionally intelligent, but it feels good knowing there’s people out there I can relate to
me too, I felt so deeply connected to the things she was talking about. I really would love to just sit down and have a conversation with her next to a cup of tea or coffee. I feel like it'd be the type of thing you never truly want to end.
I know right, I related to almost everything and it made me feel comfort in a way? That I’m not alone in this. But still my heart shattered and I just wanna give Victoria a hug🥲
The world would be a much better place if the internet had more videos like this. Thank you to Victoria and to StyleLikeU for giving us this beautiful gift. I was already a fan of her work and of her as a person, and this video made me adore her even more. A thoughtful, beautiful human being, both inside and out.
The way she articulates her emotions is just other worldly. She is so aware of herself, and it’s so refreshing to hear someone speak about themselves with such respect.
this interview is so damn captivating. From the way she articulates herself and is so vulnerable is stunning. I've dealt with negative feedback constantly because of my sensitivity. She makes me feel less alone and it feels nice to see someone be so real and raw. I would love to sit down and talk with her for hours.
I think we just all need time to find the correct friends that are people that think I'm too sensitive but now there are friends that think that me being sensitive is cool and can understand everyone's feelings easily
@@nerdygameinggurl oh of course! I 100% agree with what you are saying. thank you for commenting btw. I'm happy to hear that you have people who appreciate the real you.
if you mean the way she talks, that’s because she has adhd, she either takes too long to form a simple phrase or she talks really fast (which I know because that's exactly how I talk due to adhd)
In a previous relationship I was told I was too sensitive and that I was a “crybaby”, their words really stuck with me even years later. I hated feeling so deeply all the time because it felt like a bad thing to even express my emotions. Just one tear and I’d hear “oh you’re crying again?” I was so closed off to my own feelings for so long after that relationship that I just felt numb to everything. It took years for me to accept that I’m a highly sensitive person and that crying in front of others actually takes strength to be open and comfortable enough to let those emotions out freely. My ex told me years later that they were jealous of how easily I could express myself and that they wished they could do the same. Kinda funny how the thing I was being put down for was the thing that they wished they had…huh
When she said “When people would ask about me, id tell them about my parents” I didn’t realize until that moment that I do the same thing. I describe myself as my trauma passed onto me from my parents
It's so refreshing to see someone who is not afraid to feel a lot and openly. I do too and often feel alone and weird for just processing emotions in the most natural way for me.. I love Victoria
The interviewer really said it at 16:10. This was a gift. Victoria is incredibly beautiful, I am really so inspired. I understand where she’s coming from and I hope I too can start healing from my childhood, not be resentful for the childhood I didn’t have, and open up to people and be vulnerable and radiate love the way she radiated love in this interview. I’m just really taken with her. She deserves the very best, I hope she’s happy.
It's excruciatingly sad how parents can destroy self esteem of their children and how that can haunt children through their entire life. But we still can learn how to make that little child inside of us to feel secure and loved ❤
The part where she speaks about being in a relationship where she was experiencing love that was different from what she grew up with hit so deeply. Growing up in abusive household the love you grow up watching is very toxic and alot of us get into abusive relationships because of that because it's what's known and when you finally get into a relationship that is consistent its a very healing feeling. Learning to love yourself in a safe environment. Thank you for Sharing your feelings we love you.
♥️ For me too. I’m in a not so healthy relationship right now and hearing her say that gave me hope that maybe it’s not all my fault, and maybe with someone else I’ll be able to rest in love more easily someday
i really long to feel that feeling...ive been "seperating" from my parents abusive household for the past 10 years, and feel at 28 its time now for a loving partner that allows me to heal and gives me that safe space that i so long for..ive never been in a relationship, only had casual things with men who didnt have high moral standards or just disappointing in every way
“I feel a lot and sometimes it’s horrible, but sometimes it’s awesome” Damn I relate to that so much, sometimes the amount of emotions I feel is overwhelmingly horrible, and it’s hard. But I’m also very grateful for feeling as much as I do, because sometimes it is awesome and beautiful and freeing.
“ it showed me that I was lovable in a way that I had conceived love but how I didn’t experience it throughout most of my life” this represents my current relationship and I am very grateful. Victoria is so relatable and raw in this. I too feel most beautiful cooking and dancing ❤️
She is so connected to her inner self. It’s truly powerful to watch her speak. What a gift it is to learn from somebody that sincere, wise, and truthful.
as a highly sensitive person myself it makes me so happy to read comments like "i wanna be victorias friend". usually when i tell people about my sensitivity, they see it as something negative. its nice to see the other pov here. its making me cry
Sorry to say that but its all fake. The comments you se are just that - comments. They say they wanna be her friend, but when they get to know a this sensitive person in real life - they usually just think its too much drama to deal with. You can figure it out by just wondering why so many of the comments are - "Im like her" or " I wanna be her friend" but not a lot of " I have a friend like that".
@@alexforce9 I have quite a few friends like that and I appreciate their insight so, so much. I think you are just projecting. All our experiences are different.
@@minimushrom lmao, is that your argument? I simply pointed out that even YOURS "sensitive" friends probably struggle with loneliness and you started rambling about something completely different lol.
I come back to this interview whenever i feel like my emotions get the best of me or are overpowering. Victoria makes it so peaceful to talk about being sensitive
I met her once back in the 2018 argentina comic con and she was the sweetest person ever. When she was speaking about the haunting of hill house, they showed the scene where the mansion is tricking her into believing she’s dancing with her late husband, she cried when she saw that bc she said she felt the emotion of the character, the way she expressed it was so pure we were all crying with her!
@@TheBest6431 sí! hizo un panel junto con Oliver (quien hizo de su gemelo en Hill house) los meet and greets no eran vendidos, yo me lo gané de casualidad cuando un chico del staff preguntó a quien le gustaba Hill house, solamente yo levanté la mano JAJA y el chico me dijo "quieres conocer a los gemelos" re sí. Charlamos un ratín, super lindos los dos!
she is my favorite, i relate to her on that emotional level to the bone and I'm just so glad there's someone out there speaking about it and learning to accept their vulnerable parts
She broke my heart. I've never ever seen someone so real. She is so incredibly authentic it's heartbreaking and beautiful. Love that she's not ashamed to actually cry a few times. I really really really found myself in a lot of things what she said.
I feel like the more she took off her clothes, the more she got vulnerable and honest and open and I think that's such a beautiful thing. Victoria you have such a beautiful soul and such a likeable personality, I think normal is overrated anyways so I wish more people wouldn't be afraid of seen weird. Amazing video, thank you so much.
She is such a unique personality in the industry. The way her mind works captivates me and I’m always interested to hear what she’s thinking. I love that a HSP is speaking up about who she is !!!
HSP here too. That pesky sensory processing trait. HSPs make up 20% of the population. That means the other 80% have no.idea how debilitating it can be and often are judgmental has hell. Or they call you crazy. And if you are a full blown empath, God help you. It's loads of fun. Keeping steady emoting is so damn hard.
yeah I was lucky to have a lot of friends that are HSP’s in my life throughout childhood/adulthood and I didn’t realize other HSPs can feel so out of place 🥺 it’s truly disheartening knowing others don’t feel like their emotional experiences are validated & I’m learning that while being a semi-alone HSP adult
I resonate so much with this. And Just the way you paused before saying “abusive” household, while I did know I was in a abusive household I refused to accept that I had PTSD years later with an ED and it took so long to come to terms with what had happened to me and how it effected my life. I always gave excuses for how it wasn’t that bad even when I knew it was. I desired normalcy so bad I realized at 32 I had gained it when someone said i would have never known you had been through that. That’s the moment I realized I had succeeded, but also failed at accepting my whole self. I appreciate the way you share coming to terms and succeeding to not hide yourself and your story. People don’t want to hear the negative but our stories matter because they are ours not bc they are required to make you feel good.
When she said "I've always wanted friends" I really felt it. I've always struggled to make friends and I've always wished to have just a friend by my side
I see many people saying they don’t have friends. I thought that everybody has at least one friend. I was wrong. I should appreciate mine more. Still, usually it is me who is pushing people away from me. But that’s because I’m scared of being judged. I think I’m not good enough. Why do they even care about me? Why do they keep in touch with me even when I almost never message first? Maybe I’m worth something after all…Sadly I often don’t see it…
wow the thing about realizing that there's something "continuously beautiful" about ourselves that doesn't go away... that's something really powerful!
as someone who's always been incredibly sensitive to everything; not just emotions but in the sense of the world period, this was incredibly refreshing and made me feel at home. "i dream of the day in which i might feel really neutral about myself" is the best way to describe my relationship with my sensitivity. i have these flashes of insecurity followed by incredible highs and i wait for the day where i can be neutral with myself. the way she talks really pulls at you. it's like talking to an old friend.
same here, i felt so relieved after seeing someone raising up this flag for us, it's really amazing, people usually think that show your feelings outside and feel too much it's a bad thing but i always loved this about myself, the abillity of feeling all these beauty and all these darkness cause i've learn so much from all of this that i can't even be sad for crying a lot sometimes or feeling like the world it's gonna end cuz after a while we just feel so amazing and there's so many good things in the world/life, you know ?! i don't relate that much with the neutral part, cuz i just embrace my intensity but i can uderstand how you feel.
Omg when she started to cry over always wanting friends! That's sooo me. I've embraced the fact that I'll never have all these friends just acquaintances. I'm cool with that. After just going out in public coming home is a relief. Too stressful! This girl's my twin. Luv u!
I'm a very sensitive person. I cry over everything. But I let go of things so much faster than people. I let go and forgive and forget and move on with my life. I don't hold on to resentment and pain and I think it's a blessing
When she describes the times she feels most vulnerable, I can’t help but see myself. I, too, feel most vulnerable when I’m upset or angry because I often get lost in my emotions. I’m petrified of hurting the people I care about most because I responded in a reactionary way instead of reflective. I appreciate her honesty and willingness to be open.
Oh wow, I relate so much! The way you said you respond in a “reactionary way instead of being reflective” when you’re upset is the perfect way to describe how I feel in those moments as well. I used to say I was “too defensive” but maybe instead of using “defensive” I should just say I’m struggling with reflection. Thank you for your words!
"I'm just scared people are gonna think I'm weird." It's crazy how oftentimes people who feel "normal" usually try to come off as weird and different, and people who feel "weird" just want to seem normal. We really are a complex species.
Oh my gosh, I'm so glad I came across this video. I have always been a super sensitive person and a lot of people, including family, don't respond well to that. I also just realized (at age 28) that my household was abusive towards me. It's so sad that people who feel deeply and are seen as "too emotional" are so vulnerable when it comes to abusive people. It made me emotional when she talked about healing in her healthy relationship because it was a safe space, I've never experienced a relationship like that and I keep hoping I will find it soon because I just want to be loved the way I want to love other people. I care so so much and most people I meet do not reciprocate that.
She really made me feel less alone. I feel like the people in my life don’t see me. The way she explained her life,emotions,hardship, it felt like someone opened up my soul and just started reading it to me while saying “it will be okay, I see you”. It really gives me hope for my future self cause most days I feel like I’ll never meet her. Thank you Victoria, for this gift.
That's a problem in our society and it's so sad... Idk how it works on other countries but here in Brazil empathy is a rare perk... Anyways, I sew you, alright, don't feel sad, you're amazing and u did touch me with your text... Much love!
She's a beautiful woman and beautiful soul. Never have I watched another person or actor open themselves up with such vulnerability and humanness. What she says in this interview is something that most ppl in her position (like myself) strive to be able to say out loud our entire lives. So thank you for giving us a voice in the crazy loud chaos of this world.
Every once in a while I come back to watch this interview, because it makes me feel seen and understood. She somehow puts all the feelings I can never express into words
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I just want to hug her because everything she says is how I have felt or still feel. Victoria is beautiful
BetterHelp is really nice. I love my therapist
What is this video about?
It's so weird a lot of people don't understand that crying doesn't necessarily mean you're upset or sad, it's just an overflow of feelings, something that touches your heart
EXACTLY
Most people are already dead. They just walk around and do stuff.
This is the truest comment on UA-cam
i couldn’t agree more. this is exactly what i feel when listening to certain orchestral music; i tear up, but i wasn’t sad…
This is now one of my favorite quotes
When she said, "I'm scared people are gonna think I'm weird... I just want friends." I FELT THAT
same :’)
I started crying
Me too..me too
We all felt that♥️♥️
Ugh me too
‘i was not ugly but i didn’t get attention from people in a romantic way’ THIS is exactly how i feel i’ve never been able to articulate that
Me too. I feel Exactly the same way
@@embodimentoflove5909yeah me too, does make me feel better that we’re not alone here
yep, men just tured after centuries of imitating this fake pointless nonexisting stupid shit called "romantic"
Relatable
this is so cringe and disgusting lol
Her taking that long pause to think about when she feels the most beautiful almost made me want to tear up with her
Hello
I loved how her answer was something simple and for herself and without an audience. Very solo activities. She’s a woman who wants to exist in the world and be comfortable existing. That’s half the battle. Very smart woman. I teared up a few times.
Maybe stop obsessing about being "beautiful". Maybe just get on with life and think beyond your problems.
@@Woodkin007 dude. Find some chill.
@@Woodkin007 thanks dave. i'll get right to it
"I am just scared that people think I am weird" - jeeeeesh, that hit home.
Lmao!!! Hahaha wow
But shes attractive so people will find it quirky and cute. If she were ugly she would be seen as weird af
@@ren.8137 That is the reality.
@@ren.8137 this might be true for us that are watching, might be false for her… emotions are a internal thing, and don’t forget, we play in first person, not third… so she’s not looking at her image 24/7. She’s FEELING things 24/7. She has the same physical vision and perspective as us. The body is just a vehicle… a car doesn’t define the quality of the fuel. Is quite the opposite… a bad fuel can actually decrease a car’s lifetime/ performance, therefore, defining the quality of the vehicle. The essence it’s what’s really matters, it’s a universal law.
@@RafaelXd23 damn this shit bussin, you right
This has to be one of the most personal interviews from a celebrity I think I’ve ever seen. She is so vulnerable here and she’s allowing us see it. She is so endearing, I want to give her the biggest hug
Totally, i saw her soul like looking trought a mirror of glass
@Emma Madison 🥺🥺
she’s an INFP. INFPs show themselves vulnerable naturally almost all the time just to get the others see their real emotions and thoughts
Omg she’s A HUMAN WITH HUMAN FEELS 😩😩😩
STFU
@@GuakH03 shocker
I love the symbolism of her taking off an item every time she goes into a deeper topic. It’s almost like a way to show us as viewers that she’s peeling always the layers of complexity in her life to be more open and vulnerable.
That’s exactly what it is
Yeah that’s the point of it completely. They’ve been doing this interview concept for years now with that intent.
You people really have sad lives
Oh I was legit like why is she stripping 😭😂
@@shinjilamarta6265 no one can be perfect like you I guess
"I wonder how many times when I was a kid I was the only one expressing how I was feeling", she just summed up growing up as a sensitive child so, so well.
This means: she did not sense anything in anyone so she grew up believing she was the only one having feelings.
Borderliners lack empathy, and they just don't know that. So they live to accuse everyone of their own insensitivity.
If we can't cure this disease, humanity is truly lost.
“I feel a lot. Sometimes it’s horrible, and sometimes it’s awesome.” Is one of the most relatable things I’ve ever heard. To the point I cried. I just deeply appreciate people who will be this vulnerable.
Hearing her saying this made something to me. because I was… I am always so angry at myself, that I’m such a sensitive person.. realising this made me feel weak cause then I’m feeling like an open book everybody can read. That’s what a teacher once said to me. He said “you know you are a really open minded person. I have to take one look at you and I now how you feel” and I feel a lot. Often I’m angry and five minutes later I’m sad, I wanna cry but I can’t cause I don’t really get that I’m sad. for fucks sake😂
i cried at this too.. I feel so deeply that sometimes I hurt myself..
I feel so much too and sometimes I feel like I am simply not created for this world. I feel like I don’t belong. sometimes I just can’t take it… to feel everything and be aware at all times is exhausting.
@@gabrielaa0006 I couldn’t agree more. 🖤
@@marimoguru I do too. Honestly, I do.. I’m sorry it’s like that sometimes. I know all too well.
“I feel a lot, and sometimes it’s horrible, but sometimes it’s awesome.” I couldn’t have said it any better. I’m so thankful I watched this entire interview.
I cried when she said that.
Everyone is commenting this quote what is the time stamp
@@alexxfrederick Mate... Me too.
She's so strong.
@@mikkey246 IT'S WITHIN YOU.
There’s something about the way how considerately she places all of her clothing down that I just love
I noticed that too, very caring and considerate
That's right! It makes me feel she is the sort of person who would carefully put back a stone to its original place after holding it to look at it, when she walks in Nature.🌿
I do this too. Except supposedly it's weird to do it carefully right before sex haha
Yes, me too!
YES YES YES
We gotta get her on a podcast ASAP. let her talk for 2 hours. She's so raw, real, and honest. People could learn A LOT from her.
Yesss completely agree
But even 5 more minutes of this interview would make it already unfit for UA-cam 🙃
Oh don’t be so cringe. you’re as bad as her
@@adrianalleras2864she’s on the penns podcast podcrushed
@@arctic_haze😂😂😂
She’s one of those people I just want to have a long conversation with in front of a fire. And cry. And hug. And rinse and repeat. She seems so genuine and so actually grounded. Love her
Don't you just want to dance in a field with her under a full moon or something??
She's great honestly
bro fr
i love her sm
It’s all so pretentious lol everything about this
when do you feel most beautiful?
"maybe when I'm dancing."
this really hit me hard.
She sounds so sincere there. You can hear her inner child say that as she was reflecting on that question.
me too. dance is the only place i feel and admire myself
@@isabella.jenk1ns me too
It is quite right what they say: the three most beautiful sights in the world are a ship in full sail, a galloping horse, and a woman dancing. - Honore de Balzac
yes
This is honestly one of the best celebrity interviews I've seen in a while. Especially after watching her PHENOMENAL performance of season 3 and now this, I fucking love her.
100% obsessed with her. What an actor and she seems like a brilliantly unique women who I hope the industry looks after!! She’s special in so many ways
Think she survived?
Her best performance was in Haunting of Hill House.
Her facial expressions in every scene of You are on point!!!!!
She definitely has Borderline personality traits.
This is one of the rawest depictions of a human being I've ever seen. I can't remember the last time I was this vulnerable with someone or someone was with me... Thank you Victoria, I can't imagine the courage it takes to do something like this as someone in your line of work. This was art.
how do i not remember this
@@thenigerundayooooguy2752 Why hello there good looking.
she's such a normal person. i've never seen any celebrity this open about their feelings on camera. she's normal in a way that she isn't living in a bubble where celebrities live she just didn't lose herself going into fame
I really hope this industry don't destroy her.
@@diosbatman i think she's been around for long enough to prove this wont happen
It’s cause she’s from new hope, PA. That’s how we are around here
Totally. Just an amazingly talented, normal person with normal problems.
she's the definition of phenomenal artist, not celebrity.
I love that she is highly sensitive. I know how deeply she feels: It’s an intense way of being in the world. You feel all the joy but also all the cruelty. Blessing and a curse. The only way to get through is intense vulnerability and honesty, humor.
👏👏👏
i have a feeling that you read steppenwolf
Thanks Paul
This 10000000%
Honesty and humor…. Absolutely true
she's a GREAT actress, and I'm sure her sensitivity is what has contributed to that!
Definitely. Being a sensitive person also means that you are very in tune with your emotions. Whether they are happy, mad or sad ones, a sensitive person is able to hone in on those emotions necessary in order to make the role feel more authentic. As well as being able to actually feel the emotions that the character might be feeling because of their situation which makes it a lot easier to cry on demand.
@@alondralopez4853 You're right, i think this is the reason why crying seem to come so naturally to her on screen. She had teary eyes a LOT in You season 3 and i feel her sensitivity played a big role in that (outside of the script obviously). Especially as i feel her and Love share some emotional issues.
Acting is professional lying
@@AntiVegan Everyone knows actors play characters and those characters are fictional, that's not lying..
Definitely!
I keep coming back to this interview, I just love hearing her talk and how she manages to express herself, I was never able to put my feelings into words and after watching I feel like I do. It soothes my soul.
Right?? It makes me feel extremely comfortable with myself cause most of the things she said, I was able to relate. Its a beautiful feeling I get
felt exactly what you said and ran to the comments & found you. thank you love
sure you do🤣
Me too. She’s such a pure soul
SAME.
I literally love her more now. I feel everything she’s talking about so deeply. Makes me feel less alone.
i agree.
I wish more people were like her. I would feel less alone..
Is that you Joe? Lmao
I do relate with the soul crushing moment when you realize that you were in an abusive household but that you can't even really hate your parents because they genuinely did the best they could.
Ur do right. I love them so much. But when I see behind it was difficult and toxic. Even they either I didnt know.
I relate heavily to this and what’s really helped is not being silent, I try to communicate how much certain things hurt me growing up and soemtimes, a lot of the times it turns into a fight or argument. But I know she’s listening, she’s yelling because she mad at herself and can’t except that maybe she did things that fucked me up like her mom did to her. But then one day we talked and she admitted she was really hard on me, and that she put me through a lot. And in that moment I’ve never felt more free, for the first time I felt validated and heard by her. I know this is just my story and it probably means nothing, but keep talking to them they will understand eventually. I know my mom loves me with everything but she unfortunately just was never taught the tools to show it, but with communication things will get better.
@@jordanbodkin3517 Your story does mean something. It is really helpful to here the experiences of people that have had similar experiences and I appreciate you taking the time to share this with me.
I tried to talk to me mother a few times but she gets really defensive and self depreciative really quickly and talking was just really hurtful (I'm also conditioned to avoid conflicts and submit pretty quickly), so I kind of just gave up. But maybe I should keep trying, maybe like you said, she can hear me despites her reactions.
Anyway, thank you for sharing.
@@whocareswhoiam6637 I totally understand it’s really hard because the reactions can be so hurtful. My mom does the same thing, the whole “well imagine growing up in my household” “ you’ve never had it as bad as I had” it’s really difficult because I feel for her situation too. If you could get her to do family therapy that could help a lot! I really hope you find peace my love you deserve it!
@@jordanbodkin3517 Thank you, truly appreciate that.
I’m in love with her
simone caught in 4k
same
Me too
Yah I feel so drawn to her. Guess she has an appeal to women.
Truly
As someone who grew up in a house with not obvious but totally devastating emotional abuse. I related to this so much. I’m on a similar journey. I appreciate you Victoria.
yes exactly this!! i was so shocked when she brought up her experience with having that enlightening moment on her abusive childhood because i went through the same thing in silence thinking everyone else didn’t care as much as i did or didn’t need figuring out and that i was overreacting. to hear her depict this situation in the midst of all the other deep-to-the-core statements, i felt so seen.
i hope she knows how much impact her openness has on us
maybe you was the problem
maybe you was the problem
@@QwertzQwertz-hs5fn Or maybe the so called parents are the problem and the so called family too
You can tell she feels everything. She’s too hard on herself, she’s perfect the way she is.
I don't think she is perfect. And that's the beauty. That's why she was perfect for that role. There's something dark but bright about her and I like that.
@@GNICHO hill house or Bly manor or you?
@@Sophia-qq2ys In "you"
Hahahaha lunatic
Her long pause when they asked when she felt the most beautiful was so loud shattered my heart
Edit: thank you for 3k likes 🥺💕
I loved the long pause. It's so rare that someone gives themselves the space to actually think about a question.
same
It was deafening in the best way possible
When she spoke about just wanting friends. I just- someone understands out there u know. And it means so much
So deep she is. She's refreshing
same
could you tell me which part of interview she said that?
@@Marychjs 6:40
that part hit so different for me i feel this way its so hard to be myself bc i feel ppl won’t like it
She's a phenomenal actress. Whenever I need a good cry I watch her monologue at the end of Hill House. Such fucking visceral ability to express emotion.
when she started talking about how her partner helped her realize she was lovable I started sobbing cause my current boyfriend is doing the exact same thing. it’s crazy how a person can just enter your life out of nowhere and impact your life so much.
Goals :(
and then they leave lol
Same dude, it only makes it worse being someone like this and having anxiety about them leaving, though. You end up feeling dependant
Symora :( I struggle with dependency too. It helps that my partner is there along the way to remind me that I’m worthy but ultimately we need to give that to ourselves but it’s a journey and I’m still on it :/ but I have other friends too and try to enjoy my own company.
Symora having anxiety about someone leaving is a whole other issue I have too that for me stems from childhood trauma and what not and the fear of being abandoned. I hope you’re getting the help you need for it cause it’s a terrible feeling and one you shouldn’t be having while with someone because we’re all good enough to be with someone who wants to stay with us and if they don’t and we didn’t do anything wrong that’s their problem.
After watching this interview, it feels like almost every character that Pedretti has yet played contains a huge part of herself, and maybe that's why she even picked those roles. I would die a million deaths to just sit and talk with a person like her, who could actually comprehend the depths of sensitivity with such awareness.
I was thinking the same thing. Her characters (Hill House, Bly Manor, You) are all _intensely_ emotional.
As a highly sensitive person I feel really honored and loved for someone to say that you really would like to talk to someone like that. Because a lot of the time „we“ or I feel like I am too much for people or people might think I’m a little bit crazy, so I usually put my „socially acceptable“ mask on to get along with them. But in the end nearly nobody gets to know the real me bc I never share it, so I disconnect and feel lonely. The end 😂
@@sugarskullbomb i feel the same , you are not alone 🥺❤️
@@hcap08 thank you 🥰
That’s actually a thing in acting, sometimes we feel drawn to characters that share stuff with us, even stuff we’re yet to discover about ourselves. It’s fun
when she said “maybe when i’m dancing” i don’t know why but that was the most heartfelt but beautiful thing i’ve heard in awhile. i just broke into tears. it’s beautiful but also a curse to see your idols and the people you look up to have a life that you don’t know much about and once you find out truly about that person it all makes everything so much more clear about them.
I agree! When she said that, my heart broke, tears fell, but I smiled. Victoria is a treasure.
@@Glinny821 she truly is such an amazing person. she 100% deserves all happiness and love :)
same, totally agree, and i also started crying:((
Made me bawl like a babyyyy omgggg 😭😭
It definitely left an impact. I feel like maybe I was taking in my own beauty so blind-sided, and I think I'll be replaying that sentence in my head for a while. A reminder to see more aspects of myself as beautiful- outside of physicality.
This interview helped me realize how traumatized I was. I had a complete breakdown. And I'm so grateful because that helped me reach out to a therapist and work through some of my issues and start the journey of self-love. These interviews are so important and truly help people. Thank you to Victoria for opening up and being vulnerable. A real inspiration.
i felt so bad when she started crying. i think some of us really are sensetive. it sucks, it really does. i struggle with really bad anxiety and sensetiveness and some people think that its overrated. im glad victoria got to share her feelings with these women and she let out what she felt. when the women asked “when do you feel most beautiful?” i thought to myself “never, i never do.” but when she said she feels beautiful doing what she loves, that made me feel so proud of her. she is definitely going places and deserves the world. she is so incredibly specieal.
Honestly same and I get made fun of when I cry at school, which is why I try not to, if I know I’ll cry I try concentrating on a spot on the wall until my eyes stop watering, and now because of that one incident where I did cry people just keep bringing it up and making fun of me, making it sound like crying should be embarrassing
@@mikewheeler9681 i totally understand that, it has happened to me plenty times. sorry that happened to you! everything will get better soon and if it doesnt come soon it will definitely come later in life.🙂
highly sensitive person :)
exactly. you're also beautiful, not only while doing what you love but simply for being, i hope you know that and can feel that. :)
You deserve the world too ❤
Seeing someone be this pure, yanking their heart out on camera for no egotistical goal or selfish gain...it's almost scary. Because it reminds you of how much people hide online. Celebrities - you can feel them glittering, trying to look authentic and humble because it's trendy to be that way, not because it's really them. And we copy them, we envy that sugar glazed ease, when it's not us either, not human.
But this isn't a vanity fair cover. This is just a video of a girl who lets the sky of emotion move across her, storm and light, without trying to be polished, or relatable. Just being herself, with that bittersweet sensitivity that she can't hide, that she embraces. There's something yearning about her that makes you remember the core of you, that makes you want to hold and soothe yourself until you come back to yourself - the signature of you, that you know even when you're blind. And it's like a hand waving at you as you're coming home.
Thank you for just being yourself, Victoria, fracturing, glowing, rebuilding.
this is beautiful🥺
you’re a poet maam❤️
Yes, thank you...I so see myself in this young lady, blessings~
goddamn, this made me cry. beautifully said.
Are you a writer? You should be, that was so moving, thank you
“I thought that I was really just a burden to everybody and they were just having a hard time tolerating me”
“I feel a lot. Sometimes it’s horrible, sometimes it’s awesome”
Those 2 sentences are too relatable. I couldnt even explain it any better.
Thank you so much Victoria and this interview.
just started sobbing when she said she feels the most beautiful when she's dancing. i dont even know why. i love her so much
When she said ‘cooking’ I felt that. I love how feel when I’m in the zone, listening to my music and cooking for my family. That’s when I’m completely in my element and realm.
i literally want nothing more than to be her friend. i feel like she’s a friend and piece of stability that i need. she’s such an intricate, complex, and sensitive human being. I love her personality, the way that she’s allowed us to see her.
me too. .
I can't help but laugh at this lmao
“the way she’s allowed us to see her”
@@Nourishwithdevin haha ikr 😂
You guys are such sheep to celebrity culture…I love her acting too, but she’s just another person, just as intricate and complex as anyone else on this planet
“I just always wanted friends” I felt that deep in my soul
Same
I keep coming back to this interview because in my 35 years I couldn't figure out why was I so damn sensitive and I could cry easily "for nothing". Before I haven't cry in front of anyone but know I'm really close to cry almost anywhere without minding my surroundings. I knew there was something special in her since I saw her on two Netflix series ❤️ She is truly a gift to this world!
Have you checked your hormones? Specially if you are taking hormonal contraceptives' it can affect your mental health A LOT.
"I've just always wanted friends" I have never heard another say these words with the same conviction I have always thought I was expressing out loud to others. I really just want friends, a friend, someone who can help me to experience part of what I offer others.
Felt this so hard
@@storie8321 same
me too :(
how do u think one make s friends?
@@nowayjose2082 i think people make friends with people that have common experiences or goals as them. Also, it helps if someone can relay their thoughts and emotions clearly and quickly. this is just based on my experience tho
I felt the lump in her throat when said she “I just always wanted friends”
i love disney
@@prawiraagung4011 🤦🏾♀️
I relate to not being ugly, but not “typically the beauty standard” or hot and never being seen romantically but the opposite sex. As much as I know I deserve that one day, it’s been 23 years and it starts to really take a toll. Sometimes I feel really unwanted and unappreciated. So many women have experienced love, affection and attention all their lives, which is fantastic for them! However, I’ve had countless friends, throughout my entire life take that for granted because of how common it is for them. Sometimes I just get to a point where I’m like “gosh when is my turn?” and think when it comes, how much I’m going to appreciate the feeling of being loved and desired romantically. If you’d had the chance to be with someone who loves you to bits or something as simple as receiving wanted complements from someone, you are so lucky. Feeling undesirable and unwanted is a feeling that I hope my future children never feel.
Most guys don't care about looks if the personality is there
@@louieggg213 well clearly those guys are no where near my radius 😂
You’re gorgeous hun! It takes time to find someone but one day you’ll find your person. Especially when you least expect it
Same here. I was just thinking about this the other day.
This!!!
never related to a stranger so personally. her way with words cuts deep into your soul. an exact mirror for this stage in my life
Probably one of the best interviews I've ever seen. She's so real, I had no idea. I admire her for showing her vulnerability. MAD RESPECT for this woman, cause that ain't easy.
Right? I rarely relate to celebrities like this. She is so raw with her feelings. It's both wonderful and sad.
Yeah and she sounds like a piece of work. Red flags every other sentence.
@@NoxLegend1 qqq qq
@@NoxLegend1 the way which you view her says more about who you are as a person than it will ever say about her
@@magicmoonsong FR
wow. you can just tell by the way she speaks that she is truly the epitome of an empath. so intelligent, sophisticated and passionate. really admire her work and talent, what an inspiration. love victoria 💗
you're gorgeous
She’s just acting
Having feelings should be a normal, human thing, and seeking to be in touch with them in your learning and growing should be considered normal. Empathy should be a considered a normal everyday quality that the Lord has put in us; some having that more as a strength than others. Obviously there are some cases where people’s levels of empathy are little to none, but to use a label like ‘empath’ is lacking perspective.
Hang around some genuine Christians and you’ll see that this quality of empathy and even having feelings is normal, in Christ, and in the image of God.
You don't have to be an 'empath' to just be a vulnerable human being who's learning to embrace being connected to the rest of the world in a visceral way. Stop creating weird hierarchies of people. We're all vulnerable deep down. We're the same.
@@AntiVegan no
As a highly sensitive person, I have never felt so seen or understood. Thank you so much Victoria for your honesty and bravery sharing these thoughts and feelings with the world. Thank you StylelikeU for creating the space in which these beautiful people can be held. Sensitivity can be a horrible or beautiful thing depending on your perspective, and you have brought me one step closer to accepting it 💗 Thank you soul sister xxx
You are so welcome and we are thrilled that you feel seen! Much love xo
me too
It is such a good feeling to see there are other people out there like me, like us. Yes, one often feels so different and misunderstood. We are part of a spiritual tribe, empaths and highly sensitive people.
I feel exactly the same way ❤️
i am a highly sensitive person too and i understand you so much !!! you are not alone !!!
Man, when she started to cry, if i was in this studio i would run and hug she with all of my forces, really
when victoria was asked “when do you feel most like yourself” … it made me wonder the same for myself… and in this time in my life right now, i don’t even know, and that kind of hurt. it really made me realize that so many people in this world don’t even know themselves, and we walk around meeting new people, and try to understand people and love others when most of us don’t even know who WE are.
While reading your comment I asked myself the same question and I instantly was like, "when I'm doing yoga" because I just enjoy practicing so much. But it also felt like it was an ego driven answer. It felt like a lie. I think I like the idea of being that person that does yoga and all that. I just realized that I don't even know myself that much.
This.
@@federica4829 that’s exactly what i felt and what i meant when listening and reading your comment because i have the same feeling. it has to do with who we are not what we like to do, we might want to be a certain type of person because of stereotypes and trends, but do we like the idea or do we actually like it?
@@federica4829 I resonate with this so much
I asked myself that question. And I was surprised by the answer. I'm most myself when I'm alone. I feel like I have a particular mask for every person I interact with depending on their disposition. And it's exhausting. I hate myself. But when I'm alone, I'm free.
“it showed me that i was lovable. in a way that i had conceived loved but had never experienced throughout my life.” …wow. this. exactly this holy wow. this hit deep. i cant wait to feel that
"i can't wait to feel that", wow, y e s. my feeling arrive with such delay or an intermission of compartmentalisation that it's often disorienting and gives me the impression of being out of place; until now, I never saw the possibility that I could look forward to feeling something later. Thank you for that gift!
right like that hit me hard.
I would really love to hear more about this relationship. It was clearly filled with a lot of love and joy but also heartbreak. I want to know all the details, but especially why it didn't work out. :'(
@@hellomoto1337 i don't think the relationship has a lot to do with how she feels but rather how the relationship helped her realize that she can heal and she needed to do more of that to move forward and truly accept herself
@@PeachPlastic that gift is within all of us! she says she's learning that there a a beauty within all of us. A feeling you feel through all grief and pain. and I agree with her that beauty is the most expressive expression of satisfaction which is love and peace and kindness and confidence and joy. all things that belong and are created and maintained by believing in the most holy entity, god. we can feel loved and seen and heard at all times by maintaining a relationship with this higher being. through talking to him in prayer and having faith in hopeful and living spirits. we can do that and so much more with his grace and power and honor. in his name I pray for the sake of humanity amen.
I can relate to her feelings when she talks about being sensitive and feeling rejected emotionally or looked at as a mess. She expresses it in such a beautiful way that I couldn’t put into words. I could listen to her speak all day!
Yes me too
Same here
truly was eye opening to know that other people are so intune with their emotions that they actually have the words to describe it
Me too
@@gloriadestiny Her vocabulary is much better than mine 😅She expresses the emotions I was unable to convey and that’s what people need in this world. She gives others a voice who aren’t quite there yet. She is an amazing role model for this generation!!!
What she said about emotional abandonment and fearing that ppl won’t “hold” the more intense parts of yourself…I don’t think I’ve ever been able to articulate my feelings this well, but this is exactly it
"in order to survive that space, I was a completely different person than I am now" I related so much to this line in particular. I became a people pleaser after I graduated from high school because it was the only way I knew to interact with other people. I've since dropped those behaviors and now I'm not afraid to say, "i didn't like this movie at all" or "sorry, I'm busy right now. But I'm free on xyz day".
Congratulations on having boundaries, so hard but so essential to preserve your life force! Lots of love
Its nice that you say this 😊 giving all of us hope. I myself have a long way to go... sensitivity yh
@@CCCcustomer you can do it! ✨✨
I’m so happy for you! I’m currently a people pleaser and I don’t have many boundaries so I’m working on it. And I have finally come to terms that I’m a sensitive person. I dunno I just get in my head a lot and if someone does something small like look annoyed or something I feel extremely bad. I hope there is a cure for sensitivity because it has made me a people pleaser and shy. I get bullied and picked on. I’m starting school and having an anxiety attack cause I’m scared I will feel miserable and be picked on. My feelings are so strong, like when I’m happy, I feel so happy. When I’m sad, I feel extremely sad. I don’t know what to do with myself aha.
@@strawberrydaurto3366 dont worry, you can't change yourself. One day you'll be mighty glad you kept on with it. I think, for the most part, becoming comfortable as a sensitive person is about understanding that others are really unlike you. No matter how much good you see in them, no matter how much you think they could "change". Trying to change people is never the answer, otherwise it's called help when the person asks for it. Some will be mean, manipulative, take up a lot of space, blunt, agressive, selfish, arrogant... You don't have to be like them and never will be. Embrace your gift. People pleasing and low self esteem are only a defense mechanisms for something you werent ready to go through once you came into life. Its about pushing through. One day, you'll be able to have healthy boundaries while being yourself. You will be able to stand up and be a little of all the negative things i've said before. It won't make you a bad person, its about learning how to handle people so you dont get constantly hurt. It's a healthy defense some call natural! For you it would be learnt. Remember this, your journey is your own, and looks nothing like everyone besides you. Also know that other people are sensitive, lots. Find your people.
She literally expressed what's on my mind in a way that i can't express.
She has so much emotions, which bleeds into her acting and produces such beautiful scenes.
This is literally scripted and acted
@@AntiVegan you must be new here. Eat a snack and relax
You also so beautifully wrote 😊 "bleeds into her acting.." wow
@@AntiVegan bro.. go to sleep
Every time she gets to the part of finding out she was in an abusive household makes me cry, it’s very similar to my story. It’s so hard being emotionally intelligent, but it feels good knowing there’s people out there I can relate to
I feel like she’s telling my story. Everything she has said has resonated with my soul.
Same I cried during this video bc I related so much
me too, I felt so deeply connected to the things she was talking about. I really would love to just sit down and have a conversation with her next to a cup of tea or coffee. I feel like it'd be the type of thing you never truly want to end.
I know right, I related to almost everything and it made me feel comfort in a way? That I’m not alone in this. But still my heart shattered and I just wanna give Victoria a hug🥲
You’re an infp like her
I felt the same way honestly
The world would be a much better place if the internet had more videos like this. Thank you to Victoria and to StyleLikeU for giving us this beautiful gift. I was already a fan of her work and of her as a person, and this video made me adore her even more. A thoughtful, beautiful human being, both inside and out.
Thank you so much for your beautiful words, much love to you! Elisa
Same
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The world would be a sopping puddle of cringe if there were more videos like this.
The way she articulates her emotions is just other worldly. She is so aware of herself, and it’s so refreshing to hear someone speak about themselves with such respect.
I relate to her so SO much. I have never seen someone who communicates like me, feels the way I feel - especially someone famous. She's amazing.
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she’s so understanding, she’s not weird at all.
this interview is so damn captivating. From the way she articulates herself and is so vulnerable is stunning. I've dealt with negative feedback constantly because of my sensitivity. She makes me feel less alone and it feels nice to see someone be so real and raw. I would love to sit down and talk with her for hours.
I think we just all need time to find the correct friends that are people that think I'm too sensitive but now there are friends that think that me being sensitive is cool and can understand everyone's feelings easily
@@nerdygameinggurl oh of course! I 100% agree with what you are saying. thank you for commenting btw. I'm happy to hear that you have people who appreciate the real you.
Hola Mija
If anyone needs a friend , hi.
@@maryl1589 you’re so sweet, hey! 🖤
Her cadence is so different naturally than when she’s acting. She’s so talented
Oh brother
@@AntiVegan what?
if you mean the way she talks, that’s because she has adhd, she either takes too long to form a simple phrase or she talks really fast (which I know because that's exactly how I talk due to adhd)
@@MarinaMachado14 I also have ADHD. I didn't notice that. I also didn't say if it was a good or bad thing, if people are pressed above^
@@kellycubitt4358 really? I noticed that after 2 minutes of interview, guess not everyone with adhd talks like that :P
In a previous relationship I was told I was too sensitive and that I was a “crybaby”, their words really stuck with me even years later. I hated feeling so deeply all the time because it felt like a bad thing to even express my emotions. Just one tear and I’d hear “oh you’re crying again?” I was so closed off to my own feelings for so long after that relationship that I just felt numb to everything. It took years for me to accept that I’m a highly sensitive person and that crying in front of others actually takes strength to be open and comfortable enough to let those emotions out freely. My ex told me years later that they were jealous of how easily I could express myself and that they wished they could do the same. Kinda funny how the thing I was being put down for was the thing that they wished they had…huh
Awww I’m so happy you’re with someone who appreciates and treats you the way you deserve ❤
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what you can’t accept in yourself you will learn to hate in others
When she said “When people would ask about me, id tell them about my parents” I didn’t realize until that moment that I do the same thing. I describe myself as my trauma passed onto me from my parents
It's so refreshing to see someone who is not afraid to feel a lot and openly. I do too and often feel alone and weird for just processing emotions in the most natural way for me.. I love Victoria
So happy to hear that you relate and feel seen! xo
this
“I feel a lot and sometimes it’s horrible and sometimes it’s awesome” I relate so much to that 😭😭
The interviewer really said it at 16:10. This was a gift. Victoria is incredibly beautiful, I am really so inspired. I understand where she’s coming from and I hope I too can start healing from my childhood, not be resentful for the childhood I didn’t have, and open up to people and be vulnerable and radiate love the way she radiated love in this interview. I’m just really taken with her. She deserves the very best, I hope she’s happy.
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It's excruciatingly sad how parents can destroy self esteem of their children and how that can haunt children through their entire life. But we still can learn how to make that little child inside of us to feel secure and loved ❤
How?
I think it’s the biggest thing we have to learn, undo the damage our parents did
@@itsmecharmiller how doesn't this make sense? Are you an abusive parent?
The part where she speaks about being in a relationship where she was experiencing love that was different from what she grew up with hit so deeply. Growing up in abusive household the love you grow up watching is very toxic and alot of us get into abusive relationships because of that because it's what's known and when you finally get into a relationship that is consistent its a very healing feeling. Learning to love yourself in a safe environment. Thank you for Sharing your feelings we love you.
♥️ For me too. I’m in a not so healthy relationship right now and hearing her say that gave me hope that maybe it’s not all my fault, and maybe with someone else I’ll be able to rest in love more easily someday
@@Angelas.Eye_ yes queen you deserve better!
i really long to feel that feeling...ive been "seperating" from my parents abusive household for the past 10 years, and feel at 28 its time now for a loving partner that allows me to heal and gives me that safe space that i so long for..ive never been in a relationship, only had casual things with men who didnt have high moral standards or just disappointing in every way
“I feel a lot and sometimes it’s horrible, but sometimes it’s awesome”
Damn I relate to that so much, sometimes the amount of emotions I feel is overwhelmingly horrible, and it’s hard. But I’m also very grateful for feeling as much as I do, because sometimes it is awesome and beautiful and freeing.
Praise 👏 🙌 here's to everyone that feels this way ❤ I wouldn't feel alive if I felt nothing
“ it showed me that I was lovable in a way that I had conceived love but how I didn’t experience it throughout most of my life” this represents my current relationship and I am very grateful.
Victoria is so relatable and raw in this. I too feel most beautiful cooking and dancing ❤️
the universe really said,"here, you're not alone. watch this interview"
seriously😭😭😭😭😭
She is so connected to her inner self. It’s truly powerful to watch her speak. What a gift it is to learn from somebody that sincere, wise, and truthful.
as a highly sensitive person myself it makes me so happy to read comments like "i wanna be victorias friend". usually when i tell people about my sensitivity, they see it as something negative. its nice to see the other pov here. its making me cry
Sorry to say that but its all fake. The comments you se are just that - comments. They say they wanna be her friend, but when they get to know a this sensitive person in real life - they usually just think its too much drama to deal with. You can figure it out by just wondering why so many of the comments are - "Im like her" or " I wanna be her friend" but not a lot of " I have a friend like that".
@@alexforce9 I have quite a few friends like that and I appreciate their insight so, so much. I think you are just projecting. All our experiences are different.
@@minimushrom The proof is in the pudding. Ask your sensitive friends how many friends they have.
@@alexforce9 There is a difference between being sensitive and being self-centered and insufferable..
@@minimushrom lmao, is that your argument? I simply pointed out that even YOURS "sensitive" friends probably struggle with loneliness and you started rambling about something completely different lol.
I come back to this interview whenever i feel like my emotions get the best of me or are overpowering. Victoria makes it so peaceful to talk about being sensitive
Her personality is even better than the character she portrays, she should definitely share herself more. She's more relatable than she seems to know.
It breaks my heart to hear her talk about her self in this way. She’s a beautiful person and hopefully she can see this soon.
I met her once back in the 2018 argentina comic con and she was the sweetest person ever. When she was speaking about the haunting of hill house, they showed the scene where the mansion is tricking her into believing she’s dancing with her late husband, she cried when she saw that bc she said she felt the emotion of the character, the way she expressed it was so pure we were all crying with her!
Vamos argentina
@@Jose-xu4qd eaaaaa
Awww!!! She's so pure.❤️
ESTABA EN LA COMIC CON DE 2018 NOOOO igual ni sabia quien era pero igual q mala leche la podria haber conocido
@@TheBest6431 sí! hizo un panel junto con Oliver (quien hizo de su gemelo en Hill house) los meet and greets no eran vendidos, yo me lo gané de casualidad cuando un chico del staff preguntó a quien le gustaba Hill house, solamente yo levanté la mano JAJA y el chico me dijo "quieres conocer a los gemelos" re sí. Charlamos un ratín, super lindos los dos!
she is my favorite, i relate to her on that emotional level to the bone and I'm just so glad there's someone out there speaking about it and learning to accept their vulnerable parts
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She broke my heart. I've never ever seen someone so real. She is so incredibly authentic it's heartbreaking and beautiful. Love that she's not ashamed to actually cry a few times. I really really really found myself in a lot of things what she said.
I feel like the more she took off her clothes, the more she got vulnerable and honest and open and I think that's such a beautiful thing. Victoria you have such a beautiful soul and such a likeable personality, I think normal is overrated anyways so I wish more people wouldn't be afraid of seen weird. Amazing video, thank you so much.
We need more actresses like this
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it's also when she got the most comfortable
She is such a unique personality in the industry. The way her mind works captivates me and I’m always interested to hear what she’s thinking. I love that a HSP is speaking up about who she is !!!
INFP
HSP here too. That pesky sensory processing trait. HSPs make up 20% of the population. That means the other 80% have no.idea how debilitating it can be and often are judgmental has hell. Or they call you crazy. And if you are a full blown empath, God help you. It's loads of fun. Keeping steady emoting is so damn hard.
yeah I was lucky to have a lot of friends that are HSP’s in my life throughout childhood/adulthood and I didn’t realize other HSPs can feel so out of place 🥺 it’s truly disheartening knowing others don’t feel like their emotional experiences are validated & I’m learning that while being a semi-alone HSP adult
I resonate so much with this. And Just the way you paused before saying “abusive” household, while I did know I was in a abusive household I refused to accept that I had PTSD years later with an ED and it took so long to come to terms with what had happened to me and how it effected my life. I always gave excuses for how it wasn’t that bad even when I knew it was. I desired normalcy so bad I realized at 32 I had gained it when someone said i would have never known you had been through that. That’s the moment I realized I had succeeded, but also failed at accepting my whole self. I appreciate the way you share coming to terms and succeeding to not hide yourself and your story. People don’t want to hear the negative but our stories matter because they are ours not bc they are required to make you feel good.
"Because of the shit that I've experienced sometimes when I get upset I kind of lose control of myself...".
I relate to that part so much 🥺
When she said "I've always wanted friends" I really felt it. I've always struggled to make friends and I've always wished to have just a friend by my side
Me too
Relatable. I get the sense people don’t want to have meaningful friendships anymore.
Me, too. Me, too....
Me too!
I see many people saying they don’t have friends. I thought that everybody has at least one friend. I was wrong. I should appreciate mine more.
Still, usually it is me who is pushing people away from me. But that’s because I’m scared of being judged. I think I’m not good enough. Why do they even care about me? Why do they keep in touch with me even when I almost never message first? Maybe I’m worth something after all…Sadly I often don’t see it…
The way she looks around the room after she says things like to make sure no one is judging her , melts my heart !
wow the thing about realizing that there's something "continuously beautiful" about ourselves that doesn't go away... that's something really powerful!
as someone who's always been incredibly sensitive to everything; not just emotions but in the sense of the world period, this was incredibly refreshing and made me feel at home. "i dream of the day in which i might feel really neutral about myself" is the best way to describe my relationship with my sensitivity. i have these flashes of insecurity followed by incredible highs and i wait for the day where i can be neutral with myself. the way she talks really pulls at you. it's like talking to an old friend.
same here, i felt so relieved after seeing someone raising up this flag for us, it's really amazing, people usually think that show your feelings outside and feel too much it's a bad thing but i always loved this about myself, the abillity of feeling all these beauty and all these darkness cause i've learn so much from all of this that i can't even be sad for crying a lot sometimes or feeling like the world it's gonna end cuz after a while we just feel so amazing and there's so many good things in the world/life, you know ?! i don't relate that much with the neutral part, cuz i just embrace my intensity but i can uderstand how you feel.
Refreshing. Exactly the word I was looking for
she’s such a comforting and genuine person
Omg when she started to cry over always wanting friends! That's sooo me. I've embraced the fact that I'll never have all these friends just acquaintances. I'm cool with that. After just going out in public coming home is a relief. Too stressful! This girl's my twin. Luv u!
are beautiful person im sure people who are warm hearted like you, would love to be your friend
I'm a very sensitive person. I cry over everything. But I let go of things so much faster than people. I let go and forgive and forget and move on with my life. I don't hold on to resentment and pain and I think it's a blessing
She's brave for doing this. Not everyone would do this. This just add up to her beauty
When she describes the times she feels most vulnerable, I can’t help but see myself. I, too, feel most vulnerable when I’m upset or angry because I often get lost in my emotions. I’m petrified of hurting the people I care about most because I responded in a reactionary way instead of reflective. I appreciate her honesty and willingness to be open.
Oh wow, I relate so much! The way you said you respond in a “reactionary way instead of being reflective” when you’re upset is the perfect way to describe how I feel in those moments as well. I used to say I was “too defensive” but maybe instead of using “defensive” I should just say I’m struggling with reflection. Thank you for your words!
"I'm just scared people are gonna think I'm weird." It's crazy how oftentimes people who feel "normal" usually try to come off as weird and different, and people who feel "weird" just want to seem normal. We really are a complex species.
maybe the grass isn’t always greener 🤔
this^^
Oh my gosh, I'm so glad I came across this video. I have always been a super sensitive person and a lot of people, including family, don't respond well to that. I also just realized (at age 28) that my household was abusive towards me. It's so sad that people who feel deeply and are seen as "too emotional" are so vulnerable when it comes to abusive people.
It made me emotional when she talked about healing in her healthy relationship because it was a safe space, I've never experienced a relationship like that and I keep hoping I will find it soon because I just want to be loved the way I want to love other people. I care so so much and most people I meet do not reciprocate that.
She really made me feel less alone. I feel like the people in my life don’t see me. The way she explained her life,emotions,hardship, it felt like someone opened up my soul and just started reading it to me while saying “it will be okay, I see you”. It really gives me hope for my future self cause most days I feel like I’ll never meet her.
Thank you Victoria,
for this gift.
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That's a problem in our society and it's so sad... Idk how it works on other countries but here in Brazil empathy is a rare perk...
Anyways, I sew you, alright, don't feel sad, you're amazing and u did touch me with your text... Much love!
I hope she and everyone who reads the finds inner peace. Acceptance and expression is all you need x
She's a beautiful woman and beautiful soul. Never have I watched another person or actor open themselves up with such vulnerability and humanness. What she says in this interview is something that most ppl in her position (like myself) strive to be able to say out loud our entire lives. So thank you for giving us a voice in the crazy loud chaos of this world.
Every once in a while I come back to watch this interview, because it makes me feel seen and understood.
She somehow puts all the feelings I can never express into words