You said you love your stepdaughter and still do till today... *Do you think that maybe someday when you are financially stable enough when you have sorted things in your life you might consider taking her back and live with her again?* Because I think maybe she misses that motherly love she received from you from those few years you stayed with her especially since her mother is late
Thank you for being so vulnerable and honest! This is the kind of content that builds awareness about things that are Sheldon spoken of. Please do continue sharing. A part 2 is needed!!
Financial abuse is a good reason to divorce in my opinion. In addition financial abuse starts during the dating period and becomes more legally detrimental once you marry . It’s a very dangerous thing
@@madams___speaker am doing so well now, financially am doing well. I got everything that I had lost though sometimes I feel like I agreed to a lot of nonsense, just that at that point, I wanted nothing to do with him. Hezwo ngoho ndovha ndi tshi pfa a khou nukhela anga sendela tsini na nne. But on my side, there was nothing I did that contributed to our divorce, it was faulty from his side, financially I was drained, i loved his two kids though he never came out that he had kids, when he lost his job I provided for them because I regarded as mine, mara muthu o vha tshifunesa mishonga, ndi uri joooooooo when l found him putting on my food, I really lost it, only to find out he has been on it for a long time. Above God, fear man from Nzhelele 😂🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@madams___speaker Jah heiii, am grateful. And the co-parent8ng doesn't work. He doesn't care about the boy. Infact the one who uses to care was his grandfather, he passed on in 2020, and he was like I wish it was my father who passed on not my Dad, he referred to his granny as the Daddy and the father as nothing, I tried to talk him out, and took him to counseling and the psychologist called him for appointment he never confirmed. I told my boy, his father is God in heaven, and any other person who physically will show him father figure that God will bring to him and His granny from side. Unfortunately I don't have ticktok, will try to download it.
Sis you’re still very young and you are beautiful just take your time love will find you and that will be the best one OK it doesn’t mean that if the first one didn’t work the next one will be the same. God loves us all you want us all to be happy 😊
He cheated and i am having a big problem with forgiving and letting go of the hurt. My resentment is growing daily and my tongue has become so sharp that i don't even know myself anymore. he paid lobola already but i don't look forward to having the white wedding because i feel lost in this whole journey.
Hey sis, thank you so much for your honesty. This video has helped me realize some of my wrong doings for my failed engagement. I appreciate you 🙏❤️❤️❤️❤️
You said that the reasons you had when you first got into your marriage can never be the same reasons if ever you were to get married again, please unpack on what were your reasons for getting married at first and if ever you were to marry again what would be your reasons or foundation of that marriage?
Shuuuuu Divorce scenarios are ectually different, can't wait to share mine, but only after iam done with mine... I believe it's a journey you walk alone, people can be there to support you, but hey, it's meant for you, and you alone..
Mouthful... Divorced for financial freedom.. now he has same commitment as per maintenance order and he doesn't pay... Whats upsetting is that MY family says I must help(pay for him).... And I'm like I Devorced him for that.... Not going that route again... Let him take it....
There by words, I can resonate.. I’m your sister there by the sharp tongue but I want to repent.🙈🙈 Forgiving personality..that’s also me.. I don’t hold grudges..🤞🏾♥️
Ppl don't want to face the reality that finance is the leading problem of divorce. And when it comes to Tswana man are too soft maan & loving for sure until they betray ur trust & I will spit fire & feel guilty. I mostly dated tswana men. Being there done that but I guese they are my destiny🤣🤣
You said you love your stepdaughter and still do till today... *Do you think that maybe someday when you are financially stable enough when you have sorted things in your life you might consider taking her back and live with her again?* Because I think maybe she misses that motherly love she received from you from those few years you stayed with her especially since her mother is late
Thank you . This is Q1 for part 2 of Q&A . I love this ❤️❤️
I hope she doesn't. The daughter is not her responsibility.
We are here from Tiktok
I see you. I appreciate you ❤❤❤❤
😂😂😂I admire your loyalty Pertunia. From one social to the next.....
Thank you for being so vulnerable and honest! This is the kind of content that builds awareness about things that are Sheldon spoken of. Please do continue sharing. A part 2 is needed!!
You're such a great mother,your kids are lucky to have you
Thanks sis ❤️😂
This is so inspiring. I love your self awareness ❤️ I wish I could be more like that. I feel disconnected to myself. Thank you sharing your journey.
Thank you. I’m a work in progress taking it one day at a time
All will be well Phindile, breath and take things one day at a time and one day you shall find yourselfs again
Keep up the good work cuzy ..I won't lie I used to adore your marriage but with all this unfolding I am glad you came out alive and t
Thank you cuzment ❤❤❤❤. I love you
I love you
"Please take note" 😂 they do say when women are over you they talk to you like they work in HR
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Financial abuse is a good reason to divorce in my opinion. In addition financial abuse starts during the dating period and becomes more legally detrimental once you marry . It’s a very dangerous thing
I think so too
Jaah heiii as a divorceee myself, I understand you. I lost everything, like it was extremely bad on myself.
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@@madams___speaker am doing so well now, financially am doing well. I got everything that I had lost though sometimes I feel like I agreed to a lot of nonsense, just that at that point, I wanted nothing to do with him. Hezwo ngoho ndovha ndi tshi pfa a khou nukhela anga sendela tsini na nne. But on my side, there was nothing I did that contributed to our divorce, it was faulty from his side, financially I was drained, i loved his two kids though he never came out that he had kids, when he lost his job I provided for them because I regarded as mine, mara muthu o vha tshifunesa mishonga, ndi uri joooooooo when l found him putting on my food, I really lost it, only to find out he has been on it for a long time.
Above God, fear man from Nzhelele 😂🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@mudautatendani3954 yooooh my sister you’re a living testimony! I thank God for your life ❤️❤️❤️❤️
@@madams___speaker Jah heiii, am grateful. And the co-parent8ng doesn't work. He doesn't care about the boy. Infact the one who uses to care was his grandfather, he passed on in 2020, and he was like I wish it was my father who passed on not my Dad, he referred to his granny as the Daddy and the father as nothing, I tried to talk him out, and took him to counseling and the psychologist called him for appointment he never confirmed. I told my boy, his father is God in heaven, and any other person who physically will show him father figure that God will bring to him and His granny from side.
Unfortunately I don't have ticktok, will try to download it.
Sis you’re still very young and you are beautiful just take your time love will find you and that will be the best one OK it doesn’t mean that if the first one didn’t work the next one will be the same. God loves us all you want us all to be happy 😊
I am so proud of you dear. Really learning a lot from you ❤️❤️
❤❤❤❤thank you so much
He cheated and i am having a big problem with forgiving and letting go of the hurt. My resentment is growing daily and my tongue has become so sharp that i don't even know myself anymore.
he paid lobola already but i don't look forward to having the white wedding because i feel lost in this whole journey.
Theres nothing wrong with postponing. Before you are now legally married and its harder.
Take time to introspect and really listen to yourself.
All the way from tiktok 💃🏿💃🏿💃🏿💃🏿💃🏿
Hey sis, thank you so much for your honesty. This video has helped me realize some of my wrong doings for my failed engagement.
I appreciate you 🙏❤️❤️❤️❤️
I am super proud of you! ❤️ I think you should consider another career as a lawyer 😅
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣let me sleep on it . ❤️❤️
You said that the reasons you had when you first got into your marriage can never be the same reasons if ever you were to get married again, please unpack on what were your reasons for getting married at first and if ever you were to marry again what would be your reasons or foundation of that marriage?
I absolutely love this question!! MOs def it will be on part 2
Love it!! Its the vulnerability for me
9 months later 👋🏿🫣. Thank you
@@madams___speaker Time flies.
Do you sometimes miss him or miss the good times you had with him as a family
Good Question. It’s Definitely going to be in the next video. Thank you ❤️
Shuuuuu Divorce scenarios are ectually different, can't wait to share mine, but only after iam done with mine... I believe it's a journey you walk alone, people can be there to support you, but hey, it's meant for you, and you alone..
Thanks for your honesty.
My pleasure!❤
Mouthful... Divorced for financial freedom.. now he has same commitment as per maintenance order and he doesn't pay... Whats upsetting is that MY family says I must help(pay for him).... And I'm like I Devorced him for that.... Not going that route again... Let him take it....
There by words, I can resonate.. I’m your sister there by the sharp tongue but I want to repent.🙈🙈
Forgiving personality..that’s also me.. I don’t hold grudges..🤞🏾♥️
People take advantage when they see that you don’t hold grudges
All the time.♥️♥️📌
I don't know what research those people in your area think they did but your story is financially abuse and it's not the first. It's valid
Financial abuse it's been there it's not a new thing
😅 "I'm taken, myb I'm taken for granted, myb I'm taken advantage of 😅😅😅 it hard not to love you
How is dating as a single mom and divorcee?
You’re really not the single type😅❤ ah-ah! I like that response 😅
Love you madam speaker,,,,Keep it up!
Thank you, I will
I got divorced as well for the same reasons n more
You always look good😭😍❣️🥰
❤❤❤thank you so much
Ppl don't want to face the reality that finance is the leading problem of divorce.
And when it comes to Tswana man are too soft maan & loving for sure until they betray ur trust & I will spit fire & feel guilty. I mostly dated tswana men. Being there done that but I guese they are my destiny🤣🤣
Sis I’m your fan I love that Afro wig where can I get it❤
Madam my question is Is your ex husband allowed to visit the kids? And what was the relationship between the kids and him?
Especially the first few ones
I’ll include this in the next Q&A but it’s already here on the my Co-Parenting video. Do check it out ❤️❤️
I admire you Madam ❤❤❤
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Can l ask what happens if the husband have nothing to sell and share half with me, do l become the only one who to sell my things and share with him?
Do you still have a relationship with his child I believe you played a part in the child’s life where does that leave the child 😢
M not a single type 😂😂😂😂😂
🤣🤣🤣🤣 I’m a sucker for love and romance bazalwane
Which therapist did you use
Do your kids visit their father?
Yes they do
If glowing was a person
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