5 Undeniable Traits of Easily Offended People You Need to Watch Out For = LIVE Q&A
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- Опубліковано 26 вер 2024
- Have you ever encoutered that person that make you feel like you had to walk on eggshells? Easily offended people make life stressful and in this LIVEstream, we're going to talk about the 5 undeniable traits of easily offended people that you need to watch out for.
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I'm instantly offended when I'm lied to, stolen from or when I sense I'm being scammed or taken advantage of by ungrateful entitled people who I was good to.
In all honesty, I think that's called betrayal, not being offended.
Ugh...going through this with my adult daughter. I am,once again, shocked. But one to many times and she is no longer welcome in my home. Always wondering if something is going to go missing. Painful to know this is my daughter
@@cynthiaheadrick6087 prayers work 😅😅😅don’t give up👍👍👍👍🙏✝️🙏✝️🙏✝️🙏✝️🙏✝️✝️🙏
I understand completely, it is so heartbreaking, but God knows and see everything, forgive, but work on healthy boundaries. Trust that is broken, feels unsafe. No fun to live that way.
It can be tough, but remember that we don't deserve the grace of God either. Because God loved us and saved us while we were entitled and ungrateful, we should extend grace to others when they do the same. However, that does not justify their behavior at all. It's good to be careful and set boundaries. Pray for discernment when giving, so you can maximize its effectiveness. We don't want to give to enable evil behaviors. Then, we are helping the kingdom of darkness.
Everything they accuse us of…. They DO!!!!!
I remember going to a counselor at my church during my divorce because husband was messing around with a 'friend'. I told this wise, old man my tale of woe. When I finished, he rocked back in his chair and said, 'Well,...seems to me she did you a favor.' I was so surprised,....but he was right! Gave me a whole new perspective.
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Excellent. God uses all things for good to those that love Him.
32 yrs in a toxic fake marriage. During my divorce process after 25 yrs, found out he never divorced. Still i took him back. Behaved, but nope… no change. And the eggshells dance continues. Now a home purchase later, i learned of this personality. Every name in the book that chops me into pieces and forgets about it seconds later. Note to deal with this till my escape has every corner covered. Retire, seek the house and RUNNN!!! God help me and give me wisdom to run in the right direction. I need to plan far away.
I can’t address any issue with my husband that doesn’t offend him. He is defensive no matter how carefully I choose my words. He starts verbally attacking me and nothing is resolved. He doesn’t apologize for his childish reactions and acts like nothing ever happened soon afterward.
That's my mother!
Thar is exactly my husband too. What do we do?
This describes my husband and I as well…
My story EXACTLY 😞
I could never get further than- I want to discuss something with you...
Without a rage attack 😔
You simply can't expect anything beyond a 4 yr old child
Narcissists are blame-shifters and shape-shifters and covert types are the worst for this emotionally immature behavior. Great video and a keeper.🌟
They never apologize for super bad behavior.
Thanks for another great video! My brothers are both narcissists and they are so offensive and arrogant. They can dish it out but cannot take anything! These people are IMPOSSIBLE! Walking away and loving them from afar is the only safe way with these incredibly arrogant people.
Very good comment and very true what to do....there is NO way to reason w/ these irrational beings. NONE ! They will just stare at you or lash out foolishly and reload their “guns”, stir up their “brew” and plan their next, more vicious attack. STAY AWAY! SAVE your sanity😊
True, there is no way you can get through to these difficult people.
Holy Spirit once gave me this answer in prayer..
About a problem..person
Sometimes it is better to love from far away..distance 💕
You are helping me so much. I just left my narcissist husband 19 days ago.
Sometimes you just have to leave them. ♡
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All the best to you. You will heal and thrive and live your best life. ❤❤🙏🏽🙏🏽
I imagine you agonized over that decision for long time. Good luck. Spousal abuse is not just about being roughed up. The tongue can do more damage than a fist. Don't hold a grudge, k?
This was a Big Problem with my deceased narc husband . Dense...would not listen....no common sense about even simple things. So I gave up...let him find out for himself.....usually when the consequences would show up because he would not listen, he would try to blame me........I refused to accept.
I went "No Contact" with my very toxic family of origin 5 years ago. I know this is how they see me - easily offended and holding a grudge. For those of us who are very introspective, this reality may cause us to question our decision, to the point where we are gaslighting ourselves. And especially if we are mildly OCD.
It's the way everyone immediately believes their false accusations that never ceases to amaze me. They play a wicked game. The "it" group, which aligns with these covert narcissistic people, automatically presumes offensive intentions without even attempting to understand the other person's situation. It's just all about charisma and popularity. Life is a never-ending junior high school, no matter how much education you acquire. The immature, insecure, manipulative people are in control everywhere ya go. What a nightmare.
I go through that with those like that, making me feel alone and different. I just can't get away from it, my trust levels are about zero!
Once I had the revelation of who I am in Christ, nothing else mattered!! I was no longer offended by the stonewalling!! All power my husband had over me was diminished! I am FREE IN CHRIST!!🙌🔥🔥🙌🔥
Amen! Nothing else really matters!!!
"You can't trigger something in another person that isn't already there." -- So insightful and encouraging. It points out that I have ultimate control over my own emotions by 1) getting my identity in Christ and not in my relationships with other people, and 2) taking my thoughts captive in obedience in Christ. I have put this practice in effect and I can vouch that I am a much more peaceful person that the easily offended person can no longer manipulate me. Thank you for putting these principals in easy to understand language. Also, when he tells me I made him angry, I can honestly and confidently respond that I can't make him do anything. I no longer feel the need to defend myself. My God defends me, and He does a much better job than I can! Thank you so much for honoring the ministry where God has called you. God bless and keep you.
Easily offended people are NOT worth the energy expended on them, i roll my eyes, chuckle and walk away when they try this on me. I have other more FUN things to do than to deal with them, who are never fully satisfied with your appeasements....ho hum!!
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I agree 100% 👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍
Yesss! I get to be lighthearted and enjoy life. Feel sad for them but bye. And they are not allowed near my kids.
So thankful for these truths. I am realizing how codependent I have in a marriage of 36 years to an emotionally abusive husband.
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I am still dealing with this behavior in my new marriage. I have learned to 1. Listen; 2. Determine whether this is something that an adult should be able to figure out and learn for themselves or if this is a request for support and prayer; and 3. Respond by either praying or giving support or letting them know this is not on me, it is not my job to fix this. I always try to be kind, but firm. This has been very successful so far.
Most people think by saying, “I’m sorry” is repenting, but they do not understand that repentance is a change of behavior
EXACTLY! Empty words .see their actions !
That's what happened to me yesterday and the day before, was a family member kept going off on me and calling it apology.
Now somehow me trying to go no contact with HER, means that my entire family under my roof is not allowed to have any contact with anybody I'm biologically related to. It escalated really quickly, and everybody's blaming me. I just kept trying to isolate away. And she kept attacking. I couldn't escape it
@@octoberdawn1087 How difficult! Hope you have some serene, safe place, can pray and get strength, and can accept reality, forgive, and heal withoin, and pray for her/them. Things may improve with the time then.. I am also in an unbearable, impossible hell since decades, needing support but invisible to my family, whom I have sacrificed múch to help cure and heal. If youmanage to stay calm and true, maybe the others at least will realize that you are OK.
I'm no longer fighting the toxic daughter to stay connected, I'm grieving the fact there is nothing worth holding on to if I expect to keep my self respect and dignity. That's become my inevitable course of action!!😢
Your videos are amazing Kris! Love 'em! You clear up SO MUCH and it's all Bible-based! Thank you!
The WORST IS GHOSTING. I had someone do that to me. MEANEST thing EVER. Years after I found out the reason - and she is wrong. I didn't do what she said - what she accused me of but never checked with me about it. She never asked me - just came to her own conclusion and up and ghosted me. VERY bewildering and is the meanest thing anyone has ever done to me. Very sad because I can't prove what she accused me of. I am waiting out for the person who offended her to step up. I would like an apology.
You helped me know that I do not need to "fit in" with my toxic siblings. I know I can be around them when at large family gatherings because they don't show themselves, but individually or as the four of us it is not a good thing for me. As a Christian I have felt guilt at feeling like I just don't like being around them after trying for years to be family-friendly.
Amen, Amen!!!! Hiding our flaws causes regression of any growth but most of the time prevents any growth.
I lived with this for the first 18 years of my life. My entire family raged easily at the slightest disagreement. Often the things they were offended over were what rational people wouldn't even think was offensive. I now believe the family members were angry all the time "loaded for bear" the anger ready to emerge at any time for almost nothing. It is impossible to resolve anything with them because they are continually on the defensive. I used to get my feelings hurt by their rage but thank God never lashed back. As I grew older I would mildly call it out and then walk away without any guilt or bad feelings. However, since it is an ugly experience there is no reason to keep company with these people.
The craziest weirdest thing i have had to navigate through my entire life. Thank you for the guidance and confirmation 🙏🏻✨
WOW😮 She has described my Brother 😢OH Wow, here I am trying to educate myself because of my Narcissistic ex-husband soon to be, Thank You Jesus. And here I get to hear exactly how one of my brothers is.
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You are amazingly knowledgeable. Omg! I have learned so much from this message. Thank you, Thank you.
Rescuing was my codependent issue. After learning from your material and coaching training I have learned that doing for others what they should be doing for themselves is actually enabling & crippling to some. It has felt good to let go of being overly responsible
I have a personal counselor. I go to conjoint counseling with my husband. You have helped me more with reality and facing truth more than anything else. Thanks 🙏
Thank you for making this. I feel like I have been in that cycle for a few years with a friend. And I kept thinking it was my fault and would apologize constantly. I couldn't be any nicer at this point and I felt like I was crazy. I finally stuck to my guns a couple months ago when they wanted to pick a fight again for being offended. And her true colors showed, it follows this pattern you're talking about. This is helping so much, thank you for your ministry. I think God used you to speak to me, I needed this.
easily offended people only become easily offended in the presence of very sensitive polite people, the only ones that will b shocked and apologize profusely, being controlled by the offended person. dont fall for it, avoid them, not worth the energy required to walk on eggshells around them. when they tell me theyre offended i chuckle then walk away, shaking my head. I NOT taking the bait...
I'd let that friend go - out of your life. That would actually help her I think because it's a consequence of her bad behavior. I had that also with a toxic friend. So glad I let her go. I had to protect myself. I was always in trouble. That gets old fast!
Thank you so much this is extremely helpful this happens in church as well they make church look bad with this behavior
Thank you for your teachings they are so enlightening Kris Reece God Bless you and your family and Ministry🥰🙏🙏🙏💕💕
These videos are AMAZINGLY HELPFUL!
Hey there. I know this video is aimed at people who deal with the kind of people mentioned in this video, however after watching it myself I've realized that I am that person. I am an easily offended person and find it difficult to share how I feel due to many of the reasons listed above. The main thing with me is I don't wanna be hurt again by sharing how I feel.
My mom actually introduced me to other videos on this channel because of other struggles I've had with other family members and the toxic behavior they present. She's been teaching me how to express how I feel in a healthy way and praise god I've been getting better. I still have a long way to go, but this video helped pinpoint this behavior. Thank you for the channel and the videos on these subjects, and mainly for the scripture-based approach to dealing with these things. They help a lot.
There is another category: Easily offended but are kind, forgiving and not revengeful.
Oooh love this. Yes! Some of us are in this category , learning to be living like Christ but also honest to know that yes I still have insecurities. I want them gone! I want to be confident moving forward❤
Thank you for this video. My brother is a self-centered narcissist who is very easily offended. Whether or not it is something I said or something he was counting on me to say but I didn't say it. He was in a rage and confronted our dad. Nasty words were said by both. Later on, my brother tried to rationalize his own nasty words by saying, "Well, Dad called me nasty names." Sigh.
Sandy Sanders, My older brother is also that way. He is often very cruel with his own words and holds to double standards. He holds grudges for the stupidest things from years prior and will throw it in your face while a little argument erupts about spilling a drop of water....he adds a cauldron of oil and fire to any little thing. He is allowed but no one else is allowed to even have a tiny emotion nor a different opinion. I could not take being around him anymore after decades of abuse so I walked away. I love him from afar and keep him in prayer. I have not seen him for 2 and a half years now and a friend who ran into him recently let me know my brother was talking garbage about me non stop. Wow! Yes, I did good to walk away. They are filled with pride and bitterness... the enemie's trap of hate. All we can do is pray that God will set them free. God bless you!
my sister... had to separate...just too stressful dealing with her, I never know what made her mad.
I just love your program and your biblical teaching on narcissist people. It has helped me alot
I've really struggled in the workplace because of the easily offended & insecure members of society. People who embody this (in my experience) also embrace cancel culture. Then that's your life over and everything you rely on to live annihilated. You're not interested in the power game, as you don't need it to feel big, but they need it to live and breathe. At that point, I usually shut them out.
I have experienced this at well at my workplace. I thought it was just me. I was shocked to see how easily some people there would get so upset over innocent statements. I would later find out these people had serious personal struggles and that really helped me to not take things so personally.
@messue428 I've experienced being chastised for almost everything I do, e.g. offending someone by using the word "easy" in a sentence to describe a task I was shown, to statements that texting people was disrespectful. They tend to notice if you don't take things personally, because in their mind, you should be deeply traumatised at the thought of "hurting" them (basically having an opinion that doesn't match theirs) and feel compelled to disembowel yourself over a sacrificial stone.....
Good Morning you have A Wonderful & Constructive Podcast.
True in being able to identify the overt - the toughest is the covert!!!
This is every seventh day Adventist I've ever met. They are ALL like this
So so so helpful!!!!!! Thank you!!
26:14 Covert person pushing anger down and then boom, when you least expect it - out it comes...so true!
You are so incredible helpful on seeing flags and allowing people’s behavior to bear fruit
I recently met a person who told me she was a certain way, but what she did was totally the opposite very confusing. They send out a message and do something completely different. And very insecure person. Her main goal was to get me to agree with her philosophy of life, and when she couldn’t do that, it was bye-bye. This has been very helpful thank you Kris this has been a big help. She was trying to get me to think I was a problem defiantly a covert who held grudges.
I'm learning alcohol, not setting boundaries in the beginning and ignored the red signs got me in my narcissist boyfriend. Now with the Grace of God I'm learning me again. So I stop drinking alcohol, setting, working boundaries and trauma bond issues. The current narcissist boyfriend our relationship time is number. I will leave him soon and being attraction to another narcissist ends now. In Jesus Name
They love getting others into their destructive behavior, it makes them feel better about themselves if others are doing it together with them, stay away from anything that can trap or enslave you my dear 🙏
Kris, I became covert in my reactions. Here's a prominent example in my life from 20 years ago. It's indicative of how I've been abused and it's indicative of what I've become. Here's the story:
We're mountain biking, going pretty fast along a desert trail. I was in great rhythm and really getting into following him. I was having sooo much fun, at this moment I was thinking what a great Ibis commercial this would be and then BAM!!!! My husband slammed on his brakes out of nowhere and in my avoidance of him, I went flying off trail into the cactus. I got up, not knowing what to think or what happened, and he says, stop riding so close.
I'm sorry, but I just can't get over that pain. I'm in Christian counseling right now. Thank you for your counsel.
I don’t mind vetting which can be so important to building trust. I have known some, however, for whom years of proving is never good enough. I appreciate it when I can respond to someone’s misgivings without becoming angry, realizing they don’t know my motivations yet. I admit to being confused sometimes as to whether something is a temptation or an opportunity to grow past limiting beliefs that don’t serve my growth into greater autonomy & independence. Therefore I appreciate listening to your thoughts and prayers.
Thank you for this amazing teaching. It is enlightening and so good for my personal self reflection. So grateful for this.
Thank you do much for your message about how to be after divorce for kids... I am getting to the situation now. And i need to put myself together to be there for kids 🙏🙏🙏 may God be with us in Jesus name
I used to get triggered by taunting and teasing, and now I can laugh because I’ve seen God bring me through, turning my focus to more wholesome, life-affirming opportunities ahead.
Yes. It’s exhausting!
One of the very best videos ever! Explains these people to a T!!!And they are very difficult to please.... don’t. Even bother trying... the egg shell bit gets old & is extremely stressful. At my age I don’t even try to ‘engage’ any more....waste of time...the Serenity Prayer is very useful. I could say soooo mucho!! OMGosh but I am trying not to revisit too much of their ‘madness’ unless it is so ridiculously comical that I get a real good laugh out of their illogical foolishness. THEN I tend to rather “enjoy” it ( in a goofy way!!) They usually are good at making you their scapegoat. They are also professional gas lighters &stone Waller’s. It can actually become quite hilarious.....Take them w/ a grain of salt....but DO stay away overall. For they have a very dark& dangerous side😮.
Thank you for bringing the Serenity prayer to mind. ❤
I agree and also feel God gave them over to a depraved mind. It's not normal behavior to manipulate people. That's what they do.
Romans chapters 1 and 2 ❤
I needed this lesson. Perfect timing.
Same here.
Thank God for you! This teaching is definitely for me, I needed this to heal. Praise God! Amen all the way from Jamaica!
Same place, same stuff, day in and day out...tracking with you for sure! Can't have a real conversation with my spouse and you are helping me see things. . .😍
Hi Kris thankyou so much for your videos they're very helpful you're like a very good doctor and a friend to all of us. God bless you and Jesus Christ be with you
Great Video Good information timely thankful
100% and I'm sick of it! So I go off I'm not putting up with it anymore!
This has been very helpful. One of the issues I struggle with as a mom is the influence of the woke culture that has weaponized adult children against their parents. There seems to be a whole woke counseling industry that enables children to play the victim card and turn their parents into oppressors. It redefines the relationship as one of retaliation and retribution in place of restoration with forgiveness and grace. Throw co-dependency and toxic narcissistic factors in and you have a real mess. There's blame to be had on both sides but it seems that the woke mentality keeps the relationship stuck in the blame game with fixed roles of victim vs. oppressor.
Yes I can relate tell all of it It's just sad the way they live that way the harder you try you can't change them you just got to let them go
Yes I do very much so
This is so true,
These teachings are relevant, insightful & helpful. I often forward them to friends who struggle. You help people grow & mature ( if they are willing through your kind, non judgemental words, calm voice & clarifying scriptures! Thank you!
I feel like I'm ALWAYS trying to FIGURE IT OUT. 32 years later, I still have no idea how or when I offended my step-mother. But I know I did. Somehow.
My so-called "family" doesn't have a friggin CLUE how to talk about ANYTHING.
Somehow it was conveyed to me, at an early age, that to ask questions about things like that will just walk me into utter embarrassment. It's been intimated that there Definitely was something I said or did, so I'm pretty sure it's not my imagination.
My father wouldn't entertain the subject when I began to got healthier two years ago, and decided to bite the bullet and find out answers to a few of these weird questions. I wanted to know so I could correct myself. I told him that having that hiccup in my life made me feel all kinds of terrible. He told me to stop being crazy. That sort of response, over my whole lifetime, literally drove me crazy a few years ago!! I was hearing voices and going delusional for large parts of the day.
I'm alot better today than I've ever been. I discovered CPTSD and learned to heal myself...Jesus came clear to me and I KNOW HIM.
13:31 - they are not interested in understanding, only speaking their truth!! Holy Mackerel, Lady!! You hit it on the head!!!
I could go on, but I am sure you get the point. I am SO Enjoying YOUR VIDEOS. God just keeps giving me exactly what I need and you are the next level it appears! Bless you and thank you 🎉❤🎉
It is not my job to tip toe around easily offended people. I will pray for a visit coming soon, and try to find space from a tricky person who I tend to be flattened by.
Same with me! I have a friend that has become increasingly angry over the years, mostly based on politics. She gets angry with hearing opinions different from hers. I used to just take it but lately I’ve become angry back. I don’t like that I have done that
thank you for this clip. truly insightful. I understand I am the covert type of being offended, and that I have some work to do.
Kris, thank you for your talks. I recently stumbled on your videos and they helped me in gaining the right perspective of biblical teachings with worldly living. I see what you referred to as “rabbit trails” have been good insights to challenges I needed to hear. I hope you continue to speak these thoughts as they come to mind. They’ve been helpful for me. Hugs
Wonderful content, helps me understand this ridiculous rollercoaster relationship with my daughter.
So helpful information. I have original family and married family members that trigger me. I only get mad at myself for feeling so hurt.❤
I am so blessed to have found your channel!!!
I just love that God helped me find this ministry. Be blessed sister
Thanku Kriss reese ministries
I finished watching the video today. One thing I want a little help with is that there was no snide, sarcasm in my family. Instead, there was a lot of persecution complex. One of the frequent things I heard yelled by different family members is "Everybody hates me!" My family can be very cruel and offensive but when anybody points out their cruelty, instead of owning up to their cruelty and trying to change, they yell as if they are being attacked. It's a little childish like the kid who cries, "He hit me back." No one can ever convince my family, "Well you hit him first". And yes, I can see how my siblings all learned this from our mother and then passed this persecution complex to their children and grandchildren. One of my sisters still can't acknowledge how cruel she has been to my nephew. She's still angry at the fact that he feels hurt and refuses to come to any family functions. I have two nephews, a niece and myself who have left the family to avoid the constant tension.
Unfortunately, I have been put into a circumstances that required me to return to my family, physically dependent on them. I'm not codependent but I have health problems that make it hard to hold a job and I'm therefore homeless and forced to stay with my sister. I take a lot of their cruelty and let it roll off of me like water off a duck's back but I'm forced to stay silent for fear that I might say something offensive, step on a landmine, and get kicked out into the street. They wonder why I don't attend family functions but I hate having to walk on eggshells. What can I do?
Very helpful.
I came across your Channel and wanted to say that I appreciate your biblical perspective on how to handle Toxic relationships. I am seriously trying to change my behavior and set healthy boundaries. Your Channel has given me options to stay Christ like without reactions to the toxicity.
Oh my WORD! This video had me captivated because ,no kidding, you described my ex to a T!! It felt pretty good to get some validation, as I always suspected the causes for his delusional , lack of self insight....poor guy, no one is perfect by any means,but I'm guessing he had a lot of childhood trauma and refuses to allow himself to address it. How sad
Yes this is a friend I've had for a long time
I had the "figure it out" situation with an old boyfriend who simply stopped talking to me for three days.an angry silence too! Turns out I talked to long to my sister! Okay, bye-bye. People can't say I was with him for his money because that man had a good bit of it. But no amount of money is worth a possible life time of dealing with that.
Amazing video!! Much needed!!
What do I do?! I distance myself from them. I don’t have time for games that so many people play. Thanks Kris for your insightful and biblical truth. I’d rather spend my time with God and healthy Christians and family…and my dogs. 😊
The second trait was EXACTLY why I broke it off with my boyfriend. I told him I can't be in a relationship with you without good communication. He responded. "I don't cheat on you or abuse you." Excuse me, but not allowing me to be heard or to have an opinion IS abuse and just as bad as cheating. As if that was good enough? I also doubt he was being faithful.
Wow, that’s pretty jerky. As if him not cheating or abusing you was some kind of wild privilege. Good thing you got rid of him.
@@theflowerangel5724 Right?!
It is frustrating now especially since there are so many divisive and controversial topics that trigger people.
Again politics in the US 🇺🇸 ! BINGO!
💗☮️💞 Thank you. This is just what happening with a good friend.
My NO un-packed her deep soul and she showed her real face in a long email with a lot of "YOU criticism".
In my response I show compassion for her feelings and asked her only some questions:
Is it true what you think?
Is it possible that there are other thoughts that are also true? (turn around).
WHAT FOR A PERSON WILL YOU BE?
AND WHAT ARE YOU WILLING TO DO FOR IT?
Dear Lord, please take over and guide her thru her process 💗☮️💞.
FREEDOM AND PEACE IS ONLY POSSIBLE WITH PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY.
Thank you! This video is so helpful. I’ve had to replay it a few times to let things sink in. I need to take notes, too.
I think I detect the need for rescue in these people and I feel the urge and responsibility to help them. Having come from a family where I was constantly being asked to rescue needy people from a young age, it’s a challenge for me to fight the urge and really sort out what my responsibility is. It takes me slowing down, thinking about my feelings in response to these people and asking if the feelings reflect the truth. Ie is it my place to step in or step back? Why am I moving towards this person? Should I move away? What do I want here? Am I trying to relieve some false guilt?
Oh my. This is my older sister to a T. She is so difficult to be around and for the longest time always said things to try and manipulate the situation to make me the bad guy. A true narcissist.
I can relate so much with the sarcasm in families and the now easily offended sibling. I had to re-civilize myself !
As a product of a Narcissist parent I honest can’t figure out if I’m the one easily offended or are they? My self esteem is low but after learning more about toxic parents I now know why I’m that way. But I too have to tiptoe around my parents bc they’re easily offended! Am I the Pot or the Kettle? 🤔
Whether you are the pot or the kettle, you are not alone! I was raised by narc parents too!
There are Reasons WHY some people are Easily Offended.
IF you are in the raw beginnings of healing from abuse, THEN you certainly can be easily offended.
Of course, this will be a phase only
That's such a great point MC.
Awsom vidio thank u
I read the post. Keep in mind no matter how thin the coin is it has two sides.
You’re so helping. Thank you from the bottom of my heart
Your videos are extremely helpful. Keep up the good work. 👍👍 I’m learning a lot from you.
Amen
Yes I would like your codependent guide. Tk u
Thank you so much, for the time that you give to this work. This has been a blessing to me. I'm following you. God bless.
???My son is is overtly offended and his wife is covertly offended. The son works off of the cues of his wife. Therefore, His mother and we are “100% at fault”. Our love for our daughter in law and son is unconditional. I don’t want to be co dependent. All we know to do is place it in Gods hands. Tremendous help in helping me understand better as to what is gong on???Thank you???
Thank you I've been in this situation, I appreciate this video.
This is really good!! Thank you so much. I needed this information.
Yes, my late husband was a covert, malignant narcissist, psychopath …. Ph.D preacher’s kid
Bingo!!!