That look of pride and happiness on Andrea's face hearing she is helpful to the big sister who helps her so much is beautiful.. You both are going to be just fine. Believe in yourselves and understand that the REAL audience you have is here for YOU. Yes, the bulk of us are here because of chess, but we STAY because you BOTH are fricking amazing humans.. As for love and finding someone to spend your lives with.. especially Andrea. Your life is only just beginning. Theres so many people in the world, not just in the towns you reside in.. you could brush into someone who sticks way better than the people you find while actively seeking someone. Be true to yourselves and understand what you want. You can't change people, or expect them to change into someone you want them to be. There are people who will check the boxes you have and still end up going separate ways. But. There is people out there, who may not hit every box, that will grow with you. Don't feel rushed, take your time, ENJOY LIFE! It isn't about the destination, after all. The journey is EVERYTHING!
Sounds like wishful thinking, you incel. 😂😂 Love how you lot think "any day now these women who would never look my way will get rejected!!!1!1". She's rich and hot, cope more.
This is solid proof of hypergamy. The prettier or financially well a girl is, the higher standards she will have for her partner. While a successful/handsome guy can marry a girl working at starbucks.
It's true hypergamy exists... but successful/handsome guys rarely ever marry girls at Starbucks. Bang them? Sure. But when it comes to marriage... homogamy is much more common. There's studies confirming this. People tend to marry from the same socioeconomic group. Doctors marry lawyers, etc. Retail workers marry delivery drivers, etc.
No it's not. She's not a matured woman, yet. She's still in the maturation phase of the human brain. She's 22 and has 3 years to go. When the brain reaches full maturity in the mid-20s, several major psychological shifts often occur due to the development of the prefrontal cortex and the strengthening of neural connections. These changes influence emotional regulation, decision-making, and social functioning. In the next 3 years she's going to go through some significant changes: - Improved decision making - Emotional regulation - Shift towards long-term goals - Increased social understanding - Identify consolidation - Risk taking decreases - Strengthened executive functions - Relationships and social bonds These changes are gradual and influenced by a combination of biological maturation, environmental factors, and personal experiences. While these shifts are common, individuals may vary in how and when they experience them. I'm a clinical psychologist specializing in developmental psychology and neuroscience.
Dating standards are really high. You've said he has to be really tall. Women also don't date down so he would need a high income. That's not counting if the guy is married, out of your age range, gay, fat etc. That is about one man in 100,000. All girls want that man so you are competing with every woman around for that dude. And why would a guy like that get married? He's got girls lining up to go home with him every day of the week. He can put notches on his belt until he is in his 60s then marry a 26 year old.
bullseye, they want someone hotter richer smarter that does everything they say and tolerates every disrespect, while also being on the lookout for a better newer option, its a difficult situation for everyone
tried to explain this to my ex, who is a "high value woman" - wanted a 5 karat ring. I was on my way to becoming that dude, so she could've got me on a discount. But as I got closer and closer, I actually moved away from marriage... until my recent GF, who is everything I need and was there before I "made it".
not to mention, even if such a guy wants to marry and settle for one woman. why would he choose a woman selling her softcover kind of €rotic photos online for money? he would want his woman to be respectful and dignified as well. like wtf ? unless this "dream guy" is himself working in adult film industry, then only he might be okay with it.
Remember that when you start a relationship, you and your partner are building a foundation. Like building a house, the foundation starts from nothing. Good luck and Happy New Year!! You're both my favorite UA-cam content creators. I found my love at 35 and now I am 40. To me it feels that the foundation is enormous now and I always have the attitude of growing and developing together.
Finding a perfectly finished product is a losing position. Finding a partner that's willing to grow into a common ideal is easier. But that means they may be wrong, out of the gate. (married 47 years)
Alex said something similar on the Win-Win podcast about this being a challenging year for content and its negative impact on her mental health. Don’t worry about the “stick to chess” crowd or comments lacking constructive criticism. You two are clearly passionate about the “not a podcast”, as well as other interests beyond it. Make content that YOU want to make! Make content that YOU have fun with! Make content that makes YOU happy and fulfilled! The views may not be ideal right now, but your audience will shift upwards. Both of you have the intelligence, entertaining personalities and drive to make that happen! Loved hearing how Andrea comforted Alex amid her mental struggles towards the end. Your sister dynamic is another reason I’m a fan of yours! Also, I can’t have my favorite content creators/streamers go broke lol
@@BotezLive With the mentioning of the views not being ideal right now, how about also add to that, just because a video isn't getting the views you think it should doesn't mean it should be taken down like I'm pretty sure you've said you've done to videos before
men in your age bracket haven't had enough time to get to where your ideal partner would be, in terms of ambition, maturity, and future goals. and men that have - are in their 50s.
I'm guessing she's a millionaire already and she wants to date a guy who's at least at that level as well ánd not much older than 30, which probably is a stretch already. But how many guys in their 20s are even a millionaire LOL. And she's in LA of all places. Then he needs to be at least 6'2 or whatever too ... like ... bro. And good looking too! And then she isn't done yet. She has plenty more things to follow apparently LMAO. May as well just up those standards, queen! Don't settle for at least a 7'4 hafthor bodied billionaire with 150 IQ who's got at least 2800 FIDE elo.
A few things stand out. 1. When Andrea was like, "I'm 22 now..." that line stopped me in my tracks. You forget just how young they are, even though they've been streaming for 5 yrs. Y'all are SOOO ahead of the curve, SO much time to find love, figure out career, grow as a person, etc.. 2. Alexandra is so smart - and you can see she's already absorbed so many of life's key wisdoms, i.e. when she immediately snapped that "I don't like to talk about ideas, bc then it gives you a kind of validation rather than actually executing it" - soo true and she has so many of the next level thinking mindsets already. I really enjoy the convo.
I agree with this 100 percent. Both are so young and have plenty of time to decide what they want to do and find someone to share their experiences with. It will happen.
In a nutshell, most men matching the description you gave and "focusing on reflecting and improving" in your age group are probably spending their time somewhere other than the parties you used to go to and the ones you go to now. Maybe going out of your comfort zone and start going places where you could meet a diverse group of people (not just people focused on having fun). I just heard today that my friend's brother meet his now wife at a bookstore. Common places can be full of diverse interesting people, just be open to meeting people.
this is such a refreshing side of content that I didn't know I needed, I admire your love for each other and the honesty that you both place within y'alls relationship. Definitely the type of energy im trying to bring into 2025.
I really dislike the idea that marriage is the "finish line" or reaching the end. Marriage is just a step and shouldn't be the "end goal" of anyone. Life doesn't stop there, and things don't magically become better. I think movies have brainwashed us to think that the marriage proposal is the end of the movie. Thats it; objective achieved. But theres a whole other story after that.
Dont chase ghosts/projections. The horizon seems to always recede. Keep developing yourself until contentment arises in you then link up with those who resonate and safeguard it. Contentment is the mask of the ecstatic life. Awaken early and find lifelong allies in the sacred game! Hoorah
It's fun to get a glimpse behind the scenes. Been following your chess-, and other content for a while but it's always nice to get to know the people behind the camera, without the competition angle. The year has been rough for many but I've no doubt you'll be doing well in the coming years. Self reflection, following your dreams and being yourselves will definitely pay off in the long run. Looking forward to the next episode!
The secret to happiness is no ambition. My wife and I are two different people, and we accept each other for who we are. If either of us were to change in any way, we would not gel together. Don't look for things that are missing. Look for people you are comfortable with, and who are comfortable with you.
Yeah they will change for sure, but not in her best interest because a woman's standards will only increase and more factors will appear on the list with age, experience and her success which only will make things harder for her in dating.
Hate to be that old person commenting on young love but here I go. What you’re seeking with all your requirements is a complete person. No one is complete in their 20s. You’re going to bounce around until your dating pool ages into a complete person or your requirements change and adapt. Things that were once important to you are no longer important and things that used to be a negative are now a positive.
damn ngl the fact both of these superhumans are still figuring out dating gives me some hope. let alone airing it open and honestly to 1.72M on yt and ultimately the internet forever is strong as hell. good luck girls🤞
I like this format for you two. Its good because aometimes i see your output and im wondering what the rationale is but i like that youre experimenting. Im so sorry your engagement didnt work out, Alex. I had no idea. You'll find somebody im sure.
The man that WOULD check all those boxes for Andrea, wouldn't want to be with Andrea. I would say why not interview with SADIA KHAN, the gorgeous psychologist? She's beautiful and smart and knows more about relationships between rich and beautiful people. She could probably guide you in the right direction.
Many times the “ideal” person that you have made up in your mind, can also be the worst person to be with. It’s best to be open and date different people & personality’s to see how you get along. Then when you truly find the right things you like then you can put together a “profile” of the actual person you will love and look for a pert who has those qualities.
I haven't watched you guys in a while (streamers in general) and this was a fun surprise to see content-wise! Love the honest conversations, and it's heartwarming to see how you both support and challenge each other.
Your date/partner will never be your sister/roommate. It’s a completely different relationship dynamic. Enjoy the differences, awkward moments and compromises that come with attraction and love
You girls are trying to put stuff in a box that isn't so finite. If you don't go around with presumptions or pretext you'll be fine. And Idk who told you it's unlikely you'll be happy if you don't find someone in your 20s but that's some bullshit. Relax, you're overthinking it.
I don't really comment much usually but just wanted to say I enjoy these conversations, thanks for being open, honest, and vulnerable in these. We can learn a lot from your conversations too!
We all felt alone, had questions about ourselves and our future at some point, that is totally normal, I guess this is growing up. It will come when you will not expect it, but having too high standards can make you pass something interesting and loose time.. Compromise with communications was the key for me... Please avoid superficial people, stay positive and enjoy every f.g day!
Thank you again for making these types of videos. I really love hearing your honest and open conversations with each other and getting to know your personalities better outside of the context of chess streaming. Andrea - if you have the means to invest in a music video, Dead Meat is a horror movie channel on UA-cam and they recently produced a music video for T-Pain. If you have any dark/spooky songs I think it would be REALLY cool for you to collaborate with their team; they're also based in L.A.
Sorry to hear that yall are going through a rough financial year. Since yall have been talking about this year being a transitional year and a period of exploring other creative passions outside of chess, i can see how taking a step back from doing as much chess content as you had done in the past may have had a significant impact on your finances. That being said, i think through this transitional period that it would be a good idea to find a way to somehow consistently make chess content to stabilize your finances while also exploring other projects. I wanted to also add that im enjoying these “podcasts” and that i think you should continue them so that these great conversations can benefit the audience and even learning more about yourselves during this transitional period.
So brave of you both for sharing your thoughts and feelings. Transparency and accountability are key to growing and to recognize the value you have and own. Great episode 👏👏👏 Keep going! You guys are the best!
A good, honest, revealing conversation that is brave to place online. Respect. However, Andrea is like 22. You might *feel* like you are at a loss and are alone, but you have so much time to grow and learn about yourself and find other people you enjoy. Clichéd as it may be, "life is a journey, not a destination" is especially applicable in this age of freedom and longevity.
Sorry for my English. I'm Belgian (and I speak French). I also have Romanian origins (from my maternal grandfather), but I don't speak this language. 1st question: I think you lack a lot of self-confidence, which, I think, is the first step in being able to abandon yourself to another. You also seem very focused on things that are on the surface. Particularly, I think, because you have not yet taken the time to really discover yourself in your depths. You remind me a little of a surfer who fears the slightest drop of water on your little feet, which limits you to the stage of the bodyboarder. On a romantic level, but beyond on various levels of your life. Shopping is nice, looking beautiful is nice, having a drink is nice, walking barefoot in the sand is nice, dancing to electro is nice, getting emotional watching a series on TV is nice, but what about philosophy, history, sociology, social psychology, in short, the interest in others ? Until you have resolved the things that are happening inside your soul (head and heart), until you have taken the time to love yourself beyond what you can dismiss as image (very pretty) to the other, I think you will go around in circles, as if stuck in a spatio-temporal fault. The good news is that you are young. You still have plenty of time to discover yourself. Discover yourself as a very small point that is part of a larger whole. But a point that is important. Recognize this importance, beyond the gaze of others and beyond the surface of things, and you will find love. First of all, you will learn to love yourself. Secondly, you will learn to love others. Your big sister gives off a lot of things. A form of assurance, a form of knowledge, a form of maturity, a form of lucidity. Which gives the feeling of a woman who takes responsibility and has confidence in herself. She has her way, you have yours, but I think you would have a lot to gain from taking inspiration from her. Without forgetting who you are inside. Because I think you are a precious person. A diamond in the rough. To polish.
Andrea, regarding techno music whatever I am not specialist in music, but listen to it, and 99% of the time, walking with Bluetooth headphones, without watching the clip. So, don't be afraid to release music tracks without complex image accompaniment - people will still listen.
And I am not kidding. There was this girl, from fifth Harmony, Camilla Cabello, with the song "Havana", and there is a clip, with some kind of "story", and extra minute here and there, but there is audio version, without the clip, without extra stuff - and it has way more views.
If you need interim ideas, one type of video I like watching is Amelie Lens dj sets at home, just spinning to make a more intimate set, no fancy background, just music. Wouldn't mind listening to yours. (Andrea)
People now days think love is finding someone who checks all the boxes, when it’s really about finding someone you can tolerate and are still attracted to, then learning to love the quirks and annoyances, through sickness and health for richer or poorer. No one is perfect.
Smart move chopping up the longer video for more views, just please keep doing the full length ones as well. Much more enjoyable to watch a full length interview, for those of us with the time.
I think the principle is quite simple: people judge you by your appearance. If you wear a pilot's uniform, people will assume you're a pilot. If you wear the outfit of a lady of the night, they'll assume that's the kind of woman you are.
Take your time, stay true to who you are and be open to finding someone that you can grow with. Finding someone that likes you is easy, that doesn’t mean they’ll be a good match for the long term
I mean it sounds like you’d like someone who’s figured their life out, at least to a substantial degree, and there is nothing wrong with that. But I think it’s worthwhile thinking about all the different ways a person can be “figuring out” the world. Like you might have a better grasp on career success and the types of behaviors and habits that will foster that - but maybe you can admire a person who has figured out the more philosophical and introspective side of life. You can challenge them on the steps they need to take to be where they want to be in their career/financially/whatever, and they can challenge you on the steps you need to take to be where you want to be in relation to yourself and your perception of yourself in various contexts. All I’m saying is that you might be able to find someone who matches your level of “put-togetherness” in a different way than you’ve managed to do it - but that can be hard to spot unless you keep an eye out.
You love being the younger sibling and getting teased and giving it back. Your perfect match would be someone a few years older than you that is an older brother of at least 3, who naturally likes to interact in the same way.
23:56 hahahahahahahahh omg man this woman i swear, that face and then "ah! that makes me so happy..." made me laugh so much andrea you're the best you're both amazing and i'm loving this "not a podcast" so far
“I wonder if we just need to lean into our personalities” Bingo When people are passionate about something, it peaks my interest. Especially if I already find that person interesting
Definitely invest a lot of time on storyboarding, Andrea. A tighter storyboard pays dividends on cost/expenditure (time and money) as well as time to edit and publish.
Gorgeous girls! The phrase " we are in LA and where we gonna go" on a Friday night cracked me up (yet even in Orlando there are not many places, besides bars )!
hot girls tik toks go *viral* because they are hot ... not because they have any skills in most cases... or the skill is 2nd ... or their skill contributes to make them look hot ( i.e. showing off their body. ) regardless what the intention was or meta-message suppose to be. There are plenty of female content creators with great knowledge and skill. But their videos don't go *viral*, especially on tik tok or UA-cam shorts.
Andrea, I was wondering if you go to any castings for voice over characters, your very animated and would so fit into a Disney character. Your laugh is off the chart. Your very young, don't worry about the dating thing, someone will come along who sparks your attention. I love your channel, both of you are top notch young lady's making good content. Good Luck.
Watching these types of videos makes me realize how great it is that I have nothing to do with women romantically, giving up was such a hard move hut the best move I have ever made.
I listened to about 15 minutes, so maybe there is some insight at the end but let me try and help you gals. I am a veteran dater for the last decade. I have dated MANY pretty, successful women and they all have the same problems as you. I have chosen to remain single because I think I would not enjoy being married. However, I think my experience guiding others like you can help. One, you need to realize that you aren't special. There are TONS of successful, pretty women out there. So what do you have to offer? Even the two of you are more or less basic in appearance, and ok sure, you're financially successful. No one cares. Next, stop looking for the better, male version of yourself. Men are not encouraged at all in society compared to women. It takes us about 30 years to develop the confidence of the average 18 year old girl who receives compliments left, right and center as soon as the boobs come out. Your own sister starts out by saying you're pretty first. If an average man is lucky, he will hear "you are handsome" from someone other than his grandmother once or twice in his life. Again, you two are just average in looks yet you could not count the number of times you've been called pretty. So compare experience between the two genders on this dimension alone. If you insist on looking for the male version of yourself, he will either be older than 30 or a young star, and by definition he will be incredibly rare. So, see point 1: why would he want you? OK, if you've followed this far, then the next step is to humble yourself. You aren't a queen. I've had to say this to many women 27/28+. You don't deserve Brad Pitt, or Tom Cruise, or the age-appropriate equivalent. You just don't. Now you're ready for the final step: learn to find the soul in a person and attach to that. Checklist goes out the door. Spend lots of time with guys without getting physical, with no expectations. Enjoy their company. It will magically work out. This is how we're designed. It's how that ugly mf Benny got Selena. Take a lesson from Selena. Good luck. I'm rooting for you.
Just live your life ladies and eventually someone will come along that you fancy. Of course, you won’t find “love” by just sitting on the couch and not going outside so get out there and cultivate a life that will naturally bring more people for you to possibly connect with--including boys!
well.. being hot isn't an advantage in the entertainment or music industry where there are a lot of hot people. I hope andrea eventually realizes this.
A good man doesn’t come from his looks or what he can do for you neither what he has. A good man comes from a guy that stop living for himself to live for a woman and seek her happiness instead of his own. When both parties do the same then you get what you are looking for and that is love.
I love the dynamic of these girls! Their discussions are always honest and pretty deep. I am really interested in discussions on how they make friends and choose what activities and places to go despite their influencer background. Excited to see more guests like their chess friends and maybe beyond, possibly their cool dad Papabotez.
There is a study about symbols and Icons that is given in Universities that would be beneficial to have for Andrea from the looks of it. Even Art history could help her frame her Ideas a bit better.
Took me 38 years to find my one. She was worth waiting for
That look of pride and happiness on Andrea's face hearing she is helpful to the big sister who helps her so much is beautiful..
You both are going to be just fine. Believe in yourselves and understand that the REAL audience you have is here for YOU. Yes, the bulk of us are here because of chess, but we STAY because you BOTH are fricking amazing humans..
As for love and finding someone to spend your lives with.. especially Andrea. Your life is only just beginning. Theres so many people in the world, not just in the towns you reside in.. you could brush into someone who sticks way better than the people you find while actively seeking someone. Be true to yourselves and understand what you want. You can't change people, or expect them to change into someone you want them to be. There are people who will check the boxes you have and still end up going separate ways. But. There is people out there, who may not hit every box, that will grow with you. Don't feel rushed, take your time, ENJOY LIFE!
It isn't about the destination, after all. The journey is EVERYTHING!
Agreed. I only found my wife when I was 33, 10 years ago. Before that I got my heart broken several times.
@@LindaChapin-n9u Translation: Alex is getting kind of old. Better sell now while the stock value is still high. It’s declining every day.
Sounds like wishful thinking, you incel. 😂😂
Love how you lot think "any day now these women who would never look my way will get rejected!!!1!1". She's rich and hot, cope more.
This is solid proof of hypergamy. The prettier or financially well a girl is, the higher standards she will have for her partner. While a successful/handsome guy can marry a girl working at starbucks.
Women can self-compete themselves out of the dating pool because of this. Generally they either realize they have to settle, or they remain alone.
in what movie?
It's true hypergamy exists... but successful/handsome guys rarely ever marry girls at Starbucks.
Bang them? Sure.
But when it comes to marriage... homogamy is much more common. There's studies confirming this. People tend to marry from the same socioeconomic group. Doctors marry lawyers, etc. Retail workers marry delivery drivers, etc.
They’re still young, they have plenty of time to get in a relationship, especially Andrea.
No it's not. She's not a matured woman, yet. She's still in the maturation phase of the human brain. She's 22 and has 3 years to go.
When the brain reaches full maturity in the mid-20s, several major psychological shifts often occur due to the development of the prefrontal cortex and the strengthening of neural connections. These changes influence emotional regulation, decision-making, and social functioning.
In the next 3 years she's going to go through some significant changes:
- Improved decision making
- Emotional regulation
- Shift towards long-term goals
- Increased social understanding
- Identify consolidation
- Risk taking decreases
- Strengthened executive functions
- Relationships and social bonds
These changes are gradual and influenced by a combination of biological maturation, environmental factors, and personal experiences. While these shifts are common, individuals may vary in how and when they experience them.
I'm a clinical psychologist specializing in developmental psychology and neuroscience.
Dating standards are really high. You've said he has to be really tall. Women also don't date down so he would need a high income. That's not counting if the guy is married, out of your age range, gay, fat etc. That is about one man in 100,000. All girls want that man so you are competing with every woman around for that dude. And why would a guy like that get married? He's got girls lining up to go home with him every day of the week. He can put notches on his belt until he is in his 60s then marry a 26 year old.
bullseye, they want someone hotter richer smarter that does everything they say and tolerates every disrespect, while also being on the lookout for a better newer option, its a difficult situation for everyone
tried to explain this to my ex, who is a "high value woman" - wanted a 5 karat ring. I was on my way to becoming that dude, so she could've got me on a discount. But as I got closer and closer, I actually moved away from marriage... until my recent GF, who is everything I need and was there before I "made it".
@@stackered5 karat?
@@stackered 5 karat sounds garbage mate😭 do you mean 24k?
not to mention, even if such a guy wants to marry and settle for one woman.
why would he choose a woman selling her softcover kind of €rotic photos online for money?
he would want his woman to be respectful and dignified as well.
like wtf ?
unless this "dream guy" is himself working in adult film industry, then only he might be okay with it.
Remember that when you start a relationship, you and your partner are building a foundation. Like building a house, the foundation starts from nothing.
Good luck and Happy New Year!! You're both my favorite UA-cam content creators.
I found my love at 35 and now I am 40. To me it feels that the foundation is enormous now and I always have the attitude of growing and developing together.
Finding a perfectly finished product is a losing position. Finding a partner that's willing to grow into a common ideal is easier. But that means they may be wrong, out of the gate.
(married 47 years)
andrea is SUCH a good yapper, i think this form of content is very nice to see from you guys, keep up the great work!
Love this sister talk ❤️
Alex said something similar on the Win-Win podcast about this being a challenging year for content and its negative impact on her mental health. Don’t worry about the “stick to chess” crowd or comments lacking constructive criticism. You two are clearly passionate about the “not a podcast”, as well as other interests beyond it.
Make content that YOU want to make! Make content that YOU have fun with! Make content that makes YOU happy and fulfilled!
The views may not be ideal right now, but your audience will shift upwards. Both of you have the intelligence, entertaining personalities and drive to make that happen!
Loved hearing how Andrea comforted Alex amid her mental struggles towards the end. Your sister dynamic is another reason I’m a fan of yours!
Also, I can’t have my favorite content creators/streamers go broke lol
Thank you for all of your support Tony ♥️
@@BotezLive With the mentioning of the views not being ideal right now, how about also add to that, just because a video isn't getting the views you think it should doesn't mean it should be taken down like I'm pretty sure you've said you've done to videos before
The Tony's of the world are the reason onlyfans exists, unbelievable
men in your age bracket haven't had enough time to get to where your ideal partner would be, in terms of ambition, maturity, and future goals. and men that have - are in their 50s.
I think that's the nail on the head. At 22, I only cared about video games.😂
@@christophernachtman3486 at 36, I still do.
I'm guessing she's a millionaire already and she wants to date a guy who's at least at that level as well ánd not much older than 30, which probably is a stretch already. But how many guys in their 20s are even a millionaire LOL. And she's in LA of all places. Then he needs to be at least 6'2 or whatever too ... like ... bro. And good looking too!
And then she isn't done yet. She has plenty more things to follow apparently LMAO.
May as well just up those standards, queen! Don't settle for at least a 7'4 hafthor bodied billionaire with 150 IQ who's got at least 2800 FIDE elo.
Foreal
A few things stand out. 1. When Andrea was like, "I'm 22 now..." that line stopped me in my tracks. You forget just how young they are, even though they've been streaming for 5 yrs. Y'all are SOOO ahead of the curve, SO much time to find love, figure out career, grow as a person, etc.. 2. Alexandra is so smart - and you can see she's already absorbed so many of life's key wisdoms, i.e. when she immediately snapped that "I don't like to talk about ideas, bc then it gives you a kind of validation rather than actually executing it" - soo true and she has so many of the next level thinking mindsets already. I really enjoy the convo.
I agree with this 100 percent. Both are so young and have plenty of time to decide what they want to do and find someone to share their experiences with. It will happen.
While this content isn’t really chess, I think it’s interesting and a new perspective on a subject is always welcome :)
In a nutshell, most men matching the description you gave and "focusing on reflecting and improving" in your age group are probably spending their time somewhere other than the parties you used to go to and the ones you go to now. Maybe going out of your comfort zone and start going places where you could meet a diverse group of people (not just people focused on having fun). I just heard today that my friend's brother meet his now wife at a bookstore. Common places can be full of diverse interesting people, just be open to meeting people.
Most men in her age group think improving means growing muscles.
two sisters - one worry: "When will the lightning strike for me if ever?" ... soon after you stop worrying at all
I love the sister dynamics. This is your golden goose to your content. Chess was just the gateway.
dont let anyone tell you otherwise the aesthetic with smoking in ur music vid was perfectly fitting!
this is such a refreshing side of content that I didn't know I needed, I admire your love for each other and the honesty that you both place within y'alls relationship. Definitely the type of energy im trying to bring into 2025.
I really dislike the idea that marriage is the "finish line" or reaching the end. Marriage is just a step and shouldn't be the "end goal" of anyone. Life doesn't stop there, and things don't magically become better. I think movies have brainwashed us to think that the marriage proposal is the end of the movie. Thats it; objective achieved. But theres a whole other story after that.
Dont chase ghosts/projections. The horizon seems to always recede. Keep developing yourself until contentment arises in you then link up with those who resonate and safeguard it. Contentment is the mask of the ecstatic life. Awaken early and find lifelong allies in the sacred game! Hoorah
It's fun to get a glimpse behind the scenes. Been following your chess-, and other content for a while but it's always nice to get to know the people behind the camera, without the competition angle. The year has been rough for many but I've no doubt you'll be doing well in the coming years. Self reflection, following your dreams and being yourselves will definitely pay off in the long run. Looking forward to the next episode!
The secret to happiness is no ambition. My wife and I are two different people, and we accept each other for who we are. If either of us were to change in any way, we would not gel together. Don't look for things that are missing. Look for people you are comfortable with, and who are comfortable with you.
The problem with this girl is that her selection criteria are a bit superficial, but she will change them as she matures.
Ее главная проблема - в том чт она слишком много кричит . Потому и популярна. И не шахматистка она а шоумен куда большей степени.
Yeah they will change for sure, but not in her best interest because a woman's standards will only increase and more factors will appear on the list with age, experience and her success which only will make things harder for her in dating.
LETS FUCKING GO!!! IVE TRULY BEEN ENJOYING EACH AND EVERY EPISODE OF THIS! I HOPE WE KEEP GETTING THEM WEEKLY!
If you actually listen to the end, it’s very insightful! Y’all did great on this!
First time ever watching these ppl, but wow hypergamy is a very real thing. Best of luck to them finding someone in their position
Meh-the right person, that won’t matter as much tbh…
Hate to be that old person commenting on young love but here I go.
What you’re seeking with all your requirements is a complete person. No one is complete in their 20s. You’re going to bounce around until your dating pool ages into a complete person or your requirements change and adapt. Things that were once important to you are no longer important and things that used to be a negative are now a positive.
damn ngl the fact both of these superhumans are still figuring out dating gives me some hope. let alone airing it open and honestly to 1.72M on yt and ultimately the internet forever is strong as hell. good luck girls🤞
I like this format for you two. Its good because aometimes i see your output and im wondering what the rationale is but i like that youre experimenting.
Im so sorry your engagement didnt work out, Alex. I had no idea. You'll find somebody im sure.
We all got curious what is Alex's idea about raising kids.
The man that WOULD check all those boxes for Andrea, wouldn't want to be with Andrea. I would say why not interview with SADIA KHAN, the gorgeous psychologist? She's beautiful and smart and knows more about relationships between rich and beautiful people. She could probably guide you in the right direction.
Many times the “ideal” person that you have made up in your mind, can also be the worst person to be with.
It’s best to be open and date different people & personality’s to see how you get along. Then when you truly find the right things you like then you can put together a “profile” of the actual person you will love and look for a pert who has those qualities.
I haven't watched you guys in a while (streamers in general) and this was a fun surprise to see content-wise! Love the honest conversations, and it's heartwarming to see how you both support and challenge each other.
Your date/partner will never be your sister/roommate. It’s a completely different relationship dynamic. Enjoy the differences, awkward moments and compromises that come with attraction and love
I love how candid this was about ups and downs
You girls are trying to put stuff in a box that isn't so finite. If you don't go around with presumptions or pretext you'll be fine. And Idk who told you it's unlikely you'll be happy if you don't find someone in your 20s but that's some bullshit. Relax, you're overthinking it.
This is perfect content, from some fave creators, love to delve deep in to the inner self of chess masters 🎀
I don't really comment much usually but just wanted to say I enjoy these conversations, thanks for being open, honest, and vulnerable in these. We can learn a lot from your conversations too!
We all felt alone, had questions about ourselves and our future at some point, that is totally normal, I guess this is growing up. It will come when you will not expect it, but having too high standards can make you pass something interesting and loose time.. Compromise with communications was the key for me... Please avoid superficial people, stay positive and enjoy every f.g day!
Dating advice for this generation is a must! Great job I'll watch y'alls podcast!
When she says “high standards” it’s womanese for “out of my league”
She's going to be single forever.
7:26 Alex the Tech Bro & Andrea the Gym Bro
Thank you again for making these types of videos. I really love hearing your honest and open conversations with each other and getting to know your personalities better outside of the context of chess streaming. Andrea - if you have the means to invest in a music video, Dead Meat is a horror movie channel on UA-cam and they recently produced a music video for T-Pain. If you have any dark/spooky songs I think it would be REALLY cool for you to collaborate with their team; they're also based in L.A.
Sorry to hear that yall are going through a rough financial year. Since yall have been talking about this year being a transitional year and a period of exploring other creative passions outside of chess, i can see how taking a step back from doing as much chess content as you had done in the past may have had a significant impact on your finances. That being said, i think through this transitional period that it would be a good idea to find a way to somehow consistently make chess content to stabilize your finances while also exploring other projects. I wanted to also add that im enjoying these “podcasts” and that i think you should continue them so that these great conversations can benefit the audience and even learning more about yourselves during this transitional period.
The purest form of love is sacrificing everything without the desire for any return. That is really uncommon in our society.
Yes because why would you do that
So brave of you both for sharing your thoughts and feelings. Transparency and accountability are key to growing and to recognize the value you have and own. Great episode 👏👏👏 Keep going! You guys are the best!
6:55 Wait wait. Andrea said something to a guy that made him change his habits to go to the gym every day and then she dumped him anyway?
It's unattractive when a guy makes changes in his life for a girl and not for himself.
No he cheated on her! She talked about it before
I love these talks ❤
A good, honest, revealing conversation that is brave to place online. Respect. However, Andrea is like 22. You might *feel* like you are at a loss and are alone, but you have so much time to grow and learn about yourself and find other people you enjoy. Clichéd as it may be, "life is a journey, not a destination" is especially applicable in this age of freedom and longevity.
I watched 1 min & already know where this is going. You’re an 8 going for 10’s while attracting 6 - 7’s. The solution is maturity.
Sorry for my English. I'm Belgian (and I speak French). I also have Romanian origins (from my maternal grandfather), but I don't speak this language.
1st question: I think you lack a lot of self-confidence, which, I think, is the first step in being able to abandon yourself to another.
You also seem very focused on things that are on the surface. Particularly, I think, because you have not yet taken the time to really discover yourself in your depths.
You remind me a little of a surfer who fears the slightest drop of water on your little feet, which limits you to the stage of the bodyboarder.
On a romantic level, but beyond on various levels of your life.
Shopping is nice, looking beautiful is nice, having a drink is nice, walking barefoot in the sand is nice, dancing to electro is nice, getting emotional watching a series on TV is nice, but what about philosophy, history, sociology, social psychology, in short, the interest in others ?
Until you have resolved the things that are happening inside your soul (head and heart), until you have taken the time to love yourself beyond what you can dismiss as image (very pretty) to the other, I think you will go around in circles, as if stuck in a spatio-temporal fault.
The good news is that you are young. You still have plenty of time to discover yourself. Discover yourself as a very small point that is part of a larger whole.
But a point that is important. Recognize this importance, beyond the gaze of others and beyond the surface of things, and you will find love.
First of all, you will learn to love yourself. Secondly, you will learn to love others.
Your big sister gives off a lot of things. A form of assurance, a form of knowledge, a form of maturity, a form of lucidity.
Which gives the feeling of a woman who takes responsibility and has confidence in herself.
She has her way, you have yours, but I think you would have a lot to gain from taking inspiration from her.
Without forgetting who you are inside. Because I think you are a precious person. A diamond in the rough. To polish.
agree
Andrea, regarding techno music whatever
I am not specialist in music, but listen to it, and 99% of the time, walking with Bluetooth headphones, without watching the clip. So, don't be afraid to release music tracks without complex image accompaniment - people will still listen.
And I am not kidding. There was this girl, from fifth Harmony, Camilla Cabello, with the song "Havana", and there is a clip, with some kind of "story", and extra minute here and there, but there is audio version, without the clip, without extra stuff - and it has way more views.
Honestly, I think that Andrea is focusing too much on self-improvement. She's 22 and she's great as she is.
If you need interim ideas, one type of video I like watching is Amelie Lens dj sets at home, just spinning to make a more intimate set, no fancy background, just music. Wouldn't mind listening to yours. (Andrea)
People now days think love is finding someone who checks all the boxes, when it’s really about finding someone you can tolerate and are still attracted to, then learning to love the quirks and annoyances, through sickness and health for richer or poorer. No one is perfect.
had to scroll way too long to find this comment. my thoughts exactly
Exactly. Don't be a girl who waits at the finish line just to pick a winner.
love the insight in your line(s) of thinking, feel I get to know you both better. This content is a really nice addition, well done!
I enjoy these types of conversations.
Thank you both for the honest and intelligent podcast!
You know... would actually love to see you guys on Destinys podcasts. Bridges or Anything Else
Smart move chopping up the longer video for more views, just please keep doing the full length ones as well. Much more enjoyable to watch a full length interview, for those of us with the time.
Brutal hypergamy.
Finding alien life in the universe seems more likely than a settled Botez sister at this point.
I think the principle is quite simple: people judge you by your appearance. If you wear a pilot's uniform, people will assume you're a pilot. If you wear the outfit of a lady of the night, they'll assume that's the kind of woman you are.
Take your time, stay true to who you are and be open to finding someone that you can grow with. Finding someone that likes you is easy, that doesn’t mean they’ll be a good match for the long term
When I met my wife I thought I was complete - now I’m finished
😂that’s good!
Marriage isn't the finish line. Marriage is the starting line.
Vous êtes vraiment transparentes quand vous répondez aux questions, ce qui est génial. Nous avons besoin de plus d'humains comme vous sur la planète
I mean it sounds like you’d like someone who’s figured their life out, at least to a substantial degree, and there is nothing wrong with that. But I think it’s worthwhile thinking about all the different ways a person can be “figuring out” the world. Like you might have a better grasp on career success and the types of behaviors and habits that will foster that - but maybe you can admire a person who has figured out the more philosophical and introspective side of life. You can challenge them on the steps they need to take to be where they want to be in their career/financially/whatever, and they can challenge you on the steps you need to take to be where you want to be in relation to yourself and your perception of yourself in various contexts.
All I’m saying is that you might be able to find someone who matches your level of “put-togetherness” in a different way than you’ve managed to do it - but that can be hard to spot unless you keep an eye out.
You love being the younger sibling and getting teased and giving it back. Your perfect match would be someone a few years older than you that is an older brother of at least 3, who naturally likes to interact in the same way.
"we live in LA, where are we going to go?" Bruh. It's LA. There are MILLIONS of people
23:56 hahahahahahahahh omg man this woman i swear, that face and then "ah! that makes me so happy..." made me laugh so much andrea you're the best
you're both amazing and i'm loving this "not a podcast" so far
These podcasts are so enjoying
love these recent vids but ngl I kinda wanna hear more of alex now
I love how Alex does what she wants and doesn't take what she says too seriously...
“I wonder if we just need to lean into our personalities”
Bingo
When people are passionate about something, it peaks my interest. Especially if I already find that person interesting
Definitely invest a lot of time on storyboarding, Andrea. A tighter storyboard pays dividends on cost/expenditure (time and money) as well as time to edit and publish.
Alexander Grace needs to see this.
Gorgeous girls! The phrase " we are in LA and where we gonna go" on a Friday night cracked me up (yet even in Orlando there are not many places, besides bars )!
hot girls tik toks go *viral* because they are hot ... not because they have any skills in most cases... or the skill is 2nd ... or their skill contributes to make them look hot ( i.e. showing off their body. ) regardless what the intention was or meta-message suppose to be.
There are plenty of female content creators with great knowledge and skill. But their videos don't go *viral*, especially on tik tok or UA-cam shorts.
Andrea, I was wondering if you go to any castings for voice over characters, your very animated and would so fit into a Disney character. Your laugh is off the chart. Your very young, don't worry about the dating thing, someone will come along who sparks your attention. I love your channel, both of you are top notch young lady's making good content. Good Luck.
20 years later...
Girls are never really single.
Watching these types of videos makes me realize how great it is that I have nothing to do with women romantically, giving up was such a hard move hut the best move I have ever made.
Today I learned that Andrea represents every woman on earth.
I listened to about 15 minutes, so maybe there is some insight at the end but let me try and help you gals. I am a veteran dater for the last decade. I have dated MANY pretty, successful women and they all have the same problems as you. I have chosen to remain single because I think I would not enjoy being married. However, I think my experience guiding others like you can help.
One, you need to realize that you aren't special. There are TONS of successful, pretty women out there. So what do you have to offer? Even the two of you are more or less basic in appearance, and ok sure, you're financially successful. No one cares.
Next, stop looking for the better, male version of yourself. Men are not encouraged at all in society compared to women. It takes us about 30 years to develop the confidence of the average 18 year old girl who receives compliments left, right and center as soon as the boobs come out. Your own sister starts out by saying you're pretty first. If an average man is lucky, he will hear "you are handsome" from someone other than his grandmother once or twice in his life. Again, you two are just average in looks yet you could not count the number of times you've been called pretty. So compare experience between the two genders on this dimension alone.
If you insist on looking for the male version of yourself, he will either be older than 30 or a young star, and by definition he will be incredibly rare. So, see point 1: why would he want you?
OK, if you've followed this far, then the next step is to humble yourself. You aren't a queen. I've had to say this to many women 27/28+. You don't deserve Brad Pitt, or Tom Cruise, or the age-appropriate equivalent. You just don't.
Now you're ready for the final step: learn to find the soul in a person and attach to that. Checklist goes out the door. Spend lots of time with guys without getting physical, with no expectations. Enjoy their company. It will magically work out. This is how we're designed. It's how that ugly mf Benny got Selena. Take a lesson from Selena.
Good luck. I'm rooting for you.
Just live your life ladies and eventually someone will come along that you fancy. Of course, you won’t find “love” by just sitting on the couch and not going outside so get out there and cultivate a life that will naturally bring more people for you to possibly connect with--including boys!
well.. being hot isn't an advantage in the entertainment or music industry where there are a lot of hot people. I hope andrea eventually realizes this.
I seriously believe that Andrea is showing signs of broodiness. I think that she will make a loving caring mother
A good man doesn’t come from his looks or what he can do for you neither what he has. A good man comes from a guy that stop living for himself to live for a woman and seek her happiness instead of his own. When both parties do the same then you get what you are looking for and that is love.
Whoever edited this video and did the grayscale effects at the exact right moments deserves an award, lol
The more you have to offer, the more difficult it will be to find the right person. It's a curse.
If you wanna date someone, you want them to be local. So go to some places nearby, (hobbies) and meet people
I love the dynamic of these girls! Their discussions are always honest and pretty deep. I am really interested in discussions on how they make friends and choose what activities and places to go despite their influencer background. Excited to see more guests like their chess friends and maybe beyond, possibly their cool dad Papabotez.
Love you Andrea ❤
I love her voice
I had a dream they both worked at my local convenient store, and I tried to buy some ice cream with all coins and they laughed in my face.
I always got the impression that Andrea was indifferent to men. That was part of her appeal. 😅
I would like to see Botez content more than chess, more IRL and sisters streams please.
"Because you once peed on a guys car" 💀
stop thinking about all this crap and live your life. it all works itself out as it's meant to be.
There is a study about symbols and Icons that is given in Universities that would be beneficial to have for Andrea from the looks of it.
Even Art history could help her frame her Ideas a bit better.
the high standards need to be toned down
11:16 one of the most attractive things I’ve heard a human being say in a really long time ngl
don't compromise, if someone doesn't want to grow you'll grow more and more away from them