My teenage daughter and I discuss friends and a few tricky friendship issues that we've both had over time. Please feel free to join in the conversation.
That was so touching... I have no friends because I move around a lot, I never stayed in the same place for more than 2-3 years... It has its benefits, but it is so hard and its impact on me and my friendship life is so bad. I actually cried, don't know why... you are a lovely lady and I love you so much. I guess the video touched my heart cuz I don't have any friend to talk to, and yet I watch your videos or other youtubers and I feel sad that I don't have friends like this in real life.... I started to make friends "small youtubers as well" in here this year though. but it wouldn't be like school friends whom I leave all the time for good!
You two are lovely!! It was interesting to me after I graduated from high school/secondary school to see who stayed friends once everybody left home. Even people who were really close friends all the way through school didn't really talk to each other once school was over, which is especially interesting given the way that teenagers (especially girls) put so much stock in high school relationships and feel like every one of them will last forever. Some do, of course, but from what I've seen and experienced, most don't. There are only a couple of people from school I still talk to on a regular basis, and it hasn't even been that long since I graduated. I always enjoy hearing about other people's experiences with these kinds of things, though!
I was bullied badly at secondary school, but by year 11, I think everyone grew up a bit and it was a lot easier and I played one of my songs in assembly after my music teacher heard me in the practice room and asked me to play it. After that, a lot of girls who bullied me apologized because the song was about that. Some even sort of became my friends and were nice to me after that. I think a lot of bullying happens, because the people doing it, don't really realize they're hurting someone a lot, so it becomes a habit. I have a few close friends and I am very grateful to have them and they have been there for me a long time and always will be. I'm lucky too because I have my twin sister, who is one of my best friends. Though sometimes that can be difficult, because I am watching her go to uni and grow up, while I feel trapped and left behind, As I'm not well enough to go. My close friends too. They're all leaving for brilliant things and I am so proud, but I am sad they are leaving, because I don't want to feel like I'm on my own. Even if that's a bit selfish of me. But I wouldn't stop any of them, ever because they're going to do so many amazing things. I find it hard to make friends, people often feel unsure how to react around me, or think I'm stupid and treat me like a little kid. It can be upsetting. I have lots of what my mum calls 'fictional friends ' as I read a lot and like to think of the characters as friends, it helps me feel like I am not alone. Do you think that is a normal thing to do? Sorry this is a long comment. I love your videos, I think you and Bridie are brilliant x x x
I loved reading your reply - thank you so much for it. Bridie and I do have our moments and my place is going to be so quiet once she goes to Uni. thank you so much for watching.
liliesarelike Thank you for replying to my reply! Hehe, sorry it was so long. What is Bridie going to study at university? When I get a bit better and stronger, I plan to do fine art or illustration, or maybe something else, I'm not completely sure yet! :)
I just started sixth form and this video was very helpful! A quick question that I've been wondering for a long long time is how to befriend people generally (both in and out of school)? You both are so lovely xx
Great advice from Martin Hayfield - there's always lots to chat about with people of similar interests and then you can let the friendships take their course, Good luck with sixth form.
Which degree did you do? :) I am heading to university in under 2 weeks to do Primary Education with QTS and, like Bridie, will also miss my friends! I think your mother daughter bond is fantastic :)
Degree snap :P We're so lucky to have things like facebook now so we can just send quick messages to keep in touch. I've also found snapchat a really nice way to keep in touch because you can show friends you're thinking about them without getting involved in long conversations (not that that isn't important sometimes) as university can be very busy - especially our degree!!
ApplesAndDaisies wahoo! :D *high 5*. Yes I think our generation as a whole take a lot of things for granted. and I definitely agree, snapchat is brilliant! The odd photo every now and again can brighten someone's day :) Good luck with your degree!
I have a friend and sometimes we can be best friends but other times it is like they use me as someone to be around when no one else is there what should I do? p.s love your videos
I think it's normal for friendships to fluctuate in closeness from time to time, but if it's something that is playing on your mind a lot you could talk to them about it? Another suggestion I would give is to actively ensure that you're inviting them to things, including them and making them know that they are valuable to you - because maybe they don't realise that you think of them as a best friend!
I had such a big smile on my face when you told Bridie she had a best friend in you. I can see the love between you and it makes me really happy :)
Awwww, thank you.
This was a brilliant and helpful video, also bridie is lovely, and seems so mature. It's great that she can talk so freely about issues with her mum.
Thank you - she's always been pretty open with me. I'm so glad you enjoyed the video.
Brilliant. I really enjoyed this! You're both delightful.
Thank you, lovely. X
I absolutely love this series!
Thank you so much. :)
That was so touching... I have no friends because I move around a lot, I never stayed in the same place for more than 2-3 years... It has its benefits, but it is so hard and its impact on me and my friendship life is so bad.
I actually cried, don't know why... you are a lovely lady and I love you so much. I guess the video touched my heart cuz I don't have any friend to talk to, and yet I watch your videos or other youtubers and I feel sad that I don't have friends like this in real life.... I started to make friends "small youtubers as well" in here this year though. but it wouldn't be like school friends whom I leave all the time for good!
You two are lovely!!
It was interesting to me after I graduated from high school/secondary school to see who stayed friends once everybody left home. Even people who were really close friends all the way through school didn't really talk to each other once school was over, which is especially interesting given the way that teenagers (especially girls) put so much stock in high school relationships and feel like every one of them will last forever. Some do, of course, but from what I've seen and experienced, most don't. There are only a couple of people from school I still talk to on a regular basis, and it hasn't even been that long since I graduated. I always enjoy hearing about other people's experiences with these kinds of things, though!
Thank you for your reply. It's always possible that in the future you'll rekindle some of these relationships. thank you for watching.
You guys have such a good relationship. I love watching your videos!
You guys are beyond cute. I love hearing your insights. I can definitely relate x
Thank you. I'm really glad you can relate because really that's what this video is all about. Thank you for watching.
I love this series, so insightful from you both ! Xxx
Thank you - so glad you're enjoying this little series.
I love that y'all have these chats. Great discussion
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I was bullied badly at secondary school, but by year 11, I think everyone grew up a bit and it was a lot easier and I played one of my songs in assembly after my music teacher heard me in the practice room and asked me to play it. After that, a lot of girls who bullied me apologized because the song was about that. Some even sort of became my friends and were nice to me after that. I think a lot of bullying happens, because the people doing it, don't really realize they're hurting someone a lot, so it becomes a habit.
I have a few close friends and I am very grateful to have them and they have been there for me a long time and always will be.
I'm lucky too because I have my twin sister, who is one of my best friends. Though sometimes that can be difficult, because I am watching her go to uni and grow up, while I feel trapped and left behind, As I'm not well enough to go. My close friends too. They're all leaving for brilliant things and I am so proud, but I am sad they are leaving, because I don't want to feel like I'm on my own. Even if that's a bit selfish of me. But I wouldn't stop any of them, ever because they're going to do so many amazing things.
I find it hard to make friends, people often feel unsure how to react around me, or think I'm stupid and treat me like a little kid. It can be upsetting.
I have lots of what my mum calls 'fictional friends ' as I read a lot and like to think of the characters as friends, it helps me feel like I am not alone. Do you think that is a normal thing to do?
Sorry this is a long comment. I love your videos, I think you and Bridie are brilliant x x x
I loved reading your reply - thank you so much for it. Bridie and I do have our moments and my place is going to be so quiet once she goes to Uni. thank you so much for watching.
liliesarelike Thank you for replying to my reply! Hehe, sorry it was so long.
What is Bridie going to study at university? When I get a bit better and stronger, I plan to do fine art or illustration, or maybe something else, I'm not completely sure yet! :)
I just started sixth form and this video was very helpful! A quick question that I've been wondering for a long long time is how to befriend people generally (both in and out of school)? You both are so lovely xx
Go to clubs/societies that you are interested in. There you will find people with similar interests...
Great advice from Martin Hayfield - there's always lots to chat about with people of similar interests and then you can let the friendships take their course, Good luck with sixth form.
Which degree did you do? :) I am heading to university in under 2 weeks to do Primary Education with QTS and, like Bridie, will also miss my friends! I think your mother daughter bond is fantastic :)
Degree snap :P We're so lucky to have things like facebook now so we can just send quick messages to keep in touch. I've also found snapchat a really nice way to keep in touch because you can show friends you're thinking about them without getting involved in long conversations (not that that isn't important sometimes) as university can be very busy - especially our degree!!
ApplesAndDaisies wahoo! :D *high 5*. Yes I think our generation as a whole take a lot of things for granted. and I definitely agree, snapchat is brilliant! The odd photo every now and again can brighten someone's day :) Good luck with your degree!
Thanks! You too :)
Bridie's doing Screen Writing for film and tv. I'm a primary school teacher - so we have something in common here. Good luck with your course.
I have a friend and sometimes we can be best friends but other times it is like they use me as someone to be around when no one else is there what should I do? p.s love your videos
I think it's normal for friendships to fluctuate in closeness from time to time, but if it's something that is playing on your mind a lot you could talk to them about it? Another suggestion I would give is to actively ensure that you're inviting them to things, including them and making them know that they are valuable to you - because maybe they don't realise that you think of them as a best friend!
I agree with ApplesAndDaisies - some great advice here. thank you so much for watching my videos. I really appreciate your support.
thanks for the good advice :)
Great vid but the ending made remember that someday my mom will die and that made me cry :(
Sorry that I made you cry.
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