Long Walk To Freedom: What I Learned From 20 Years Of Socializing & Relationships
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How to motivate yourself and stay motivated! In this video, Owen Cook (Owen Cook Free Tour & Owen Cook High Status Communication & Owen Cook Success & Owen Cook Motivation - Owen Cook Social Skills) reveals his secret method that will make you motivated every day!
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1.Approach all
2.minimize time between interactions
3. Find something positive in each interaction
Yup! -Owen
@@OwenCookFreeTour 1000/10 ;)
#Hero
1. Enjoy
But with the approach all concept, how you actually do that without seeming like you'll just talk to anyone because you'll take what you can? There's a way of doing it that either shows you're very confident and like yourself but also if you do it wrong it'll seem the opposite effect on how people view you.
Such key and DEEP concepts being broken down in this video... An absolute game changer for those who pay close attention! 👊
Thank you bro -Owen
@@OwenCookFreeTour Hey Owen 👋
“Fall in love with present energy, your inner growth, yourself, and the journey.” Went over so many key principles. Worth watching multiple times to fully grasp the GOLD in this video!! 💯🔥
Thank you, this is a major theme of the upcoming series on my other channel -Owen
*This was my biggest takeaway (I’m paraphrasing here):*
“When you experience enough pain surrounding your activities, then you say enough is enough. What the pain does, is that it creates what’s called an opening.”
"Normally what we do is what’s called dopamine preservation. You’re getting dopamine from not getting rejected, feeling like you already get it, and from creating a protective shield around yourself.”
This where “letting go” and trauma healing comes into place. I recognize from my own experience when I continually work on healing myself, whenever I feel huge resistance in certain activities, then I’m starting to win in life.
But, when I stop this process, then I run into “success barriers” that I’m not even aware of. Then self-sabotage kicks in, and I have to remind myself to start the process again.
Yes that's it! -Owen
How in the blue hell you're getting dopamine from creating a protective shield around yourself? In my perception that trait giving only a lack of dopamine to introverts and sociophobic people
This guy really helped me. I remember breaking down in high school because I couldn’t read social cues, I couldn’t connect with people .. I felt like I was alienated. I remember in this one occasion I saw my girlfriend really connecting with some dude and me feeling that incompetence to get that reaction from her. 10 years later man I’m doing what I love, I’m happy, I’m surrounded by people I love .. people say I’m really social but I just had to learn it.. my aspergers comes out when I’m under stressful situations .. I lack empathy or reading social cues .. But anyway your content really changed my life Owen
Owen i just wanna say. I’ve been following your content since 2013. You’ve helped me make such big changes in my life and my inner self esteem. I would be horribly sad if you stopped making content. You’re a philosophical genius. So please, whatever you do.
DON’T STOP RELEASING THESE VIDEOS. you’re one of the rare ones that never forgot the people who believed in you.
I'm planning a new tour right now! -Owen
I’ll be there!
Eventually it gets to a point where you realise all is mind and you attract what you are, so the perfect partner will appear and all experience after that point is limitless because the kingdom of god is you.
Owen is so spot on, When i told the game gods i want to grow my social skills and spiritual life it removed everything out of the way. People, jobs, mindsets. i was in a place where i had no intimacy with anyone or friends for a year. 2nd-3rd year i had new friends that we all aligned on same values, new relationships with higher caliber women, and getting access to places & people i've never believed would happen. All because i committed and stayed in like Owen said. It's dark in the beginning but once you look up, the world is different.
Nice bro!! -Owen
The timing of these videos is just impeccable and it actually put me in tears within the first 10 minutes of watching it. I'm in that exact phase of dealing with all the bad emotions, rejections, and feelings of loneliness which simultaneously inspire me to go 10x harder. You have no idea how much we appreciate you making these videos man thank you!
Nice bro, and honestly, you will come out the other side of this 1000X better off IF you stick to the process. Basically you'll just be at a point where you internally recognize you can't find happiness in other people, but at the same time, are able to meet (and replace if needed) people easily. So it becomes a non issue for you. -Owen
learning on multiple channels : look at his body language, his thought patterns, The pauses and how fast he can string these ideas together. The facial expressions and the way he walks back and forth. engages everyone and explodes with sound.
Thanks, and I'm doing this without any preparation on the content (the Free Tour format is improvised - paid events I do a prepared curriculum). So imagine doing this with nothing in your head, it's a wild experience. I do this to show you guys what can be done with improvisational speaking -Owen
Yoo this was truly a « Neo DOM’Ming the Matrix » response : )
MMM OOMPFH *nohomo*; JUST WAITTT TILL DIS BIG BOYY (Owen) gets sum muscless on him; dat Tonality gonna be THUNDERRRRBOOMIN thru the Membrane bro!!! Yeeesh
What you're speaking on was an openness in you that's been closed off due to beliefs that someone else HAS to open when you're the only one who can. It actually all comes down to having that deep conversation with yourself on what qualities you believe and like about yourself, then acknowledging how you deserve to be treated and at least from my experience it's like I'm signing an emotional contract with myself and it will never be overlooked due to someone else's interpretation/ perspective of me.
Your ability to explain complex concepts in such a quick and understandable language doesn't fail to amaze me
Great cut, lots of good values and principles here… Thanks!
15:25 that's so true. I got friends who just suddenly disappeared. No drama, nothing, we just stopped hanging out.
i feel like i really lucked out by finding owen cooks videos , whoever is in charge of marketing this channel needs to take more advantage of things like youtube shorts - value is just too great and not being recognized enough
i bet the search engine algorithm is already against him :(
Wow, yesterday I actually re-listened to the audio of the original Long Walk to Freedom speech you gave, back from a couple years ago. That speech was the first video I ever watched of you, and is still one of my favorite speeches you ever gave. Excited to jump into this one.
Haha epic coincidence -Owen
I can't stop going back to the old content from 6-10 years ago with the crazy happy vibe, huge smile and hilarious jokes 😂 so uplifting
You have to be the paradigm. PERIOD…….
I cannot believe how accurate this is. When he talks about the evolution of your game which leads to your first deep relationship. And how that relationship will be with someone we choose subconsciously to poke at our insecurities because we need to overcome them. Also how suddenly it ends when the growth stops.
Almost 3 years into my first real relationship and this is almost exactly how it happened. Hoping we will get back together in the future because I’ve never loved so deeply but currently feel lost. Wondering what the next step is for me.
The part where he says the loss you experience in a deep breakup prepares you for death resonated deeply with me. How hard this loss is makes me scared of losing other things/people I hold closely. Life is crazy.
It’s amazing how Owen has presumably been through all of this yet still maintains such a positive outlook on life.
It's a graduation from childhood to adulthood. Most adults you see are in arrested development and can barely cope with reality, it's a waste of potential. The real happiness comes on the other side of that, but it means you have to see reality for the brutal facts that it presents, and find your spiritual grounding its that. It's meant to drive you into spirit, as the physical world is both beautiful but also contains incredible disgusting evil. -Owen
@@OwenCookFreeTour Profound, thank you.
Thanks Owen you are truly doing gods work. I wish I could say I didn't need to be reminded of these concepts so often but I do. It's crazy how the derp state actually deletes concepts like these from your mind so that you actually forget what you truly resonate with and have these false idols put in its place. Listening to your content is like a bulldozer that flattens all the BS and reminds us of our truth and our hearts again.
It's a reflection of the illness of our culture that these general types of ideas so rapidly get deleted out of our brains, but shows why self help is like taking a bath - gotta do a bit of it daily -Owen
that buzz in the brain, lately the past 3 months ive felt like dying, but everytime im at my worst, i go out and practice my social skills, and literally within the first 1-2 interactions BOOM! my brain fires up and the demons desolve and suddenly there's hope and opportunity and im awake.
Then i wake up the next day, back to baseline, then im feeling my worse again i drag my feet outside, and i do the interactions and BOOM! my brain wakes up, and it doesnt even matter how the interactions go, i still get the same high..
so i do it again and again and again and i cant understand why, but im starting to be convinced theres a literal secret to the universe in whats happening here and all it took was to say "hi" to some random people on the street.
No amount of meditation or exercise or clean food or money has given me a high like this before, real magic
Process orientation. Gets you into the now. Read Power Of Now by Eckhart Tolle. -Owen
This is one of the best pieces of content that I watched. If you see this comment I'm extremely grateful.
I've been forming as a rapper for the past 2 years. Just lately I started posting online some of my freestyles. This is one of the rare times in my life where I got really procreative with something I love and started putting myself out in the real world. In a lot of ways you raised me and assisted my adolescence. Your voice became a part of my conscience and some of the messages still successfully echo on the daily basis regarding dating and success in general. Hearing all this self-help and spirituality getting more attention in the mainstream makes me realize how far I've come from listening to you and other people from your company putting out probably what's one of the most amazing pieces of contents for growth in still the early phases of UA-cam. Thank you for choosing this path. One day I will see you at a live event. Cheers from Croatia!
Owen! This one is OUT THE PARK. Raw power and delivery. Precious content packed in. You're truly hitting the sweet spot. Stay on it! Thank you. (Long time viewer)
This is the best video you've ever recorded Owen.
Never heard anyone speak better than Owen. Always on the money my dude thanks for all the gems ❤
Thanks, I approached public speaking and "social skills" like an Olympic athlete lol -Owen
I don't resonate with the fact that I don't resonate with Owen's free videos, but I do resonate with fixing that problem.
15:08 - Incredibly profound and true of all my past relationships.
Thank you Owen for awesome inspiration❤️🌍🙏
The part at 18:00 where Owen talks about relationships is spot on!
We only have so much willpower a day - SO TRUE!!
Yup you can read books like "Willpower" that discuss this -Owen
Thank you Owen for putting out consistently good content.
Great video, I am up to 18 min listening in the car and can fully relate to the phases of when you first discover this stuff. Deep down I guess it’s about not getting jaded or having too many expectations from a natural thing. Thanks for vid, sending great vibes right back at yah.
My biggest issue is active recovery. Would love if you made a video specifically about that.
Love this video btw Owen, great stuff!
Okay I will! -Owen
@@OwenCookFreeTour Would love to hear how this relates to not getting sick. I have gotten sick recently even though I’ve started to add whole foods and probiotics to my diet. Love ya Owen
@@OwenCookFreeTour YES a vlog of you explaining your herbal elixirs, banyas, etc would be littt
@@jonh1995 you getting sick could be a detoxification effect from all the years of not treating your body optimally. keep going, sometimes it takes years to fully detox and heal
I just purchased the two day free event coming this June in NYC! Tyler, if you’re reading this, I am absolutely ready for the raw, uncut content brother!!
Great video, Thank you so much Owen for resisting all the fears of people judgement one day and decided to post videos and open RSD. You changed my life, in all areas financially, spiritually ,relationships, health. I LOVE YOU SO MUCH
The thing you said about ego removal. bro. not only does it feel like im coming out of a dream. it feels like I was living in a small room for years. then realizing theres a whole living room just outside the door. its so crazy
Very cool -Owen
This is the highest vibrational video you have released so far and I have seen most. Its buzzing! Thanks for sharing!
Thank you, yes I was absolutely locked in during the event -Owen
Owen THANK YOU again, I need a wake up call from time to time. I hope to meet you someday
Come to a free event bro! -Owen
You're saving the world
Can't wait to check this. Big up Man!
Thanks bro, enjoy! -Owen
Owens Story with relationships being almost as happy/bad as single long term is so true, experienced it with all of my 4 relationships before 😮💨
Wild right? -Owen
In the future, we will look back on discoveries and teachings like this and credit them for rescuing us from the dark ages of the understandings of our own social minds.
And similar to how professional sports progresses, Owen's own personal progress will set an excellent jump-off point for the next generation.
In the future, Owen's work will be seen in history like the invention of the kickflip in skateboarding. Foundational and game-changing.
But also only just the beginning.
Love you Tyler. You’ve saved my life in so many ways dude. Thank you x
That's the goal, thanks for letting it land! -Owen
18:30 to 19:40 was the realest thing owen has ever said. Recently getting out of a 3 year relationship I did this exact thing with a person that brought up all my traumas
"They should put the word: often... infront of all those Phrases."
Why has no-one ever said this before?!
Finally. I always thought this but never knew it.
Ya there's so many fantastic principles in things like "law of attraction" but they always want to make it this LAW that is ALL THE TIME, when in reality, it is generally predictive of a LOT, but not "ALLLLLL THE TIIIMMMEEEEE" -Owen
@@OwenCookFreeTour love it!
Big thank you!
The brotherhood of old lives!!!
Yes !! -Owen
Feels so much like a Church, good stuff!
I think this sort of thing is what religion should be.
The Best Free Video from you in years. I fully resonate with that!
Thank you! -Owen
Really resonate with this one. Stumbled upon your content back in 2016 when I was in a dark place, helped me open my eyes and embrace the beautiful reality of the life I have RIGHT NOW.
The way you speak is intriguing; I know words have limitations when it comes to communicating at a spiritual or even emotional level, but your flow of speech, type of concepts, and subcommunication really express a deeper set of truths than words can truly describe.
Reminds me of an old Alan Watts speech where people are wanting him to describe reality, and he's just amused because it's so much greater than words can convey that it's clear they don't even truly understand the question. But they ask him again, so he simply rings a bell and says "Reality is... DINNNNGGGGGG"
Resonance.
Thank you, he's a G -Owen
I Can’t sleep… Owen dropped a new video I’m okay with that. Thanks for the gold owen
Thank you for watching! Good luck with resting, learn a pre sleep routine, maybe get pink Himilayan sea salt lamps for your room -Owen
Get better women when the man becomes a better version of himself. Even if you aren't trying to get hook ups, Owen is one of the most practical people I can listen to advice.. many teachers are often toooo abstract.. at least from a man's perspective, Owen's examples resonate
Appreciate you digging into the content to notice this! -Owen
@@OwenCookFreeTour thanks for all these free content. I wish you were in Korea so I could go to one of these.
Fantastic vid! 30mn to 1H is a great format for your style and the UX imo. Because it’s long enough for your richness of teachings to come through and spread into rewriting our minds and not too short where we would miss out on practicing and cultivating that long format for deep focused high quality energy which is a lesson in itself. Also that condensed format maybe forces you to get across to the essential messages that really snap, where each minute is more potent and impactful. Thank you Owen
Thank you bro ! -Owen
and the thing about the fighting our way out of it. Having a shit ton of resources helps alot with that. The thing with the dopamine. if we feed ourselves cheap dopamine (creation). we get out of touch with the subtle high of presence. Its how you get unlimited energy. you can consciously control the dopamine . Enjoying the process is what having healthy dopamine feels like. (writing it down for myself, mixing with other content i heard on this.)
Good analysis! -Owen
The longer you go and continue innovating the more i feel great-full for it. Its like older buddy always looking out for you ha
Thank you!
Thanks! -Owen
Amazing video from the real OG/ been watching u since I was 13 and will never stop
Great video Owen, thanks.
You're welcome -Owen
This video was amazing!! Thank you Tyler. 👍🏻
Thanks! -Owen
25:25 Vibration frequency
25:33 Be attached to the creator not the creation
33:57 You gotta wake up
51:40 It is hard to realize what you are seeing
What you discussed in this video was especially powerful for me. Thank you Owen
18:40
My sponsor tells me that relationships are just miracle grow for character defects. And I can tell you, after getting cheated on for the second time by someone who “loves me”. This is the fucking truth. It hurts to hear, yet it’s also incredibly liberating
This one is making me emotional. You are amazing Owen.
Thanks, and remember to keep becoming more alpha. And remember to both 1) choose better, but more important 2) BE better. When you're totally on top of your life and emotions, and obviously in abundance where you don't need someone but choose to be with them out of many options, they stick around a lot more consistently -Owen
Thank you for sharing. My own expirience was a fantastice one for this period of 20 years....Like a love addict....
Great video Owen. I’m enjoying the process that is the journey of my life ✨🏝 🙏🏼
Common thread in every video. Go out. Go out , go out, the fear is the reason you wanna do it. … fear is the gate keeper to the soul. Embrace it or die, that simple.
Preach brother. Very thankful for you mentoring the masses with motivation, communication, and spiritualism much needed in our world. I've heard and met many mentors but your insights resonate with me the most.
Side note: Go stay at Pagosa Springs, CO to visit Wolf Creek CO Ski Area its a hidden gem. Hoping to have you film some content there.
Okay thank you for the recommendation!!!!! On the list -Owen
thanks owen, it's been about executing and aparting the clouds the marathon continues #tmc💗💓
Infantilisation feeds victimology . Using the term filters is helpful . Thanks for this great video
It does! I teach my sons out of that mindset daily -Owen
@@OwenCookFreeTour I will never be able to thank you enough . Lets start with : thank you . Your kids looks happy as sh't btw . Nice job Dad!!
great stuff Owen. you're refining all that you've learned over the past few decades really well
Thanks, ya sharpening the sword -Owen
Amazing talk! Owen just keeps getting awesomer and awesomer 🙌✨
Excellent timing I needed to watch this. Thanks Owen!
Thanks! -Owen
I remember when there was a girl that I considered a "soulmate" actually I am glad I don't have contact with her anymore, because I felt I always had to have my guards up, and always appear alpha, and I would get quite aggresive if a guy would do something I would consider disrespectful around her.
A meditation practice helps with recognizing your thoughts and their origins. Related to the part at 42:35
You can learn to observe the thinking mind.
Owen, amazing content. I have noticed in past vids you sort of hold back getting too spiritual in topic or always warn the audience that your about to get a bit woo woo, in case people will disengage or something. Dont hold back on it, it is what the world is lacking and if you are going to win the war against good Vs evil, we need to be armed witj spirituality
Thank you brotha at my point in the journey I really needed to hear this
That was a real gem, definitely gonna rewatch that one.
Appreciate it -Owen
This was amazing, thank you!
Aw hell yeah🔥🔥🔥
Thanks! -Owen
I just came learn some social skills
You came to the right place
unbelievable insights man. much love
Amazing summary of mine and probably most of our journey with this type of self improvement 👏🏼
Fantastic, thank you! -Owen
Good stuff Owen!
Appreciate it! -Owen
He’s right. Love being in a committed relationship but social skills definitely atrophy as you spend most of your time with partner instead of dating, parties and socialising. Pro’s and cons to both. My social skills were razor sharp when I was single, way less now thanks to relationship and covid home working.
GOD BLESS YOUUUUUU
Man. This one hit different, bro.
I had such a great time at this event! -Owen
@@OwenCookFreeTour There was something so urgent, intimate and mystical about this particular one. I'm back home on the journey, Owen. You're a star. Thank you
I'm going to do whatever it takes to get this area of my life handled.
15:17 : Literally just had this happen. Idk what even happened. We'd been talking for 8 months and all of a sudden she ghosts me...But lately I'd started thinking if I just date this chick I won't have to go out and talk to new people anymore and I can just relax... Also can totally see the soulmate myth leading to self harm.
39:00 ego is the obstacle!
I haven't watched RSD videos in almost 10 years
i stopped following it back then as it focused on the outer game stuff vs inner work and I got hung up on "making my next set last 3 seconds instead of 2" and I found another dude who showed me how to start on inner work and I thought a lot of the other stuff (minus Julien) was cringy but coming back to this after so long
There were a lot of solid points and I took like 2-3 pages of notes through the video and then sent it to a few friends as well... this is wild, RSD is woke now lmao
I could get into a long discussion about the 30 topics you've skillfully weaved into this impromptu speech. All of it amazing but what's stuck out is how much is it that you may be filtering yourself to US and what sorts of things you can't just say in a straightforward way.
One of those things I sense is when you mentioned the thoughts we have not being our own but could be some structure that implants those thoughts into our minds to preserve itself. Almost like some sort of psychic parasite. Something about that resonates a lot. Just thought I'd share
Thank you bro, the upcoming video series I've been slaving away at for 2 years is going to present this in fine combed detail. I'm on video 46 out of 52, but lots of editing to do once it's done as well. It starts going very deep into this about halfway through the series, in videos I shot in Savannah and New Orleans, and builds on it from there -Owen
@@OwenCookSelfHelp Wow! Can't wait to watch it. Keep up the good work. I can feel my parasite growing fearful.
So much value in this one
My hero
Appreciate it! -Owen
TOP TIER, i feels like I wanna watch it again and again like the blueprint and the other stuff to not overhear anything.
only wish there was more of it, since i wasnt there :-(
- much love :-)
Nice, try to come to a live one sometime if you can! -Owen
Late to the game here, I think my g.f. is extremely co-dependent, and me I shut down shes coming to me with her problems, cleaning my room like over cleaning it. She's starting to come out of co-dependent I think maybe me to, it's a long story. Last night and alot she will say "you say things to me that MAKE ME FEEL BAD" I say things to her when she's coming to me emotionaly and I don't know what to say. Example she said she didn't feel well, last night, so I said maybe you should lay down and read a book. I think she was binge watching t.v. or something before this, she then said don't judge me your projecting your insecurities about wasting time on me, you said things to me that Make me Feel bad. I've never in my life told someone that something they said they made me feel a certain way, it's because she needs to approval I guess that it somehow makes her feel bad in her head. I'm just trying to live my life. I really believe she things these types of co-dependent behaviors is how a relationship is supposed to be. I've magically given her an out, turns out I'm not on the lease, she asked me if maybe I should leave in June, I think she's growing some balls maybe? I don't feel like I can have any privacy at home / the apartment. She's emotionally intense alot, and when she comes to me with this, it stresses me worries me and I just want to blank out and escape, if I focus on being their she will just keep going I can't save her I don't want to, I should of just gotten out when I first knew about this. She also keeps bringing up that I've lied to her about doing drugs and many many things in the past as some type of fuel for these emotional therapy sessions I have to sit through, when in my head I'm thinking... Shouldn't I be working on building my future, and I'm thinking for her, should she be doing those goals she talks about, she has a bunch of clothes and things she got at a thrift store, she needs to sell them and list them on eBay etc. Etc. But she delays it plays the I can't do it it's to hard, goes to work, comes home watches t.v. and cries to me about how she can't get ahead, and then gets made at me at night for not "being their for her" she will not take constructive feedback, I need to approach this better, see another day now where I'm thinking about her on my day off. It's crazy. I should leave in June.
Did you leave?
Thank you
Felt inspired to do a little creative writing riff on these concepts. Bit of a dystopian spin. Enjoy.
We didn’t worry much about the people losing their minds. We didn’t worry much about anything until it was too late. And to be fair, watching people lose their minds is ultimately what started us worrying. We should have worried sooner. We should have worried more. Losing minds is one thing. Losing souls is another.
It’s not all grim though. We at least had the resources and connectivity to find each other. Made a weird tribe out of it, started spotting each other around, started learning how to spot each other, then making deals with each other, kicking ass and making names. So yeah, there’s an upside. There’s a fucking UPSIDE. It’s fun.
But those lost souls are the downside, and could be our downfall if we don’t reach them in time. Massive bummer. Every one of them yields the drivers seat nearly every time. They’ve yielded it for so long they don’t know how to be anything but a passenger. They might as well have a carseat.
And they have tribes too. My god do they have tribes. Where our tribe is structured to collaborate, theirs are structured to compete. A culture of need and chasing and bickering on and on. And that’s the sad reality.
The funny part is they spend half their energy obsessing that we’re the “Elite” tribe and why that’s a problem. Our Elite tribe, such as it were, isn’t looking for problems. We’re solution biased. We only present a problem insofar as our worldview threatens the existence of theirs. But did the MacBook threaten the Apple 2? It’s not that hard to upgrade. When you find and establish access to a better version of yourself, to the REAL version of yourself, you’re in the club baby. Don’t sweat it. We’ll spot you. And you won’t wait to be spotted.
See, we never called ourselves the “Elite.” Y’all did. We’re the most welcoming tribe on planet earth - just take the wheel and you’re in. A simple benchmark, no?
Perhaps not. Our tribe’s population isn’t growing at an encouraging rate, if it’s growing at all. Soon we’ll lose more souls to the ever more immersive, and ever more normalized, virtual cocoons.
So all in all, the state of our tribe is strong af. The state of the world is alarming. We hope to see you here soon.
Amazing Speech tyler.
Thank you! -Owen
Love the Kobe mentions 💯
Extraordinary!
Thank you ! -Owen
Amazing OC, thanks for the time, energy and passion you put into creating this video and for the years of research you’ve put in! Really good one.
Another classic.
awesome lecture as always!!!
Appreciate it bro -Owen