what if you can become everything you wanted to be?
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- Опубліковано 18 тра 2024
- yeah aging is worse than death. it truly is when you think about it. i always knew that time will pass and how things will be different. i just learned to accept it but i then thought about how different i would've felt if i wasn't changing for the better - and what would have happened if i was not so self reflective. i thought about the other version of me - the unhealed one and what she would've been like and it was horrifying to think about.
hence i made this video at 1am in the morning. i sleep early these days so it was considered late for me lol. so excuse me if during some clips i was very "emotionless" looking - i was just in auto mode and talking aloud to whatever comes to me head lol.
anyways i hope you guys enjoyed this video and i hope this one gave you a different outlook as well i love you all so much.
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Sooo true, that “ik you wanna die well lucky you, you’re going to” mentality helped me so much.
That’s sad that it helped you but also not cuz it’s true -
i stayed up till 6am from scrolling on my phone and only slept 4 hours 😭 this makes me feel bad about myself and i don’t know how to improve
Just try to do little by little. Sleep at 5am then 4am then 3am etc. or listen to your body when you feel tired and go to sleep. Maybe try something else to fall asleep to like reading or spinning until ur dizzy.
Sleep should be your red line , it's the door to all physical illnesses , if you can't afford health issues , SLEEP .
This was so me so i started staying up whole day and went to sleep at 6 pm then slowly extended it to 10 pm-11pm and i automatically wake up early give this a few days!! Coming from a person who went to bedt at 7:30 am❤
It’s okay! Just do better next time!
try to delete social media and see how life will be, I started this challenge with myself a few days ago and I felt free, I slept well, and I have now the energy to complete all my schoolwork...... and I'm gonna complete this challenge to be honest cuz i start feeling myself again (btw I'm obsessed with socials so ofc it wasn't easy to delete the whole platforms) but trust me it works, just try it for a few days and then when there's no tiktok & ig .... u will be able to get ur life back, and ofc ur sleep schedule too. and then ur screen time will be less (●'◡'●)
Stumbling across your channel is one of the best things I've come across on the internet.
Same ❤
I know.
I'm probably one of your oldest subscribers. I'm 61 years old. I'm still working on myself. Your video brought up so many good points ( even though it was a little chaotic - but I actually enjoyed that!) - and yes, you ARE definitely mature for your age. I was such a CHILD at 23, 24. Yikes. I have improved, but I am still not fully the person I would like to be. I was "retired early" by corporate america, bounced around a while working for myself and decided to leave the country to have a who-knows-what final chapter in another country (Portugal). I am here with my two cats. I've made friends here and am trying hard to learn the (very difficult) language. Working on oneself is a lifetime commitment I think unless you are one of the lucky ones who gets life figured out - or reaches some state of enlightenment. Your videos are very comforting and very insightful and help me to think about my own path. Thank you for the great content.
I’m so very proud of you!
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Well I am pretty sure many people tried to dissapoint you or you maybe had problems with yourself but honestly you can tell that I am so proud of you and remember that you're enough 💗
Ur channel is like a therapy to me , I’m 19 and i live with a (very) strict parents , I spent most of my life at home doing nothing but pleasing them , I’m not allowed to have friends or go out to anywhere not even with them , i never sat in a cafe or went to the cinema, I feel like i have no independence, no character , cuz they didn’t let me try anything at all or even let me communicate with people other than those they chose, i feel so much behind compared to the other people in my age , BUT I decided that I will build my own life, character and mindset BY MYSELF , luv u ❤️🩹
I'm 17 and everything you've said I've felt as well. Being able to not go anywhere even school events like prom or even do anything and being compared and not being able to be enough for my strict parents. But resonating to this video and this whole channel has given me therapy and motivation.
I recommend watching Tam Kaur's videos! She says a lot of useful tips, that can help. Not a sugar-coated one. and she made a video about how to cope with strict parents.
GOOD LUCK!!
@@naviineait feels warm to know that someone live like me , but don’t give up we still have a whole life waiting for us, and I promise one day everything will change for good 🫂❤️🩹
I'm 20 and your comment really resonated with me. I really hope things get better for us all
this whole entire video feels like a poem holy shit via you're amazing
I agree but I faced it. I overcame it. It is an accomplishment.
4:58 via was definitely being fr
This video is literally such a huge wake up call ohh my word 😭😭
Literally needed to hear this
I am so glad that I found this channel.
It feels nice to know "There's gonna be tomorrow even if I'm not here." 7:30 "Time is going to pass either way so you might as well become the person you like." ❤
Honestly these videos of yours help reduce my anxiety so much. I'm 29 and feel like I've just waited for a good portion of my twenties for things to "get good". Like some miraculous event would happen and suddenly my entire life would be miraculously changed. No, it takes effort and I don't think that clicked for me until around 2017-2018 when I started my personal development journey. You're already so wise. Please keep making this kind of content (as long as it brings you joy). It genuinely helps.
“If our greatest fear is to sink away alone and unremembered, the brutality that time will inflict upon each of us will always run stronger than any river’s murky waves - Miguel Syjuco
for the 500k celebration i really think that sitting in ur room like cozy vibes and answering qsts is a good idea
i turned 17 this monday and i can't belive that i've made it. you inspire me so much, thank you for being here
Happy birthday 🫶🫶
bro i missed her so much
"If that is love, then that is not how I want to be loved" this hit me harder than anything because I'm 16 and every single time I feel hurt by my family, I just go "oh that's because they love me" but sometimes I wonder if that's just what they believe.
In my late 20s now and this is sooooo real. It sucks seeing the time pass, feeling yourself age, and knowing that you’ve become someone you don’t like. Luckily I caught myself on time and made choices that would put me back on the path towards becoming the person I want to be.
Also seeing your parents as role models and feeling the veil drop as you grow up? So real. It genuinely felt like losing a religion.
Its crazy and comforting to grow up feeling the way you're describing and then finding out that you're not the only one who has only felt guilt, shame, broken, unloveable, like they ruin everything, like they might not ever be normal, etc. Thank you for talking about your experience, you're helping a lot of people :)
Hey, I just wanted to say that I'm very happy I found your channel. I am a teenager right now and your videos give me a lot of comfort. You made me realize that it's normal to struggle in life and that it is okay to not feel okay at times. I've been worrying about my future lately, but I realized that that is alright and that I need to focus just as much on the present and enjoy this moment as much as I can, since the future is unpredictable. So, thank you. ♥♥♥
YOUR LITREALLY SO PRETTY ILY
My family makes me think that I don’t deserve anything, and now I’m struggling to change that
This is my weekly therapy session ❤
I am feeling so down cause I feel like I’m letting my younger self down, and feel like all the people around me are achieving the goals that I wanted myself to achieve….
I really don’t know how to be okay with myself again? I don’t know how to feel proud of my self again
don't compare yourself to others. everyone goes through life at their own pace with each their own resources and that's okay.
I think it's so beautiful when you say you're protecting your younger self, the child, from bad things to happen. I feel like I do the same thing for my younger self, the teenager, I want to protect her from everything, especially from bad people. She deserves to be happy and proud of where we are now
„How can you possibly do life wrong when my life is my life“ 👏🏾 love this
I'm becoming 22 in a few weeks. Throught my entire life I have built up so much anger and hate towards myself that it wrecked me mentally and physically towards the end of my teenage years. Right now I'm figuring things out, and your video translates EXACTLY how I feel. Thank you so much for making this video ♡
I see a lot of myself in your younger self. I've always had a guilty feeling whenever I would do something for myself such as going out with friends. When my best friend had invited me to spend the summer holiday with her family I declined the offer and I said I couldn't because I had to save money. But in truth, I declined because I felt like it was not for me, like I was not allowed to experience this. Lately I have noticed I always have this feeling of not deserving good experiences that can bring me joy. I've always felt like I was only allowed to do what I was told to do, what would benefit others. So now I have a hard time doing things that would only benefit me, I see them as uncomfortable. Now that I have finally realized that I can change so thank you, your words really helped me.
This is so true, I'm still young but im turning the person i just do not wanted to be and i finally realized so I'm going to start my journey to be the best version I've never known of myself.
I love you so much Via you actually motivated me since the beginning.❤❤
I honestly like the way you view the world, it's very interesting to hear you talk about death in a positive light. Keep up the good videos!!
F 💣 s are out of control. Thanks for your honesty and vulnerability.
You literally talked about everything I have on my mind its crazy! Living with the trauma from my parents as well since I literally was their marriage therapist since I'm a child and felt like I'm the one who's holding them together so I have to sacrifice myself. Now with 30 years I realized that literally everything was wrong and I was never myself and just like you I try every single day to be someone I love to see in the mirror and to be proud of. Thank you so much for sharing this it gives me so much motivation and makes me feel less alone ❤🥺
ANOTHER GOOD DAY WHEN VIA POSTS LETS GOO WOOOOOOOO❤❤❤
I'm typically a silent watcher but I feel compelled to extend my gratitude. You put me in such a good mindset for the days and I value and adore your perspective of life~ Thank you for making these!
Omg you litterally don't have an idea of how much this video just helped me.
I was talking about this with my psychologist yesterday and the part that hit me the most was the "you don't have to be the best, just become a better you" and that's so so true omg
Thank you for this video, I feel a little better now about all the shit that goes through my mind almost all the time.
Maybe I should just start living. Finally.
I wanna see you answer questions sitting down in a comfy place with you having tea (or anything you want tbh) and have a good time with us.
I feel so much better after watching this video. Thank you and take care❤
5:00 I am so grateful that you posted this video!! thank you so much Via, something happened today and for the first time I felt like, "no, wanting to end my life shouldn't be the answer.Just because someone doesn't feel that I can have emotions and problems, doesn't mean that I don't have them at all." I am here for myself.
You have no idea how much I needed this. I’ve been in this viscous cycle that I don’t deserve to be happy because I’m a horrible person and succumbed to my past mistakes. However, when you said “You are going to be with yourself for the rest of your life”, it really put into perspective that I could either ruminate on my mistakes and conclude that I’m a bad person or that I could work towards becoming a person that I could be proud of. I have a long journey ahead but at least I have a starting point with an end goal. Thank you so much for this video.
there's a quote that i've been trying to follow lately and that has REALLY helped me as someone that had a big hard time loving herself just a few months ago. "treat yourself like you would treat the person you love the most". it helps me in not being too rough on myself, in not putting myself down when i do something that i don't like, it helps me in forgiving myself and in letting myself rest for once when i'm too stressed that it's affecting me mentally. or in just giving myself that little push to do something, you know?
i really reccommend this to anyone having a hard time with self love and treating themselves
Congratulations on 500K subs Via.I remember last year I was so happy when you got 20k & was always hoping your channel would grow big.I'm so happy it's happening❤🎉
Congrats for 500k! ✨✨I’m so grateful for your channel, i feel seen because of your videos and i really appreciate it, so thank you so much. I love you 💗🫂
this is the video i've been waiting for, thank you Via, and love you
I am literally so happy that there are people like you on UA-cam! Thanks for being open about your feelings,it makes me feel not alone every time.
one of the best videos i watched in a long time. thank you
you best girl 😭
thank you, this video is really helpful❤️
Via I appreciate you so much. These videos are truly inspiring to me because I suddenly feel like journaling and becoming a better version of myself lol. tysm
congrats on 500k via !! you deserve it sm, my favourite person on the internet
not this video specifically but all of your journal entries have helped me a lot with understanding things that bother me and i've found it really comforting that there is someone out there that is confident enough to say all of these things and be so realistic about life. so i wanted to say thank you sm for making these, and I've been really grateful to have found someone like you who openly speaks about these topics. so ty a lot and im very appreciative
I just wanna say I love you.... You are saving me each day .... Helping me into my self reflections, healing, analysing, and so much stuffs... Watching you is therapy..... Thank you for putting so much effort into your videos .... The way you are making me accept myself more and more, I can't thank you enough... Extremely grateful for your content.... I hell love your journals.
This is so true, the earlier you make peace and fully accept yourself the better life will be.
you said every thing i wanna say thank you to be here we love you via
Genuinely thank you so much for posting this and actually being real or honest cause not a lot of people do that or talk about this. You have no idea how much this helped me i was thinking about killing myself like 2 hours ago ok but i cant cause i have parents but their also the reason why i want to just disappear. This video helped so much thank you your awesome ✨💕
Your videos always comes up when it's needed to me the most. Love everything you do. Everything I feel you put it into words and I'm really grateful of that
Congrats on 500k!!!! A Q&A sounds awesome idea! Thanks for all the videos u make for us, and ill be looking forward the next one!💚🌻
didnt think i needed this type of talk :' you are so down to earth, AND i wish you the best of everything bb
you're videos are my inspiration in life Via, thank you. really mean it
this is the reality check i needed, i love listening to your videos via💌 thank u for always speaking up about stuff i would never have known i needed
thanks for another video, via! you always release them just as i need to hear whatever you talk about XD tysm, i appreciate it
you articulate your thoughts and advice in a way that brings me a lot of comfort. thank you for sharing and also love your content!!
Thank youu so much for this!! Congratulations with 500k
this genuinely came at the perfect time. i like to imagine that you're me in a few years letting me know that ive gotten to a better place in my life. i just relate to like all of ur vids so deeply.
I never thought i could relate to a UA-camr/ stranger so much. I relate to much its honestly so healing to finally see that im not alone
This was exactly what I needed to hear, thank you so much Via, your words are life changing
These sit-talk videos are soo gold to me, like everything you say puts suchhh sense into me. It's like i want these videos summarised into pictures and have them pasted on my walls and that isn't even possible but these are so so so precious.
Love seeing your videos like this, they always seem to appear when I need to hear this shit the most. Thank you for sharing these small parts of your life and experiences!
i was feeling so sad so this came at the best time 😊 thank you sm Via ❤️
your monologue videos always feels like some kind of art, so thankful to hear these thoughts
she's so real for this
tysm via this really helps a lot
missed watching your videos via😭 i just came back and this channel is already at 500k subs! you deserve all the love girl, keep going!❤
i literally love ur diary/talk vids so much, they're very comforting! pls post more of them
Everytime, when I see you and listen to you. I feel it so much and I am so happy to see that you talk about things that are not spoken. Thank you for being there for us ❣️
I love how you spoke so freely about this!! Because of that it’s literally so easy to understand what you mean by the topic of your video - thank you for your motivation via
Though I’m still young and have not finished growing it’s just so nice to hear that someone older than me have went through something similar after every video I feel so healed😊
i love you via, thank you for being you ❤
You're the older sister i needed but never had, that part where you were speaking to parents echoed my very thoughts. Thank you via and its so comforting to know that there are people out there who might understand me ❤️🌸
Thank you for this Via! Many people need this kind of talk and I'm sure it was very healing for you to speak your mind
omgg via the thumbnail is super pretty!! also, thanks for being so real with us. :))
i've been feeling really inadequate and lost in the past couple of months and i feel like i've watched this video at a perfect time in my life. it's so comforting and i hope to one day be able to fully accept this outlook on life because i tend to get very anxious and worried even though i don't want to be and so life hasn't been as enjoyable as i know it can be. sometimes it's easy to think i'm too old to start something new, or begin again even though i'm only 20 and that can be really overwhelming. i just wanted to say thank you for sharing this video, via! you're really inspirational and i love the way you express yourself and edit your videos, i look forward to your next one!
Thank you so much sister i literally needed this ❤
Hi Via , Happy Sunday ✨☀️ loved the video today and definitely brought on the motivation ! Thank you 🌸 Have an amazing rest of your week !
thank you Via. this video was healing
tysm for making this video via!!! i've been struggling a lot w my mental health lately and this video really helped me :3
thank you so much via for this truly, im currently trying to escape unsafe environment and this helped so much, you always know whats on mind, congratulations on 500k, we so thankful for you and your beautiful contents
i very much needed to hear that 🥺 i’m cheering for us all on our healing journey ❤
i really loved this video Via !! i use the "time will pass either way" mindset a lot, both for little things (like getting out of bed, studying etc) and for bigger things, like u said in the video. bc honestly, time WILL pass and we should make the most out of it. thank u for being so open and real w us
the way i just stared into your eyes and started cryingg.. man the comfort you give me i love you so much
Hey Viaa you really helped me alot thank you so much for putting so much effort and creating a safe space for us and to heal ourselves. free therapy and giving advice that change our perspective of something negative to something positive I love youuuuu Viaaa❤❤❤
Needed this so much today !! Thank you for this video girl ❤️❤️
thank you honestly u said the things i was always thinking about and its crazy how much i could resonate with this. definitely taking a lot of things and words away from this. ily have a great day too!
Gurl. I love you! There's a lottt of things you've taught me and you've taught me to love myself and be my best friend and you're srsly my big sis ❤ love you, Via!
💗💗💗 ME GIGGLING LIKE A CHILD WHENEVER SHE POSTS (MISSED YOU MY GIRL)
Via thank you, thank you, thank you. You are definitely helping me heal little by little. Love u girl ❤
Your videos always come at the right time! I’ve been living my life not improving and feeling the way you have felt in this video but I plan to start working in myself starting this summer since I’m going to start college next year and by then, I can start to have my own independence! 😊
Via is so amazing and talented.Thank you via for helping me mentally💗🎀
whenever you post i just stop what i do and watch your video, it's really like a therapy for me.also please don't stop making these deep conversation videos, they're my favorites i just love them. it's like having a real conversation with you
Helloooo! Okay first of all THANK YOU SOO FREAKING MUCH. I have been here since a long time ig, I'm a teenager and my parents aren't "bad" but they do not let me live like a teenager. They don't respect my emotional well being and I'm fighting with my mom almost everyday. It's very hard to be happy but I'm so happy that I found you! TYSM VIA!! You don't know how much you made be believe in myself.
ILYSMM
Your essence knows no greed , but it also knows this is a greedy world to the core 🏹 thank you for sharing your wisdom with us , you are an old soul in a young earth life 🖤🖤
honestly no words can express how much you make me feel seen and understood 🥰 thank you so much for this video via 🤗
This vid popped up on my fyp just exactly when I needed the most..Thankk you soo much for making thiss
Girl you dont know how much I needed this video, thankyou for sharing 😭💓
I didn't expect to cry this much when I started watching this but this is so relatable.