It's all about experience. If a black man had bad times with black women than he has every right to look elsewhere. Ironically if a black woman does this most members of the Black Community don't say nothing. The double standard is real. Great video. Keep them coming Lar.
Thats really the crux of it. Emotionally bw are given a pass but even other bm try and come down on bm hence this double down acceptabilty of bm while we let the women do whatever
@Na ab I'm not saying that the word isn't popularly used. What I'm saying is that when black men are seen with non black women their thrown with degrading terms way more than black women. The double standard is real.
Excellent topic. For some of these Sistas, it will NEVER BE OK.....it will NEVER BE ENOUGH. So I will date whomever the hell I want and wants me.....or not. Regardless of who likes it or not. Great commentary.
The right to first refusal...bw want the right to refuse BM in their prime but have him in stasis when they're at their worst and used up. For you to move on and be happy, removes you as their 3rd tier back up. Harem mentality... Like an old coupon, they still want to redeem it, but mad when they can't because it's expired.
If a White woman makes you happy? Cool, If a Hispanic woman makes you happy? Cool, If an Asian woman makes you happy? Cool. My thing is go for whoever makes you happy. I really think we shouldn't listen to what others think if/when we date out. There's always that moment where we weren't even wanted in the first place. Go for who gives you a shot and makes you happy .
7:33 - 7:44 "I've approached 300 dark skin woman none of them want me" A lot of dark skin women turn a lot of dudes down there same complexion due to self-hatred and wanting kids to be lighter than them. Growing up as a kid in the 90s, for the most part here in the Midwest at least, if a brown dark skin girl was anything remotely close to another man her complexion, she wasn't giving him any play. When these same brown dark skinned black women get older they disguise and hide behind the same dead old rhetoric, dark skin men never wanted me. You're meant to like your fellow black person in whatever shade that they come in genuineness, not because you want to alter your children's skin tone due to your own self-hatred.
He stay with the old school jams in the background. I feel you with this video frfr. I don't do the friend zone thing. Just can't. Happened too many times. Not being biased, However I don't approach light skinned women cause I took waaaaaaaaay too many L's with them. Every man has their own personal number when they say enough is enough. Another good video. 💯
Great topic, I think it goes to what a guys resources are. If he got it together his ass is in for a rough ride bw Will always ride that guy because they feel what is his should be thiers and should not go to anyone else. But if a guy struggled then they let his ass go asap.
James Phillips because black men were originally brought to this country from Africa to be beasts of burden. Disposable utilities to be used and and abused, then discarded when we were no longer of any use. Fast forward 500 some odd years later, ain’t a damn thing changed.
Bruh, u sooooooo (AS USUAL) on point w this one! I just turned 49 a few week ago n I'm thoroughly frustrated, agitated n sic n tired of being sic n tired of the BS from women especially those who I have to 'settle' w who end up being even bigger disappointments!!!!!!!!!!
This is the truth. My whole life I have helped everyone and at what point is enough enough? Answer: AS A BLACK MAN IN THE EYES OF EVERYONE = NEVER. So help yourself Black Men and forget them. Save yourself Black Men. They will be fine. Leave them all be and advance your goals, dreams, and interests.
my motto is if you reject me don't get mad when others accept me cuz you didn't want me for being me so babygirl babygirl let me be free to wallow wit those who give me glee as far as i can see.
It seems that they don’t actually see black men as humans if you ask me 🤷♂️ more like they see us as property in which would mean they don’t give a damn about these questions you ask . ITS ABUSE .
Date who gonna treat u right. Bump what another mofo gotta say.. Most ppl are full of shittz and older you get its more and more. Get a pink and purple woman it dont matter as long as she fits you and yall both on same page.
Great video It's ok for men to have preferences and choose what's best for them except black men date who you loves and respects you most of these bw on UA-cam and social media are illogical and believe everything the media tells them about black men .
I dated females who I was attracted to and could careless about what others might have thought. I loss my virginity to a white girl when I was 19. However, I mostly had black girlfriends. I've had better experiences with Hispanic and Asian women; especially when approaching them. There were no head games, I just would strikeup a conversation then ask them out on a date. Currently, I am engaged to a beautiful Filipina. There is no exact number but after awhile, you realize that you have a lot to offer a single female and they should be appreciative that you approached. But no black women usually try to crush your manhood (ego) rather than saying no thank you when they are not interested.
I also think that you all should date whomever u want. After seeing numerous videos on Black You Tube, I'm realising what men mean when they complain about being miserable with their women. Many black women try to convince me that the men are lying, but from what I'm seeing in videos and comments, they're not. On the other hand though, some of us women are also friend zoned by you all as a result of you all being caught up with those very same women you're complaining about.
To be fair some of us are not mind readers and might end up friend zoning women not directly but indirectly. Me myself i get bored very easy, so the games and childish stuff turns me off very fast.
@@rodgerelledge4151 I'm friend zoned all the time because of what I stated in my last sentence. Basically the men aren't single due to them being "caught up" in other relationships, most of which they claim to be miserable in.
@@SirBrucie A man knows when he friend zones a girl....especially when he likes her but can't be in a relationship with her because he's miserably tied down with baby mama or a wife.
@@Mrs.T305 I dont know about the baby mama part, but um indirectly friend zoned women and noticing only after the fact. Sometimes women expect men to be mind readings and its annoying. If you like a guy just tell him, men get rejected all the time and have to live with it. The most he can say is no.
This sbm mature male , has experienced to much BS from BW, I have treated them with nothing but respect when I'm with them , but it's has been nothing but , trying to get something from you all the time , attitudes , bossy , no ambition ,and more , I gave up on them , I put my passport to good use in Bogota Columbia for 10 days with my sexy Latina , and I will be in Cartagena in February of 2019 with her , before she comes to the states in 2019,brothers get a passport .
You can date anyone, but remember the key person in every relationship is yourself. You have to at some point date based off character+hotness. It also depends on life goals, its enough when you get what you want.
They already do I was watching successful ladies live and she pulled up some of those lovely statistics 200 million black men have married outside their race. I don't care good for them I hope they're all happy. I don't own a single black man and nor does he own me do what you will with your life.
I think it's great more black men and women are dating outside of their race. I'm all for it because I don't date black men so why would I be mad if they do the same! Color shouldn't matter. If you feel like you're treated better dating someone of another race then go for it....I sure did and my life is alot easier. Instead of always complaining about black women I tell black me to just date someone of another race. Use that complaining negative energy to find whoever it is that makes you happy :)
That's why women have low interest in black men. Black men are immature and resort to name calling when someone states their opinion. @@carltonbanksiii2442
Being tired dont mean you're doing the right thing. Been on plenty dates with regular dudes to millibars doing the same BS that assures no second date. Example -being on the phone the entire time -not being able to hold conversation -attempting to get physical where it's not solicited (kisses hugs, rubs ect) -ordering too much liquor and forcing liquor on the other person -arkward conversations that scream oh hell no -stunting -overdoing the compliments Ect... I'm just saying brotha. How many times do a woman have to say one more night waisted?
@@larmovement would you agree theres good women paying for the behavior of other women? And given theres less men physically available seems women pay the most for the behavior of other women. Men can have kids into thier 70s can I do that? So if I have to pay for what others do I pay more unlike you LAR. I mean I get what your saying, but if men can say to women they have to be patient and not be reckless regardless of anything at what point are men expected to do the same? We tell women all the time they have poor dating choices and need to do better. What do men have to do to be the better choice? Dont say simply get money. Imagine a millionaire that has no redeeming quality outside of finances...🙄 point is women are friendzoned when they wife material, women have been the search to no avail, used, women are trusted too. When do men say "you know what, that's enough"?
@@larmovement if the subject was unique to men I would agree but how can I speak on men when women go through the same thing? You said men pay more but in reality women pay more if they dont find a proper mate. So lm not trying to shift it to women just saying just not seeing how this is a Male issue. .
This video makes the assumption that with IR you are guaranteed improvement or success. This is not true. The same could also apply to BW, how many times do BW they have to x,y,z before switching and being called a bedwench. The answer is simple, BM and BW are free to date who they want but neither can or should expect support including financial support for these unions from other black ppl. Just as they are free to choose who they want, other black ppl are free to choose not to support them.
@@larmovement I think the main time BW or anyone complains about who BM date is when they date interracially due to have prevalent this issue is in the black community. I will re-listen to it, to find out what other unjustified complaints are made about BM's dating choices. The answer is still BM can date whoever they want but can't dicatate anyone's support for their dating choices since they too are exercising their right to chose.
It's all about experience. If a black man had bad times with black women than he has every right to look elsewhere. Ironically if a black woman does this most members of the Black Community don't say nothing. The double standard is real. Great video. Keep them coming Lar.
Thats really the crux of it. Emotionally bw are given a pass but even other bm try and come down on bm hence this double down acceptabilty of bm while we let the women do whatever
@@EdwardAndersonspeaks So true
@Na ab that name isn't thrown around as much as Uncle Tom or Sell out. Whether one agrees or disagrees is on them.
@Na ab I'm not saying that the word isn't popularly used. What I'm saying is that when black men are seen with non black women their thrown with degrading terms way more than black women. The double standard is real.
@Na ab I couldn't agree more with you on that
Excellent topic. For some of these Sistas, it will NEVER BE OK.....it will NEVER BE ENOUGH. So I will date whomever the hell I want and wants me.....or not. Regardless of who likes it or not. Great commentary.
You know the answer. There is no threshold. We never do enough to get a pass.
The right to first refusal...bw want the right to refuse BM in their prime but have him in stasis when they're at their worst and used up. For you to move on and be happy, removes you as their 3rd tier back up. Harem mentality... Like an old coupon, they still want to redeem it, but mad when they can't because it's expired.
Precisely
*Mic drop*
Do y'all really believe that??? 😅😅😅
Facts.
I like that coupon analogy, but that is the straight truth.
Black men should date whomever makes them happy. Forget what black women have to say; their opinion on your relationships is 100% irrelevant
My thoughts exactly and that goes for the simps that dick police other black men too.
If a White woman makes you happy? Cool, If a Hispanic woman makes you happy? Cool, If an Asian woman makes you happy? Cool. My thing is go for whoever makes you happy. I really think we shouldn't listen to what others think if/when we date out. There's always that moment where we weren't even wanted in the first place. Go for who gives you a shot and makes you happy .
Thank you as always for voicing truth and wisdom.
*Lar* , this was golden 💯 .
7:33 - 7:44 "I've approached 300 dark skin woman none of them want me"
A lot of dark skin women turn a lot of dudes down there same complexion due to self-hatred and wanting kids to be lighter than them.
Growing up as a kid in the 90s, for the most part here in the Midwest at least, if a brown dark skin girl was anything remotely close to another man her complexion, she wasn't giving him any play.
When these same brown dark skinned black women get older they disguise and hide behind the same dead old rhetoric, dark skin men never wanted me.
You're meant to like your fellow black person in whatever shade that they come in genuineness, not because you want to alter your children's skin tone due to your own self-hatred.
He stay with the old school jams in the background. I feel you with this video frfr. I don't do the friend zone thing. Just can't. Happened too many times. Not being biased, However I don't approach light skinned women cause I took waaaaaaaaay too many L's with them. Every man has their own personal number when they say enough is enough. Another good video. 💯
Nigga do be jammin doe
Great topic, I think it goes to what a guys resources are. If he got it together his ass is in for a rough ride bw Will always ride that guy because they feel what is his should be thiers and should not go to anyone else. But if a guy struggled then they let his ass go asap.
James Phillips because black men were originally brought to this country from Africa to be beasts of burden. Disposable utilities to be used and and abused, then discarded when we were no longer of any use. Fast forward 500 some odd years later, ain’t a damn thing changed.
Bruh, u sooooooo (AS USUAL) on point w this one! I just turned 49 a few week ago n I'm thoroughly frustrated, agitated n sic n tired of being sic n tired of the BS from women especially those who I have to 'settle' w who end up being even bigger disappointments!!!!!!!!!!
This is the truth. My whole life I have helped everyone and at what point is enough enough?
Answer: AS A BLACK MAN IN THE EYES OF EVERYONE = NEVER.
So help yourself Black Men and forget them. Save yourself Black Men. They will be fine. Leave them all be and advance your goals, dreams, and interests.
I'll say this... when I've seen nothin' but disrepect from adolescence to adulthood... F'uk da bullshyt, you can't tell me shyt. I'm out🏃🏽💨💨
We gotta stop listening so damn much to other people about whats appropriate for our lives. Let the Haters Hate.
1up
my motto is if you reject me don't get mad when others accept me cuz you didn't want me for being me so babygirl babygirl let me be free to wallow wit those who give me glee as far as i can see.
It seems that they don’t actually see black men as humans if you ask me 🤷♂️ more like they see us as property in which would mean they don’t give a damn about these questions you ask . ITS ABUSE .
Everyone stay focusing on what black men are doing SMH
It takes the man enough time to commit to his own happiness, wherever he finds it.
Well said brother LAR
MY MAN!! That's the question.
I give no fucks! I will date anyone I want. SYSBM!
Date who gonna treat u right. Bump what another mofo gotta say.. Most ppl are full of shittz and older you get its more and more. Get a pink and purple woman it dont matter as long as she fits you and yall both on same page.
Great video It's ok for men to have preferences and choose what's best for them except black men date who you loves and respects you most of these bw on UA-cam and social media are illogical and believe everything the media tells them about black men .
I dated females who I was attracted to and could careless about what others might have thought. I loss my virginity to a white girl when I was 19. However, I mostly had black girlfriends.
I've had better experiences with Hispanic and Asian women; especially when approaching them. There were no head games, I just would strikeup a conversation then ask them out on a date. Currently, I am engaged to a beautiful Filipina.
There is no exact number but after awhile, you realize that you have a lot to offer a single female and they should be appreciative that you approached. But no black women usually try to crush your manhood (ego) rather than saying no thank you when they are not interested.
I also think that you all should date whomever u want. After seeing numerous videos on Black You Tube, I'm realising what men mean when they complain about being miserable with their women. Many black women try to convince me that the men are lying, but from what I'm seeing in videos and comments, they're not.
On the other hand though, some of us women are also friend zoned by you all as a result of you all being caught up with those very same women you're complaining about.
Im curious, how does a woman get put in the friend zone ? I can see if she wasnt attractive to the person she's chasing.
To be fair some of us are not mind readers and might end up friend zoning women not directly but indirectly. Me myself i get bored very easy, so the games and childish stuff turns me off very fast.
@@rodgerelledge4151
I'm friend zoned all the time because of what I stated in my last sentence. Basically the men aren't single due to them being "caught up" in other relationships, most of which they claim to be miserable in.
@@SirBrucie
A man knows when he friend zones a girl....especially when he likes her but can't be in a relationship with her because he's miserably tied down with baby mama or a wife.
@@Mrs.T305 I dont know about the baby mama part, but um indirectly friend zoned women and noticing only after the fact. Sometimes women expect men to be mind readings and its annoying. If you like a guy just tell him, men get rejected all the time and have to live with it. The most he can say is no.
Secret sex police...and the heart brigade which is an army against your passion and curiosity lol
This sbm mature male , has experienced to much BS from BW, I have treated them with nothing but respect when I'm with them , but it's has been nothing but , trying to get something from you all the time , attitudes , bossy , no ambition ,and more , I gave up on them , I put my passport to good use in Bogota Columbia for 10 days with my sexy Latina , and I will be in Cartagena in February of 2019 with her , before she comes to the states in 2019,brothers get a passport .
You can date anyone, but remember the key person in every relationship is yourself. You have to at some point date based off character+hotness. It also depends on life goals, its enough when you get what you want.
Absolutely, this is kind of topic more so aimed at shaming tactics.
They already do I was watching successful ladies live and she pulled up some of those lovely statistics 200 million black men have married outside their race. I don't care good for them I hope they're all happy. I don't own a single black man and nor does he own me do what you will with your life.
@larmovement Nope not all women get hollered at alot because the good ones are "boring" to guys until she is taken..
Let's see if you get hollered at today in this comment section? 😉
She's joking fam
lololollololol stop
@larmovement its the truth :)
I woman is only boring if she's not sensual, sexual or smart enough. Good/bad/single/not don't matter.
Question: Can black Women do the same?
No one shames or polices black women's dating choices anywhere close to what black men deal with, so your question is irrelevant.
The Back of the Classroom not true! Black Women are dragged for dating outside of the race.
I think it's great more black men and women are dating outside of their race. I'm all for it because I don't date black men so why would I be mad if they do the same! Color shouldn't matter. If you feel like you're treated better dating someone of another race then go for it....I sure did and my life is alot easier. Instead of always complaining about black women I tell black me to just date someone of another race. Use that complaining negative energy to find whoever it is that makes you happy :)
So you commented on what you thought the title meant. Because I predominately talked about us.
That's why women have low interest in black men. Black men are immature and resort to name calling when someone states their opinion. @@carltonbanksiii2442
vanessa vanessa no actually we have very high interest from other races of women. You need to level up
I've been leveled up that's why I don't waste time with black men. I am glad women of other races are interested in you. @@whfmantis
Being tired dont mean you're doing the right thing. Been on plenty dates with regular dudes to millibars doing the same BS that assures no second date. Example
-being on the phone the entire time
-not being able to hold conversation
-attempting to get physical where it's not solicited (kisses hugs, rubs ect)
-ordering too much liquor and forcing liquor on the other person
-arkward conversations that scream oh hell no
-stunting
-overdoing the compliments
Ect...
I'm just saying brotha. How many times do a woman have to say one more night waisted?
But you as a woman aren't paying for that behavior. We are. That's the difference.
@@larmovement would you agree theres good women paying for the behavior of other women? And given theres less men physically available seems women pay the most for the behavior of other women. Men can have kids into thier 70s can I do that? So if I have to pay for what others do I pay more unlike you LAR. I mean I get what your saying, but if men can say to women they have to be patient and not be reckless regardless of anything at what point are men expected to do the same?
We tell women all the time they have poor dating choices and need to do better. What do men have to do to be the better choice? Dont say simply get money. Imagine a millionaire that has no redeeming quality outside of finances...🙄 point is women are friendzoned when they wife material, women have been the search to no avail, used, women are trusted too. When do men say "you know what, that's enough"?
So basically I'm asking a question about men and the answer is what about women?
Did you pay for the date? If not stfu
@@larmovement if the subject was unique to men I would agree but how can I speak on men when women go through the same thing? You said men pay more but in reality women pay more if they dont find a proper mate. So lm not trying to shift it to women just saying just not seeing how this is a Male issue. .
This video makes the assumption that with IR you are guaranteed improvement or success. This is not true. The same could also apply to BW, how many times do BW they have to x,y,z before switching and being called a bedwench. The answer is simple, BM and BW are free to date who they want but neither can or should expect support including financial support for these unions from other black ppl. Just as they are free to choose who they want, other black ppl are free to choose not to support them.
I probably brought up IR dating for 15 seconds though. What were you listening to?
@@larmovement I think the main time BW or anyone complains about who BM date is when they date interracially due to have prevalent this issue is in the black community. I will re-listen to it, to find out what other unjustified complaints are made about BM's dating choices. The answer is still BM can date whoever they want but can't dicatate anyone's support for their dating choices since they too are exercising their right to chose.
omg is it really necessary to put your every thought on u tube. this discussion is boring and getting old .. what else is new??
What are the two videos that followed this one?
It's fresh and insightful...you can proceed to the exit door if it's that unbearable to you...
@@ariesone3221 I love looking at this dude I ain't going nowhere !!!! I just tell it like it is and sometimes people can't handle it !!!
You ain't saying shit though.
That's how UA-cam works