I grew up in a family where I had to do whatever was asked of me. if anybody asked me to help them with their chores I had to say yes and help them. so being around people feels dangerous because I feel like there's no way for me to enforce a boundary and they will take advantage of that.
Thank you mam...there is this numb feeling in my chest while I see a pattern inside of me whenever I start getting connected to someone. I have this fear that I displease my significant other. So that thought comes to life and then I act upon it. By going outside my relationship and essentially manifesting the very thing that I didn't want to happen. Anticipating the very consequences that if I did this...and therefore instead of communicating with my significant other what's the matter...I acted upon the very thing that I didn't want to happen...and I hated myself for it. Visa vee the authentic part of me and practice intension with my authenticity. In order to honor myself. My choices and are my decisions honoring God, my future significant other, or even myself. Does this thing make me happy? Yes. Then go for it and have zero regrets going toward that happiness.
many of the people watching this do not have the option to leave or set boundaries. there's a trahic assumption in the field that the abuses of childhood are magically over once a person reaches voting age. enmeshed families are fully capable of ensuring that legal and financial shackles absolutely prevent "reconsidering" if old protection mechanisms are still valid
It's very very tough, I felt emotionally/mentally broken, physically sick, financially broke, impossible to leave. Then a small window opened up, I flew and never returned. All the above got better. Leaving is a very very important step, it is the only sane option. Hope everyone finds their window..
I think if someone is doing this, they need to see how detrimental this is to their current relationships and how they got to this point in their lives with a more dramatic explanation. Your explanation is so mild that it loses some validity in the process.
I grew up in a family where I had to do whatever was asked of me. if anybody asked me to help them with their chores I had to say yes and help them. so being around people feels dangerous because I feel like there's no way for me to enforce a boundary and they will take advantage of that.
Yes ! Yes ! You heard me. Thank you 🙏 I compromise a little too much, but I am learning to be with the uncomfortable feelings that come up .
Thank you very much Madam. I came to know me much better
I love both the explanation and practical tips you gave, Sharon! Listening to my authentic self this year has been such powerful work.
I've been trying to establish some new boundaries, so this is great timing, thank you.
Thank you sweet lady..... You're a gem!
Thank you mam...there is this numb feeling in my chest while I see a pattern inside of me whenever I start getting connected to someone. I have this fear that I displease my significant other. So that thought comes to life and then I act upon it. By going outside my relationship and essentially manifesting the very thing that I didn't want to happen. Anticipating the very consequences that if I did this...and therefore instead of communicating with my significant other what's the matter...I acted upon the very thing that I didn't want to happen...and I hated myself for it. Visa vee the authentic part of me and practice intension with my authenticity. In order to honor myself. My choices and are my decisions honoring God, my future significant other, or even myself. Does this thing make me happy? Yes. Then go for it and have zero regrets going toward that happiness.
You can learn more in this article: www.livewellwithsharonmartin.com/self-abandonment-what-it-is-and-how-to-stop/
many of the people watching this do not have the option to leave or set boundaries. there's a trahic assumption in the field that the abuses of childhood are magically over once a person reaches voting age. enmeshed families are fully capable of ensuring that legal and financial shackles absolutely prevent "reconsidering" if old protection mechanisms are still valid
essentially, casting doubt on valid beliefs about safety is theraputic gaslighting. it's why CBT is abusive to many people
It's very very tough, I felt emotionally/mentally broken, physically sick, financially broke, impossible to leave. Then a small window opened up, I flew and never returned. All the above got better.
Leaving is a very very important step, it is the only sane option. Hope everyone finds their window..
Tks Mam the video lecture is helpful and I too believe the progress of life is in self respect and trueness.
Thank you for sharing
I think if someone is doing this, they need to see how detrimental this is to their current relationships and how they got to this point in their lives with a more dramatic explanation. Your explanation is so mild that it loses some validity in the process.