CalArts Film - To Mom
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- Опубліковано 29 вер 2024
- Based on a true story.
had been thinking a lot about my family and how I was raised up. The film was based on a true story from my childhood in 90s China.
My mom was definitely strict but you know what, I miss her so very much.
Love you, mom!
Music by Roy Berardo
Sound Design by Florian Calmer
Find me at insta: Yaouchen.art
I think the amount of childhood trauma the viewer has will reflect how they view the ending. A lot of people can't trust that this little interaction will change the dynamic of the relationship beyond this point. A lot of people have been coaxed back into a bad situation by the abuser suddenly being pleasant to be around before it returns to the same routine.
everyone is saying this is heartwarming but its just disturbing to me :/
@caliandthepack bad parenting
Same... she still have given away all of her kids' favortie things
Fr dude
more so I can relate the hate for my parents but I still love them lol. They may obnoxious and restrictive, I may feel anger and seek revenge but the anger calms soon. While it's not justify for the bad parenting, I believe they believe they did what best for their kids. Keep being grateful and don't complain when it's not really a big issue, kids.
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the way she vibed with the music was awesome!!!
It's strange that the mom's way of connection isn't that she talks to her child about how she is viewed as a monster for her actions. She seems to look at it as a thought so ridiculous that it's funny and she's just having a good laugh about it, like, 'Ooo! I'm so scary, right? Rawr. Haha.' The best part of it that shows a change is that she's not livid about the pages being vandalized and ripped out. There's not much that shows regret or an apology, though apologies are harder to give then to simply feel regret.
This is such an adorable film I love the art style it’s so gentle
People saying the mother is strict and the ending isn't happy don't get this movie, in my opinion
This is titled 'to mom' ... because it's an activity with a learning curve. Most parents parent the way their parents parented. To me, the ending is the mother realizing that she can parent better by meeting her child halfway, so the ending is the promise of a better and more understanding relationship.
At first she just wanted what she believed was the best for her child but at the end there, she realizes that what she thought was best may not be the best
Well said! The ending is the beginning of Mom's change...
Thank you for this! Feel like so many people missed the point
No, people can go to therapy and heal and unlearn the trauma their parents taught them before having children so they don’t pass it down, stop acting like this is okay and not their fault because “it’s all they knew😢” grow up
@@forest487 not everyone has access to therapy. And inorder to go to therapy you need to know something's wrong with you which most people don't.
@@forest487 Good point! However, back then they might not have the awareness or resources to heal and treat the trauma. And this has been very true with lots of Asian families especially from decades ago.
Thank you for sharing the experience in this short film :) feel like a lot of people think that a film needs to always have some "message to teach" when it can be just to tell an experience or story, especially something personal
Love the sound design and cute character designs :)
That's a nice way of looking at it.
Parents be like: take everything from the child and try to laugh it off
Sorry if I understood you in a completely wrong way but this is how I see it through the prism of my childhood memories
Same
Same.
Where's the part where she beats the living shit out of her kid for not abiding to her will
same
Same
I can't wait til' the day I see your art featured in a big time animation.
Ok but did she get her manga back :(
So she gave you no attention for doing what she wanted? But scolded you for what she didn't? How are you supposed to connect without killing your spirit and being obedient?
Even though I don’t relate to the experiences this child faced given I come from an american home, the take I get from this is that the mom is just disciplining her child the way her parents did to her but she probably never received a fun and rewarding childhood, and in the end became strict as a result. But because her relationship with her son strengthened she realized it’s ok to have fun and loosen up a little, she even took light of how her son perceived her instead of being furious.
Yes! In the end she managed to loosen up a little!
People in North, South, and Central American homes can and have experienced similar things.
So I just wanted to clarify to anyone reading these replies that it’s not really a given that someone that came from an American home wouldn’t have similar childhood experiences.
I mostly say this due to one way I saw how to comment could be interpreted. I know not of its intent
But no this justifies nothing she can't do that
It really makes her seem like someone who doesn't want their child to actually have a childhood, the ending doesn't fix that whatsoever.
Trigger warning mention of abuse:
Yea this makes no sence at all their just abusive
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I think you dudes kinda misunderstood the ending
@@crabmaster6932 Explain it then
i dont think its heartwarming
to everyone who completely misunderstood the ending; the point was not to justify the mom’s actions and attitude, but to signify the start of something new and better beginning. people are human and we learn from our mistakes, that is what she was doing.
This was so touching...My eyes are all teary now
Man abusive parenting isn't cute.
My mom was like that. I acted out so much and had so many toys put up in bins and hidden. Trashbags full of everything I didnt need when I wouldnt clean my room. I'm not saying its a great parenting tatic but it was the only way my mom knew how to deal with me. It hurt and I hated her for it but she was just trying to care for me, and we always made up in the end
dude this is a great animation, I don't know why don't you have like at least 1k subscribers :/
This was so good! I like the art style!
It’s a horrible mother imposing her music and her hobbies to her daughter! I don’t see nothing to save in their relationship. We all know parents so austere don’t change their minds and their attitudes and pretend to instil them to their sons.
Dude it’s literally based on their own mom chill
@Pippin Forrest how they represent it, this is not a good relationship. 1) don’t force someone do a hobby or an activity when they don’t want: piano is not necessary for a kid and she doesn’t have to learn classic music to play a piano.
2) sell her books is an imposition of the mother that doesn’t have respect for the hobbies of her daughter. Also me as a kid didn’t want to do my homework but my mother was there to control me. When i have finished, i could play or read my books without prohibition like this case. My grandmother was like the mother of this video and I don’t miss her neither her son miss her.
A lot of these comments are saying that the ending doesn't justify what the mother did. It doesn't, but that's not the point of this film (or, I'm pretty sure it isn't). As someone who grew up in an Asian household, I feel this film; although my mother was never as harsh as portrayed here, she was stricter than an "average American parent." Although I do wish for parents to give their children freedom to be a kid, we (as Asian-Americans) know that although their behavior seems like abuse, our parents love us and want the best for us. I can't explain it clearly due to cultural differences, but the end of this film conveys that our parents truly care for us and are not always the tiger moms everyone makes them out to be.
WELL in South Asia the only job is a doctor if u get a B it means u will grow up be home less and live off drugs
This was so cute!!!
Awesome work!
THAT MOM IS TAKEING ALL FUN FROM HER LIFE I DON'T GET IT WHAT DID SHE DONE?!?!?
It’s not always about fun, but it’s not always about work. The mother and the kid, the work and the fun, both meet halfway in the end, there is now new balance. The mother realized this in the end and saw her child’s fun as not all bad
This is so underated.
Honestly, I was waiting for a reason for the Mom to justify being such a jerk and depriving her child of everything that brought them joy. Maybe it's just me but this is kind of disturbing in the way she just laughed at the drawings clearly meant to express her child's frustration with how they're being treated. Allowing your child to have a life should be common sense, pigeonholing them into doing things that you consider "constructive" or "academic" in the same way the mom was is just abusive. She didn't even go to check in on her child when they were crying because she was too busy looking at their drawings and giving away their comic books (?) I don't like to generalize or make assumptions but it feels as if the person who made this didn't have a very good childhood.
i feel like y’all just jump to conclusions way to fast and not actually tying to see it for what it is. some of y’all are so quick to call something abuse if you either don’t understand it or don’t agree with it instead of seeing the bigger picture
Well my mom was like this and I haven't contacted her since my college years. Anyone that thinks this is wholesome or warming - please don't have children.
Ty for telling this
SHE STILL CAN'T JUST TAKE HER THINGS THAT SHE LIKES! ඞ
this opened some old trauma i wished i’ve forgotten about.
I don’t see improvement in the end. I see a trap.
I was invested from the start, thank you for sharing.
I felt like the moms face was like OwO
I just cried basically home alone in the dark , I dunno if I’m ok
3:42 the girls doing it right. She's strong but not broken
Nhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
how tf is that a wholesome ending? that lady is insufferable and I feel bad for that kid.
Exactly. The whole thing was just sad :(
Thats like my mother but less stricter like she is not that strict
i honestly don’t think the end is a happy one
The end was happy I love your artstyle your story omggggggggggg
This video is so cute, but why is the mom so mean? I mean, I love it, but why dose tho mom have to be so mean in the start?
What I took from this is that the mom deep down wanted her daughter to be constructive. Not mindlessly watching other peoples cartoons, comics or music…aka art, but spending significant time making her own. Mom: if your interested in something, try making it. I’m AA (AfricanAmerican), my mother was pretty much like that.
Lovely animation!
its sad when they take their stuff away and just give the stuff to children
I don't know why, but I feel disturbed... The contradicting signals the mother gives to her daughter is really irking me.
I definitly feel this.
I wish i could give this a hundred thumbs up. awesome
thats not how you get kids interested in music
our childhood trauma is really popping off in the chat 😅
how do you.. not have more then 1K subscribers? you really deserve more!!
YO THE CREATOR HAS 666 SUBS 😳
Is this- you guys think this is healthy?
The whole point is that the end of the film marks a new beginning for the mom as she learns to laugh more and be less uptight. How did you get "strict parenting is healthy" from that?
I thought it was cute 🥺
1:25 giggled at this part
Bruh this is exactly how it is with my parents lol, just hiding and doing some of my favorite things in secret, just bicouse they would consider those stupid. Still we love each other i guess, but im 16 not a 5yr old lil girl XD
I love this sort of animation style & sound design! It's so cozy and feels like a real film you'd watch on an old children's tv program. The end is really touching too, Mom just needed to see how her kid saw her 😊
Watched this out of the corner of my eye while drawing. Even though I wasn't paying full attention this almost made me cry.
Love ittt❤❤❤❤ thnks youtube for recommended this
this is just so cool, not only the art, but.. this kid probably feels so bad, because their mom is taking everything away from them, and not even letting them have fun. in the kid's view, they're probably a big monster, but to the mom, she's just parenting, and taking things away that they shouldn't have.
The sound is great. And the film reminds us we don't get to pick our parents!!!
I just can relate so much to the Feelings of the child, thats exactly how i feelt when i was younger
Quite toxic
I relate too. My mum is Romanian and life with her will never not be a scary, depressing battleground. Yes there are nuggets of sweet moments too but the crap parts of the relationship are just the entire nature of the relationship. Put this on a loop and it's our relationship
Wow! So underrated!!
This's me when someone told am a girl 3:02
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Omg I love itttttttttttt love itttt
Something about the comments calling the mom cruel make me uneasy. It feels like they're pushing their cultural values a bit.
Wdym by that🤨🤨
I think different people have different views of the video
How is this bad parenting she's not abusing the child, the child is fed, being taught, and loved y'all are cornballs bruh just because she took away some stuff.. people work my nerves.
Exactly
Okay this reminds me of my mom not taking me seriously when I'm trying to show my frustration , like the kid showed by the drawings. Whoever found this warm, congrats, your mom at least have sympathised with you at some point.
What concerns is he was venting which a lot older teens do when THEY actually go through abuse
This is my daily dose of entertainment
omg this made me cry
I love it
Soooooooo cutttttttteeeeee🥺
That was awesome💖.
I was crying cause I never did this with my mom but but punishments always🥲✨
my mom is kinda chill when visitors are near her