Can You Hear God’s Rebukes (Over Your Own Criticism)? | LITTLE BY LITTLE | Fr Columba Jordan CFR
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- We all have an inner conversation, pretty much all of the time. When it gets negative, who's steering? Is it God, or is it your overly critical self? God will rebuke us when we need it, but it will feel very different to us hating on ourselves.
Episode Chapters:
0:00 Introduction
0:46 When Criticism Is Good
1:20 God Will Speak to You About Your Sin
2:38 Your Inner Conversation
3:09 Are You Overly Critical of Yourself?
4:18 Can You Identify a Holy Desire (Vs Self-Criticism)?
6:46 Finding the Truth
8:23 Like & Subscribe!
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As post-cardiac aortic valve replacement and pacemaker placement, I have abandoned myself to Jesus using the mantra "Pray, Rest, and Heal". Thank you for your encouragement during this life phase. 🙏
I’m going through some health issues too and I get frustrated about it a lot, so thank you for sharing this! It’s very helpful and I need to do this too. I will pray for you and your healing 🙏🏻
I went to confession last night & adoration for two hours. I was hopeless helpless, all because of my own thoughts telling me I’m useless.I came to mass as a child of God today I listened carefully.And I’m feeling so much more hopeful and I have more clarity.Just taking things a day at a time, with a new commitment to prayer, and trust in God.
We rebuke the spirit of Pride, Scrupulosity & self- loathing in Jesus Mighty Name + 🌹
This morning I prayed a desperate "please! I need to see something good!" And you videos came up. Thank you for being there:)
Many thanks Father. This really resonates; decades of PTSD and associated anxiety and depression meant that that voice was a constant companion. I'm now getting proper treatment and I'm learning to recognise that voice for what it is.
So we look for the truth amids the negative proliferations, to bring us to Christ. Who is the Truth. Wow! So simple but so far-reaching. Honestly, you're wisdom and insight, Fr. Columba, is so very appreciated. Thank you - and all those around you- for these videos.
Thank you, Father. I’ve been struggling with perfectionism and a lot of self pressure.
Just went to Assisi for the first time and it was BEAUTIFUL. A true religious experience. It pierced my heart to want to stop being that way, to stop being cynical with myself and others.
St Francis, pray for us!
I have been told a few times during confession that I was being hard on myself. Father God is telling me this today. Thank you! ❤
Finding True Happiness by Father Spitzer can help with some of these types of feelings. But knowing God's voice over your own and the evil one is crucial. Thank you, Father.
If you have depression, that inner critical voice seldom has anything to do with reality. Before my depression was controlled, my inner voice said things like, "You are worthless." "You have never done anything good or worthwhile in your entire life." etc.
Thank you Fr. Columba. God bless you abundantly!😊
Perfect. This self-criticism dogs me, and sometimes makes me too judgemental of others as a result. Thank you.
THANKS FR COLUMBAR..MAY GOD BLESS YOU! AMEN 🙏
Thou shalt not “Should” upon thy self. Thank you for all you videos. They are very helpful.
Father: Each one of your videos is a learning lesson of inner self awareness from a theological perspective. So, true about the inner critic. You again are nailing it with this inner voice. I can see where your training comes from father. Very good. Keep it up.
💯% Yup!😂😁❤️ The Holy Spirit invites, the stinker has a "Klingon pain stick" consistently aimed at us!
Yup! Blessed be the Lord!
Great timing of the release of this video - right after the feast of St. John Bosco...a man who chose the tone of encouragement and love to correct the delinquent boys in his care.
Columba I am excuse me told by Catholic Priests to not always say Father when expressing my self to Catholic Priests! But I wish I had a Catholic friend and a Eduction on The Ethiopian Fidel! We have a lot of people selling things on The Menged or Streets of Ethiopia 🦁 and I was born here and went to CATHOLIC VILLANOVA PREPARATORY HIGH SCHOOL! I hope my Earth 🌍 will not END! I try to pray everyday Columba everyday! Goodbye I am in ETHIOPIA 🦁⛪️🌍🧢!
thank you father, as always you bring us so much. thank you for your guidance
Thank you, I needed this. I'm paused halfway through. I have autism and sometimes the critical voice sticks a lot more than it should because I can't process the emotions, and when I try, I lose and the emotions win, I end up shutting down or going feral and I still try to do good, but it narrows the whole world so instead of like having the option of doing something to bring about peace and mercy and love or being selfish, my options become more like hit someone, break something, or hit myself. I still feel like I'm following Jesus if I try to resist all the options as much as I can and then break the things that don't hurt anyone, but the next day, if I'm avoiding the near occasion of sin, I feel like I have to run away from my emotions and avoid the meltdowns in the first place. If I do that, then the nugget of real criticism gets missed because I'm running away from the harsh criticism, and then I go to confession feeling like I'm not really sorry, WANTING to be really sorry and really right with God... If I follow the logic of "bad emotions = false criticism," I feel numb and dead inside, and I feel like God is not really present to me, and I'm so confused about why He doesn't help me become pure of heart because I want to see God so badly. I want to face my emotions, but I don't want to melt down and hurt the people I love, so I feel like God is asking me to be a sinner and not try to get holier with the brain that I have, and I think that's true on the level of God wanting me to trust His mercy and not be afraid of being blind, but I think God probably wants me to eventually get holier and learn how to work through the emotions and accept the good criticism, and it just is going to take a huge amount of time and delicacy and trust in order to work through my disability. It's so confusing and difficult sometimes.
I’m autistic too, and I thought I would try to suggest what helped me as well when I would shut down or overload.
Rather than resist, put everything you are feeling before God. You look at him and tell him this is how I feel. “Jesus, I’m really angry right now and I want to…” for example. If you think you can, try to focus on him and see if he is doing anything or trying to tell you something. Just remember, when you are suffering, he is right the next to you. He is just waiting for you to invite him into your heart. That’s what he really wants. He wants to love you and transform your heart.
Running away/avoiding/resisting emotions will only bottle them up. But, when they are Jesus’ hands, he will do everything he can to love you. He will always do it in the best way, so if it doesn’t happen the way you want it to, just know he is working something better.
After giving everything to Jesus, it becomes easier to focus on that nugget of criticism, but don’t forget to involve Jesus in it too. He wants to be involved in everything to do with you.
Now, I’m not trying to ignore your feelings, because I know they are very real, but when you think God doesn’t care about helping you, remember he is right next to you. It’s a lie from the Devil that he doesn’t care. He is right next to you and it is important to tell yourself in these moments that God is with you in this whether you see him or not. He is right next to you supporting you, we just sometimes don’t see it. Realistically, we probably don’t see most of what he truly does for us every day.
Something that helps me is to remember that God can work in me despite my disabilities. No matter what something looks like, God can always bring the good out of suffering.
A Saint that I pray to that helps me greatly with accepting suffering and giving it to God is Saint Therese. I suggest you pray to her as well. She gave every little suffering she had to God.
If you have any questions about what I said, I’d be happy to answer you when I have the time. Just remember that God is always with you and doing everything for you. Who knows, maybe God knew about you commenting on this video and sent me to tell you what worked for me to help you on your journey of carrying your cross for him.
I just want to add this quick as well. Someone that also loves you a lot is Our Lady. Try to pray to her everyday, even if it is just “Hi, Mary. I love you!” She loves every little prayer you say to her. You can also ask her to give everything to Jesus, like what I said above, but ask Our Lady to help you give it to him (she will help). Your guardian angel will as well. You have a lot of people that want to help you, don’t forget the large family that you have in Heaven. They all love you a lot and are always willing to intercede for you if you ask for it. If it’s in God’s will, it will happen. If it’s not, it will be even better. God bless you!
Autistic here. You can trust Jesus Christ because He is literally The Truth. He has promised to save anyone who puts their faith in Him, The Truth. GOD will then help us heal from sin, but will never abandon us just because we sinned again. That's all forgiven by trusting in Jesus Christ and His Holy Blood. You can't save yourself, so only Jesus can. You can respond by loving Him for His unfathomable grace that will not forsake you.
My Father, which gave them me, is greater than all; and no man is able to pluck them out of my Father's hand.
John:10:29
Hi, I‘m not autistic, but I grew up in a family where feelings were generally criticised or dismissed, so I learnt to bottle them up and to feel terribly ashamed and guilty about them.
One day I found myself telling God“Look, I love you and I want to do your will, but right now I‘m really filled with hate for this person, and I can‘t push it away, and I don‘t know how to cope with it.“
I then remembered the first line of a poem by Erich Fried: „It is what it is, says love.“ It was as if Jesus was standing right by me and smiling, saying: „ Don‘t worry, trust me, I love you, just as you are, without bounds, I can cope with this all right.“
It was a huge relief to discover that I can just name my feelings to him and accept them, instead of fighting against them to be a good person.
Holiness is not something we can achieve by our own efforts only; rather, it is God who sees us as already perfect and keeps working to make us so.
Thank you so much for posting this. This is such a real comment, real person going through real things. I feel for you. I’m not autistic, I’m bipolar, and today I had a nearly manic episode where I barer contained my anger. I was thinking violent thoughts, fidgeting a lot, got into a fight with a child, and my driving was not great. Anyway I can, I tried praying but in between I had a lot of frustration and mistrust that God would truly help me. I don’t know what advice to give you which would help but I am so happy right mowing cause I reached out to my Mom. Our talk was horrible at first, we kept talking past each other, I couldn’t explain myself. But after some time, I became more vulnerable and found the words to express what I was going through and we got into DEEP things. Things I never told anyone. The conversation went to God and how much I needed to work against my self-interest and pride. I needed to really trust God with a renewed mindset. I am so happy. I pray the same for you
So right on the money Father!
I can be so self critical.
No one is harder on me than me....all day long.
If it's really hitting home, if there's truth in it, If it's coming from a place of love, it's likely from Our Father, who wants to talk with us...
An invitation to prayer,, a prompting of God to foster our free and mature yes to abide in His love.
Beautiful.
Thanks Father.
God continue to Bless you ❤✝️🙏🕊⛪
Thank you!
God bless you, Father!
Same to you!
Great message as always. Thank you father!❤
Yes . This talk was very helpful for me . Our lord and savior planned for Mr to listen this early morning when the negativity and lies can try to overcome any part of my faith that Jesus loves me too . Jesus is my only hope . Knowing your inner thoughts as you shared them , have a way of helping me reform my decision to stick to just talking to Jesus now and let the lord’s peace be with me as we talk about praying more too . Peace be to you 💕
Beautiful.
God bless you Fr
Thank you , Father. That word was God sent as I was dealing with this issue today. God bless you, Father.
Thank you Fr Columba amazing as always 🙏 Good to find you on here will start listening in God bless Mary & Flogger 🙏
I needed to hear this.
Father, I do pray every day but it feels empty. I truly desire a prayer life with God. Can you suggest anything that might help?
Thank you, Father ! Truly, the Holy Spirit is working through you 🙌 Shalom 🕊Father
Very very helpful like the videos on "the cycle" and "destroying the lie". Praise you Lord. "Have confidence in the Lord with all thy heart and Lean not upon thy own prudence. In all thy ways think on Him and He will direct thy steps." Proverbs 3:5-6
Thank you Father Columba for these messages and teachings.
Has anyone ever told you that you kinda look like
Ralf Fiennes and/or Colin Farrell?😊
😂
I always connect with you and your content moreso than other religious on this app and I just thank you for doing what you do because it’s helpful every single time
Glad you’re here!
Oh geezzzzz brother this really hits home. This had been happening to me and made me backslide. U put a name on it. It's consoling that there's someone who experiences the same thing least i know im not alone and that someone understand the feeling of being constantly barraged by confusing, weakening thoughts even in silence and in desire for good.
I needed this today. So much. God is good all the time.
Thank you again, Fr. Columba, for being His ever-willing servant.
Thank you, really needed to hear this!
You're so welcome!
I needed this video. Thank you, I love you 🤍
You’re welcome 😊
THANKYOU FR COLUMBA. GOD BLESS x
Good video
Thank you Father this was truely helpful in my walk with God i cant wait to implement it!
Glad it was helpful!
Thank you I needed that
so true! thank you for this confirmation that I had in my heart!
You are so welcome
Oh my goodness! I can so relate 🙏
Very useful! many thanks
Glad it was helpful!
Monkey on your back....lol!
Fr., you hit the nail on the head. Gracias!
Wow last 3 vids I just like were 333, 222, and your was 111.. 🙏
Thanks Father 😇😇😇😉🙏🏽😉
Thank you Fr Columba
Immensely helpful. Thanks a lot!!!
What do you think God IS?I hear different things from different people.Thank you.
“God is the Supreme Being, infinitely perfect, who made all things and keeps them in existence.”
That’s from the Baltimore Catechism.
@@ctmcatholic What does supreme being mean?
@@-WillAlone- aquinas (one of the doctors of the catholic faith) writes that God's essence is being/existence itself, meaning that everything that has Being or exists has gained that quality from its Creator, which is God, who is He Who Is.
@@love...leah. So,even bad things in existence?
@@-WillAlone- as aquinas puts it, the bad things would be a corruption of being and a deforming of creation. God made the world and saw it was good! goodness is explicitly tied to being and existence whereas evil is the privation of that good.
Listen up. The correction comes through people and the intensity of the situation. You ignore God, Lord Jesus Christ, it will come through authority, ignore the authority, it will come through force, ignore the force, it will come through and become intense, ignore the intensity it will become death, and ignore that, it will keep going and there is no coming out of death, until you stop ignoring the correction. God gifted me with His intercession and prayers for a time, and the church sometimes received it and other times didn't. My prayer gifting got laid down, I was taught by the Holy Ghost how to pray and also able to teach, but no one wants to learn from me, or the Holy Ghost, teacher that comes that is within me, John 14. But what bothered me was the selfish, self serving prayers coming through the church. Coming through the USA, I didn't know which nation was worse, Africa or USA because they were on par with each other. The level of selifshness was so disgusting, it should not be coming out of christians mouths, let alone right in the hearts, minds and souls, its so corrupt beyond measure. USA finally prayed for another nation, Israel, but then they couldn't pray for other nations, only when it served them. It was not serving God. So the correction came, along with buffeting, that buffeting has a physical impact. There will be no more answered prayers until, it is a hit and a miss whether they get answered or not, because there is only one prayer that is worth being answered and that is the prayer of John 17 and no other. All prayers are being laid down, until Jesus gets His prayer answered in truth, in honesty, in integrity, and in love. Also the people have become inactive and refuse to help others that are in trouble, its the I need help, ok I will pray about it, no I need physical help, ok we will pray, stop praying about it and get off your backside and help, refuse to do so, will result in correction and the correction that you will be under is death, not life. Its urgent, we are going through an existential threat and constant crisis, called death because nature is bringing forth correction to end man's corruption and Lord Jesus Christ is laid down and is in agreement with it, so its allowed. You want to pray, then pray as you go, but pray and live your prayers, but make sure its John 17, because all other prayers will lead to death and destruction not life, and then it will be pick up your cross and follow Him into death. Next time don't be so selifsh with your prayers and so selfserving, its not God to do that. There is also a criticalness at present, and is being allowed, but that is not the correction of God, that is the correction coming out from disobedience, and it is the fruit of ignoring God and being disobedient, and even if true, its till not the correction that is meant to be within, Lord Jesus Christ's people. Listening to that is good, to come into truth, repentance for being disobedient, while being corrected is better for being so selfish and selfserving, and disobedient, is better. People need help and its urgent, enough prayer, action is needed. Amen in Peace, rest, trust, Amen.
There is no such thing as benign arrogance
Thank you Fr Columba amazing as always 🙏 Good to find you on here will start listening in God bless Mary & Flogger 🙏
Thanks for listening