I go to overeat to cover my entrenched pain. I ask myself the question, “Can I live with this feeling for the rest of my life?”, I reach for a cake, a small voice askes me to pause. The mind starts to scream and argue. So I pause and ask, “Can I live with this feeling forever”. I want to say yes, but due to sense of being honest with where I am ‘currently at’, I say “No, I can’t live with this feeling for the rest of my life”. I feel glad that I am honest, but I look down and see that my petulant mind still has a foot in the door! How do I handle this feeling of futility, when pausing itself causes such a magnitude of fear and pain?
Pip Denham I totally relate. Searched all of Ruperts videos and others cannot find answer. My own answer is my sense of separate self is so strong it will not die.
You are doing nothing wrong, my friend. The human experience is often full of self-judgment and high expectations. I invite you to remind yourself that you are perfect as you are, wherever you are, right now. When I first said to myself “ this moment is perfect, just as it is. I am whole and complete just as I am, right now,” those words did not feel true, and the mind said things like “that’s not true, you need to make x amount of money, you need to read this book, learn this skill, etc.” I observed those thoughts, and eventually, I realized that I am simply aware of those thoughts, and not those thoughts, so they naturally passed by. No matter what thoughts, feelings, and other sensations arise, you are still there, aware of all those things. In the video, Rupert likened our experience of life to a movie, and we (as Awareness) are the screen. Regardless of the specific movie playing on the screen - it may be action, romance or horror - there is this natural awareness that the specifics of the movie don’t matter so much as the fact that movies exist at all and that we get to watch/be in one.
I turn and face the feeling. I turn and decide to look at it. Maybe saying you can live with the painful feeling forever is too much for your ego to bear. Just turn in your being and 'face' it. When I do that it lessens in intensity and in its grip on me.
@@ronnie4863 Who is saying that? The separate self saying that it itself is too strong. Having the discipline to not do it alone is not enough, at all. The most important thing is self-investigation. Where is this self that is too strong? Continue with this, it’s a gradual process that you’ve taken decades to learn, and now it’s normal that to unlearn it will take some time, you can do it!
Beautifully explained and i am practicing it
Wunderbar! Das kann man für alles anwenden. Für jede Sucht, für jedes unangenhme Gefühl. Danke
This is amazing. Thank you for uploading.
Probably the most useful Rupert video for me ever! 🙏 🙏 Love
WoW thank you so much❤
Absolutely beautiful. Thank you for uploading this video.
Thank you, Rupert.
I go to overeat to cover my entrenched pain. I ask myself the question, “Can I live with this feeling for the rest of my life?”, I reach for a cake, a small voice askes me to pause. The mind starts to scream and argue. So I pause and ask, “Can I live with this feeling forever”. I want to say yes, but due to sense of being honest with where I am ‘currently at’, I say “No, I can’t live with this feeling for the rest of my life”. I feel glad that I am honest, but I look down and see that my petulant mind still has a foot in the door! How do I handle this feeling of futility, when pausing itself causes such a magnitude of fear and pain?
Pip Denham I totally relate. Searched all of Ruperts videos and others cannot find answer. My own answer is my sense of separate self is so strong it will not die.
You are doing nothing wrong, my friend. The human experience is often full of self-judgment and high expectations. I invite you to remind yourself that you are perfect as you are, wherever you are, right now. When I first said to myself “ this moment is perfect, just as it is. I am whole and complete just as I am, right now,” those words did not feel true, and the mind said things like “that’s not true, you need to make x amount of money, you need to read this book, learn this skill, etc.” I observed those thoughts, and eventually, I realized that I am simply aware of those thoughts, and not those thoughts, so they naturally passed by. No matter what thoughts, feelings, and other sensations arise, you are still there, aware of all those things. In the video, Rupert likened our experience of life to a movie, and we (as Awareness) are the screen. Regardless of the specific movie playing on the screen - it may be action, romance or horror - there is this natural awareness that the specifics of the movie don’t matter so much as the fact that movies exist at all and that we get to watch/be in one.
I turn and face the feeling. I turn and decide to look at it. Maybe saying you can live with the painful feeling forever is too much for your ego to bear. Just turn in your being and 'face' it. When I do that it lessens in intensity and in its grip on me.
@@ronnie4863 Who is saying that? The separate self saying that it itself is too strong.
Having the discipline to not do it alone is not enough, at all. The most important thing is self-investigation. Where is this self that is too strong?
Continue with this, it’s a gradual process that you’ve taken decades to learn, and now it’s normal that to unlearn it will take some time, you can do it!
Eating disorders and every other type of addiction.
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