In love with an overthinker? You need to know these 15 things

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  • @chulacris
    @chulacris 2 роки тому +43

    This is so spot on. Us overthinkers can be so hard to date and it really does take a special person lol

    • @mr.s6607
      @mr.s6607 Рік тому +2

      Dealing with stress and headache makes a person special?? How about if they’re so specific you change your ways

  • @Creammmo
    @Creammmo 2 роки тому +17

    I literally have to reread my messages to see if it can be flipped or be read in between. It’s so freaking hard. I love her so much, i hope her mind don’t fuck us up.

  • @resahbarasa810
    @resahbarasa810 2 роки тому +38

    Sometimes I wonder if I will meet someone who wil accept the fact that am an overthinker and embrace me the way I am. Loved this. Hope

    • @Gintoki_Madao
      @Gintoki_Madao 2 роки тому +1

      You have to meet them halfway.. They can't just fully accept you without you accepting that they aren't over thinking

    • @alexislaura9487
      @alexislaura9487 2 роки тому

      Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together i got help from a great man who brought us back together.....

    • @alexislaura9487
      @alexislaura9487 2 роки тому

      I can recommend you to a man who can help you with the dismissed court cases, he can also help you get out of jail.

    • @alexislaura9487
      @alexislaura9487 2 роки тому

      Wha'tasppin him🤝🤝👍

    • @chaosinorder9685
      @chaosinorder9685 2 роки тому +2

      I am a huge Overthinker. The only thing in this video that didn’t apply to me is that I don’t mind surprises. But I’m not very easy to surprise though lol

  • @Geedid
    @Geedid 2 роки тому +75

    I didn’t know what overthinking was until I started dating one.. the most frustrating feeling I’ve ever had to deal with in a relationship .. everything you tell these people is lie.

    • @alexislaura9487
      @alexislaura9487 2 роки тому

      Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together i got help from a great man who brought us back together.....

    • @alexislaura9487
      @alexislaura9487 2 роки тому +1

      I can recommend you to a man who can help you with the dismissed court cases, he can also help you get out of jail.

    • @alexislaura9487
      @alexislaura9487 2 роки тому

      Wha'tasppin him🤝🤝👍

    • @Steph_28
      @Steph_28 Рік тому +5

      Omg what you just said …. Everything you tell these people is a lie… OMG 😳 That’s how it was for me I’m like if I’m a liar then don’t freakin be with me then UGH I couldn’t anymore I love him but I can’t

    • @Neverm1nd-j6l
      @Neverm1nd-j6l Рік тому

      But not all

  • @TprrBuilder
    @TprrBuilder 7 місяців тому +5

    hey, im in a relationship with a overthinker yes it might be difficult but the main thingh i use is try to understand them, step inside their shoes and think how they think. and you will understand how hard it is. now me and my gf made a promise. when she is overthinking she needs to send me a message immediately saying “hey how are you, how do YOU think our relationship is going” so then i can say i love her and make her feel comforted and ask how SHE is doing, i dont know if it will work for yall but i think all the effort is worth is cuz she is the sweetest girl ever❤

  • @sravanthinurbasha8571
    @sravanthinurbasha8571 Рік тому +17

    One more thing, they are real. They will just say what's on their mind and expects the same from their loved one. Don't tell things casually, they will disect each word to understand what you mean

  • @steadymaroti2835
    @steadymaroti2835 3 роки тому +16

    Why does this have so little thumbs up? Wish I could put a million on my own. This is loaded with data, well constructed work. Appreciated

  • @reeduhler229
    @reeduhler229 3 роки тому +27

    I needed this video! This describes myself, personally, in so many ways.

  • @tanelqtforever143
    @tanelqtforever143 2 роки тому +26

    This describes my girlfriend shes so much an overthinker. We argue all the time and idk what i did that makes her overthink.

    • @memelove3640
      @memelove3640 2 роки тому +7

      You most likely didn't do anything to make her overthink overthinking has alot to do with past events and fear and anxiety imo but im no professional so don't take me word on that but its nothing you did trust that

  • @clid2182
    @clid2182 2 роки тому +10

    I am an overthinker, I agree with everything other than the surprises thing but that might be just me. And when I have decided something that’s what I want and my girlfriend doesn’t understand that, maybe I need to tell her. The communication this bothers me as well, she has anxiety and so do I, but she doesn’t communicate any of her emotions and she doesn’t seem to either know or care about mine that much ( but idk that’s what I mean ) I am always reassuring her I feel like, and I try to make her not doubt anything, but she doesn’t for me. Or maybe it’s all in my head idk. I just hate this part of me as it’s continually eating me up. I had to get this off my chest. Thanks for your time reading this.

  • @TN-pl7fs
    @TN-pl7fs 2 роки тому +8

    I love this video as I'm the overthinker. From past issues caused me to be this way.

    • @alexislaura9487
      @alexislaura9487 2 роки тому

      Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together i got help from a great man who brought us back together.....

    • @alexislaura9487
      @alexislaura9487 2 роки тому

      I can recommend you to a man who can help you with the dismissed court cases, he can also help you get out of jail.

    • @alexislaura9487
      @alexislaura9487 2 роки тому

      Wha'tasppin him🤝🤝👍

  • @lleandro9752
    @lleandro9752 2 роки тому +3

    Thank you for this video. It gave me more understanding about my partner. Keep safe and healthy!

  • @suchisubhrabagchi5925
    @suchisubhrabagchi5925 2 роки тому +5

    Gosh i relate to so many points.. dating me must be so hard🥲

  • @nathaniellampman2052
    @nathaniellampman2052 9 місяців тому

    Im a overthinker. This will help me in a relationship with someone better that understands me.

  • @amalieslovackova394
    @amalieslovackova394 5 місяців тому +1

    I agree with yall but you CAN learn how to control your overthinking. My bf was little bit drunk yesterday evening and i was there with him for 2 hours making sure that yes i love him, no baby you're not bothering and ofc i wanna call i always want our goodnight calls. I was there for him from 9 to 11 pm, then he finally fell asleep knowing that everything between us is fine. Told him i loved him even tho he was sleeping but i really like doing him and went to sleep too. I've done my best to make him comfortable. I wasn't mean or mad, just patiente and explaining over and over again that everything is fine. Just for him to tell me in the morning that i could have done better. I was ready to stay up whole night for him even tho i was scared imma fall asleep if i close my eyes for like 5 seconds. I love him with my whole life, i'd die for him, no questions asked. But there just gotta be limits. Lot of yall are using this video as an excuse to not face your problems. I'd never tell him that he's hard to love because he isn't. Yet his overthinking is enough of an excuse to tell me that i could have done better when i was trying my best... I love but this one really hurts deep down..

    • @yuwumine
      @yuwumine 2 місяці тому +1

      hey i know it’s 2 months old but i needed to tell you that you did great, and as an overthinker myself, if my boyfriend did this, i’d really feel reassured (for some time at least) and would be grateful to him and his patience
      so you’re right, overthinking isn’t an excuse…
      and i can’t tell you more, i just wanted to share my opinion
      hope you’re doing good 🫶🏼

  • @MaryIjale
    @MaryIjale 8 місяців тому +2

    I'm at the verge of leaving my overthinking partner .😢.. I can't deal with how
    Often I have to prove myself right…

    • @stepht3343
      @stepht3343 5 місяців тому

      I feel the same. And it drives me crazy at how I can’t tell him things without him trying to find some underlying meaning and blowing the whole situation up. It’s sabotaging our relationship 😓

  • @aludtke86
    @aludtke86 Місяць тому

    What made me break it off with the over-thinker I was with for 2 years was she never believed anything I said and would overthink 24/7 and would flip out when I in turn felt insecurities like she was

  • @isaganicarabacan3299
    @isaganicarabacan3299 2 роки тому +4

    Thank your for this video. My girlfriend is an overthinker and this video would help me to understand her more.

  • @MKRGAMER966
    @MKRGAMER966 11 місяців тому

    Excellent analysis and suggestions

  • @ahmadamzar5907
    @ahmadamzar5907 Рік тому +1

    Most of people unable to understand an overthinker and unable to interact with them correctly. An overthinker just want their thoughts or opinions to be shared without any jokes or condemns, comfort them when they are in over-worried, motivate them when they are frustrated etc. If his/her partner or people around him/her didn't understand and failed to react accordingly, the relationship will seem to be ended. I'm an overthinker.

  • @Mannymode
    @Mannymode Рік тому

    This video was very helpful! Thank you

  • @user-nx3dq8mk4c
    @user-nx3dq8mk4c 2 роки тому +5

    Sssshhhh after of thinking that my boyfriend has a mental illness this is just the right term that I am looking for 😫 Everything I say to him is a lie. And I just don't know what to do 😫 Thanks for this video!

    • @alexislaura9487
      @alexislaura9487 2 роки тому

      Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together i got help from a great man who brought us back together.....

    • @alexislaura9487
      @alexislaura9487 2 роки тому

      I can recommend you to a man who can help you with the dismissed court cases, he can also help you get out of jail.

  • @zanthonyrobin5027
    @zanthonyrobin5027 Рік тому

    i’m dating an over thinker, it’s tough because i have a hard time articulating my thoughts and explaining my self.

  • @schingh1973
    @schingh1973 8 місяців тому

    I’m an over thinker but it can be changed. It can be exhausting for ppl around us.

    • @nkelesa8362
      @nkelesa8362 22 дні тому

      I find it's not only exhausting for those around us but for me as well. I frustrate myself and promise myself to stop overthinking and only to do it again and again leaving people frustrated

  • @jemsknor6757
    @jemsknor6757 Рік тому +1

    Isn't better to be better yourself?

  • @user-gb6iz9ot1g
    @user-gb6iz9ot1g 2 роки тому +10

    John 3:16
    For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.

  • @RitzPerera
    @RitzPerera 3 місяці тому

    I was also overthinker...i i controlled that and now im not that type... When you realise you wasting time for thinking about future that doesn't happened yet.. then you stop overthinking..
    Funny thing is my crush also overthinker.. she's not crush anymore i asked her out, didn't got answer yet.. I think she think about million possibilities xdd.but i don't care i dedicated for her. And will help her to get out from overthinking. I always make sure to explain everything so she doesn't need to overthink.
    I hope she will accept me.i love her so much. I wanna make her my wife.

  • @SaraM-dv1qg
    @SaraM-dv1qg 5 місяців тому

    I Learn on myself

  • @memelove3640
    @memelove3640 2 роки тому +3

    I'll be honest im the overthinker here and all of this sounds like alot t I take on and if your already i. A relationship with us then telling you something that will require more work on your part makes us or at least me feel like you won't want to take it o. And you're going to leave im always in fear that ill say or do something that will scare my bf away and I don't want to be alone

    • @alexislaura9487
      @alexislaura9487 2 роки тому

      Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together i got help from a great man who brought us back together.....

    • @alexislaura9487
      @alexislaura9487 2 роки тому

      I can recommend you to a man who can help you with the dismissed court cases, he can also help you get out of jail.

    • @alexislaura9487
      @alexislaura9487 2 роки тому

      Wha'tasppin him🤝🤝👍

  • @Thomas_4211
    @Thomas_4211 2 роки тому +3

    You can stop being an overthinker. I use to be one myself. It takes hard work but it is entirely possible.

    • @judithvanwissen8252
      @judithvanwissen8252 2 роки тому +2

      Hi Nate Thomas, not sure if you will recieve a notification from my message, but i would love to hear how you managed to heal yourself from it. Thank you 😊

  • @Steph_28
    @Steph_28 Рік тому +8

    If you are an overthinker then please get help. Your partner shouldn’t have to do extra work put in the work yourself as well PLEASE. If you don’t want to be alone then take the proper steps to help yourself

    • @maegenschuele5728
      @maegenschuele5728 Рік тому +5

      If your partner loves you they won't mind doing extra work. This just tells us that you're not willing to go the extra mile for us. Like we would for you. You are part of the problem

    • @mr.s6607
      @mr.s6607 Рік тому +1

      @@maegenschuele5728 like we would for you…? Are you serious? How about go the extra mile and stop the overthinking nonsense… and if you can’t because in your head accept the fact also that we just can’t deal with it and that’s in our head also

  • @gilynmorse6616
    @gilynmorse6616 Місяць тому

    I’m here so I can help my boyfriend

  • @HarshRaj-tm2vl
    @HarshRaj-tm2vl 9 місяців тому

    how to deal with point number 7.

  • @Steph_28
    @Steph_28 Рік тому +1

    I dated an overthinker and didn’t know it felt like he was bi polar. I’m watching this post break up and it fits him to the T. I’m exhausted and even thought he wants me back I just can’t I’m tired! It was draining when it was bad I think he is an overthinker and bi polar 😏

    • @dgualaa
      @dgualaa Рік тому +3

      Wtf are those emojis for

  • @Sassybliss404
    @Sassybliss404 2 роки тому +1

    I am suffering

  • @Ganjaman_x
    @Ganjaman_x 9 місяців тому

    Im trying to explain this to my gf in my language (Hungarian) but idk how 🙄🤣

  • @evebauer7341
    @evebauer7341 Рік тому +1

    Sounds like an abusive relationship

  • @dogohannatu2995
    @dogohannatu2995 2 роки тому

    Someone copied this to tictok and made hundreds of thousands views

  • @supunhewagama3559
    @supunhewagama3559 4 місяці тому

    Thank you, sometimes no one undestand them. Share this to everyone who struggling with overthinking. They are beautiful souls too ❤🤍😪

  • @untouchablesawblaze6344
    @untouchablesawblaze6344 2 роки тому +6

    Just don't date an overthinker. You'll save yourself a lot of unnecessary stress. They have major trust issues.

    • @Neverm1nd-j6l
      @Neverm1nd-j6l Рік тому

      Not all

    • @Shivam_4178
      @Shivam_4178 7 місяців тому

      but they are real ... and I think it's more than enough

  • @Aditi-w3l
    @Aditi-w3l Рік тому +3

    That’s me , totally me.. everything is about me🥹😔 I wish I had a partner who would understand me like this 😞😞

  • @2002sangam
    @2002sangam Рік тому

    Third person