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Remember if you put the word ‘wedding’ before any item, the cost goes up dramatically! My sister ordered a tiered ‘anniversary’ cake and saved 34% over an identical ‘wedding’ cake. Church flowers vs wedding flowers was a 25% savings.
This ^^
Ya‘ll are going to be great dads!
I originally subbed because i thought Taylor was attractive, and he is, he's also a great buy, but in time I've just come to love Jeff SO MUCH! They're both so special!
I do like how you both are so reasonable. i'm looking forward to follow your plans for the wedding. Lovley personalities!
When it comes time to adopt , or have a child by surrogacy, may I suggest you get in touch with Tom Daley & Lance Black, or Matt Dallas& his husband ,Blue. UA-camrs all. They could guide you through the processes of both. My daughter was a surrogate for a gay couple in NJ, so if you decide to go that route, please know I would support you whole heartedly.
Jim Willoughby Finally, someone mentioning Tom and Lance.
@@lexigeorgeson1484 i knowww
me watching the ads fully just so i can help the slightest bit w/ all the costs
rhmua a thank you legend
Hi, so Im pretty sure this comment of mine will get lost in the sea of them all, but if you do read it, I want you guys to know, this coming down from a mom of a 3yo, that what you just said about children, and marriage, and the overall plan, you have it down to a T. The fact that you are realistic about this, and know there will be rough times, financially, phisically exhausted, sometimes emotionally too, will make this experience ten times more rewarding. Its easy to see that you guys are a great team and anyone can easily picture the two of you sharing your daily list of things to do or whatever. I always share my plans for the day with my husband, or more exactly, we make them together, its soo rewarding and exciting, especially after a less perfect day or a huge step that we have to overcome, it brings us so much closer, and the smiles we share over dinner or when out for a walk, are one of my fav moments. And I know you guys will be great at parenting, and I hope you will still be here to share those beautiful moments with us.
A wedding is a wedding - it’s what you make of it or the traditions you choose. It’s an expression on the couple themselves.
One day I was browsing UA-cam and I came across your channel. I watched one video, then another one and I got hooked. You both are so pleasant to watch and I am genuinely very happy for you! I am studying in Australia at the moment and my boyfriend is in Canada and watching you makes my heart warm. PS. Taylor, you should let Jeff talk a bit more sometimes. I like his humour :-)
Thank you guys for sharing your plans about the wedding ❤ I really want another cooking show they're perfect ❤ greetings from greece! love you ❤
i love you guys so much i hope everything went well and the wedding is gonna be amazing.. i'm excited to see the journey
Check Steps of 2 Foreigners UA-cam and click "Our Wedding Ceremony". Adam and Bernardo of Steps.... had a wedding that was so classy, yet so simple. It represented them and was such a perfect example of an lgbtq+ wedding that really worked as a personalized expression of their commitment to each other, but was also obviously a wedding that was not a carbon copy of a male/ female wedding.
Whenever I need a good cry, I will watch their wedding. Been following Adam since his sad, painful coming out video.
I really love your videos they are giving me so much entertainment through the quarantine, thank you so much love youuu❤😍
I think writing a book about your experiences planning and executing a gay wedding is brilliant. I'm sure there are others, but people will want to read about your perspective.
We have a spreadsheet also and it has everything in it. I also took a binder with all of the wedding stuff as well as all of the receipts each in their own category. We talked to our venue planner and saved hundreds of what the bakery was going to charge. We are getting married in October and I am happy to say we have minimal things to do. The best of luck and much love and happiness at your wonderful extra special day. God bless you both❣️ Bob and John. P.S. I am taking Bobs name, are you going to do that?
One of he best decisions we made was asking one of our best friends to officiate. She was incredible and it felt so special.
You two are so sincere... I just love following your journey. #goals
Good for Y'll having it planed out and sticking to doing your planing in small sessions. my husband and I got Married last Nov after 11 years together. we did something very small because we bought a house the month before.
Love following the wedding planning.❤
really happy for you to , keep doing big things !👏🏽🤩
Ours was so rushed because each of the venue options wanted to be the first to have a gay wedding. Lol supposedly a small quiet wedding with just my partners sister and my brother but word got out and people were phoning up asking if they could come . It ended up with sixty guests. Got a lot of knock backs from reception venues when they found out it was a gay wedding but one kind manager kindly said he would open especially for us. I know your wedding will be Ace BUT Parker should defo be the Ring Bearer. Lol . You are beautiful people and will have a very special day. We are still well behind in attitude in Britain to perhaps usa. Hugs
Great q&a session. I do like the idea of writing a book on lgbtq weddings and have them on both sides. I hope that the virus that is currently going around does not negatively affect your plans.
So good to see you guys
Love youuu so much especially jeff 😍😍
Im in love with your videos🖤
Finally part 2🙋♀️👏
As a new subscriber i can say, i can't wait top see your wedding video. That's if you do plan on showing it.
Just keep saying ..."less is more" and simplify, simplify!
Guys, I don't recall you saying when the wedding was. When is it, and will we get to see highlights of it?
.I've been to several weddings three gay wedding's but two of my best friends are gay guys and I have to gay lesbian women are my really good friends but to me the aura at my gay friends wedding was so much spiritual happy and upbeat you can just really feel the love and my two gay guy friends was probably one of the best weddings I've ever attended it's all about the aura that people put off.love ya'lls videos Taylor & Jeff lots of love from North cackalacky❤️
There are several ideas for making a great speech:
Give yourself plenty time.
Begin writing. Put down whatever you can - that's an improvement on than empty space!
get assistance from friends. You don't have to do it by yourself
Use done for you speech templates.
Try it out in front of a few people and ask for tips and advice.
(I learned about these and more on Turbo template tactic website )
Ceremony idea: don't wait until the reception to have drinks. Give everyone a (small) glass of champagne right before the ceremony so they can say cheers when you both say "I do". Plus, doing this at the start tells everyone "this isn't your typical wedding, so loosen up and enjoy the experience!"
COMMITMENT will cover all!
Great biz idea, making a gay wedding planner book. 👨🏽💼💡
Taylor and Jeff, I have not heard you mention the invitations yet. I used to work in a specialty store where we worked with different stationary companies. I highly recommend Crane stationary. It will be a little more expensive, but the quality of the papers are excellent. There is most probably a stand alone Crane store in New York and they should be able to help you with wording on the invite. It is wise to allow up to four weeks for printing and two weeks for addressing the envelopes. Jeff made a quick comment about a church wedding not a possibility. Check for a Metropolitan Community Church in your area(primarily a gay denomination) or "Reformed" Episcopalian or Methodist congregation. If you are Catholic, there are some priests that will perform a ceremony on the "downlow", check in the "gay" areas of New York. Also consider registering on one of the wedding channel sites. Typically these are free and you put links into the different stores you are registered in. Register in the stores and set this up before you mail out invitations. You can also keep guests updated thru some of them. Good Luck and when the pressure gets to be a little much, just step back and breathe.
Being parents is all a that within its self but very rewarding..
Will you be seeing each other the day of or just remain in contact through mobile devices?
Check two beeps vlogs on planning you’re own wedding,very interesting and informative
Have you all looked into catering yet? My fiancé and I have and were shocked at how expensive it is. Went with the vegetarian menu to cut down the cost...
Thanks for sharing love you both stay safe happy healthy and strong together forever God bless you both love wins 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍
Can do a small 2 tier cake and then sheet cakes
im excited too
for the wedding..what was the 3 horses for?
Love u guys
Have you made any contingency plans with the ongoing pandemic limitations?
We are a gay couple in our 30s with a kid, currently 8 years old. I wouldn't say it was more challenging than being straight with a kid to be honest. In fact since having a family and setting down I hardly ever think or talk about being gay at all anymore. I suppose it depends where you live.
Also, dont spend too much money on the wedding. I got married about your age and we didn't bother with flowers etc, had the ceremony in the town hall and had a reasonably priced venue. Instead we used our money to buy our first apartment in London. People often tell me it was their favourite wedding ever, it had a great vibe etc even without the big cash spend.
you both are right about the cake , they do cost alot a waste of money , take your time and planit your way
Can the photographer take pictures of the two of you and Parker at your rehearsal dinner? Where are each of you staying the night before the wedding?
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Books have been written about how to create and manage an lgbtq+ wedding. They're available at Amazon. Good luck. Remember: Every non hetero couple who gets married takes one step closer toward the day when marriage is just marriage--not gay,not straight...just marriage. Btw, there are many videos of lgbtq+ weddings available on UA-cam. Love from Ct., as always Ron L.
What is the recipe for the cake that Jeff’s family makes? This corona got me baking & getting fat n sassy, lol!
I think I heard Taylor say you're not having your wedding in a church. Any particular reason why?
if you're thinking kids you should follow and/or listen to Dustin Lance Black and Tom Daley journey to have their child.
Always be ready for last minute changes - actually this where having someone charged to take care of things so you can enjoy your special day
I'm in love with you guys
Hello Tylor I am from India. .....what's exactly conditions in Nyc iamean due to corana word pandemic and ur both exactly made for each other. ....be safe
I think you guys need to write a style guide of your wedding planning. This is sorely lacking in the market. Those of us who never thought we could get married need a some type of roadmap.
Check out 'Yummertime", in case you've never followed these guys. They are a great gay couple, who are newly engaged and planning their own wedding. They live in NYC now, but their wedding venue will be San Francisco where the previously lived. I think you'd like these guys!! Like you, they are creative, fashionable, fun with +++ personality. Just a thought that just came to mind....
A model of both of you on the cake would be great! :)
*it is cliche..... my opinion*
@@abidsalim6183 Just a bit of fun. Years ago my friends had them made out of icing for their cake and it looked brilliant!
@@simonleaf2765 yes why not if it is well done it can be interesting....
Relax and enjoy...
I would bet money that there is someone you both know who would feel honored to look after the doggie. I think having the rings tied around the doggie's neck is just about the coolest idea yet. Well, besides having Jeff's Mom make the cake.
Keep it simple. Save your money for ‘important ‘ matters. Follow your instincts Taylor, each and every time an expense gives you a tick, jump or a jolt, - that’s happening because you are wise, and it should be re-examined with the possibility of eliminating it. Believe that you and Jeff are the only ones that matter in this situation.
With this ‘new age’ suddenly upon us all, wisdom in social activity has never been so important, the future, as we’ve known it from before, is not going to be the same as it once was. The good old days are gone, and can be remembered fondly, but never again replicated. You two gentlemen, are so fortunate to have found each other at the moment you did. Congratulations, treat this as the precious gift that it is. May you both have many many happy years together. Keep each other close at all times. And as always, especially in these perilous moments, stay strong, safe and sure.
👋🏻“ ...hey there Taylor - you’re smart, resourceful/capable; you’ll work it out!”👍🏻
- Anthony Aaron
So cuteeee 💓
Parks can be the ring bearer
PS did you ever think about it did your parents offer to pay for the wedding like so many brides families use to do or maybe still do ?
My brother asked me to be one of his groomsmen, and honestly if this works out, it will the the THIRD wedding I will have been in. Because I was a ringbearer twice when I was a kid.
I'm sorry, I can't help it, but Jeff looks just like Gigi Goode on RPDR. Anyone else see that? I think they're related lol. Love you guys!
Michael Bilbrey OMG I SAID THE SAME THING LOL
HA! I thought for sure some follower would volunteer in the comments to handle Park for you! (I'm kinda way too far away to help...)
Best wishes
Tho it's a bridal thing would you consider "something old, something new, something borrowed,
Something blue, and a silver sixpence in your wedding shoe "
to be honest! Do what your heart tells you! But don't forget your stomach 😂
You mentioned that you "couldn't get married in a Church", but this has changed some time ago in the Episcopal Church. The Diocese of New York (which is basically the city) would be happy to accommodate you I believe. My small parish here in Dallas (The Episcopal Church of St. Thomas the Apostle - www.thedoubter.org - has held same gender weddings this past year. They were joy-filled celebrations. However, most denominations do require pre-marital counseling. A good idea even if not joining in marriage in a Church. I believe the Lutheran Church among others also offer same gender weddings. In any case, thanks for letting us join you in this great happiness in your lives.
Presbyterian churches which are PCUSA members do gay weddings.
I just have to say, as a son of a baker, my mom has made wedding cakes and yes, they are expensive, but they take HOURS to make, sometimes she needs two extra set of hands, and the fondant is what actually makes it more expensive if I dare to say, it is SO hard to maneuver and make it look sleek and perfect. Also, you are paying for a work of art essentially, as it takes a lot of patience and attention to detail. I am not hating!!! I am just defending the fact that making a wedding cake is really hard. Its like saying wedding photography is expensive, you are not paying just for the photos, you are also paying for the talent.
Watch tom daley wedding (just for fun)
If you have some friends and family members, who like to make big cakes, you could ask them to do one for you. It is a personal touch on you big day and you can get it exactly like you want it 😊 Maybe it could be their gift to you or you could just pay for the ingredients and make sure they had food and wine while they make it 😊
Whether you have 1 or 10 in your bridal party remember this wedding is YOURS and the focus is on YOU! Plan the wedding for you and you only 🥰🥰🥰
Hi Guys. You probably have plenty of lady family members that would love to be part of your wedding,as in bridesmaids if you want to have both sides... and but... but... but... what or who are you wearing? Any special designers? Also, a friendly reminder, often at weddings, readings or speeches can get boring. People want to drink and socialize and eat cake. Quick ones are often nice. Just a thought. You can make a wedding anything you want. It's your day! Thanks guys!
What? ... Well, am I not going to play the wedding march at your wedding? LOL ... Never mind, you are very dear to me again! ;)
It feels like it is Jeff’s channel and Taylor is the guest.
You have to be the cheapest grooms I've seen. And this is great. I find weddings to be on the wasteful side of things so it is refreshing to see people planing very reasonably.
@gcjerryusc I find this very reasonable, too.
I totally agree. Put the money into a house.
Wish you all the best ❤ stay safe !!
Love the idea of close friends having roles / pics ... bridal party seems political , old fashioned and oh yeah , no bride. Save money for later , instead of cake / flowers . People you love will make your wedding unforgettable ! Also : Taylor , please let Jeff sing on « your « channel !!
you can have your wedding in a house of worship if you like, there are many places that accepts lgbtqi+, it just the horror shows gets most of the publicity
my parents' wedding might have been one to emulate, not that I was around to know how it was exactly but when I was helping them plan their 50th anniversary which was probably bigger I learned they just had the wedding rehearsal and ceremony, instead of a groom's cake at the rehearsal it was the wedding cake which was smaller which would keep the cost down, coarse this is probably not for everyone I am sure many couples would want the party instead of the ceremony
I like the fact that you're asking yourselves why would we spend that huge amount of money on this if we could do it our way and save it. Like huge cakes costing thousands of dollars. Such a waste of money, we'll if we had come from a very wealthy background, probably we wouldn't think about costs. Our wedding will be a simple civil ceremony, with four witnesses, our closest supportive friends or family members and then a barbecue for extended only supportive we know is 100% non homophobic people we come from very traditional Catholic families which means that there are lots of fake acceptance and smiles, I just don't want them next to us on this special moment.
you guys are making me very excited for your wedding, and i am not even invited! #happysad
haha ikr
Did y'all see PJ and Thomas's wedding?
OMG can I go to your wedding? Lol
I volunteer to come to babysit Parker!
lol if u think 2 gay men would rely on a wedding planner then u haven’t been paying attention to gays 😅
EACH GROOM NEEDS A CHICKEN NUGGET CHAIRPERSON! best decision of the wedding they will keep you stocked on nuggets and will be able to help you with anything you need!
My husband and I had a grooms party. Involving our parents too. We had 6 couples in the wedding “ladies and men”, 3 couples on each side. We had our dads each day a speach and we had our mom and sons dance, followed with a blessing from our godparents. Very simple but involved everyone we really wanted to be apart of it. Also, do a lot of your own planning and bargain and have a wedding for panned for the last 6 months. Follow me in Instagram or you can check out my photos: @iamchavez87
Does IVF mean via surrogate?
Justin. rieck yes
A. W. Thank you!
I can take care Parker for you that day 🐶😬
I hope you record the wedding so your extended family on UA-cam can enjoy your happy day. Just saying.
I'll be your dog handler!
Two comments: look up best man's wedding speech on UA-cam, it can be so funny or a disaster. Also check out PJ and Thomas on UA-cam with their three foster kids. It is an eye opener. I am sure you wedding will be as close to perfect as possible. Good luck.
Those three kids are now the children of PJ and Thomas. They adopted all three of them, since they were already sibings.
XOXO!!!!
u all need to bake a cake on your cooking showl.
I am happy for you guys but donuts or cupcakes is definitely not a good idea.... people will make fun of you 😂