As a retired Paramedic (New York City) I find your videos fascinating and informative. I loved my job, and continue want to learn about medicine. First rule, “Do No Harm”. Doctors gaslighting other doctors and patients should review their Hippocratic Oath.
I asked the primary care doctor I was seeing,did he uphold the Hippocratic Oath,and he replied" what part of it,the one where we ought to be grateful for MDS helping us to learn? I could Not believe this response,as I was expecting him to respond either yes or no.I just looked at him and said nothing.I have Not ever heard a doctor say that before.How utterly sad.
I asked the primary care doctor I was seeing about if he upheld the Hippocratic Oath and his response was"which part do you mean:" where we ought to be grateful to learn from doctors who teach us?" I could Not believe this response by this doctor.I anticipated a yes/no not what he stated to me.I did Not reply and I just looked at him.I thought how sad he was,to think like that.
That's USA.... In Germany they Sometimes Like it If you ask and say Something what you don't like (In a respect and normal way, you should Not Scream lol). But yes, there are also Bad doctors sometimes😊, that's normal.
Yes. I knew something was wrong but for years I was told nothing was wrong. YEARS. then by the time it was discovered, it was cancer that reached stage 4. I still get gaslight about my pain. I now have PTSD from how I was treated.
@@lifeunfiltered4822This isn't uncommon, but devastating nonetheless. 😔 Consider looking into metabolic oncon... The research is very promising. Functional medicine may be an additional option.
So sorry to learn of your mistreatment. It’s a total disgrace & reflects badly on the medical profession. I hope much better for you. May you live your best future. You surely deserve it!
I can’t believe you’re a doctor who is experiencing the same frustrations as regular patients. I would think you would have different treatment because you’re a doctor.
It's worse when there is a super obvious injury on imaging and absolute childlike refusal to view hand-held physical film to lightbulb and say "What isthis?!" Enough. Thanks for service
Theybwont evwn look at specific marked i.ahes FROM a radiologist who has reviewed diagnostic imaging Nope They Maintain defense by claiming they haven't seen it so it cant exist
I live with CRPS. When I divulge my condition I have been told," It's all in your head", " You don't know what you're talking about". "There is no such thing because I've never heard of it". That condition won't effect your surgery". Those kinds of comments make my decision real easy to never go back.
@@cyndijoylee She was cured by a brand new method that just came out the year before. That was 15 years ago and she is still with us. What is so unbelievable about her situation is that we live in a city that has the top hospitals and doctors in the nation. Plus as a nurse she couldn't convince these arrogant doctors something was wrong with her.
This happens all the time. I am a retired R.N. People know their bodies and know something is wrong. I am elderly but I am not listened to by my doctors or specialists. I wished doctors would watch your video
I’m an elderly woman too and I feel invisible. In this country elders are not respected and we are to stay indoors and be seen but not heard. That’s how I feel sometimes. It’s awful too when my son’s wife after a year cut me out of their lives. My son said he was sorry but he has to basically do as she says not as I do. A royal b^tch!!
I have been gaslit by a Gastroenterologist one time. I asked about a stool test because I knew I had C-Diff and he said I didn’t have it! Well, I had it before and if you have had it, you know when you have it again. We argued, I stood my ground with him, and he ordered the test. The day after my test he called me with the result of the test. I was correct. I got the care and medication I needed but it was an awful experience. We do have a different doctor/patient relationship now. 👍🏻👍🏻🥰
Thank you for being so honest and vulnerable. Too many doctors have too big of an ego to share something like this. If this can happen to a doctor, it can happen to any of us! Thank you!
Yes,I had stress fractures in both feet(big girl jumping barefoot on mini-trampoline!) that didn’t show up on X-Ray! I was in pain,but since the “experts” told me I was fine,I didn’t question it at first. But after a week of pain,I went to a walk in center and they X-Ray-ed me again,this time spotting the fractures. There was no permanent physical damage,but I did feel a bit “shamed” by the fact that I questioned the first doctor’s opinion. Thank you,Dr. K,for another great video!
FYI fresh fractures may not be visible on x-ray. However, as your body starts to make new bone to heal the fracture, the new bone formation becomes visible on x-ray. So if still in pain, contact your doctor about a follow up x-ray. I’m not a doc, but I believe a 2 week follow up is about the right timing. Not too soon and not too late!! Ask your doc!
I have learned to be assertive. It is absolutely necessary to speak up whenever it is necessary for your well being....or someone else's if that's what's happening.
I have Ehlers Danlos Syndrome. Nearly EVERYTHING I have wrong with me is unobservable. And as a nurse I very carefully selected my docs and physicians because I knew them well. And they believed me. However, I've moved across country and now I'm pretty much needing to find new doctors. Eww!
I recently came across the Dysautonomia International website. It includes patients and doctors researching and treating all sorts of dysautonomia conditions. Ehlers Danilo’s Syndrome comes up often. Maybe they could help you find the caretaker you need.
Yes. My arm was broken but did not show on X-ray. Two days later, different doctor broken bone showed up on X-ray. Second was breast cancer in right breast. Took 2 years, several mammograms and me calling doctor to check again. Finally biopsy because something showed on mammogram. Stage one slow growing cancer. Had cancer 20 years earlier with mastectomy, six surgeries and eight chemo treatments. This time mastectomy and reconstruction. No chemo or radiation. I am so glad I kept pushing for test as hard as I did.
I certainly did not mean "freak" in a hurtful way. I am simply emphasizing that anyone and everyone is susceptible to this, independent of medical history
@@MedicalSecrets ik didn't take it bad but is true took 9 mos and many drs to diagnosed me it was a nightmare that was in 1996 now ive had enough stopped treatments 5 yrs ago couldn't take anymore of the bs. Fibromyalgia, myofascial pain syndrome and lucky me rsd it's a true nightmare every day
I AM the freak that normal things don't apply. Cyp 450 mutation makes me not able to metabolize some meds the right way but doctors seem to have never heard of it, and look at me like I'm making it up, and they disregard me
Perfect timing, I just got gaslit by a doctor for my strep throat of all things. First, they wouldn't order a test. They said to go to Urgent Care. Then they said they'd order a test but I have to travel an hour out to take it. The strep is visible on my tonsils. I have every symptom. I catch it nearly every year because I have reasons to believe I have a poor immune system. I caught it from my daughter who caught it from school. Then the Dr. Told me that even if I test positive, I might "just be a carrier". So even a positive result isn't going to sell her on it. Needles to say, I'm taking her own advice and taking my business elsewhere.
I’m going through that right now I know something is going on and the pulmonologist I saw yesterday said to me. “ I’m not hearing anything that bothers me”. Well I’m 72 years old in reasonable good health and know my body. Something is going on and I have been dismissed
I've been gaslit a lot. Family, doctors, work. If I was in your situation where your coworker was gossiping about you, I would have replied with " well, you know what they say, great minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events and small minds discuss people" then looked him up and down with a disgusted look on my face and said "mmh" (If I'm spelling that sound correctly). That's not the best way to handle that. I understand that. I've been gaslit so much, I can get a little...uhhh....sassy. I mean if you want to play Russian roulette with a wild card, who am I to say you're wrong. Not the right attitude, I know. I'm working on it. I'm glad you said that quote at the end. Not enough leaders talk about that. Also, It seems like society holds doctors more responsible for the individual's health than the individual. I don't think most people are consciously aware of it though.
This was a great message and I do struggle with self sabotage for my visits with doctors and trying to separate them out and try to trust them as an individual provider and not the provider that hurt me prior so I tried to make sure I give each doctor a chance before I shut down. Thanks again for doing such a wonderful job. I hope you do more soon.
This is one of my favorite channels. I live with a life threatening respiratory problem and i have dealt with many, many doctors of all sorts. This channel keeps me feeling calm and in control of my well being. I know, for a fact, that my health depends on me as much as it does my doctors. I just wanted to say thank you. I wish i had the resources to help you on path to helping so many others. I hope that my subscription, likes, and shares are enough to narrow the gap for you to continue giving your time, efforts, energy, save wisdom to those of us who really want to understand our place in helping ourselves, as much as we rely on others. You should be proud of yourself for sharing, and sometimes showing your own vulnerability. We aren't perfect. We are human. Thank you again. I'll always be watching to learn more and feel more confident with all of my doctors and my treatments. Best to you and yours.
I’ve gone through this so many times. Going through this now with a hernia repair that has given me pain for over a year and a half. I can feel the mesh has moved..and I feel it was never placed properly Plus the surgeon didn’t even try to fix the hernia without mesh, I told her my body rejects everything foreign, and that I’m reactive to titanium! It she also used titanium clips. She opted to cut between two small incisional hernias (after open heart surgery...they were tiny…but protruding and use two pieces of mesh because she didn’t have a big enough piece with her and had to borrow another piece from the hospital so she used two pieces instead of one and then she wanted me to go home that day and she didn’t prescribe post surgery pain..medication. Thank god the post op team was on my side and stood their ground even to calling the hospitalologist in. This is the short story of it. It’s been horrible and painful ever since. An ultrasound and a cat scan didn’t even show the mesh at all. So. We k ow it’s there why can’t they do an mri or another ultra sound I’ve also gone to my doctor with a new hernia…over nine months ago and it took him till just now to get me the ultrasound that proved it. Now I’m waiting for a surgeon. I am 67 years old. This has been really awful. He’s lied to me several times. I asked him if pain can cause high blood pressure…he said no. I asked him if there isn’t some kind of triage for determining severity of the situation and getting testing done accordingly. He denied there was and said it’s on a first come first served basis, no matter what the situation. I also asked if I could be reacting again to the titanium I’m used and he denied the possibility of that saying no one reacts to titanium. I reminded him that yes they do..twenty years I did and nearly died because no one would listen to me. He got upset with me, stood back red faced and clasped his hands and asked “ what? Are we not doing enough for you here? I give up. But I’m Raving a note to put the blame on him when I die
@lenitaa7938 while still waiting for a knee replacement 6yrs now surgeon said wait till your older I'm 68 now, and in Feb 24, I get painfull as bone spur in my other knee which has only mild arthritis, I'm having quite a lot of pulbatations couple of years now. Asked Dr 17th sept, what are we going to do about these pulbatations she wants me to keep a diary, they are pretty constant and nothing is taking my pain away. It's infuriating to me and always in pain.
Please !!!!! Don't just have a note written putting the blame for the death you anticipate will happen because you are not getting the care you need and deserve !!! Find anothet doctor and get an attorney....that will get your MD 's attention. Make sure your family and loved ones know exactly what 's happening to you. Please just don't give up. It's your life. ❤
Before I finally got gallbladder surgery I got four different diagnosis and was asked why I kept coming to the er! I said I don't want to die. I felt like I was dying and they tried to say it was all in my head! Finally a dr in er said she needs gallbladder removal. I had a 5mm yes mm in my gallbladder and it showed on my scans and they tried to tell me it would cause my symptoms thats when they tried to tell me it was in head!!! Thank God for dr Myron! Had surgery and all my symptoms went away!
I actually believe that drs are taught to gaslight in medical training nowadays because it's far too common. Infuriates me. Because even not letting drs gaslight me only got me dropped from their practices so what's a person's recourse?
@Nick-gq2iy nope I am DONE with all of them.... I was sick more OFTEN when I had to go Dr to Dr to Dr just to find one to take me seriously then risk being accused of "Dr shopping" even tho, DUH, that's what you have to do.... it's all a system designed for the patient's failure...
I have experienced this with doctors when my husband (he's 18 years older than I) has had health issues/emergencies. Oh yes, same thing with my neck ,I kept saying something was very wrong, finally got an MRI and I had vertebrae pushing on my Spinal Cord!! They wanted to do surgery the following week, I told them they had to wait until the next month because I wasn't wearing that hardware to my son's Wedding!!
Thank you. I am not alone. When I express confidence, I have been told by medical specialists that I am trying to be dominant and that will not work with them. I find that to be insulting and feel like my voice doesn’t count. If a physician refuses to listen to me, I retreat and look for another doctor. I wish I did not do that but I fought many battles in my life and I am exhausted.
When my friend got knee replacement surgery, her knee never recovered. It got so painful that she ended wheelchair bound for 6 months. She kept going back to the surgeon. He gaslit her so much that he ended up firing her as a patient. Her personal doctor was great. He found her another surgeon. He had to do knee replacement on her same knee. He said the other doctor put a knee replacement that was the wrong size. This stole a year of her life, time she will never get back. Horrible.
Hello Dr Anthony, just last year after suffering chest pain I had a CTA which showed a 90% obstruction of the RAC. I was hospitalised to have angiogram next day. The morning of the angiogram , I was seen by the consultant who was the most irrelevant rude, arrogant and conteptuaous person I have ever come across in my year of being a registered nurse. I thought he was going to send me home. To cut a long story short, I had the angiogram and a stent was inserted. Apparently my pain score was not high enough for him.
Exactly ! When I reported to the doc that I had POTS, he immediately thought “de conditioned ” and pushed for exercise. But POTS is dysautonomia and has nothing to do with being out of shape. Your heart rate just keeps going up as long as you are standing and can cause fainting, due to loss of blood pressure; then you have to sit or lay down and your heart rate goes down. Normally treated with IV saline, NOT exercise. Definitely put me in the wrong box! He should have ordered a blood test, which a different doc did a week later and found that my electrolytes were very low. Exercise could have killed me.
¡Thank you for sharing your wisdom with the world in such a simple and humble way! Your greatness as an MD lies in your humbleness. Incredible intelligence made approachable by the beauty of (again) your humbleness. You shine doctor!!!
Thank you so much for these informational vids Dr. Kaveh. You, Us, pushing for better care will Someday pay off. I have a goal to get a patient advocate for every disabled, chronic illness, & elderly patients/everyone on Medicare. My whole life's been taken by illness & gaslighting, I'm not the only one by any means. Thank you Anthony, for giving us the knowledge we need to fight for ourselves 👍🏼💙
OMG, yes! For years orthopedic surgeons told me hip pain on my hip replacement side was bursitis. I knew gluteus medius was involved. Finally found a doc who understood I actually COULD have an MRI with metal suppression technology. What do ya know… tendinosis of the lateral attachment of gluteus medius. 😤 Treatment for bursitis and tendinosis are completely opposite of one another.
I was gaslit when I went to the ER after peeing blood at home. The pee was opaque. They would not let me give a sample. I swear they had me confused with someone else. I had vomited for so long that I was dry heaving and was so weak that I had aspirated vomit. The ER doc never examined me. They put me in a bed and left me there for HOURS. They never took my vitals. I was worried that I was developing sepsis. After about five hours the nurse came and told me to get dressed and to leave that I was being discharged. I said “the doctor never examined me! No one took my vitals! I’m sick. I’m worried my organs are shutting down. “. She told me they were going to call security. Then the doctor put his head in to warn me to leave. I told him if he did a CBC and showed me the results, and if the results did not imply life threatening infection I would go home if my own volition. To prove me wrong he ordered the CBC. A little while later the nurse came in and started wheeling my bed out of the room. I asked her “what are you doing?” She said, “taking you to ICU. You have been admitted.” A moment later I was out. I don’t think I went into a coma, but my body was worn out and I basically fell asleep. I woke up every once in a while but I was delirious. I never sat up. Never watched a tv show. Never ate or drank. At some point I became aware of multiple IVs just pouring fluid and medicine into me. At another point a few days later I woke up briefly to hear a doctor introducing himself as an infectious disease specialist consulting on the case because the hospital isn’t had not been able to find something to cure the infection. I was too sick to talk and went back to sleep while he was still doing whatever he was doing. I just slept for about 8 days. I have PTSD because I know I would have died if I wouldn’t have thought to challenge the doctor by appealing to his ego and daring him to prove me wrong. I have a hard time trusting doctors now. I have significant depression and anxiety from the feeling of being ignored and written off as I lay dying. What if I didn’t have a graduate degree and what if I didn’t know what test he could order to rule out serious infection? What if I couldn’t speak English well? What if I had never heard of sepsis?. What if I were Deaf and without an interpreter? What if I were a person if color? I believe I would have had zero chance. And knowing now that this type of mistreatment happens to people of color and other marginalized groups all the time makes me even more depressed.
I’m glad you made it. It sounds like it was very touch and go. Always take someone with you if possible if you ever have to go again. That sounds so scary. Was it sepsis?
The problem with, “don’t antagonize “, is that if you question, assert yourself, etc., doctors are antagonized because of ego and the way they’re taught. We are all the same round pegs that they want to fit in round holes. Period. I wish I could afford to see a functional medicine doctor. It sounds like they’re more likely to treat each person as an individual
The only P-word i like less than (Std.) PROTOCOL is when i'm told: "But, that's our POLICY." (and when young, we're more easily fooled.) Luv how you cover psychological topics also!
I believe I've learned how to stand up for myself after having to do so for boy my boys with doctors and as they were growing up. They then learned to stand up for themselves and there own children.
You know what I’ve experienced, particularly when it comes to one person who actually introduced me to the concept of “gaslighting?”I saw she was continually accusing people of “gaslighting” her and yet I noticed that SHE “gaslit” me & people around her regularly. Personally, I felt so defensive and judged and felt disoriented at times. I find that dichotomy so confusing. My experience of being “gaslit,” (which seems to be more a part of my past ) doesn’t seem to follow that particular pattern as it did with her.
Im sorry you know what its like from experience ..... Plus having to deal with attorneys ... Good thing they considered not messing with your career... Most of the time when doctors are in hot water, they try to write the patient office schizophrenic.... specially in small towns.... but anybody that can articulate adequately they have to think twice good thing you did.. props two thumbs up...
Sometimes Doctors have too many Patients and too little time between Patients. Especially when Patients show up late. Naturally, a Doctor in a Clinic basically is given 15 minutes per Patient. In Reality, most Physicians don't spend 15 min., it's his Nurse that does. You have to and Must be your own Advocate! Keep a Medical Notebook with your Questions and Concerns? Reactions to Medications, etc...etc. This is also a great reference in case of Emergency for EMS/ EMT's. There's a reason why you feel pain. It's your brain telling you something is wrong! If the Standard Exam doesn't show anything? A broader Examination is needed!
Recently i had a crash on bike. Hurt my hip. It swelled up so much so much i couldn't put on my pants. Went saw my primary and said i should go to the urgent care to get a ct. It "showed" a hip fracture but the report was a bit weard. They were preparing for hip replacement. In the hospital, waiting for surgery i was able get up and walk so well, i qas able get in my 10,000 steps. I looked at the images myself and, as an engineer, i recognized the images has some data processing errors that made it look like a fracture. As the time for surgery approached, i told the head nurse that i would not sign a consent form without better data. I got an MRI and did not have any fracture. Goodness, i almost a an unnecessary hip replacement. It would have altered my life without need. I am still glad i stood up for myself and followed my gut feelings and demanded better data.
As a female with epilepsy and other hard to treat chronic conditions, I've been gaslit more time than I'd like. Go with knowledgr so when you push back, they can't dismiss your.
I’ll never forget my pediatrician, when I was a young mom bringing my son in because I “felt” like something was wrong and he was sick…I was fumbling with my words and “why?” I brought him in…he said straight out “I believe that no one knows their child better than their mother and I’m interested in what you think.” I was completely blown away. Ironically, he was one of my friends from high school. He was a young doctor as I was a young mom. ❤
Try having a rare disease that requires a VP shunt and if that VP shunt malfunctions it takes almost 2 years to get anything done I have to endure at least two years of gaslighting! I’m 54 years old my first shunt was placed in 1987 with up to 78 major surgeries related to the shunt 🙄
I’m so sorry to hear that. I have two rare genetic diseases and get weekly infusions for one of them. My veins aren’t tolerating the treatments anymore. My Dr thinks I should get a port. I am balking at that because of stories like yours. There are a lot of people that have ports and have no problems. I also know many like you who have had major problems. Im not sure I will get one, I’m allergic to everything and I honestly don’t think my body would react well. Again, I am very sorry you are still suffering but thank you for sharing this.
Hey Doc ! Just want to jump on and say Thank you for another great live 👍🏻 always learning something new !i wish you all the very best in your career ✌🏻❤
I had a bad experience yesterday and I realized I need to find a doctor or consultant who’s not a used car salesman type. He basically yelled at me and I feel sorry for him because he doesn’t realize how abrasive he is. I had already heard about him from a physical therapist and it was 10xs worse. The problem is that they only have one solution they are selling or surgery and they don’t have anything else so they get angry. Why would I want someone who is super angry to do a procedure on me or inject me with something that I know won’t help because I’ve had steroids before. They are not a “solution” and cause a lot of other problems down the line like tendon damage and weight gain.
I was gaslit as just wanting drugs despite the fact that the doctors could clearly observe that I was having difficulties with walking normally after recovering from a severe work related injury who were being paid by my former federal government employer til I got an lawyer. I've been continuously being paid worker's comp since the year of my injury. It took years to get said former employer to authorize surgery on my left leg to which I've suffered the complications that my surgeon had pointed out and I'm now stuck trying to get the full settlement or the appropriate compensation owed to me.
I was in the hospital to have my 6th child, 4th c-section. I had one section with a general (emergency), one that numbed me from the neck down (scary!), and one that didn’t numb me enough (I could feel the first cut and freaked out!) so I ended up with a general (he must have given me a lot because my next coherent thought was seven hours later). The plan for this (last) birth was an epidural. The anesthesiologist was a half hour late. He walked in and said, “So did your doctor explain that we’re doing a general since you’re too short for an epidural?” 😳 Did I look that stupid? I told him in no uncertain terms that we were NOT doing that, and if he didn’t agree, I was getting dressed and leaving. Then came the whining. He told me that if we were doing this my way that he should have been there a half hour earlier, so now they’d be running late and “they’ll yell at me.” 😢 I held my ground. I did not get a general. He came to see me later and said he looked at my chart, and wondered if my concerns were because of my first general anesthetic (where I was put to sleep for emergency delivery and woke up to say good-bye to my dying baby). He said he thought I wanted to be awake just because of “hearts and flowers”, and I should have told him. 🤔 He could have looked at my chart…or asked. I’ve told a number of people (I worked in the hospital) about being “too short for an epidural”. The story always gets plenty of laughs. If that had been my first child, I probably would have believed him.
Over 5 years ago I had a surgery on my left ankle. I woke up with CRPS the "doctor" said it hurts? Wierd. Yep it's red and swollen. I don't know but keep walking on it. See you in 3 months. Still hurts? Wierd keep walking see you in 6 months....keep walking see you in 6 months see you in 9 months. By then I couldn't sue him. He cared more for himself than my care. Now I ha e met 11 others he hurt. Now I am waiting for an amputation.
0: Whole Lotta gaslighting going on 😢 Wouldn't think it would happen at your level. Best to only confide in those you really trust. Yes if injury not seen.....have seen person not believed and happened to me also.
Oh the joy of having Oeseogenis I perfect and EDS.... I tend to know hmmm just bad sprain, hmmm dislocated or partial dislocated joint and heck a fracture. I do not fit in to hospital pathways it is a uphill struggle to get care I need. A bad sprain needs for me minimum 2 weeks in plaster or I will inadvertently keep hyper flexing joint... What makes it worse I am a Nurse with over 40 years experience and I struggle
I arrive at an ED with a fractured femur with x-rays snd letter fron overseas Orthopaedic surgeon. The triage nurse told me that until they x-rayed me femur. I had flown home for my surgical repair as I had the time to do so.Then think of having migraines from the age of three but Drs doing nothing to help me, even sfter turning up at an ED on a regular basis once vomiting black bile and my head exploding. It wasn't until I asked to try medication for migraines as a forty year old. Right now I no longer trust trust Drs.
Migraines are the pits. I feel your pain. Problem with not getting them treated is that they more quickly become chronic so please do find a good neurologist for your migraines that you trust. and also look into a good spine doctor because they *could* be coming from your spine.
I thought that following protocol was a method of self-protection. How can a doctor be faulted when something goes wrong if he followed protocol? Protocol protects the doctors from the lawyers.
Sometimes you need to go above and beyond protocol. I don't necessarily think he's referring to doing less than, or going completely off from protocol or standard of care, just not being pigeon-holed/restricted to protocols and standards. IE, what he said about his wrist. . . They followed the protocol, doing plain x-rays and CT scans and didn't find fracture. He knew something was up, but had to convince the provider to look further because the previous imaging looked "fine". He finally got an MRI ordered, and there was a fracture. That shouldn't happen! Also, he referred to a patient who needed a hip, and a surgeon who's protocol was to do spinal anesthesia for hips. The patient had medical PTSD and a phobia of needles. Kaveh confronted the surgeon to try to change the anesthesia plan to general to accommodate the patient's PTSD issues, and the surgeon told him to suck it up. Again, this should not happen, and I would not be using a provider who wasn't willing to tailor care to my needs. Do we want humans for providers or AI bots following algorithms?
I think she ment other doctors feel threatened by you because you reveal what they want to hide behind Thank you for sharing your personal experiences🙏
A lot of doctors seem emotionally immature to me. I think it’s because they spend their formative young adult years in a super competitive environment in medical school with their noses in a book instead of doing the normal developmental things like learning to communicate, dating, learning to hold a job and manage money, starting a family, etc. Therefore, a lot of them end up with poor social and communication skills. That’s my theory, anyway.
I've been gaslit, even if only mildly, just about every time I've seen a doctor. Which is why I quit going to them nearly 20 years ago. I didn't give them a chance to pressure me into an experimental Vax.
Yes i have had the same issue with my ankle. They swore nothing was wrong. Now I can't get anyone to help m I've been to 3 doctors already and still no mri is done and it was injured in May 2024
See if you can find one who does ablations. I never knew that was possible until a few years ago and atleast it can help pain in certain situations. What do you think k is wrong? Did you twist it or fall?
My husband died thanks to a gaslighting doctor who had no idea what she was doing. We’re in Canada where we can’t get a new specialist. She kept telling him he was fine when he was clearly very sick. She gave him relapses every three months for over 2 1/2 years. Her strategy was to keep doing the same thing over and over and he relapsed every three months. Doing the same thing over and over for years and hoping for a different outcome is the definition of madness. We only got a second opinion when my husband found out he could consult with doctors who knew what they were doing but his body was too weak to take the treatment. He died in my arms at the age of 68, a non smoker and a teetotaler. He died of a massive heart attack from a lung disease that nobody ever died of. I’m bereft with grief If I could name this catch u next Tuesday I would. She caused my husband to relapse over and over; every three months for two years. I’m heartbroken
This deft happens here in NZ and as someone who was born chronically ill ( NF1 and others) I have experienced this before many times by different drs, but, I have also had great drs too. Drs here introduce themselves by their Christian names and the white coat disappeared decades ago. This is to bring drs down to a level playing field. Well most of the time anyway😅 .
@@MedicalSecrets Its true I am from NZ too. It doesn't stop gaslighting. Now I am in my 70's I have had excellent care but it wasn't that way when younger.
I had to experience about a week ago doctor I had to go get lab work done to my right arm where they pull blood what they call a bun because I’m getting a CT scan on my heart where the injection with the with the iodine when I went to the lab to get done to pull the blood out of me I don’t know what happened about an hour later, my elbow, and where my arm is it started to swallow up. I could move my arm more. I had no movements in my finger. This is right after they pull blood out of me. I had no motion. I’m right handed everything I had to do was left-handed for four days. I went to the ER. They give me some type of muscle relaxers. The doctor told me looks like an infection. I’m just getting the movement better and my arm in my hand, but my right hand is still swollen. The back of my elbow still swollen and I have a little bit of pain. I asked at the ER for a CT scan but they didn’t do that even an x-ray, so yeah, I just had an x-ray the other day but this is what happened to me when I had lab work done to me that my whole arm just went stiff. I couldn’t move it and I would say I was in a pain about a 10+ all night that I couldn’t even move. The pain was so bad that I had chills all night and then I was running a fever to. I decided to goto the emergency, can you tell me what that could’ve been? Is it because they hit me right with a needle or was the needle infected or was it contaminated? Please let me know thank you so much.
I've had so many crappy doctors. One was an OB that was on duty during the birth of my daughter. We lost my daughter's heart beat in me. This Doctor would not come in. Told nurses to put me on oxygen and call my family let them know my unborn child was dead an I was going to die. The hospital called him again and told him to get in there. He finally showed up AFTER my actual OB doctor came in an order a emergency C-section. The hospital came in after the C-section and ask if we wanted to press charges. We didn't bc we didn't have money to get councils. But Dr. Casselberry got his owned. He was a child molester. He was caught by his 22 yr old daughter molesting her younger 10 year old sister. Guess he had been doing this to her when she was younger ...So she shot him in the head. He lives but with the mentality of a 3 yr old. Flat out when I met him in the 3 doctor rotation of OB ..he creeper me out. I kept having a weird feeling. Especially when he touched me. His "mid wife" that I never sign up for gave me a vag. exam. She told me that I had a really small cervix and Could Not Wait to Touch it !??!!! Now that was the ickest thing I ever went through . And that just one Doctor. I was born with Ton of birth defects. Thank God my Dad was a scientist. Bio Chemest and Toxicology were his PhD in. Bayer build labs for him and 600 employees. He was the VP of the Bayer farms. He was my advocate with ALL my doctors. He saved my life so many times bc of bad doctors. Another surgery was screw up. Doctors was doing a laparoscopy and puncher my badder and sent me home. As soon as I got home my stomach exploded and spreed blood and guts all over the wall. Lost 6 pints. Yeah he fixed it he thought. But not. I swelled up like I was nine months pregnant. I had hemorrhage in my belly. Bk to the hospital for 30 days. No food. Until my stomach healed. I have soooo many terrible doctors.
Here’s a problem of mine dr is saying mri is perfect yet the radiologist said different. Then another said my hard ware look perfect!! It’s been out for 11 yrs+. Getting old and there’s no help left..😢. I just don’t know where i go next. But i hurt 24/7 any suggestions I would appreciate ❤ty
“ I’m your doctor, I know best”
Was a response I once got when I questioned him.
Needless to say I never went back!
Yes. They are "God," because they went to Medical School. Gods! Don't even THINK about questioning them! Find someone with character.
And it’s my body so I’m in charge .
How about an architect saying that he has greater knowledge of your house structure engineering than you have?
@@HerbertTowersapples and oranges
@@HerbertTowers
As an architectural engineer myself, I'm not gaslighting you about that, unless you are an architectural engineer.
An untrustworthy person is a friend to no one.
Does anyone else wish Dr. k could be their primary doctor? 🖐️
As a retired Paramedic (New York City) I find your videos fascinating and informative. I loved my job, and continue want to learn about medicine. First rule, “Do No Harm”. Doctors gaslighting other doctors and patients should review their Hippocratic Oath.
Amen to That!!
And,,Thank you very much for being One of the Good Guys:!!😊❤
@@AndreaDingbatt❤
Thank you for your service ❤
I asked the primary care doctor I was seeing,did he uphold the Hippocratic Oath,and he replied" what part of it,the one where we ought to be grateful for MDS helping us to learn? I could Not believe this response,as I was expecting him to respond either yes or no.I just looked at him and said nothing.I have Not ever heard a doctor say that before.How utterly sad.
I asked the primary care doctor I was seeing about if he upheld the Hippocratic Oath and his response was"which part do you mean:" where we ought to be grateful to learn from doctors who teach us?" I could Not believe this response by this doctor.I anticipated a yes/no not what he stated to me.I did Not reply and I just looked at him.I thought how sad he was,to think like that.
The problem is, when a patient speaks up to a doctor, they just write you off as being non-compliant. There's no winning.
Or "mentally ill." They LOVE to use that one!
That's USA.... In Germany they Sometimes Like it If you ask and say Something what you don't like (In a respect and normal way, you should Not Scream lol).
But yes, there are also Bad doctors sometimes😊, that's normal.
Or worse, you are then tagged as a problem patient from that day forward and are treated as such. Never fully heard.
@@incognito595yep.
@@incognito595 or anxious.
Yes. I knew something was wrong but for years I was told nothing was wrong. YEARS. then by the time it was discovered, it was cancer that reached stage 4. I still get gaslight about my pain. I now have PTSD from how I was treated.
So sorry to read this I trust you are finally getting the care you need 🙏🏽
Yeah this is seriously common.
@@crystaldragonwoman thank you. Unfortunately I run into it still all the time
@@lifeunfiltered4822This isn't uncommon, but devastating nonetheless. 😔 Consider looking into metabolic oncon... The research is very promising. Functional medicine may be an additional option.
So sorry to learn of your mistreatment. It’s a total disgrace & reflects badly on the medical profession. I hope much better for you. May you live your best future. You surely deserve it!
I can’t believe you’re a doctor who is experiencing the same frustrations as regular patients. I would think you would have different treatment because you’re a doctor.
Nah, entitled idiots are pretty egalitarian when it comes to treating others like crap.
It's worse when there is a super obvious injury on imaging and absolute childlike refusal to view hand-held physical film to lightbulb and say "What isthis?!" Enough. Thanks for service
Theybwont evwn look at specific marked i.ahes FROM a radiologist who has reviewed diagnostic imaging
Nope
They Maintain defense by claiming they haven't seen it so it cant exist
I live with CRPS. When I divulge my condition I have been told," It's all in your head", " You don't know what you're talking about". "There is no such thing because I've never heard of it". That condition won't effect your surgery". Those kinds of comments make my decision real easy to never go back.
@@elizabethlewis3509 me too!
Is a living hell. And constantly judged
Same here
Years ago my older sister , who is a RN by the way was told by 2 doctors her odd symptoms were menopause.
It was stage 4 Lymphoma
That is horrific and sad.
Well, a woman has to have a woman's problem. Can't possibly be anything serious.
@@cyndijoylee She was cured by a brand new method that just came out the year before. That was 15 years ago and she is still with us. What is so unbelievable about her situation is that we live in a city that has the top hospitals and doctors in the nation. Plus as a nurse she couldn't convince these arrogant doctors something was wrong with her.
To be fair, nobody actually knows how menopause works, since women's health has only been accepted study for like a decade.
@@marenjones6665 so it's only been an accepted study since 2014 ????
This happens all the time. I am a retired R.N. People know their bodies and know something is wrong. I am elderly but I am not listened to by my doctors or specialists. I wished doctors would watch your video
I’m an elderly woman too and I feel invisible. In this country elders are not respected and we are to stay indoors and be seen but not heard. That’s how I feel sometimes. It’s awful too when my son’s wife after a year cut me out of their lives. My son said he was sorry but he has to basically do as she says not as I do. A royal b^tch!!
I have been gaslit by a Gastroenterologist one time. I asked about a stool test because I knew I had C-Diff and he said I didn’t have it! Well, I had it before and if you have had it, you know when you have it again. We argued, I stood my ground with him, and he ordered the test. The day after my test he called me with the result of the test. I was correct. I got the care and medication I needed but it was an awful experience. We do have a different doctor/patient relationship now. 👍🏻👍🏻🥰
Did he apologize?
I was seriously gaslit by a dietician/ nutritionist this year. I told my GI doctor about her and said that I refuse to see her again.
Call her out in person! She needs to feel the sting.
Thank you for being so honest and vulnerable. Too many doctors have too big of an ego to share something like this. If this can happen to a doctor, it can happen to any of us! Thank you!
Yes,I had stress fractures in both feet(big girl jumping barefoot on mini-trampoline!) that didn’t show up on X-Ray! I was in pain,but since the “experts” told me I was fine,I didn’t question it at first. But after a week of pain,I went to a walk in center and they X-Ray-ed me again,this time spotting the fractures. There was no permanent physical damage,but I did feel a bit “shamed” by the fact that I questioned the first doctor’s opinion. Thank you,Dr. K,for another great video!
FYI fresh fractures may not be visible on x-ray. However, as your body starts to make new bone to heal the fracture, the new bone formation becomes visible on x-ray. So if still in pain, contact your doctor about a follow up x-ray. I’m not a doc, but I believe a 2 week follow up is about the right timing. Not too soon and not too late!! Ask your doc!
I have learned to be assertive. It is absolutely necessary to speak up whenever it is necessary for your well being....or someone else's if that's what's happening.
Very well said!
I have Ehlers Danlos Syndrome. Nearly EVERYTHING I have wrong with me is unobservable.
And as a nurse I very carefully selected my docs and physicians because I knew them well. And they believed me.
However, I've moved across country and now I'm pretty much needing to find new doctors. Eww!
As your physicians age out into retirement you could find yourself in need…maybe get a young 0ne 🤷🏻♀️
I recently came across the Dysautonomia International website. It includes patients and doctors researching and treating all sorts of dysautonomia conditions. Ehlers Danilo’s Syndrome comes up often. Maybe they could help you find the caretaker you need.
Yes. My arm was broken but did not show on X-ray. Two days later, different doctor broken bone showed up on X-ray. Second was breast cancer in right breast. Took 2 years, several mammograms and me calling doctor to check again. Finally biopsy because something showed on mammogram. Stage one slow growing cancer. Had cancer 20 years earlier with mastectomy, six surgeries and eight chemo treatments. This time mastectomy and reconstruction. No chemo or radiation. I am so glad I kept pushing for test as hard as I did.
Thanks for explaining “gaslighting” because, for some reason, it’s a concept that continually evades me.
I'm the freak you talked about where nothings "normal" for me
I certainly did not mean "freak" in a hurtful way. I am simply emphasizing that anyone and everyone is susceptible to this, independent of medical history
@@MedicalSecrets ik didn't take it bad but is true took 9 mos and many drs to diagnosed me it was a nightmare that was in 1996 now ive had enough stopped treatments 5 yrs ago couldn't take anymore of the bs. Fibromyalgia, myofascial pain syndrome and lucky me rsd it's a true nightmare every day
You’re not a freak, you’re like me.
@@DMAC1301 it's impossible to get proper care in Tennessee
I AM the freak that normal things don't apply. Cyp 450 mutation makes me not able to metabolize some meds the right way but doctors seem to have never heard of it, and look at me like I'm making it up, and they disregard me
I’ve had chronic fatigue for 20 years and I’ve been ignored until I discovered I’d had glandular fever and not 3 different flu strains in one year.
Perfect timing, I just got gaslit by a doctor for my strep throat of all things. First, they wouldn't order a test. They said to go to Urgent Care. Then they said they'd order a test but I have to travel an hour out to take it. The strep is visible on my tonsils. I have every symptom. I catch it nearly every year because I have reasons to believe I have a poor immune system. I caught it from my daughter who caught it from school.
Then the Dr. Told me that even if I test positive, I might "just be a carrier".
So even a positive result isn't going to sell her on it. Needles to say, I'm taking her own advice and taking my business elsewhere.
I’m going through that right now I know something is going on and the pulmonologist I saw yesterday said to me. “ I’m not hearing anything that bothers me”. Well I’m 72 years old in reasonable good health and know my body. Something is going on and I have been dismissed
I'm so sorry to hear about this, I hope that you're able to find a unifying diagnosis from your care team 🙏
Thank you for giving us your time & knowledge, God bless you!
I've been gaslit a lot. Family, doctors, work. If I was in your situation where your coworker was gossiping about you, I would have replied with " well, you know what they say, great minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events and small minds discuss people" then looked him up and down with a disgusted look on my face and said "mmh" (If I'm spelling that sound correctly). That's not the best way to handle that. I understand that. I've been gaslit so much, I can get a little...uhhh....sassy. I mean if you want to play Russian roulette with a wild card, who am I to say you're wrong. Not the right attitude, I know. I'm working on it. I'm glad you said that quote at the end. Not enough leaders talk about that. Also, It seems like society holds doctors more responsible for the individual's health than the individual. I don't think most people are consciously aware of it though.
This was a great message and I do struggle with self sabotage for my visits with doctors and trying to separate them out and try to trust them as an individual provider and not the provider that hurt me prior so I tried to make sure I give each doctor a chance before I shut down. Thanks again for doing such a wonderful job. I hope you do more soon.
This is one of my favorite channels.
I live with a life threatening respiratory problem and i have dealt with many, many doctors of all sorts.
This channel keeps me feeling calm and in control of my well being.
I know, for a fact, that my health depends on me as much as it does my doctors.
I just wanted to say thank you.
I wish i had the resources to help you on path to helping so many others.
I hope that my subscription, likes, and shares are enough to narrow the gap for you to continue giving your time, efforts, energy, save wisdom to those of us who really want to understand our place in helping ourselves, as much as we rely on others.
You should be proud of yourself for sharing, and sometimes showing your own vulnerability.
We aren't perfect.
We are human.
Thank you again.
I'll always be watching to learn more and feel more confident with all of my doctors and my treatments.
Best to you and yours.
I’ve gone through this so many times. Going through this now with a hernia repair that has given me pain for over a year and a half.
I can feel the mesh has moved..and I feel it was never placed properly
Plus the surgeon didn’t even try to fix the hernia without mesh, I told her my body rejects everything foreign, and that I’m reactive to titanium! It she also used titanium clips.
She opted to cut between two small incisional hernias (after open heart surgery...they were tiny…but protruding and use two pieces of mesh because she didn’t have a big enough piece with her and had to borrow another piece from the hospital so she used two pieces instead of one and then she wanted me to go home that day and she didn’t prescribe post surgery pain..medication.
Thank god the post op team was on my side and stood their ground even to calling the hospitalologist in.
This is the short story of it. It’s been horrible and painful ever since. An ultrasound and a cat scan didn’t even show the mesh at all. So. We k ow it’s there why can’t they do an mri or another ultra sound
I’ve also gone to my doctor with a new hernia…over nine months ago and it took him till just now to get me the ultrasound that proved it. Now I’m waiting for a surgeon.
I am 67 years old. This has been really awful.
He’s lied to me several times. I asked him if pain can cause high blood pressure…he said no.
I asked him if there isn’t some kind of triage for determining severity of the situation and getting testing done accordingly. He denied there was and said it’s on a first come first served basis, no matter what the situation.
I also asked if I could be reacting again to the titanium I’m used and he denied the possibility of that saying no one reacts to titanium. I reminded him that yes they do..twenty years I did and nearly died because no one would listen to me.
He got upset with me, stood back red faced and clasped his hands and asked “ what? Are we not doing enough for you here?
I give up. But I’m
Raving a note to put the blame on him when I die
This is just disturbing of the dr/surgeon how dare they treat people this way, I hope you get the treatment you deserve it 🙏
@@diannephillips5162 thank you
The Pain can absolutely raise the blood pressure high, even to the dangerous levels! It’s a well-known fact!
@lenitaa7938 while still waiting for a knee replacement 6yrs now surgeon said wait till your older I'm 68 now, and in Feb 24, I get painfull as bone spur in my other knee which has only mild arthritis, I'm having quite a lot of pulbatations couple of years now. Asked Dr 17th sept, what are we going to do about these pulbatations she wants me to keep a diary, they are pretty constant and nothing is taking my pain away. It's infuriating to me and always in pain.
Please !!!!! Don't just have a note written putting the blame for the death you anticipate will happen because you are not getting the care you need and deserve !!! Find anothet doctor and get an attorney....that will get your
MD 's attention. Make sure your family
and loved ones know exactly what 's
happening to you. Please just don't give up. It's your life. ❤
Before I finally got gallbladder surgery I got four different diagnosis and was asked why I kept coming to the er! I said I don't want to die. I felt like I was dying and they tried to say it was all in my head! Finally a dr in er said she needs gallbladder removal. I had a 5mm yes mm in my gallbladder and it showed on my scans and they tried to tell me it would cause my symptoms thats when they tried to tell me it was in head!!! Thank God for dr Myron! Had surgery and all my symptoms went away!
I actually believe that drs are taught to gaslight in medical training nowadays because it's far too common. Infuriates me. Because even not letting drs gaslight me only got me dropped from their practices so what's a person's recourse?
Keep looking for better.
Depends which country and insurance you have sadly
@Nick-gq2iy nope I am DONE with all of them.... I was sick more OFTEN when I had to go Dr to Dr to Dr just to find one to take me seriously then risk being accused of "Dr shopping" even tho, DUH, that's what you have to do.... it's all a system designed for the patient's failure...
@natalievancouver8188 U.S. here so yeah,, pretty bad, UNLESS you can afford private pay
I have experienced this with doctors when my husband (he's 18 years older than I) has had health issues/emergencies.
Oh yes, same thing with my neck ,I kept saying something was very wrong, finally got an MRI and I had vertebrae pushing on my Spinal Cord!!
They wanted to do surgery the following week, I told them they had to wait until the next month because I wasn't wearing that hardware to my son's Wedding!!
Thank you. I am not alone. When I express confidence, I have been told by medical specialists that I am trying to be dominant and that will not work with them. I find that to be insulting and feel like my voice doesn’t count. If a physician refuses to listen to me, I retreat and look for another doctor. I wish I did not do that but I fought many battles in my life and I am exhausted.
When my friend got knee replacement surgery, her knee never recovered. It got so painful that she ended wheelchair bound for 6 months. She kept going back to the surgeon. He gaslit her so much that he ended up firing her as a patient. Her personal doctor was great. He found her another surgeon. He had to do knee replacement on her same knee. He said the other doctor put a knee replacement that was the wrong size. This stole a year of her life, time she will never get back. Horrible.
Wow 😮 oh no I’m sorry that happened to you. Unfortunately that happens WAY too often!! 😢
Hello Dr Anthony, just last year after suffering chest pain I had a CTA which showed a 90% obstruction of the RAC. I was hospitalised to have angiogram next day. The morning of the angiogram , I was seen by the consultant who was the most irrelevant rude, arrogant and conteptuaous person I have ever come across in my year of being a registered nurse. I thought he was going to send me home. To cut a long story short, I had the angiogram and a stent was inserted. Apparently my pain score was not high enough for him.
My goodness, I'm so sorry to hear about that! However, I'm grateful that you got the stent in the end. I hope you are doing better now?
I was attempted gaslit. If both my mom and I had not kept pressing the issue, I would be deceased and not writing this comment. It was horrific.
Agreed. Just because there's a standard protocol doesnt mean you fit in that box they put you in. Not everyone is the same.
Exactly ! When I reported to the doc that I had POTS, he immediately thought “de conditioned ” and pushed for exercise. But POTS is dysautonomia and has nothing to do with being out of shape. Your heart rate just keeps going up as long as you are standing and can cause fainting, due to loss of blood pressure; then you have to sit or lay down and your heart rate goes down. Normally treated with IV saline, NOT exercise. Definitely put me in the wrong box! He should have ordered a blood test, which a different doc did a week later and found that my electrolytes were very low. Exercise could have killed me.
¡Thank you for sharing your wisdom with the world in such a simple and humble way! Your greatness as an MD lies in your humbleness. Incredible intelligence made approachable by the beauty of (again) your humbleness. You shine doctor!!!
In line with the Confucius quote:
“Be the change you wish to see in the world.” - Ghandi
Thank you so much for these informational vids Dr. Kaveh. You, Us, pushing for better care will Someday pay off. I have a goal to get a patient advocate for every disabled, chronic illness, & elderly patients/everyone on Medicare. My whole life's been taken by illness & gaslighting, I'm not the only one by any means. Thank you Anthony, for giving us the knowledge we need to fight for ourselves 👍🏼💙
OMG, yes! For years orthopedic surgeons told me hip pain on my hip replacement side was bursitis. I knew gluteus medius was involved. Finally found a doc who understood I actually COULD have an MRI with metal suppression technology. What do ya know… tendinosis of the lateral attachment of gluteus medius. 😤 Treatment for bursitis and tendinosis are completely opposite of one another.
I was gaslit when I went to the ER after peeing blood at home. The pee was opaque. They would not let me give a sample. I swear they had me confused with someone else. I had vomited for so long that I was dry heaving and was so weak that I had aspirated vomit. The ER doc never examined me. They put me in a bed and left me there for HOURS. They never took my vitals. I was worried that I was developing sepsis. After about five hours the nurse came and told me to get dressed and to leave that I was being discharged. I said “the doctor never examined me! No one took my vitals! I’m sick. I’m worried my organs are shutting down. “. She told me they were going to call security. Then the doctor put his head in to warn me to leave. I told him if he did a CBC and showed me the results, and if the results did not imply life threatening infection I would go home if my own volition. To prove me wrong he ordered the CBC. A little while later the nurse came in and started wheeling my bed out of the room. I asked her “what are you doing?” She said, “taking you to ICU. You have been admitted.” A moment later I was out. I don’t think I went into a coma, but my body was worn out and I basically fell asleep. I woke up every once in a while but I was delirious. I never sat up. Never watched a tv show. Never ate or drank. At some point I became aware of multiple IVs just pouring fluid and medicine into me. At another point a few days later I woke up briefly to hear a doctor introducing himself as an infectious disease specialist consulting on the case because the hospital isn’t had not been able to find something to cure the infection. I was too sick to talk and went back to sleep while he was still doing whatever he was doing. I just slept for about 8 days. I have PTSD because I know I would have died if I wouldn’t have thought to challenge the doctor by appealing to his ego and
daring him to prove me wrong. I have a hard time trusting doctors now. I have significant depression and anxiety from the feeling of being ignored and written off as I lay dying. What if I didn’t have a graduate degree and what if I didn’t know what test he could order to rule out serious infection? What if I couldn’t speak English well? What if I had never heard of sepsis?. What if I were Deaf and without an interpreter? What if I were a person if color? I believe I would have had zero chance. And knowing now that this type of mistreatment happens to people of color and other marginalized groups all the time makes me even more depressed.
I’m glad you made it. It sounds like it was very touch and go. Always take someone with you if possible if you ever have to go again. That sounds so scary. Was it sepsis?
I am an elderly white woman with health issues and it happened to me! Almost died, I was at deaths door and the knob was turning!
❤ 🙏😇 yes, elderly are not listened to , also, disabled and cognitively challenged
Dr Kaveh you’re so helpful and kind !Hopefully more people find your channel, be bless world if more doctors care like you.
The problem with, “don’t antagonize “, is that if you question, assert yourself, etc., doctors are antagonized because of ego and the way they’re taught. We are all the same round pegs that they want to fit in round holes. Period. I wish I could afford to see a functional medicine doctor. It sounds like they’re more likely to treat each person as an individual
The only P-word i like less than (Std.) PROTOCOL
is when i'm told: "But, that's our POLICY." (and
when young, we're more easily fooled.) Luv how
you cover psychological topics also!
I believe I've learned how to stand up for myself after having to do so for boy my boys with doctors and as they were growing up. They then learned to stand up for themselves and there own children.
Thank you for the valuable information.
You know what I’ve experienced, particularly when it comes to one person who actually introduced me to the concept of “gaslighting?”I saw she was continually accusing people of “gaslighting” her and yet I noticed that SHE “gaslit” me & people around her regularly. Personally, I felt so defensive and judged and felt disoriented at times. I find that dichotomy so confusing.
My experience of being “gaslit,” (which seems to be more a part of my past ) doesn’t seem to follow that particular pattern as it did with her.
Im sorry you know what its like from experience ..... Plus having to deal with attorneys ... Good thing they considered not messing with your career... Most of the time when doctors are in hot water, they try to write the patient office schizophrenic.... specially in small towns.... but anybody that can articulate adequately they have to think twice good thing you did.. props two thumbs up...
Collapsed lung you can hear with a stethoscope.
Sometimes Doctors have too many Patients and too little time between Patients. Especially when Patients show up late.
Naturally, a Doctor in a Clinic basically is given 15 minutes per Patient.
In Reality, most Physicians don't spend 15 min., it's his Nurse that does.
You have to and Must be your own Advocate! Keep a Medical Notebook with your Questions and Concerns? Reactions to Medications, etc...etc. This is also a great reference in case of Emergency for EMS/ EMT's.
There's a reason why you feel pain. It's your brain telling you something is wrong! If the Standard Exam doesn't show anything? A broader Examination is needed!
Recently i had a crash on bike. Hurt my hip. It swelled up so much so much i couldn't put on my pants. Went saw my primary and said i should go to the urgent care to get a ct. It "showed" a hip fracture but the report was a bit weard. They were preparing for hip replacement. In the hospital, waiting for surgery i was able get up and walk so well, i qas able get in my 10,000 steps. I looked at the images myself and, as an engineer, i recognized the images has some data processing errors that made it look like a fracture. As the time for surgery approached, i told the head nurse that i would not sign a consent form without better data. I got an MRI and did not have any fracture. Goodness, i almost a an unnecessary hip replacement. It would have altered my life without need. I am still glad i stood up for myself and followed my gut feelings and demanded better data.
As a female with epilepsy and other hard to treat chronic conditions, I've been gaslit more time than I'd like. Go with knowledgr so when you push back, they can't dismiss your.
I’ll never forget my pediatrician, when I was a young mom bringing my son in because I “felt” like something was wrong and he was sick…I was fumbling with my words and “why?” I brought him in…he said straight out “I believe that no one knows their child better than their mother and I’m interested in what you think.” I was completely blown away. Ironically, he was one of my friends from high school. He was a young doctor as I was a young mom. ❤
Try having a rare disease that requires a VP shunt and if that VP shunt malfunctions it takes almost 2 years to get anything done I have to endure at least two years of gaslighting! I’m 54 years old my first shunt was placed in 1987 with up to 78 major surgeries related to the shunt 🙄
I’m so sorry to hear that. I have two rare genetic diseases and get weekly infusions for one of them. My veins aren’t tolerating the treatments anymore.
My Dr thinks I should get a port. I am balking at that because of stories like yours.
There are a lot of people that have ports and have no problems. I also know many like you who have had major problems. Im not sure I will get one, I’m allergic to everything and I honestly don’t think my body would react well.
Again, I am very sorry you are still suffering but thank you for sharing this.
Hey Doc ! Just want to jump on and say Thank you for another great live 👍🏻 always learning something new !i wish you all the very best in your career ✌🏻❤
I had a bad experience yesterday and I realized I need to find a doctor or consultant who’s not a used car salesman type. He basically yelled at me and I feel sorry for him because he doesn’t realize how abrasive he is. I had already heard about him from a physical therapist and it was 10xs worse. The problem is that they only have one solution they are selling or surgery and they don’t have anything else so they get angry. Why would I want someone who is super angry to do a procedure on me or inject me with something that I know won’t help because I’ve had steroids before. They are not a “solution” and cause a lot of other problems down the line like tendon damage and weight gain.
I was gaslit as just wanting drugs despite the fact that the doctors could clearly observe that I was having difficulties with walking normally after recovering from a severe work related injury who were being paid by my former federal government employer til I got an lawyer. I've been continuously being paid worker's comp since the year of my injury. It took years to get said former employer to authorize surgery on my left leg to which I've suffered the complications that my surgeon had pointed out and I'm now stuck trying to get the full settlement or the appropriate compensation owed to me.
I was in the hospital to have my 6th child, 4th c-section. I had one section with a general (emergency), one that numbed me from the neck down (scary!), and one that didn’t numb me enough (I could feel the first cut and freaked out!) so I ended up with a general (he must have given me a lot because my next coherent thought was seven hours later). The plan for this (last) birth was an epidural. The anesthesiologist was a half hour late. He walked in and said, “So did your doctor explain that we’re doing a general since you’re too short for an epidural?” 😳 Did I look that stupid? I told him in no uncertain terms that we were NOT doing that, and if he didn’t agree, I was getting dressed and leaving. Then came the whining. He told me that if we were doing this my way that he should have been there a half hour earlier, so now they’d be running late and “they’ll yell at me.” 😢 I held my ground. I did not get a general. He came to see me later and said he looked at my chart, and wondered if my concerns were because of my first general anesthetic (where I was put to sleep for emergency delivery and woke up to say good-bye to my dying baby). He said he thought I wanted to be awake just because of “hearts and flowers”, and I should have told him. 🤔 He could have looked at my chart…or asked. I’ve told a number of people (I worked in the hospital) about being “too short for an epidural”. The story always gets plenty of laughs. If that had been my first child, I probably would have believed him.
Thank you ☺ Great info/reminders
It took m e 10 years to find a doctor that didn’t blow off my torn rotator cuff issue blaming it on m y Fibro.
Thanks for your video work and for your informations.
Yes yes yes have experience this in last 3 1/2 yrs!! W.C.!!!
I'm so sorry to hear that
Over 5 years ago I had a surgery on my left ankle. I woke up with CRPS the "doctor" said it hurts? Wierd. Yep it's red and swollen. I don't know but keep walking on it. See you in 3 months. Still hurts? Wierd keep walking see you in 6 months....keep walking see you in 6 months see you in 9 months. By then I couldn't sue him. He cared more for himself than my care. Now I ha e met 11 others he hurt. Now I am waiting for an amputation.
Yes, broke my fema and tore my mcl. Only showed up on the mri. Had xrays, CT before
Thanks for your valuable info and insight.
0: Whole Lotta gaslighting going on 😢 Wouldn't think it would happen at your level. Best to only confide in those you really trust. Yes if injury not seen.....have seen person not believed and happened to me also.
Why would someone with migraines be more likely to be gaslit by a doctor?
Oh the joy of having Oeseogenis I perfect and EDS.... I tend to know hmmm just bad sprain, hmmm dislocated or partial dislocated joint and heck a fracture.
I do not fit in to hospital pathways it is a uphill struggle to get care I need.
A bad sprain needs for me minimum 2 weeks in plaster or I will inadvertently keep hyper flexing joint... What makes it worse I am a Nurse with over 40 years experience and I struggle
G’day from Australia Doc😊
I arrive at an ED with a fractured femur with x-rays snd letter fron overseas Orthopaedic surgeon. The triage nurse told me that until they x-rayed me femur. I had flown home for my surgical repair as I had the time to do so.Then think of having migraines from the age of three but Drs doing nothing to help me, even sfter turning up at an ED on a regular basis once vomiting black bile and my head exploding. It wasn't until I asked to try medication for migraines as a forty year old. Right now I no longer trust trust Drs.
Migraines are the pits. I feel your pain. Problem with not getting them treated is that they more quickly become chronic so please do find a good neurologist for your migraines that you trust.
and also look into a good spine doctor because they *could* be coming from your spine.
I thought that following protocol was a method of self-protection. How can a doctor be faulted when something goes wrong if he followed protocol? Protocol protects the doctors from the lawyers.
Sometimes you need to go above and beyond protocol. I don't necessarily think he's referring to doing less than, or going completely off from protocol or standard of care, just not being pigeon-holed/restricted to protocols and standards. IE, what he said about his wrist. . . They followed the protocol, doing plain x-rays and CT scans and didn't find fracture. He knew something was up, but had to convince the provider to look further because the previous imaging looked "fine". He finally got an MRI ordered, and there was a fracture. That shouldn't happen! Also, he referred to a patient who needed a hip, and a surgeon who's protocol was to do spinal anesthesia for hips. The patient had medical PTSD and a phobia of needles. Kaveh confronted the surgeon to try to change the anesthesia plan to general to accommodate the patient's PTSD issues, and the surgeon told him to suck it up. Again, this should not happen, and I would not be using a provider who wasn't willing to tailor care to my needs. Do we want humans for providers or AI bots following algorithms?
I think she ment other doctors feel threatened by you because you reveal what they want to hide behind Thank you for sharing your personal experiences🙏
A lot of doctors seem emotionally immature to me. I think it’s because they spend their formative young adult years in a super competitive environment in medical school with their noses in a book instead of doing the normal developmental things like learning to communicate, dating, learning to hold a job and manage money, starting a family, etc. Therefore, a lot of them end up with poor social and communication skills. That’s my theory, anyway.
3 xrays your shoulder is fine. 2 months later an mri shows a double rotator cuff tears a bicep tear and massive bursitis.
Yes, many times as I have Ehlers Danlos.
👉I believe my super fancy surgeon made errors but is keeping any other surgeons or specialists from seeing or treating me with his authority.
They just don't listen.
Interesting video 😊
Thanks!
I've been gaslit, even if only mildly, just about every time I've seen a doctor. Which is why I quit going to them nearly 20 years ago. I didn't give them a chance to pressure me into an experimental Vax.
I don't trust ANY doctor. I only go if I am on deaths door step
Yes i have had the same issue with my ankle. They swore nothing was wrong. Now I can't get anyone to help m I've been to 3 doctors already and still no mri is done and it was injured in May 2024
See if you can find one who does ablations. I never knew that was possible until a few years ago and atleast it can help pain in certain situations. What do you think k is wrong? Did you twist it or fall?
Hello Dr Anth
My doctor's staff tell the patients if he had injury, etc. But I guess he wanted us to know.
My husband died thanks to a gaslighting doctor who had no idea what she was doing. We’re in Canada where we can’t get a new specialist.
She kept telling him he was fine when he was clearly very sick. She gave him relapses every three months for over 2 1/2 years. Her strategy was to keep doing the same thing over and over and he relapsed every three months. Doing the same thing over and over for years and hoping for a different outcome is the definition of madness.
We only got a second opinion when my husband found out he could consult with doctors who knew what they were doing but his body was too weak to take the treatment. He died in my arms at the age of 68, a non smoker and a teetotaler. He died of a massive heart attack from a lung disease that nobody ever died of. I’m bereft with grief
If I could name this catch u next Tuesday I would. She caused my husband to relapse over and over; every three months for two years. I’m heartbroken
So sorry for your loss. Was she just giving him steroids instead of treatment? 🙏🌹🌹🌹I pray you find peace with what happened. ❤
This deft happens here in NZ and as someone who was born chronically ill ( NF1 and others) I have experienced this before many times by different drs, but, I have also had great drs too. Drs here introduce themselves by their Christian names and the white coat disappeared decades ago. This is to bring drs down to a level playing field. Well most of the time anyway😅 .
My goodness, that is an interesting culture! Thank you for sharing
@@MedicalSecrets Its true I am from NZ too. It doesn't stop gaslighting. Now I am in my 70's I have had excellent care but it wasn't that way when younger.
(Notorious Congressional Whistle-blower. Tee-hee-hee)❤
I had to experience about a week ago doctor I had to go get lab work done to my right arm where they pull blood what they call a bun because I’m getting a CT scan on my heart where the injection with the with the iodine when I went to the lab to get done to pull the blood out of me I don’t know what happened about an hour later, my elbow, and where my arm is it started to swallow up. I could move my arm more. I had no movements in my finger. This is right after they pull blood out of me. I had no motion. I’m right handed everything I had to do was left-handed for four days. I went to the ER. They give me some type of muscle relaxers. The doctor told me looks like an infection. I’m just getting the movement better and my arm in my hand, but my right hand is still swollen. The back of my elbow still swollen and I have a little bit of pain. I asked at the ER for a CT scan but they didn’t do that even an x-ray, so yeah, I just had an x-ray the other day but this is what happened to me when I had lab work done to me that my whole arm just went stiff. I couldn’t move it and I would say I was in a pain about a 10+ all night that I couldn’t even move. The pain was so bad that I had chills all night and then I was running a fever to. I decided to goto the emergency, can you tell me what that could’ve been? Is it because they hit me right with a needle or was the needle infected or was it contaminated? Please let me know thank you so much.
Do you have a website?
It was Runi who said that quote. Not Confucius. I googled it. They are not even the same nationalities. Lol. ;)
Yes
Still no Dr can tell me what is wrong
I've had so many crappy doctors. One was an OB that was on duty during the birth of my daughter. We lost my daughter's heart beat in me. This Doctor would not come in. Told nurses to put me on oxygen and call my family let them know my unborn child was dead an I was going to die. The hospital called him again and told him to get in there. He finally showed up AFTER my actual OB doctor came in an order a emergency C-section. The hospital came in after the C-section and ask if we wanted to press charges. We didn't bc we didn't have money to get councils. But Dr. Casselberry got his owned. He was a child molester. He was caught by his 22 yr old daughter molesting her younger 10 year old sister. Guess he had been doing this to her when she was younger ...So she shot him in the head. He lives but with the mentality of a 3 yr old.
Flat out when I met him in the 3 doctor rotation of OB ..he creeper me out. I kept having a weird feeling. Especially when he touched me. His "mid wife" that I never sign up for gave me a vag. exam. She told me that I had a really small cervix and Could Not Wait to Touch it !??!!! Now that was the ickest thing I ever went through . And that just one Doctor. I was born with Ton of birth defects. Thank God my Dad was a scientist. Bio Chemest and Toxicology were his PhD in. Bayer build labs for him
and 600 employees. He was the VP of the Bayer farms. He was my advocate with ALL my doctors. He saved my life so many times bc of bad doctors. Another surgery was screw up. Doctors was doing a laparoscopy and puncher my badder and sent me home. As soon as I got home my stomach exploded and spreed blood and guts all over the wall. Lost 6 pints. Yeah he fixed it he thought. But not. I swelled up like I was nine months pregnant.
I had hemorrhage in my belly. Bk to the hospital for 30 days. No food. Until my stomach healed.
I have soooo many terrible doctors.
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Hello everyone.
Here’s a problem of mine dr is saying mri is perfect yet the radiologist said different. Then another said my hard ware look perfect!! It’s been out for 11 yrs+. Getting old and there’s no help left..😢. I just don’t know where i go next. But i hurt 24/7 any suggestions I would appreciate ❤ty
Do you know any good doctors/ surgeons like you in Colorado?
Why have you adopted the yoof-speak expression "gas-lighting'. It's moronic.
It’s a term that originated from a film in 1944. So, not exactly for the kids only. 😂 I first learned the term in high school, in the 1990s.