We Are In A Relationship
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- Опубліковано 21 лис 2022
- Finally after 13 years I can be honest about how I feel and where we’re going. MAKE IT REAL AND ACTUALLY SOCIAL BY SEEING ME ON TOUR IN USA AUSTRALIA + EUROPE danielhowell.com
Thanks for watching besties, at least you’d actually know what to get me for Christmas. Just remember Santa doesn’t know you and it’s okay if he makes you feel warm and fuzzy but you’re just a number to him so don’t try to catch him in a net and force him into marriage.
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CREATED BY
DANIEL HOWELL
PRODUCED BY
SOPHIE NEWTON
CREATIVE PRODUCERS
JACOB RICKARD
KENNY ENGLAND
PHIL LESTER
DIRECTOR OF PHOTOGRAPHY
CIARAN O’BRIEN
CAMERA ASSISTANT
JOE ROWE
SOUND ENGINEER
WILL LANGDALE
ART DIRECTOR
LOUIS GRANT
EDITORS
ELLIOT GOUGH
DAN HOWELL
ANIMATORS
JAMES PAINTER
PJ LIGUORI
Music courtesy of Epidemic Sound:
Asteroid One - Czar Donic
Night Driver - Ballpoint
Never Forgotten - Christopher Moe Ditlevsen
Temple of Runha - DLFL
Captions - amara.org/videos/mZFS7rKZ4Fl3... thank you!
German - AnnikaSp
American - AnnikaSp
Korean - Annabel Park
Dutch - Juul J
Portuguese - Mirian Rodrigues
Russian - Anna Vinogradova
Turkish - Pelin
Ukranian - Zoe
let's make it real and actually social come see me on tour in the usa/australia/europe danielhowell.com
Come to mexico challenge
Ok Dan
come to brazil my dude
I THOUGHT NO MORE CLICKBAIT
i’ve seen you twice and i will do it again, don’t tempt me
He knows... He just fucking knows he has this fandom on a chokehold
I literally chocked
I cried... A little
I’m having chest pains
I fell for it LIKE A FOOL!!!
It's wild that in 2 minutes 1000 people had the same thought and liked this comment - we're really a single hivemind
most clickbaity title i’ve ever seen and i STILL clicked at the speed of light
same 😭
same lmao
Accurate
Saw it. Knew it was a lie. Clicked anyway.🤷🏿♀️
Real
When I was 14 I met Dan at a convention and whilst I was waiting to meet him I loudly joked about a wildly inappropriate fanfiction and Dan retorted with "don't be creepy" honestly that moment made me rethink all my life choices leading up to that moment, my whole body goes inside out whenever I think about it
that's fucking embarrassing
@@Anna_Crossing you're telling me
I'd like to emphasise this was like 10 years ago!
I wouldve thrown myself off a cliff
I would’ve took this to the grave tbh😭💀
I am genuinely glad that Dan feels more comfortable with the community now. As he said, we've all gotten older and I'm glad most of us are a lot more respectful of his and Phil's privacy, boundaries, and autonomy than we used to be.
Seeing his new content makes me feel like I've aged a lifetime and not at all, all at the same time and it's really weird. It's like seeing an old friend except we didn't really grow up together
i like how the entire community cringes at our past collective selves
to be fair when they were super super famous and popular we were all kids and the internet as we know it (youtube especially) was brand new and nobody understood parasocial relationships or how to treat creators. it’s understandable that now people actually know how to act
@@ba-wn1xi No that was in like 2012 or 2014 or something or not? That was not "brand new"
I feel like this is the most gentle, productive way in which he could've said "y'all were toxic af"
REAL
Honestly
glad i was a consistent viewer without having ever really said anything
@@liuser same, I've always found real life shipping and such to be very uncomfortable
the ace in me could only see phil and dan as two bros in a pod
he’s reclaiming the years of speculation and intrusion from y’all and i’m living for it
nah cause he gets to do that as long as he wants
fr i love it
I’m glad he is 😂
Haha, seriously. Got so happy when I saw that title.
IKR i love that for him
i was 13 geeking out watching dan and now i’m 19 high as hell listening to him talk abt our relationship 🧍🏽
Same!
did we really all become stoners? i'm literally rolling up one as I watch this 💀
@@francescajamesbonetti6368 I think the Dan and Phil fan to stoner pipeline is more real than we ever imagined
LMAOO naa i was a phannie back then and became a stoner too aint no way 😭😭
too real.
I'm 23 now, 10 years later, I still fall for this 💀
It's okay, Dan. We all know you're in a committed, intimate relationship with the eternal abyss. You don't have to hide it from us anymore.
Dan x Cthulhu
That's a weird thing to call Phil.
@@alicenthightower9161 low-key want to draw this
oh the abussy
Gigglin at this
Something about Dan uploading on a consistent schedule and consistently click baiting us is exactly the relationship I like here
Me too
Im glad u made this comments cuz i was gonna make the same one
Honestly I haven’t watched any videos for at least a year so when I saw this come up I was like “hm let’s see how that’s going” and now I’m questioning everything
What do you mean click bait ? That title is leterally what you got.
agreed
someone comments this on every video
I honestly love how the phandom has evolved from this extremely toxic relationship into one of the healthiest fandoms I've been in. I feel like most of us have learned a lot about the boundaries of parasocial relationships and now immediately recognize and often call out unhealthy behaviour in other fandoms they interact with.
i think it helps that a majority if not all of us have grown up into adults. you take millions of underage preteens and give them a relatable attractive queer man, we go batshit. but now that most of us are 18+ we are a bit more mature
We grew up together and matured
It was toxic?
@@cloudsoflilac9731 very, a lot of them used to constantly intrude in their personal lives and overstep boundaries
i didn’t join the fandom untill after dan and phil already came out and i could not be happier about that fact purely because of how less toxic it is
"All it took was for everyone to get 6 years older and mortified by their past, half the population realizing they were queer the whole time and thousands of pounds of therapy. Oh well! We got here!"
That was a shockingly perfect summary
Girl you know what you’re doing with these titles…and I fall for it EVERY TIME
i ran here and i don’t run for anything or anyone 😂😂😂😂
bro same 😭
I knew it was clickbait, but I always click anyway cause what if. And I respect that they want to keep things privite, but still am here in case they want to share
I was like... So who is he in what relationship with? Cause it can't be Phil which I have hoped for for literal years.
I knew it was gonna be this but I was still hoping
Proud of him making such an important announcement. He knows that I love being in a chokehold and pinned down roughly to finally hear about this.
HAHA
@vix5240 Seriously, out of all the comments he could heart- 😅
I think this is a poignant episode to comment on how you were a legitimate influence on how I grew and evolved over the years despite us never meeting. I started watching when I was an 11-year-old emo wannabe in 2014 and I am now a 19-year-old biochem pre-med student who still watches every upload the day it comes out. It genuinely feels like chatting with an old friend, especially during this transition phase of life where parasocial relationships are the only ones I have. Sure, I can't tell you about my day or ask you how you're doing, but this relationship is important to me. In some ways it's hard because we'll never actually be friends, but I also take comfort in the fact that your healthy boundaries with your audience are something you've cultivated over the years and the pride wins out. Just FYI, people saying I looked like you was a genuine piece of gender euphoria that spurred me to transition, so thanks? Love this video, and I'll love the next one too
Very relatable comment, cheers! College is definitely weird but eventually you will make new frens.
- a fellow bio major
this is such a wholesome comment!
Congrats on college and your transition! I hope you have a life of happiness. :)
Every time he says that he enjoys or benefits from having an audience, I just melt. I really see that he's happier now, and actually able to put constructive boundaries on this strange parasocial relationship of ours
I adore the leveraging of an audience's feeling of entitlement to a creators personal life to talk to said audience about how strange that entitlement actually is
Genius tbh
this level of trolling is what brings me true joy
I love this community lmao
I saw the video title and knew it was clickbait because it’s Dan, BUT-some little gremlin from the depths of my soul crawled up and dared to hope and even scream “WHO WHO IS IT PHIL GIMME GIMME GIMME”
So I’d say this counseling is well deserved given whatever *picks gremlin up by scruff of the neck* _THIS_ is. Well played Dan. True stroke of genius.
@@riverstein7251 i’ve never been so accurately described by a youtube comment wow
"he knows what hes doing with that title!" thats exactly why hes doing it and honestly he deserves to after all these years
after all the hounding about his personal life
he deserves doing this fr 💀💀
love this for him
THEY WANT TO KNOW THE TRUTH PHIL! DID WE FUCK?
Tbh I keep smiling every time I see a new one. Always fun trying to guess what the twist it this time! =P
Yess reclaim his power!
Fr though when I saw that title I was like "Oh no, he's being forced to say personal stuff. It's Kit Connor all over again!" I was so relieved when he started talking about paradoxical relationships, and also intrigued because I've only heard the term in passing before.
I like how for the most part the community is literally all the same people just older. I like it. We’ve all gotten more mature
the height of this parasocial relationship we have with dan and phil is the fact that we all knew the layout of their old london flat by heart...like we were the 3rd wheel de facto roommate who stayed in their small gaming/guest room that didnt pay the rent and couldn't get rid off
I love this parasocial relationship. Glad to finally be acknowledged :)
This. ❤
so glad we're going strong after all these years💖
@@danielhowell happy many year anniversary from millions of people
?????
after all this time he still knows how to get our attention
He just jingles keys at the screen and we snap to it with full attention.
If only my teachers were like him... that would be so much better
Yup. This man is a legend.
Always 🧙♂️ 😂
To be fair. It’s usually the same way lol
i did have "thank dan and phil personally" on my bucket list i've been building since i first found you guys in middle school. i've gone through breakups and losses of friends and finding new phandom friends and sometimes i'd feel so lonely before finding comfort in the fanbase and your videos. it saved my life then, and i don't know where i would be without Dan and Phil or the tours or merch or all of the culture we collectively made up six years ago... i'm so proud of where we are now !! we've grown a lot and yet this is still our home
so if you're reading this, thank you. thank you so much for being here, and even though i never really got to thank dan and phil in person, i think this video is enough for me to cross off that bullet anyway. dan we love you (parasocially)
the fact my parasocial relationship with you began when I was eleven and stole my moms credit card to pay to become #1 fan while watching you on YouNow definitely shows how terrible I’m doing at twenty
😂 this is gold
can we really trust dan to be the one to talk about parasocial relationships when he is literally the prime example of anything coming from one.
See the answer should be no.. but we all know the answer will be yes.
Are you talking about him and Phil? That's wasn't parasocial. They spoke to each other.
@@logonfrog yeah but it started out as parasocial.
@@AmandaHeselaa again, they actually spoke to each other. like on a casual conversational level. the vast majority of parasocial relationships have zero direct communication beyond maybe the occasional heart or reply to a comment. the parasocial aspect may have been what motivated them to initially reach out to each other but the actual basis to the relationship (platonic, romantic, whatever) was them actually talking to each other and eventually meeting up. a parasocial relationship is not a precursor to a real one
edit: idk what it has to so with my point but I have been a fan for nearly a decade, i am aware that Dan was a fan before him and Phil actually became friends. that does not in any way change the fact that a _parasocial_ relationship does not ever indicate whether you could actually form a meaningful friendship/relationship with someone. it was _actually meeting up and talking to each other_ that was the start of them becoming close. parasocial relationships are called that for a reason. they are not a meaningful mutual bond in any way and can barely even be called a relationship. they are not ever, even in the case of Dan and Phil, the "beginning" of any kind of relationship. if they weren't compatible as people the parasocial infatuation on Dan's part would not have saved the friendship because it is not an actual relationship. being a fan of someone does not mean you two would inherently get along together irl. it may have been the reason Dan reached out so it is the reason they met, but just meeting someone is not the start of any kind of relationship since those require actually knowing people on a personal level.
@@Ari_C Dan started out as a HUGE fan of Phil’s and tweeted at him constantly about their common interests until he finally noticed and Dan was SHOCKED when he was actually on the way to meet Phil for the first time. It is ABSOLUTELY abnormal for parasocial relationships to ever be two-sided in any capacity, but the fact that dan definitely began his friendship with Phil as a parasocial relationship (and made a whole video explaining what I️ just outlined) is the joke.
As weird as it is to have Dan post so often, im absolutely eating this shit up
I used to watch your videos in 8-9th grade while procrastinating learning for tests.. now i'm in uni watching your videos while procrastinating studying for exams.. some things never change i guess
It's so wild bc when my friends and I went to your show we were all a bit stricken and emotional. Seeing a celebrity's show is one thing but when it's a youtuber/content creator you've followed for years, it almost feels like meeting an online friend irl for the first time.
To be honest Dan is that quirky Uncle that you rarely hear from but when you do you’re glad that he’s doing well and is thriving
This perfectly describes it
😆 uncle dan
He never use to be this way😭😭
Oh I have one of those. During my late childhood and teenage years, he left the family to join some weird religion with his girlfriend. When I was 20, he appeared with my family in a Skype call when I was studying abroad, now single. By the time I was 22, he was living on the other side of the country (4 hours by plane), openly gay and dancing half naked in Sydney Mardi Gras.
What a guy 🤣
yup, exactly
13 year old me would have had a heart attack and clicked on this video in a heartbeat
17 year old me saw the notification, thought “haha nice one” and calmly went on with my day
18 y/o me saw the notification and almost didnt want to watch it at all because of it being clickbait LMAO
Same 😂
32 year old me stroked out and clicked
Somehow I knew itd be with us!
Same, I was like, he's either going to talk about being in a relationship with us viewers or go "I'm in a relationship with Phil. It's called friendship."
My parasocial relationship with Dan is watching him as a teenager and him explaining what an existential crisis is so honestly and openly that I felt so *relieved* that what I was experiencing was a real thing and I hadn't lost my mind. And, hey, led me on a road to positive mental health and self-healing!
I’ve felt connected with you longer than any of my friendships have lasted. I’m 21, and I started watching you and Phil when I was about 11. Your content consistently got me through the hardest things I’ve ever had to go through. I’ll have lulls in watching, but like a friendship it still continues and you can jump back into it whenever it feels appropriate. Keep it up Danny boy
me half-listening to Dan talk about parasocial relationships while I tidy the living room: yeah sometimes it *is* nice to not feel alone in the house
glad it's not just me
literally me cleaning my mirrors rn and listening to him ramble
❤️
Literally, I actually opened up UA-cam rn to find a video to put in the background so I could clean,,
oh wow i got a heart, senpai has noticed me, this means our relationship is really true and deep and meaningful 🥹 Just like all other real relationships, let's continue to have healthy boundaries 🥹🥰
Why do we keep falling for this? Dan knows exactly what he’s doing to us and ENJOYING EVERY MOMENT (as he should). 😅
And I'll keep falling for it for the rest of my life😫
Meanwhile I'm wondering where he gets all his stripey shirts from
i think u missed the point
This communication 😤👍🏻 immaculate. Never seen a youtuber talking about the relationship between creator and viewer so openly, and it’s so needed
:) ❤ amazing. I’m 23 and been watching since I’m 15. I also feel you’re finally in a healthy relationship with the fandom!
thanks for raising me parasocially dan, you watched smosh since you were 14 i watched you since i was 14 and don’t plan on stopping
Exactly Dan and Phil, Pj, Seàn (jacksepticeye) raised my queer little self as I was living in a extremely homophobic, hostile and abusive environment.
My parasocial relationship is being proud of Dan for going outside and getting a haircut before this video
I had the same best friend for 16 years. We aren't friends anymore. But one of the only things I did take away from our friendship is watching Dan and Phil. What a wild 10 years it's been.
2:09 that aged amazingly
Our parasocial relationship was wild because I’m 25 now and I genuinely look back on the time I spent interacting with you as a teen more fondly than I look back on memories I actually share with the -assholes- people who were my friends 10 years ago.
Same
Same
Sometimes the real friends were the UA-cam gays we found along the way
No but same... XD
Same! But I’m 22 now
I FELL FOR IT. 😭
Same 😣😂😭
ME TOO I CLICKED SO FAST
Same
Same 😟😭
same 😭
i’m glad we are all mature enough to finally acknowledge how we acted 6-10 years ago because it was definitely something
I appreciate this video, and you, so much! It makes me so happy to see this content being educated and talked about in a way everyone can understand. You are a natural leader of our generation (no pressure, you are doing amazingly) and nothing fills me with more joy knowing someone like you has a platform and a community to give and receive support. Personally, you have inspired me to be open with my creativity and embrace life the way that I want to for years. So, thank you for sharing that energy with the world. I love you!
It feels weird to acknowledge the fact that he went from telling us how to build a relationship with people online to embracing the fact that creators and viewers need space
Funny coming from the guy who currently lives with the guy he stalked online over 10 years ago 😂
@@BlazeDupree1525 literally 😭😂
@@BlazeDupree1525 it's called character growth, Dupree, look it up. :P
I knew from the sec I saw Dan being cheery I was like "It’s a bit, Dan is never THAT happy"
Yeah lol. It’s kinda sad tho.
As someone who despised the shipping side of the community, this makes me delighted 😂
Incredible video dan!! Lol at the "all it took was everyone getting six years older, getting mortified at what they did, and then realizing they were queer the whole time" nailed it. Also the whole brands try to be funny and relatable on twitter! And with influencers and content creators being mainstream instead of the niche little hobby it used to be, young and inexperienced people are getting into it all the time without fully realizing what they're doing and what it means, and not knowing when to set boundaries.
I don't want to say genius, simply because I think that would be idolised a little too much, but it is genuinely clever for Dan to title and structure a video like this. To set boundaries in his community and titling it based on something that his viewers have failed to maintain a boundary on - I.e, the details of his intimate life. Ultimately its makes the impact to have a person look within themselves and assess how they respond, which is what Dan wants us to do with our parasocial relationships. Nicely done!
You know what you’re bringing upon yourself with that title and I respect it
Oh, I think this is my favourite Dystopia Daily vid so far. An interesting and potentially dangerous topic for an online content creator, and yet you managed to bring it in a way that is both sensitive and with a solid dose of humour. Thank you, Dan, aside from being food for thought, watching this has considerably improved my evening.
I have literally nothing to say other than, this feels like a very healthy and wholesome one, appreciate you Dan!
HE KNOWS EXACTLY WHAT HES DOING😭
Dan only came back to UA-cam to make clickbait titles, change my mind
This parasocial relationship is filled with new and surprising things every time you post. Like me finding out after watching almost everything Dan has done for the last 10 years and then finding out he's 6-foot freaking 3! I'm 5'5", now we're even
Honestly seeing you live is such a milestone for my year. It felt so full circle to see you - REALLY see you - irl and realize those times I watched you over the years when I felt so alone and crazy and depressed, I wasn't truly alone. So many people were watching and feeling the same way and you were there and REAL and had made it so far while feeling that way too. That even if it doesn't get a ton better that we all could keep going and that's okay too.
He knows EXACTLY what he’s doing 😭
This video is important. I didn’t realise the scope of how toxic PRs could get until my brother gained 500k subs on his channel. He live-streamed once, and my SIL was doing the behind the scenes work and so many people in the chat felt entitled to see my SIL’s face even though she was uncomfortable. Content creators do not owe you their privacy
I'm so sorry that happened! A lot of people need to learn boundaries.
drop the acc thooooo
You def have all of my sincerest respects, Daniel. You are courageous, honest and hard-working as hell
And you go around with words and editing like *chef's kiss, it's like a magic balm for my brain and eyes
fucking loving the content lately. This is also a subject i've done a lot of soul searching on in the past year.
As long as you're cognitively aware of any parasocial relationship you engage in and don't fall in too deep there's nothing wrong with it and i'm GLAD SOMEONE FINALLY SAID IT TY DAN
“That relationship…is with you.” Saw that coming, but it doesn’t really matter cuz you still make me laugh Dan.
6:14
The Kit Connor situation did make me think of the toxic parts of the phandom. Truly heartbreaking that kind people are treated this way so callously when they choose a career that puts them in the public eye.
true!! im glad both dan and phil came out on their own, and not at a time in the community when it was really intrusive yk?
I’ve been in this parasocial relationship since I was 10 years old. I’m 21 and I now drink to forget the repressed memories of those awkward situations. Thanks Dan. 😂
the huw edwards comments aged like milk
At this point my parasocial relationship to Dan is veering further and further into "guy who I was friends with in school but we both changed as people so now we can't spend more than an hour alone together"
Couples therapy with Dan is amazing
These relationships are so interesting because I have been a member of markipliers channel for years and he answered a question of mine on stream once and it gave me so much happiness and all I want is to be noticed again even though I don't get anything out of it
I'm the exact opposite. Markiplier answered my question once and it made me uncomfortable because something just felt off. Not Mark, just the situation of someone I admire reading my question out loud and responding whilst probably never knowing who I am beyond a username.
I’m so glad that I took a break from your content (no offense) when I realized that my participation in fan activities was extremely toxic and emotionally draining for me as a teen, and now I’m able to have a healthy relationship with you again. cheers and happy 10 year anniversary parasocial bestie 🎉
I immediately said I wouldn’t fall for the title when I got the notification… this fandom will ALWAYS have a chokehold on me no matter how old I get 😭
I knew it was clickbait and still almost cried bc I’m trying to watch this on my break and the ADs wouldn’t stop 😂
FFS IM AT WORK AND I WENT TO THE WASHROOM TO FIND OUT AND I GOT BAITED SO FAST FUCK FUCK💀
Same lmfaooo I’m no better now at 20 than I was at 13
daniel i’ve been in a codependent relationship with you since middle school can we not air this out for everyone to see
🎶 we're all in this together 🎶
Dan & his team did an amazing job on the writing and editing of this video. 💚 It’s hilarious and honest.
This is exactly what I thought it was and I'm very pleased. I like that he's actually addressing the fact that while parasocial relationships can be dangerous, they can also be healthy as long as they are boundaries.
I'm also just really happy that I managed to actually guess what this was about (this doesn't usually happen for me).
he knows what he’s doing
and i still fell for it
And I’m honestly living for it.
I'm just glad that you finally acknowledged and made our relationship public lol
you have helped me not feel alone through some dark times. i have always related to your dark humor and awkwardness. i know our “relationship” is parasocial but that doesn’t discount all that you have helped me. i love you dan ❤ (in a parasocial platonic lesbian way)
I literally love every minute of this era. The tour show was amazing ❤
YOU KNEW WHAT YOU WERE DOING WITH THIS TITLE AND I LOVE YOU SM FOR IT, man’s girlbossing fr
I’ve watched you and Phil since I was 11 and now I’m almost 20 and you have played parental figures during really rough years of my life and I refuse to stop becoming an avid fan because that’s like cutting off my dad. Idk why people think I have a parasocial relationship though??
Because a parasocial relationship is one wherein one side of the relationship exerts a lot of time and emotion into a 'relationship' - for example, you saying something like 'I refuse to stop becoming an avid fan because that's like cutting off my dad' - while the other party doesn't know you exist.
@@NeptuneTart you must be fun at parties
@@NeptuneTart bestie please learn what a joke is
@@NeptuneTart op was simply being silly. just joshing. cracking a lil joke
That's sad
well that segment about huw didn't age well LOL
I am glad someone else pointed this out in the comments...
I like that I’ve grown old enough to see my favourite people more in a light of “I’m so happy they are successful” and admiring from afar
I read back some of my old posts from a teenager and I would really do anything to get attention from my favourite UA-camrs - it was a lonely time
The way he made being in a relationship with us seem terrifying and ominous 🥰
he knows what he’s doing 😭
When I was 16 all I wanted was a relationship w this man. It fills my teenage self with happiness that We where “together” the whole time 😂❤
I appreciate you discussing parasocial relationships like this. Sometimes I see people online criticise others for “being parasocial”, as if that’s a bad thing, when what they mean is someone was crossing the boundaries of the relationship. Almost everyone watching this, unless they know you irl, has a parasocial relationship with you and it’s not inherently unhealthy. It can be healthy, so long as both sides respect the boundaries of the relationship. I think it’s when people forget that the relationship is parasocial that things often actually risk getting unhealthy.
Really enjoy your content. If you ever do want to try streaming btw, you don’t have to do it all day every day like the top twitch streamers do. Especially since you’ve got a pre-existing audience, you could stream a couple hours per week or so on Twitch or UA-cam and just see how you like it. Or not, if it’s just not for you. It’s not like you have to sign a contract just to give it a try. I watch some streamers who don’t stream often but still get decent views when they do.
Every time I see these titles I’m like “yeah uh huh, sure Jan” and every time I’m correct. You’re as transparent as a pane of glass and I love it 😂
The literal definition of he had us in the first half
okay but no really thank u for uploading even while on a tour dude ur saving our days here😭
When I first started watching your videos i grew hungry for your humor, mostly because it's seldom where ppl will remember and then tell ppl about their most embarrassing experiences. Then you shared different ideas on just how life can be especially with interacting with your followers. It solidified that you're real. As much as it can feel that you aren't your truest self I promise you that you show more of yourself, to potentially the whole world, compared to ppl we see as individuals every day. You have made laugh when all I felt in that instance was to cry. Thank you. I truly love the difference you have made.
You don’t know how grateful I am to you. A friend introduced me to your videos and seeing you & Phil on Tour. I stopped watching your videos for a while during tour hiatus and seeing your coming out video was so inspiring on being more honest w myself and setting health boundaries in my life. Seeing you so happy and even more comfortable in yourself makes my inner 18yrs old so happy. Thanks out for the example. (Currently 28 who’s finally decided to take care or their mental health)
i truly love dystopia daily. seriously. it feeds everything my brain is craving, it's entertaining yet educational (in a way, you get it) at the same time and feeds the urge to question daily (parasocial) interactions on an off media AND it manages to feed my teen self with content i'm familiar with without digressing into a spiral state of content consumption just for the sake of it (i still do that but nobody has to know). i am proud of you Dan and hopefully you are too 🖤 sidenote, dd is always uploaded when i'm on the verge of a stressed quarter life crisis breakdown so thanks also for the timing
real
the fact that he knows about everything in the fandom 😭
it’s been 10 years and the clickbate still gets me.
Just so you know; to me you bring a sense of comfort and familiarity that comes from years and years of being a subscriber and watching everything you put out. I enjoy having your dystopia dailies on while I cook or clean as a familiar presence that makes me think deeply about the things you speak about.
I actually love this video, Dan. If I didn't have parasocial relationships, I would be a much lonelier person. I'm grateful for those who put themselves out there and create a safe space to form these types of relationships. You're one of those people, and you have felt like family to me for over a decade. So thanks.
1) I’m happy Dan feels comfortable with his content making and comfortable having specific boundaries with his audience as a whole
2) however…. He knew EXACTLY what the title was doing here
He's fucking we our heads and we love it all the same. XD
I’m coming to your show tomorrow and I can’t wait! I’ve been enjoying your content since I was a teen. I’m sorry for all the weird and creepy shit us fans put you through, and I appreciate you handling it all with grace.
I got a healthy relationship with Dan Howell for Christmas...exactly what I wanted :)
My inner phan-girl just clawed her way from the dark and fiery depths of hell, screaming the whole way up just for Dan to pluck her fingers from the edge to let her fall but then saved her and gave her a hug and said you’re okay. Thanks Dan 👍🏻
Goddamn it Dan you really know your audience
it's important to recognize that parasocial relationships are valid in many capacities. the fact that you say that while also saying they can be unhealthy on both sides.... i havent heard anyone say that. it's always just the fans being unhealthy. i genuinely love and appreciate the takes and discussion. and don't worry, i already saw you irl in the usa so you could say our relationship is pretty committed