Look, my mother didn't smack me and I'm still terrifed of her. I don't think it's about the smacking per se, it's about whether or not you treat your children as people, posessions, or burdens.
There are different forms of abuse. Emotional, verbal, psychological, physical abuse are all traumatizing and often we are subjected to multiple forms of abuse. Sometimes it's about the smacking - maybe not for you, and I'm sorry for the way you were treated. I had a different experience that I won't go into detail but yeah I think even the word "smacking" minimises it bc it's so normalised. Also a mother can be abusive and still see their child as a person - it's complicated, there's intergenerational trauma, there are so many reasons people resort to abusive behaviours. At the same time there are people who think of their kids as burdens or property and that is heartbreaking.
In 2023, smacking your kid is not acceptable parenting behavior. It never should have been, but here we are. I say this as someone that was physically disciplined as a kid, whether spankings, physical labor, or outright fists. What it did is create a place for hatred to grow, and finally at age 14 or 15; I told my dad that if he ever laid hands on me again I'd beat the shit out of him. Never laid a hand on me again. That said, the abuse continued, but in a more sinister way, and now as a well adjusted adult I do not talk to my dad at all. Therapy is what kept me on the rails. Don't hit your kids.
It creates boundaries. When your kids leave school and there's no teacher around, they have to look after themselves 🙏 If kids have no idea about punishment from a young age,I'm sure the law will teach them. Unfortunately,too late . An early criminal record ☹️🙏
abusing children is a indicator of an abusive person, a person who cant control their emotions to the point that they resort to violence out of frustration.
@@solarlaw887 No corporal punishment is used to help not to hurt. For instance, if a person decides not to use corporal punishment, children or anyone will still experience pain. Pain cannot be dodge by anyone. The reason why I say this is, I used to get whooped as a kid. I used to think it was wrong until I became older. I realized the whooping's I received was really preparing for the real world. The pain from my whooping's was nothing compared to the pain I experienced as an adult. Just like the song by Imagine dragons, believer. "Pain you make me a believer. believer." Pain is not as bad as people make it out to be. As a matter of fact, if I did not experience painful situation, I would not be where I am today. I would not be as strong as I am today.
@@Freedomofspeech88 Corporal punishment is used to hurt. For instance, the convicts who were sent to Tasmania and lashed for minor crimes under corporal punishment were not 'helped' through their scarification, it was a fear based tactic to reinforce rules and maintain order. In the real world nobody is going to hit you for misbehaving other then the police, and those who do commit assault. I'm sorry that it sounds like you had a rough life, but it's no excuse to commit violent acts on any person regardless of their age. Strength comes from experience and personal growth, not being lashed as a child.
@@solarlaw887 As a matter of fact, most convicts who are in prison are in prison because they cannot control themselves. Children will not be children forever and this is why the government created corporal punishment in the first place. From experience, self-control is a hard thing to learn. Also, minor crimes, if unpunished, can lead into bigger crimes. Why? Because they know they can get away with it, especially when a person is young.
@@jilllangman9343 Children spend at least a third of their day at school 5 days a week. How can it possibly not be the role of the teachers to show children how to be good people during the time of the day when they are at school and away from their parents?
Every boomer in these comments: kids these days are out of control, they dont get smacked enough, they "talk back". Children should be seen and not heard, should respect the authority of their abusers. Because fear and respect are essentially the same, right?
@@ceciliaramos2280 Re your comment "Children understand when you do something wrong you get shanked" Woah, you get shanked? I'm really hoping you are joking.
I'm in the US, and corporal punishment by parents is legal here too. I was spanked many times as a kid, and as an autistic person, I don't believe it was helpful. I'm also not gonna ignore the many studies that have been done on what corporal punishment does to children.
I got smacked every day, and not because I was bad. I got it because I was there. And reminded my mom of my Dad who left my mom with six kids when I was eight years old. So I was beaten by my older brother and my mom..so I can the satisfaction of saying that my siblings ended this practice, and broke the violent behavior, my brother by growing up and knowing right from wrong, and I did it, by not having kids...
I was whooped too and smacked, not in an abusive way though, I did wrong, so I got in trouble for it, and I felt like it was wrong, but the older I become the more I realized how these whooping saved me from my own corrupt nature. I realized that my parents and guardians were really just trying to save me from me. When I went to school, I knew how to behave, I knew not to act up because I was disciplined. Even though people disagree with corporal punishment, corporal punishment, saved me.
It’s never ok to smack your child. How you treat your child is a reflection of how you view your child and how you view yourself. Start with self love and self respect, then you can begin to love and respect your children and other people.
You have to teach children that there are consequences to their actions. I think we can all agree on that. If you let children get away with something then they will just fearlessly do it again. However, when it comes to smacking or even hitting then I think that if the only tool in your toolbox is to smack then you are going about it the wrong way. If you treat every act of disobedience with a smack or a threat of a smack then your children will begin to fear you because they have to walk on eggshells around you all the time. You don't actually love your children if you don't allow kids to make mistakes sometimes. They will turn into doormats with serious mental health problems, like Borderline Personality Disorder and codependency. However, I don't think corporal punishment should be banned. I just think that smacking or even hitting your kids should be reserved for the most serious acts of disobedience. If you hit all the time then the act loses its severity over time. You will provoke your children to anger and they will want to kill you.
What's an example of a severe act of disobedience? And why is it about obedience and not healthy development? You're right that hitting your child only teaches them to fear you. It also teaches them that hitting is ok. Corporal punishment and even punishment in general is the least effective method of behaviour management. Corporal punishment especially is the least effective and the most harmful. So why even do it once? For the sake of obedience at that. One incident can cause lasting trauma so just don't hit your kids, ever. Why isn't this plainly obvious? What if the "severe act of disobedience" is that they hit their sibling? You gon teach them not to hit by hitting them? There is no logic to this BS, only cognitive dissonance caused by the normalisation of corporal punishment across generations. People think "my parents smacked me but they also loved me so smacking is ok". No. They can both love you and do the wrong thing and surely by now we can acknowledge it's wrong
@@TheSoonamee I don't know, if they stole something or physically hurt another person or sexually assaulted someone I would smack them up for it. If you're going to tell me that corporal punishment is never okay then you should go live in a country that has no police. You'll soon realize that force is somewhat necessary to maintain order in the world.
If a child ignores repeated warnings to stop misbehaving or continually won't do what they're told to do when they're told to do it, then and only then should they be disciplined by getting their clothed bottom smacked either once or twice with an open palm of the hand.
Absolutely. Government should pay a stay at home parent the childcare subsidy. Children learn much more from parents than being in daycare with young workers with a 1:5 ratio. Results are already showing kids are struggling as a result of early long day care.
@@claires7975 I'd prefer full communism but as long as you're not hitting your kids, by all means get paid to care for them at home. You can take them to play groups for socialisation with other kids. You can access 2 days a week preschool for free, then kindergarten won't be such a sudden shock to the system. Part of the problem is that most households now need a double income to get by. But the other part of the problem is that early childhood educators like myself (I'm 37 btw and most of my coworkers are not young or inexperienced - even if they are they have to do massive amounts of on the job training and gain their qualification) are severely undervalued and underpaid and in this economy less young people want to work one of the hardest jobs for less pay than they'd get at Macca's. More and more educators are leaving the industry due to burnout, low pay, poor conditions. More funding is needed but some of it needs to go towards raising the award wage or there will not be enough educators to meet the increasing demand for care.
@@claires7975 also if you're gonna keep your kids home you'd better have plenty of time and resources because education ain't easy. There's no app for that, it's real work. Hard work. I'm not 100% against screen time but you can tell when a child spends most of their time at home on an ipad
Depression and anxiety are how DTD and ptsd manifest early on. Corporal punishment should be outlawed completely. If it's not OK to hit an adult, why is it OK to hit kids? I do not understand the argument that hitting kids is fine as discipline. Every single study that has been done shows that hitting kids makes them ill. It's a straight line, and it's very simple, and it's causation, not just correlation.
Having boundaries helps you grow up with respect for you parents and society, look at the youth crime today, there’s no real punishment and no boundaries, if you ban punishment on kids watch how much worse it will get and it will take generations to get back to normal.
If smacking your children is the answer, then why do we have this youth crime wave in your he first place? Smacking your child is not illegal now, if anything it shows the current methods being used by parents aren't working.
Research shows corporal punishment is ineffective for behaviour management & actually worsens behavioural issues. Many children spend most of their days at daycare / preschool from a young age, and then all children spend most days at school. So are you suggesting we bring back corporal punishment in those settings? Otherwise it's inconsistent since it's illegal outside the home. I'm an early childhood educator. I know behaviour management is hard. Learn how to set boundaries without resorting to violence BEFORE having kids. Or just don't. If you don't think you can raise a child without hitting them, then don't have kids. There are plenty of resources online about effective behaviour management. Children who get smacked at home do not do well in a daycare / preschool setting. The only thing you teach a child by hitting them is that hitting is ok (or worse, that you, their primary caregiver, are to be feared). You are their role model. You have taken the responsibility to keep a child safe, including from your own potentially harmful actions. What happens when your kid starts hitting people? Hit them for hitting? Or just ignore it bc you never bothered to learn how to raise a child before having one? It's so nonsensical to the point of absurdity yet it's still so normalised, and that's the problem.
@@TheSoonamee i have 3 kids, they are incredibly well behaved and model students ( 2 were students of the month last month). They got a smack on the bum when they played up and guess what, they didn’t do it again, they don’t go hitting other kids. I’m not saying beat them up but they definitely need boundaries and they need to know there is serious consequences if they cross them and not just hollow threats. If you wrap kids in cotton wool you not teaching them to grow to be adults instead you end up with adults acting children, example today’s generation.
This was really thoughtful and well done. Thanks for the helpful information. It was really insightful to hear from the younger generations general opinions too.
its odd because we have rules that say your allowed to hit children at home and yet in schools teachers can't even get the most basic amounts of respect or authority because they cant yell at them they cant tell them to sit in the corner by themselves they cant single them out and these kids run circles around these poor teachers and yet at home you can hit them. its so contradictory, you cant be even remotely harsh to make kids work and become more functional in a school sense but you can hit them at home when they just annoy you
Yeah. I've heard some parents say it's a cultural thing so what happens in the home is a private affair. A lot of the parents who use corporal punishment at home would flip out if their kid's teacher did it to them. Teachers shouldn't need to yell at kids to get respect. They can raise their voice and speak angrily which is enough. I haven't been in school in a little while but it's pretty normal for disruptive kids to sit by themselves, isn't it? I've seen desks be placed next to the teacher. The embarrassment usually works, especially when they're older. It would be better if parents at home weren't allowed to rely on the fear and threat of violence for good behaviour so they'd actually teach their kids why it's important to respect teachers, have good manners etc.
Sometimes, yes. I know many, many children who don't have authoritative parents or a missing parent and they get whatever they want and behave however they want. It can take an hour or more to reason with them and they don't learn anything and will do it again the next day. Should it be avoided, yes. I also know parents who I don't think should be parents, they party all night, sit on welfare and barely send their kid to school, they might need some corporal punishment too.
There’s a reason the amount of youth crime has sky rocketed. Not enough disciplining is done anymore. Not to mention the number of eshays💀 It needs to occur but not over the top.
Yes there is a reason. It’s the parenting practices that have proliferated. How you treat a child in the first two years of life is hard wired into their developing brain. So practices such as controlled crying, smacking , neglect result in behavioral issues later in life. Do the research
@@jacksoncremean1664 it could very well also factor in. But to neglect the reduction in child disciplining and subsequent rise in antisocial behaviour is also something that often occurs when people try and determine the causes of it. My point here is disciplining is vital. But it shouldn’t be over the top. It should be used as a tool, alongside other methods which don’t involve slapping your child.
@@Leonore45I wasn’t talking about smacking a 2 year old, no one should be doing that, I am referring to disciplining school going kids or slightly younger and I am not taking about using large force. I was disciplined as a kid, so was my brother and so were soo many people, including my friends, and they are the ones I see that behave the best. Disciplining a child, in the method I’m speaking of, is literally the opposite of neglect. New parenting practices are exactly what I’m talking about. You’ve inadvertently proven my point.
@@Whoisthis1111 do you know what the word discipline comes from? I didn’t but it makes perfect sense. I don’t have any nice memories of the teachers that used physical methods or used threats. I responded to teachers who talked to me in a friendly, respectful way. I still do. It’s good to have open and respectful discussion on here. 😊 have a good day Dherya.
IT’s understanding how children’s brains work so that you understand what the child understands. Children need to become the focus of their caregiver not just another responsibility to be accommodated. We should be encouraging caregivers to spend exclusive time with their child particularly in the first two years of life.
Gone are the good old days of getting the strap by the gym teacher at school, and getting a hiding from the old man at home. Not sure it’s a good thing actually. Probably other effective punishments can serve a better purpose.
Sort of agree but the older generations are more respectful and know where the red lines are. The young fellas today do what they want, don’t respect a thing because there’s no real punishment. I’m not say bash kids, I’m says a smack on the bum never hurt us but it did show that there consequences if you did play up.
@@peppipoohductionswakashunt3157 Not really my subject of expertise. Though thinking back to when I was a mischievous young fella I think a bit of reverse psychology or guilt tripping or no tv would have done the job as well if not better than a hiding. Also Boys will be boys, so any parent that thinks their boys will not get up to mischief is delusional.
No it's not okay to beat children ,but it doesn't hurt if they think it's a possibility, parents who neglect to teach children manner s and respect for their elders are half the reason today s youth are out of control , you reap what you sow
Threatening kids isn't good either. They learn to live in fear. Or some will call your bluff, and then what? It teaches them that threats are meaningless. Plenty of kids are taught manners and respect for people without threats of violence. It's not that difficult but the parent has to be willing to put in the time and have the patience to do it which ideally, all people should have before becoming a parent. The youth are not out of control. They're probably getting up to the same amount of mischief. It's just easier to see because they record it and put it on social media and we're more connected than ever so word travels fast. Back in the day you barely knew what was going on in the next town, let alone the next state or across the world. Looks bad but the vast majority of the kids are fine
In Norway, Sweden, Germany, France, Denmark and numerous other countries Corporal Punishment is flat out ILLEGAL both in schools and at home. In these countries crime and juvenile delinquency is lower than in the US. A society can do without this needless brutality, it should not tolerate it.
Sometimes you gotta give them a smack if it is a safety issue. I don't really smack my kids but if I needed to discourage them from doing something dangerous then maybe a slap on the wrist and a telling off would help. I think it is easy for academics to forget that we aren't long out of the trees. We are just animals and perfection is unattainable. Education is one thing. Regulation is another. I think parents should continue to be left to make these decisions. Just raise your kids well. And I will raise mine well.
Yes we aren’t long out of the trees but even now primates don’t put their child down for the first two years. Humans farm out their children to nurseries for people who are just doing a job to look after them. If you need to go back to work soon after having a child maybe you should decide if having child is the right choice for you. The same way you would consider is it fair to get a puppy to leave it home alone all day because you have to work.
I'm so sick of the argument, 'i only smack my kid when they do something dangerous'. It's YOUR responsibility as a parent to keep your child out of harm's way. If they get themselves into a dangerous situation, they are already going to be frightened enough by your reaction without you shaming them into making them feel like it's their fault, just to make yourself feel better when it was your neglect that caused the situation to occur in the first place.
@@Leonore45 also dropping your kid off at daycare is not the same as leaving a puppy home alone. Do you think we just sit around and do the bare minimum to keep the children in our care alive like some politicians have said? No, we do everything we can to educate them, comfort them, care for them, keep them engaged, safe, make sure their time at daycare is something they enjoy. Plus all the other duties involved, food prep, cleaning, re-stocking, setting up a variety of activities using limited resources, writing observations, other paperwork, documenting everything every child eats, poops or wees, constant picking things up off the floor, taking photos of every child every day & writing descriptions so families can see what they've been up to. Getting 12 children under 2 to sleep. Accommodating changes in a child's sleep routine or dietary / toileting requirements. Learning about each child, their routine at home, their interests & circumstances, special needs. Education & care is tailored to each child based on their needs, interests and developmental stage. Thinking of strategies to build each child's developmental skills. About 50 nappy changes in a day and toilet training. Cleaning up after toileting accidents. Changing clothes after messy food or activities. Constant nose wiping. Evacuation drills, taking all the children out of the centre safely (and sometimes even on excursions). Various infectious illness outbreaks requiring cleaning of every single item and surface. Then there's the drop off and pick up conversations with parents, the rundown of how their day went, how well they slept and ate, finding all the socks, shoes, dummies, comforters, jumpers etc that go missing. All within a tight routine as sticking to routines is important. We barely have time to meet our own basic needs at work bc the needs of the children come first. We also get sick a LOT because people bring their sick kids in and then all the kids are sick & we have burnt out staff fighting off illness (or we're understaffed due to sick leave) while caring for all these sick kids who all need extra care. You know what else we do? Behaviour management - without hitting
So as an educator working with 0-5 year olds, would you be ok if I slapped your kid bc they could be in danger? I work mostly with toddlers and have to be on constant alert bc there's always one about to do something unsafe. It's pretty simple to physically remove them from whatever the dangerous situation is, there's no need for any further physical force. Gently guiding them to a different activity and consistently reiterating the rules of safe play is more effective. What is a slap going to achieve? Assumedly you've already removed them from the danger, and corporal punishment is ineffective and damaging - there's no doubt about this, the research is easy to find. Yes people should be allowed to make their own parenting decisions, but we already have exceptions to that since you're not allowed to neglect or abuse children. The fact we still normalise hitting children is appalling and completely absurd. Even if not all hitting is abuse, all hitting is harmful, and your responsibility is to protect them from that kind of harm. If you wouldn't want someone else to do it to your kid why, why is it ok for you? You're literally purposefully inflicting pain on your child. Children make mistakes, sometimes they get hurt (minor ouchie), or they don't get the outcome they want, and they can learn from that through natural consequences. If they do something silly and get hurt, physically or otherwise, they might develop an aversion to the silly behaviour. But if the hurt comes from you hitting them, they will develop an aversion (fear of) YOU, they won't see the connection between their behaviour and the hurt bc the hurt is coming from you (and if you're going to explain why you hit them why not just skip the hitting part and explain why the behaviour is unsafe - they'll comprehend your words better if they feel safe and trust rather than hurt inflicted by you). Not to mention they will learn that hitting is ok (everything you do around them is a model for their own behaviour)
I was smaked, also the threat of the cane at school. This depression situation is of the world media. If the younger generation have a problem with a slap, well, look out! When you leave school,you don't have a teacher or headmaster to lean on. In the outside world you have to face bikies, gangsters and they will not just give you a slap. Youngsters, you will grow up quickly when out into the real world. A slap or a caning at school is making sure you know about boundaries. When you leave school boundaries don't exist 🙏
As a child, and for the first 17 years of my life I was abused every which way imaginable. Corporal punishment was totally accepted then. Thankfully now we have mandatory reporting and much better mental health therapies. As a mental health clinician I need to model positive behaviours ,and teach our young people to feel their emotions, and how to connect with themselves. To give them more tools to add to their toolkit, to listen, validate, support and reassure. And to practise self care and acceptance.
Good video. Times have indeed changed. The research is abundantly clear. I will never hit a child and don't think it's okay to do that. I definitely believe it has negatively affected me. Thing is, a parent who would be willing to hit their kids are likely to have other behaviours that negatively affect kids too e.g. use of threats, yelling, other aggressive behaviour that can be emotional or verbal abuse. It's easy to escalate further and further. I think if a parent has to hit a child to get them to listen, they're not doing the right thing. I don't understand parents, including my own, who think the solution to a child throwing a tantrum is violence. Sure, it's a quick way to control and stop an annoying behaviour but it's not supposed to be about you. You're teaching your child not to do something to avoid pain and fear from you. Kids grow up worrying about and fearing how you will react to whatever they're doing. Some kids might not be as affected by why take that risk? Don't be surprised if your child cuts contact when they're older. If you cannot teach your child without resorting to violence and aggression, you shouldn't be a parent until you can.
So you want to rod children? That's just nasty. The rest of your comment "no self respect,and no self awareness hence self destructive behaviour" seems to describe you.
They said that about your generation to and then you make the assumption that a destructive child doesn't get a beating the opposite is true you don't respect children and they reflect that back it's a 2 way street
Nope. I guess you don't care about research. You really can't generalise today's kids as having no self respect or self awareness. Both of those things aren't necessarily the cause of destructive behaviour.
Bring back corporal punishment for school and capital punishment for violent repeat criminals. It needs to be used as a deterrent but doesn’t mean it needs to be applied
Correct. The kids today have no discipline or punishment. This is why they’re running around stabbing people and robbing servos, stealing cars and breaking into homes.
@@peppipoohductionswakashunt3157 Why not ask why there is youth crime in the first place? And has it really increased? It’s internationally well documented the punishment do not deter crime.
@@MatsUnden judging by the amount of cars stolen break-ins and vandalism in my small town compared to 10 years ago (nil) I’d say it’s increased massively. I’d say the good behaviour bonds aren’t working
Back in the old days kids had respect for their parents and authority because of getting smacked or spanking for ill behavior ....no more tho most children respect no one and talk back due to lack of punishment in families nowadays
Evidence has proven societies that don't beat children are less violent and have less crime it's not open for discussion it's a fact Adults with poor self-control their children learn that behaviour from the parents
@@Whoisthis1111 The countries are listed in the footage take as many examples as you want and google their crime rates and how they have changed over time more to the point when it is abuse chances are no one will do anything to stop it as a rule from experience
would be interesting to include in a study, the prevalence of corporal punishment of boys compared to girls; why does it feel more appropriate to discipline a boy with physical violence compared to girls... also, if older generations received on average, based on anecdotal evidence from everyone over the age of 50, a greater level of discipline in terms of force, what does this represent in terms of mental health outcomes... when we look to our grandparents, do we see the violent people they were towards their children, our parents, and those who were violent towards them, or ignorance, or simply products of a different generation...
Me (a girl) and my brother were smacked equally in the same level. This resulted in me - a girl - being the toughest one, and I hate to say, but my brother came up as the weakest one 😉
Society has constructed specific ideas of what a girl and boy is, how they behave, what they can handle etc. without taking in consideration their individual differences. Girls are "supposed" to be the gentler, softer, weaker one who must be protected while boys are supposed to be strong, toughen up, and do the protecting. Hitting a boy doesn't feel that bad because "they can take it", it's for their own good to toughen up, get used to the pain. Some people find it harder to watch girls cry and boys were just told to keep it in or they were hit more. To be clear, I don't believe in this at all. It probably changes to a degree based on where you are because culture plays a big role at the way gender is perceived and whether or not there's much of a religious influence involving the bible or gendered beliefs. Then it gets passed from generation to generation without much thought. As to your second question, that depends on the person and their experience but the answer could really be all three. I think it often times is all three. A person can act in a violent way and still not be a violent person overall. There's also a fourth option in that some people think that behaviour was and is justified and positive.
wait a second so in younger generations there is increasingly less corporal punishment in comparison and yet depression and anxiety is on the rise. In older generation its very wide spread even in schools. so how are the two linked? just because there is a correlation does not equal causation. I do see one causation is the lack of understanding.of consequence and discipline on the rise
It's not just correlation. We have the data to show that it's causation. Maybe have a look at the ACE Study. It has produced some amazing work in this area
Yeap 👍 There is a difference between smacking and corporal abuse. The Millenials were never smacked, and look at the results: have weak personality, seek only validation, have unattainable dreams, blabbing their mouths and not knowing there'll be consequences, lazyness, and so on... Please bring back the cane!
I got the cane in primary school and you know what, I never mucked up again (I actually laughed at him and he threatened more) There’s nothing to fear for them now so they carry on like they do.
Look, my mother didn't smack me and I'm still terrifed of her. I don't think it's about the smacking per se, it's about whether or not you treat your children as people, posessions, or burdens.
Well expressed.
It's sad you are terrified of your mum.
However, treating your children as people 100%.
There are different forms of abuse. Emotional, verbal, psychological, physical abuse are all traumatizing and often we are subjected to multiple forms of abuse. Sometimes it's about the smacking - maybe not for you, and I'm sorry for the way you were treated. I had a different experience that I won't go into detail but yeah I think even the word "smacking" minimises it bc it's so normalised. Also a mother can be abusive and still see their child as a person - it's complicated, there's intergenerational trauma, there are so many reasons people resort to abusive behaviours. At the same time there are people who think of their kids as burdens or property and that is heartbreaking.
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Smacking a child, will teach a child that violence is a solution to a problem.
Smacking also teaches a child that there is a sting to sinful behaviour.
As a child who was often smacked I know it’s detrimental. It’s not ok to hit anyone but especially a child.
You likely weren't hit enough
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since you are still a child I can imagine why you think it's a good thing not to smack children
@@witness1013 Lemme guess, parents should have every right to beat up a child, and not have Child Protective Services interfere?
In 2023, smacking your kid is not acceptable parenting behavior. It never should have been, but here we are. I say this as someone that was physically disciplined as a kid, whether spankings, physical labor, or outright fists. What it did is create a place for hatred to grow, and finally at age 14 or 15; I told my dad that if he ever laid hands on me again I'd beat the shit out of him. Never laid a hand on me again. That said, the abuse continued, but in a more sinister way, and now as a well adjusted adult I do not talk to my dad at all. Therapy is what kept me on the rails. Don't hit your kids.
It creates boundaries.
When your kids leave school and there's no teacher around, they have to look after themselves 🙏
If kids have no idea about punishment from a young age,I'm sure the law will teach them.
Unfortunately,too late .
An early criminal record ☹️🙏
abusing children is a indicator of an abusive person, a person who cant control their emotions to the point that they resort to violence out of frustration.
Abuse and discipline are two different things. Abuse is used by bullies, but corporal punishment is used to help discipline a child not hurt them.
@@Freedomofspeech88 Corporal punishment is discipline through pain, which is form of abuse. A bully does the same thing, submission through pain.
@@solarlaw887 No corporal punishment is used to help not to hurt. For instance, if a person decides not to use corporal punishment, children or anyone will still experience pain. Pain cannot be dodge by anyone. The reason why I say this is, I used to get whooped as a kid. I used to think it was wrong until I became older. I realized the whooping's I received was really preparing for the real world. The pain from my whooping's was nothing compared to the pain I experienced as an adult. Just like the song by Imagine dragons, believer. "Pain you make me a believer. believer." Pain is not as bad as people make it out to be. As a matter of fact, if I did not experience painful situation, I would not be where I am today. I would not be as strong as I am today.
@@Freedomofspeech88 Corporal punishment is used to hurt. For instance, the convicts who were sent to Tasmania and lashed for minor crimes under corporal punishment were not 'helped' through their scarification, it was a fear based tactic to reinforce rules and maintain order.
In the real world nobody is going to hit you for misbehaving other then the police, and those who do commit assault. I'm sorry that it sounds like you had a rough life, but it's no excuse to commit violent acts on any person regardless of their age. Strength comes from experience and personal growth, not being lashed as a child.
@@solarlaw887 As a matter of fact, most convicts who are in prison are in prison because they cannot control themselves. Children will not be children forever and this is why the government created corporal punishment in the first place. From experience, self-control is a hard thing to learn. Also, minor crimes, if unpunished, can lead into bigger crimes. Why? Because they know they can get away with it, especially when a person is young.
We go to school and learn how to read and write but not how to be good people and parents
Thats right. Its the role ot the parents to show how to be good people, not teachers.
@@jilllangman9343 Children spend at least a third of their day at school 5 days a week. How can it possibly not be the role of the teachers to show children how to be good people during the time of the day when they are at school and away from their parents?
Every boomer in these comments: kids these days are out of control, they dont get smacked enough, they "talk back". Children should be seen and not heard, should respect the authority of their abusers. Because fear and respect are essentially the same, right?
smacking can harm children emotion and fear them
If you talk to any dog trainer you don't hit the dog. Making it different for children is crazy.
@@ceciliaramos2280 Re your comment "Children understand when you do something wrong you get shanked" Woah, you get shanked? I'm really hoping you are joking.
@@ceciliaramos2280 No, you're not damaged at all.
now you have edited it it's not shanked but that was your original comment. I'm guessing you must write shanked a lot.
@@ceciliaramos2280 I saw it too. It was shanked. Freudian.
@@ceciliaramos2280 No, the child will simply learn that you don't like whatever thing they did, not what they did was wrong.
No
Agreed
With you a million per cent. If it's not OK to hit adults, then why is it OK to hit kids?
I'm in the US, and corporal punishment by parents is legal here too. I was spanked many times as a kid, and as an autistic person, I don't believe it was helpful. I'm also not gonna ignore the many studies that have been done on what corporal punishment does to children.
I got smacked every day, and not because I was bad. I got it because I was there. And reminded my mom of my Dad who left my mom with six kids when I was eight years old. So I was beaten by my older brother and my mom..so I can the satisfaction of saying that my siblings ended this practice, and broke the violent behavior, my brother by growing up and knowing right from wrong, and I did it, by not having kids...
sometimes my dad would smack my handpalm. yeah seriously!
I was whooped too and smacked, not in an abusive way though, I did wrong, so I got in trouble for it, and I felt like it was wrong, but the older I become the more I realized how these whooping saved me from my own corrupt nature. I realized that my parents and guardians were really just trying to save me from me. When I went to school, I knew how to behave, I knew not to act up because I was disciplined. Even though people disagree with corporal punishment, corporal punishment, saved me.
No, it's not ok. Corporal punishment is just child abuse. If you cannot raise your child without hurting them, you shouldn't be a parent!
No abuse is used because a person is a bully, but corporal punishment is used to discipline.
It’s never ok to smack your child. How you treat your child is a reflection of how you view your child and how you view yourself. Start with self love and self respect, then you can begin to love and respect your children and other people.
Amen.
You have to teach children that there are consequences to their actions. I think we can all agree on that. If you let children get away with something then they will just fearlessly do it again. However, when it comes to smacking or even hitting then I think that if the only tool in your toolbox is to smack then you are going about it the wrong way. If you treat every act of disobedience with a smack or a threat of a smack then your children will begin to fear you because they have to walk on eggshells around you all the time. You don't actually love your children if you don't allow kids to make mistakes sometimes. They will turn into doormats with serious mental health problems, like Borderline Personality Disorder and codependency. However, I don't think corporal punishment should be banned. I just think that smacking or even hitting your kids should be reserved for the most serious acts of disobedience. If you hit all the time then the act loses its severity over time. You will provoke your children to anger and they will want to kill you.
What's an example of a severe act of disobedience? And why is it about obedience and not healthy development? You're right that hitting your child only teaches them to fear you. It also teaches them that hitting is ok. Corporal punishment and even punishment in general is the least effective method of behaviour management. Corporal punishment especially is the least effective and the most harmful. So why even do it once? For the sake of obedience at that. One incident can cause lasting trauma so just don't hit your kids, ever. Why isn't this plainly obvious? What if the "severe act of disobedience" is that they hit their sibling? You gon teach them not to hit by hitting them? There is no logic to this BS, only cognitive dissonance caused by the normalisation of corporal punishment across generations. People think "my parents smacked me but they also loved me so smacking is ok". No. They can both love you and do the wrong thing and surely by now we can acknowledge it's wrong
@@TheSoonamee I don't know, if they stole something or physically hurt another person or sexually assaulted someone I would smack them up for it. If you're going to tell me that corporal punishment is never okay then you should go live in a country that has no police. You'll soon realize that force is somewhat necessary to maintain order in the world.
If a child ignores repeated warnings to stop misbehaving or continually won't do what they're told to do when they're told to do it, then and only then should they be disciplined by getting their clothed bottom smacked either once or twice with an open palm of the hand.
@@darrenmiles-morland8038 If you have to resort to hitting a child in any situation then you have failed as a parent.
Having one parent at home to bring up the child or children until school age makes a massive difference!! Less keeping up with the Jones!!!
Absolutely. Government should pay a stay at home parent the childcare subsidy. Children learn much more from parents than being in daycare with young workers with a 1:5 ratio. Results are already showing kids are struggling as a result of early long day care.
@@claires7975 I'd prefer full communism but as long as you're not hitting your kids, by all means get paid to care for them at home. You can take them to play groups for socialisation with other kids. You can access 2 days a week preschool for free, then kindergarten won't be such a sudden shock to the system.
Part of the problem is that most households now need a double income to get by. But the other part of the problem is that early childhood educators like myself (I'm 37 btw and most of my coworkers are not young or inexperienced - even if they are they have to do massive amounts of on the job training and gain their qualification) are severely undervalued and underpaid and in this economy less young people want to work one of the hardest jobs for less pay than they'd get at Macca's. More and more educators are leaving the industry due to burnout, low pay, poor conditions. More funding is needed but some of it needs to go towards raising the award wage or there will not be enough educators to meet the increasing demand for care.
@@claires7975 also if you're gonna keep your kids home you'd better have plenty of time and resources because education ain't easy. There's no app for that, it's real work. Hard work. I'm not 100% against screen time but you can tell when a child spends most of their time at home on an ipad
Depression and anxiety are how DTD and ptsd manifest early on. Corporal punishment should be outlawed completely. If it's not OK to hit an adult, why is it OK to hit kids? I do not understand the argument that hitting kids is fine as discipline. Every single study that has been done shows that hitting kids makes them ill. It's a straight line, and it's very simple, and it's causation, not just correlation.
Having boundaries helps you grow up with respect for you parents and society, look at the youth crime today, there’s no real punishment and no boundaries, if you ban punishment on kids watch how much worse it will get and it will take generations to get back to normal.
If smacking your children is the answer, then why do we have this youth crime wave in your he first place? Smacking your child is not illegal now, if anything it shows the current methods being used by parents aren't working.
Research shows corporal punishment is ineffective for behaviour management & actually worsens behavioural issues. Many children spend most of their days at daycare / preschool from a young age, and then all children spend most days at school. So are you suggesting we bring back corporal punishment in those settings? Otherwise it's inconsistent since it's illegal outside the home. I'm an early childhood educator. I know behaviour management is hard. Learn how to set boundaries without resorting to violence BEFORE having kids. Or just don't. If you don't think you can raise a child without hitting them, then don't have kids. There are plenty of resources online about effective behaviour management. Children who get smacked at home do not do well in a daycare / preschool setting. The only thing you teach a child by hitting them is that hitting is ok (or worse, that you, their primary caregiver, are to be feared). You are their role model. You have taken the responsibility to keep a child safe, including from your own potentially harmful actions. What happens when your kid starts hitting people? Hit them for hitting? Or just ignore it bc you never bothered to learn how to raise a child before having one? It's so nonsensical to the point of absurdity yet it's still so normalised, and that's the problem.
@@TheSoonamee i have 3 kids, they are incredibly well behaved and model students ( 2 were students of the month last month). They got a smack on the bum when they played up and guess what, they didn’t do it again, they don’t go hitting other kids. I’m not saying beat them up but they definitely need boundaries and they need to know there is serious consequences if they cross them and not just hollow threats.
If you wrap kids in cotton wool you not teaching them to grow to be adults instead you end up with adults acting children, example today’s generation.
@@TheSoonamee forgot to ask how many kids do you have
@@fattlane1866 Yes. It is definetly weird that you believe you turned out okay because your parents hit you.
This was really thoughtful and well done. Thanks for the helpful information. It was really insightful to hear from the younger generations general opinions too.
its odd because we have rules that say your allowed to hit children at home and yet in schools teachers can't even get the most basic amounts of respect or authority because they cant yell at them they cant tell them to sit in the corner by themselves they cant single them out and these kids run circles around these poor teachers and yet at home you can hit them. its so contradictory, you cant be even remotely harsh to make kids work and become more functional in a school sense but you can hit them at home when they just annoy you
Yeah. I've heard some parents say it's a cultural thing so what happens in the home is a private affair. A lot of the parents who use corporal punishment at home would flip out if their kid's teacher did it to them. Teachers shouldn't need to yell at kids to get respect. They can raise their voice and speak angrily which is enough. I haven't been in school in a little while but it's pretty normal for disruptive kids to sit by themselves, isn't it? I've seen desks be placed next to the teacher. The embarrassment usually works, especially when they're older. It would be better if parents at home weren't allowed to rely on the fear and threat of violence for good behaviour so they'd actually teach their kids why it's important to respect teachers, have good manners etc.
Sometimes, yes. I know many, many children who don't have authoritative parents or a missing parent and they get whatever they want and behave however they want. It can take an hour or more to reason with them and they don't learn anything and will do it again the next day. Should it be avoided, yes. I also know parents who I don't think should be parents, they party all night, sit on welfare and barely send their kid to school, they might need some corporal punishment too.
There’s a reason the amount of youth crime has sky rocketed. Not enough disciplining is done anymore.
Not to mention the number of eshays💀
It needs to occur but not over the top.
Yes there is a reason. It’s the parenting practices that have proliferated. How you treat a child in the first two years of life is hard wired into their developing brain. So practices such as controlled crying, smacking , neglect result in behavioral issues later in life. Do the research
could it be maybe that parents are out of touch with their children's emotions? No, No it's the fact I didn't hit them hard enough!
@@jacksoncremean1664 it could very well also factor in. But to neglect the reduction in child disciplining and subsequent rise in antisocial behaviour is also something that often occurs when people try and determine the causes of it. My point here is disciplining is vital. But it shouldn’t be over the top. It should be used as a tool, alongside other methods which don’t involve slapping your child.
@@Leonore45I wasn’t talking about smacking a 2 year old, no one should be doing that, I am referring to disciplining school going kids or slightly younger and I am not taking about using large force. I was disciplined as a kid, so was my brother and so were soo many people, including my friends, and they are the ones I see that behave the best. Disciplining a child, in the method I’m speaking of, is literally the opposite of neglect.
New parenting practices are exactly what I’m talking about. You’ve inadvertently proven my point.
@@Whoisthis1111 do you know what the word discipline comes from? I didn’t but it makes perfect sense. I don’t have any nice memories of the teachers that used physical methods or used threats. I responded to teachers who talked to me in a friendly, respectful way. I still do. It’s good to have open and respectful discussion on here. 😊 have a good day Dherya.
IT’s understanding how children’s brains work so that you understand what the child understands. Children need to become the focus of their caregiver not just another responsibility to be accommodated. We should be encouraging caregivers to spend exclusive time with their child particularly in the first two years of life.
Alice in Wonderland! In an ideal world that works, BUT this world is far from ideal... Wake up from your fairy dream!
The answer is yes makes you a better person worked on me and i came out ok😂
Haha I'm always wary of people who experienced and support corporal punishment and think they turned out okay
Gone are the good old days of getting the strap by the gym teacher at school, and getting a hiding from the old man at home.
Not sure it’s a good thing actually. Probably other effective punishments can serve a better purpose.
Sort of agree but the older generations are more respectful and know where the red lines are. The young fellas today do what they want, don’t respect a thing because there’s no real punishment. I’m not say bash kids, I’m says a smack on the bum never hurt us but it did show that there consequences if you did play up.
@@peppipoohductionswakashunt3157 Not really my subject of expertise. Though thinking back to when I was a mischievous young fella I think a bit of reverse psychology or guilt tripping or no tv would have done the job as well if not better than a hiding.
Also Boys will be boys, so any parent that thinks their boys will not get up to mischief is delusional.
i watch SuperNanny often on UA-cam and she teaches Parents on how to do better for their kids. Jo Frost is amazing.
No it's not okay to beat children ,but it doesn't hurt if they think it's a possibility, parents who neglect to teach children manner s and respect for their elders are half the reason today s youth are out of control , you reap what you sow
Threatening kids isn't good either. They learn to live in fear. Or some will call your bluff, and then what? It teaches them that threats are meaningless. Plenty of kids are taught manners and respect for people without threats of violence. It's not that difficult but the parent has to be willing to put in the time and have the patience to do it which ideally, all people should have before becoming a parent. The youth are not out of control. They're probably getting up to the same amount of mischief. It's just easier to see because they record it and put it on social media and we're more connected than ever so word travels fast. Back in the day you barely knew what was going on in the next town, let alone the next state or across the world. Looks bad but the vast majority of the kids are fine
@@wolfferoni re read First two lines of what I said
In Norway, Sweden, Germany, France, Denmark and numerous other countries Corporal Punishment is flat out ILLEGAL both in schools and at home. In these countries crime and juvenile delinquency is lower than in the US.
A society can do without this needless brutality, it should not tolerate it.
My grandfather had A saying ...,.never slap a kid in the face God provides a better place
your grandfather is such a wise man.
Sometimes you gotta give them a smack if it is a safety issue. I don't really smack my kids but if I needed to discourage them from doing something dangerous then maybe a slap on the wrist and a telling off would help. I think it is easy for academics to forget that we aren't long out of the trees. We are just animals and perfection is unattainable. Education is one thing. Regulation is another. I think parents should continue to be left to make these decisions. Just raise your kids well. And I will raise mine well.
Yes we aren’t long out of the trees but even now primates don’t put their child down for the first two years. Humans farm out their children to nurseries for people who are just doing a job to look after them. If you need to go back to work soon after having a child maybe you should decide if having child is the right choice for you. The same way you would consider is it fair to get a puppy to leave it home alone all day because you have to work.
I'm so sick of the argument, 'i only smack my kid when they do something dangerous'.
It's YOUR responsibility as a parent to keep your child out of harm's way. If they get themselves into a dangerous situation, they are already going to be frightened enough by your reaction without you shaming them into making them feel like it's their fault, just to make yourself feel better when it was your neglect that caused the situation to occur in the first place.
@@Leonore45 also dropping your kid off at daycare is not the same as leaving a puppy home alone.
Do you think we just sit around and do the bare minimum to keep the children in our care alive like some politicians have said?
No, we do everything we can to educate them, comfort them, care for them, keep them engaged, safe, make sure their time at daycare is something they enjoy.
Plus all the other duties involved, food prep, cleaning, re-stocking, setting up a variety of activities using limited resources, writing observations, other paperwork, documenting everything every child eats, poops or wees, constant picking things up off the floor, taking photos of every child every day & writing descriptions so families can see what they've been up to. Getting 12 children under 2 to sleep. Accommodating changes in a child's sleep routine or dietary / toileting requirements. Learning about each child, their routine at home, their interests & circumstances, special needs.
Education & care is tailored to each child based on their needs, interests and developmental stage. Thinking of strategies to build each child's developmental skills. About 50 nappy changes in a day and toilet training. Cleaning up after toileting accidents. Changing clothes after messy food or activities. Constant nose wiping.
Evacuation drills, taking all the children out of the centre safely (and sometimes even on excursions).
Various infectious illness outbreaks requiring cleaning of every single item and surface.
Then there's the drop off and pick up conversations with parents, the rundown of how their day went, how well they slept and ate, finding all the socks, shoes, dummies, comforters, jumpers etc that go missing.
All within a tight routine as sticking to routines is important. We barely have time to meet our own basic needs at work bc the needs of the children come first.
We also get sick a LOT because people bring their sick kids in and then all the kids are sick & we have burnt out staff fighting off illness (or we're understaffed due to sick leave) while caring for all these sick kids who all need extra care.
You know what else we do? Behaviour management - without hitting
@@Alice-ui9oy THANK YOU 👏👏👏
So as an educator working with 0-5 year olds, would you be ok if I slapped your kid bc they could be in danger? I work mostly with toddlers and have to be on constant alert bc there's always one about to do something unsafe. It's pretty simple to physically remove them from whatever the dangerous situation is, there's no need for any further physical force. Gently guiding them to a different activity and consistently reiterating the rules of safe play is more effective. What is a slap going to achieve? Assumedly you've already removed them from the danger, and corporal punishment is ineffective and damaging - there's no doubt about this, the research is easy to find.
Yes people should be allowed to make their own parenting decisions, but we already have exceptions to that since you're not allowed to neglect or abuse children. The fact we still normalise hitting children is appalling and completely absurd. Even if not all hitting is abuse, all hitting is harmful, and your responsibility is to protect them from that kind of harm. If you wouldn't want someone else to do it to your kid why, why is it ok for you? You're literally purposefully inflicting pain on your child.
Children make mistakes, sometimes they get hurt (minor ouchie), or they don't get the outcome they want, and they can learn from that through natural consequences. If they do something silly and get hurt, physically or otherwise, they might develop an aversion to the silly behaviour.
But if the hurt comes from you hitting them, they will develop an aversion (fear of) YOU, they won't see the connection between their behaviour and the hurt bc the hurt is coming from you (and if you're going to explain why you hit them why not just skip the hitting part and explain why the behaviour is unsafe - they'll comprehend your words better if they feel safe and trust rather than hurt inflicted by you). Not to mention they will learn that hitting is ok (everything you do around them is a model for their own behaviour)
NOOOO and it’s Not needed ever.
I was smaked, also the threat of the cane at school.
This depression situation is of the world media.
If the younger generation have a problem with a slap, well, look out!
When you leave school,you don't have a teacher or headmaster to lean on.
In the outside world you have to face bikies, gangsters and they will not just give you a slap.
Youngsters, you will grow up quickly when out into the real world.
A slap or a caning at school is making sure you know about boundaries.
When you leave school boundaries don't exist 🙏
Some kids yes I feel some kids need it.
If they hit, the need to feel what’s it’s like to be hit! Hopefully it will stop the future bullies!
@@paulineleng1218 Kids who are bullies and hit other kids are pretty much guaranteed to have a parent who is hitting and bullying them.
*Yes.*
As a child, and for the first 17 years of my life I was abused every which way imaginable. Corporal punishment was totally accepted then. Thankfully now we have mandatory reporting and much better mental health therapies. As a mental health clinician I need to model positive behaviours ,and teach our young people to feel their emotions, and how to connect with themselves. To give them more tools to add to their toolkit, to listen, validate, support and reassure. And to practise self care and acceptance.
Good video. Times have indeed changed. The research is abundantly clear. I will never hit a child and don't think it's okay to do that. I definitely believe it has negatively affected me. Thing is, a parent who would be willing to hit their kids are likely to have other behaviours that negatively affect kids too e.g. use of threats, yelling, other aggressive behaviour that can be emotional or verbal abuse. It's easy to escalate further and further. I think if a parent has to hit a child to get them to listen, they're not doing the right thing.
I don't understand parents, including my own, who think the solution to a child throwing a tantrum is violence. Sure, it's a quick way to control and stop an annoying behaviour but it's not supposed to be about you. You're teaching your child not to do something to avoid pain and fear from you. Kids grow up worrying about and fearing how you will react to whatever they're doing. Some kids might not be as affected by why take that risk? Don't be surprised if your child cuts contact when they're older. If you cannot teach your child without resorting to violence and aggression, you shouldn't be a parent until you can.
Spare the rod spoil the child, look at today's children , no self respect,and no self awareness hence self destructive behaviour
So you want to rod children? That's just nasty. The rest of your comment "no self respect,and no self awareness hence self destructive behaviour" seems to describe you.
They said that about your generation to and then you make the assumption that a destructive child doesn't get a beating the opposite is true you don't respect children and they reflect that back it's a 2 way street
Rubbish.
Spot on
Nope. I guess you don't care about research. You really can't generalise today's kids as having no self respect or self awareness. Both of those things aren't necessarily the cause of destructive behaviour.
Depression and anxiety- yes! Been in jail - no
wow
Japan and Korea are on the list 5:10
guess these laws that Australia are called to follow just aren't that upheld
Bring back corporal punishment for school and capital punishment for violent repeat criminals. It needs to be used as a deterrent but doesn’t mean it needs to be applied
Correct. The kids today have no discipline or punishment. This is why they’re running around stabbing people and robbing servos, stealing cars and breaking into homes.
It doesn’t work.
Agree, was youth crime as big an issue years ago, their not scared of the system because the punishment is a slap on the wrist.
@@peppipoohductionswakashunt3157 Why not ask why there is youth crime in the first place? And has it really increased? It’s internationally well documented the punishment do not deter crime.
@@MatsUnden judging by the amount of cars stolen break-ins and vandalism in my small town compared to 10 years ago (nil) I’d say it’s increased massively. I’d say the good behaviour bonds aren’t working
Back in the old days kids had respect for their parents and authority because of getting smacked or spanking for ill behavior ....no more tho most children respect no one and talk back due to lack of punishment in families nowadays
I think you're confusing respect with fear. Or are they the same to you? And oh no children are allowed to speak these days??!!???!!
Yes to the question.
In self defense, yes. Or when you're teaching a child to be a fighter.😊
Yes
Evidence has proven societies that don't beat children are less violent and have less crime it's not open for discussion it's a fact Adults with poor self-control their children learn that behaviour from the parents
That's a lie
@@witness1013 i'd say that to if I didn't want to take responsibility for my actions
Link studies then. I’d like for you to produce studies that have then been peer reviewed as well to support your statement there.
@@romanbrandle319 no - you'd just say it to be contrary when you're wrong - and you're wrong.
@@Whoisthis1111 The countries are listed in the footage take as many examples as you want and google their crime rates and how they have changed over time more to the point when it is abuse chances are no one will do anything to stop it as a rule from experience
I didn't do me any good.
It didn't do me anything good
6:52 That R0DE logo is much more noticeable after you've tried to black it out ;-)
would be interesting to include in a study, the prevalence of corporal punishment of boys compared to girls; why does it feel more appropriate to discipline a boy with physical violence compared to girls... also, if older generations received on average, based on anecdotal evidence from everyone over the age of 50, a greater level of discipline in terms of force, what does this represent in terms of mental health outcomes... when we look to our grandparents, do we see the violent people they were towards their children, our parents, and those who were violent towards them, or ignorance, or simply products of a different generation...
Me (a girl) and my brother were smacked equally in the same level. This resulted in me - a girl - being the toughest one, and I hate to say, but my brother came up as the weakest one 😉
Society has constructed specific ideas of what a girl and boy is, how they behave, what they can handle etc. without taking in consideration their individual differences. Girls are "supposed" to be the gentler, softer, weaker one who must be protected while boys are supposed to be strong, toughen up, and do the protecting. Hitting a boy doesn't feel that bad because "they can take it", it's for their own good to toughen up, get used to the pain. Some people find it harder to watch girls cry and boys were just told to keep it in or they were hit more. To be clear, I don't believe in this at all. It probably changes to a degree based on where you are because culture plays a big role at the way gender is perceived and whether or not there's much of a religious influence involving the bible or gendered beliefs. Then it gets passed from generation to generation without much thought.
As to your second question, that depends on the person and their experience but the answer could really be all three. I think it often times is all three. A person can act in a violent way and still not be a violent person overall. There's also a fourth option in that some people think that behaviour was and is justified and positive.
wait a second so in younger generations there is increasingly less corporal punishment in comparison and yet depression and anxiety is on the rise. In older generation its very wide spread even in schools. so how are the two linked? just because there is a correlation does not equal causation. I do see one causation is the lack of understanding.of consequence and discipline on the rise
It's not just correlation. We have the data to show that it's causation. Maybe have a look at the ACE Study. It has produced some amazing work in this area
A smack on the wrist is fine but anything else is too much.
Needs to be done a lot more often
I agree
Yeap 👍 There is a difference between smacking and corporal abuse. The Millenials were never smacked, and look at the results: have weak personality, seek only validation, have unattainable dreams, blabbing their mouths and not knowing there'll be consequences, lazyness, and so on... Please bring back the cane!
Hey Boomer. :)
Trying to make excuses for your abuse maybe a black eye would do you good
@@romanbrandle319 Or maybe every cancer there is would serve him right.
You clearly don’t like young people do you?
I got the cane in primary school and you know what, I never mucked up again (I actually laughed at him and he threatened more)
There’s nothing to fear for them now so they carry on like they do.
based
Yes