Hi...your points are excellent. But some words I didn't get it also subtitle is not working here. Can you send me any video which one you made it on these topics thanks
All kids need love and obviously some more than others, but as a teacher for nearly 20 years, most of the defiant ones, REALLY need discipline at home. They have zero consequences at home and it spills over into the school environment. I’ve rarely had a defiant student who’s parents were on the ball. Plus factor in special needs, it’s A-LOT that teachers have to manage. 😢
I am so tired of all the ideas coming forward…. You cannot handle 15 out of 30 kids where they all need attention and the ones that want to learn gets to be pushed in the background because all the defiant childrwn need attention😢
There is a point where some kids need to experience a consequence of negative behaviors. When you are actively defiant people dislike you. Sometimes a behavior needs to be labeled and pointed out as something that doesn’t serve the student.
Y’all I am done having a “talk” with students. From now on I’m having my disrespectful students write over and over, “I will not talk when my teacher is talking,” “I will have a positive attitude in class,” “I will not complain,” “I will not argue.” If they do argue or complain then I double the amount they have to do (20x, 40x, 80x, 160x). It works like a charm! Ain’t nobody likes writing this bs.
Great advice! My issue is that I let the anger get the best of me...I don't yell or anything like that...I just feel so angry and frustrated by the uncalled for disrespectful attitudes that I just don't want to connect to these types of students...it's tough for sure because they need that positive affirmation the most (as you mentioned here). It just sucks when you plan for each lesson for hours...you try finding interesting assignments students can engage in...and when they just start being defiant or rude for the sake of being rude and defiant...it just feels like a bit of a slap in the face... especially after YOU (as the teacher) try your best to be open and vulnerable...I guess what I'm trying to ask is...how do new teachers grow a thick skin when dealing with these situations? I forget to breathe...I forget to remember that these kids...are just kids...and whether they understand or don't understand they're attitudes...it's hard to keep cool...any other new teachers out there feeling this way? Any suggestions? (By the way...working with middle schoolers)
@@aminakane8643 . I don’t know if you are religious, but this may help. The Bible says it’s easy to love the lovable, but the true test of someone’s nature is how well they can show love to the “unlovable”.
my personal view on this is... there is an age... id say 13 yrs...where for sure about 99 percent of individuals (so called children) are not so "children" any more, as most of them have already developed an image of the ego, at this point the base personality of each one of them already starts showing up, there are so many types of people around of diff ages, some of us are mean and rude n sm of us are naturally kind for no other reason than there being just like that (irrespective of the circumstances). if everybody is equally rich in this world u will still find people being rude just for the sake of being rude. all m saying is from this young age of 13-14yrs u can clearly see already that a certain kid is a kind human being and a certain one is simply an ass🤷🏻♀️, and there is NO way around it. these r humans who only move by fear. there will b a kid in ur class who wud b respectful of ur personal boundary n is just respectful when he talks to u or any other student, and then there will b a kid who is just nasty...and will not respect u and he will take ur politeness as weakness. there r just loving n non loving humans. in my view these type of negative students only "seem" to respect u when they get a scolding or when they are (rightfully so) punished. punishment does have a fair and rightful purpose in this case. punishment is wrong when its used as an excuse by evil people, otherwise it was invented for these type of rude students. they have to be punished, why? becoz when theyre out f the school in the money making shit professional world, evry single person whom they deal with, is not bound by the nonsensical school rules of no punishment and no scolding or hitting these kind of students. these very nasty kids face consequences of their ugly behaviour when they r at home, or playing with other kids, in the neighbor or any other place EXCEPT IN SCHOOL! what are teachers? their punching bags? their own parents would rage at them 100 percent if u seek to find out, but not you r not allowed? kids have to know that there are consequences of actions in the world and in school too, becoz every other person does have an ego image, just like they have... and every ugly action gets an ugly reaction out there.
I've had a rough day at school working as a sub in terms of class management and this helped me a lot to take a step back and reevaluate what I did well and what I could've done better. Thank you for this video!
I'm a substitute teacher and struggle with this big time. I am often teaching young children, classes of 25-30 kids, no support, no EAs. The first grade class I had this week had several aggressive, violent kids. It was absolute chaos. I tried every trick in the bag. Nothing worked. Finally I put on a movie and that *kind of* helped. It's tough for us substitute teachers because we don't know the students as well or their routines.
As one of the 'bad kids' I can say that we usually doubt our Selth worth and don't think we are capable of being smart so we give up I wish that I would have a teacher like this who would encourage me instead of letting me know how bad I have become. If you have a student like me 'loud, distracted easily, doesn't pay attention' I can tell you now that they probably need someone to believe in them because they don't believe in themselves
I def noticed that some of the most difficult defiant kids I encountered had nothing in their lives to "build thier self esteem" Like not even sports. and I believe all those things can contribute to a low self esteem or self worth and that seemed to take a toll on their self esteem and therefore the way they behaved in general. even the somewhat difficult kids who had something like sports or something they could say they excelled in were a little easier to manage and I really do think it all boiled down to "self esteem" esp in boys,
I know it's hard, but you should make it a challenge for yourself to prove that you are a intelligent person worthy of respect. If you keep feeding the world excuses and negativity, that is what you'll get back. If someone pays you a compliment, do you believe them? Or do you tell yourself that they just want to manipulate you? Cut it out - accept the compliment. People who do this can come out of the worst circumstances to become successful and happy, stable adults.
I'm recently retired from corporate America and started my second career as a middle school teacher. I always wanted to be a teacher. I constantly heard "students are bad" but I had no idea they would be as disobedient and defiant as they are. It's only December and I'm the fourth teacher in this class. Obviously, teachers can't handle these students. I have four blocks and the first three of the day are out of control. It's not only my class, but several classes. You can hear teachers yelling all day long. Although I began the end of September, I am applying for new jobs. I will not stay beyond this year. The problems that my students have will not be resolved by stepping outside and giving compliments. Many of them have serious conditions and problems that must be treated medically or psychologically. I will not continue to subject myself to this magnitude of abuse and disrespect. The problems that I encounter will take years to resolve internally. Personally, I do not have that amount of time. As soon as I get a job offer, I'm out.
This is a sign of the failure of the family. I'd bet money that most of these kids are from single parent homes, living with grandparents and/or the adults in the home have drug/alcohol abuse. Kids don't have the structure and security they need at home to get them in a state of mind to learn in the first place. They take out their anger and angst on teachers all day every day. Teachers don't deserve that. Adults need to start making better choices, and parents need to partner with teachers to create a consistent line of consequences and rewards.
The student won’t go outside the classroom when I tell them too. Or go back to their seat. Haha. They try and pull the whole class to be involved. Ugh. Stressed out. It’s a rough neighborhood and I wonder where this kids will be in 5-10 years. 😬 Please make a video of the extreme cases.
@@rodneedavis unfortunately none of these "experts" have any real advice for that kind of situation. I've been there. After 30 years, all i can say is try your best to communicate with parents, establish a good working relationship with admin and guidance, try to keep from getting you upset-especially during a class, keep classes active with warm-ups, exit tickets, find teachers that work well with those students and see what they can offer-some teachers will even address the issues with them or offer advice for strategies that have worked. be consistent. Be friendly, but unflappable.
Ahh! I adore you so much for this! I noticed how these methods were especially helpful to me when switching to k-5 to working with middle school students.. So glad we share the same opinions about showing the students that you genuinely care for them! The students really tend to want to work harder for you!
I’ve been teaching 8 years and I still need to be better about talking to them one on one. Some of my students that I get onto all the time think that I hate them and come into the room hostile to start with. You’re 100% right about them showing out to try to see “cool” when in realty they look like jerks.
Hello, i'm 20 and working with 20-24 5th graders for 4 hours every day and idk how i'm going to handle the rest of the year. I'm in week 2 and the kids are good kids but when they're out of control i feel so overwhelmed and today i so badly wanted to just leave and cry but of course i put my strong face on and went through the whole day. Thank you for this video. Idk why i comment this whole thing, i just don't want to work there anymore and idk what to do
It´s great to make rules for them. Think about rules you want them to follow. Sit with them and talk about this rules and say that this rules are for them, you want them to feel great in clasroom. After that ask them which rules they want to add, so they can feel safe and happy in clasroom. Then ask children to write rules on big paper and put this rules to class where they can see them everyday. Ask them to choose punishment for breaking rules. It will be their choice. You need to follow rules and give punishment. My opinion is, that child needs unconditionally love and clear rules :) Good luck :)
I would also give them notebooks, where you will stick some stars/hearts/animals or give them note when you are satisfied with their behavior. It´s important not just to give punishment, but more important is to commend for good behavior. They will see you in more pleasant side. Good luck! :)
I'm a student, not a teacher, however I am a new prefect who is so short to the point that the underclassmen are taller than I am by a long shot. I am so intimidated when they refuse to listen and I don't know what to do :(
Sometimes though you ask them to step out of the room and they don't. Then what do you do? At that point the only thing that works is to communicate with the parents, which doesn't always work since sometimes the parents are worse than the kids - lol!
Maya, Great way to summarize how to care for unruly students! They are truly great students, just need someone to redirect them and care for them. I have been at an elementary school for year and a half now and the children today is unlike the students we grow up with. We must take care students with tender loving care and show that we are there to guide and support them on their daily activities whether they are difficult or not. Mainly, Social and Emotional children have tendency to separate them from group of students to make great choices therefore they want to become different and be an attention seeker that is why they act out.
Wow you are really involved with your work and made me feel like teaching is a vocation for you and not just a job. Kudos to you! Your positivity gave me such a positive vibe this morning especially that I had a negative day yesterday!
I'm currently studying to become a teacher and these tips are really helpful! I really have to work on my confidence before I'm ready to tackle a classroom and just getting tips like these makes me feel like I can do it.
Yes! You can definitely do it! I used to say 'oh im not confident, i cant manage a whole class, how am i supposed to teach.. And stuff like that, but now im teaching and it's going well, when u r a teacher u automatically incarnate another personality and u become more confident bzcuz u have the control in ur hand and u have to mange students, who should respect you. So all of that comes naturally and each teacher has their own method. I wish you goodluck in ur teaching career 😊
@Ava Khoshab definitely yes. You should receive respect in order to respect. But u gotta know that unfortunately not all students show respect eventually even if the teacher is nice and super respectful. So in this case a teacher should set boundaries which is called behavior management so the teachers can do their work and students learn and participate in the best condistions.
I love how this explains why and that you shuld be patient and connect with them i was that kid in 7th grade to like 9th grade i was fucked up in class constantly eather high or not paying attention because i didn't care and the teacher's didn't care about me and didn't try and reach out and help me i was depressed and dysphoric and this is something that i think is the way you shuld handle this
I'm not a teacher yet, but my thinking is to still take notice of something positive you can say to each student. Like "John, good job staying focused". "Mary, I'm so proud of you completing this assignment." Find what works for each child, things that could help motivate them at different times throughout the day. Taking them outside to speak with them might not be feasible, so while the rest of the class is working, call the misbehaving student up to your desk and calmly have a private chat. Or maybe right at the beginning of class when they first enter the room try and connect with them in some way before the behaviors even start. These are just my ideas. Hoping others will chime in for more helpful ideas 😊
You don't. In my country, there are 40 plus students in each class and having one or two children like this is enough to mess up the whole thing. I personally will never give them the extra attention simply because there are others in the class who care about their study. I will not target any student in particular because that just makes things worse. I'll give them positive comments when I can, though. If they want to be the cool kid, or the funny kid in the class, so be it. My time, effort, and dedication is better spent with others who are serious about what they want to do.
You make time outside of the class time maybe during your planning period. Some teachers use to visit homes, but of course, CV19 has changed that. Set a Zoom call especially for them. Talk to them during their lunch hour. Have casual and genuine interactions with them that are aside from the corrections. Compliment them on their shoes, hair, creativity, etc. Find a way to connect. Hope this helps.
Antoinette Varela so you’re mad that she’s trying to make more money teachers make hardly any money so they resort to UA-cam to make some extra money for the classroom she needs a people to help sponsor so she make more money
my kids just dont seem to care about anything. half do and really want to learn and get frustrated with the others, the other half dont care. praise doesnt mean much, telling them i need them to do better doesnt mean much, i am a new elementary art teacher and i have no idea how to establish respect so these things do actually matter and i can be positive.
Defiant kids get helped way too much bruh i swear. Like what about the good student's that need help? Its just ridiculous how they get babied and carried around. They get compliments and get praised for doing a sinple task but a good student gets yelled at and they never get compliments or praises. Yall teachers need to treat everyone fairly and yall need to be more disciplined. And who cares if the student is embarrassed if you call them out in class .... they didnt care when you were talking ...
Hi Maya, thanks so much for this video! I use some of these methods for students who have some behavioral issues and need discipline and coaching. I always complement kids for good behavior and set expectations for every class, and it works beautifully in all classes besides the older fifth grade. Today for example, in fifth grade music class, I wanted to teach them how to play instruments, as a music teacher, and they were just all over the place. They refused to do anything in class, and when I gave them instruments to play, telling them "you are here to learn how to create beats in order to become great musicians that I know that you can be", they tossed the instruments back at me and bombarded me with insults such as "I don't want to do music bro". And I told them that "music is fun and there are so many things you can do with instruments that you couldn't imagine but you need to follow certain school expectations and one of them is to not call your teachers names". So then they started to bombard with with "bro" and were talking about "Barak Obama" and making squicky sounds that were extremely inappropriate. I asked them "what's the matter", they told me "we just don't want to do music". So I asked them "then what do you like", and they said "dance", but I said "I can teach you a lot of body movements that can help you with music and dance at the same time but you need to follow the rules because if you don't, there will be consequences for your actions". I told them "now you guys are being very disrespecful and we need to go over the rules so that you improve you behavior and learn how to better yourselves in class". I even modelled it from the two good students who were doing the right thing. But the other five kids didn't give two cents about music and said, "no we won't write the rules down because it's stupid, it's boring, if the other two boys are doing the right thing, we don't care". I later complemented the kids who did but it took me half an hour for them to just take out a piece of paper and start writing the rules down, but I won't give up on them. Please tell me what do you think I can do to have a good class with the kids who are extremely disrespecful and want to play on their IPads all day and don't want to do their work? And if I assign them anything, they call me "bro" after each sentence even when I explain to them that that's inappropriate. Thanks.
I know this was two years ago and likely won’t apply to your situation now, but I do want to point out that kids who disrespect you and refuse to do as they’re told because “it’s stupid” and “they don’t want to” fundamentally disagree with the notion that you should have more authority than they do. This is why they call you “bro,” to put you on equal footing with them. This frustrates you because you’re their teacher not their friend, but i think this provides insight into how they see you. You haven’t earned the respect you demand from them yet. And when you interpret “bro” as an insult, you affirm in their minds that you don’t deserve it. At the end of the day, you are the adult and the teacher, and that perception of yourself should remain steadfast whether they call you “miss/sir” or “bro” or your first name. They’re trying to get a rise out of you. You reveal insecurity in your authority by letting it get to you and that tells them that you’re not a worthy authority figure, tori just another “bro.” You’re trying to lay down the law without really putting yourself in their shoes. All kids have to go to school, and even “good” kids hate the experience. They’re told what to do, when all the time, and they feel overly micromanaged with things like having to write down rules that don’t mean anything to them. Most people like music, but not everyone likes playing it, and a lot of the time this is linked to skill level, especially in an environment with other people observing their efforts. Music is gonna be one kid’s favorite class and another’s least favourite and that’s okay. I would start by acknowledging this, and praising the very basic acts of coming to school, coming to class, choosing an instrument and then try and break down the expectations of what “good” music sounds like that way they’re free to explore it without worrying about if they’re good at it. I would get them to try and play a song they like using their chosen instrument. And most importantly, pick your battles. Don’t acknowledge it if the song they play is rude or explicit. Respond to however they feel comfortable calling you. When they do start to address you appropriately, you can begin to praise them for it. Eventually, when you’re past the point of calling you the wrong thing, just state lightly that that’s not your name so you won’t respond to it, and then call them the wrong name every time they do, so you’re put back on equal footing. They’ll find it funny at first but then they’ll either cave in, or they’ll continue doing it and it will be an inside joke between you that doesn’t actually harbour any disrespect. Don’t scold or punish them or calling you the wrong thing. Because all that tells them is they called you the right thing.
There are two annoying students at my class, they aren't annoying all the time but sometimes they start saying words and try to be funny and they disturb the class, i tried to be calm with them, but today they got on my nerves and i got mad at them, even tho i didn't shout but i became mean and i hate that becuz when i get mad i cant focus on the lesson. But still thank you for ur tips.
Lol the grocery haul threw me off, but otherwise this was a great video that really got to the point! Thank you!!! I will check out more of your kid/teaching videos (:
Such great and priceless advices! Thank you very much. I'm a preschool teacher, my children are 4 and 5. My problem is not the classroom itself but it's one particular child who does his very best to distract others, interrupt me through bad behaviour, very stubborn...this breaks the learning process, affects my credibility to the rest of the classroom...I'm frustrated, tried EVERYTHING, talking calmly, shouting, praising him when behaving good for 30 seconds, talkedto his mother, divorced ,who is more disoriented and unstable than he is which explains a lot! .Now I feel losing control over my whole classroom. Definitely don't want this to happen. What should I do?
Sadly this kind of behavior is everywhere. Think twice before you get into teaching and think you want to spend all day everyday with misbehaving children. If you don’t have that bubbly do-good attitude, it will be even harder. There are too many outside factors that will always undermine your efforts…terrible music, terrible athletes, social media, bad politics, bad parenting, etc. Been at it for 20 years and the stress is real. There’s a teacher shortage all over for a reason.
Love this- so helpful! One suggestion though- a quick intro and an immediate answer to the topic would be really great for those of us who are on the go!
Good tips Maya! Yes I am a formal ELT. Finding topics or subjects of their personal interest will inspire them to learn all together, if the topic and subject of interest is shared by all. At teenage years there's a good chance they agree on many issues and topics. And you're so pretty.. :)
Thank you for the video, it seems like really good advice! I am student teaching right now, I asked a student to please step outside and he refused 😕 he did not stay after class either. Does anyone have advice for this type of situations?
I greet my students at the door with a high five or just a hi. :) For your situation, I would just ask to speak with him, not in front of the class, and let him know you want to talk because you care, not because you want to get them in trouble. It's tough, I know. I'm at a new school and I'm trying to connect with them but they seem like built a wall. :/ Now you said he refused stepping outside? That's defiance and I'm not sure if your school has a system of writing up a student?
+Maya Lee You've pretty much said my thoughts based on what to do at least based on my experiences when I was an autistic student in school . Back in my times when My Teachers in elementary school would send me out in the hall it was almost NEVER without a paddle to hit me 3 times with . I wish you were My Teacher when I was in elementary school because you know how to de escalate students and not escalate students the way that My Teachers escalated me and had to learn the hard way how to not escalate me . Keep it up sweetheart . - Dwight
I think nowadays we need smaller classes with at least 7 to 8 students each. 1 teacher for 15 or more with pretty much behavior issues is too much. We don't go anywhere with that amount of problems in one classroom
This is a great video on building relationships bit doesn't actually follow the title. I had 4 fidthgraders who were defiant and fed off of each other and I had no backup for a while. Other than separating them, how do I actually deal? They began talking over me when I tried to co duct class. They harassed any student that tried to follow my instructions.
Hi Maya. I'm new to your this type of forum. I do have two questions. I had the experience of calling a student to my desk, when I subbed, and all the other kids knew he was in trouble, so they all "Ooooh"d. With the thought of not wanting to embarrass that student, how would you have handled the other student's verbal comment? BTW, he seemed to enjoy the attention and swaggered over to my desk. My second question is, when a defiant student continues to be disruptive (which he was) and after one has all ready spoken privately to this child, what does one do (what would you have done)? Thanks.
No. You need to be addressing these super bad annoying students that simply have zero respect no matter what you do or say. This performance is lacking to how bad the situations truly are.
I wish my science teacher would be this kind because I have autism and when I get overwhelmed I get frustrated and can't help with labs or do assignments and I really don't want to get again
I haven't been able to get students in the hall to address behavior due to the room set up and door type (No window and will not stay cracked open). I'm at a new school this year and will try one on one discussion. I started in the end of September and the previous orchestra teacher was established. I know they miss her but how would you address this while showing that you want to care? It is a middle school and there are other issues but right now it is a serious trust issue. Out of 5 classes, only one really has a problem. Any tips would be greatly appreciated.
thanks for the vid, but are you basing your experience off of high school students? I'm a beginning high school teacher, and I am definitely having a hard time with some of my students atm!
If you ask a 1st grade student to step outside the classroom to talk to- how would you prevent him or her from leaving the building plus the teacher is responsible to maintain supervision of class
I already do all of this Masha'Allah but I do try to connect with the student and talk to them on the side. Ok the last one is good to not call them out in front of everyone. But I do say I believe in you and that you are better than you are so act like the real good boy you are.
I have to sadly admit that this video will not answer your questions but you can buy some milk instead. If you are here you really nead advise. Well talk to your colleagues and see how they are facing this attitude. The soft advise about positive approach doesn't work on systematic bad behavior. The video is full of positive vibes but as I sad it just confirms your first step, but doesn't solve nothing. Thats why my dear friends we have to read books, eventually big books written by German, Russian and English philosophers. Good try anyway.
Iam a teacher بحول الله و قوته {وَمَا ذَ ٰلِكَ عَلَى ٱللَّهِ بِعَزِیزࣲ }☝🏻💜✉️ - Giving compliments :great job following directions. - Show them I care, remember. - Give feedback, you are expected to do that (you are great kid).. Finding connection point. - Not to call them out infront of everybody - need attention,.and give it the right attention. - iam here if you need anyone to talk to you , you can trust me.
Hi my name is asif and I'm a private tutuor.. I have a student who hates maths and bangla subject and he doesn't want to listen to me or not interested doing his homework regularly.. he is in class one & he is so stubborn.. though I taught him with love gesture and politeness connectiing with the kid but. he don't listen me he only wants to roam.. watch tv. eats and sleep so what should I do mam.. should I be strict to him.. coz his family wants that.. plz do reply mam... 😞😞😞
You need to have a conference with the parents to discuss ways that they discipline their son in order to get him to do things. If they have certain methods then ask if you can use them while you are tutoring him. You basically need to know what he likes and what he doesn't like. You also need to make your expectations clear with the student and the parents and keep it consistent. If the student is not meeting your expectations then make note of it and provide the information to the parents. At this point, it is the parents' responsibility to discipline the child. You are the tutor. Your job should not be to focus on behavior management.
So I have a question! I am a recently hired group leader for an after school care program and you mentioned as your last tip to not to try and call the student out in front of the whole class because it my cause embarrassment. Could you just elaborate on that a little more? Because I’m looking back and I do realize that I do call out kids who have been naughty if they’re talking too loud or if they’re not sitting like they’re supposed to. Are these examples deemed “acceptable” when it comes to that? I’m not sure 😕 help! Btw love your vids! Keep it up
are there any videos that separates primary school and secondary school context? If we see it as development or progression, lots of strategies should not be jumbled up together no matter what the theory says. I see lots of primary school examples, but not enough secondary to high school context. I think lots of comments have stated they are well struggling with more extreme situations.
Hi Maya, I hear what you are saying. But, I am still struggling with this. I have done the nice way like you are talking about and it isn't working. One boy cries and whines and moans when I tel him to try again .. cause he ran in the classroom. I lose my patience after being kind and not being respected. So I hear you but it hasn't nipped the challenges. I am having. Can you help more/
My kids have plaque psoriasis on their irises I tried to cure it with papyruses I always step up, like a pair of Osirises Survivin even in the lions' dens
Im starting my first year teaching in september so I will definitely use these in my classroom!
92momonica ahhh all the best to you!! ❤️ let me know if you have any questions. I just finished my first year :)
Maya Lee thank you!! I love watching your videos! Im so nervous. It will 8th grade 80 minute classes :) I dont how I should start the year off
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Bryan Ruiz thank you!
Hi...your points are excellent. But some words I didn't get it also subtitle is not working here. Can you send me any video which one you made it on these topics thanks
All kids need love and obviously some more than others, but as a teacher for nearly 20 years, most of the defiant ones, REALLY need discipline at home. They have zero consequences at home and it spills over into the school environment. I’ve rarely had a defiant student who’s parents were on the ball. Plus factor in special needs, it’s A-LOT that teachers have to manage. 😢
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Caught me off guard and I was thinking... Did I click on the right video?? Lolol thank you.
I’m a school counselor and all you said is music to my ears! I wish more teachers thought like you.
How do you like to be an school counselor?
I am so tired of all the ideas coming forward…. You cannot handle 15 out of 30 kids where they all need attention and the ones that want to learn gets to be pushed in the background because all the defiant childrwn need attention😢
@@antheaplaatjes5713Exactly 😢
There is a point where some kids need to experience a consequence of negative behaviors. When you are actively defiant people dislike you. Sometimes a behavior needs to be labeled and pointed out as something that doesn’t serve the student.
Yes we must call out the behaviours but always remember the child seperate the child from the behaviour
Y’all I am done having a “talk” with students. From now on I’m having my disrespectful students write over and over, “I will not talk when my teacher is talking,” “I will have a positive attitude in class,” “I will not complain,” “I will not argue.” If they do argue or complain then I double the amount they have to do (20x, 40x, 80x, 160x). It works like a charm! Ain’t nobody likes writing this bs.
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Good luck, Alot of my defiant students don't even do any work in class, They most certainly would NOT do a write out.
@@mariaguild2024 I was thinking the same thing. They wouldn't even write their name is I told them
Great advice! My issue is that I let the anger get the best of me...I don't yell or anything like that...I just feel so angry and frustrated by the uncalled for disrespectful attitudes that I just don't want to connect to these types of students...it's tough for sure because they need that positive affirmation the most (as you mentioned here). It just sucks when you plan for each lesson for hours...you try finding interesting assignments students can engage in...and when they just start being defiant or rude for the sake of being rude and defiant...it just feels like a bit of a slap in the face... especially after YOU (as the teacher) try your best to be open and vulnerable...I guess what I'm trying to ask is...how do new teachers grow a thick skin when dealing with these situations? I forget to breathe...I forget to remember that these kids...are just kids...and whether they understand or don't understand they're attitudes...it's hard to keep cool...any other new teachers out there feeling this way? Any suggestions? (By the way...working with middle schoolers)
You’re not alone. That’s exactly what I feel I don’t want to do ‘connect with them’
@@aminakane8643 . I don’t know if you are religious, but this may help. The Bible says it’s easy to love the lovable, but the true test of someone’s nature is how well they can show love to the “unlovable”.
my personal view on this is... there is an age... id say 13 yrs...where for sure about 99 percent of individuals (so called children) are not so "children" any more, as most of them have already developed an image of the ego, at this point the base personality of each one of them already starts showing up, there are so many types of people around of diff ages, some of us are mean and rude n sm of us are naturally kind for no other reason than there being just like that (irrespective of the circumstances). if everybody is equally rich in this world u will still find people being rude just for the sake of being rude. all m saying is from this young age of 13-14yrs u can clearly see already that a certain kid is a kind human being and a certain one is simply an ass🤷🏻♀️, and there is NO way around it. these r humans who only move by fear. there will b a kid in ur class who wud b respectful of ur personal boundary n is just respectful when he talks to u or any other student, and then there will b a kid who is just nasty...and will not respect u and he will take ur politeness as weakness. there r just loving n non loving humans. in my view these type of negative students only "seem" to respect u when they get a scolding or when they are (rightfully so) punished. punishment does have a fair and rightful purpose in this case. punishment is wrong when its used as an excuse by evil people, otherwise it was invented for these type of rude students. they have to be punished, why? becoz when theyre out f the school in the money making shit professional world, evry single person whom they deal with, is not bound by the nonsensical school rules of no punishment and no scolding or hitting these kind of students.
these very nasty kids face consequences of their ugly behaviour when they r at home, or playing with other kids, in the neighbor or any other place EXCEPT IN SCHOOL! what are teachers? their punching bags? their own parents would rage at them 100 percent if u seek to find out, but not you r not allowed? kids have to know that there are consequences of actions in the world and in school too, becoz every other person does have an ego image, just like they have... and every ugly action gets an ugly reaction out there.
@@chikuman6224 you made my day...and exactly written here is true, agree 100%
@@amaligodevithanage6501 😂thanks
Accountability for their actions is imperative to change.
Watching this to prepare for an interview. I want to be ready if my interviewer asks, "How would you handle defiant students?" Thanks for the insight!
Woohoo I'm sure you'll do great!
I've had a rough day at school working as a sub in terms of class management and this helped me a lot to take a step back and reevaluate what I did well and what I could've done better. Thank you for this video!
Awesome
You are beautiful. I wanna become student of you
@@sohailjatt6390 ew go away
i had a student
who give me challenge all the time and it sucks... as if he knows everything..
I'm a substitute teacher and struggle with this big time. I am often teaching young children, classes of 25-30 kids, no support, no EAs. The first grade class I had this week had several aggressive, violent kids. It was absolute chaos. I tried every trick in the bag. Nothing worked. Finally I put on a movie and that *kind of* helped. It's tough for us substitute teachers because we don't know the students as well or their routines.
As one of the 'bad kids' I can say that we usually doubt our Selth worth and don't think we are capable of being smart so we give up I wish that I would have a teacher like this who would encourage me instead of letting me know how bad I have become. If you have a student like me 'loud, distracted easily, doesn't pay attention' I can tell you now that they probably need someone to believe in them because they don't believe in themselves
Thank you for sharing that is great advice
I def noticed that some of the most difficult defiant kids I encountered had nothing in their lives to "build thier self esteem" Like not even sports. and I believe all those things can contribute to a low self esteem or self worth and that seemed to take a toll on their self esteem and therefore the way they behaved in general. even the somewhat difficult kids who had something like sports or something they could say they excelled in were a little easier to manage and I really do think it all boiled down to "self esteem" esp in boys,
I know it's hard, but you should make it a challenge for yourself to prove that you are a intelligent person worthy of respect. If you keep feeding the world excuses and negativity, that is what you'll get back. If someone pays you a compliment, do you believe them? Or do you tell yourself that they just want to manipulate you? Cut it out - accept the compliment. People who do this can come out of the worst circumstances to become successful and happy, stable adults.
I agree! Love is really important within the class. Students want to know you care for them before you try to discipline them. Thanks for sharing!
I’ve been a teacher for a long time and I wish I had this attitude in the beginning of my career. Thank you for your wonderful advice❤
I'm recently retired from corporate America and started my second career as a middle school teacher. I always wanted to be a teacher. I constantly heard "students are bad" but I had no idea they would be as disobedient and defiant as they are. It's only December and I'm the fourth teacher in this class. Obviously, teachers can't handle these students. I have four blocks and the first three of the day are out of control. It's not only my class, but several classes. You can hear teachers yelling all day long. Although I began the end of September, I am applying for new jobs. I will not stay beyond this year. The problems that my students have will not be resolved by stepping outside and giving compliments. Many of them have serious conditions and problems that must be treated medically or psychologically. I will not continue to subject myself to this magnitude of abuse and disrespect. The problems that I encounter will take years to resolve internally. Personally, I do not have that amount of time. As soon as I get a job offer, I'm out.
This is a sign of the failure of the family. I'd bet money that most of these kids are from single parent homes, living with grandparents and/or the adults in the home have drug/alcohol abuse. Kids don't have the structure and security they need at home to get them in a state of mind to learn in the first place. They take out their anger and angst on teachers all day every day. Teachers don't deserve that. Adults need to start making better choices, and parents need to partner with teachers to create a consistent line of consequences and rewards.
The student won’t go outside the classroom when I tell them too. Or go back to their seat. Haha. They try and pull the whole class to be involved. Ugh. Stressed out. It’s a rough neighborhood and I wonder where this kids will be in 5-10 years. 😬 Please make a video of the extreme cases.
Here I thought only I am facing such problems but I see many teachers r facing the same thing
2 days into my first year as a teacher and I'm dealing with this.
"Give me a detention, I don't care"
"I don't want to do this so I won't do it"
I'm getting crazy, please send help I'm teaching English to first graders 6-8 years old
Please please help. Very tough neighborhood and EXTREME classroom… losing hope here!
@@rodneedavis unfortunately none of these "experts" have any real advice for that kind of situation. I've been there. After 30 years, all i can say is try your best to communicate with parents, establish a good working relationship with admin and guidance, try to keep from getting you upset-especially during a class, keep classes active with warm-ups, exit tickets, find teachers that work well with those students and see what they can offer-some teachers will even address the issues with them or offer advice for strategies that have worked. be consistent. Be friendly, but unflappable.
Ahh! I adore you so much for this! I noticed how these methods were especially helpful to me when switching to k-5 to working with middle school students.. So glad we share the same opinions about showing the students that you genuinely care for them! The students really tend to want to work harder for you!
Awww yesss, Melissa! :) Thank you for watching~
I’ve been teaching 8 years and I still need to be better about talking to them one on one. Some of my students that I get onto all the time think that I hate them and come into the room hostile to start with. You’re 100% right about them showing out to try to see “cool” when in realty they look like jerks.
Hello, i'm 20 and working with 20-24 5th graders for 4 hours every day and idk how i'm going to handle the rest of the year. I'm in week 2 and the kids are good kids but when they're out of control i feel so overwhelmed and today i so badly wanted to just leave and cry but of course i put my strong face on and went through the whole day. Thank you for this video. Idk why i comment this whole thing, i just don't want to work there anymore and idk what to do
Hi Hellen! Aww I'm so sorry. Please let me know if you have any specific questions and I'll be more than happy to try to help you. Stay strong!
It´s great to make rules for them. Think about rules you want them to follow. Sit with them and talk about this rules and say that this rules are for them, you want them to feel great in clasroom. After that ask them which rules they want to add, so they can feel safe and happy in clasroom. Then ask children to write rules on big paper and put this rules to class where they can see them everyday. Ask them to choose punishment for breaking rules. It will be their choice. You need to follow rules and give punishment.
My opinion is, that child needs unconditionally love and clear rules :)
Good luck :)
I would also give them notebooks, where you will stick some stars/hearts/animals or give them note when you are satisfied with their behavior. It´s important not just to give punishment, but more important is to commend for good behavior. They will see you in more pleasant side. Good luck! :)
I'm a student, not a teacher, however I am a new prefect who is so short to the point that the underclassmen are taller than I am by a long shot. I am so intimidated when they refuse to listen and I don't know what to do :(
Sometimes though you ask them to step out of the room and they don't. Then what do you do? At that point the only thing that works is to communicate with the parents, which doesn't always work since sometimes the parents are worse than the kids - lol!
Maya, Great way to summarize how to care for unruly students! They are truly great students, just need someone to redirect them and care for them. I have been at an elementary school for year and a half now and the children today is unlike the students we grow up with. We must take care students with tender loving care and show that we are there to guide and support them on their daily activities whether they are difficult or not. Mainly, Social and Emotional children have tendency to separate them from group of students to make great choices therefore they want to become different and be an attention seeker that is why they act out.
Wow you are really involved with your work and made me feel like teaching is a vocation for you and not just a job. Kudos to you! Your positivity gave me such a positive vibe this morning especially that I had a negative day yesterday!
I'm currently studying to become a teacher and these tips are really helpful! I really have to work on my confidence before I'm ready to tackle a classroom and just getting tips like these makes me feel like I can do it.
Yes! You can definitely do it!
I used to say 'oh im not confident, i cant manage a whole class, how am i supposed to teach.. And stuff like that, but now im teaching and it's going well, when u r a teacher u automatically incarnate another personality and u become more confident bzcuz u have the control in ur hand and u have to mange students, who should respect you. So all of that comes naturally and each teacher has their own method.
I wish you goodluck in ur teaching career 😊
@Ava Khoshab definitely yes. You should receive respect in order to respect.
But u gotta know that unfortunately not all students show respect eventually even if the teacher is nice and super respectful. So in this case a teacher should set boundaries which is called behavior management so the teachers can do their work and students learn and participate in the best condistions.
I love how this explains why and that you shuld be patient and connect with them i was that kid in 7th grade to like 9th grade i was fucked up in class constantly eather high or not paying attention because i didn't care and the teacher's didn't care about me and didn't try and reach out and help me i was depressed and dysphoric and this is something that i think is the way you shuld handle this
I had a 4th grader who had practically NO FEAR of getting in trouble. He reminded me of a middle school 8th grader. Great advice, though.
Positive feedback, every single day
Show them that you remember things about them
Words of affirmation
Find ways to connect
Start at 2:41
What if you have 5 of these students in one class? How do you find time to connect with them and navigate your whole class?
Good question
I'm not a teacher yet, but my thinking is to still take notice of something positive you can say to each student. Like "John, good job staying focused". "Mary, I'm so proud of you completing this assignment." Find what works for each child, things that could help motivate them at different times throughout the day.
Taking them outside to speak with them might not be feasible, so while the rest of the class is working, call the misbehaving student up to your desk and calmly have a private chat. Or maybe right at the beginning of class when they first enter the room try and connect with them in some way before the behaviors even start. These are just my ideas.
Hoping others will chime in for more helpful ideas 😊
You don't. In my country, there are 40 plus students in each class and having one or two children like this is enough to mess up the whole thing. I personally will never give them the extra attention simply because there are others in the class who care about their study. I will not target any student in particular because that just makes things worse. I'll give them positive comments when I can, though. If they want to be the cool kid, or the funny kid in the class, so be it. My time, effort, and dedication is better spent with others who are serious about what they want to do.
You make time outside of the class time maybe during your planning period. Some teachers use to visit homes, but of course, CV19 has changed that. Set a Zoom call especially for them. Talk to them during their lunch hour. Have casual and genuine interactions with them that are aside from the corrections. Compliment them on their shoes, hair, creativity, etc. Find a way to connect. Hope this helps.
Thanks for the coupon and the tips. Honestly one of my fears to try teaching is the control of the classroom.
2:41 when the video actually starts.
Thank you!!!!! Nothing is more irritating than advertising
Antoinette Varela so you’re mad that she’s trying to make more money teachers make hardly any money so they resort to UA-cam to make some extra money for the classroom she needs a people to help sponsor so she make more money
Thank you
my kids just dont seem to care about anything. half do and really want to learn and get frustrated with the others, the other half dont care. praise doesnt mean much, telling them i need them to do better doesnt mean much, i am a new elementary art teacher and i have no idea how to establish respect so these things do actually matter and i can be positive.
This women really put in the effort for something that us kids don't give two f's about.
Defiant kids get helped way too much bruh i swear. Like what about the good student's that need help? Its just ridiculous how they get babied and carried around. They get compliments and get praised for doing a sinple task but a good student gets yelled at and they never get compliments or praises. Yall teachers need to treat everyone fairly and yall need to be more disciplined. And who cares if the student is embarrassed if you call them out in class .... they didnt care when you were talking ...
Hi Maya, thanks so much for this video! I use some of these methods for students who have some behavioral issues and need discipline and coaching. I always complement kids for good behavior and set expectations for every class, and it works beautifully in all classes besides the older fifth grade. Today for example, in fifth grade music class, I wanted to teach them how to play instruments, as a music teacher, and they were just all over the place. They refused to do anything in class, and when I gave them instruments to play, telling them "you are here to learn how to create beats in order to become great musicians that I know that you can be", they tossed the instruments back at me and bombarded me with insults such as "I don't want to do music bro". And I told them that "music is fun and there are so many things you can do with instruments that you couldn't imagine but you need to follow certain school expectations and one of them is to not call your teachers names". So then they started to bombard with with "bro" and were talking about "Barak Obama" and making squicky sounds that were extremely inappropriate. I asked them "what's the matter", they told me "we just don't want to do music". So I asked them "then what do you like", and they said "dance", but I said "I can teach you a lot of body movements that can help you with music and dance at the same time but you need to follow the rules because if you don't, there will be consequences for your actions". I told them "now you guys are being very disrespecful and we need to go over the rules so that you improve you behavior and learn how to better yourselves in class". I even modelled it from the two good students who were doing the right thing. But the other five kids didn't give two cents about music and said, "no we won't write the rules down because it's stupid, it's boring, if the other two boys are doing the right thing, we don't care". I later complemented the kids who did but it took me half an hour for them to just take out a piece of paper and start writing the rules down, but I won't give up on them. Please tell me what do you think I can do to have a good class with the kids who are extremely disrespecful and want to play on their IPads all day and don't want to do their work? And if I assign them anything, they call me "bro" after each sentence even when I explain to them that that's inappropriate. Thanks.
You know it's easier to love the lovable but hard to love the unlovable, what's your true nature.
I know this was two years ago and likely won’t apply to your situation now, but I do want to point out that kids who disrespect you and refuse to do as they’re told because “it’s stupid” and “they don’t want to” fundamentally disagree with the notion that you should have more authority than they do. This is why they call you “bro,” to put you on equal footing with them. This frustrates you because you’re their teacher not their friend, but i think this provides insight into how they see you. You haven’t earned the respect you demand from them yet. And when you interpret “bro” as an insult, you affirm in their minds that you don’t deserve it. At the end of the day, you are the adult and the teacher, and that perception of yourself should remain steadfast whether they call you “miss/sir” or “bro” or your first name. They’re trying to get a rise out of you. You reveal insecurity in your authority by letting it get to you and that tells them that you’re not a worthy authority figure, tori just another “bro.” You’re trying to lay down the law without really putting yourself in their shoes. All kids have to go to school, and even “good” kids hate the experience. They’re told what to do, when all the time, and they feel overly micromanaged with things like having to write down rules that don’t mean anything to them. Most people like music, but not everyone likes playing it, and a lot of the time this is linked to skill level, especially in an environment with other people observing their efforts. Music is gonna be one kid’s favorite class and another’s least favourite and that’s okay. I would start by acknowledging this, and praising the very basic acts of coming to school, coming to class, choosing an instrument and then try and break down the expectations of what “good” music sounds like that way they’re free to explore it without worrying about if they’re good at it. I would get them to try and play a song they like using their chosen instrument. And most importantly, pick your battles. Don’t acknowledge it if the song they play is rude or explicit. Respond to however they feel comfortable calling you. When they do start to address you appropriately, you can begin to praise them for it. Eventually, when you’re past the point of calling you the wrong thing, just state lightly that that’s not your name so you won’t respond to it, and then call them the wrong name every time they do, so you’re put back on equal footing. They’ll find it funny at first but then they’ll either cave in, or they’ll continue doing it and it will be an inside joke between you that doesn’t actually harbour any disrespect. Don’t scold or punish them or calling you the wrong thing. Because all that tells them is they called you the right thing.
There are two annoying students at my class, they aren't annoying all the time but sometimes they start saying words and try to be funny and they disturb the class, i tried to be calm with them, but today they got on my nerves and i got mad at them, even tho i didn't shout but i became mean and i hate that becuz when i get mad i cant focus on the lesson. But still thank you for ur tips.
I’d have the whole class in and out of the classroom the whole time and no teaching or learning would ever take place.
But I hear ya
Lol the grocery haul threw me off, but otherwise this was a great video that really got to the point! Thank you!!! I will check out more of your kid/teaching videos (:
I agree. The first 2.5 minutes was advertisements. Strange. still, the rest was helpful.
Such great and priceless advices! Thank you very much. I'm a preschool teacher, my children are 4 and 5. My problem is not the classroom itself but it's one particular child who does his very best to distract others, interrupt me through bad behaviour, very stubborn...this breaks the learning process, affects my credibility to the rest of the classroom...I'm frustrated, tried EVERYTHING, talking calmly, shouting, praising him when behaving good for 30 seconds, talkedto his mother, divorced ,who is more disoriented and unstable than he is which explains a lot! .Now I feel losing control over my whole classroom. Definitely don't want this to happen. What should I do?
2:00 is when she actually starts to talk about them.
Sadly this kind of behavior is everywhere. Think twice before you get into teaching and think you want to spend all day everyday with misbehaving children. If you don’t have that bubbly do-good attitude, it will be even harder. There are too many outside factors that will always undermine your efforts…terrible music, terrible athletes, social media, bad politics, bad parenting, etc. Been at it for 20 years and the stress is real. There’s a teacher shortage all over for a reason.
this is the teacher I want
You always make tough topics fun to learn!
Yes... become their safe person. Never humiliate a student.
Love this- so helpful! One suggestion though- a quick intro and an immediate answer to the topic would be really great for those of us who are on the go!
I like the strategy to find a complement to give
Every day
Arhhhhggg, where have you been all this year, thanks a lot for sharing...much helpful
Good tips Maya! Yes I am a formal ELT. Finding topics or subjects of their personal interest will inspire them to learn all together, if the topic and subject of interest is shared by all. At teenage years there's a good chance they agree on many issues and topics.
And you're so pretty.. :)
2.39 starts
Thank you for the video, it seems like really good advice! I am student teaching right now, I asked a student to please step outside and he refused 😕 he did not stay after class either. Does anyone have advice for this type of situations?
I greet my students at the door with a high five or just a hi. :) For your situation, I would just ask to speak with him, not in front of the class, and let him know you want to talk because you care, not because you want to get them in trouble. It's tough, I know. I'm at a new school and I'm trying to connect with them but they seem like built a wall. :/ Now you said he refused stepping outside? That's defiance and I'm not sure if your school has a system of writing up a student?
There need to be consequences for defiant
Using this cause I’m an assistant teacher at church. Some of them are hard to deal with. 😫
Watching this to know how to deal with teachers who can handle defiant students
+Maya Lee
You've pretty much said my thoughts based on what to do at least based on my experiences when I was an autistic student in school .
Back in my times when My Teachers in elementary school would send me out in the hall it was almost NEVER without a paddle
to hit me 3 times with . I wish you were My Teacher when I was in elementary school because you know how to de escalate students
and not escalate students the way that My Teachers escalated me and had to learn the hard way how to not escalate me .
Keep it up sweetheart .
- Dwight
I think nowadays we need smaller classes with at least 7 to 8 students each. 1 teacher for 15 or more with pretty much behavior issues is too much. We don't go anywhere with that amount of problems in one classroom
step outside and talk? the class will erupt in talk and throwing things
Frankie X I do this all the time and it works beautifully, if your class does this maybe you should look into watching more videos
So helpful! Thanks a bunch ❤
I loved this video and will use the tips she shared!
Bro ima just sit there I ain’t gonna do anything if you yell at me 💀
This is a great video on building relationships bit doesn't actually follow the title. I had 4 fidthgraders who were defiant and fed off of each other and I had no backup for a while. Other than separating them, how do I actually deal? They began talking over me when I tried to co duct class. They harassed any student that tried to follow my instructions.
Hi Maya. I'm new to your this type of forum. I do have two questions. I had the experience of calling a student to my desk, when I subbed, and all the other kids knew he was in trouble, so they all "Ooooh"d. With the thought of not wanting to embarrass that student, how would you have handled the other student's verbal comment? BTW, he seemed to enjoy the attention and swaggered over to my desk. My second question is, when a defiant student continues to be disruptive (which he was) and after one has all ready spoken privately to this child, what does one do (what would you have done)? Thanks.
IMHO, there is no easy solution to difficult students. Very often they are set on they're ways. Talk to principle and school special ed teacher
Ignore the behavior and continue to teach. I am not a fan of sending them out. Sometimes getting out of the classroom is exactly what they want.
No. You need to be addressing these super bad annoying students that simply have zero respect no matter what you do or say. This performance is lacking to how bad the situations truly are.
Great info! The commercial/sponsor part of the video ends at the 2 minute mark for those who want to get to the goods.
I wish my science teacher would be this kind because I have autism and when I get overwhelmed I get frustrated and can't help with labs or do assignments and I really don't want to get again
I haven't been able to get students in the hall to address behavior due to the room set up and door type (No window and will not stay cracked open). I'm at a new school this year and will try one on one discussion. I started in the end of September and the previous orchestra teacher was established. I know they miss her but how would you address this while showing that you want to care? It is a middle school and there are other issues but right now it is a serious trust issue. Out of 5 classes, only one really has a problem. Any tips would be greatly appreciated.
This is really helpful! Thank you!
You remind me of my friend who is a kindergarten teacher. I bet you two would be friends
I feel perhaps u take younger classes ??
thanks for the vid, but are you basing your experience off of high school students? I'm a beginning high school teacher, and I am definitely having a hard time with some of my students atm!
If you ask a 1st grade student to step outside the classroom to talk to- how would you prevent him or her from leaving the building plus the teacher is responsible to maintain supervision of class
I already do all of this Masha'Allah but I do try to connect with the student and talk to them on the side. Ok the last one is good to not call them out in front of everyone. But I do say I believe in you and that you are better than you are so act like the real good boy you are.
Any tips for mixed ability classes for secondary (high school)? Particularly at the end of the term / school year?
Maya plz do a vedio about a full day in kindergarten classroom
Awww I can try to ask my coworker. Since I teach 5th, I spend most of my days with older kids!
Great class management advice! Weird processed imitation foods. Thanks!
Ms.Maya, this was an amazing video! You are such a great role model! I’m a new subscriber!!
Aww thank you Jianna!
No problem!
I have to sadly admit that this video will not answer your questions but you can buy some milk instead. If you are here you really nead advise. Well talk to your colleagues and see how they are facing this attitude. The soft advise about positive approach doesn't work on systematic bad behavior. The video is full of positive vibes but as I sad it just confirms your first step, but doesn't solve nothing. Thats why my dear friends we have to read books, eventually big books written by German, Russian and English philosophers. Good try anyway.
Thank you so much for the tips, I guess I handled disruptive student disruptive behavior badly 😔.
Can you send me tips also
Awesome! Very helpful to add to my tips for teachers.
I’ve been teaching for 5 years I totally agree
Thank you so much!
Buy the student "Milk and Eggs" got it! Thanks!
Your such a good sweet teacher!
Who else watched this to see if there teacher does this to them
Iam a teacher بحول الله و قوته
{وَمَا ذَ ٰلِكَ عَلَى ٱللَّهِ بِعَزِیزࣲ }☝🏻💜✉️
- Giving compliments :great job following directions.
- Show them I care, remember.
- Give feedback, you are expected to do that (you are great kid).. Finding connection point.
- Not to call them out infront of everybody
- need attention,.and give it the right attention.
- iam here if you need anyone to talk to you , you can trust me.
Good advice! I think I'm going to try the step outside idea. Thanks Maya :)
Hi my name is asif and I'm a private tutuor.. I have a student who hates maths and bangla subject and he doesn't want to listen to me or not interested doing his homework regularly.. he is in class one & he is so stubborn.. though I taught him with love gesture and politeness connectiing with the kid but. he don't listen me he only wants to roam.. watch tv. eats and sleep so what should I do mam.. should I be strict to him.. coz his family wants that.. plz do reply mam... 😞😞😞
You need to have a conference with the parents to discuss ways that they discipline their son in order to get him to do things. If they have certain methods then ask if you can use them while you are tutoring him. You basically need to know what he likes and what he doesn't like.
You also need to make your expectations clear with the student and the parents and keep it consistent. If the student is not meeting your expectations then make note of it and provide the information to the parents. At this point, it is the parents' responsibility to discipline the child. You are the tutor. Your job should not be to focus on behavior management.
So I have a question! I am a recently hired group leader for an after school care program and you mentioned as your last tip to not to try and call the student out in front of the whole class because it my cause embarrassment. Could you just elaborate on that a little more? Because I’m looking back and I do realize that I do call out kids who have been naughty if they’re talking too loud or if they’re not sitting like they’re supposed to. Are these examples deemed “acceptable” when it comes to that? I’m not sure 😕 help! Btw love your vids! Keep it up
Do your tips apply to Elementary school students or KG? Im trying to consider age-groups
I will correct the behavior with milk and eggs. Smdh
Very wise teacher 👏🏽
are there any videos that separates primary school and secondary school context? If we see it as development or progression, lots of strategies should not be jumbled up together no matter what the theory says. I see lots of primary school examples, but not enough secondary to high school context. I think lots of comments have stated they are well struggling with more extreme situations.
What do groceries have to do with teaching? 🤦♀️😂
I thought that was extra too.
Hi Maya, I hear what you are saying. But, I am still struggling with this. I have done the nice way like you are talking about and it isn't working. One boy cries and whines and moans when I tel him to try again .. cause he ran in the classroom. I lose my patience after being kind and not being respected. So I hear you but it hasn't nipped the challenges. I am having. Can you help more/
My kids have plaque psoriasis on their irises
I tried to cure it with papyruses
I always step up, like a pair of Osirises
Survivin even in the lions' dens
I needed this and will.need more advice
I think I have a crush on this teacher!
That doesn't work with risk kids. You have to be firm with those.
You are 10000% right.
But reading some of the comments, they disagree with you because teaching is a spiritual vocation, not a profession.
Do you make them stand up in the corner?
literally no teacher care at my school so yeah
maybe you have an attitude problem :D and youre an asshole student that is spoilt by parents
Am I the only student watching this 😂
Amaresh reigns no 😂