I love the block button. Men only understand and accept action/behaviour. As soon as he told me he does not want a relationship, i accepted it gracefully and blocked him to start no-contact. Do not give them any access to you when they play with you. Women are also being too nice by allowing men who used and played them to still disturb their peace and block their blessings by staying in touch. Block them! Out of sight, out of mind.
During my dating phase , I already had it in my mind that I was not going to be a girlfriend for a long time. I was actually quite uncomfortable with the idea. When a man knows , he knows. I just showed up as my best, feminine, authentic self and we were engaged in 3 months. NOt once did I mention that I didnt want to be a girlfriend for a long time. The moment he proposed the idea that we move in together, I told I would be more comfartable if we were engaged insted of shacking up. He ask me to be his wife around a month later. That was almost a year ago and I regret nothing. Energy is everything. You cannot change the physical without changing the mental
During my dating phase, I’d tell guys I expected to be married, with a house, and trying for kids all within 2 years. It always scared away the ones who weren’t serious lol. My husband and I were engaged in 7 months.
@@feliciasjourney 🤷♂️ I waited 3 years before getting married and witnessed a completely different person emerge. I’m just saying it’s stupid to take that risk, divorce rate is over 50% and the majority of that risk falls on the man.
@@feliciasjourney I agree not everyone is the same, but when the majority of marriages end in divorce…. And there is literally no advantage for a man to be married, why shouldn’t he take his time looking for red flags? To say otherwise is just outright foolish.
98.3691%? 😂 Seriously though ladies, if they aren't family (and even then..) or your fiance/husband they are a NOBODY to you!! Trust, if you were somebody to him, he would put a ring on it. He wouldn't let you down. You wouldn't be confused or unsure. Treat these males accordingly. 💅🏾
My parents taught me to not be a girlfriend before Marriage lol its just moving to the US during teenage years, and seeing what everyone else celebrated (being a pickmisha independent strong woman who goes 50/50 and gives wife treatment to boyfriends) that I became like this. Sometimes the societal programming and movies and music and the environment around u impacts ur believes more than ur parents
So true. Those of us that come from Asian and Arab cultures are very traditional but growing up in America can program you backwards and against yourself. Dating is a new invention within the past few decades. It was courting and marriage only before.
Yes we have dropped our standards as women. We cook, clean, and give free sex to men who we aren’t married to. As ladies, we must do better and take responsibility as much as possible. Men will do what we allow. Even if a man does a nice gesture for me, I don’t owe him anything because it’s his job to be kind and respectful to a lady.
@@maryamdiao1509 the women that do end up marrying their long term boyfriends after 10,15 years were actually his last choice . He couldn’t find his dream woman so he just settled for the long term girlfriend
I only wish I got this advice as a young woman. I wasted my youth partying and then settling with a man who would not provide. I had a baby with him and was the breadwinner for us all. It aged me fast! That’s what happens when you go against your feminine innate wisdom! I was never taught these things before. I appreciate hearing and learning these things now. You did well trophy wife!! Congrats on 5k subs!!🎉❤
If me and my female friends can struggle while earning college degrees and now can pay our rent than men should level up! End of story there is no excuse for a man to be broke unless he is so unhealthy! Im sick of men talking about building and having excuses to broke! I worked 3 jobs once!
Ladies, you don’t have to prove that you’re “wife material”. Remember you bring nothing to the table, the man has to prove himself to you because you’re the wife
What kind of advice is this..?? SERIOUSLY?? The man does not need to “prove” himself to a woman to be worthy of her. That type of mentality only speaks to the toxicity of the woman bc that is absolutely, extremely SO TOXIC. So is the statement that a woman brings nothing to the table. You’re joking, right…?? 🤔 I’m not sure what this chicks YT channel is about yet because I’m only 2 mins into this video bc I was curious about the advice/content. What I’ve heard so far from the creator is true- giving all of yourself to a man you’re not married to is not the best idea. But THIS advice I’m reading here is just a terrible way of thinking and being. 💯
If you don't bring anything to the table and don't have to prove anything, then he might as well marry a rock...and he gets to keep all his money and sanity 👍
@alexialira3839 High value men don't want a woman who has nothing to offer. I think women should bring something to the table. I seen prositutues and women who don't work expect a high value men 😅
@desireereincke7109 do u think women should bring something to the table? I knew women who were on drugs doing illegal things years past them up they didn't change and never got married. Women still have to level up to get a high value man
10 years is usually the mark for long term relationships to end. Not learning these things would have you be a proud girlfriend! I know I’ve done it and know others currently in the same boat. Congrats to the women who’ve leveled up!!
It’s the title for me being in a imaginary relationship I just broke free from I allowed that now I’m learning from that. I love the hey trophies 🏆 energy god bless queen. I needed to hear this.
Woman must learn to say no and stop coddling men and being desperate ❤ it’s not even about playing games or the chase respect ur energy and have standards only kings are worthy of submission
I would much rather date when I’m older and I’m working on my healing cause before I would be too available with my time and doing whatever I can to leave my home and be loved. My advice to woman is don’t put men on a pedestal. No 50/50 no doing wife stuff without a ring and special treatment and don’t put up with abuse. Men should love cherish and spoil you and be a good investment otherwise no sex and babies for him lol 😂 always make sure your getting benefits as a woman ❤
Great topic. A lot of guys ruined women by trying to sleep with them with no interest in marriage. Some of them even lie to women and tell them oh if you do this I’ll like you more or be in a relationship but it’s a lie. Men try to use women’s bodies for the least amount of money. Then they pick wives outside of those bunches.
Omg I could listen to these talks all day lol. I can’t believe it but I’m doing all of these things already! So I will definitely need to change that asap! Omg thank you so much for this content! And congrats on 5k subs! I love being a part of your group! 🤗💕
hi! i am almost 20 and i like your advice, but obviously i would not expect a guy in my age or a little bit older to propose. I do not want to marry before 25 as well haha But could you advice me how to make myself value as a girlfriend? How long to wait with sleeping with a guy? I have lost my virginity with a guy who dumped me and treated me with no respect after that so im a little bit traumatized to trust a guy again.
If you want to enjoy your youth, that’s your decision babe ❤️ but what I would say is make a man invest in you if you are wanting to have sex without engagement or marriage… he will be less likely to ghost you if he had to work for it. Men always follow their investment. And definitely use protection so you don’t limit your options by having children before marriage😘
You should be friends with guys get to know them. But you don’t have to date them to get to know them. If a guy is doing nice things for you, just tell him your life plan. He might propose without you having to waste a lot of effort and time dating and putting yourself at risk sexually.
I absolutely love to cook and as a couples activity me and my partner cook together. He of course buys the ingredients and also that week’s groceries. Is that alright? Since we are cooking together, i think i am not giving him wife benefits.
My new virtual sister 👑 I have the exact mindset when it comes to this topic. My type is a leader and one who is self-controlled! 💁🏾♀️also I don’t believe in giving too many people access.
I am a black man and I am on youtube frequently; I have never in my over a decade of being on youtube commented on a video. This is my first. Ladies, this woman is giving horrible advice. Look how she gives the end goal; however, she does not talk about the STEPS that are required to get there. No stepwise progression. No man, if he has no exclusivity, in his right mind would continually court a woman who is entertaining multiple options (or even a woman who is not willing to take herself off the market unless becoming single). It's not logical. For example, if I were talking to a woman and she told me she was entertaining or dating multiple men (or even just talking to them), it would be in my best interest (if this woman were not willing to become exclusive unless marriage first) to NOT invest in this woman. Only THEN should I look to seek the most while offering the least. Look at this from a logical perspective...Why would someone continually invest in something that he cannot get exclusivity from'? How would you even get to the point of offering this woman a ring? There are steps that are required to get there..as with anything in life. She looks at all the Upside for women, but ignores the risks and downside for men. NO man is just going to pop up with a ring and say hey will you marry me if he has not seen how you conduct yourself in an exclusive manner. Her advice actually does the opposite; it keeps women single. Her premise also assumes (negatively and incrrectly) that men are just always willing to take advantage of women; and therefore, women should take this course of action. Now, you should put a TIMELINE on when the relationship should move to marriage. But to say you will not be a girlfriend is just not practical. Most men know from a calculated risk standpoint there comes a time we have to cut our losses and move on. She has this notion that women are some type of prize and men should just put out and women should give the very least. If she truly believes this then she is delusional. If she doesn't then she is just telling women want they want to hear for likes and views. I urge more women to not onlylook at things from their perspective, but look at it from the man's point of view as well. Women seem to somtimes give women bad advice and it keeps them single. And the sobering thing that a lot of women will realize is that when you are old and options aren't really there anymore, no one is going to care but YOU. The world will go on. YOU have to live with your mistakes and choices.
Very well put. 🙏 I lean conservative, but this is just very bad advice that will make you stay single forever, in a toxic relationship (those who move quickly usually suffer from some mental illness or trauma) or with a spineless simp you have no respect for. There's absolutely no way I'd let my brother or a son if I had one get near a woman who thinks like this.
You’re a man spending most of your time on UA-cam on a sector of UA-cam specifically for woman. You should be working. You have too much free time. The women watching these videos do not desire men like you. Respectfully
Hush 🤫. From what we are readily seeing, the vast majority of women who stay single are the ones who blow their lives away on long-term premarital relationships. The only time a woman is obligated to take herself off the market is when she’s been proposed to 💍 and has accepted that proposal. You date a woman simply to evaluate her for marriage, not to get her off the market so you don’t have to compete with other potential suitors. I was openly dating different men (no sex involved) for a whole year for the purpose of meeting my future husband and then I met my husband. We were engaged in a month and married 13 months after that. After our first date, I immediately took myself off the market because he was tall, handsome, generous, and told me he believed I was the one for him. We will be celebrating our 9th wedding anniversary next May. We have two daughters and a son due in February. No he did not require me to first take myself off the market and be his GF so he can give me a test drive. He found me attractive and compatible enough on our first encounter to know that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me. He took himself off the market. This is what every woman who is genuinely marriage minded deserves. As spouses, we learned everything we needed to about each other through trial and error and simply as life unfolded. I will never encourage or support my daughters being long-term girlfriends.
A man will move mountains to be w the woman he wants for a wife. Until a guy is moving mountains to be with you and take you off the market and quickly marry you, stay single. I understand your points but if a man is truly inspired by and in awe of a woman’s Presence, he will do whatever it takes to be w you, unlike most men who are casually dating/in search of long term GFs.
I thought I'd chime in from a guys perspective. I own a small business, I work out, and dress nice etc. So I have options. I strongly disagree with her advice from a guys perspective because the current divorce rate is about 50%. The other half of marriages that DO stay together only about half of them are happy. That communicates to us men, wise enough to carefully study the statistics, that marriage has about a 75% failure rate. If I told you there was 75% chance you might get shot if you walked out your front door you would put on a bullet proof vest at the very least. As a guy with options I view women who try to rush me into marriage as dangerous, niave, negligent, and don't seem to care about my well being. Now a woman who has studied the divorce statistics and understands there needs to be a trial period (about 2 years seems reasonable) feels like marriage material to me. I understand if a woman wants to walk away if a man drags his feet but don't get frustrated at successful men who protect themselves and has options. We can't protect our woman or family if we don't even know how to protect ourselves.
Thank you for eloquently and respectfully stating your difference in opinion. I am someone that can see things from both perspectives, and want to clarify some of the points you have brought up. What I am saying in this video, is for women to hold themselves to a higher regard rather than becoming exclusive, giving sex, and marriage benefits to a man whom has not shown their intentions for wanting marriage. If you prefer to settle for a long engagement then that is your prerogative, however, too many woman are giving themselves to men who don’t truly deserve the level of effort and energy in which women are investing. You can date a woman for as long as you’d like but this shouldn’t come with sex if you haven’t secured her with a proposal. I do understand that the lack of quality women (and men) out there has caused both men and women to become skeptical of entering relationships…which is completely understandable. My hope for this channel is to create more marriage-worthy, biblically-aligned, faith and family centered women. And I hope and pray that you are blessed enough to receive one 🙏🏽
If you really had options, you would not try to change her mind. Statistics is NOT JUST NUMBERS. It is a science that includes math. IT also includes data that allowed them to create those numbers. Read the stories and then come back. My brothers are all high value and they wouldn't dream of trying to change a women's mind. They get in where they fit in.
@@thenewtrophywife A very classy response from a classy lady. I absolutely see why your married. I think you advice is sound advice for women in general and you handle yourself with grace. I still hold firm on my opinions but thats what creates such interesting chemistry between men and women. We are different with different goals and values and that tension is what makes relationships engaging. I will follow yout channel because interesting to hear a woman's perspective.
@@RAJOHN-ke7mc I was not trying to change her mind. She is allowed to hold her own beliefs and values and I honor those. I happen to have different beliefs and values that better protect me in my opinion. She is a classy lady and I'm a driven man. Of course we will have different values and opinions on life and what works best for us as individuals. You don't have to agree with someone to respect or like them. I do believe you mistook my own opinions as an attack on her which couldn't be further from the truth.
A lot of people reference the divorce rate stat BUT it’s different depending on class. Middle and upper class marriages have a very low divorce rate. I’m a researcher and know a lot of about stats! People like to quote a small poll of statistics that don’t address the bigger picture
Yes, only the truth! How we communicate in a good way, we are not okay with being a gf? Just say no and we look for marriage? Somehow I already repelled someone by that.
Queen a person will emotionally invest into buying a ring come back and forth every night tell you it’s their home when a person know damn well they still being cheated on don’t let nobody brainwash you with no ring. If a person wants to marry you within a year two tops with no ring no family members present a person will just gone to the city hall and marry you. Simple it’s these im learning from.
“He better prove he can pay for me my life style, my kids, my hobbies. And he needs to out do every other man and treat me perfect and give me a ring, before I DO ANYTHING to show him I’d be a good wife” Lmao great advice, to all the single ladies
that will die alone and never have memories of any romance fun or good sex lol Why listen to a dumb person?? why? listen to a woman with grey hair that has done it the way you want to do it
I have a question 🙋🏿♀️, If you just got out of a toxic relationship, should you start dating again or don’t date and stay single for a couple of years?
I did my inner work & completely rebranded over the last 3 years. I am 30 years old & have a 10 old with my son’s father who I know doesn’t deserve me but I was young & had zero boundaries. I feel so guilty about leaving (because my son😔) but I also know what I can receive.
You're very beautiful.... Now my qstion:"how do you avoid being a girl friend?.....sound kind of hard these days, even getting to girlfriend sound hard nowadays...
The divorce rate is already increasing. Marrying a woman without dating her first would be a foolish mistake for men 😂 You’re also saying if a man dates you for 2 years he doesn’t really want to marry you, who told you this? I will agree sex won’t get you married and it’s a smarter idea for women to withhold their body but a lot of women only have sex to give so it ends up bad for them.
@@thenewtrophywife Woman set the requirements for entry to the vagina. Men control relationships and marriage and it’s gone be like that forever, unless woman want to start providing and proposing to men.
Whatever any single man’s standards are for marriage are is beside the point. All that should matter to a woman is if he has determined that she meets those standards and whether he is ready to commit to her. A woman should not have to give you her undivided attention and time until you determine that she’s up to your standards for marriage. There’s another man who may easily determine that she does right away and he will propose very early on and give her the life she wants. Stop quoting Kevin Samuels. You can have standards, but a woman can also walk away and exercise her options elsewhere.
I love the block button. Men only understand and accept action/behaviour. As soon as he told me he does not want a relationship, i accepted it gracefully and blocked him to start no-contact. Do not give them any access to you when they play with you. Women are also being too nice by allowing men who used and played them to still disturb their peace and block their blessings by staying in touch. Block them! Out of sight, out of mind.
Yesss! Love that you know how to protect your energy 🏆❤️
During my dating phase , I already had it in my mind that I was not going to be a girlfriend for a long time. I was actually quite uncomfortable with the idea. When a man knows , he knows. I just showed up as my best, feminine, authentic self and we were engaged in 3 months. NOt once did I mention that I didnt want to be a girlfriend for a long time. The moment he proposed the idea that we move in together, I told I would be more comfartable if we were engaged insted of shacking up. He ask me to be his wife around a month later. That was almost a year ago and I regret nothing. Energy is everything. You cannot change the physical without changing the mental
Trophy Energy 🏆🥂👑
Thank you for sharing your story. How did you meet?
Wow girl🎉
During my dating phase, I’d tell guys I expected to be married, with a house, and trying for kids all within 2 years. It always scared away the ones who weren’t serious lol. My husband and I were engaged in 7 months.
Engaged in 7 months is idiotic.
@@Dansyoung We’ve been together 10 years… 2 kids, house almost paid off, cars paid off, running businesses… we’re good over here love 💕
@@feliciasjourney 🤷♂️ I waited 3 years before getting married and witnessed a completely different person emerge. I’m just saying it’s stupid to take that risk, divorce rate is over 50% and the majority of that risk falls on the man.
@@Dansyoung I’m sorry you experienced that, but not everyone is the same.
@@feliciasjourney I agree not everyone is the same, but when the majority of marriages end in divorce…. And there is literally no advantage for a man to be married, why shouldn’t he take his time looking for red flags? To say otherwise is just outright foolish.
Totally agree. Why take yourself off the market without true commitment
98.3691%? 😂
Seriously though ladies, if they aren't family (and even then..) or your fiance/husband they are a NOBODY to you!! Trust, if you were somebody to him, he would put a ring on it. He wouldn't let you down. You wouldn't be confused or unsure. Treat these males accordingly. 💅🏾
Uhhh
That was the only time I was ever ghosted when I actually….. yeah women don’t wanna understand men?😔
Sprinkle sprinkle 😂
My parents taught me to not be a girlfriend before Marriage lol its just moving to the US during teenage years, and seeing what everyone else celebrated (being a pickmisha independent strong woman who goes 50/50 and gives wife treatment to boyfriends) that I became like this. Sometimes the societal programming and movies and music and the environment around u impacts ur believes more than ur parents
So true. Those of us that come from Asian and Arab cultures are very traditional but growing up in America can program you backwards and against yourself. Dating is a new invention within the past few decades. It was courting and marriage only before.
Yes we have dropped our standards as women. We cook, clean, and give free sex to men who we aren’t married to. As ladies, we must do better and take responsibility as much as possible. Men will do what we allow. Even if a man does a nice gesture for me, I don’t owe him anything because it’s his job to be kind and respectful to a lady.
@@Queen-ConsciousYa 👏👏👏
Would you say the proper way is dating - courtship - marriage?
Single until legal marriage papers are signed and dried, everything else is just a long term fling
Waste of time and energy. Giving away free valuable feminine energy for free❌no Thankyou.
Yup your single till your married ladies. If ur dating for years your his option 💯💯💯
@@maryamdiao1509 the women that do end up marrying their long term boyfriends after 10,15 years were actually his last choice . He couldn’t find his dream woman so he just settled for the long term girlfriend
I only wish I got this advice as a young woman. I wasted my youth partying and then settling with a man who would not provide. I had a baby with him and was the breadwinner for us all. It aged me fast! That’s what happens when you go against your feminine innate wisdom! I was never taught these things before. I appreciate hearing and learning these things now. You did well trophy wife!! Congrats on 5k subs!!🎉❤
If me and my female friends can struggle while earning college degrees and now can pay our rent than men should level up! End of story there is no excuse for a man to be broke unless he is so unhealthy! Im sick of men talking about building and having excuses to broke! I worked 3 jobs once!
Ladies, you don’t have to prove that you’re “wife material”. Remember you bring nothing to the table, the man has to prove himself to you because you’re the wife
What kind of advice is this..?? SERIOUSLY?? The man does not need to “prove” himself to a woman to be worthy of her. That type of mentality only speaks to the toxicity of the woman bc that is absolutely, extremely SO TOXIC. So is the statement that a woman brings nothing to the table. You’re joking, right…?? 🤔
I’m not sure what this chicks YT channel is about yet because I’m only 2 mins into this video bc I was curious about the advice/content. What I’ve heard so far from the creator is true- giving all of yourself to a man you’re not married to is not the best idea. But THIS advice I’m reading here is just a terrible way of thinking and being. 💯
😂😂😂 say this to a man and watch how fast he leaves
If you don't bring anything to the table and don't have to prove anything, then he might as well marry a rock...and he gets to keep all his money and sanity 👍
@alexialira3839 High value men don't want a woman who has nothing to offer. I think women should bring something to the table. I seen prositutues and women who don't work expect a high value men 😅
@desireereincke7109 do u think women should bring something to the table? I knew women who were on drugs doing illegal things years past them up they didn't change and never got married. Women still have to level up to get a high value man
wasted 10 years on one guy
You’re not wasting anymore time🙏🏾
Shine ✨🌹
Love on yourself Queen! 👑💗
10 years is usually the mark for long term relationships to end. Not learning these things would have you be a proud girlfriend! I know I’ve done it and know others currently in the same boat. Congrats to the women who’ve leveled up!!
I hope this goes viral.
Me too! 🥰😘
Needed to hear this re-enforcement! Thank you sis!
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Girlfriend's are rarely wifes. Dont be fooled ..
Listen to this and watch her videos. Wake up ladies!!!❤🙏🏾🙌🏾👍🏽💞
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“Dating” ruined women
It’s the title for me being in a imaginary relationship I just broke free from I allowed that now I’m learning from that. I love the hey trophies 🏆 energy god bless queen. I needed to hear this.
Can you do some make-up tutorials? Your make-up application looks great.
Woman must learn to say no and stop coddling men and being desperate ❤ it’s not even about playing games or the chase respect ur energy and have standards only kings are worthy of submission
I would much rather date when I’m older and I’m working on my healing cause before I would be too available with my time and doing whatever I can to leave my home and be loved. My advice to woman is don’t put men on a pedestal. No 50/50 no doing wife stuff without a ring and special treatment and don’t put up with abuse. Men should love cherish and spoil you and be a good investment otherwise no sex and babies for him lol 😂 always make sure your getting benefits as a woman ❤
I hope there was this kind of contents when I was in my early 20ties
Great topic. A lot of guys ruined women by trying to sleep with them with no interest in marriage. Some of them even lie to women and tell them oh if you do this I’ll like you more or be in a relationship but it’s a lie. Men try to use women’s bodies for the least amount of money. Then they pick wives outside of those bunches.
PLEASE give us tips to resist the "physical need" and wait for the proper time
Don't go to each other's homes
Sorry but invest in toys! Plz I made the mistake of giving myself freely
@@durgalakshmi2793hot tip - use an oral-b toothbrush
Back of the toothbrush head
Better than any toys
Start by changing the language you use. It’s a desire not a need. Referring to it as a ‘need’ gives it power over you.
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married him after 4 months…. worst mistake of my life….. i will definitely date longer now
Committing to someone for life is a huge decision and shouldn’t be done by a whim. I agree, dating longer is a good vetting process
It really depends on the vetting process. Families and families from both sides need to meet.
Girl. You are my new obsession 💖
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Omg I could listen to these talks all day lol. I can’t believe it but I’m doing all of these things already! So I will definitely need to change that asap! Omg thank you so much for this content! And congrats on 5k subs! I love being a part of your group! 🤗💕
Thank you Trophy!! ❤️😘
I love watching you grow babe! We love the straight forward message
Thank you Trophy!! 🏆🥰😘
hi! i am almost 20 and i like your advice, but obviously i would not expect a guy in my age or a little bit older to propose. I do not want to marry before 25 as well haha
But could you advice me how to make myself value as a girlfriend?
How long to wait with sleeping with a guy? I have lost my virginity with a guy who dumped me and treated me with no respect after that so im a little bit traumatized to trust a guy again.
If you want to enjoy your youth, that’s your decision babe ❤️ but what I would say is make a man invest in you if you are wanting to have sex without engagement or marriage… he will be less likely to ghost you if he had to work for it. Men always follow their investment. And definitely use protection so you don’t limit your options by having children before marriage😘
You should be friends with guys get to know them. But you don’t have to date them to get to know them. If a guy is doing nice things for you, just tell him your life plan. He might propose without you having to waste a lot of effort and time dating and putting yourself at risk sexually.
❤❤ THIS VIDEO IS SO IMPORTANT !! ALL THE RESPECT FOR YOU !
I absolutely love to cook and as a couples activity me and my partner cook together. He of course buys the ingredients and also that week’s groceries. Is that alright? Since we are cooking together, i think i am not giving him wife benefits.
My new virtual sister 👑 I have the exact mindset when it comes to this topic. My type is a leader and one who is self-controlled! 💁🏾♀️also I don’t believe in giving too many people access.
I am a black man and I am on youtube frequently; I have never in my over a decade of being on youtube commented on a video. This is my first. Ladies, this woman is giving horrible advice. Look how she gives the end goal; however, she does not talk about the STEPS that are required to get there. No stepwise progression. No man, if he has no exclusivity, in his right mind would continually court a woman who is entertaining multiple options (or even a woman who is not willing to take herself off the market unless becoming single). It's not logical. For example, if I were talking to a woman and she told me she was entertaining or dating multiple men (or even just talking to them), it would be in my best interest (if this woman were not willing to become exclusive unless marriage first) to NOT invest in this woman. Only THEN should I look to seek the most while offering the least. Look at this from a logical perspective...Why would someone continually invest in something that he cannot get exclusivity from'? How would you even get to the point of offering this woman a ring? There are steps that are required to get there..as with anything in life.
She looks at all the Upside for women, but ignores the risks and downside for men. NO man is just going to pop up with a ring and say hey will you marry me if he has not seen how you conduct yourself in an exclusive manner. Her advice actually does the opposite; it keeps women single. Her premise also assumes (negatively and incrrectly) that men are just always willing to take advantage of women; and therefore, women should take this course of action. Now, you should put a TIMELINE on when the relationship should move to marriage. But to say you will not be a girlfriend is just not practical. Most men know from a calculated risk standpoint there comes a time we have to cut our losses and move on. She has this notion that women are some type of prize and men should just put out and women should give the very least. If she truly believes this then she is delusional. If she doesn't then she is just telling women want they want to hear for likes and views.
I urge more women to not onlylook at things from their perspective, but look at it from the man's point of view as well. Women seem to somtimes give women bad advice and it keeps them single. And the sobering thing that a lot of women will realize is that when you are old and options aren't really there anymore, no one is going to care but YOU. The world will go on. YOU have to live with your mistakes and choices.
Very well put. 🙏
I lean conservative, but this is just very bad advice that will make you stay single forever, in a toxic relationship (those who move quickly usually suffer from some mental illness or trauma) or with a spineless simp you have no respect for.
There's absolutely no way I'd let my brother or a son if I had one get near a woman who thinks like this.
You’re a man spending most of your time on UA-cam on a sector of UA-cam specifically for woman.
You should be working. You have too much free time.
The women watching these videos do not desire men like you. Respectfully
Hush 🤫.
From what we are readily seeing, the vast majority of women who stay single are the ones who blow their lives away on long-term premarital relationships.
The only time a woman is obligated to take herself off the market is when she’s been proposed to 💍 and has accepted that proposal.
You date a woman simply to evaluate her for marriage, not to get her off the market so you don’t have to compete with other potential suitors.
I was openly dating different men (no sex involved) for a whole year for the purpose of meeting my future husband and then I met my husband.
We were engaged in a month and married 13 months after that.
After our first date, I immediately took myself off the market because he was tall, handsome, generous, and told me he believed I was the one for him.
We will be celebrating our 9th wedding anniversary next May. We have two daughters and a son due in February.
No he did not require me to first take myself off the market and be his GF so he can give me a test drive.
He found me attractive and compatible enough on our first encounter to know that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me. He took himself off the market.
This is what every woman who is genuinely marriage minded deserves.
As spouses, we learned everything we needed to about each other through trial and error and simply as life unfolded.
I will never encourage or support my daughters being long-term girlfriends.
Bravo 🙌🏽
A man will move mountains to be w the woman he wants for a wife. Until a guy is moving mountains to be with you and take you off the market and quickly marry you, stay single. I understand your points but if a man is truly inspired by and in awe of a woman’s Presence, he will do whatever it takes to be w you, unlike most men who are casually dating/in search of long term GFs.
Thank you love, I get so excited when I get a notification 😍❤️
Thank you for being here 🥰
I thought I'd chime in from a guys perspective. I own a small business, I work out, and dress nice etc. So I have options. I strongly disagree with her advice from a guys perspective because the current divorce rate is about 50%. The other half of marriages that DO stay together only about half of them are happy. That communicates to us men, wise enough to carefully study the statistics, that marriage has about a 75% failure rate. If I told you there was 75% chance you might get shot if you walked out your front door you would put on a bullet proof vest at the very least. As a guy with options I view women who try to rush me into marriage as dangerous, niave, negligent, and don't seem to care about my well being. Now a woman who has studied the divorce statistics and understands there needs to be a trial period (about 2 years seems reasonable) feels like marriage material to me. I understand if a woman wants to walk away if a man drags his feet but don't get frustrated at successful men who protect themselves and has options. We can't protect our woman or family if we don't even know how to protect ourselves.
Thank you for eloquently and respectfully stating your difference in opinion. I am someone that can see things from both perspectives, and want to clarify some of the points you have brought up.
What I am saying in this video, is for women to hold themselves to a higher regard rather than becoming exclusive, giving sex, and marriage benefits to a man whom has not shown their intentions for wanting marriage. If you prefer to settle for a long engagement then that is your prerogative, however, too many woman are giving themselves to men who don’t truly deserve the level of effort and energy in which women are investing.
You can date a woman for as long as you’d like but this shouldn’t come with sex if you haven’t secured her with a proposal. I do understand that the lack of quality women (and men) out there has caused both men and women to become skeptical of entering relationships…which is completely understandable.
My hope for this channel is to create more marriage-worthy, biblically-aligned, faith and family centered women. And I hope and pray that you are blessed enough to receive one 🙏🏽
If you really had options, you would not try to change her mind.
Statistics is NOT JUST NUMBERS. It is a science that includes math. IT also includes data that allowed them to create those numbers.
Read the stories and then come back.
My brothers are all high value and they wouldn't dream of trying to change a women's mind. They get in where they fit in.
@@thenewtrophywife A very classy response from a classy lady. I absolutely see why your married. I think you advice is sound advice for women in general and you handle yourself with grace. I still hold firm on my opinions but thats what creates such interesting chemistry between men and women. We are different with different goals and values and that tension is what makes relationships engaging. I will follow yout channel because interesting to hear a woman's perspective.
@@RAJOHN-ke7mc I was not trying to change her mind. She is allowed to hold her own beliefs and values and I honor those. I happen to have different beliefs and values that better protect me in my opinion. She is a classy lady and I'm a driven man. Of course we will have different values and opinions on life and what works best for us as individuals. You don't have to agree with someone to respect or like them. I do believe you mistook my own opinions as an attack on her which couldn't be further from the truth.
A lot of people reference the divorce rate stat BUT it’s different depending on class. Middle and upper class marriages have a very low divorce rate. I’m a researcher and know a lot of about stats! People like to quote a small poll of statistics that don’t address the bigger picture
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Yes, only the truth! How we communicate in a good way, we are not okay with being a gf? Just say no and we look for marriage?
Somehow I already repelled someone by that.
Thank you. Your channel is a new treasure for me. Please keep it up. Appreciated ❤
Just because people dont wear rings doesn't mean they're not married also
As the Universe Guru said. ❤
How long should you wait to get the ring?
Queen a person will emotionally invest into buying a ring come back and forth every night tell you it’s their home when a person know damn well they still being cheated on don’t let nobody brainwash you with no ring. If a person wants to marry you within a year two tops with no ring no family members present a person will just gone to the city hall and marry you. Simple it’s these im learning from.
Such an important conversation… Thank you for doing this… And your beautiful… Keep teaching the women
Thank you!! 🥰🥰🥰
Another great video 📹 . Please 🙏 continue to teach young girls 👧 what they are worth.
God I needed this
Thanks for the tough love ❤
You look so classi❤
I don't want to have any thing to do with them im 60 had my days!
GOLD!!!
“He better prove he can pay for me my life style, my kids, my hobbies. And he needs to out do every other man and treat me perfect and give me a ring, before I DO ANYTHING to show him I’d be a good wife”
Lmao great advice, to all the single ladies
that will die alone and never have memories of any romance fun or good sex lol Why listen to a dumb person?? why? listen to a woman with grey hair that has done it the way you want to do it
I have a question 🙋🏿♀️, If you just got out of a toxic relationship, should you start dating again or don’t date and stay single for a couple of years?
Love the hair. It’s giving healthyyyy❤
Thank you!! ❤️😘
I did my inner work & completely rebranded over the last 3 years. I am 30 years old & have a 10 old with my son’s father who I know doesn’t deserve me but I was young & had zero boundaries. I feel so guilty about leaving (because my son😔) but I also know what I can receive.
You're very beautiful....
Now my qstion:"how do you avoid being a girl friend?.....sound kind of hard these days, even getting to girlfriend sound hard nowadays...
Love the new hair! Beautiful message ❤ your voice is so feminine and soothing ❤
Thank you Trophy!!! 🥰❤️😘
This. Omg 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
🎀🩷🙏loving your channel!!
Please make up a tutorial now 🫶🤗
The divorce rate is already increasing. Marrying a woman without dating her first would be a foolish mistake for men 😂 You’re also saying if a man dates you for 2 years he doesn’t really want to marry you, who told you this? I will agree sex won’t get you married and it’s a smarter idea for women to withhold their body but a lot of women only have sex to give so it ends up bad for them.
so true girlfriend is a scam!!!
🙏💫Please a video with the ideal time and steps of dating a man.
Thanks 🙏🏾 for sharing. 💯
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You look gorgeous as usual thanks for sharing
Hey Trophy!! 🏆😘
Listen this was a real a$$ conversation!❤
This is god awful advice for woman. Woman don’t make the standards for engagement and marriage MEN DO.
Women set the requirement for entry…
@@thenewtrophywife Woman set the requirements for entry to the vagina. Men control relationships and marriage and it’s gone be like that forever, unless woman want to start providing and proposing to men.
Many marriages fail so I disagree with you
Whatever any single man’s standards are for marriage are is beside the point.
All that should matter to a woman is if he has determined that she meets those standards and whether he is ready to commit to her.
A woman should not have to give you her undivided attention and time until you determine that she’s up to your standards for marriage.
There’s another man who may easily determine that she does right away and he will propose very early on and give her the life she wants.
Stop quoting Kevin Samuels. You can have standards, but a woman can also walk away and exercise her options elsewhere.
@@SonyaOutThereWhat tf are you even talking about?