This episode is really personal for me, as I know first-hand how this is. Brian, I'm sorry you're going through this. I know it hurts. I truly hope he just needs more time to deal with it and come around to at least being cordial about it. Just know you have plenty of us out here for support, even if it's just a message of encouragement, should we never meet in person. While I never came out to my dad personally, he knows 2nd-hand that I'm gay. My parents divorced when I was about a year old, and mostly only saw him at Christmas, and might would stay a week or 2 over the summer pre-high school age. The last time I personally had contact with him was in 2004/2005. My mom last spoke to him in January 2006 when I was dealing with a life-threatening illness to let him know, and he offered any help if it was needed. Well, it turned out to be an empty offer, as he never once called, visited, texted, emailed, nothing after that. To be honest, I wasn't really that surprised, as usually I was the one who initialed most of our contact. in 2013, I received an email through Ancestry, and it was his wife messaging to see if it was me. She said she missed me and that they were trying to find me. She always tried to get me and my dad to have a better relationship, So, I decided to once again go out on a limb and emailed her back with my phone #, regular email and address so they could get in touch with me. Here it is, 11 years or so later after this, and still nothing. That was my last attempt to try and make a move. I just couldn't deal with the continued disappointment I had been dealing with from his side most of my life.
I resonate so much with this story. I made my mind up a long time ago to really just go through the rest of my life without having him apart of it. However i still felt the need to take that last step/ attempt at a relationship only to once again be met with disappointment. This was the last time he’ll get to disappoint me though. It feels good reading this knowing that I’m not the only one that’s gone through this type of disappointment and understands where it is that I’m coming from.
@@MeetTheMazelins oh I understand I am a very peaceful person and always wishing everything ends up good but sometimes it doesn’t it’s just life,,, love u guys
Awww Brian 🥺 sending love your way! I can definitely relate to how you are feeling as I too have been in this position. It is hard but you will be ok! Lean on the love you have around you! 💕
Happy Sunday Mazelin Family! 😊☀ A big hug for Brian! ❤ The both of you are such an inspiration, thank you for taking us along your little adventure together! 👬 Big up!
hey Brian, sending you much love and a big virtual hug from Australia 🇦🇺. you will be okay, as you said give him some time. Alec keep being the strong pillar of support that you are 😍
Thank you for sharing this part of your story Brian. I know it wasn't easy but you are supported & loved! Learning to let go & live the the life you are most certainly deserving of. 🙏🏽✨🤍🫂
Sending love and prayers to you Brian. I’m sad that your dad hasn’t responded. However you are loved and it’s his loss!!!!! Praying that God gives you peace. 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
Love you guys! Brian, this is the opportunity to be the father that you don’t get to have. All will be well for both of you and your son. Enjoy the weekly vlogs.
I am so proud of the 2 of you. Congratulations on your new home. Don't be hurt , he might be jealous. You have true Love , most people don't know what that is. You are in my prayers.
You told him you would give him time to process things. Whether he knew or not, this is the first time he's heard it from YOU. Please give him grace before judging his silence. Yes, it is incredibly brave and challenging for someone to come out to their loved ones. However, keep in mind how difficult and devastating it is for a parent to mourn the life they imagined for their children.
That’s very true. The time at least is something that should be given. And you are very right about the power in hearing it from me for the first time. The silence however is what I have a problem with. If the love is truly unconditional it would be nice to at least get something in return. It would be lovely to hear….i hear you, but I need time. Or “I may not understand, but I love you regardless”. And I feel like this is something most of us coming out would most certainly appreciate and as a parent, would be nice of them to offer. It already feels bad being the Child (feels funny saying considering we’re all grown here) but still having the sole responsibility of navigating that part of our lives often times alone and then still having to be the one to spearhead the convo and spare others feelings in the process. But, all in all, we still remain hopeful. So as they say….only time will tell.
@@MeetTheMazelins if he cannot accept you then he is not worth the effort the stress or the time. If you was my child I would love you very much. Anyone who cannot accept you doesn't know themselves at all.
I appreciate the openness and understanding you share with us. Your dad has to come to terms with himself before can speak with you. Hopefully this silence means he is working to better himself for a relationship with you. If not you have made it far with love ones that are still here with you including the UA-cam family.
Hey Brian. Glad you did your part in opening the door to speak your truth to your father. My hope is that he needs more time to process it and respond, but even it he doesn't you have spoken your truth in a medium you are comfortable with and I hope it helps you to turn the page and keep doing what you are doing! Peace and blessings to you and Alec
I can definitely understand the pain that you feel. I felt the same way when I came out to my dad… although mine did eventually came around, it’s still something we don’t really discuss when he and do talk. Our relationship has always been off and on over the years. So I definitely understand how you feel. I hope maybe things may turn around for you, however thru it all I pray you have peace about the situation with your father.. much love to you guys!💛💛💛 Khi
People need to realize that life on Earth is short and time should be spent showing each other love, sharing and caring . I think that there will be regrets unfortunately. Luv you guys
Sending Love and support you way. Stay strong and remember, you are still an amazing person to live and stand in your truth. It's unfortunately your Dad's loss of an awesome strong black man who is his son! ❤❤
I'm so appreciative that you guys have partnered with Better Health, because my mental health is incredibly important. I've always wanted to find the right person to talk to. However, when I go through my insurance, I always find people who don't look like me or have anything remotely relatable in common. As a result, it feels strange talking to them and I typically just stop. Currently, for my mental health, I do a lot of writing and take long walks. However, I plan to reach out to Better Health. Thank you. 💜
New subscriber here. Your video was in my recommendations. I know what Brian is going through. When I came out to my parents in 1981 at the age of 20, I was immediately disowned. It didn't really surprise me as I suspected that's what would happen, but it still hurt. My father and I were never close, but my mother and I were. I made several attempts to reach out all through my 20's to no avail. I finally gave up trying and created my own little queer family. As a side note, it wasn't only my parents that disowned me, but the entire family didn't want anything to do with me -- aunts, uncles, cousins', grandparents or siblings. I wouldn't change a thing because my life has been better than I ever could have imaged it to be. I have my chosen family; I had a wonderful partner for 33 years that I lost nearly 3 years ago, and I have my health.
Hey Clay! First off, thank you so much for sharing your story with us and our audience. As we have heard many times in the comments so far, blood doesn’t make you family. And that we find solace in knowing that most of us figure out that we can choose our own family. We’re so happy to know that you had that support system in your chosen family and your partner. We can only imagine navigating this journey from the 80s until now, but so happy that you made it through. We gladly welcome you to our UA-cam family here and are happy to have you! 💜
God has blessed you in many ways. I never did find love I am only 38 but it really bothers me because this is a lonely life. I have everything a wonderful career and great family. I play "Please Send Me Someone To Love" by Sade often. I hope I get to experience true love before I leave this earth.
Brian I’m sorry that you are going through this situation. You done everything you supposed to do. You are a sweet spirit young man. Thank you for sharing your story. Remember God made you and he loves you💙
Give your Father time and grace. He may not respond right away because he does not know how to respond … doesn’t mean he won’t. Just keep being you, you are being an example and inspiration to someone even if you’re not aware. Happy cinco de Mayo 🎉
New Subbie! Ran across your video. Love the vibe. Brian give him time maybe he needs it. Hopefully he’ll come around. We are of a different generation where the men are not quick to jump in. I pray he does. If not … his lost. Enjoyed the content look forward to more ❤
Brian omg you are such a sweet person but then again we Aries are. Love the hey hi my brother whoop whoop! LOVE FROM South Africa TO YOU AND YOUR LOVELY HUBBY💯💓
My Favorite Brothers 👋🏽 Just stopping by to say that I’m very proud of you both with your Healthy Lifestyle Choices.. Nothing but Blessings and good vibes. Brain please keep your head up. GOD ❤🫵🏾🙏🏾…😎✌🏾
Hey guys hope you’re both doing well. Brian in your message to your day you told him that he can take his time if he wants to process what you have told him, I think you should give him time. For some people the process take longer to analyse and for that reason you might think he does not care, but I believe that time is the healer and it is my hope that one day you two will get to a place of love and acceptance. You have done what you needed to do, now it’s up to your dad to do his part. Glad to be part of your UA-cam family, lots of love and kisses from the UK 🇬🇧 😊
God Bless you Precious Jewels!! I will be praying that your father will find his way on this journey, and it is a journey. Our son came out to us about 13 yrs ago. It is a process, but I have such HOPE that he will have a teachable spirit and open heart. I can honestly say I wouldn't change our son for anything in this world. He has taught me so much about just LOVING better!! I now spend my time trying to be a bridge in helping parents through this transition. I have been a stand in Mom for several weddings, and have met some of the most WONDEFUL people in the world--I would never want to be who I was BEFORE this journey. GOD BLESS YOU!!!
XOXOXOXOXO I love y’all. It reminds me of my coming out story it’s never easy. And it reminds me that family is not always by blood it’s always my love no matter how many colours and shades. Thank you for sharing love you both 🩷❤️🧡💛💚🩵💙💜🤎🖤🩶🤍
First I must say I'm proud of you Brian that took so much courage for you to do that. But I'll say this give your father some time to process this. Hopefully he'll come around but you continue to be great and a loving being of light. 🙂🌈
Brian, as many have said, I know this has been an emotional rollercoaster of a week for you. Just be assured that you were respectful and honest about your feelings. Your Dad may be taking time to process, as you suggested. Don't give up hope but move forward with your life and be happy. In time he may come around but if he doesn't, that is sadly his loss. I believe because he has never missed a Birthday, he obviously loves you and I, like Alec, am hopeful! No matter what, you have each other and you both have your son's love and based on what Alec said, the love and support of both your Mom's and all of the Maze Gang! We love you guys and support you 100%. Consider yourselves hugged! We are so proud of you! Hold your head high and just know you have so much love and support from all of us! Thanks so much for sharing your journey with the world. You bring so much encouragement to many who may have never been brave enough to do what you do on a daily basis! Hugs and much love!
Brian, I pray your dad processes your truth and reach back out to you soon. I understand how you feel mine is a little different I'm adopted and finally met the parent that gave me away, so I'm finally getting some closure too, keep your head up. Alec I'm happy he has you to keep him lifted, love you guys have a blessed, productive and prosperous week.
This is a very intense and personal vlog for me. With my father being the only living parent left and we not being close at all, I feel the pain and anguish. I want to be close. I want you to be there, but the traumas of the past are a huge obstacle to overcome. Add to that mental illness that he refuses to admit even exists, and you have a recipe for disaster. Thankful for this deep and heartfelt discussion. You did your best. The rest is in his hands. You love and live unapologetically. I wish you both the best. From Bredda Dom with ❤
I’m in the same boat me and my mother are not talking I’m in relationship know it will be a 1 year on August 10 I really want my mom to come around so she can meet him he’s such a wonderful person I never had someone like him and me and him are getting a apartment soon and you guys inspire me I’m Tariq Williams from Cleveland Ohio
This is a great video. I never got to come out but i never hid who i am either. I'm 66 and it was a different time. My father told me when I was 14 if i was he was ok with it. I always thought that was so cool of him. Your not only a classy person Brian, but very brave as well. Both of you are
Well well well, Brian, my heart goes out to you on this topic. But I will say this give ur dad the time he needs to process the information. Continue to love him. Leave your door open for him ok. Remember ur a dad too and there are things that Bj may do that will b upsetting to you. So give him grace and space ok. I personally think you did the right thing by officially telling him. My brother be proud of yourself you have been a wonderful example to yourself, family, friends but most importantly you've been a wonderful example to your son Bj, so once Bj is fine you did well. Alec is there by your side too and you have great friends, and you have us. I hope some day we can meet, my dad lives in St Cloud. All in all Brian keep doing what your doing your on the right track. Each generation has to do better than the 1 before so we can all improve. He will come around one day. Just be ready to forgive and welcome him. Have a great day, stay wonderful, happy and blessed.. LanceB.
Good for you Brian. There are people that you want validation from but you have many others that love you, need you, and are perfectly happy that you are living your truth. Alec and BJ are right there loving you so much. I wish only happiness ❤❤
HAVE A WEDDING ! HAVE AN ENGAGEMENT PARTY! DO NOT INVITE THEM. LET THEM BE. NOT ACCEPTING YOUR LIFE IS HIS PRIVILEGE BUT YOUR GRACE IS TO INVITE HIM WITH CONDITIONS . LET THEM HAVE TIME TO GROW. IT THEY DO GREAT IF NOT PRAY FOR THEM , BUT MOVE FORWARD WITH YOUR BLESSED LIFE. 🙏🙏🙏
That's my entire angle. Anyone who had or have an issue with my sexuality, have been cut off and haven't looked back. Sometimes, we simply have to find our families outside of the bloodline because true unconditional love and family bonds are skin deep.
Happy Mother’s Day to your Moms!!!! I love y’all channel been watching ever since I saw the wedding last year I believe. I advise my cousins to subscribe also to enjoy the REALNESS so THANK YOU! THANK YOU! THANK YOU! Now Alex I WISH I can say it’s HOT because BABEEEEEEE this NY weather is BIPOLAR!! I cannot wait until we retire in a few years to the South!!
Thank you on their behalf! Wishing you a happy Mother’s Day to everyone on your side as well! We really appreciate the positive vibes so much. Oh yes, this weather is NOT it at the moment. And if this is the heat we experiencing right now, can you imagine once summer actually hit???
Hey Guys! Sending you both love and hugs from Alabama. Brian as for your Father I would definitely say give it to God and let him order your steps going forward. You’re a husband and a Father yourself so your peace is of the utmost importance. Journaling is extremely cathartic as well. I highly recommend it…🤎🤎🤎
Brian, I'm so sorry that you opened yourself up to your father only to get disappointed. I understood just how painful it can be to let down by someone who is supposed to be there for you no matter what & it can be difficult to process the pain. Just know that you are loved by so many and that won't ever change. We're here for you & Alec. Always ❤
Good evening to you guys and hope that u all are doing okay and Happy MOTHERS DAY TO both of you guys and hope u all have a blessed and wonderful day today enjoyed.
Brian, life is too short to be too concerned about your father's feelings. He is living his life and you deserve to live your best life also. Believe me when I say that you are not able to please everyone. You and your husband deserve all the love that this world has to offer. Continue to be kind to each other and everything else will fall into place. Best of luck to you both.
Hello Brian and Alec, I pray for you and your family 🙏🙏 everyday. I'm sorry that you have to go through what you are going through with your Dad and all, just know that you have a FRIEND that don't care about your sexuality but care about your Heart ❤️ This was placed in your life right now because God knew that you would handle it the way that you are right now ❤️😊 I feel that you and Alec and that growing Son of yours are my extended family 🙏🙏🙏 Lots of LOVE ❤❤
Proud of you for sensing the message but what I always try and do and my friends tell me or thing I do to much is to do exactly this. Meaning you've done your part to bring him close and make him apart of your family. Him not responding could mean his taking time and don't have the tools to start his conversation with you to gain understanding and find away to be apart of who you are. This being said and coming back to my point of doing your part I say find peace in the fact that you did what you could. I find that if I do my part and I know I mean well and I still am met with nothing then that gives me the freedom to detach and move on. Focus on the people that sees you and accepts you for who you really are and find most the pease in that their within support of you and Alec💓
Wow I admire you Brian, for coming out to your father, he sounds like my father, they know it, they just don't wanna hear the words, i think with time, he'll come around, don't let this get you down, you did right. again he'll come around.
Brain give you dad time to process it , but parents should have unconditional love ❤️ for there kids. Your happiness matters you and Alec are great together, and you have an amazing son , love is love God is love continue to do you and spread love and inspire the world . Have a happy Sunday borh of you. Blessed love guys .
Give dad some time. He probably needs to process before he speaks but if he doesn't, at least you let it be known and you can move on. You have a family that loves you unconditionally in your husband and in your bloodline but also out here in your viewing audience. You both have such big hearts and radiant light. We love you!
thank you for your transparency Brian and Alec. I'm a straight female and I have been a subscriber of you guys for 2 years or more . you guys are a vibe. my best advice is that you "consider the source and ignore it"💯 it's okay for him to be set in his ways. you still have to live your life for your own happiness. sending a virtual hug 🤗 ❤
Boy that is some great advice! I think it was still good to get it out so that it wasn't a lingering feeling, and that I can truly move on. So still happy that I did it. We appreciate you supporting us from the beginning of our journey here and continuing to do so! Much love.
This episode was very emotional. Brian, your Dad may be taking his time to put his thoughts together. He may not know how to respond and probably doesn't want to say the wrong thing. Ultimately, he may not respond they way you hoped, but I'm proud of you for doing so. It was a courageous action on your part. Thankfully, you've got Alec's support and love, BJ's love, all of your friend's support, as well as the Mazegang being here for you. Thankfully, you and Alec found each other and connected. You will experience emotional ups and downs, but you are both so blessed. Thank you for sharing your stories with us. I'm sending good thoughts and well wishes to you, as I know the rest of the gang does too! ❤
Brian, thank you for allowing us into this part of your life. I’m not sure if there’s been an update on his response yet, or lack thereof. But, in your message, you said if he needs time, then take the time…. I understand how you may be feeling because I came out to my dad in 2012 (I was 20), and he didn’t talk to me for about 2 years. He still wished me a happy birthday via text during that time though. Now, we have a MUCH better relationship. I say this to say, don’t lose hope yet. You granted him time to process and it may take longer than you were hoping. Good vibes 💚💛❤️
And to be honest Leon that's all I wanted to hear. Something! Not just that you left me on read. Tell me you don't understand but you still need time even. But I think all of us in this situation, no matter the age, just want to hear "I love you regardless".
I agree with Alec it’s good Brian did it for himself to unburden that. I agree it’s the parent’s job to facilitate the relationship not the child and it sounds like you tried. It sucks and your feelings are valid. I’m glad your husband could be there for you. Parents like this should be ashamed I don’t get it 😢 like your love for your child shouldn’t be conditional. A lot of ppl are saying he might come around and maybe but try not to take on that burden. It’s his lost if he doesn’t
I am sending yall lots of light and love regardless of the others that are around us! Im learning that if those people weren’t who they are, we wouldn’t be able to move through the world the way we do! 🫶🏽🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈
Maybe he felt like saying it, he wanted to tell his story, he probably just tired of having of this don't ask don't tell. Alot of families felt like it they don't hear it from you it's not true and he did the right thing by letting him hear it from his own mouth
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Brian, don’t let your dad discourage you in any way. Always remember that you are loved. I love you and most importantly God loves you. ❤ We all have to give-in count of what we do. Love you ❤❤❤
That alcohol thing really hit home. I stopped in 2019 only because it wasnt fun anymore. I got a hangover but barely felt anything because my tolerance was so high, so I just stopped. Once I stopped, I lost 20lbs almost instantly. Now I cant even stand the smell of it. Cant even believe we ever felt we needed it just to have fun. Feels good to say, " i dont drink" knowing how far you've come from stopping
Brain and Alec. I have been following you guys from the beginning of your journey. I have much love and respect for the both of you. I can understand both of those comments, yours and the other gentleman. I also feel like it takes two, the parent, and the Son... However, I can appreciate the way you reached out to him via text message. I also feel like this is a serious issue, and could be better handled in person. But we don't know the whole story, only what you share with us and I'm sure there is more to it, the hurt and pain, that no one can understand but you. Nevertheless I am praying 🙏🏾 that God intervenes, sending good energy, healing and forgiveness, while there is still time.... Amen!!
This episode is really personal for me, as I know first-hand how this is. Brian, I'm sorry you're going through this. I know it hurts. I truly hope he just needs more time to deal with it and come around to at least being cordial about it. Just know you have plenty of us out here for support, even if it's just a message of encouragement, should we never meet in person.
While I never came out to my dad personally, he knows 2nd-hand that I'm gay. My parents divorced when I was about a year old, and mostly only saw him at Christmas, and might would stay a week or 2 over the summer pre-high school age. The last time I personally had contact with him was in 2004/2005. My mom last spoke to him in January 2006 when I was dealing with a life-threatening illness to let him know, and he offered any help if it was needed. Well, it turned out to be an empty offer, as he never once called, visited, texted, emailed, nothing after that. To be honest, I wasn't really that surprised, as usually I was the one who initialed most of our contact.
in 2013, I received an email through Ancestry, and it was his wife messaging to see if it was me. She said she missed me and that they were trying to find me. She always tried to get me and my dad to have a better relationship, So, I decided to once again go out on a limb and emailed her back with my phone #, regular email and address so they could get in touch with me. Here it is, 11 years or so later after this, and still nothing. That was my last attempt to try and make a move. I just couldn't deal with the continued disappointment I had been dealing with from his side most of my life.
I resonate so much with this story. I made my mind up a long time ago to really just go through the rest of my life without having him apart of it. However i still felt the need to take that last step/ attempt at a relationship only to once again be met with disappointment. This was the last time he’ll get to disappoint me though. It feels good reading this knowing that I’m not the only one that’s gone through this type of disappointment and understands where it is that I’m coming from.
Sending you love and praying for healing.
@@MeetTheMazelinsw 😊
u gave him time, so be patient , he will be there for u , hopefully
One can only hope, but in the meantime I will take my time to heal and continue to live the best life I can. Thanks for your words 🙏🏽
@@MeetTheMazelins oh I understand I am a very peaceful person and always wishing everything ends up good but sometimes it doesn’t it’s just life,,, love u guys
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Brian you done amazing on the better help segment! It felt very authentic and really relatable!
Awww Brian 🥺 sending love your way! I can definitely relate to how you are feeling as I too have been in this position. It is hard but you will be ok! Lean on the love you have around you! 💕
Happy Sunday Mazelin Family! 😊☀ A big hug for Brian! ❤ The both of you are such an inspiration, thank you for taking us along your little adventure together! 👬 Big up!
hey Brian, sending you much love and a big virtual hug from Australia 🇦🇺. you will be okay, as you said give him some time. Alec keep being the strong pillar of support that you are 😍
Be patient with your father, give him time. Continue to be your authentic self, you guys rock. It is ok to love family from afar.
Love you guys. Wish you the best with your dad Brian. He may come around in the future.
Thank you for sharing this part of your story Brian. I know it wasn't easy but you are supported & loved! Learning to let go & live the the life you are most certainly deserving of. 🙏🏽✨🤍🫂
Keep doing you and pray for him. You guys will be great and are great
Sending love and prayers to you Brian. I’m sad that your dad hasn’t responded. However you are loved and it’s his loss!!!!! Praying that God gives you peace. 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
Praying for blessings and your comfort.
Love, Peace and Blessings to Brian 👍🏾
God Bless you both, Love your support for each other
I would love you no matter what, not everyone deserves to be a parent. He doesn't deserve you
Love you guys! Brian, this is the opportunity to be the father that you don’t get to have. All will be well for both of you and your son. Enjoy the weekly vlogs.
I am so proud of the 2 of you. Congratulations on your new home. Don't be hurt , he might be jealous. You have true Love , most people don't know what that is. You are in my prayers.
I feel you Brian ... It's my experience exactly listen you are and care for great great community here on UA-cam
I love Terrell and Jarius!
I love the way you guys show your love to each other. You are a lovely and loving couple. May God bless you and your relationship.❤
You told him you would give him time to process things. Whether he knew or not, this is the first time he's heard it from YOU. Please give him grace before judging his silence. Yes, it is incredibly brave and challenging for someone to come out to their loved ones. However, keep in mind how difficult and devastating it is for a parent to mourn the life they imagined for their children.
That’s very true. The time at least is something that should be given. And you are very right about the power in hearing it from me for the first time. The silence however is what I have a problem with. If the love is truly unconditional it would be nice to at least get something in return. It would be lovely to hear….i hear you, but I need time. Or “I may not understand, but I love you regardless”. And I feel like this is something most of us coming out would most certainly appreciate and as a parent, would be nice of them to offer. It already feels bad being the Child (feels funny saying considering we’re all grown here) but still having the sole responsibility of navigating that part of our lives often times alone and then still having to be the one to spearhead the convo and spare others feelings in the process. But, all in all, we still remain hopeful. So as they say….only time will tell.
@@MeetTheMazelins if he cannot accept you then he is not worth the effort the stress or the time. If you was my child I would love you very much. Anyone who cannot accept you doesn't know themselves at all.
Brian your strong, awesome, and amazing 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I appreciate the openness and understanding you share with us. Your dad has to come to terms with himself before can speak with you. Hopefully this silence means he is working to better himself for a relationship with you. If not you have made it far with love ones that are still here with you including the UA-cam family.
Hey Guys I love you both two really handsome guys GOD BLESS YOU BOTH ALWAYS 🙏🏾🙏🏾❤️❤️
Sending you guys all the love ❤️. Brian thanks for sharing your experience with us.
Thanks brother! We really appreciate y’all 🫶🏽
Very beautiful video
Keep it going
Never give up
Please upload videos regularly
Hey Brian. Glad you did your part in opening the door to speak your truth to your father. My hope is that he needs more time to process it and respond, but even it he doesn't you have spoken your truth in a medium you are comfortable with and I hope it helps you to turn the page and keep doing what you are doing! Peace and blessings to you and Alec
Allow him to digest it. He will come around. Baby steps Brian... just breathe! Nuff love big up🇺🇸🇯🇲
I can definitely understand the pain that you feel. I felt the same way when I came out to my dad… although mine did eventually came around, it’s still something we don’t really discuss when he and do talk. Our relationship has always been off and on over the years. So I definitely understand how you feel. I hope maybe things may turn around for you, however thru it all I pray you have peace about the situation with your father.. much love to you guys!💛💛💛
Khi
Happy Sunday Brian and Alec Brian you are well love
People need to realize that life on Earth is short and time should be spent showing each other love, sharing and caring . I think that there will be regrets unfortunately. Luv you guys
Sending Love and support you way. Stay strong and remember, you are still an amazing person to live and stand in your truth. It's unfortunately your Dad's loss of an awesome strong black man who is his son! ❤❤
Thank you so much for this 🫶🏽🙏🏽
Sending prayers hugs and strength
Brian, I support you 100%
I'm so appreciative that you guys have partnered with Better Health, because my mental health is incredibly important. I've always wanted to find the right person to talk to. However, when I go through my insurance, I always find people who don't look like me or have anything remotely relatable in common. As a result, it feels strange talking to them and I typically just stop. Currently, for my mental health, I do a lot of writing and take long walks. However, I plan to reach out to Better Health. Thank you. 💜
New subscriber here. Your video was in my recommendations. I know what Brian is going through. When I came out to my parents in 1981 at the age of 20, I was immediately disowned. It didn't really surprise me as I suspected that's what would happen, but it still hurt. My father and I were never close, but my mother and I were. I made several attempts to reach out all through my 20's to no avail. I finally gave up trying and created my own little queer family. As a side note, it wasn't only my parents that disowned me, but the entire family didn't want anything to do with me -- aunts, uncles, cousins', grandparents or siblings. I wouldn't change a thing because my life has been better than I ever could have imaged it to be. I have my chosen family; I had a wonderful partner for 33 years that I lost nearly 3 years ago, and I have my health.
Hey Clay! First off, thank you so much for sharing your story with us and our audience. As we have heard many times in the comments so far, blood doesn’t make you family. And that we find solace in knowing that most of us figure out that we can choose our own family. We’re so happy to know that you had that support system in your chosen family and your partner. We can only imagine navigating this journey from the 80s until now, but so happy that you made it through. We gladly welcome you to our UA-cam family here and are happy to have you! 💜
God has blessed you in many ways. I never did find love I am only 38 but it really bothers me because this is a lonely life. I have everything a wonderful career and great family. I play "Please Send Me Someone To Love" by Sade often. I hope I get to experience true love before I leave this earth.
Brian I’m sorry that you are going through this situation. You done everything you supposed to do. You are a sweet spirit young man. Thank you for sharing your story. Remember God made you and he loves you💙
Give your Father time and grace. He may not respond right away because he does not know how to respond … doesn’t mean he won’t. Just keep being you, you are being an example and inspiration to someone even if you’re not aware. Happy cinco de Mayo 🎉
New Subbie! Ran across your video. Love the vibe. Brian give him time maybe he needs it. Hopefully he’ll come around. We are of a different generation where the men are not quick to jump in. I pray he does. If not … his lost. Enjoyed the content look forward to more ❤
Brian omg you are such a sweet person but then again we Aries are. Love the hey hi my brother whoop whoop! LOVE FROM South Africa TO YOU AND YOUR LOVELY HUBBY💯💓
You have to give him time to process. You did your part.
My Favorite Brothers 👋🏽 Just stopping by to say that I’m very proud of you both with your Healthy Lifestyle Choices.. Nothing but Blessings and good vibes. Brain please keep your head up. GOD ❤🫵🏾🙏🏾…😎✌🏾
Hey guys hope you’re both doing well. Brian in your message to your day you told him that he can take his time if he wants to process what you have told him, I think you should give him time. For some people the process take longer to analyse and for that reason you might think he does not care, but I believe that time is the healer and it is my hope that one day you two will get to a place of love and acceptance. You have done what you needed to do, now it’s up to your dad to do his part.
Glad to be part of your UA-cam family, lots of love and kisses from the UK 🇬🇧 😊
God Bless you Precious Jewels!! I will be praying that your father will find his way on this journey, and it is a journey. Our son came out to us about 13 yrs ago. It is a process, but I have such HOPE that he will have a teachable spirit and open heart. I can honestly say I wouldn't change our son for anything in this world. He has taught me so much about just LOVING better!! I now spend my time trying to be a bridge in helping parents through this transition. I have been a stand in Mom for several weddings, and have met some of the most WONDEFUL people in the world--I would never want to be who I was BEFORE this journey. GOD BLESS YOU!!!
Sending supporting vibes. You two are the walking definition of love. It’s really his loss. I pray he realizes it one day soon.
Thank you so much Janine 💜
Y’all both are such beautiful souls. I feel u on the hard tacos- u could air fry the shells u had in the air fryer until crispy.
Brian just keep the faith God loves you 🙏 as long as he loves you everything is going to be ok 👍
XOXOXOXOXO I love y’all. It reminds me of my coming out story it’s never easy. And it reminds me that family is not always by blood it’s always my love no matter how many colours and shades. Thank you for sharing love you both 🩷❤️🧡💛💚🩵💙💜🤎🖤🩶🤍
First I must say I'm proud of you Brian that took so much courage for you to do that. But I'll say this give your father some time to process this. Hopefully he'll come around but you continue to be great and a loving being of light. 🙂🌈
Keep it goin man ❤️❤️❤️
Thanks Chris 🫶🏽
Brian, as many have said, I know this has been an emotional rollercoaster of a week for you. Just be assured that you were respectful and honest about your feelings. Your Dad may be taking time to process, as you suggested. Don't give up hope but move forward with your life and be happy. In time he may come around but if he doesn't, that is sadly his loss. I believe because he has never missed a Birthday, he obviously loves you and I, like Alec, am hopeful! No matter what, you have each other and you both have your son's love and based on what Alec said, the love and support of both your Mom's and all of the Maze Gang! We love you guys and support you 100%. Consider yourselves hugged! We are so proud of you! Hold your head high and just know you have so much love and support from all of us! Thanks so much for sharing your journey with the world. You bring so much encouragement to many who may have never been brave enough to do what you do on a daily basis! Hugs and much love!
Brian, I pray your dad processes your truth and reach back out to you soon. I understand how you feel mine is a little different I'm adopted and finally met the parent that gave me away, so I'm finally getting some closure too, keep your head up. Alec I'm happy he has you to keep him lifted, love you guys have a blessed, productive and prosperous week.
Just know you guys are truly loved ❤
This is a very intense and personal vlog for me. With my father being the only living parent left and we not being close at all, I feel the pain and anguish. I want to be close. I want you to be there, but the traumas of the past are a huge obstacle to overcome. Add to that mental illness that he refuses to admit even exists, and you have a recipe for disaster. Thankful for this deep and heartfelt discussion. You did your best. The rest is in his hands. You love and live unapologetically. I wish you both the best. From Bredda Dom with ❤
I absolutely enjoy watching your videos. Love you guys ❤❤❤. Keep posting cause you both make me smile
Brian you are loved. You have to be you. God made you and He don't make any mistakes. Love you both!!!!
No mistakes! Just still keeping the hope he comes around. We appreciate the love Gail 💜
Happy sunday Mazelins and happy mother's day to.ur mothers .Greetings from South Africa
Happy Mother’s Day to everyone on your side too if it’s celebrated the same time! Sending love to you in 🇿🇦
LOVE IS ETERNAL ONLY SHARED AND GIVEN TO THOSE WHO DESERVE... YOU BOTH ARE SPECIAL AND LOVE EACH OTHER FOCUS ON THAT WHICH IS TRUE LOVE..
B happy..Live..Love..Pray..everything will work out.TRUST!
Love you guy's so much ❤❤❤
I'd be proud to have you guys as my sons. Sending hugs.
I’m in the same boat me and my mother are not talking I’m in relationship know it will be a 1 year on August 10 I really want my mom to come around so she can meet him he’s such a wonderful person I never had someone like him and me and him are getting a apartment soon and you guys inspire me I’m Tariq Williams from Cleveland Ohio
All the best to you
you are loved :)
I hope your Dad does come around sending 🙏🏾to you
This is a great video. I never got to come out but i never hid who i am either. I'm 66 and it was a different time. My father told me when I was 14 if i was he was ok with it. I always thought that was so cool of him. Your not only a classy person Brian, but very brave as well. Both of you are
Well well well, Brian, my heart goes out to you on this topic. But I will say this give ur dad the time he needs to process the information. Continue to love him. Leave your door open for him ok. Remember ur a dad too and there are things that Bj may do that will b upsetting to you. So give him grace and space ok. I personally think you did the right thing by officially telling him. My brother be proud of yourself you have been a wonderful example to yourself, family, friends but most importantly you've been a wonderful example to your son Bj, so once Bj is fine you did well. Alec is there by your side too and you have great friends, and you have us. I hope some day we can meet, my dad lives in St Cloud. All in all Brian keep doing what your doing your on the right track. Each generation has to do better than the 1 before so we can all improve. He will come around one day. Just be ready to forgive and welcome him. Have a great day, stay wonderful, happy and blessed..
LanceB.
I ❤❤❤ U LOVEBIRDS HEART AND SOUL. GOD LOVES U AND GOT U AS WELL STAY BREEZY 🙏
Appreciate it Ronald
Good for you Brian. There are people that you want validation from but you have many others that love you, need you, and are perfectly happy that you are living your truth. Alec and BJ are right there loving you so much. I wish only happiness ❤❤
Loved the vlog. Brian stay strong and focus on those who do love and support you. Remember, blood makes you related not family. ❤️🌈
HAPPY SUNDAY FUNDAY BOO ALSO HAPPY MOTHERS DAY TO UR MOMS STAY BREEZY AND HEALTHY LOVEBIRDS 💓 💗 💖
Thanks Ronald. Wishing the same on your side!
Love love and more love guys just continue living your truth.
HAVE A WEDDING ! HAVE AN ENGAGEMENT PARTY! DO NOT INVITE THEM. LET THEM BE. NOT ACCEPTING YOUR LIFE IS HIS PRIVILEGE BUT YOUR GRACE IS TO INVITE HIM WITH CONDITIONS . LET THEM HAVE TIME TO GROW. IT THEY DO GREAT IF NOT PRAY FOR THEM , BUT MOVE FORWARD WITH YOUR BLESSED LIFE. 🙏🙏🙏
I agree 💯% you have to choose you always. Life is short.
Capital letters much? 😂
@@ztomas1 IM NORTH OF 50 I GOT GLOCOMA!😆😆😆
That's my entire angle. Anyone who had or have an issue with my sexuality, have been cut off and haven't looked back. Sometimes, we simply have to find our families outside of the bloodline because true unconditional love and family bonds are skin deep.
Didn't you hear him say that they've already been married for two years?
Happy Mother’s Day to your Moms!!!! I love y’all channel been watching ever since I saw the wedding last year I believe. I advise my cousins to subscribe also to enjoy the REALNESS so THANK YOU! THANK YOU! THANK YOU! Now Alex I WISH I can say it’s HOT because BABEEEEEEE this NY weather is BIPOLAR!! I cannot wait until we retire in a few years to the South!!
Thank you on their behalf! Wishing you a happy Mother’s Day to everyone on your side as well! We really appreciate the positive vibes so much.
Oh yes, this weather is NOT it at the moment. And if this is the heat we experiencing right now, can you imagine once summer actually hit???
Hey Guys! Sending you both love and hugs from Alabama. Brian as for your Father I would definitely say give it to God and let him order your steps going forward. You’re a husband and a Father yourself so your peace is of the utmost importance. Journaling is extremely cathartic as well. I highly recommend it…🤎🤎🤎
Brian, I'm so sorry that you opened yourself up to your father only to get disappointed. I understood just how painful it can be to let down by someone who is supposed to be there for you no matter what & it can be difficult to process the pain. Just know that you are loved by so many and that won't ever change. We're here for you & Alec. Always ❤
Good evening to you guys and hope that u all are doing okay and Happy MOTHERS DAY TO both of you guys and hope u all have a blessed and wonderful day today enjoyed.
Brian, life is too short to be too concerned about your father's feelings. He is living his life and you deserve to live your best life also. Believe me when I say that you are not able to please everyone. You and your husband deserve all the love that this world has to offer. Continue to be kind to each other and everything else will fall into place. Best of luck to you both.
Hello Brian and Alec, I pray for you and your family 🙏🙏 everyday. I'm sorry that you have to go through what you are going through with your Dad and all, just know that you have a FRIEND that don't care about your sexuality but care about your Heart ❤️ This was placed in your life right now because God knew that you would handle it the way that you are right now ❤️😊 I feel that you and Alec and that growing Son of yours are my extended family 🙏🙏🙏 Lots of LOVE ❤❤
My name is Hilda from Mcallen Texas and today May 28, 2024 I just subscribe to your channel and I’m very happy I did it 😊
Brian "You're going to get through this focus on your journey ahead It is well in Gods eye
Thanks Paige 🙏🏽
Proud of you for sensing the message but what I always try and do and my friends tell me or thing I do to much is to do exactly this. Meaning you've done your part to bring him close and make him apart of your family. Him not responding could mean his taking time and don't have the tools to start his conversation with you to gain understanding and find away to be apart of who you are. This being said and coming back to my point of doing your part I say find peace in the fact that you did what you could. I find that if I do my part and I know I mean well and I still am met with nothing then that gives me the freedom to detach and move on. Focus on the people that sees you and accepts you for who you really are and find most the pease in that their within support of you and Alec💓
Wow I admire you Brian, for coming out to your father, he sounds like my father, they know it, they just don't wanna hear the words, i think with time, he'll come around, don't let this get you down, you did right. again he'll come around.
Brian , God has your back. I know the feeling. Hang in there and this to shall pass!!
Brain give you dad time to process it , but parents should have unconditional love ❤️ for there kids. Your happiness matters you and Alec are great together, and you have an amazing son , love is love God is love continue to do you and spread love and inspire the world . Have a happy Sunday borh of you. Blessed love guys .
As a parent I am hopeful Brian. He may just need some time. Pray you are OK either way
Thank you Paulette. I appreciate that 💜
Give dad some time. He probably needs to process before he speaks but if he doesn't, at least you let it be known and you can move on. You have a family that loves you unconditionally in your husband and in your bloodline but also out here in your viewing audience. You both have such big hearts and radiant light. We love you!
thank you for your transparency Brian and Alec. I'm a straight female and I have been a subscriber of you guys for 2 years or more . you guys are a vibe. my best advice is that you "consider the source and ignore it"💯 it's okay for him to be set in his ways. you still have to live your life for your own happiness. sending a virtual hug 🤗
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Boy that is some great advice! I think it was still good to get it out so that it wasn't a lingering feeling, and that I can truly move on. So still happy that I did it. We appreciate you supporting us from the beginning of our journey here and continuing to do so! Much love.
This episode was very emotional. Brian, your Dad may be taking his time to put his thoughts together. He may not know how to respond and probably doesn't want to say the wrong thing. Ultimately, he may not respond they way you hoped, but I'm proud of you for doing so. It was a courageous action on your part. Thankfully, you've got Alec's support and love, BJ's love, all of your friend's support, as well as the Mazegang being here for you. Thankfully, you and Alec found each other and connected. You will experience emotional ups and downs, but you are both so blessed. Thank you for sharing your stories with us. I'm sending good thoughts and well wishes to you, as I know the rest of the gang does too! ❤
Brian, thank you for allowing us into this part of your life. I’m not sure if there’s been an update on his response yet, or lack thereof. But, in your message, you said if he needs time, then take the time…. I understand how you may be feeling because I came out to my dad in 2012 (I was 20), and he didn’t talk to me for about 2 years. He still wished me a happy birthday via text during that time though. Now, we have a MUCH better relationship. I say this to say, don’t lose hope yet. You granted him time to process and it may take longer than you were hoping. Good vibes 💚💛❤️
Love Brian and Alec❤ I will never understand parents on that issue. Just admit you don’t understand but love your child.
And to be honest Leon that's all I wanted to hear. Something! Not just that you left me on read. Tell me you don't understand but you still need time even. But I think all of us in this situation, no matter the age, just want to hear "I love you regardless".
I agree with Alec it’s good Brian did it for himself to unburden that. I agree it’s the parent’s job to facilitate the relationship not the child and it sounds like you tried. It sucks and your feelings are valid. I’m glad your husband could be there for you. Parents like this should be ashamed I don’t get it 😢 like your love for your child shouldn’t be conditional. A lot of ppl are saying he might come around and maybe but try not to take on that burden. It’s his lost if he doesn’t
I am sending yall lots of light and love regardless of the others that are around us! Im learning that if those people weren’t who they are, we wouldn’t be able to move through the world the way we do! 🫶🏽🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈
Dude, u didn't have to come out I know your dad already knew and accepted the way God made u.
Maybe he felt like saying it, he wanted to tell his story, he probably just tired of having of this don't ask don't tell. Alot of families felt like it they don't hear it from you it's not true and he did the right thing by letting him hear it from his own mouth
SIR BRIAN I LOVE U JUST THA WAY U R.. BE U AND KEEP IT REAL. AND JUST REMEMBER GOD GOT U BOO
Definitely will remember that Ronald!
@@MeetTheMazelins HEY UR TRULY WELCOME I REALLY LOVE U GUYS. AND I JUST WANNA LET U KNOW THAT IF THEY LIKE U FOR YOU TELL THEM CUT THA CAMERA OFF AND KISS 💋 UR NATURAL BROWN SUGAR AZZ. AND GET GLAD WITH A CHERRY TO TOP. IF U ASKED ME THEY WOULDN'T GET NO FLAVOR FROM ME. LET THA UPSTAIRS HANDLE THEM HE GETS THA FINAL LAST WORD. UNTIL NEXT TIME LOVEBIRDS PEACE ✌️ LOVE ❤️ AND LIFE HAPPY LIFE
Hello, I'm new here.. I have to Bingen watch now.
Well welcome to our family here on UA-cam Shena! Happy to have you here 💜
Brian, don’t let your dad discourage you in any way. Always remember that you are loved. I love you and most importantly God loves you. ❤ We all have to give-in count of what we do. Love you ❤❤❤
Love you guys ❤
Team all three,flour tortillas,hard shell and taco bowl.
Lol All the above!
That alcohol thing really hit home. I stopped in 2019 only because it wasnt fun anymore. I got a hangover but barely felt anything because my tolerance was so high, so I just stopped. Once I stopped, I lost 20lbs almost instantly. Now I cant even stand the smell of it. Cant even believe we ever felt we needed it just to have fun. Feels good to say, " i dont drink" knowing how far you've come from stopping
THIS! It really doesn’t hit the same at all. And it feels good to make sober memories and realize those times can be just as good too.
Great looking couple you guys seem perfect for each other ❤
Brain and Alec. I have been following you guys from the beginning of your journey. I have much love and respect for the both of you.
I can understand both of those comments, yours and the other gentleman. I also feel like it takes two, the parent, and the Son... However, I can appreciate the way you reached out to him via text message. I also feel like this is a serious issue, and could be better handled in person.
But we don't know the whole story, only what you share with us and I'm sure there is more to it, the hurt and pain, that no one can understand but you.
Nevertheless I am praying 🙏🏾 that God intervenes, sending good energy, healing and forgiveness, while there is still time.... Amen!!