lmao. When you said that the Intj brought up most of the serious topics before dating it's definitely something they do to "test" whether or not your going to be a good investment haha (Intp with an Intj bff here).
Im an intj and i like an istp female your videos really helped, I can see similarities and you guys are a hard nut to crack it drives me crazy. Please make more videos talking about your relationship with your Intj partner.
Funny fact: I too have a system to determine if getting involved with someone is a good idea! 😂 Therefore, I have been in very few relationships throughout life. The thing is, I see a few points that align a lot with your system, buy I devide it in three fields only, being: 1) Attraction - this is not someone you want to be friends with, you must desire this person for real! You must like what you see, but as you said, it has nothing to do with creating an unrealistic idea of the perfect person and so you should deny anyone that is different of it, NO! Allow yourself to experiment a little, but sure, you must like what you see and you must like what you hear. 2) Culture - this one involves both religion and politics, it also englobes values, but it extends to the consumption of entertainment and, of course, the intellectual side. You're going to spend a lot of time with this person, you must share a bases of content, to have things to talk about, and this content reveals alignment on the long therm, considering a family with kids, for example, and growing old together. 3) Chemistry - this one is a little hard to explain. Some people call "chemistry" the liking of ones presence because the talking is fluid and it feels good and so it develops to kissing and touching, but I see this one more linked to "touching rithm". I, myself, have a hard time with touching people physically. I don't feel good hugging too much or hugging all sorts of people, so if I'm getting involved with somebody, romantically, I should feel comfortable with touching this person: holding hands, hugging, kissing, and so on. It comes to happen that people have a different intensity to the act of touching, to me it's what I call the "rithm", like the strength of pressure, the area of contact, positioning, time development... Do you understand?! It drives my cognition and I feel physically linked to somebody, but if there's no chemistry, the whole thing feels weird.
Just got done binge watching all of your videos, I enjoyed listening to you very much. You are definitely a logical person of character that I admire. Hope to see more content from you when your ready.
@@istpperspective2390 Yay! Looking forward to it. I was objectively typed by Type Cast Heroes as an INTJ, but I always get Infj on personality tests. However, my Se doesn't feel inferior at all, so I'm considering that I might be an Istp because Fe does feel like it could be inferior and I also heavily relate to Ti/Ni loop. You are a very relatable Istp female that is rare to find in the community, so you are kind of helping me process whether I might be an ISTP, so thank you for your contribution.
@@livingdiystyle simply watch videos comparing between both and understand the functions , could be a long way ( but not as long as you think if you have limited choices of types) but it's the most trusted one
I agree that one should not simply use type to determine which partner is suitable for a relationship. There are simply too many mistyped people, and you may mistype other persons too. However, using these sort of things as you mentioned to guide you in picking a partner does not seem an optimal way of picking a partner to me. The thing is that they're all focussing on manifestations rather than foundations of the core of a person. They're things that are attached to a person, but viewed from the outside in, rather than from the inside outwards. It's a Te approach that does not seeks an optimal solution , which will similarly not give optimal results either. I would say that underr the right circumstances that approach would be the way to go, like if you are very limited in options or limited in time. However, I think that this is an approach that you should only pick if a more ideal method is not possible. A more Ti-approach would seem to me to find a person who's naturally compatable, because then all these sort of manifestations of the person would likely fit too. If you make a list of things that you want like religion or politics, then how do you know all the other things about a person will fit you too? So many people will tick the boxes if general things like politics or religion are infuencing your choice a lot. Also, by approaching it like it's almost like a business hiring a new person, then it likely will continue to feel like work because most moments in your life will not be about politics or religion. Most moments in your life are random things like sitting in the car together when waiting till the lights are green. I do not think a more "Te solution" takes all these things into account. Most moments in your life will not be about big things. If anything I think too many people settle for relationship partners who are not really that naturally compatable with them but rather something that just kinda works enough. If a relationship is not above 8/10, then it's likely one has simply not chosen the right person. If it costs energy rather than give you energy then it's likely not the right person. Of course if life is hard then it can not all be great, but then it hsould be the envirment that causes the problem, not something between you two. If you do not have kids and have more options, then I would say it's smarter to look further. The most important thing by finding your ideal match is that you have to understand how your subjective partner preferences work and not be influenced by the environment or general views of ideal partners. If you find something attractive that is generally not viewed as such, then you should just pick that. Let's say everyone thinks that succesfull ENTJ type of person is attractive, while you want that more quircky INFP, then your instincts are likely right. Objective positive traits mean nothing because relationships are fully subjective.
Thanks for your thoughts! I think it’s a misconception that having a relationship founded in common values is somehow less fulfilling or less full of love. I find that having unity of mind with someone actually sets my heart free to love more. Also, there is truth in what you’re saying. Those 5 areas may not fully reflect a person’s core, and you may find that overtime their personality is unpalatable. Relationships ARE subjective in many ways, so the dating process is used to discover who that person is at their core, if you like them, and if you are happy with the nature of the relationship. I’m not promoting just marrying someone solely based on initial compatibility. Being concerned about having shared values might sound unimportant or unromantic, but, if you know who you are and what you stand for, having shared values brings joy and peace! And if someone doesn’t have many convictions regarding these categories, then maybe it’s wise to focus on self-development before choosing a life partner.
I just found this channel. As an intj, I don't think I've had the opportunity to cross paths with istps much. its interesting hearing you explain things, maybe its the ni-ti, but something is striking about the tought process that resonates not something ive ever gotten to see or hear from istps. As a viewer, any other info would be welcome.
Do you think intj makes a good istp friend? How can intjs be better at se-ti, i think that is often weaker functions for some reason? What do you notice about the differences in ni-ti in intjs? This video has piqued my curiousity.
Wow I loved your video! Super interesting that you’re engaged to an INTJ, congrats 😊 As an INTJ I really respect that you see marriage as an institution for growth and life satisfaction. I know a few ISTPs my age (early 20s) and they don’t seem as future oriented as you. You seem more Ni focused which is cool. Thanks for the video, cheers!
Congratulations on the wedding! Are there some sources or communities where you would reflect ideas, specifically Mbti/ISTP? You seem well versed in the matter.
I was bothered by the lack of information and the misinformation about ISTPs. Then I realized that instead of being bothered, I should overcome my inhibitions and do something to contribute :)
My sister who I shared a room with for most of my life is an INFJ. I’m sure I’ve picked up on some of her ways, but I’m also very different from her. I’ll take it as a compliment though :)
@@istpperspective2390Interesting! If it weren't for the influence of your sister, you'd probably not have started this channel. It's a very unusual project for an ISTP.
Religion is bollocks! ALL religions have the same general principles; be nice to each other. There might be conflicts if one of them is very traditional and strict in theirs religion and expects you to follow their rules, but if both agree that everyone is praying to the same good/s, just show their love in a different way (and every way of serving is equally appreciated by God,) there shouldn’t be a problem. Politics and Values go hand in hand and are very important! It is important to stay as a separate individual in a relationship but yes, you obviously need some common interests. About the MBTI thing, there is a reason why specialists are highly criticising the system. It is heavily flawed, and arguably doesn’t even exist. Still it can be a good tool to understand your self or other people. You also you or them might mistyped...also, the functions are on a spectrum. They aren’t clear boxes you tick of. You need these things for it to be long term. They need to be your best friend. Especially If you want to have kids.
lmao. When you said that the Intj brought up most of the serious topics before dating it's definitely something they do to "test" whether or not your going to be a good investment haha (Intp with an Intj bff here).
Hello, i'm an ISTP and my husband is an INTJ. We get married since 5 years, it's really cool ! Congratulations by the way ! ^^
Best wishes!!!
Too many people mistype themselves anyway to make decisions according to type. (ISTP/ISTJ very happily married)
Congratulations!
Is your INTJ willing to do a video with you and share some ideas? It would be awesome
Thank you! Time will tell
Thx for sharing. My sis, and really everyone else, could really use this. Also congratulations!
Hope you eventually make more videos again. ISTP fascinates me. -INFP
Im an intj and i like an istp female your videos really helped, I can see similarities and you guys are a hard nut to crack it drives me crazy. Please make more videos talking about your relationship with your Intj partner.
perfect, also you are so cute when you talk about these things - all the best for u guys c:
Funny fact: I too have a system to determine if getting involved with someone is a good idea! 😂 Therefore, I have been in very few relationships throughout life. The thing is, I see a few points that align a lot with your system, buy I devide it in three fields only, being:
1) Attraction - this is not someone you want to be friends with, you must desire this person for real! You must like what you see, but as you said, it has nothing to do with creating an unrealistic idea of the perfect person and so you should deny anyone that is different of it, NO! Allow yourself to experiment a little, but sure, you must like what you see and you must like what you hear.
2) Culture - this one involves both religion and politics, it also englobes values, but it extends to the consumption of entertainment and, of course, the intellectual side. You're going to spend a lot of time with this person, you must share a bases of content, to have things to talk about, and this content reveals alignment on the long therm, considering a family with kids, for example, and growing old together.
3) Chemistry - this one is a little hard to explain. Some people call "chemistry" the liking of ones presence because the talking is fluid and it feels good and so it develops to kissing and touching, but I see this one more linked to "touching rithm". I, myself, have a hard time with touching people physically. I don't feel good hugging too much or hugging all sorts of people, so if I'm getting involved with somebody, romantically, I should feel comfortable with touching this person: holding hands, hugging, kissing, and so on. It comes to happen that people have a different intensity to the act of touching, to me it's what I call the "rithm", like the strength of pressure, the area of contact, positioning, time development... Do you understand?! It drives my cognition and I feel physically linked to somebody, but if there's no chemistry, the whole thing feels weird.
Just got done binge watching all of your videos, I enjoyed listening to you very much. You are definitely a logical person of character that I admire. Hope to see more content from you when your ready.
Thank you! I’m hoping to get started again soon!
@@istpperspective2390 Yay! Looking forward to it.
I was objectively typed by Type Cast Heroes as an INTJ, but I always get Infj on personality tests. However, my Se doesn't feel inferior at all, so I'm considering that I might be an Istp because Fe does feel like it could be inferior and I also heavily relate to Ti/Ni loop. You are a very relatable Istp female that is rare to find in the community, so you are kind of helping me process whether I might be an ISTP, so thank you for your contribution.
@@livingdiystyle simply watch videos comparing between both and understand the functions , could be a long way ( but not as long as you think if you have limited choices of types) but it's the most trusted one
I agree that one should not simply use type to determine which partner is suitable for a relationship. There are simply too many mistyped people, and you may mistype other persons too.
However, using these sort of things as you mentioned to guide you in picking a partner does not seem an optimal way of picking a partner to me. The thing is that they're all focussing on manifestations rather than foundations of the core of a person. They're things that are attached to a person, but viewed from the outside in, rather than from the inside outwards. It's a Te approach that does not seeks an optimal solution , which will similarly not give optimal results either. I would say that underr the right circumstances that approach would be the way to go, like if you are very limited in options or limited in time.
However, I think that this is an approach that you should only pick if a more ideal method is not possible. A more Ti-approach would seem to me to find a person who's naturally compatable, because then all these sort of manifestations of the person would likely fit too. If you make a list of things that you want like religion or politics, then how do you know all the other things about a person will fit you too? So many people will tick the boxes if general things like politics or religion are infuencing your choice a lot.
Also, by approaching it like it's almost like a business hiring a new person, then it likely will continue to feel like work because most moments in your life will not be about politics or religion. Most moments in your life are random things like sitting in the car together when waiting till the lights are green. I do not think a more "Te solution" takes all these things into account. Most moments in your life will not be about big things.
If anything I think too many people settle for relationship partners who are not really that naturally compatable with them but rather something that just kinda works enough. If a relationship is not above 8/10, then it's likely one has simply not chosen the right person. If it costs energy rather than give you energy then it's likely not the right person. Of course if life is hard then it can not all be great, but then it hsould be the envirment that causes the problem, not something between you two. If you do not have kids and have more options, then I would say it's smarter to look further.
The most important thing by finding your ideal match is that you have to understand how your subjective partner preferences work and not be influenced by the environment or general views of ideal partners. If you find something attractive that is generally not viewed as such, then you should just pick that. Let's say everyone thinks that succesfull ENTJ type of person is attractive, while you want that more quircky INFP, then your instincts are likely right. Objective positive traits mean nothing because relationships are fully subjective.
Thanks for your thoughts! I think it’s a misconception that having a relationship founded in common values is somehow less fulfilling or less full of love. I find that having unity of mind with someone actually sets my heart free to love more.
Also, there is truth in what you’re saying. Those 5 areas may not fully reflect a person’s core, and you may find that overtime their personality is unpalatable. Relationships ARE subjective in many ways, so the dating process is used to discover who that person is at their core, if you like them, and if you are happy with the nature of the relationship. I’m not promoting just marrying someone solely based on initial compatibility.
Being concerned about having shared values might sound unimportant or unromantic, but, if you know who you are and what you stand for, having shared values brings joy and peace! And if someone doesn’t have many convictions regarding these categories, then maybe it’s wise to focus on self-development before choosing a life partner.
I just found this channel. As an intj, I don't think I've had the opportunity to cross paths with istps much. its interesting hearing you explain things, maybe its the ni-ti, but something is striking about the tought process that resonates not something ive ever gotten to see or hear from istps. As a viewer, any other info would be welcome.
Do you think intj makes a good istp friend? How can intjs be better at se-ti, i think that is often weaker functions for some reason? What do you notice about the differences in ni-ti in intjs? This video has piqued my curiousity.
GIRL! Where you at?? 🤣 Come back!! Lol I need more videos about myself!
Istp's are more weird
-By an intj, one of the types more inusuals
Wow I loved your video! Super interesting that you’re engaged to an INTJ, congrats 😊 As an INTJ I really respect that you see marriage as an institution for growth and life satisfaction. I know a few ISTPs my age (early 20s) and they don’t seem as future oriented as you. You seem more Ni focused which is cool. Thanks for the video, cheers!
Thank you! I’ve got lots of Ni influence in my life :)
Congratulations on the wedding! Are there some sources or communities where you would reflect ideas, specifically Mbti/ISTP? You seem well versed in the matter.
Thanks! Haha I have no other communities I’m involved in
How did you meet your INTJ? :)
I met him at a worship night, but didn’t get to know him until a couple months later
@@istpperspective2390 What's a worship night? O.o
Additional question. What was the driver for you making this channel?
I was bothered by the lack of information and the misinformation about ISTPs. Then I realized that instead of being bothered, I should overcome my inhibitions and do something to contribute :)
Interesting channel:) /istp
You seem so infj ish
My sister who I shared a room with for most of my life is an INFJ. I’m sure I’ve picked up on some of her ways, but I’m also very different from her. I’ll take it as a compliment though :)
@@istpperspective2390Interesting!
If it weren't for the influence of your sister, you'd probably not have started this channel. It's a very unusual project for an ISTP.
There is still time to run, dont to this to yourself
Religion is bollocks! ALL religions have the same general principles; be nice to each other. There might be conflicts if one of them is very traditional and strict in theirs religion and expects you to follow their rules, but if both agree that everyone is praying to the same good/s, just show their love in a different way (and every way of serving is equally appreciated by God,) there shouldn’t be a problem.
Politics and Values go hand in hand and are very important!
It is important to stay as a separate individual in a relationship but yes, you obviously need some common interests.
About the MBTI thing, there is a reason why specialists are highly criticising the system. It is heavily flawed, and arguably doesn’t even exist. Still it can be a good tool to understand your self or other people. You also you or them might mistyped...also, the functions are on a spectrum. They aren’t clear boxes you tick of.
You need these things for it to be long term. They
need to be your best friend. Especially If you want to have kids.
Nah