Thing I like most about this video is that you left in the after, removing the rope, undoing the zipper, water, cookies. It may have been a simple demonstration but still shows after care, which can sometimes get over looked.
Aftercare, negotiation, and a clear definition of roles is equally as important at the ability to tie knots or throw a flogger..... i have been a professional and lifestyle dominatrix for a few years now, and love that safety is being addressed here on youtube in a shame free, and open way. please continue this series, my submissive and I would love to continue watching, and comparing our lifestyle to others.
I'd love to see a part 2 of this that includes an aftercare techniques run-down for newbies c: I see too many new, curious people in public kink spaces that are eager to get to tying up pretty people, but that don't even know that they should be doing something for the aforementioned rope bunnies afterwards. (of course, this should be discussed before a scene anyway, during negotiations, but if the newbie rigger doesn't know what aftercare even is, it's a moot point)
I think that before you go any further into BDSM you should make a video about aftercare. Many people don't realize how important aftercare is when they start doing things like this, which is a bad thing and can lead to a terrible BDSM experience.
+JediMasterT YES! and sub space. I've been a rope top for a while now and I've had a number of new bottoms fall into subspace with out realizing it. Also community. I know that many strictly only practice in the privacy of their bedrooms but there are alot of people out there to learn from. Also safety. Many new people join sites like FetLife and get into bad situations because they didn't take percaution (hence the rather large population of femails in their 90's living in Antartica who are into kink.)
+JediMasterT Yes! I was just going to make this comment myself. Aftercare can consist of different things for different people, so what aftercare means to a person should be discussed between partners. I know that sometimes tops might need aftercare, too.
I would love to see Dr. Doe get in to the nitty gritty of 50 Shades of Grey and how it's abuse, not BDSM. That being said, I'm looking forward to more of these informative BDSM videos, and more videos in general. I love them so much!
I've seen lots of tutorial videos for basic shibari, but your way of showing the ropes makes it so easy to learn! I'd love to see more simple tutorials like this one! Thank you!
This is cool! I like that you're getting into talking about BDSM. That said, there are a couple points I want to add. 1. Actually, safewords aren't necessary. By which I mean, it's totally OK in bondage and other forms of BDSM to just say "stop" when you mean stop. Communication does not need to be coded. Coded safewords are good in circumstances when a person wants to struggle and say things like "no" or "stop" but not be listened to. 2. You mentioned using a bow tie knot as handcuffs or anklecuffs. I would not recommend this for most people. A single loop around a wrist or ankle is not generally a good or safe way to tie someone, and when that loop can tighten it can *really* be a bad thing.
+gothicfeline Yeah, any kind of slip knot is generally to be avoided, unless it's for changing the length of a tether, for example a double half hitch, and even then just pulling on the rope from end to end doesn't move it, you have to adjust it at the knot. Any time you're wrapping limbs, you want to make a hitch point by changing the rope's direction, going around again, and hooking it against itself. Then you can pull a small loop through, then pull the length of rope through the loop. And make sure the loop hitch goes around the entire cuff not just the last wrap. It's hard to explain verbally but just make sure the loop doesn't tighten when you pull the rope. Formation of slack sections is also an indication that it's getting tighter somewhere else so watch out for that.
i always thought that the use of safewords in bdsm is unnecessary, like what's wrong with straight-forward talk? i'm glad i'm not the only one who thinks that
Add this type of single rope unsafe knot to the "body shake" as the safe word chosen and you got a potential disaster brewing. Rope play is dangerous because people have veins and nerves and you have to be very mindful of the dangers. I would add, specifically for rope play that people should rehearse a "hand check" to see if the nerves - at least on the arms which are most prone to damage - got damaged or not. What I usually do is I place one or two fingers on the palm of my bottom's hand, and tell them to squeeze, then I embrace their closed fist with my hand and tell them to open their hands. We do this for both hands before play and during play so that I know if there is a significant loss of strength.
I'm glad we're finally getting to this topic. I like that you're so clinical about it, so people can see it's just like any other role play, and not something dark and sinister.
I'm reading a graphic novel called Sunstone, which I think is a much better representation of BDSM than 50 Shades. If you're even remotely interested in BDSM, Sunstone might be a good read for you.
Agreed! Sunstone is an amazing series that more accurately represents what BDSM is really about! So glad others know about it and are willing to share!
Good video, also a nice choice of beginner tie. I think you should have included a warning about rope burn since it's so quick to happen, relatively easy to prevent, some bad rope choices make it nigh inevitable and the scars are often permanent. Thanks for the video.
This community is so cool. Going through the comments, even the silly and trolly comments are sex possessive and not negatively judgmental. :) I very much second the after care video to go with this series. I'm not the type to say it is always needed, in fact with my partner and I, because the bondage is done mostly for beauty, we rarely need any specific after care. That being said, the few times we have done it for other reasons (helping release pain from an emotionally abusive job by inducing physical pain that actually does stop when you can't take anymore), after care was critical.
Whoa, that was a lot of info for a complex niche, and you did an awesome job. A lot of cities and possibly smaller suburbs offer Bondage classes for all levels. This is a great way to meet like-minded people, play with equipment before purchase, and have one-on-one attention from a qualified provider. Does anyone know if there’s an accredited program to become a teacher? I’ve never heard of it, but think it would be a good idea to check references. Anyway, go Doc, on the rope skills. Unless I practice on a regular basis, my hands get dyslexic.
+Laharl Krichevskoy Seriously, google Two Knotty Boys. They have really good instructions. I could never do the coin knot (even just for my macreme) until I looked at their work. Also, you don't need to know many knots to have a good time with bondage....or at all for that matter because arm binders and sleeves and cuffs and stuff.
I love how you also see, at the end of the video, how she helps him out and gives him food and drink. I think this is the most important of all sexual acts: making sure both parties are ok.
I'm so happy that you're making a video about this! I absolutely love bondage but I was wondering if you could cover something for people who like bondage but also have a disability of some kind (I have a bad shoulder that makes it almost impossible to have my arms behind my back). Or if any of you lovely UA-cam folks have tips as well
I loved this! Thank you for also showing the friendly trust established with snacks and conversation at the end. You are lovely Dr. Doe. Keep up the good work.
This was really interesting and very well presented. There's often a thought among people that BDSM is weird and trying people up is wrong or perverse, thanks for such an informative and explanatory video :)
First time watching one of your videos and I got to say, I love it! You explain things very clearly and know the importance of safety while still having fun with your play partner. Can't wait to see more!
Dr. Doe I found this video very interesting. Please teach us more - whips, knife play, Japanese bondage. It would be so helpful to learn from you and not some dark corner of the internet.
I LOOOOVE rope bondage. It is so beautiful and it feels so good to be all bound up. I also love the caring yet forceful movements of whoever is binding you. A couple years ago I did a kinbaku photoshoot with one of my favourite photographers and a different style of rope bondage again with another photographer this year. I even managed to bring it into a burlesque routine for a local fetish event that I perform at each year. I have a friend who is very active in the fet scene and I go along to her weekly bondage classes if her regular bunny can't make it.
+kujmous Definitely relying on submissive bondage/power dynamic in that one, otherwise it would just slide off if the bottom moved. For better restraint you'd want to have straps added to make it an arm binder or do rope over top.
All the points for showing the aftercare! (maybe an idea for a separate video?) I'm sure a lot of folks are going to want to know where to find a cool suit like that.
It's good that some ropework is shown. My first attempts back in the day were not at all comfortable. When the willing participant is sufficiently tied the feeling of power and control is excuisite :)
If anyone is interested, may I also suggest the 'ropecast' podcast? It is a wealth of information on rope and also it deals with adult themes like relationships, respect, artistic expression and communication. As for books, Lindsey suggests the definitive classics but there're now also books for more laid back, more playful styles of bondage.
+Kalliste Yeah, this girl is weird, her videos are all very straight and simple and not sexy at all. Wich i guess is ok for education, i've watched others that are too sexy to pick the message.
+Kalliste Well she's a doctor and she's trying to be professional. It can be hard to be both sexually open and professional sometimes because a lot of what defines professional behavior is not being sexual at all. That's probably why these vids seem stilted at times.
Sir.mixalot the 3rd I can imagine Dr Doe doing the safety instructions and then the lights dim and over the speaker you hear "and now for our in-flight entertainment" and now she's standing there unwinding her nylon rope and explaining how to use it safely ;)
svankensen camazotzz I didn't say it was a bad thing. I'm a Patron of Sexplanations and enjoy Dr Doe's videos. I can just imagine her doing this *variation* of plane safety videos :D
Can I just say that I appreciate you and your work because it not only educates me and provides ways of thinking about something - but you help me think about what I find to be a great stress relief with my partner in positive ways. I'm also reminded of what to look out for, such as high risk actions, that can result in negative consequences. With all that in mind I'm able to be a proper Dom that will look out for my Sub and will complete the fantasies of my Sub with controlled risk involved. Especially since we live in a society that not only has laws that can easily take us down if we do things incorrectly but social standings can easily be destroyed if we don't have the consent n controlled risk.
That I'd a dangerous tie!! If you use slip knots they can tighten them selves during play and possibly cause damage!!! They are great for improvised handcuffs if they are secured so they don't slip.
Also, I was under the impression that circulation constriction as indicated by pins and needles and discoloration wasn't dangerous for short periods of time, and doesn't cause lasting damage. It's nerve damage, which has a much different feeling, that's the dangerous part. I am pale and bruise and show discoloration easily. That's why a lot of rope tops I know ask you to check in and wiggle your fingers as the tying goes on, rather than relying on visual cues.
Good video! Makes me want to try, as I've only done the DSM part of BDSM so far. You demonstrated how "yellow" and "red" can be used in scenes. As a novice top, I've been trying to figure out how to use "green," too. I felt I needed this colour so I could better distinguish signs of play discomfort ("no, please, I'll be good") from actual discomfort. But, having a bottom going, "green, green, green, green" through most of the scene would be ridiculous, as well as giving him too much apparent power. I decided that a bottom can say "yellow" and "red" as appropriate, but only say "green" when I ask, "What colour, boi?" It has worked well so far.
I don't think I've got the kink but I may end up learning a bunch of rope play stuff just out of nerdiness. It's so pretty and intricate and there's all sorts of history and careful consideration behind it. Very interesting stuff.
Dragonfly sleeves are my favourite, they make me feel so pretty, I'm so glad you chose them for representing bondage :) But also, I would like to echo other comments about making a video more heavily showing how aftercare is important, you implied it here but I think it needs more discussion. Thanks for making these! :)
Thank you for the tutorial. I am always looking to improve my rope tying skills and this is a great one to include in my repertoire. Will use it tomorrow. I am so excited. Would you recommend any other videos or sources of interesting configurations? Aloha
Loved this so much! Awesome explanation of the psychology of bondage and excellent tutorial :) Can't wait for the rest of this series! Keep up the great work.
Thats an awesome tie, I have been getting into rope lately, literally and figuratively. The only things I would have added would be the meaning of the terms rigger and bunny.
YES!!!! Thank you, this was awesome! I'm sure this is going to be expounded upon in FL. I loved your explanations. My rope group does public demonstrations sometimes and I always get the question of WHY? I also enjoyed your demo: simple, easy, and fairly safe to do. Some of this is just good general info for anyone who is interested in this stuff: But yes i agree with others who are saying that after care requires more coverage, and by extension subspace which is very often an effect of being in the ropes. Also a big one... no rope on the neck unless you know what your doing. Rope being placed on the neck or slipping onto the neck during a session is the number one cause of injury and death in bondage practice. For those interested in trying it out: If you are 18 or older then there is an awesome site called Fet Life, FetLife.com Its not a dating site... its more of a community of people with similar interests. But just like any online group be safe! Don't meet up with some one you don't know privately. Even small towns or near by larger cities have fetish communities that hold regular "Munches" or a public meet and greet. Get to know people, have fun, stay safe! Two mottoes you will hear: Safe Sane and Consensual Risk Aware Consensual Kink *and just a note, while its great to learn to do this with your partner, if you become interested in aspects like suspensions please please please do your research and seek out someone in the community who knows there stuff. Suspension can be very dangerous, but still a very wonderful experience. There are a number of groups on FetLife dedicated to bondage: Japanese Rope Art - Kinbaku - Shibari Riggers and Rope Sluts Rope Educator's Forum (REF) Rope Suspension and Rigging Predicament bondage Shibari And many dedicated to local groups.
FYI that first knot is most commonly known as the handcuff knot and the second one is overhand on a bight (outside of this environment). Just so that people are aware knots have multiple names and the ones used might not be the common ones. I am a master knot tier in Scouting, although I do not participate in this activity I do find it interesting.
@@andrewjackson7758 there's nothing wrong with 5 out if the 6 interests that you've condemed; if you get too stuck on anything it can be a problem. Especially if your partner not into it, but if it ain't hurting anyone and it makes you both happy then why not? (Some may require diligent clean up, others probably should double up on the birth control....but if the only consequence is that two consenting mature people cum and smile then I support that.)
yeah No, just that type of beard obviously. I'm going to take your question at face value in that ur not being a smart ass. In my profile you can see I've got a beard for example but I'm not a hipster, at the very least bc it's not a full beard. Then there's the necessary short hair, cool attitude, age, clothing choices etc Willing seems to fit those requirements. Don't overthink it 😐
Nylon is definitely best for beginners. If using natural fiber rope (like hemp, cotton, or jute) be careful not to get it wet. The fibers can absorb the water and the knots will swell, making it difficult, or impossible to untie. Sweating is fine. Pouring water, or peeing on someone is not. If you know you're going to engage in any type of okay involving liquid, stick with nylon rope and it shouldn't be an issue.
3:32 wtf is he super shredded that I can see his veins through the suit or is that just part of the suit? Look at his arms especially his right. 3:36 is a good closer look as well where you can see how lean he is and where it's just part of the suit and his actual veins I think I can make out his vascularity through the suit omg he must be jacked as hell haha.
+Blaze They are actually the persons veins, except the suit seams. They follow the common paths of veins on the arms. Annnnd. Shooting heroin is a really shitty example of something that would make veins show. Esp since, after using, they'd constrict again. Users, addicts, and the like really don't appreciate the constant jabs at it just for comedic value.
OurPeanutGallerie What other example would you use then? How is that intended for comedic value when it is the truth? Do we also have to ignore the effects of drugs now to save peoples feelings?
This was more useful than my entire semester of high school health class.
CJ May was it more useful for you than health class
Thing I like most about this video is that you left in the after, removing the rope, undoing the zipper, water, cookies. It may have been a simple demonstration but still shows after care, which can sometimes get over looked.
Aftercare, negotiation, and a clear definition of roles is equally as important at the ability to tie knots or throw a flogger..... i have been a professional and lifestyle dominatrix for a few years now, and love that safety is being addressed here on youtube in a shame free, and open way. please continue this series, my submissive and I would love to continue watching, and comparing our lifestyle to others.
K Stidnick would love to have a dominatrix one day
I'd love to see a part 2 of this that includes an aftercare techniques run-down for newbies c: I see too many new, curious people in public kink spaces that are eager to get to tying up pretty people, but that don't even know that they should be doing something for the aforementioned rope bunnies afterwards. (of course, this should be discussed before a scene anyway, during negotiations, but if the newbie rigger doesn't know what aftercare even is, it's a moot point)
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+Michael Jarrett Fuck you. You made me giggle like a little girl.
+Michael Jarrett Daaad... get off youtube!
Wait, that totally came out wrong.
+spartawar117 He made me laugh like a man. This was hilarious.
spartawar117 From what I heard I was bound to enjoy it.
***** I have made friends who are tied with my interest.
I love that you added the aftercare scene at the end, it definitely modelled good practise and concern and care for the participant. Good episode!
I think that before you go any further into BDSM you should make a video about aftercare. Many people don't realize how important aftercare is when they start doing things like this, which is a bad thing and can lead to a terrible BDSM experience.
+JediMasterT Especially since the whole "50 Shades of Grey" craze is a terrible representation of true BDSM relationships.
+JediMasterT YES! and sub space. I've been a rope top for a while now and I've had a number of new bottoms fall into subspace with out realizing it. Also community. I know that many strictly only practice in the privacy of their bedrooms but there are alot of people out there to learn from. Also safety. Many new people join sites like FetLife and get into bad situations because they didn't take percaution (hence the rather large population of femails in their 90's living in Antartica who are into kink.)
+JediMasterT Yes! I was just going to make this comment myself. Aftercare can consist of different things for different people, so what aftercare means to a person should be discussed between partners. I know that sometimes tops might need aftercare, too.
+KibethNehema I mean no offense but what does subspace and rope top imply?
+JediMasterT Should also talk about subdrop.
"Thumbs Up" for Dr. Doe knowing the difference between an acronym and an initialism.
Shout out to John Green for teaching me the difference.
It's just the popular usage of the terms. Language changes, go read up on linguistic descriptivism.
Acronyms are initialisms that make a word. Eg. Semi Contained Underwater Breathing Apparatus =SCUBA
The willing participant was damn fine underneath that mask!
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Agree.
I would love to see Dr. Doe get in to the nitty gritty of 50 Shades of Grey and how it's abuse, not BDSM. That being said, I'm looking forward to more of these informative BDSM videos, and more videos in general. I love them so much!
+DarkSpiritMorrigan Laci Green did a great video of this a couple years ago.
toll_booth Thank you! I will have to go watch it now!
+toll_booth could we possibly get links for us mobile youtube watchers? please and thank you
I agree. 50 Shades isn't about consensual BDSM, it's rape fantasy...an entirely different kink.
I liked the friendly after care at the end.
Im so glad that she emphasized not only consent but also showed aftercare. A+ Dr. Doe!
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Everything gets sexier with Venn diagrams!
Love how the video text is more dynamic while enforcing what's being demonstrated. Definite evolution.
I've seen lots of tutorial videos for basic shibari, but your way of showing the ropes makes it so easy to learn! I'd love to see more simple tutorials like this one! Thank you!
Bold. Move. Nice job, SP. No one actually puts this out in an honest, safe, truly genuine way like you do. Brilliant.
I love that you are not afraid to talk about anything. Stay amazing!
After care is important too! I'm glad you showed yourself giving the willing participant some snacks and then chatting afterwards
This is cool! I like that you're getting into talking about BDSM. That said, there are a couple points I want to add.
1. Actually, safewords aren't necessary. By which I mean, it's totally OK in bondage and other forms of BDSM to just say "stop" when you mean stop. Communication does not need to be coded. Coded safewords are good in circumstances when a person wants to struggle and say things like "no" or "stop" but not be listened to.
2. You mentioned using a bow tie knot as handcuffs or anklecuffs. I would not recommend this for most people. A single loop around a wrist or ankle is not generally a good or safe way to tie someone, and when that loop can tighten it can *really* be a bad thing.
+gothicfeline Yeah, any kind of slip knot is generally to be avoided, unless it's for changing the length of a tether, for example a double half hitch, and even then just pulling on the rope from end to end doesn't move it, you have to adjust it at the knot. Any time you're wrapping limbs, you want to make a hitch point by changing the rope's direction, going around again, and hooking it against itself. Then you can pull a small loop through, then pull the length of rope through the loop. And make sure the loop hitch goes around the entire cuff not just the last wrap. It's hard to explain verbally but just make sure the loop doesn't tighten when you pull the rope. Formation of slack sections is also an indication that it's getting tighter somewhere else so watch out for that.
i always thought that the use of safewords in bdsm is unnecessary, like what's wrong with straight-forward talk? i'm glad i'm not the only one who thinks that
Add this type of single rope unsafe knot to the "body shake" as the safe word chosen and you got a potential disaster brewing. Rope play is dangerous because people have veins and nerves and you have to be very mindful of the dangers. I would add, specifically for rope play that people should rehearse a "hand check" to see if the nerves - at least on the arms which are most prone to damage - got damaged or not. What I usually do is I place one or two fingers on the palm of my bottom's hand, and tell them to squeeze, then I embrace their closed fist with my hand and tell them to open their hands. We do this for both hands before play and during play so that I know if there is a significant loss of strength.
I'm glad we're finally getting to this topic. I like that you're so clinical about it, so people can see it's just like any other role play, and not something dark and sinister.
I'm reading a graphic novel called Sunstone, which I think is a much better representation of BDSM than 50 Shades. If you're even remotely interested in BDSM, Sunstone might be a good read for you.
Thank you for the recommendation
ANYTHING is a better representation of BDSM than 50 Shades :p
ShadeSlayer1911 you read my mind
Agreed! Sunstone is an amazing series that more accurately represents what BDSM is really about! So glad others know about it and are willing to share!
Hell yeah! That is a mighty fine comic book!
I'm so glad you took the time to do this. BDSM culture is misunderstood by a lot of people.
The comments on these videos continually restore my faith in humanity. Great job everyone!
Kelsey Rankin cool 😎
Not only did I learn about B, but also how to tie a bow tie knot! Sexplanations does it again. Thanks, Lindsey et al!
I really appreciate the outro showing aftercare, really sets the example for a respectful atmosphere
Sex positive education makes me happy. I love this channel so freaking much.
I love how respectful and playful this video is.
I cannot put into words how happy I am that you are doing a series on BDSM! :D
BDSM is life, BDSM is love.
Lindsey L you must love BDSM
shes done this before
+Poor Man Mods Duh.
Poor Man Mods + 😂😂
what are you on about? this is pretty much as far from 50 shades of grey as you could be.
Rafael Dos Santos this is not bdsm hahaha obviously someone does know the difference
Brittany Barba well it is B, just not DSM
Good video, also a nice choice of beginner tie. I think you should have included a warning about rope burn since it's so quick to happen, relatively easy to prevent, some bad rope choices make it nigh inevitable and the scars are often permanent. Thanks for the video.
This community is so cool. Going through the comments, even the silly and trolly comments are sex possessive and not negatively judgmental. :) I very much second the after care video to go with this series. I'm not the type to say it is always needed, in fact with my partner and I, because the bondage is done mostly for beauty, we rarely need any specific after care. That being said, the few times we have done it for other reasons (helping release pain from an emotionally abusive job by inducing physical pain that actually does stop when you can't take anymore), after care was critical.
Whoa, that was a lot of info for a complex niche, and you did an awesome job. A lot of cities and possibly smaller suburbs offer Bondage classes for all levels. This is a great way to meet like-minded people, play with equipment before purchase, and have one-on-one attention from a qualified provider. Does anyone know if there’s an accredited program to become a teacher? I’ve never heard of it, but think it would be a good idea to check references. Anyway, go Doc, on the rope skills. Unless I practice on a regular basis, my hands get dyslexic.
Devora Gray I can help you out if you want
Ugh, you make the knot tying look so easy =[. Should have joined the scouts.
+Laharl Krichevskoy Seriously, google Two Knotty Boys. They have really good instructions. I could never do the coin knot (even just for my macreme) until I looked at their work. Also, you don't need to know many knots to have a good time with bondage....or at all for that matter because arm binders and sleeves and cuffs and stuff.
+Laharl Krichevskoy Lol get a boyscouts badge for tying a fellow camper in bondage. Love to see how that goes with the Councillors xD
Even though it's not the end of the lesson I'm very happy that Aftercare was still shown. Good job!
I love how you also see, at the end of the video, how she helps him out and gives him food and drink. I think this is the most important of all sexual acts: making sure both parties are ok.
I've always been interested in BDSM. It's nice to be shown the ropes.
I see what you did there.
I really appreciate that she speaks quickly.
I liked that you showed some after-care at the end of the video, but I hope you'll explicitly mention it at some point in this series of videos.
I'm so happy that you're making a video about this! I absolutely love bondage but I was wondering if you could cover something for people who like bondage but also have a disability of some kind (I have a bad shoulder that makes it almost impossible to have my arms behind my back).
Or if any of you lovely UA-cam folks have tips as well
I like how you demonstrated after care at the end. Very important part of practicing BDSM
I loved this! Thank you for also showing the friendly trust established with snacks and conversation at the end.
You are lovely Dr. Doe.
Keep up the good work.
Lyssandra Norton do you like bdsm
This lady really knows her onions, and knots! Dr. Doe rocks!
"Is this to tight?"
"Yes!"
"Ok good continue."
This was really interesting and very well presented. There's often a thought among people that BDSM is weird and trying people up is wrong or perverse, thanks for such an informative and explanatory video :)
First time watching one of your videos and I got to say, I love it! You explain things very clearly and know the importance of safety while still having fun with your play partner. Can't wait to see more!
I am happy I learned this. I was always curious about how this worked, but I've never had the experience. It looks fun, thank you for making this!
Love to see high quality content like this! However the highlight of the video is your earrings, I have them in 2 colors and they're my favorite
Dr. Doe I found this video very interesting. Please teach us more - whips, knife play, Japanese bondage. It would be so helpful to learn from you and not some dark corner of the internet.
Waseema Lombard are you into whips and knife play
I LOOOOVE rope bondage. It is so beautiful and it feels so good to be all bound up. I also love the caring yet forceful movements of whoever is binding you. A couple years ago I did a kinbaku photoshoot with one of my favourite photographers and a different style of rope bondage again with another photographer this year. I even managed to bring it into a burlesque routine for a local fetish event that I perform at each year. I have a friend who is very active in the fet scene and I go along to her weekly bondage classes if her regular bunny can't make it.
A large pillowcase can be used to encase a persons arms if you tuck them in behind their back and have the person lay back upon it.
+kujmous Definitely relying on submissive bondage/power dynamic in that one, otherwise it would just slide off if the bottom moved. For better restraint you'd want to have straps added to make it an arm binder or do rope over top.
Your videos are always fun to watch. This one made me LOL a few times. Great job.
All the points for showing the aftercare! (maybe an idea for a separate video?)
I'm sure a lot of folks are going to want to know where to find a cool suit like that.
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It's good that some ropework is shown. My first attempts back in the day were not at all comfortable. When the willing participant is sufficiently tied the feeling of power and control is excuisite :)
You should do more videos on BDSM and touch more on subcategories like pet play, edge play, slave, humiliation, etc.
If anyone is interested, may I also suggest the 'ropecast' podcast? It is a wealth of information on rope and also it deals with adult themes like relationships, respect, artistic expression and communication.
As for books, Lindsey suggests the definitive classics but there're now also books for more laid back, more playful styles of bondage.
Omg this has to be the most lovely and funny video about this topic ever. Amazing.
the end has me rolling, water and snacks with a big smile!
I kept getting a airplane safety video vibe from this :D
+Kalliste i want to know what traveling agency you use, sounds like a interesting one. ;)
+Kalliste Yeah, this girl is weird, her videos are all very straight and simple and not sexy at all. Wich i guess is ok for education, i've watched others that are too sexy to pick the message.
+Kalliste Well she's a doctor and she's trying to be professional. It can be hard to be both sexually open and professional sometimes because a lot of what defines professional behavior is not being sexual at all. That's probably why these vids seem stilted at times.
Sir.mixalot the 3rd I can imagine Dr Doe doing the safety instructions and then the lights dim and over the speaker you hear "and now for our in-flight entertainment" and now she's standing there unwinding her nylon rope and explaining how to use it safely ;)
svankensen camazotzz I didn't say it was a bad thing. I'm a Patron of Sexplanations and enjoy Dr Doe's videos. I can just imagine her doing this *variation* of plane safety videos :D
Can I just say that I appreciate you and your work because it not only educates me and provides ways of thinking about something - but you help me think about what I find to be a great stress relief with my partner in positive ways. I'm also reminded of what to look out for, such as high risk actions, that can result in negative consequences. With all that in mind I'm able to be a proper Dom that will look out for my Sub and will complete the fantasies of my Sub with controlled risk involved. Especially since we live in a society that not only has laws that can easily take us down if we do things incorrectly but social standings can easily be destroyed if we don't have the consent n controlled risk.
The green stand-in episodes are some of my favorites. Also that dress is amazing, Lindsey!
Absolutely fantastic video-
Direct, informative, and very easy to follow!
That I'd a dangerous tie!! If you use slip knots they can tighten them selves during play and possibly cause damage!!! They are great for improvised handcuffs if they are secured so they don't slip.
Also, I was under the impression that circulation constriction as indicated by pins and needles and discoloration wasn't dangerous for short periods of time, and doesn't cause lasting damage. It's nerve damage, which has a much different feeling, that's the dangerous part. I am pale and bruise and show discoloration easily. That's why a lot of rope tops I know ask you to check in and wiggle your fingers as the tying goes on, rather than relying on visual cues.
Thank you for this video Dr. Doe. I especially love how you reinforce communication through the WHOLE possess and the use of safe words. :D
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Good video! Makes me want to try, as I've only done the DSM part of BDSM so far. You demonstrated how "yellow" and "red" can be used in scenes. As a novice top, I've been trying to figure out how to use "green," too. I felt I needed this colour so I could better distinguish signs of play discomfort ("no, please, I'll be good") from actual discomfort. But, having a bottom going, "green, green, green, green" through most of the scene would be ridiculous, as well as giving him too much apparent power. I decided that a bottom can say "yellow" and "red" as appropriate, but only say "green" when I ask, "What colour, boi?" It has worked well so far.
I don't think I've got the kink but I may end up learning a bunch of rope play stuff just out of nerdiness. It's so pretty and intricate and there's all sorts of history and careful consideration behind it. Very interesting stuff.
Finally, you can impress that girl with those fancy knots you learned in boy scouts.
"a double Slipknot" \m/
Really looking forward to the rest of this series!
I think im going to enjoy this. Appreciation and love always, Dr. Doe 🙂
Thank you for this! The tutorial is the perfect pace. Please make more!
Dragonfly sleeves are my favourite, they make me feel so pretty, I'm so glad you chose them for representing bondage :) But also, I would like to echo other comments about making a video more heavily showing how aftercare is important, you implied it here but I think it needs more discussion. Thanks for making these! :)
This is an enlightening video! Thank you for presenting this in a safe easy to use manner, and correctly emphasizing communication.
Such an easy and beautiful tie!
Thank you for the tutorial. I am always looking to improve my rope tying skills and this is a great one to include in my repertoire. Will use it tomorrow. I am so excited. Would you recommend any other videos or sources of interesting configurations? Aloha
It's an extremely broad topic & needs more follow up. It's titled 101, but even that would need at least a series of 10 min vids to do it justice.
Green guy steps on screen: "Oh this just got a whole lot kinkier..."
3:39 that look in your eye when you say attach them to furniture LOL I'm dying you are so hilarious!
Loved this so much! Awesome explanation of the psychology of bondage and excellent tutorial :) Can't wait for the rest of this series! Keep up the great work.
With aftercare! Very nice! But I hope there will be explicit mention of it in at least one of the next videos.
Thats an awesome tie, I have been getting into rope lately, literally and figuratively.
The only things I would have added would be the meaning of the terms rigger and bunny.
YES!!!! Thank you, this was awesome! I'm sure this is going to be expounded upon in FL. I loved your explanations. My rope group does public demonstrations sometimes and I always get the question of WHY? I also enjoyed your demo: simple, easy, and fairly safe to do.
Some of this is just good general info for anyone who is interested in this stuff:
But yes i agree with others who are saying that after care requires more coverage, and by extension subspace which is very often an effect of being in the ropes.
Also a big one... no rope on the neck unless you know what your doing. Rope being placed on the neck or slipping onto the neck during a session is the number one cause of injury and death in bondage practice.
For those interested in trying it out:
If you are 18 or older then there is an awesome site called Fet Life, FetLife.com
Its not a dating site... its more of a community of people with similar interests.
But just like any online group be safe! Don't meet up with some one you don't know privately. Even small towns or near by larger cities have fetish communities that hold regular "Munches" or a public meet and greet. Get to know people, have fun, stay safe!
Two mottoes you will hear:
Safe Sane and Consensual
Risk Aware Consensual Kink
*and just a note, while its great to learn to do this with your partner, if you become interested in aspects like suspensions please please please do your research and seek out someone in the community who knows there stuff. Suspension can be very dangerous, but still a very wonderful experience.
There are a number of groups on FetLife dedicated to bondage:
Japanese Rope Art - Kinbaku - Shibari
Riggers and Rope Sluts
Rope Educator's Forum (REF)
Rope Suspension and Rigging
Predicament bondage
Shibari
And many dedicated to local groups.
Thanks, I love this. Time for some fun this valentine's day.
The knot you used at the wrist location is different then the "double slip knot". Please explain the configuration of the knot at wrist location
probably my fave vid so far. thank you!!
FYI that first knot is most commonly known as the handcuff knot and the second one is overhand on a bight (outside of this environment). Just so that people are aware knots have multiple names and the ones used might not be the common ones. I am a master knot tier in Scouting, although I do not participate in this activity I do find it interesting.
I have a bondage kink and I have no shame
I have a pantyhose kink amongst many others.
@@andrewjackson7758 there's nothing wrong with 5 out if the 6 interests that you've condemed; if you get too stuck on anything it can be a problem. Especially if your partner not into it, but if it ain't hurting anyone and it makes you both happy then why not? (Some may require diligent clean up, others probably should double up on the birth control....but if the only consequence is that two consenting mature people cum and smile then I support that.)
A very good video. Informative & entertaining.
thanks for this video....I was always curious how the tying up or rather the knots actually work
that was amazing! so informative and easy to follow guide
After care is an insanely important topic to this as well, if you wouldn't mind talking about that too. :)
Start this video, immediately her lego lightsaber earrings catch my attention.
I DIDNT EVEN NOTICE THOSE WHAT
THOSE ARE AWESOME
Willing is quite the handsome man.
Felix Thomas
Just your garden variety hipster, with no warranty extras🎅🏿
yeah
No, just that type of beard obviously. I'm going to take your question at face value in that ur not being a smart ass.
In my profile you can see I've got a beard for example but I'm not a hipster, at the very least bc it's not a full beard. Then there's the necessary short hair, cool attitude, age, clothing choices etc
Willing seems to fit those requirements. Don't overthink it 😐
So many people commenting are about aftercare! It's awesome :D
Nylon is definitely best for beginners. If using natural fiber rope (like hemp, cotton, or jute) be careful not to get it wet. The fibers can absorb the water and the knots will swell, making it difficult, or impossible to untie.
Sweating is fine. Pouring water, or peeing on someone is not.
If you know you're going to engage in any type of okay involving liquid, stick with nylon rope and it shouldn't be an issue.
Really loved this one, Dr. Doe!
Everytime she says “Slipknot” i smile. Love that band.
Perfect video! Thank you for the tips and the knots. Worked as planned 👍🏻
3:32 wtf is he super shredded that I can see his veins through the suit or is that just part of the suit? Look at his arms especially his right.
3:36 is a good closer look as well where you can see how lean he is and where it's just part of the suit and his actual veins I think I can make out his vascularity through the suit omg he must be jacked as hell haha.
I think it's veins... DAMN
+Hunter Freeman That is probably the morph suit or his shirt underneath. Unless he was shooting heroin before this video those aren't veins.
+Blaze They are actually the persons veins, except the suit seams. They follow the common paths of veins on the arms. Annnnd. Shooting heroin is a really shitty example of something that would make veins show. Esp since, after using, they'd constrict again. Users, addicts, and the like really don't appreciate the constant jabs at it just for comedic value.
***** I just find it really hot I dunno why m8s I swear I'm straight haha.
OurPeanutGallerie What other example would you use then? How is that intended for comedic value when it is the truth? Do we also have to ignore the effects of drugs now to save peoples feelings?