How to Heal a Broken Relationship - Bishop Barron’s Sunday Sermon
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- Опубліковано 28 вер 2024
- Friends, forgiveness is about bearing the burden of the other-what justice requires them to carry, you carry for them. How we forgive others is tied tightly to God's forgiveness of us. If the Lord gives you grace in seventy times seventy ways, you must mirror the same for the brother or sister who offends you. Criticize another person only in the measure that you're willing to help them deal with the problem you're raising.
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Thank you, sir. It is people like you who restore my faith in the Church and in people in general.
As a wise nun once told me, "Holding onto resentment is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die."
Great quote
A rare, wise soul
That's an incredibly wise quote
In a nutshell, brilliant!!!
So true!!! Forgive and let go 🙏
Thank you Bishop Barron. Forgiveness is very difficult when the other person is not sorry, refuses to even consider that what they did was hurtful and continues to hurt you. I sometimes have to pray to want to forgive and pray for God to just take that poisonous feeling out of my heart because I'm incapable of overcoming it on my own. I have also found it sometimes best to forgive but not to maintain a relationship with someone who continues to speak and act without love.
@@alwaysbekindlove but after I wrote this, I thought that God always seeks to maintain a relationship with us no matter how hurtful we are. I think in a case of someone's ongoing cruelty, it's best to speak with a priest in confession about the unique dangers and difficulties in each individual experience of a broken relationship.
Yet another homily by #BishopRobertBarron 's homily's bring's tears to my eyes! Thank you! I remember a homily a few years back where the Sister Mary said at a retreat she was told to think about each time she had been hurt and was still angry about it. For each time, she had to put a stone in a sack. Then, for the entire weekend, she had to carry the sack with the stones every place that she went. When she went to each lunch, the sack was next to her, when she went to the ladies room, it was on the floor next to her. Should she forget it someplace, she would have to rush back to retrieve it because she had to have it by the end of the weekend. Sister Mary said it was an incredible experience in what carrying a grudge really does to you.
To let go and live a renewed life, gifted by God's spirit, is a wise choice.
Forgiveness is a beautiful thing I believe you do for yourself. Unfortunately even though I have forgiven, some people are just toxic and will take advantage of good will.
In this case I have to keep my distance.
Thank you for your Sunday Sermon, Bishop Barron!
Word on Fire is food for my soul!
Through You I came to Christ and to the Catholic Church.
I hope you can do your valuable work for a long time and continue to help people with it! God bless you and Greetings from Germany. 🔥🙏
Praise the Lord Jesus Christ 🙏 Mother Mary Pray For Us 🙏Abba Father Bless us and we Adore You 🙏
This guy is really good. It's like Los Angeles needed a really good Bishop and the Lord provided :)
After viewing this sermon I am quite convicted deep inside to go forgive my mother whom I often have arguments with. I also feel like my bad relationship with my mother is making it hard for my father... but sometimes I just don’t know what to do. My mother and I have quite incompatible personalities and I just don’t even know how to begin, partially because it gets very awkward very quickly but also because I really don’t know what my mother is looking for when I attempt to forgive. I’ve also never read the Book of Sirach as a non-Catholic, but from what I’ve heard today it sounds to be filled with wisdom, so thank you for sharing, Bishop.
This hit so close to home. My Dad and his sister had a falling out more then 65 years ago. As a result I never knew two if my cousins until last year. We were robbed of all the memories that cousins should made growing up. Resentments often have innocent victims.
Yes, my happiest childhood memories are from visiting my cousins and aunt. But the resentment between my dad and my aunt caused us children to be robbed of more memories.
Bishop Barron draws from his intelligence, education, pastoral mission, and common sense to reveal a better path on which we all must follow. There are so many times spiritual leaders advise us not from their own experiences but from their reading of scripture. Bishop Barron reveals himself in sermons telling us we, all of us together battle Satan each day.
Wow did you get me this morning. So beautiful, so hard to do, and yet so necessary. Thank you Jesus for the reminder, and blessings on you Bishop Barron
Oh God,How much I need you, Have Mercy on me a sinner. Amen
This sermon opens up all our own wounds, only for us finally to consider resolving them. If no sin is too great for us to seek God's forgiveness, no reason should hinder us seeking reconciliation through forgiving.
I like your messages. Because you speak peace. Although it is difficult. Some times it’s tough or hard to forget.🙏
Peace.
Bishop, yesterday's Mass readings spoke volumes to me. Your homily is full of wisdom and reminders of God's forgiveness and mercy. Thank you
Thank you so much Bishop Barron. You are truly a great gift to our church. Thank you so much for responding to your call!
Heroism. 🙏 Thank you, Bishop.
God bless you Bishop Barron, may God bless those who persecute you and disarm them with His love and mercy.
Praise God !! Thank you Bishop Barron for your dedication to the Word. Holy Spirit continue to guide you.
Excellent talk....
Bishop Barron, I thank God for gift of you to his church and also thank you for your effective way of transmitting the truth of our faith. Up to your sermon on “forgiveness” I didn’t know what a Christian forgiveness really meant. I read about it but I didn’t get it. Listening to your sermon melted my heart, I wrote everything you said word by word and I am planning to share it with others. God bless you and your ministry. ✝️❤️🙏
Middle East. That's the International level, there. We are asked to be people of peace in a world that wants to find ways to argue all the time, Bishop. Thank you for your homily, today.
Thank you so much. I think it is the first time in my life that I truly understand forgiveness. This has hit my heart so hard and for good. Thank you again. I am a loyal follower from Mexico City.
Oh my goodness Bishop. This was wonderful. Thank you.
Bishop I heard this a few days ago. I long and miss your homilies where you tighten the two readings and the gospel together. It would be wonderful to really hear your homilies God bless you. You are in my prayers.
Prayers for peace in our world 🌍 Amen
Thank you! Asking your Archpastoral blessing, and kissing your right hand.
This was hard for me to listen to since I tend to hold fierce grudges. I needed to hear this today
My children refuse to let go of their anger/bitterness toward me from divorce, although I have asked for forgiveness for hurting them, time and time again they maintain their distance,, I pray for God to hear my prayers as time is quickly passing,,,,,, :( Thank you for your presentation Bishop,,,
It shouldn't be difficult Your Grace, to Forgive, but I'm sorry, in reality, It is difficult to go the extra mile as you described so perfectly well.
Excellent points on forgiveness and resentment. You’ve greatly helped dear Bishop!
Thank you Bishop Barron 🙏
Thank you Bishop, a talk I needed to hear. The bonus about not back biting has bought shame on me, I will be confessing my partaking in this poisonous activity. Thank you again a please pray for me.
God bless you.
Thank you Bishop for your great sermon.
Thank you Bishop Barron. Very helpful.
This is really applicable to a lot of situations including my own but there are also times when forgiveness is not reconciliation but simply letting go (i.e. toxic or abusive relationships, when you're too weak to keep taking the blows, etc.)
I really try to forgive quickly. Even if that person has hurt me more than once. But I do have a temper and I pray that God helped with it. It doesn't last long however ..sometimes I say things in anger I do mean. BISHOP BARRON pray for me to stop my anger before my mouth says the things I will regret later. I promise my anger lasts only a bit...I forgive easily but the words I say doing and I am not forgiven for what I say in anger.
Bp im happy listening your sermon,i look at you, tired pls rest be cool & relax,God bless,gud nyt....
Thank you! Just what I needed to hear today. May God continue to Bless you abundantly.
Tqvm Bishop Barron. God bless you from Malaysia.
Thanks, Father!
Thank you Bishop for a wonderful message again. God bless you and your ministry.
Amen 🙏 ty❤
Wow timing perfect Thank you🙏 God Bless
I found this one very moving. Thank you Bishop, you h
have given me much to ponder on!!
You pulled from Augostines book this sermon
He defined anger as a "lust for vengeance"
Thank u very much ⚘ 💓
Blessings from 🇦🇪( UAE)
Blessings 🌷 🌷 🌷
Thank you! Beautiful sermon!
to the Point for me to be reminded over and over and over again and to share I perceive with all God’s human creations as I welcome what they share with me. Thank you Lorf for having this teaching again sent to me. Ann
I could not in allowed time to repair my errors. Lord forgive my mistakes. Ann
Boy dd I need to hear this today.
I used to struggle with anger and grudges tremendously. I’ve learned thanks to you and father Mike Schmitz how to forgive. I no longer struggle with grudges, but i still battle with anger. I’m learning to use it properly though. To push me when I’m being stagnant, to give me some extra oomf when i need it, etc. i catch myself now if i let it have control for too long.
Crazy how life is such a learning and long journey
Great practical advice at the end of the teaching! Thank you, Bishop
I like to hear it but very sleepy,God bless...
Thank you Bishop Barron, found your page from Peterson and I am hooked !
Peace from down under
I found him the same way!
Gracias por subtitular! 🙏 Excelente sermón
Bishop Barron, kindly explain the fraternal correction regarding being critical, ‘criticize another person only in the measure that you are willing to deal with the problem that you are raising, and if you’re totally unwilling to help then don’t say anything at all”. What example can you give so I can better understand this? Please? Thank you and God bless you.
Totally what I needed to hear today. God is so Good . All the Time.. My husband walked out on me 2 days ago. We had had an argument and it was all truly my fault,(I think).
He is a Democrat supporter and really dislikes Trump passionately. My argument is always the same. I am Conservative and am so happy with his Pro-Life ,Pro-Family, Pro Country stance and. his accomplishments in these areas.. (But get this: We are Canadian ! How weird is that?.)
( But then It's not a stretch for Canadian Politics to mirror Us Politics.)
My husband calls me a "Batshit crazy right wing Jesus freak " regularly. I have to- forgive him for that NOW..
Writing him a note to ask his forgiveness.
Why hug my anger and resentment tight?. I have decided to Let it go and Let Jesus into this broken relationship.
Thank you dear Bishop Barron. very practical Wisdom.
This sounds like a proxy for a deeper conflict between the two of you. Similarly to see that you feel the need to tell strangers how your husband insults you points to a form of argumentation that you might use in your relationship. Why tarnish his image if you forgive him? One must forgive, and then after that point not go backward, the power of the anger must be relinquished. I truly wish you both the best, and all the love needed to undertake the conversations, introspection, and hard work necessary to come to a working solution together.
I was looking at this trying to figure out how this will help me heal my relationship with my boyfriend. Idk if I think forgiveness is our problem, I don’t cling to resentment, but I’ve been told that we’re going to be married for years. It hurts me so much. It has eaten away at my heart. We’re both Catholic and went to church together when we first met, now here we are 7 years later and I want to get married and he wants to buy a house first. Please pray for us!
" Love seeks the good of the other" as Bishop Barron explains...
You should be the next pope
In a sermon about why God allows suffering, The Bishop spoke about a little girl he noticed in the pews during a mass who comforted her developmentally challenged brother. Does anyone know which sermon this was?
I have relatives who hold grudges against me. I've apologized, written letters of apology and asking for reconciliation, and....nothing. Won't respond. Very frustrating.
My guy!
"A man's friend likes him but leaves him as he is: his wife loves him and is always trying to turn him into somebody else."-GK Chesterton
no mention of the work of the Holy Spirit to help us do what is too hard to do?
My daughter has told me she does not want to hear from me. Something from the past is upsetting her. I don't know what it is. Do I give her space or keep trying
Can you please review and explain this series
How does this relate to Fraternal Correction?
I am sorry but I can't they didn't have any mercy on me they went too far they have pryed and humiliated I just can't I won't I'm sorry to God but he knows the hell I've been through
What if someone takes the forgiveness for granted and keeps hurting you? Can we just forgive that person once and leave the relationship so that the hurting doesn't repeat? Thank you!
Forgiveness does not always mean relationship. One can forgive- let go of the anger and the debt, without reconciliation. Sometimes, reconciliation is not possible if the other does not allow for truth.
Bishop, what if it is unhealthy to reconcile? The farthest end of the rope is praying for that person, not speaking ill of that person... ???
i've reached out so many times, but this person (let's call enemy) is daily intentionally doing things trying to rouse my and my mother's anger. Does it mean that i'm not forgiving if i ignore my enemy? Am i speaking behind the back if i relay this to some social worker who tries to help me? I'm sandwich between the nuisance of this enemy who i think tries to irritate my elderly mother, so that she could be sent to the mental institution - i can ignore the endure the enemy but may be not my mother. What do i do, Bishop?
Please some one should help me with the Bishop email please, oh my God a wanderful preacher
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The description here of “burying the burden” of the other sounds dangerously close to codependency. This can be done healthfully and charitably, but this description leaves a door wide open for it be done by the “forgiver” with the intent to control the reaction of the other. We can reach out to another and seek reconciliation, again and again and again, but after so many times, it is insanity. We cannot make someone be where they are not, and force them to change in ways they won’t. Then, I would argue, it is more loving to remove ourselves from the situation, and pray and love from afar.
Let me add to this, sometimes, it is out of love for the other person that we walk away. We will not impose our will on them, even if it means to stay in relationship with them. To chase them (with the intention that they must conform to our will) is not charitable. I would include a healthy dose of self-reflection in this call to pursuing the other. What are my intentions? Am I seeking to control? Or am I actually wanting to reconcile with them (which includes compromise and listening on my part? There is a much greater depth to these dynamics for many people that is not being addressed here.
You are amazing sir! I’m am joining RCIA because of you and my mother in law! Please keep going, you give hope and speak to so many!
Praying for you and mother in law on your journey, welcome!
How wonderful! Thanks and God bless you both.
God bless you on your spiritual journey.
May you walk with HIM, all the days of your life. May HiIS blessing be upon you and yours. Welcome home,Rob! Shalom.
@@BishopBarron Forgiveness is at the heart of healing... We cannot begin to heal as human being spiritually or otherwise without being prepared to forgive. My family are in the midst of so much non forgiveness and punishment, it has torn the family apart for over 20 years, it began to heal a few years ago and last week, Satan has a grip of my so called Catholic family... Please pray for my family, I am piggy in the middle, talking to both sides but not attempting to intervene, Our Lord I pray for understanding and forgiveness 🙏❤️
It's time for healing, it's time for mercy, it's time to forgive your enemies.
It's time to stop the politicization of our Universal Church.
It's time to stop using the name of Christ for your personal gain.
It's time to adore Christ truly in the most Holy Sacrament.
It's time to bring Christ into the world with faith, hope, and love.
Amen.
@The Anthropologist _Forensic
Yes, truly☆
Yohanes R.T.B,
Awesomely creative and Gracefilled comment☆
Each piece of anger, each piece of desire for revenge are like rocks you carry in a sack on your back. Over time, the sack fills up and becomes heavy and heavier - but we don’t realize it until one day we boil over. Carrying those rocks of anger and revenge in the sack weighs us down in ways we do not acknowledge until we look inside the sack. Then, consider throwing that sack of ‘rocks’ at the foot of the cross and truly saying “Here, I give you all of these, with your help I will be free of each one.” You will find a new sense of freedom. And, then you must do your part, to forgive or ask for forgiveness - then you will have done your part. Just don’t go back and get one of those rocks!
There is a 12 step program which all of this sounds a lot like sans biblical reference
The devil is all about anger and vengeance, God is all about love and forgiveness. In which side do you dwell? Who do you want to serve?
O.H. Gotta Serve Somebody
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It is harder to forgive depending on the hurt.
Someone may have abused us or something very horrible. Another priest said forgiveness does not mean to resume a relationship. The evil may still be there.
Pray for the person and do not be a victim.
The offender usually does not want help. Pray for them! Hurt feelings are far from someone badly abusing a person.
I think we all would agree...including BB... if there's abuse or ongoing mistreatment, and you've been able to separate from the unrepentant perpetrator, you're not encouraged to resume the toxic relationship, but rather, seize God's grace to forgive them in your heart everytime you recall the pain and pray for them, asking God to forgive them and work out their repentance and conversion so they too will be saved. Often we need to ask first for the desire to forgive... It's something we will, not usually feel... A choice, not a feeling - like love.
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Amen. Very well stated!
Yes, I hope BB speaks on toxic empathy at some date, where people have become so helpless they hold no one accountable.
Remember when St.John Paul ll got shot in 1981? He forgave the shooter. I think that’s a great example of forgiveness.
A fine example and we all saw both sitting next to one another to exchange their sorrows and forgiveness.
Thank you, Bishop. This message resonates deeply with me. So beautifully stated. Very raw in truth. Much needed to be heard. I will refer back to it over and over with the openness to keep moving toward giving and receiving forgiveness. It is a beautifully transformational humility into a more glorious Spiritual strength.
There are times when you find out too late that you are dealing with someone with serious mental health issues that are far beyond your pay grade to deal with, and it was not a healthy relationship from the start. It is, therefore, very unhealthy for them as well as you to continue to attempt to pursue any relationship at all. Forgiveness is not so much restoring relationships that were never healthy or "letting them off the hook" for the pain they have caused as it is "letting go of their throat" and letting go of your own desire to be justified or "right". Pray for them, that they receive blessing and everything they need from God, and do not harbor resentment in your heart. However, unless they receive help for their illness wherein a healthy relationship could then finally happen, it is best to let them go in God's hands.
Yeah, sometimes forgiveness is just letting go but not really reconciling/ getting back together.
Forgiving those four people who pressed the dislike button.
Can you imagine?
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Thank you Bishop Barron, for your lovely and interesting sermon. You are a great preacher .GOD bless you ➕ ❤
Thank you Bishop. As usual a great, thought-provoking homily. Always wondered what to do if one tries to repair relationships, but the other person does not want to. I give them to The Divine Mercy and pray extra prayers for them. I find that most times the other person is in a lot of pain and can’t get beyond that. So, pray and give them to God. Very difficult in families. God Bless! 🇨🇦 👏☮️ ❤️
A beautiful sermon with insightful advise. As I listened, I thought of Blake's poem, "The Poison Tree." I was angry with my friend, I told my wrath; my wrath did end. I was angry with my foe. I told it not; my wrath did grow. And I watered it in fears, night in morning with my tears. And I stunned it with smiles, and with soft deceitful wiles. And it grew both day and night, till it bore an apple bright, and my foe beheld it shine, and he knew that it was mine. And into my garden stole when the night had veiled the pole. In the morning glad I see my foe outstretched beneath the tree. You are so right, Bishop Baron! How destructive is unchecked anger! How beautiful the gift of forgiveness, which we discover in God's love for us through Christ,
I wish we all strive for and pray for the grace, even the Gift of *'unilateral forgiveness'.*
*"Unilateral forgiveness* is unconditional.
*Unilateral forgiveness* is always available to us, regardless of whether the other person apologises, shows remorse, is deemed deserving, or is even alive."
Taking this homily to inmates this morning. Thank you Bishop Barron. you did all my homework for me.
Hey Bishop Barron! Thank you for this very powerful message. It cut right to the quick for me. In my own life certainly, but also in our current world with the endless demonizing of "the one who is not like me!" This message would best be taken daily!
I can see this clinging to the unhealthy abuse at the hands of my deceased father. It comes up in waves like a spring, and turns into resentment if I let it. Like a drop of ink in a huge tub of clear water, polluting it all. I thank God for the awareness and willingness to work on myself and change, as difficult as that often is. And accept what was, and what is.
Anyways, thanks for your wisdom and eloquence. God bless you all here. :) JV Johnny
... let go of our anger , our wrath ... we must forgive endlessly ... THÄNK ÝÖÜ for these reminders ... in the NAME of the FATHER GOD ALMiGHTY , of the SON JESUS CHRiST , and HOLY SPiRiT ... AMEN !!!!! 🙏 👼😇
“When you hate, the only person who suffers is you because those you hate probably don't know, and those who do, don't care.” ― Medgar Evers
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It’s not that I don’t agree with what you’re saying, Your Excellency, but I just cannot get an answer on how to forgive. Jesus told us to forgive but he never told us how. If I say I forgive someone, but I am still angry inside, have I really forgive him/her? But how do I stop being angry? I have tried for a long time to find an answer to this question but I am still searching.
Best definition I ever heard is that it means to “forgive the debt.” We allow ourselves to feel the anger, go through the pain of it, come out on the other side, and release it, moving into freedom. It’s a looong, hard, intentional process.
Perfect homily for our wounded society right now 🥰 let's hear more and more and more on this topic, choosing to be the bigger person even when you have every legit reason not to
Come Holy Spirit, grant us Faith, Hope and Love.
Ps 103:8, Mt 18:22
“I must dedicate myself to the service of God until death, on the understanding that I am like a slave."
😇 St. Peter Claver , pray for us sinners!
I agree with forgiveness but you don’t have to trust them again. Some people cannot change. Mental illness is often the cause.