This is just the tip of the iceberg. I've tried to share as much as possible but I didn't want to bore you all! Any help or advice is very welcome. Ultimately, I'm so up for the marriage but the WEDDING is a lot. Argh! xxx
You’re also super busy now so the thought of adding a tonne of organising stuff on top of all of that is a LOT! Definitely give yourself some grace and take as much time as you need x
I totallyyyyyy feel this! I eloped to Vegas and it was the absolute best! We had nobody to answer to and no external stress to dampen the mood. We also had a very fun and unique summer party planned but then COVID hit. 😩 I say, elope to Vegas, come back and throw a very personal/local/crafty party for all your loved ones, and honeymoon in Disney! 😊 Then maybe for your 5 year anniversary you can fit in the swanky hotel party!
Don’t let it overwhelm you. The love between you two and the life you built with your girls is the only thing that matters. I wanted a big wedding but I didn’t want to people please and my anxiety got to me, so we went to the courthouse with our closest family and this year will be our 13th year 🥰
As someone who been do a lot of “second weddings,” when we see the bride walk down the aisle, what we are thinking is, “Look how happy she is. This is how it should have always been.” We are so overjoyed for you and there is zero judgement. I would say elope and then throw a big party because so often, the wedding becomes so much about everyone else instead of the couple. Let it be something intimate that just y’all and a few people share. Then throw a huge, Disney themed after party at a swanky hotel, where you can DIY your heart out. Do all of the things! You deserve all of the things!
Elopement and party ALL THE WAY! It’s what I did and I wouldn’t change a thing (except maybe do it in Vegas rather than Oz!). Whatever you choose will be right for you, Liam and the girls. It’s all so exciting but I get how overwhelming it is too. Keep us posted 😘
I would suggest a Pinterest style elopement, big glam London party and then a Disney honeymoon! That way you get the best of all 4 and remove the fears around people comparing to your previous wedding 😊
If Darcy or Pearl asked you this question, what advice would you give them? I imagine you might say to do what makes them the most happy and not to worry about what other people think 💖
I wasn't going to say anything, but you asked!!😂 If you were my irl friend and we were having this convo, I would remind you about the fear you had before giving birth to Pearl. Just because the first time isn't the best doesn't mean the second time will be too. Look at how well that experience went because you learned and changed for what would be best for you. I just know this wedding will be wonderful! P.S- my mum is team Disney wedding!
Either have the wedding of your dreams, planned by you, Liam and the girls (after all it is a day for all of you) or have a private ceremony, with just Darcy and Pearl attending, with a celebration party to follow at a later date.
Small Disney wedding, therefore no family politics, only invite exactly who you want. Marriage changes nothing, babies change everything and you’ve already done that and it’s great. Nobody who loves you cares that it’s a second wedding! Get therapy so you can feel strong in that choice.
There’s never anything wrong celebrating the love & happiness you’ve found even if you’ve done it before. Where’s the fun in that if you can only do it once? Social media can definitely help and hinder with wedding planning, love a Pinterest board for inspo but need to remember comparison is the thief of all joy so you’ve just got to do you. Lastly, yaaay Disney content!
If you’re worried that people are going to label it as “ugh Louise’s second wedding” and compare it to your first wedding… they are not your people! This wedding is not your second wedding. It’s a celebration of you and Liam! It’s a celebration of your daughters and everything you have achieved and the person you have become since then! I have watched you since the Oldy but Goldie days. You have blossomed and created a loving relationship with yourself and with Liam. Between you both, you have developed such a nurturing, inspiring space for your family and friends and this deserves to be celebrated! And the people that also see this glowing, nurturing new person are the only ones that matter! They will be celebrating right alongside you!
I think you seemed the most happy about a Disney wedding to be honest. It won’t stop you having a party at home after the wedding, where you could make some of the things for it with the girls. I feel it might be overwhelming wanting to make lots of things within the grand scheme of a wedding event when you were describing the crafty wedding.
I can speak from my personal experience, I planned a big weeding with all the stops and then covid happened, so we scaled back our wedding to a DIY Pinterest wedding with just a handful of our friends and family and it was beautiful, such a blessing in disguise. I was able to speak to every one of my guests, I was able to relax and enjoy the day and remember it all. My friends frequently tell me it was the best wedding they’ve been to because it was so intimate and personal. I think weddings should feel representative of your relationship with your partner, so my advice is do what feels most representative of your relationship with Liam and the feeling you want to emulate in your marriage.
A good wedding planner will know exactly what to ask you to figure out what you want. I completely understand your fears but that ring on your fingers is testimony that Liam is in the boat for good. Have the wedding party at a local posh hotel, Disney themed and have a small private ceremony that feels like eloping...your 4wedding in 1 😊
Your wedding should be a representation of you, and your love. Which setting feels the most “Louise & Liam”? Pick that one! And then go forth confidently ❤
Fellow bride here 🙋♀️ I just want to say that you're so right, there is a ton of tradition and for many of us baggage associated with weddings and marriage. One thing I've found really comforting is just the idea that we can do this however we want to. There's really no correct way to do a wedding, so focus on what feels connective and meaningful to you and Liam and throw out the rest. And take your daughters on that journey with you, start new traditions with them!
I think a swanky party and elopement sounds good. Just have the “wedding part” be intimate with a select few so less stress about comparing to previous. Can still incorporate Pinterest vibes into the reception/party and do Disney for honeymoon. Get it all!!
It feels to me like you're overthinking/worrying about what others think/want. It's YOURS and liams day! Dont worry about what everyone else wants or expects. Do what makes you both happy. I know it's hard when you feel soo overwhelmed by the planing etc, maybe take a step back, breathe and write down whats most important to you both ❤️
You explain your feelings so powerfully and clearly. Whilst I listened I kept thinking of your recent cruise and how you were able to enjoy new things and behave in ways you thought you never would. I guess I was thinking that sometimes pushing through anxiety can lead to great joy. Much love to you as you think about your feelings xxx
How about… a cute Pinterest crafty countryside hen, low-key or vegas elopement, big swanky celebratory party in London, followed by a Disney honey moon🔥
I love hearing you be so open about this sort of thing! I love watching your videos as they are so comforting. I’ve been a fan since the Brit crew days, but I used to watch your weekly’s religiously from just before Pearl was born and they were actually such a lifeline, got me through so many things. You’re amazing, Louise and I always look forward to tuning in!❤❤
It’s so overwhelming, i didn’t know where to start ether and I didn’t know what kind of wedding I wanted. But I just booked viewings at so many venues and that helped us to get a picture of the kind of wedding we wanted. I also know how you feel about feeling lonely I was planning my wedding in a different country away from all my people. It will all come together in the end and it will happen when you’re ready ❤
Louise to the rescue! I keep thinking how I can tell people that I just want to enjoy my engagement and sign stuff when I'm good and ready!! Thank you!!!
Im just picturing your wedding week Louise! 1. Crafty local hens party where you Criccut things and make make decorations for the wedding and drink wine with your sisters and aunties and friends. 2. Elope at Disney just you, Liam and the girls. 3. HUGE fancey london reception with all the bells and whistles 4. Honey moon in Vegas!!! Wooo!
I’d say….go to your local courthouse bring your girls and just do it. Don’t tell anyone right away. Sit with it and feel the pressure go away….then plan whatever wedding brings you joy.
Oh gosh, I’m planning my wedding but my mum passed away last year and my sister lives in Australia so I feel quite lonely and actually very sad knowing my mum missed this all 😢 Please just pick whatever makes you happy, eloping does sound tempting, followed by an epic honeymoon!
Picking a venue gets the momentum going and gives you parameters for your decision making. For example, our wedding was at a venue with beautiful expansive gardens and heritage home, so my dress was then more classic, my shoes needed a block heel for the grass / brick floors, and my bridesmaids had embroidered flowers on their dresses to echo the nature all around us. I found picking a venue so helpful BECAUSE it limited my choices and gave me something to work from ☺️
As someone who felt the same about the wedding planning process as you (as much as I'm sad you felt that way I do take comfort that I'm not the only one!), if I had a go again I would go to Disney!! I just feel like it's such a happy place that the normal wedding woes wouldn't apply!! Or if you don't do a disney wedding maybe one day you can renew your vows there or do a special wedding anniversary party or something. Essentially you need to try and stop worrying about others and just think about yourself! Pleasing others will make you feel the same as your first wedding sadness I believe. Good luck Louise, I know you'll get there in the end ❤
@@Louisepentland I think that it would be a good idea to get rid of all the expectations you think that anybody else has (easier said than done though 😅) and just do what you (and Liam obviously) want to do. If there was nobody to please and no expectations to be met - what would you do? And then you do exactly that 😊♥️
When you describe your Disney wedding you seem to know what you want already. It would also be low key, happy place and favorite people only option. Sounds like the option that would be enjoyable for you and yours xxx
As someone who is 21 years engaged with no wedding I completely understand your reservations. We’ve started the planning so many times but we ended up deciding if it ain’t broke don’t fix it! So here we are! Xx
Elope and then have a blessing when you come back & a party. We had a crafty type wedding. I made the church decorations, the invitations and order of service. Only invited 45 guests. After a drink in the pub, we had our reception & BBQ in the in laws garden, which we'd decorated the day before. Whatever you decide, don't let the expectations of others spoil the fun of your day. ❤❤❤
Private Disney wedding to tick both the Disney and elope boxes and then a big party in London to tick the flash London party good time box. I personally loved my wedding. And I truly think it's because we picked a small wedding all in one place. Photos, ceremony, and reception. We picked friends over family to come, and we enjoyed the day more than I could have imagined. Also, I think Disney would have wedding planning down to a fine art and be very helpful. ❤❤❤
You could do a combination of all the weddings you want? Have a show stopping Disney wedding with handmade invitations and decor with the most important people! ❤
I am a terrible planner and I couldn’t handle the anxiety of a third (!) wedding, so we had a very small, intimate wedding. It was just the two of us and the officiant. We made it super special for us. It was a very meaningful ceremony in which we could just focus on our new beginning! I hope you find a way to do something meaningful for you, Louise. ❤
I felt exactly the same. Combination of childhood trauma, seeing my parents marriage crumble, my own friendship group changing and cost stopped me from even thinking about planning after I got engaged. My fiancé is similar to Liam in that he just wants me to be happy and for us to have a good time so that is a blessing. My suggestion would be start wandering around venues, see how you feel. I wasn’t sure what I wanted before I stepped on a farm stay wedding venue outside of the city. It has a chapel, reception space and accomodation all on site. The plan is to have a very relaxed, 2 night stay with 80 guests. We found that our priorities were met in this venue- intimate, relaxing and in nature. We also booked the date more than 20 months in advance so we have plenty of time to budget and plan. Wishing you guys every happiness, do what is right for you!
You’ve got a lovely stepmom now as you stated! I’m sure she would love to help you now in any way you want ! You will know when the time is right! Don’t stress yourself this time! Something intimate then a big party!
We decided to elope and then have a big party afterwards - it was honestly the best decision we've ever made! It gives you the opportunity to really share the special moment between the two of you (or with the girls if you wanted them there!) and takes a lot of the pressures off of having to have this huge wedding. Then at the party you're really able to enjoy yourself and truly have the best time with out all of the worry!
The other way to look at it is that you will be happy no matter what you pick. And I love the attitude that you don’t have to pick it all if you don’t want to.
You've made my day. I messaged Marie Bits and Clips replied to me too, what a lovely week. Also by the way, I did a Pinterest DIY wedding and while there were aspects that were fun, and it turned out lovely it was A LOT of work and time not to put you off of that, but just to go in eyes wide open because I don’t think I’ve really realized. Also, I had another thought, whatever you end up picking, you could always do a vowel renewal or celebratory thing with one of the other ones you didn’t pick later who says you only have to do it once ( within reason for our budgets).
How about a Disney cruise wedding, just you Liam and the girls? The most important thing is that you and Liam are happy and do what YOU want. Don’t try and please other family members as it is about you and Liam not them. If they get upset, tough, they’ll get over it! 😂 Good luck with what ever you decide. You are positively radiant in your blogs at the moment especially when you were on the cruises x
Heya! I just had my 1st wedding, husbands 2nd and I had lots of the same fears. We also live in Aus so had no family here to have those wedding dress shopping moments / planning etc.. We started with sitting down with some wine, and talking about how we want to feel on the day, and what is most important to us: ie who is there, the dress, the location, family to invite etc.. Tune out all of the pressure and move away from the fear and go with what feels good to you. With regards to your first wedding; no one will be thinking anything other than how happy they are for you, and you should try and move away from comparing the planning and dates - you are a completely different person now, your wedding will be nothing like that one, nor will the marriage. You could involve the girls and have them with you for those “mum” memories; they will remember it forever and what a special way to have Jane there too 💕 best of luck!!!
When I hired my day of coordinator for my wedding, at the beginning of the planning process, she asked me what kind of feelings I wanted to have on my wedding day. Had to close my eyes and think of the feelings that I wanted to feel on the day. And then she asked me how can I get those feelings and if we just listed things like simple, family, oriented, happy, no drama, and really from those feelings I was able to figure out a place and I wanted to have it that made me feel those feelings already.
As a chronic overthinker myself, I've always found that letting my values steer decisions is helpful. Have a think about what values you hold dear, and following on from that what your non-negotiables for the day are (perhaps moments with the girls, having something of your mum with you throughout the day, feeling connected to things that bring you true joy like Disney or crafting). Then no matter what you choose to do, or if little things inevitably go awry, you can always anchor yourself to knowing the things you value most were there. The rest is all fluff ☺️ Hope all these opinions and advice are helpful and not adding to mind-noise! ❤
Oldie but Goldie here Louise! I'm a wedding stationery designer and really think you should go for an elopement! They're so in right now! Or even a super intimate wedding. You can follow this up with a wedding celebration with a bigger guest list a few weeks later if you want to celebrate with more family and friends, but the 'big day' will be super intimate and with the closest people in your life 🧡
Definitely do the counseling!!! It will really help you process everything. For the wedding, I vote for a garden fairy Pinterest style backyard wedding 🥰
Bearing in mind I don’t actually know you BUT I feel like the wedding you want is the Disney one ❤ it’s kind of like eloping and only people who really want to be there will make the effort to go.. and you can still do crafty bits with the girls, make the invitations etc if you want to! excited to see what you decide on if you want to share with us ❤
Your wedding is for you and Liam and the girls. Do what makes you happy. A wedding is about the couple not anyone else. If a disney wedding is what makes you happy then go for it. You can make it intimate with the girls and a few people and then have a big party for others afterwards. Theirs no point in doing a big stressful wedding if that's not what you want or is going to make you happy. Just do you and do what makes you and your little family happy and focus on that. 🎉. I'm sure whatever you decide will be amazing. 🎉❤
I think it speaks volumes that you listed the Disney wedding first as an option ☺️ Therapy can be helpful to really dig into what you actually want and not feel responsible for what other people think/feel too. It was nice to join you for a chatty video again! ❤
Do what you feel works for both of you! Doesnt matter what anyone thinks of a second marriage they can mind thier own lol! I would say Louise start with the venue and let that guide you as to what the decor should be. Dont let being divorced hold you back from your wonderful happy life and marriage with Liam. Can always come to us if you need anything.🥰😉
My vote is for the pinterest wedding or the Disney wedding! I think they have the most positive points, it really depends on how you want the day to feel. But I think including the girls in the planning/making of decorations would be amazing and a moment they would treasure 💖 I wish you all the best and cant wait to see more 🤗 I love weddings
At the end of the day, this day is for you and Liam. Don't get bogged down in thoughts like "i wonder if they will compare dresses" etc. As long as you have a dress YOU like, that's all that matters. With every aspect, as long as you and Liam love it, everyone should love it for you!! I think weddings become easy to get absorbed into but you just have to take step at a time, personally I would start with venue and work from there x
What makes you the happiest Louise? This is your happiness not anyone else’s. You do what you wont regret! This is a chapter of your life that is for YOU ❤
Listening to you speak, it sounds like you’re leaning towards Disney! Been here since 2014 and now I’m 22, I always love these big sister type chats! Wishing you lots of peace and happiness on your wedding day🥰
This is all so relatable! I had a crafty wedding and everyone thought I had things planned better than I did and so many things went wrong and I still feel bad about it! Hearing you talk about this, I think an elopement (maybe at Disney,including your girls) with a very glam party could be a perfect fit- no ‘second wedding’, still special and personal, but more of a ‘let’s make this already great thing official’ kind of thing. Anyways, I hope you feel settled with whatever you end up choosing (and I know counseling can help with that)!
I see you having a Disney wedding followed by a party in the UK which is a good mixture of glam and crafty. Ultimately what makes you happiest when you think of how the wedding will look? When I planned our wedding I bought the dress first and then the venue and then everything else. I think in your case you need to choose the venue first because your dress for Disney will probably look very different to the dress for a glam London do. Take your time though, who cares how long you are engaged for! You will make the decision at the right time xx
Thank you so much for your honesty and vulnerability, Louise! 💕 With your story it is so understandable, that you're struggling here. My two pennies to the situation are: It could be helpful to seek healing for the wounds of your past, a counselor could really help with that. When we face and look into our fears they usually become much smaller 🙂 I also think that a wedding planner could help you figure out what it is you want by asking the right questions with their expertise. It's all a process and I'm sure you'll figure out more and more puzzle pieces along the way 🤗 xx
I hear you! I got so stressed planning my wedding. Someone gave me such helpful advice. If you get to say your vows and make that commitment to each other, everything else on the day is a bonus. My wedding was a Pinterest wedding. We did everything ourselves, kept it small and budget friendly and got friends and loved ones involved in the making. I can soooo see you, Darcy and Pearl and your Aunty Julie helping you make all your wedding decor! Ultimately what ever you choose will be right for you. Because you’re choosing to come together as a family and commit to being together as Liam, Louise, Darcy and Pearl! ❤❤❤❤
Disney elopement, followed by London wedding reception. And get crafty making favours, table name cards, invites...little details that make it YOU but don't distract from the glam you want to achieve. (Plus little crafts are waaaay easier & enoyable than trying to craft an entire wedding...ask me how I know!!). Start by picking a date, then start working towards that.
Louise, I was having a really hard morning with my 20 month old daughter as we’ve had nothing but tantrums (toddler life lol) and just popped this video on in the background while I had a cuppa and stared into my phone aimlessly now she’s finally playing! 😅 I’ve watched you for years and I hardly ever comment but today I needed to. You’ve made my morning a little lighter, you are so pure and bring so much joy, you’ve chilled me right out 💘 so just thank you, from one mama to another 🫶🏼 my fiancé and I are planning on eloping to vegas! Cost effective, quick, quiet & a holiday in one 🎉😅☀️
Oh Louise! I'm an oldie and I've been here and seen you through a lot of this, but you truly deserve all the happiness in the world and we clearly see how much Liam gives that to you. Forget about all the things people will think or say and just do something that makes you happy. That's all that matters!
We eloped to Gretna Green , we were going to have a big party after but we decided we didn't need it , it was the most special and chilled out day , the sun was shining we took immediate family and our two dearest friends , it was perfect! It was very in keeping with us as a couple , as I'd say to anybody you have to do what feels right , dont do something just to please others xxx
The mental load of planning a wedding can be enormous, and I know I had a pretty miserable time in parts of the planning (thankfully the day itself was better!). I think counselling is a great idea. Something else to think about (not that you need it!!) is that if you did decide to have a smaller wedding (Disney or eloping or even at the registry office etc), you’ve still got plenty of excuses to do the big party. It could be a post wedding party, an anniversary party, or just a massive birthday party for a big birthday. Thanks for sharing all of this with us Louise. It’s so easy to feel alone when things aren’t picture perfect so I appreciate how honest you are with us 💚
I was also super indecisive but once you get started with wedding planning it just sort of snowballs and each decision helps you narrow down your vision. Even a year ago when we booked the venue versus now just a month and a half out from the day of, so much of my vision has changed! I think a planner would be a great first step because they can be sort of a “guide/guru” for you and give you some great ideas that you would never have thought of yourself, or help you mix all your ideas into one perfect day! You got this, and just know that the process is stressful for everyone - no matter what you see online!! I have shed so many tears and been so stressed even as my heart is overflowing with love and excitement.
When you talk about the Disney wedding and the crafty cozy local wedding you GLEAM! If you were more excited about the prospect of wedding planning then glitzy London would be so cool-- but it would also be a lot of work and a lot of back and forth and you definitely don't want planning the wedding to be overwhelming or a chore. If you still do want to party then what about eloping in Disney with just the girls and then doing a really fun, easy-going, crafty party after you get back. All your friends and family can be there to celebrate just after youve already done the lovely ceremony bit in a more intimate and safe way for you.
Lovely honest video! Don’t put too much pressure on yourself about how long your engagement is 🥰 I’m sure whatever you decide for a wedding will be absolutely lovely x
Intimate family affair ( just the 4 of you), party to follow at a later date. Whatever option you settle on remember it about the 4 of you, and no one else full stop! 💗
No wedding is ever perfect and you will always have the feeling of wishing you did or didn't do something. I think have a hybrid of all the ideas. Go and elope with the girls to Disney or Vegas then a big London party then for your 10 year anniversry do a small local party!
thank you for keeping me company during my dinner :D doesn’t matter the topic, i don’t like making decisions based on fear. so maybe that can be a helpful perspective for you in deciding the type of wedding you want just sit on the floor in the middle of your room, close your eyes, take a loving breath and imagine the best heart felt type of wedding for you. after you decide on a style feels truly good to your heart, i’m hoping that rest of the planing will come with ease xx
Thank you for being so open! I felt very anxious and overwhelmed when we started planning a wedding. For me the starting point was looking at venues. Big, small, glam, local,... And from there it became clear what size and feel was best suited for us and how much we wanted to spend. What really worked for me is letting my fiance make decisions and moodboards on what he found ideal. And from there my gut told me: "yes, brilliant idea!! " or "hmmm, I'd rather..." However letting someone else make a first decision (that can be altered to both your wishes) lifted a huge weight of my shoulders and it made me feel less alone. :)
My sister had 3 ceremonies: tree planting ceremony with just family and closest friends (we snuck onto the high school campus where they planted a dogwood tree), eloping to the courthouse, and then a fairy garden party in the spring including a natural rainbow cake and a gender neutral production of The Fantasticks where anyone could play whatever part they wanted. You do what makes you and your partner happy.
Try to remember that it’s YOUR day. It’s about you and Liam. If any opinions and comments from your family stress you out before you started planning the wedding… focus on your fiancé and daughters. You can have a small meaningful ceremony just for the closest family or just the 4 of you and not care about what others will say. At the end of the day it’s all about your love and commitment to each other. Enjoy it 💖🎉
Louise you need to stop worrying about what people think.. who cares if people are thinking it’s your second wedding! As long as you are happy then nothing else matters ❤
Ahh Louise, haven't seen you in a while but very pleased to see you today! My two cents: it seems like you feel like you need to have the answers for the wedding planner, but I would imagine that the wedding planner can help you decide! They know what has worked for others and can help you navigate all these valid feelings you are feeling. They are there to lessen overwhelm! And about the starting point: just start somewhere. Does not matter. Shoes, dress, venue.... if one of these is easier for you than the others, just start there. The rest will come after!! I just wish you the happiest life and the happiest wedding! ❤
You've always been the best "memory moments maker" for you, Liam and your girls. Whichever venue you decide on I think in the end you'll probably focus more on creating memories for the four of you to cherish.
Louise no one will judge you at your wedding from the first one. Everyone there will be there because they love you and occasionally things just don’t work out so they’re gonna be happy that you found someone that really loves you. I like the idea of doing the Disney wedding for your closest group and then if you wanted to come back and have the big churchy wedding where you did the invitations that you spoke about for the large group it would be acceptable to almost have two weddings. Because you can’t take everyone in your life to Disney As Disney is outrageously priced most people can’t afford to go there to be at or in a wedding
I love all these comments and helpful advice!! So much to think about and choose from. I would do so much of my wedding differently this time around but my only advice is that the wedding is for YOU guys and only you guys. So do what makes your heart happy ✨🫶🏻
I would say, your special day is about the two of you and the special promise you’re making to each other. Why not have a simple and meaningful ceremony with the girls and a few key friends and family and then have a big fun party another day if you feel so inclined. Your peace of mind and relationship with Liam are top priority and focus. ❤❤❤
Relax and enjoy your life with Liam and the girls. An engagement is a commitment and Liam loves you. Don't stress yourself and rush it, just for the sake of getting it over and done with. Be happy Louise x .
louise, you can have a london wedding where you have the big hotel and everything and still have a hand in the prep work! you can make things and bouquets and have those moments! if you go down the wedding planner route, tell them you want to have a destination wedding as well, maybe planning two weddings (one in London one at disney) is the way to go! OR you go elope and then have a big wedding later on down the line with guests and the works!
Really lovely to hear some of your thoughts and feelings on this topic. I personally haven’t been in most (or really any, rather) of the situations you have, but I wanted to say that even from my perspective, I find all your points understandable. There is A LOT A LOT involved in a wedding, and there is a lot of associations and fringe-feelings to the concept of marriage, no matter how hard we try to rationalise that this and that doesn’t apply to me or this wonderful relationship. So, take your time, do it your way (have four parties? Elope and no party? Don’t invite the extended family just because you’re related?), and remember at the end of the day, the only REAL change happening to you and Liam’s relationship, is a different symbol in your legal papers. Good luck!
I’ve been wedding planning myself. I feel like starting with investigating the venues is the way to start! I also felt overwhelmed at first but once we started looking at venues and the realities of the constraints some of those might have on your guest count or vision, it helps you figure out what exactly you want and will work best for you! Thanks for sharing and sending love
Elope! Or even better Disney elopement (planned trip, suprised wedding) with your nearest and dearest. Then a planned big love-party afterwards, at a nice swanky local venue, something like Rushton hall? No need to go to London 🧡 Hire a weddingplanner, let them deal with every detail, but take the girls with you to pick the flowers, so instead of diy-ing everything, just have them help in picking the flower arrangements, the glitzy stuff and your dress 🌺 Since the actual invite is for a bit more unformal love-occasion-party, the aunts and uncles will have absolutely nothing to frown upon.
You can defo do a blend. You could do a pre wedding promise ceremony at Disney then follow up with the glam london but incorporating the diy aspect for like the favours etc. And then you could do 1 Yr anniversary renew vows in Vegas
You have opened the door. That's a big step. One person told me once when I said that I was scared, that if I will not step through that door I would never know what is behind it. Good luck in planning your wedding! Go Disney with your closest, and then you will not have to deal with the politics of who to invite and who not.
Hello! 2023 Bride here, my mum died when I was young so I totally understand the fomo around the dress shopping etc. In the end I shopped solo and loved the experience. Social media makes you think you need all the stuff but it’s all a swizz. Do what feels good for you and Liam and the girls
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This is just the tip of the iceberg. I've tried to share as much as possible but I didn't want to bore you all! Any help or advice is very welcome. Ultimately, I'm so up for the marriage but the WEDDING is a lot. Argh! xxx
You’re also super busy now so the thought of adding a tonne of organising stuff on top of all of that is a LOT! Definitely give yourself some grace and take as much time as you need x
Just elope! Xx
I totallyyyyyy feel this! I eloped to Vegas and it was the absolute best! We had nobody to answer to and no external stress to dampen the mood. We also had a very fun and unique summer party planned but then COVID hit. 😩 I say, elope to Vegas, come back and throw a very personal/local/crafty party for all your loved ones, and honeymoon in Disney! 😊 Then maybe for your 5 year anniversary you can fit in the swanky hotel party!
Not to throw another one in there but... cruise wedding? 🛳 🎉
Don’t let it overwhelm you. The love between you two and the life you built with your girls is the only thing that matters. I wanted a big wedding but I didn’t want to people please and my anxiety got to me, so we went to the courthouse with our closest family and this year will be our 13th year 🥰
As someone who been do a lot of “second weddings,” when we see the bride walk down the aisle, what we are thinking is, “Look how happy she is. This is how it should have always been.” We are so overjoyed for you and there is zero judgement. I would say elope and then throw a big party because so often, the wedding becomes so much about everyone else instead of the couple. Let it be something intimate that just y’all and a few people share. Then throw a huge, Disney themed after party at a swanky hotel, where you can DIY your heart out. Do all of the things! You deserve all of the things!
I was coming here to say the exact same thing!!
I love this reply ❤
And here is your wedding planner!!
I came to comment pretty much the same thing ;) I really think your loved ones will focus on how happy you are this time if they even compare
Elopement and party ALL THE WAY! It’s what I did and I wouldn’t change a thing (except maybe do it in Vegas rather than Oz!).
Whatever you choose will be right for you, Liam and the girls. It’s all so exciting but I get how overwhelming it is too.
Keep us posted 😘
I would suggest a Pinterest style elopement, big glam London party and then a Disney honeymoon! That way you get the best of all 4 and remove the fears around people comparing to your previous wedding 😊
Love this idea! 😊
If Darcy or Pearl asked you this question, what advice would you give them? I imagine you might say to do what makes them the most happy and not to worry about what other people think 💖
I wasn't going to say anything, but you asked!!😂
If you were my irl friend and we were having this convo, I would remind you about the fear you had before giving birth to Pearl. Just because the first time isn't the best doesn't mean the second time will be too. Look at how well that experience went because you learned and changed for what would be best for you. I just know this wedding will be wonderful!
P.S- my mum is team Disney wedding!
This is such sound advice, thank you Sarah! xxx
I was literally thinking the same thing! ❤
Either have the wedding of your dreams, planned by you, Liam and the girls (after all it is a day for all of you) or have a private ceremony, with just Darcy and Pearl attending, with a celebration party to follow at a later date.
Elope Louise!!! No guests mean that there will be no one there to compare.
You should have a small intimate wedding ceremony aboard or by the seaside.
Small Disney wedding, therefore no family politics, only invite exactly who you want. Marriage changes nothing, babies change everything and you’ve already done that and it’s great.
Nobody who loves you cares that it’s a second wedding! Get therapy so you can feel strong in that choice.
I'm with Amanda!!!
This is the first thing I thought of for Louise, I think it's a perfect idea, I imagine they take a lot of the stress out of it.
There’s never anything wrong celebrating the love & happiness you’ve found even if you’ve done it before. Where’s the fun in that if you can only do it once? Social media can definitely help and hinder with wedding planning, love a Pinterest board for inspo but need to remember comparison is the thief of all joy so you’ve just got to do you. Lastly, yaaay Disney content!
Thank you Rosie, you're so right xxx
If you’re worried that people are going to label it as “ugh Louise’s second wedding” and compare it to your first wedding… they are not your people! This wedding is not your second wedding. It’s a celebration of you and Liam! It’s a celebration of your daughters and everything you have achieved and the person you have become since then! I have watched you since the Oldy but Goldie days. You have blossomed and created a loving relationship with yourself and with Liam. Between you both, you have developed such a nurturing, inspiring space for your family and friends and this deserves to be celebrated! And the people that also see this glowing, nurturing new person are the only ones that matter! They will be celebrating right alongside you!
I think you seemed the most happy about a Disney wedding to be honest. It won’t stop you having a party at home after the wedding, where you could make some of the things for it with the girls. I feel it might be overwhelming wanting to make lots of things within the grand scheme of a wedding event when you were describing the crafty wedding.
I’ve watched you for 10 years now and the amount of honest and open chats you have is really amazing.
It's hard to get caught up in all this and forget a wedding is supposed to be exciting! Which one of these ideas excites you the most?
I think disney xxx
She’s so full of shit
Then go for it! Don’t worry about what others think. This is your happiness not theirs ❤
I can speak from my personal experience, I planned a big weeding with all the stops and then covid happened, so we scaled back our wedding to a DIY Pinterest wedding with just a handful of our friends and family and it was beautiful, such a blessing in disguise. I was able to speak to every one of my guests, I was able to relax and enjoy the day and remember it all. My friends frequently tell me it was the best wedding they’ve been to because it was so intimate and personal. I think weddings should feel representative of your relationship with your partner, so my advice is do what feels most representative of your relationship with Liam and the feeling you want to emulate in your marriage.
A good wedding planner will know exactly what to ask you to figure out what you want. I completely understand your fears but that ring on your fingers is testimony that Liam is in the boat for good. Have the wedding party at a local posh hotel, Disney themed and have a small private ceremony that feels like eloping...your 4wedding in 1 😊
Your wedding should be a representation of you, and your love. Which setting feels the most “Louise & Liam”? Pick that one! And then go forth confidently ❤
Fellow bride here 🙋♀️ I just want to say that you're so right, there is a ton of tradition and for many of us baggage associated with weddings and marriage. One thing I've found really comforting is just the idea that we can do this however we want to. There's really no correct way to do a wedding, so focus on what feels connective and meaningful to you and Liam and throw out the rest. And take your daughters on that journey with you, start new traditions with them!
I think a swanky party and elopement sounds good. Just have the “wedding part” be intimate with a select few so less stress about comparing to previous. Can still incorporate Pinterest vibes into the reception/party and do Disney for honeymoon. Get it all!!
It feels to me like you're overthinking/worrying about what others think/want. It's YOURS and liams day! Dont worry about what everyone else wants or expects. Do what makes you both happy. I know it's hard when you feel soo overwhelmed by the planing etc, maybe take a step back, breathe and write down whats most important to you both ❤️
Elope! You can sort out the actual details on the party later. Make the commitment and decide if the party is something you still want.
You explain your feelings so powerfully and clearly. Whilst I listened I kept thinking of your recent cruise and how you were able to enjoy new things and behave in ways you thought you never would.
I guess I was thinking that sometimes
pushing through anxiety can
lead to great joy.
Much love to you as you think about your feelings xxx
That is SO true! Thank you Sara! xxx
How about… a cute Pinterest crafty countryside hen, low-key or vegas elopement, big swanky celebratory party in London, followed by a Disney honey moon🔥
THIS!
I love hearing you be so open about this sort of thing! I love watching your videos as they are so comforting. I’ve been a fan since the Brit crew days, but I used to watch your weekly’s religiously from just before Pearl was born and they were actually such a lifeline, got me through so many things. You’re amazing, Louise and I always look forward to tuning in!❤❤
Ohhhh pleasure to have you here Skye xxxx
It’s so overwhelming, i didn’t know where to start ether and I didn’t know what kind of wedding I wanted. But I just booked viewings at so many venues and that helped us to get a picture of the kind of wedding we wanted. I also know how you feel about feeling lonely I was planning my wedding in a different country away from all my people. It will all come together in the end and it will happen when you’re ready ❤
Louise to the rescue! I keep thinking how I can tell people that I just want to enjoy my engagement and sign stuff when I'm good and ready!! Thank you!!!
Feel free to just send them this video and say, 'it me' haha xxx
Im just picturing your wedding week Louise!
1. Crafty local hens party where you Criccut things and make make decorations for the wedding and drink wine with your sisters and aunties and friends.
2. Elope at Disney just you, Liam and the girls.
3. HUGE fancey london reception with all the bells and whistles
4. Honey moon in Vegas!!! Wooo!
I’d say….go to your local courthouse bring your girls and just do it. Don’t tell anyone right away. Sit with it and feel the pressure go away….then plan whatever wedding brings you joy.
Oh gosh, I’m planning my wedding but my mum passed away last year and my sister lives in Australia so I feel quite lonely and actually very sad knowing my mum missed this all 😢
Please just pick whatever makes you happy, eloping does sound tempting, followed by an epic honeymoon!
Picking a venue gets the momentum going and gives you parameters for your decision making. For example, our wedding was at a venue with beautiful expansive gardens and heritage home, so my dress was then more classic, my shoes needed a block heel for the grass / brick floors, and my bridesmaids had embroidered flowers on their dresses to echo the nature all around us. I found picking a venue so helpful BECAUSE it limited my choices and gave me something to work from ☺️
As someone who felt the same about the wedding planning process as you (as much as I'm sad you felt that way I do take comfort that I'm not the only one!), if I had a go again I would go to Disney!! I just feel like it's such a happy place that the normal wedding woes wouldn't apply!! Or if you don't do a disney wedding maybe one day you can renew your vows there or do a special wedding anniversary party or something. Essentially you need to try and stop worrying about others and just think about yourself! Pleasing others will make you feel the same as your first wedding sadness I believe. Good luck Louise, I know you'll get there in the end ❤
It's so appealing to just jet off and be us four but then I feel guilty for some reason. It's such a hard choice! xxx
@@Louisepentland I think that it would be a good idea to get rid of all the expectations you think that anybody else has (easier said than done though 😅) and just do what you (and Liam obviously) want to do. If there was nobody to please and no expectations to be met - what would you do? And then you do exactly that 😊♥️
When you describe your Disney wedding you seem to know what you want already. It would also be low key, happy place and favorite people only option. Sounds like the option that would be enjoyable for you and yours xxx
As someone who is 21 years engaged with no wedding I completely understand your reservations. We’ve started the planning so many times but we ended up deciding if it ain’t broke don’t fix it! So here we are! Xx
Elope and then have a blessing when you come back & a party.
We had a crafty type wedding. I made the church decorations, the invitations and order of service. Only invited 45 guests. After a drink in the pub, we had our reception & BBQ in the in laws garden, which we'd decorated the day before.
Whatever you decide, don't let the expectations of others spoil the fun of your day. ❤❤❤
This sounds like my dream wedding tbh! Well done for being brave and sticking to what worked for you
Private Disney wedding to tick both the Disney and elope boxes and then a big party in London to tick the flash London party good time box.
I personally loved my wedding. And I truly think it's because we picked a small wedding all in one place. Photos, ceremony, and reception. We picked friends over family to come, and we enjoyed the day more than I could have imagined.
Also, I think Disney would have wedding planning down to a fine art and be very helpful.
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Definitely an oldie but goldie. I’m 21 now, and I’ve been here since I was 13. So proud of you!!!! Thank you for the mems 🤍
You could do a combination of all the weddings you want? Have a show stopping Disney wedding with handmade invitations and decor with the most important people! ❤
I am a terrible planner and I couldn’t handle the anxiety of a third (!) wedding, so we had a very small, intimate wedding. It was just the two of us and the officiant. We made it super special for us. It was a very meaningful ceremony in which we could just focus on our new beginning! I hope you find a way to do something meaningful for you, Louise. ❤
I felt exactly the same. Combination of childhood trauma, seeing my parents marriage crumble, my own friendship group changing and cost stopped me from even thinking about planning after I got engaged.
My fiancé is similar to Liam in that he just wants me to be happy and for us to have a good time so that is a blessing.
My suggestion would be start wandering around venues, see how you feel. I wasn’t sure what I wanted before I stepped on a farm stay wedding venue outside of the city. It has a chapel, reception space and accomodation all on site. The plan is to have a very relaxed, 2 night stay with 80 guests. We found that our priorities were met in this venue- intimate, relaxing and in nature. We also booked the date more than 20 months in advance so we have plenty of time to budget and plan. Wishing you guys every happiness, do what is right for you!
Love the upfront honesty in this. Sending love to you and the fam 💙
You’ve got a lovely stepmom now as you stated! I’m sure she would love to help you now in any way you want !
You will know when the time is right! Don’t stress yourself this time! Something intimate then a big party!
I would 10/10 recommend jumping on to Jamie wolfer’s videos to get you excited and less overwhelmed about the planning process!!
We decided to elope and then have a big party afterwards - it was honestly the best decision we've ever made! It gives you the opportunity to really share the special moment between the two of you (or with the girls if you wanted them there!) and takes a lot of the pressures off of having to have this huge wedding. Then at the party you're really able to enjoy yourself and truly have the best time with out all of the worry!
The other way to look at it is that you will be happy no matter what you pick. And I love the attitude that you don’t have to pick it all if you don’t want to.
OMG I *love* this attitude!!! xxx
You've made my day. I messaged Marie Bits and Clips replied to me too, what a lovely week. Also by the way, I did a Pinterest DIY wedding and while there were aspects that were fun, and it turned out lovely it was A LOT of work and time not to put you off of that, but just to go in eyes wide open because I don’t think I’ve really realized. Also, I had another thought, whatever you end up picking, you could always do a vowel renewal or celebratory thing with one of the other ones you didn’t pick later who says you only have to do it once ( within reason for our budgets).
How about a Disney cruise wedding, just you Liam and the girls? The most important thing is that you and Liam are happy and do what YOU want. Don’t try and please other family members as it is about you and Liam not them. If they get upset, tough, they’ll get over it! 😂 Good luck with what ever you decide. You are positively radiant in your blogs at the moment especially when you were on the cruises x
Heya! I just had my 1st wedding, husbands 2nd and I had lots of the same fears. We also live in Aus so had no family here to have those wedding dress shopping moments / planning etc..
We started with sitting down with some wine, and talking about how we want to feel on the day, and what is most important to us: ie who is there, the dress, the location, family to invite etc.. Tune out all of the pressure and move away from the fear and go with what feels good to you.
With regards to your first wedding; no one will be thinking anything other than how happy they are for you, and you should try and move away from comparing the planning and dates - you are a completely different person now, your wedding will be nothing like that one, nor will the marriage. You could involve the girls and have them with you for those “mum” memories; they will remember it forever and what a special way to have Jane there too 💕 best of luck!!!
When I hired my day of coordinator for my wedding, at the beginning of the planning process, she asked me what kind of feelings I wanted to have on my wedding day. Had to close my eyes and think of the feelings that I wanted to feel on the day. And then she asked me how can I get those feelings and if we just listed things like simple, family, oriented, happy, no drama, and really from those feelings I was able to figure out a place and I wanted to have it that made me feel those feelings already.
As a chronic overthinker myself, I've always found that letting my values steer decisions is helpful. Have a think about what values you hold dear, and following on from that what your non-negotiables for the day are (perhaps moments with the girls, having something of your mum with you throughout the day, feeling connected to things that bring you true joy like Disney or crafting). Then no matter what you choose to do, or if little things inevitably go awry, you can always anchor yourself to knowing the things you value most were there. The rest is all fluff ☺️
Hope all these opinions and advice are helpful and not adding to mind-noise! ❤
Oldie but Goldie here Louise! I'm a wedding stationery designer and really think you should go for an elopement! They're so in right now! Or even a super intimate wedding. You can follow this up with a wedding celebration with a bigger guest list a few weeks later if you want to celebrate with more family and friends, but the 'big day' will be super intimate and with the closest people in your life 🧡
Definitely do the counseling!!! It will really help you process everything. For the wedding, I vote for a garden fairy Pinterest style backyard wedding 🥰
Bearing in mind I don’t actually know you BUT I feel like the wedding you want is the Disney one ❤ it’s kind of like eloping and only people who really want to be there will make the effort to go.. and you can still do crafty bits with the girls, make the invitations etc if you want to! excited to see what you decide on if you want to share with us ❤
Your wedding is for you and Liam and the girls. Do what makes you happy. A wedding is about the couple not anyone else. If a disney wedding is what makes you happy then go for it. You can make it intimate with the girls and a few people and then have a big party for others afterwards. Theirs no point in doing a big stressful wedding if that's not what you want or is going to make you happy. Just do you and do what makes you and your little family happy and focus on that. 🎉. I'm sure whatever you decide will be amazing. 🎉❤
I think it speaks volumes that you listed the Disney wedding first as an option ☺️
Therapy can be helpful to really dig into what you actually want and not feel responsible for what other people think/feel too.
It was nice to join you for a chatty video again! ❤
Entering the chat as an oldie but goldie! Been watching since 2013 or so! Excited for you!
Oh boy...I actually think it was more like 2011. Time flies!
Do what you feel works for both of you! Doesnt matter what anyone thinks of a second marriage they can mind thier own lol! I would say Louise start with the venue and let that guide you as to what the decor should be. Dont let being divorced hold you back from your wonderful happy life and marriage with Liam. Can always come to us if you need anything.🥰😉
My vote is for the pinterest wedding or the Disney wedding! I think they have the most positive points, it really depends on how you want the day to feel. But I think including the girls in the planning/making of decorations would be amazing and a moment they would treasure 💖 I wish you all the best and cant wait to see more 🤗 I love weddings
Louise’s new upload day will be Thursdays.
Happy to help a gal. ❤
Craft videos! Yes please.
At the end of the day, this day is for you and Liam. Don't get bogged down in thoughts like "i wonder if they will compare dresses" etc. As long as you have a dress YOU like, that's all that matters. With every aspect, as long as you and Liam love it, everyone should love it for you!! I think weddings become easy to get absorbed into but you just have to take step at a time, personally I would start with venue and work from there x
What makes you the happiest Louise? This is your happiness not anyone else’s. You do what you wont regret! This is a chapter of your life that is for YOU ❤
Listening to you speak, it sounds like you’re leaning towards Disney! Been here since 2014 and now I’m 22, I always love these big sister type chats! Wishing you lots of peace and happiness on your wedding day🥰
This is all so relatable! I had a crafty wedding and everyone thought I had things planned better than I did and so many things went wrong and I still feel bad about it! Hearing you talk about this, I think an elopement (maybe at Disney,including your girls) with a very glam party could be a perfect fit- no ‘second wedding’, still special and personal, but more of a ‘let’s make this already great thing official’ kind of thing. Anyways, I hope you feel settled with whatever you end up choosing (and I know counseling can help with that)!
Get a wedding planner!!!!!
I see you having a Disney wedding followed by a party in the UK which is a good mixture of glam and crafty.
Ultimately what makes you happiest when you think of how the wedding will look?
When I planned our wedding I bought the dress first and then the venue and then everything else. I think in your case you need to choose the venue first because your dress for Disney will probably look very different to the dress for a glam London do.
Take your time though, who cares how long you are engaged for! You will make the decision at the right time xx
To me, a Pinterest DIY wedding sounds super stressful.
I vote for eloping and then party at Disney! 🥰
Thank you so much for your honesty and vulnerability, Louise! 💕 With your story it is so understandable, that you're struggling here. My two pennies to the situation are: It could be helpful to seek healing for the wounds of your past, a counselor could really help with that. When we face and look into our fears they usually become much smaller 🙂 I also think that a wedding planner could help you figure out what it is you want by asking the right questions with their expertise. It's all a process and I'm sure you'll figure out more and more puzzle pieces along the way 🤗 xx
I hear you! I got so stressed planning my wedding. Someone gave me such helpful advice. If you get to say your vows and make that commitment to each other, everything else on the day is a bonus.
My wedding was a Pinterest wedding. We did everything ourselves, kept it small and budget friendly and got friends and loved ones involved in the making. I can soooo see you, Darcy and Pearl and your Aunty Julie helping you make all your wedding decor!
Ultimately what ever you choose will be right for you. Because you’re choosing to come together as a family and commit to being together as Liam, Louise, Darcy and Pearl! ❤❤❤❤
Disney elopement, followed by London wedding reception. And get crafty making favours, table name cards, invites...little details that make it YOU but don't distract from the glam you want to achieve. (Plus little crafts are waaaay easier & enoyable than trying to craft an entire wedding...ask me how I know!!). Start by picking a date, then start working towards that.
Louise, I was having a really hard morning with my 20 month old daughter as we’ve had nothing but tantrums (toddler life lol) and just popped this video on in the background while I had a cuppa and stared into my phone aimlessly now she’s finally playing! 😅
I’ve watched you for years and I hardly ever comment but today I needed to.
You’ve made my morning a little lighter, you are so pure and bring so much joy, you’ve chilled me right out 💘
so just thank you, from one mama to another 🫶🏼
my fiancé and I are planning on eloping to vegas!
Cost effective, quick, quiet & a holiday in one 🎉😅☀️
Oh Louise! I'm an oldie and I've been here and seen you through a lot of this, but you truly deserve all the happiness in the world and we clearly see how much Liam gives that to you. Forget about all the things people will think or say and just do something that makes you happy. That's all that matters!
We eloped to Gretna Green , we were going to have a big party after but we decided we didn't need it , it was the most special and chilled out day , the sun was shining we took immediate family and our two dearest friends , it was perfect! It was very in keeping with us as a couple , as I'd say to anybody you have to do what feels right , dont do something just to please others xxx
The mental load of planning a wedding can be enormous, and I know I had a pretty miserable time in parts of the planning (thankfully the day itself was better!). I think counselling is a great idea.
Something else to think about (not that you need it!!) is that if you did decide to have a smaller wedding (Disney or eloping or even at the registry office etc), you’ve still got plenty of excuses to do the big party. It could be a post wedding party, an anniversary party, or just a massive birthday party for a big birthday.
Thanks for sharing all of this with us Louise. It’s so easy to feel alone when things aren’t picture perfect so I appreciate how honest you are with us 💚
I was also super indecisive but once you get started with wedding planning it just sort of snowballs and each decision helps you narrow down your vision. Even a year ago when we booked the venue versus now just a month and a half out from the day of, so much of my vision has changed! I think a planner would be a great first step because they can be sort of a “guide/guru” for you and give you some great ideas that you would never have thought of yourself, or help you mix all your ideas into one perfect day! You got this, and just know that the process is stressful for everyone - no matter what you see online!! I have shed so many tears and been so stressed even as my heart is overflowing with love and excitement.
When you talk about the Disney wedding and the crafty cozy local wedding you GLEAM! If you were more excited about the prospect of wedding planning then glitzy London would be so cool-- but it would also be a lot of work and a lot of back and forth and you definitely don't want planning the wedding to be overwhelming or a chore. If you still do want to party then what about eloping in Disney with just the girls and then doing a really fun, easy-going, crafty party after you get back. All your friends and family can be there to celebrate just after youve already done the lovely ceremony bit in a more intimate and safe way for you.
Lovely honest video! Don’t put too much pressure on yourself about how long your engagement is 🥰 I’m sure whatever you decide for a wedding will be absolutely lovely x
Intimate family affair ( just the 4 of you), party to follow at a later date. Whatever option you settle on remember it about the 4 of you, and no one else full stop! 💗
No wedding is ever perfect and you will always have the feeling of wishing you did or didn't do something. I think have a hybrid of all the ideas. Go and elope with the girls to Disney or Vegas then a big London party then for your 10 year anniversry do a small local party!
thank you for keeping me company during my dinner :D
doesn’t matter the topic, i don’t like making decisions based on fear. so maybe that can be a helpful perspective for you in deciding the type of wedding you want
just sit on the floor in the middle of your room, close your eyes, take a loving breath and imagine the best heart felt type of wedding for you. after you decide on a style feels truly good to your heart, i’m hoping that rest of the planing will come with ease xx
Thank you for being so open! I felt very anxious and overwhelmed when we started planning a wedding.
For me the starting point was looking at venues. Big, small, glam, local,... And from there it became clear what size and feel was best suited for us and how much we wanted to spend.
What really worked for me is letting my fiance make decisions and moodboards on what he found ideal. And from there my gut told me: "yes, brilliant idea!! " or "hmmm, I'd rather..." However letting someone else make a first decision (that can be altered to both your wishes) lifted a huge weight of my shoulders and it made me feel less alone. :)
My sister had 3 ceremonies: tree planting ceremony with just family and closest friends (we snuck onto the high school campus where they planted a dogwood tree), eloping to the courthouse, and then a fairy garden party in the spring including a natural rainbow cake and a gender neutral production of The Fantasticks where anyone could play whatever part they wanted. You do what makes you and your partner happy.
Elope at Disney, then have the glam London wedding where you’ve crafted the invites and made the table settings with the girls?😅🥰
Try to remember that it’s YOUR day. It’s about you and Liam.
If any opinions and comments from your family stress you out before you started planning the wedding… focus on your fiancé and daughters. You can have a small meaningful ceremony just for the closest family or just the 4 of you and not care about what others will say.
At the end of the day it’s all about your love and commitment to each other. Enjoy it 💖🎉
Louise you need to stop worrying about what people think.. who cares if people are thinking it’s your second wedding! As long as you are happy then nothing else matters ❤
Oldie but Goldie! Had your sprinkle of glitter planner!
Ahh Louise, haven't seen you in a while but very pleased to see you today! My two cents: it seems like you feel like you need to have the answers for the wedding planner, but I would imagine that the wedding planner can help you decide! They know what has worked for others and can help you navigate all these valid feelings you are feeling. They are there to lessen overwhelm! And about the starting point: just start somewhere. Does not matter. Shoes, dress, venue.... if one of these is easier for you than the others, just start there. The rest will come after!! I just wish you the happiest life and the happiest wedding! ❤
You've always been the best "memory moments maker" for you, Liam and your girls. Whichever venue you decide on I think in the end you'll probably focus more on creating memories for the four of you to cherish.
Louise no one will judge you at your wedding from the first one. Everyone there will be there because they love you and occasionally things just don’t work out so they’re gonna be happy that you found someone that really loves you. I like the idea of doing the Disney wedding for your closest group and then if you wanted to come back and have the big churchy wedding where you did the invitations that you spoke about for the large group it would be acceptable to almost have two weddings. Because you can’t take everyone in your life to Disney As Disney is outrageously priced most people can’t afford to go there to be at or in a wedding
START WITH WHAT MAKES U THE MOST EXCITED 4 THE WEDDING SO u move forward on a happy Note ❤
I love all these comments and helpful advice!! So much to think about and choose from. I would do so much of my wedding differently this time around but my only advice is that the wedding is for YOU guys and only you guys. So do what makes your heart happy ✨🫶🏻
I would say, your special day is about the two of you and the special promise you’re making to each other. Why not have a simple and meaningful ceremony with the girls and a few key friends and family and then have a big fun party another day if you feel so inclined. Your peace of mind and relationship with Liam are top priority and focus. ❤❤❤
Relax and enjoy your life with Liam and the girls. An engagement is a commitment and Liam loves you. Don't stress yourself and rush it, just for the sake of getting it over and done with. Be happy Louise x .
Elope at disney with just you, Liam and the girls then come back and throw a huge party at a hotel with all the crafting joy you want ❤
louise, you can have a london wedding where you have the big hotel and everything and still have a hand in the prep work! you can make things and bouquets and have those moments! if you go down the wedding planner route, tell them you want to have a destination wedding as well, maybe planning two weddings (one in London one at disney) is the way to go! OR
you go elope and then have a big wedding later on down the line with guests and the works!
I’m an oldie but goldie to the point I still call you sprinkle of glitter xx
Really lovely to hear some of your thoughts and feelings on this topic. I personally haven’t been in most (or really any, rather) of the situations you have, but I wanted to say that even from my perspective, I find all your points understandable. There is A LOT A LOT involved in a wedding, and there is a lot of associations and fringe-feelings to the concept of marriage, no matter how hard we try to rationalise that this and that doesn’t apply to me or this wonderful relationship. So, take your time, do it your way (have four parties? Elope and no party? Don’t invite the extended family just because you’re related?), and remember at the end of the day, the only REAL change happening to you and Liam’s relationship, is a different symbol in your legal papers. Good luck!
I’ve been wedding planning myself. I feel like starting with investigating the venues is the way to start! I also felt overwhelmed at first but once we started looking at venues and the realities of the constraints some of those might have on your guest count or vision, it helps you figure out what exactly you want and will work best for you! Thanks for sharing and sending love
I would Elope Louise , that way it’s just simply about you both and the girls. Then have a the biggest best party ever when you get home ❤
Elope! Or even better Disney elopement (planned trip, suprised wedding) with your nearest and dearest. Then a planned big love-party afterwards, at a nice swanky local venue, something like Rushton hall? No need to go to London 🧡 Hire a weddingplanner, let them deal with every detail, but take the girls with you to pick the flowers, so instead of diy-ing everything, just have them help in picking the flower arrangements, the glitzy stuff and your dress 🌺
Since the actual invite is for a bit more unformal love-occasion-party, the aunts and uncles will have absolutely nothing to frown upon.
You can defo do a blend. You could do a pre wedding promise ceremony at Disney then follow up with the glam london but incorporating the diy aspect for like the favours etc. And then you could do 1 Yr anniversary renew vows in Vegas
You have opened the door. That's a big step. One person told me once when I said that I was scared, that if I will not step through that door I would never know what is behind it. Good luck in planning your wedding! Go Disney with your closest, and then you will not have to deal with the politics of who to invite and who not.
Hello! 2023 Bride here, my mum died when I was young so I totally understand the fomo around the dress shopping etc. In the end I shopped solo and loved the experience. Social media makes you think you need all the stuff but it’s all a swizz. Do what feels good for you and Liam and the girls
Elope to wdw and then have a crafty wedding party! Combines 3 of the ideas ❤