U know what the best part of stammerers is ..we think twice before taking any decisions in good and bad ..while others ruin in first place ... It teaches how to be calm and get learn and make best decision out of it...and slowly it empowers and encourags our self - esteem .. i think it's gem to me and so ok to be a part of it... because it teaches life every second even after overcoming through it... It's all in hands of God... praise for it ❤️
I agree, I just really found out that I stuttered and I feel like we stuttering it help us reevaluate we’re actually thinking it and trying to say I never really noticed it until I just recorded a video of me talking.
The funny thing is I have both of them at the same time. Today I can be walking around and talk frequently like a lawyer, and the next day I find myself stuttering again.
Don't fight with stutter, don't hold back, don't repress, don't hide stutter. Do not label it bad, do not try to speak fluent, ,do not control it but accept expressing stutter, give stutter it's total freedom,then transformation happened own its own, accepting whatever negative inside you, transformation happen, Root cause of sluttering is repression and fighting , we repress and fight with it because we have fear of judgement of people, what will people think if I express it, so instead of expression we hide it and we fight with it , that causes more sluttering, the more you fight with it , the more you will stutter, that'how blockage occurs "Acceptance is the alchemical process of transforming everything, in accepting your ugliness beauty arises, accept and ugliness disappear,grace arises, accept and sin is transformed into saintliness, accept and madness is no longer madness, let it happen and accept it, ". said by Osho He said"By hiding your misery you are not going to get out of it,you will create more misery,the first thing is to encounter it, if you are miserable then be miserable,just be yourself,never pretend to be somebody else,face it, go deep into it,take it out,uproot it from the unconscious and bring it to the conscious. Bring your whole mind to light and you will see all that is miserable ,start dying.."
@@fridaymanly You must go into the situation ,that you scared of , set yourself daily goal ,i will go into that scary situation and i will stutter, i will feel whatever emotion , tension comes from my body, i will accept it, i will not resist it, i will not hide it from anybody,i will be vulnerable, i will be courageous , i will show other people whatever negative feelings, emotion come from my body You should not listen to people's opinions . You should not live on the basis of people's opinions but rather live on the basis of your own will power,. .Listen to your heart , listen to your will power not to people.. People are judging by reading single page of book, they didn't read whole book, people had not seen your entire life or entire past... They are judging on the basis of single moment that you talked to them , how can people be right.... Now for practising 'not caring other judgement' you can do one method This method is called 'law of otherwise'.. The law is ' Never do anything as others do it- never do any work as others do it,always try to do it differently , always do things differently from others, For example you can go into a crowd place and walk with both hands up . It brings tremendous result, people will laugh at you, people will call you mad ,sooner or later you no longer worried about what other people say
@@msmarium42 Growth always happens outside comfort zone, you cannot expect that you will overcome your stutter by sitting in single room ,alone, doing nothing, beating yourself up , this is not a process of growth Growth always happens through inconvenience, Growth always happens through pain, challenge
"I've stuttered all my days. I guess I'm one of those incurable stutterers. Everyone has his own personal demon and mine is stuttering. I found that once I accepted it as a problem and learned to cope with it by not avoiding or hiding or struggling with it, my demon lost its hold on me. --Charles Van Riper. My very favorite description of stuttering is from Van Riper, "Stuttering is everything that the stutter does to avoid stuttering." That's probably paraphrased. Great Description. It's right up their with Van's quotes.
I'm 37 years old single man I've never had a decent job or life partner because of stuttering. I've been to speech therapy, but it never worked. Life is already difficult, imagine how difficult could it be with stuttering. 😩💔
I’m also have stuttering .That stuttering will hold my confidence for me everyday moreover it hold my confidence.But face it .Everything will be alright for you my man .
Excellent! I had a severe stutter until I was about 35 and finally figured out wtf was going on. Growing up I was a human punching bag and a mental wreck throughout my 20's. Im happy now, successful and 90% fluent. I speak better but that wounded part of me still exists, I don't know if the fear ever really goes away or if its a fight you fight forever.
@bilalishtiyaque the biggest thing I learned about stuttering by writing a book about overcoming stuttering is that stutterers won't do the work so it doesn't matter. My friends who have coached stutterers agree... Anyone who actually wants to drop the victim BS and get over it will figure it out by leaving the stuttering community and living a normal life.
*I am thankful and so s* atisfied to see my name on this video subtitle, especially for *English transcription.* Overall, The topic that the speaker talked here was very interesting and insightful as well. As a translator, I got a piece of new knowledge and thoughts after watching this video and loved listening to his British accent as well. _Good job, Ruban!_ Pleasant working with *TED Translator Community!*
By the way, I also made Bahasa Indonesian translation for this video and you could see and check the CC Subtitle. Happy translating! 🎉 Stay healthy! 🎉💪🏻🏃♂️🥋
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Just over 2 years on since this talk and I very much appreciate the comments that still come through. Keep going everyone, I still stutter very much but the key is to keep focussed on the outcome and less on how fluent you sound 💌💬
Thank you so much for your wonderful sharing. I really appreciate you and your effort to help stutterers find a solution for their problem. I have a nephew who is also a stutterer and I fully understand how hard his life is. He is quite young so he easily gets embarrassed when communicating with his peers. Now I get a useful guideline from your insightful speech to support my nephew. Encouragement from family members and being disciplined when practicing speaking at home are factors to get his confidence back. Once again, I'm so grateful for your informative video.
Thank you for that insight. Im currently dating a girl with a bit of a stutter and trying to learn what exactly is happening. How to support and how to properly react. This Bridge analogy with the river really helped
Thanks Ruban to highlight this issue. I know how it is Painfull because I also have same problem till 2019, Infact i stammer so much. But, Then I know it is curable And I start working on that and by god grace i can cure my stammering😀😀
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True. But society has taught us to hide. Just hate it when they purposefully stutter as you stutter when talking to them. “I don’t understand it. Say it again?” As they laughed
Lee Lovetts’ “How to Stop Stuttering & Love Speaking” will help improve your speech if you diligently immerse yourself in his book and WSSA program. I and countless others have found great success with it.
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I have a stuttering and stammering problem. It's true I do avoid a lot about life. It's sad but currently I don't have friends or a lover as I feel like I can't talk to anyone, even some times family.
I have to take seminar, I'm not afraid to talk in front of my classmates and teacher but I'm afraid because of my stuttering. I need some hope to overcome my stuttering fear😭💔
Nothing even I have stammering ,even I took seminar,do one thing. Just be more slow when u talk.try to understand concept well tht u shld teach in ur own words without tension of being stuttering.if u are calm when taking seminar and speak slowly,u can do it properly without any constraints.i followed these steps when I took seminar. Cheers
As a stutterer like myself this is probably one of the worst things to here. And unfortunately I get told this all the time and it only makes my speech worse and makes me feel even less confident when talking
Man i just use hand gestures to communicate with other people than talking with my mouth. Cuz when I talk the heaviness in my heart increase and it starts to beat faster. It's so frustrating
I am stammer nd also my brother nd father also stammer . when I am alone in home. and read a newspaper alonely at that time I have no stammer nd also when I am in 1st yr I gave my introduction and sing a song infront of my senior also at that time I have no stammer bt when I try to explain something to other i stammer How I overcome my stammer in 1 month ? my age is 22 nd I am from odisha. What should I do for this ?
@@MayankKumar-nn6us in sales bro. You can’t Imagine having a breakdown of shame when a lot of people teases you. Well i tried but failed but that subconscious mind of shame is so heartfelt and hurtful.
My son stammers ... I really don't know how to help him.. as a mother I understand his struggles...but at times I ask myself do I really understand... I wish I could step into his shoes for a day.. he is just 11yrs old
Disappointing that he never stammered on a single word, and he talks about stammering and himself how it feels to have a stammer. Is he giving the impression to the fluent speakers that it is acceptable to be fluent and not acceptable to have a stamer. This would’ve been a perfect opportunity to show people with this, or does he himself does not like his ownstamer is desperate to be seen as a fluent speaker.
I js want to end it really messed my life. I don’t even know if this is considered stuttering but when I speak i tend to shake my head like a glitch. Can someone explain what’s wrong with me please
I’d be fully supportive of anyone with a stutter, but I really feel like if y’all had keywords to fall back on, you could snap out of it before it starts. Like if you calm down enough to bluntly say something like “hang on, I gotta think”, you’ll be good. Those who rush/assume your submissive response is an opp. Take note, but also disregard them. Bc everybody’s taking note.
U know what the best part of stammerers is ..we think twice before taking any decisions in good and bad ..while others ruin in first place ... It teaches how to be calm and get learn and make best decision out of it...and slowly it empowers and encourags our self - esteem .. i think it's gem to me and so ok to be a part of it... because it teaches life every second even after overcoming through it... It's all in hands of God... praise for it ❤️
✅️ right🥰😍
Want some stammers as friends, is there someone ?
how happy to have finally gotten rid of stuttering with the use of doctor eromon herbal product. it stopped it completely and permanently
@@davidleo5766 Have you Gotten rid of it completely ?
I agree, I just really found out that I stuttered and I feel like we stuttering it help us reevaluate we’re actually thinking it and trying to say I never really noticed it until I just recorded a video of me talking.
Fluent or "normal" speakers can never fathom what it is like to live with this condition. It changes your life forever
In the biggest ways man.
The funny thing is I have both of them at the same time. Today I can be walking around and talk frequently like a lawyer, and the next day I find myself stuttering again.
@@Damian_Bullockme too
It turned me into a loner
@@Damian_Bullock if you can speak fluently for even single full day, then you do not have a stuttering disorder. That, or it's extremely minor.
I believe that no one truly knows frustration unless they stutter.
Don't fight with stutter, don't hold back, don't repress, don't hide stutter. Do not label it bad, do not try to speak fluent, ,do not control it but accept expressing stutter, give stutter it's total freedom,then transformation happened own its own, accepting whatever negative inside you, transformation happen,
Root cause of sluttering is repression and fighting , we repress and fight with it because we have fear of judgement of people, what will people think if I express it, so instead of expression we hide it and we fight with it , that causes more sluttering, the more you fight with it , the more you will stutter, that'how blockage occurs
"Acceptance is the alchemical process of transforming everything, in accepting your ugliness beauty arises, accept and ugliness disappear,grace arises, accept and sin is transformed into saintliness, accept and madness is no longer madness, let it happen and accept it, ". said by Osho
He said"By hiding your misery you are not going to get out of it,you will create more misery,the first thing is to encounter it, if you are miserable then be miserable,just be yourself,never pretend to be somebody else,face it, go deep into it,take it out,uproot it from the unconscious and bring it to the conscious. Bring your whole mind to light and you will see all that is miserable ,start dying.."
Thanks
How do you feel when people react negative la regarding your stutter
@@fridaymanly You must go into the situation ,that you scared of , set yourself daily goal ,i will go into that scary situation and i will stutter, i will feel whatever emotion , tension comes from my body, i will accept it, i will not resist it, i will not hide it from anybody,i will be vulnerable, i will be courageous , i will show other people whatever negative feelings, emotion come from my body
You should not listen to people's opinions . You should not live on the basis of people's opinions but rather live on the basis of your own will power,. .Listen to your heart , listen to your will power not to people..
People are judging by reading single page of book, they didn't read whole book, people had not seen your entire life or entire past... They are judging on the basis of single moment that you talked to them , how can people be right....
Now for practising 'not caring other judgement' you can do one method
This method is called 'law of otherwise'..
The law is ' Never do anything as others do it- never do any work as others do it,always try to do it differently , always do things differently from others, For example you can go into a crowd place and walk with both hands up . It brings tremendous result, people will laugh at you, people will call you mad ,sooner or later you no longer worried about what other people say
@@tripurari9309 it's so hard to apply these methods in real life.. I tried so hard. Some people laugh too much at me. I feel very frustrated..
@@msmarium42 Growth always happens outside comfort zone, you cannot expect that you will overcome your stutter by sitting in single room ,alone, doing nothing, beating yourself up , this is not a process of growth
Growth always happens through inconvenience, Growth always happens through pain, challenge
"I've stuttered all my days. I guess I'm one of those incurable stutterers. Everyone has his own personal demon and mine is stuttering. I found that once I accepted it as a problem and learned to cope with it by not avoiding or hiding or struggling with it, my demon lost its hold on me. --Charles Van Riper. My very favorite description of stuttering is from Van Riper, "Stuttering is everything that the stutter does to avoid stuttering." That's probably paraphrased. Great Description. It's right up their with Van's quotes.
I'm 37 years old single man
I've never had a decent job or life partner because of stuttering.
I've been to speech therapy, but it never worked. Life is already difficult, imagine how difficult could it be with stuttering. 😩💔
TURN TO ALLAH YOU WILL SEE A LOT OF CHANGES
😢😢
@@ninween6865 no
I’m also have stuttering .That stuttering will hold my confidence for me everyday moreover it hold my confidence.But face it .Everything will be alright for you my man .
I feel you man. I suggest Lee Lovetts’ “How to Stop Stuttering & Love Speaking” novelty. It greatly helped me reduce my stutter and countless others.
I'm more motivated from the comments section then video
People don't understand what it's like when you can't even say your own name.
I know, its the worst feeling
yeah when i meet new people i cant even say my own name
I had that once, with my surname. Not nice
True
It's a challenge.
Great talk Ruban, it was a pleasure to meet you over a virtual coffee. You should be immensely proud of this.
Literally the best explanation of my life right here
Excellent! I had a severe stutter until I was about 35 and finally figured out wtf was going on. Growing up I was a human punching bag and a mental wreck throughout my 20's.
Im happy now, successful and 90% fluent. I speak better but that wounded part of me still exists, I don't know if the fear ever really goes away or if its a fight you fight forever.
Rooting for you p! Same here! March forward and slay it daily!
what was the root cause? and what you figured out?
@bilalishtiyaque the biggest thing I learned about stuttering by writing a book about overcoming stuttering is that stutterers won't do the work so it doesn't matter.
My friends who have coached stutterers agree...
Anyone who actually wants to drop the victim BS and get over it will figure it out by leaving the stuttering community and living a normal life.
Especially in our teens bud. Damn we got thru that phase. The flight of storm and stress during teen years are very mentally crazy.
@@koyval22 dude i cant remember most my childhood, its like a defense mechanism lol
*I am thankful and so s* atisfied to see my name on this video subtitle, especially for *English transcription.* Overall, The topic that the speaker talked here was very interesting and insightful as well. As a translator, I got a piece of new knowledge and thoughts after watching this video and loved listening to his British accent as well.
_Good job, Ruban!_
Pleasant working with *TED Translator Community!*
By the way, I also made Bahasa Indonesian translation for this video and you could see and check the CC Subtitle.
Happy translating! 🎉
Stay healthy! 🎉💪🏻🏃♂️🥋
Love it Ruban. Full respect to this and thank you, as a fellow stammerer, for raising awareness in this way. Great analogy too.
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Just over 2 years on since this talk and I very much appreciate the comments that still come through. Keep going everyone, I still stutter very much but the key is to keep focussed on the outcome and less on how fluent you sound 💌💬
Thanks for this 🙌🏾. It’s nice to hear my own struggles eloquently put.
Thank you for the inspiration
Thank u man,stuttering is not discussed enough ❤
Well done Ruban. You are such a great and inspiring communicator. Keep it up!
this is so real ,please don't make fun of us
I don't like it when people laugh at us when we stutter
@@kly.65I usually tell people this is mannerless or ask what they are laughing at. Almost always shuts them up
Thank you so much for your wonderful sharing. I really appreciate you and your effort to help stutterers find a solution for their problem. I have a nephew who is also a stutterer and I fully understand how hard his life is. He is quite young so he easily gets embarrassed when communicating with his peers. Now I get a useful guideline from your insightful speech to support my nephew. Encouragement from family members and being disciplined when practicing speaking at home are factors to get his confidence back. Once again, I'm so grateful for your informative video.
Ruban is such a great communicator.
This is the best explanation ive seen
Couldn’t be prouder of you brother!
Thank you for that insight. Im currently dating a girl with a bit of a stutter and trying to learn what exactly is happening. How to support and how to properly react. This Bridge analogy with the river really helped
Great to see your talk Ruben.. great job ...
i,m a 25 years old medical student.stuttering destroy my life,,because of stuttering i hardly talk with other people.
Apko viva vgrh me problem nhi hoti kya😢
Muje bhi isi sal MBBS mila hai but bhut dr lgta hai viva & seminar me kya hoga ...
Same brother. ..medical student with full of social anxiety 🔁 stutter. ..its very depressing 😢
My love stutters. Here to understand more about it so that even unknowingly I don't end up hurting him.
Lucky guy he is !
You have my respect for that.
My 7 year old stutters and I know that he will outgrow it. I have tears as I type this. God is great, and miracles happen
Thank you. Such a well described talk.
Thanks Ruban to highlight this issue. I know how it is Painfull because I also have same problem till 2019, Infact i stammer so much. But, Then I know it is curable And I start working on that and by god grace i can cure my stammering😀😀
@@iamsatyam15 If you want to cure your stammering. Connect with us and i'll explain you in detail.
@@alwayshappy57can you tell how you cured?
I just hate embarrassing myself I wish I could do that
how happy to have finally gotten rid of stuttering with the use of doctor eromon herbal product. it stopped it completely and permanently
failure is like gravity falling on my head like a big damn apple every time I open my mouth.
how happy to have finally gotten rid of stuttering with the use of doctor eromon herbal product. it stopped it completely and permanently
My daughter has been stammering for 3 years , she cry’s every day because her friends laughed in school! God 🙏🏻🙏🏻 Dr. Isibor for his Supplements brought joy 🤩 to me and my daughter I’m so grateful 😊 alternative Herb’s is the best treatment you need
@@hamnarashid3510 Dr Isibor herbal treatment
What is that treatment?
@@libbahickssophia1613 pls tell me about the treatment i really need it
Thanks for this
The key is in calmed.
When i was in school my friends used to ask why i would i stutter. It felt so bad. Now i am into sales ,I have to fight every day with this
True. But society has taught us to hide.
Just hate it when they purposefully stutter as you stutter when talking to them.
“I don’t understand it. Say it again?” As they laughed
ik i swear then i am so angry
Great talk Ruban
Because of stuttering ,
I can read in mind ，but o can't read a loud ,
That's why I don't talk 😭😭
Lee Lovetts’ “How to Stop Stuttering & Love Speaking” will help improve your speech if you diligently immerse yourself in his book and WSSA program. I and countless others have found great success with it.
Wonderful! Thank you Ruban ✨
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I have a stuttering and stammering problem. It's true I do avoid a lot about life. It's sad but currently I don't have friends or a lover as I feel like I can't talk to anyone, even some times family.
You can also beat stammering with Herbs 🌿 from Dr Isibor Herbal product on youtube, I'm able to speak freely today with his treatment
Bro I had stammering after 4 years of hardwork I have overcome it and I may be help you
@@chahatkathwaliya8197how did you overcome it ?
When I am alone I am not stuttering.
I have to take seminar, I'm not afraid to talk in front of my classmates and teacher but I'm afraid because of my stuttering. I need some hope to overcome my stuttering fear😭💔
Nothing even I have stammering ,even I took seminar,do one thing. Just be more slow when u talk.try to understand concept well tht u shld teach in ur own words without tension of being stuttering.if u are calm when taking seminar and speak slowly,u can do it properly without any constraints.i followed these steps when I took seminar.
Cheers
Great video! Did you outgrow stuttering? 80% of stutterers outgrow it, only 20% continue stuttering
how happy to have finally gotten rid of stuttering with the use of doctor eromon herbal product. it stopped it completely and permanently
Very relatable
Perfecta tradución ao galego😍
Great bro 🥳👍👍👍
Thank you 🙏🏼
how happy to have finally gotten rid of stuttering with the use of doctor eromon herbal product. it stopped it completely and permanently
I have a friend and I feel soo bad for him 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
@xvgreen8586 nice of you to think and care about your friend
I am 23
People of my age are exploring
And i am still learning how to speak😣
I’ve seen my uncle tell my cousin to hurry up and talk and idk how I feel about it. I’m just upset for that and can’t interfere.
As a stutterer like myself this is probably one of the worst things to here. And unfortunately I get told this all the time and it only makes my speech worse and makes me feel even less confident when talking
Missed out on so much because of it 😢
Man i just use hand gestures to communicate with other people than talking with my mouth. Cuz when I talk the heaviness in my heart increase and it starts to beat faster. It's so frustrating
Is sluttering or stammering or other speach related issues communicable?
I am stammer nd also my brother nd father also stammer . when I am alone in home. and read a newspaper alonely at that time I have no stammer nd also when I am in 1st yr I gave my introduction and sing a song infront of my senior also at that time I have no stammer bt when I try to explain something to other i stammer How I overcome my stammer in 1 month ? my age is 22 nd I am from odisha. What should I do for this ?
Yes, I am swiming in this river😊
does stuttering concern with exciting?... i become excite alot and my breathing pattern become chaos and then i stutter when speaking with stranger
Imagine having a stutter and no one takes it seriously
I have it and no one tak it seriously
So damn accurate... Perfecto
I lost my job due to stuttering. :(
IT industry?
That’s awful. I’m so sorry to hear that. Keep your head up, my friend. You can become a better speaker.
That’s sucks man
@@MayankKumar-nn6us in sales bro. You can’t
Imagine having a breakdown of shame when a lot of people teases you. Well i tried but failed but that subconscious mind of shame is so heartfelt and hurtful.
@@speakyourmindmethod i hope so bro. Keep safe.
My son stammers ... I really don't know how to help him.. as a mother I understand his struggles...but at times I ask myself do I really understand... I wish I could step into his shoes for a day.. he is just 11yrs old
😮💨
36.9M subscribers but rarely someone wants to understand us 😂
Disappointing that he never stammered on a single word, and he talks about stammering and himself how it feels to have a stammer. Is he giving the impression to the fluent speakers that it is acceptable to be fluent and not acceptable to have a stamer. This would’ve been a perfect opportunity to show people with this, or does he himself does not like his ownstamer is desperate to be seen as a fluent speaker.
He might of use to have a stutter and now doesn’t or they just edified out all the stutters
I js want to end it really messed my life. I don’t even know if this is considered stuttering but when I speak i tend to shake my head like a glitch. Can someone explain what’s wrong with me please
i do that too
Pliz don't laugh at people who stutter
We don't need sympathy need a salutations
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I’d be fully supportive of anyone with a stutter, but I really feel like if y’all had keywords to fall back on, you could snap out of it before it starts.
Like if you calm down enough to bluntly say something like “hang on, I gotta think”, you’ll be good.
Those who rush/assume your submissive response is an opp. Take note, but also disregard them. Bc everybody’s taking note.
Tbh, I tend to stammer if I’m out of breath or tired of speaking
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Do you have method ?😢