i am grieving the loss of a husband who's still alive. thanks for this. this will hopefully help me begin to see the sun through the clouds again and live my life without expecting him to be a better person. i accept that his choice is to remain stuck, in the fog, in pain and lost. i am not responsible for saving him. i love him and wish him all the best in life.
Gah…this video is so helpful. I’m in the middle of all of this. Accepting the truth of my narc parent…grieving, realizing I’m still being disrespected while I’m trying to take care of her while she is aging. It is awful. I have some control here…thank you for making this important distinction. ❤ I don’t have to put up with disrespect.
You may want to change your perception on narccasists never suffering for all the deception and hurt they place upon another.... Narc's are their own worst enemy simply by seeing that they suffer grately daily because of self loathing and have zero self respect and self love therefore they are suffering every minute of every day .....
Yes, it is natural to want justice for their hurtfulness. The narcissists I have worked so hard to detach from are not enjoying radiant, robust, and responsible lives. Their shrunken lives are their consequence. Don't let them drain your happiness anymore.
Thank you so much for this video doc. I've been trying to practice radical acceptance for awhile now but you smoothed out some edges on questions that kept nipping at my heals with this practice. It really does open up a whole new world of possibilities in life. Its freedom!
"Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life With the Heart of a Buddha" by Tara Brach, PHD is a great read and explains radical acceptance in simple terms and manageable chapters. Thank you for the informative videos.
yes such freedom in accepting what you cant change. Dont like it but have to accept and move on. I know I have to feel the pain and grieve before I move on. Time to go a different direction.
I would like to think that I am practicing radical acceptance; it is mentally healthy. However, how can I be sure that I am not stuffing down my emotions, which is unhealthy? At one time I thought I was a very patient person. I worked hard at being patient, then someone mentioned I was good at controlling my behavior but that wasn’t patience. That blew my mind and put me in a bit of a tail spin. Now I understand it has to do with the mind and heart in being patient. So now I hear this talk and I am again trying to figure out which am I doing.
hi jim....good and helpful info....but please stop the music, beeps and static noises and visuals....very distracting and hard on tge eyes and ears....thanks
Yes, I had exactly the same issue with this, too. What a great video, expert, and content, but what a big distraction that unnecessary music was. Onwards and upwards!
I really enjoyed your narrative, Jim, but sadly I had to stop watching because of the off-putting background music, which I found too distracting. I did my best to radically accept it! With thanks.
I would love to finish watching this but the bells that go off everytime you list a point are too irritating. I'm sure your points are really good, but why the obnoxious distractions?
I need to accep tthat nobody in my family will communicate with me. I tried to give my mother some feedback because she was hurting me. She leapt up on the cross, super defensive, the victim of me, stonewalling me and giving me the silent treatment. She will not discuss this. She will lose me before she has a 5 minute conversation with me. I am trying to accept this. It's really hard and really depressing. Is suffering optional? Rationally I know she won't change but .....................at the same time, I'll long for her to change forever and I need to stamp that out.
This is about divine responsibility. We have to stop trying to fix God's mistakes. He created a world of pain and suffering and cruelty. He forced us to live in it. He made our bodies defective. This is not our fault. Stop struggling with life because God is ultimately responsible for everything.
Thank you so much! I am grieving the loss of siblings that are still alive.
i am grieving the loss of a husband who's still alive. thanks for this. this will hopefully help me begin to see the sun through the clouds again and live my life without expecting him to be a better person. i accept that his choice is to remain stuck, in the fog, in pain and lost. i am not responsible for saving him. i love him and wish him all the best in life.
@@mimi42428 best wishes on your healing.
So good to hear someone explain something so helpful with such clarity and calmness. Thank you 🙏🏻
Gah…this video is so helpful. I’m in the middle of all of this. Accepting the truth of my narc parent…grieving, realizing I’m still being disrespected while I’m trying to take care of her while she is aging. It is awful. I have some control here…thank you for making this important distinction. ❤ I don’t have to put up with disrespect.
Thank you...this explanation was wonderful.
This is a fantastic summary. Thank you.
Thank you. Very insightfull.
This was the best description I have found of radical acceptance. Your examples were most helpful. Thank you
Thank You! 🌀💚🌀
I just know this is the one for me. Saving for later. Thanks Jim. I follow you, and it has been about two years or so.
Thank you for this
Awesome video! Thank you!
Thanks for sharing these thoughtful and encouraging concepts, Jim.
My greatest difficulty with radical acceptance is my perception that narcissists never experience any consequences or punishment that faze them.
You may want to change your perception on narccasists never suffering for all the deception and hurt they place upon another....
Narc's are their own worst enemy simply by seeing that they suffer grately daily because of self loathing and have zero self respect and self love therefore they are suffering every minute of every day .....
Yes, it is natural to want justice for their hurtfulness. The narcissists I have worked so hard to detach from are not enjoying radiant, robust, and responsible lives. Their shrunken lives are their consequence. Don't let them drain your happiness anymore.
Your calm, reassuring manner in presenting material is so welcome in navigating the difficult seasons of life. Thank you!
Thank you so much for this video doc. I've been trying to practice radical acceptance for awhile now but you smoothed out some edges on questions that kept nipping at my heals with this practice. It really does open up a whole new world of possibilities in life. Its freedom!
Finally truth - add a grateful heart!!!
"Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life With the Heart of a Buddha" by Tara Brach, PHD is a great read and explains radical acceptance in simple terms and manageable chapters.
Thank you for the informative videos.
yes such freedom in accepting what you cant change. Dont like it but have to accept and move on. I know I have to feel the pain and grieve before I move on. Time to go a different direction.
I would like to think that I am practicing radical acceptance; it is mentally healthy. However, how can I be sure that I am not stuffing down my emotions, which is unhealthy? At one time I thought I was a very patient person. I worked hard at being patient, then someone mentioned I was good at controlling my behavior but that wasn’t patience. That blew my mind and put me in a bit of a tail spin. Now I understand it has to do with the mind and heart in being patient. So now I hear this talk and I am again trying to figure out which am I doing.
hi jim....good and helpful info....but please stop the music, beeps and static noises and visuals....very distracting and hard on tge eyes and ears....thanks
Yes, I had exactly the same issue with this, too. What a great video, expert, and content, but what a big distraction that unnecessary music was. Onwards and upwards!
I've changed home and locations and I'm grieving my old home. Finding it hard to accept
Thank you ❤🙏
Such a good explanation, thank you.
I really enjoyed your narrative, Jim, but sadly I had to stop watching because of the off-putting background music, which I found too distracting. I did my best to radically accept it!
With thanks.
I would love to finish watching this but the bells that go off everytime you list a point are too irritating. I'm sure your points are really good, but why the obnoxious distractions?
I need to accep tthat nobody in my family will communicate with me. I tried to give my mother some feedback because she was hurting me. She leapt up on the cross, super defensive, the victim of me, stonewalling me and giving me the silent treatment. She will not discuss this. She will lose me before she has a 5 minute conversation with me. I am trying to accept this. It's really hard and really depressing. Is suffering optional? Rationally I know she won't change but .....................at the same time, I'll long for her to change forever and I need to stamp that out.
nothing said about saving life as title seem to imply, just terminology
This is about divine responsibility. We have to stop trying to fix God's mistakes. He created a world of pain and suffering and cruelty. He forced us to live in it. He made our bodies defective. This is not our fault. Stop struggling with life because God is ultimately responsible for everything.
sure, but then this also means that poor people internalize their oppression, doesn't it?