Marriage should also reflect Christ’s covenant with the church. When one is born again and becomes a new creature in relationship with Messiah, you come into a covenant and acquire a new, better identity. So also, as a woman enters a union with her husband, there is a change that comes, a beautiful one. In a marriage the righteous, positive parts of a person should be brought forth for each other’s benefit, as the deleterious, negative parts of each person are cast to the side. Holiness and God’s glory are the goal
There are things you do to honor and signal your devotion and you would do without question and this is something that’s important to you. If she’s not bothered by the fact that it would bug you and play on your mind that your wife doesn’t have your last name then that’s concerning.
My wife wouldn't take my last name either, though she said she would "consider it later on" because it was all too much hassle at the time. I accepted that and she never took it. In fact, she's divorcing me tomorrow. The question I would ask you is, 'Does she believe in Biblical submission?" My wife did not, she even said so much before we were married - my mistake. If she believes and agrees with submission, then she knows she is to accept your final say on all things that aren't contradicting Scripture / God. Changing a last name isn't written about in the Bible and one could say it isn't necessary. However, this disagreement will display how all other disagreements will go. Will she compromise with you or stand her ground? My soon to be ex wife always say, "You do not get the last say". And, she was exactly right. Because I don't want her divorcing me, yet here we are... Sorry for your situation, to love a rebellious woman is like falling for the roses' thorns. The tighter you try to hold it, the more it hurts you.
Its only in western society thing because other cultures dont originally have this. Probably because women didnt have any position in history society in western history. So the only way to do this was to take a man's name. For status. Sadly
No, there are some eastern countries where it is very common married women take their husband's surnames ( like India, Sri Lanka, Pakistan) and even some European countires like Russia.
The fact that other cultures don't do it, isn't an argument. Some cultures sacrificed children and virgins to appease the angry gods. Should we follow their example too? There's a reason western culture was so much more superior to other cultures, far more advanced and wealthy. It's the same reason it's under assault more than any other culture.
Marriage should also reflect Christ’s covenant with the church. When one is born again and becomes a new creature in relationship with Messiah, you come into a covenant and acquire a new, better identity. So also, as a woman enters a union with her husband, there is a change that comes, a beautiful one. In a marriage the righteous, positive parts of a person should be brought forth for each other’s benefit, as the deleterious, negative parts of each person are cast to the side. Holiness and God’s glory are the goal
My wife says she has too many things she’ll have to go and update her name on….how do I respond to that?
There are things you do to honor and signal your devotion and you would do without question and this is something that’s important to you. If she’s not bothered by the fact that it would bug you and play on your mind that your wife doesn’t have your last name then that’s concerning.
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You say don't worry I will take care all of that for you.
Excuses
My wife wouldn't take my last name either, though she said she would "consider it later on" because it was all too much hassle at the time. I accepted that and she never took it. In fact, she's divorcing me tomorrow.
The question I would ask you is, 'Does she believe in Biblical submission?" My wife did not, she even said so much before we were married - my mistake. If she believes and agrees with submission, then she knows she is to accept your final say on all things that aren't contradicting Scripture / God. Changing a last name isn't written about in the Bible and one could say it isn't necessary. However, this disagreement will display how all other disagreements will go. Will she compromise with you or stand her ground? My soon to be ex wife always say, "You do not get the last say". And, she was exactly right. Because I don't want her divorcing me, yet here we are...
Sorry for your situation, to love a rebellious woman is like falling for the roses' thorns. The tighter you try to hold it, the more it hurts you.
Automatic deal killer.
And you not having a milion dollars and 10 villas is a deal killer Chad,but what the hell can we do?
So society made up a concept and is trying to say the Bible supports the cultural practice.
Its only in western society thing because other cultures dont originally have this. Probably because women didnt have any position in history society in western history. So the only way to do this was to take a man's name. For status. Sadly
because ancestors follows male lineage so women take surname for one family, one team.
No, there are some eastern countries where it is very common married women take their husband's surnames ( like India, Sri Lanka, Pakistan) and even some European countires like Russia.
The fact that other cultures don't do it, isn't an argument.
Some cultures sacrificed children and virgins to appease the angry gods. Should we follow their example too?
There's a reason western culture was so much more superior to other cultures, far more advanced and wealthy.
It's the same reason it's under assault more than any other culture.
En España no, jamás hemos cambiado nuestro nombre por un matrimonio ni siquiera en la monarquía se hace.
This is totally western.
No it isn't, in western society some cultures have last name change for the women (usually French / English) and some don't (Italian / Spanish)
Which for hundreds of years has been the far superior culture, by literally every metric.
@@cryptojihadi265 I’m western and this isn’t my culture. We keep our last names